!“A!person)whose)behavior)in)a)particular)role)is)imitated)by)others”)
!Merriam!Webster,dictionary,
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“If)you)want)to)be)successful,)find)someone)who)has)achieved)the)results)you)want)and)copy)
what)they)do)and)you’ll)achieve)the)same)results.”)
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“A)role)model)is)a)person)whose)behavior,)example,)or)success)is)or)can)be)emulated)by)
others,)especially)by)younger)people.)
A)person's)chosen)role)models)may)have)a)considerable)impact)on)his)or)her)career)
opportunities)and)choices.)The)suitability)of)a)role)model)depends,)in)part,)on)the)admirer’s)
perceived)commonality)with)the)model,)who)should)provide)an)image)of)an)ambitious)yet)
realistic)goal.”)
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What%is%a%ROLE%MODEL?%
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We,,humans,,are,social,creatures.,We,are,born,in,a,family,,we,grow,in,the,safety,that,the,
family,provides;,later,on,,we,extend,our,connections,to,our,school,group,,friends,,a,new,
family.,During,our,life,,we,constantly,seek,to,relate,to,other,people.,We,look,for,stories,and,
people,to,inspire,us,and,as,we,grow,,we,fulfill,our,need,for,significance,and,contribution,
from,inspiring,others,,too.,,
We,are,in,search,for,models,all,the,time,!,some,of,us,do,it,consciously,,others,do,it,
unconsciously.,,No,matter,how,we,do,this,,we,always,have,a,model,we,tend,to,reach.,,
In,our,early,life,,it,is,a,parent,or,an,older,sibling,we,look,up,to.,Then,,most,of,us,,find,real,
inspiration,in,a,teacher,or,a,special,classmate,or,friend.,Teenagers,,especially,tend,to,show,
very,clearly,their,admiration,for,their,idols,–,which,are,usually,a,celebrity,–,as,an,
expression,of,their,specialness,…,you,all,remember,the,famous,“model,trends”,,such,as,the,
Madonna,lace,years,,and,the,desperation,of,many,parents,seeing,their,teenage,daughters,
imitating,their,idol,…,I,was,more,of,a,Michael,Jackson,follower,,although,I’m,not,sure,that,
made,my,parents,happier.,!,
Throughout,our,life,,we,have,several,role,models.,The,way,we,choose,them,depends,on,
the,stage,we,are,at,in,our,life,and,on,the,goals,we,have,at,that,particular,time.,We,may,
choose,a,different,model,for,each,area,we’d,like,to,develop.,,
Young,children,like,to,imitate,,to,identify,themselves,with,a,greater,character.,And,they,
choose,one,from,the,family.,Most,teenagers,want,to,stand,out,from,the,crowd,and,they,
choose,a,model,that,is,seen,as,original.,Young,adults,relate,to,people,who,share,the,same,
dreams,,goals,and,desires.,They,find,models,in,professors,,book,authors,,inspirational,
speakers,or,superiors.,
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While,anybody,can,influence,another,person,with,her,experience,and,behavior,,true,role,
models,differentiate,by,a%few%distinctive%traits:,
1. The,desire,to,contribute,to,the,wellbeing,of,others,
Role,models,are,usually,active,individuals,in,their,community.,They,give,their,
expertise,,time,and,support,selflessly.,They,show,true,love,for,people,and,they,take,
their,energy,from,participating,in,the,growth,of,others.,The,success,of,their,
apprentices,feeds,their,souls.,
2. The,ability,to,inspire,others,
The,first,audio,personal,growth,material,I,listened,to,,was,a,seminar,of,Jim,Rohn.,
Never,heard,about,him,before,and,I,had,no,idea,what,he,looked,like,,or,what,he,
did.,But,,when,I,heard,him,speak,,I,was,mesmerized.,His,speech,transported,me,to,
my,childhood,,when,I,was,listening,to,my,grandfather’s,stories,,and,made,me,feel,I,
could,achieve,anything,I,set,my,mind,to.,His,simplicity,and,modesty,were,heart!
warming,and,very,encouraging.,!,,
3. Great,sense,of,self!confidence,
People,follow,people,who,know,where,they,are,going,…,or,at,least,they,give,the,
impression,that,no,matter,what,obstacles,they,find,on,the,way,,they,will,reach,the,
destination.,,
4. Clarity,over,their,values,and,goals,
Few,people,have,a,clear,vision,of,what,their,life,should,look,like,,and,even,fewer,
commit,to,working,hard,to,achieve,their,goals,and,dreams.,So,,when,we,drift,along,
the,life’s,shores,,we,need,guidance.,We,need,someone,with,clear,strong,values,to,
set,an,example,,to,inspire,us,to,build,our,own,goals,,discover,our,own,values,and,
design,our,personal,life,strategy.,
5. They,have,a,history,of,turning,failure,into,success,
Let’s,be,honest,–we’re,all,suckers,for,success,stories.,But,,when,success,comes,after,
really,low,moments,or,a,series,of,bad,failures,,that’s,when,we,get,truly,inspired.,
When,a,normal,person,like,you,and,me,rises,from,her,own,ashes,,we,get,hope,that,
we,,too,,can,overcome,any,problem.,We,respect,that,person,and,want,to,follow,in,
her,footsteps.,,
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Children%and%their%heroes%
Few,days,ago,,I,was,having,a,conversation,with,my,6,years,old,nephew.,Every,now,and,
then,we,spend,a,weekend,together.,While,he,does,childish,,boyish,pranks,,he,is,generally,a,
good,,wise,little,man,with,quite,a,sensitive,personality.,,
So,,as,we,were,playing,and,talking,,the,TV,was,running.,When,I,looked,up,,there,was,an,
add,for,a,show,with,K1,fights,,where,those,big,bully,guys,scream,and,hit,and,jump,on,each,
other.,Just,as,a,test,,I,asked,my,nephew,whether,he,liked,that,kind,of,shows.,His,answer,
came,straightforward:,“Yes,,I,do.,I,like,everything,that,my,daddy,likes,and,he,likes,it.,So,,I,
do,,too.”,,
Now,,if,his,father,would,have,heard,him,,I’m,sure,he’d,say,“THAT’S,MY,ZZON!,A,real,man.”,
But,,you,see,,the,little,boy,is,doing,his,best,to,impress,his,father.,He,wants,to,be,like,him,,
talk,like,him,,dress,like,him.,Even,though,those,activities,don’t,really,fit,his,little,sensitive,
personality.,,
My,nephew,is,a,lucky,case.,But,,what,if,his,dad,was,engaged,in,destructive,behaviors,,such,
as,violence,or,drinking?,Would,that,picture,be,a,positive,or,negative,model,for,a,young,
child?,
As,parents,,we,are,not,fully,aware,of,the,influence,we,have,on,our,kids’,lives.,We,are,their,
first,mentors,,their,first,teachers.,How,we,conduct,our,families,,our,lives,and,ourselves,is,
crucial,for,the,lives,of,our,children.,,
Most,parents,want,for,their,children,better,lives,than,their,own.,And,they,try,so,hard,to,
achieve,that,by,educating,the,kids.,Sometimes,that,works,,but,sometimes,it,doesn’t.,They,
would,have,better,chances,with,their,kids,if,they’d,set,the,example,they,want,to,teach.,
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I,remember,a,funny,story,that,Tony,Robbins,was,telling,about,his,youth.,As,a,child,,he,
admired,his,father,a,lot.,And,he,wanted,so,much,to,be,like,him.,One,evening,,he,demanded,
to,his,mother,to,bring,him,a,beer,,as,she,used,to,do,for,his,father.,Of,course,,she,refused.,
But,as,the,young,boy,insisted,that,he,wants,to,drink,beer,as,his,father,did,,she,thought,
about,teaching,him,a,lesson.,So,,she,made,him,a,deal,that,she,would,bring,a,6,can,pack,,
and,that,he,would,have,to,drink,all,of,them.,Tony,proudly,opened,the,first,can,,sipped,a,
little,shrugging,from,the,bitter,sour,taste,and,hardly,drank,the,first,can.,By,the,third,can,he,
was,already,sick.,That’s,how,he,learned,to,associate,beer,with,being,sick,and,never,drank,it,
again.,,
That’s,a,happy,outcome,though.,Unfortunately,,role,models,can,also,have,a,negative,
impact,on,someone’s,life,–,this,is,especially,true,with,children.,That,is,why,parents,should,
concentrate,on,a,positive,upbringing,of,their,kids.,An,emphasis,put,on,positive,,
empowering,attitude,toward,people,and,life,situations,is,the,best,teaching,you,can,offer.,
Also,,be,aware,of,the,people,who,come,in,contact,with,your,child,…and,yourself,,too.,,
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“You)are)the)average)of)the)five)people)you)spend)the)most)time)with.”,
=Jim,Rohn,
You%and%your%environment%
If,you,decided,to,be,a,hermit,and,live,in,isolation,,you’d,most,probably,talk,only,to,yourself,
and, hopefully, the, Divinity,, or, Higher, Power,, right?, (And, you, couldn’t, possibly, be, reading,
this,,because,there,shouldn’t,be,no,Wi!Fi,in,your,hermit,cave!),
We,are,all,social,beings,,in,the,sense,that,we,live,among,people,,and,the,relationships,we,
form,,and,the,interactions,that,we,have,with,others,will,greatly,influence,our,life.,,
How,is,your,birthplace?,Is,your,country,at,peace,,or,at,war?,Is,your,family,prosperous,,or,
struggling?,Do,you,come,from,a,balanced,family,that,offered,you,stability,,love,and,support,
until, your, late, twenties?, Or, have, you, been, raised, by, a, single, parent,, and, maybe, had, to,
work,since,you,were,a,teen?,Were,your,friends,kind,,caring,,and,focused,on,growing,and,
developing,,or,were,they,negative,,even,bullying,,intimidating,and,immersed,in,destructive,
habits?, I, guess, you, know, where, this, list, is, going., I’m, going, to, ask, you, about, your, life,
partner;,your,friends;,your,work,peers.,Who,are,the,five,people,in,your,life,that,you,spend,
most,of,your,time,with?,,
During, my, school, years,, I, made, a, considerable, number, of, good, friends., I, was, blessed,
indeed.,I,used,to,come,home,and,,full,of,excitement,,tell,my,dad,all,about,them.,It,use,to,
baffle,me,that,,more,often,than,not,,he,would,ask,me,the,same,series,of,questions:,“Do,
they,study,well?”,,“Who,are,their,parents,and,what,is,their,occupation?”,and,so,on.,A,bit,
awkward,,I,used,to,think.,Why,should,I,care,about,their,grades?,What,do,I,care,about,their,
parents,and,their,background?,
When,I,told,my,first,coach,about,the,relationship,I,was,having,with,a,close,member,of,my,
family,,a,relationship,that,was,draining,me,of,energy,and,time,and,which,was,taking,a,big,
toll,on,my,emotions,,he,advised,me,to,give,it,up.,I,really,loved,that,person,and,felt,very,
attached,to,her,,so,naturally,I,was,mad.,How,could,he,not,understand,that,it,would,hurt,
me,to,back,out?,That,it,would,be,even,worse,not,having,that,person,in,my,life…or,at,least,
that’s,what,I,thought,back,then.,,
I,stubbornly,stayed,in,the,relationship,,wanting,to,inspire,her,to,want,more,and,grow,with,
me.,During,this,time,,I,went,through,many,frustrating,moments;,moments,when,I,had,to,
lower,my,standards,to,come,to,the,same,level,with,her;,to,adjust,the,height,of,my,dreams,,
as,she,would,label,them,as,unreasonable;,to,live,against,my,values;,and,finally,I,ended,up,
not,talking,about,my,projects,,my,“exotic”,wishes,and,dreams.,
Couple,of,years,and,many,anxiety,episodes,later,,I,naturally,bailed,out,of,that,relationship.,,
In,my,country,there,is,a,popular,saying,that,goes,like:,“Tell,me,who,you’re,seeing,and,I’ll,
tell,you,who,you,are.”,
Yes,,it,is,true.,We,become,like,the,people,we,spend,the,most,time,with.,,I,tested,that,on,
myself.,For,a,loved,one,,I,unconsciously,changed,myself,and,walked,another,road,than,the,
one,I,wanted.,Then,,I,suddenly,realized,that,I,nearly,forgot,my,dreams;,I,began,doubting,
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myself,,started,having,self!confidence,issues.,Luckily,for,me,,I,was,pretty,strong,about,my,
values,and,I,understood,I,couldn’t,live,differently,than,I,wanted,for,anybody,else’s,sake.,,
The,environment,we,live,in,is,the,one,we’ll,eventually,grow,into.,If,you,want,to,be,
successful,,make,sure,you,surround,yourself,with,successful,people.,,
Our,entourage,has,enormous,impact,on,us,,as,we,get,our,inspiration,and,energy,from,our,
daily,interactions,with,these,people.,The,way,they,think,,their,attitude,shapes,our,lives.,,
Can,you,recall,meeting,some,annoying,,negative,,bullying,individuals,and,how,you,felt,after,
that,meeting?,Didn’t,you,leave,with,a,bitter,taste,and,a,sense,of,insecurity?,Can,you,
imagine,having,this,kind,of,people,around,you,everyday?,I,guess,not.,
We,are,the,average,of,the,five,people,that,we,spend,most,of,our,time,with.,,Tony,Robbins,
and,others,taught,it,,and,you,can,surely,see,it,in,your,own,life.,We,tend,to,unconsciously,
try,to,fit,in,the,same,picture,and,stay,on,the,same,level,with,our,friends.,,
Over,time,,we,borrow,their,habits,(good,AND,bad,,alas!),,their,thinking,patterns,(uplifting,
AND, limiting)., They, may, stimulate, us, to, grow, !, the, ideal, scenario,, or, indirectly, make, us,
lower,our,standards.,Our,success,may,deter,some,,as,they,no,longer,feel,significant,in,our,
presence.,,
Good,friends,will,pull,you,up.,You,don’t,want,the,others.,
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Role,models,are,those,guides,who,shine,their,light,for,you,to,get,to,your,goals,easier.,
Their, lives, and, their, values, and, principles, will, inspire, and, motivate, you, to, raise, your,
standards,and,aim,much,,much,higher.,
Their,examples,will,pop,up,like,fireworks,in,your,mind,when,you,face,tough,decisions,,or,
times,of,sorrow,and,instability.,
They,will,be,living,guidance,,breaking,your,limiting,beliefs,and,replacing,them,with,a,new,,
empowering,perspective.,You,will,have,better,expectations,from,yourself,,from,others,and,
life.,,,
Tao,Porchon,Lynch,,the,oldest,yoga,teacher,at,94,,is,an,extraordinary,example,of,energy,,
optimism,and,love,for,life.,People,like,Tao,and,Louise,Hay,have,redefined,for,me,and,other,
millions,what,old,age,can,look,like.,They,are,the,living,proof,of,what,you,and,me,can,look,
like,fifty,or,sixty,years,from,now.,,
While,many,of,our,role,models,are,remote,characters,,not,within,our,immediate,reach,,it’s,
worth,taking,your,relation,with,your,role,model,one,step,further:,a,mentor,would,ensure,
focused,specific,guidance,and,give,you,feedback.,Most,often,she,will,be,physically,there,in,
your,life,,as,well.,
Try,to,surround,yourself,with,strong,and,empowering,individuals;,people,you,can,learn,
from;,people,who,you,look,up,to.,It,may,sound,difficult,to,do,this,,but,once,you,start,
looking,,you,will,notice,how,this,type,of,person,comes,your,way.,,,
There,are,many,people,out,there,that,are,eager,to,teach,and,share,their,story.,If,not,for,
the,sake,of,contribution,,they,will,do,it,simply,because,it,makes,them,feel,important.,,
Be,persistent,,but,pick,wisely.,For,example,,if,you,want,to,be,a,brain,surgeon,,it,may,not,be,
wise,to,choose,a,mentor,who,is,a,hair,stylist,…,even,though,both,of,them,deal,with,the,
head.,!,
My,first,mentor,/,coach,was,a,business,consultant,and,an,innovator.,I,cooperated,with,him,
because,I,had,been,working,in,a,corporation,for,twenty,years,and,I,thought,I,also,wanted,
to,be,a,business,consultant,for,a,change.,He,taught,me,valuable,lessons,about,leadership,,
management,,productivity,,but,also,about,managing,ourselves,and,other,people,,about,
values.,,Even,though,I,am,not,a,business,consultant,now,,I,am,applying,much,knowledge,I,
got,from,my,coach,in,our,business,at,PoZitivistas.,,
It,is,crucial,that,we,be,very,intentional,and,careful,when,choosing,our,heroes.,An,image,is,
worth, a, thousand, words,, they, say., A, role, model, is, worth, millions;, because, they, are, the,
striking,evidence,that,YOU,CAN.,
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What,you,focus,on,is,what,you,experience.,And,your,thoughts,will,reflect,in,your,speech,
and,actions.,Before,you,know,it,,you,created,a,brand,new,reality.,So,chose,your,teachers,
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“When%You%Know%Better,%You%Do%Better”%Oprah%Winfrey%and%Maya%Angelou%
Oprah,Winfrey,is,no,secret,to,anybody,I,suppose.,So,,it,should,come,to,no,surprise,that,one,
of,my,inspiration,and,role,model,is,she.,I,admire,her,for,so,many,things,–,her,confidence,
and,strength,,her,sensitivity,,her,ability,to,enter,the,human,soul,with,such,grace,,her,acute,
sense,of,contribution,,of,giving,back,to,the,world.,
I’ve,often,wondered,who,was,Oprah’s,support,,which,she,relied,on,in,her,times,of,need,,
where,did,she,look,for,inspiration.,
I,read,several,materials,on,Oprah’s,life.,I,learned,that,she,was,raised,and,influenced,by,her,
grandmother,as,a,young,girl,,then,sent,to,live,with,the,father,when,she,grew,up.,Then,,
about,her,troubled,life,–,the,rape,and,her,being,a,colored,girl,trying,to,make,it,in,television,
–,a,white,world;,about,how,she,stubbornly,went,ahead,with,determination,to,become,a,
powerful,influential,figure.,,
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She,has,had,a,pretty,rich,life.,But,,nothing,impressed,me,as,much,as,a,4,minute,You,Tube,
video,that,Oprah,made,in,memory,of,Maya,Angelou,,her,“mentor,,mother/sister,and,
friend”.,,
Oprah,majestically,managed,to,include,the,influence,she,got,from,Mrs.,Angelou,in,a,4!
minute,presentation.,Starting,with,Maya,Angelou’s,books,she’s,read,as,a,youngster,and,
following,with,her,meeting,Mrs.,Angelou,,Oprah,has,drawn,some,of,the,greatest,lessons,of,
her,life,from,this,relationship.,The,words,that,Mrs.,Angelou,said,remained,with,her,until,
today.,,
“You,did,in,your,twenties,what,you,knew,how,to,do.,And,when,you,knew,better,,you,did,
better.,And,you,should,not,be,judged,for,the,person,that,you,were,,but,for,the,person,that,
you’re,trying,to,be,and,the,woman,that,you,are,now.”,
Behind,the,words,of,wisdom,,Mrs.,Angelou,helped,Oprah,come,to,terms,with,her,life,,her,
mistakes,,and,her,success.,She,diligently,taught,Oprah,to,embrace,her,culture,and,her,
legacy.,,
There,are,no,better,words,to,describe,the,dimension,of,Maya,Angelou’s,influence,then,
Oprah’s,own,words:,
“I’ve,been,blessed,to,have,Maya,Angelou,as,my,mentor,,mother/sister,,and,friend,since,my,
20’s.,She,was,there,for,me,always,,guiding,me,through,some,of,the,most,important,years,
of,my,life.,The,world,knows,her,as,a,poet,but,at,the,heart,of,her,,she,was,a,teacher.,‘When,
you,learn,,teach.,When,you,get,,give’,is,one,of,my,best,lessons,from,her.,She,won,three,
Grammys,,spoke,six,languages,and,was,the,second,poet,in,history,to,recite,a,poem,at,a,
presidential,inauguration.,But,what,stands,out,to,me,most,about,Maya,Angelou,is,not,what,
she,has,done,or,written,or,spoken,,it’s,how,she,lived,her,life.,She,moved,through,the,world,
with,unshakeable,calm,,confidence,and,a,fierce,grace.,I,loved,her,and,I,know,she,loved,me.,
I,will,profoundly,miss,her.,She,will,always,be,the,rainbow,in,my,clouds.”,
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Author,,motivational,speaker,,life,coach,for,people,like,you,and,me,and,equally,for,
celebrities,and,presidents,,Tony,Robbins,is,a,unique,figure,in,his,field.,,
He,has,helped,millions,of,people,overcome,difficult,situations,–,divorces,,loss,of,loved,
ones,,cancer,,etc,–,and,has,also,advised,entrepreneurs,and,world,leaders,in,their,missions.,
Through,his,foundations,,Tony,Robbins,is,feeding,millions,of,people,every,day.,,
Born,and,raised,in,a,dysfunctional,family,,having,a,turbulent,relationship,with,his,mother,
and,having,had,several,fathers,,Tony,has,developed,an,extraordinary,ability,to,find,
opportunities,behind,every,problem,and,has,become,a,master,of,his,emotions,and,state.,
Although,he’s,known,poverty,as,a,child,and,bankruptcy,as,a,young,adult,,Tony,was,
committed,to,never,letting,his,negative,experiences,define,him.,,
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Tony,Robbins,drew,his,inspiration,from,more,than,one,person,over,the,years,,but,his,first,
mentor,,the,one,who,left,his,print,on,the,person,that,he,has,become,was,Mr.,Jim,Rohn.,
Tony,met,Mr.,Rohn,when,he,was,just,17,and,as,he,himself,says,,he,learned,the,most,
important,lessons,,such,as:,
“Don’t,wish,it,were,easier,,wish,you,were,better.”,
“Work,harder,on,yourself,that,you,do,on,your,job.,If,you,work,hard,on,your,job,you,can,
make,a,living.,If,you,work,hard,on,yourself,you,can,make,a,fortune.”,
Tony,took,the,lessons,of,his,mentor,and,raised,his,standards,to,unreasonable,becoming,an,
icon,in,the,personal,development,industry.,He,has,changed,his,life,and,many,other,lives.,In,
his,speeches,,Tony,often,quotes,Mr.,Rohn.,,
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By,the,way,,Mr.,Rohn’s,life,was,also,strongly,influenced,by,his,own,mentor,,Mr.,Earl,Schoaf,,
a,successful,regional,entrepreneur.,And,Tony,Robbins,is,not,the,only,one,mentored,by,Jim,
Rohn.,Big,names,like,Brian,Tracy,,Harv,Eker,,Mark,Hughes,and,Jack,Canfield,credit,their,
success,to,the,same,Jim,Rohn.,Isn’t,it,funny,how,one,man’s,wisdom,can,change,so,many,
lives?,
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“The)mind)is)not)a)vessel)to)be)filled,)but)a)fire)to)be)kindled.”))
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Robert%Kiyosaki%
The,affluent,American,businessman,and,author,is,a,great,advocate,of,financial,literacy,and,
entrepreneurship.,
Young,Robert,Kiyosaki,grew,up,in,the,presence,of,two,men,,his,father,(“Poor,Dad”),and,his,
best,friend,Mike’s,father,,“Rich,Dad”.,No,two,other,models,could,have,been,so,different!,
Kiyosaki,was,blessed,enough,to,see,both,sides,,understand,their,values,and,principles,and,
compare,the,very,contrasting,lives,and,characters,of,his,two,Dads.,
His, highly, educated, father, held, a, doctorate, degree,, but, seemed, to, always, stay, poor,,
running,in,an,eternal,rat,race,and,fostering,self!sabotaging,ideas,,such,as,“,Money,doesn’t,
matter”,,“I,could,never,become,rich.”,He,would,emphasize,hard,work,and,saving,,and,his,
ultimate, solution, for, success, was, educating, yourself, to, get, a, good, job, with, a, strong,
company.,,
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In,contrast,,the,rich,dad,was,a,street,smart,cat,,who,,in,a,blink,of,an,eye,,dismissed,limiting,
beliefs,, such, as, “I, can’t, afford, it”,, by, asking, smarter, questions:, “How, can, I, make, more,
money,, in, order, to, afford, this?”, He, inspired, Robert, to, aim, higher,, educate, himself, to,
become, an, investor, who, makes, money, work, for, him,, instead, of, working, himself, for, the,
money.,Work,should,serve,your,passions,and,a,higher,purpose.,,
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The,way,he,redefined,reality,and,finances,was,a,game,changer,for,young,Kiyosaki.,Rather,
than, staying, stuck, within, his, Poor, Dad’s, limiting, beliefs, and, life, experience,, eternally,
depending, on, others, and, never, really, reaching, freedom!, nor, peace, of, mind,, Robert, took,
charge, of, his, own, financial, destiny., His, books, are, challenging, the, existing, order, of, the,
financial,world,and,he,teaches,and,inspires,millions,(including,this,Pozitivista),to,break,free,
from,the,rat,race.,
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“The)mediocre)teacher)tells.)The)good)teacher)explains.)The)superior)teacher)demonstrates.)
The)great)teacher)inspires.”)
―,William,Arthur,Ward,
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Mahatma%Gandhi%
One,man,can,spread,an,idea,so,powerful,and,compelling,,that,it,will,sweep,the,world,and,
change,humankind,forever!,
Lev,Tolstoy’s,life,,as,well,as,his,writings,,inspired,Mahatma,Gandhi,and,sparked,the,fire,of,
the, independence, movement, worldwide, that, would, set, millions, free, from, injustice, and,
exploitation.,
His,repeated,imprisonments,,his,refusal,to,use,violence,of,any,sorts,to,attain,his,purpose,
made,Gandhi,an,unequaled,inspiration,and,role,model,for,other,giants,in,the,global,fight,
for,human,rights:,Martin,Luther,King,and,Nelson,Mandela.,
Mahatma, Gandhi, employed, nonviolent, resistance,, or, Satyagraha, (an, ‘insistent, search, for,
the,truth’),,during,the,Indian,independence,struggles,,as,well,as,during,his,earlier,battles,
for,Indian,rights,in,South,Africa.,
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Gandhi, explains:, “I, have, also, called, it, love!force, or, soul!force., In, the, application, of,
Satyagraha…., the, pursuit, of, truth, did, not, admit, of, violence, being, inflicted, on, one’s,
opponent,,but,that,he,must,be,weaned,from,error,by,patience,and,compassion.”,
He,explained,that,Tolstoy’s,book,,The)Kingdom)of)God)is)Within)You,,had,a,crucial,impact,
on,his,beliefs:,“The,title,means,that,God’s,Kingdom,is,in,our,heart,,that,if,we,search,for,it,
outside,,we,shall,find,it,nowhere.,At,the,time,when,I,read,the,book,,I,was,skeptical,about,
many,things,and,sometimes,entertained,atheistic,ideas.,When,I,went,to,England,,I,was,a,
votary,of,violence;,I,had,faith,in,it,and,none,in,nonviolence.,After,I,read,this,book,,that,lack,
of,faith,in,nonviolence,vanished.”,
About, Tolstoy,, his, role, model,, he, says:, “He, did, what, he, preached., His, simplicity, was,
extraordinary….,He,strove,uncompromisingly,to,follow,truth,as,he,saw,it…,He,stated,what,
he,felt,to,be,the,truth,without,caring,whether,it,would,hurt,or,please,the,people.”,
I,cannot,imagine,a,world,without,Gandhi’s,light,shining,from,its,past,and,onto,our,present.,
Yet,, without, his, mentor’s, influence,, his, life, and, the, world, would, have, been, extremely,
different.,
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“Where)have)all)the)good)men)gone))
And)where)are)all)the)Gods?)
)Where's)the)street=wise)Hercules))
To)fight)the)rising)odds?”)
(Bonnie,Tyler,–,Holding,Out,for,a,Hero),
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Our%Role%Models%
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Please,meet,few,of,our,beloved,role,models,and,mentors.,
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My%Mom,%Maria%Coman%
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“A)mother)should)have)a)thorough)knowledge)of)the)normal)behavior)of)a)child)and)it's)
responses)such)as:)=)
A))Being)aware)of)the)child's)goals)and)needs)when)he)is)in)a)problematic)situation)which)she)
can)have)only)by)her)closeness)with)the)child.)
B))A)mother)should)be)sensitive,)understanding)and)use)proper)child)rearing)methods)for)the)
child's)physical)mental)and)intellectual)development.)
C))Her)emotional)intimacywith)the)child)will)help)her)to)respond)better)to)the)cues)of)the)child)
who)has)a)problem.)
D))She)should)provide)opportunities)to)the)child,)which)are)positive)in)nature)and)inclined)to)his)
pattern)of)thinking,)behavior)and)fixation)of)goals.)
Thus,)we)have)observed)that)a)mother)and)child's)relationship)is)a)special)bond)as)compared)to)
the)child's)relationship)with)others)in)the)family)and)it)has)been)accepted)since)ages.)Though)a)
woman)whether)she)is)working)or)a)homemaker)she)should)acknowledge)her)role)in)bringing)up)
her)child)and)making)him)or)her)a)good)and)intelligent)human)being.”)
Role,Of,A,Mother,In,Child,Development,
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The,first,person,babies,open,their,eyes,on,is,their,mother.,Right,then,,she,becomes,a,role,
model.,A,mother,is,the,ultimate,role,model,,in,fact.,She,carries,a,huge,responsibility,to,
bring,up,her,baby,as,a,true,valuable,human,being.,
Her,work,begins,in,the,first,day,of,her,baby’s,life,and,I,should,say,it,never,ends;,as,the,baby,
grows,,leaves,the,home,,starts,a,family,…,the,mother,is,always,there.,,
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She,becomes,a,grandmother,and,most,of,the,times,she,contributes,to,raising,and,shaping,
the,personalities,of,more,babies.,,
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Until,the,idea,of,writing,this,role,model,material,came,,I,didn’t,think,for,a,minute,at,my,
mother,as,a,role,model,in,my,life.,,This,idea,pushed,me,to,think,about,the,people,that,have,
influenced,my,life,in,different,ways.,I,ended,up,thinking,about,things,that,are,part,of,me,,
the,things,that,I,don’t,even,call,values,–,such,as,integrity,,sense,of,correctness,,love,for,
books,and,reading.,It,was,only,then,when,I,realized,that,I,got,the,basics,from,my,mother.,,
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Ever,since,I,can,remember,,my,mom,was,carrying,a,book,with,her.,On,the,way,to,and,from,
work,,sitting,in,the,bus,,she,would,take,the,book,from,her,purse,and,read.,Our,living,room,
furniture,was,stacked,with,books.,By,the,way,,guess,what,I,have,in,my,office,and,living,
room,and,even,dressing,room,–,BOOKS.,
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She,used,to,tell,me,stories,about,the,books,she,has,read,,about,spending,her,pocket,
money,on,books,rather,than,anything,else.,,
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I,remember,the,first,serious,book,my,mother,gave,me,to,read,–,Sans,Famille,(Nobody’s,
Boy),by,Hector,Malot.,I,believe,I,was,about,13,years,old,and,I,just,couldn’t,stop,reading.,It,
was,a,tough,book,,but,it,taught,me,at,an,early,age,about,the,need,and,the,importance,of,a,
family,,about,the,safety,that,a,family,provides,on,so,many,levels.,
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I,can,see,even,now,with,my,minds,eyes,the,old,cupboard,in,my,grandparents’,house,where,
the,collection,of,Alexandre,Dumas’,novels,held,the,upper,shelf.,I,can,see,the,first,public,
library,my,mom,took,me,to,on,the,small,village,I,used,to,spend,my,vacations.,That,was,my,
start.,,
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God,,I,long,for,those,lazy,summer,afternoons,in,my,grandparents’,garden,when,nothing,
was,moving,–,I,used,to,take,my,book,,lay,on,a,blanket,under,a,tree,and,immerge,into,the,
action.,
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Now,reading,has,become,such,an,important,part,of,my,life.,Not,a,day,goes,by,without,
reading,few,pages,at,least.,It,has,become,a,habit,that,is,continuously,shaping,me,as,a,
human,being;,it,gives,me,power,and,a,sense,of,security.,I,know,that,if,I,need,to,grow,in,a,
certain,area,,the,first,thing,I,need,to,do,is,pick,up,a,book,and,read,about,that,subject,,then,
read,some,more,until,I,get,the,knowledge,I,need.,,
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There,are,moments,and,talks,I,had,with,my,mom,over,the,years,that,stay,vivid,in,my,mind.,
There,is,one,in,particular,that,I,hear,over,and,over.,,,
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One,day,,going,to,her,office,,on,the,long,way,with,the,tram,,she,was,telling,me,that,she,
hates,to,be,late,,that,she,is,never,late,for,work,and,that,she’s,got,that,from,her,father.,My,
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grandfather,was,a,military,–,an,unusual,one,,as,we’ve,never,felt,the,“whip”,of,discipline,of,
a,military,man.,He,taught,us,with,joy,,with,funny,stories,,with,love.,,Well,,my,grandfather,
was,not,late,for,work,not,even,for,a,day,in,his,whole,life.,,
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That,was,a,“WOW”,moment,for,me.,It,is,even,now.,,
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So,was,my,mom.,,
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You,see,,my,mom,was,a,very,good,professional,throughout,her,career.,During,my,
childhood,,she,used,to,work,for,the,biggest,commercial,bank,in,the,country,at,that,time.,,
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I,don’t,know,why,,but,when,I,think,about,those,times,,I,can,see,her,at,her,desk,near,the,big,
window,in,a,huge,opened,space,office,where,she,worked,for,almost,20,years.,,
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She,would,arrive,really,early,(she,was,almost,all,the,time,the,first,to,arrive),,turn,on,her,
typing,machine,,her,paper,roll,calculator,,boil,some,water,for,her,coffee,and,quickly,work,
some,documents.,Before,having,breakfast,with,her,colleagues,she,would,have,already,
finish,some,of,the,work.,I,remember,her,typing,so,quickly,on,her,machine,as,if,her,fingers,
were,doing,a,dance,on,the,keyboard.,She,would,never,leave,unfinished,work,for,the,next,
day.,,
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This,was,happening,during,the,communist,ages.,She,was,in,charge,with,the,national,credit,
and,commercial,contracts,with,exotic,countries,from,South,America,and,Africa.,To,the,little,
me,,that,was,huge.,I,thought,she,must,be,a,really,smart,cookie,to,deal,with,national,
contracts,of,such,importance.,And,it,really,was.,
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How,do,I,know,all,this?,Well,,at,that,time,I,believe,the,“nanny”,hadn’t,been,invented,and,
since,the,workweek,included,Saturdays,,sometimes,there,was,nobody,available,to,babysit,
me,on,Saturday.,,So,,I,can,say,I’ve,been,introduced,to,the,working,environment,since,I,was,
about,5,years,old.,To,this,day,,I,remember,exactly,her,office,,where,she,used,to,sit,,the,
intense,smell,of,paper,in,that,office,,how,her,colleagues,were,building,paper,planes,and,
other,funny,figures,for,me,,bringing,me,chewing,gum,–,ha!ha!,You,may,not,believe,it,,but,
chewing,gum,was,quite,rare,and,hard,to,find,at,that,time.,
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But,,what,I,remember,mostly,was,the,consciousness,my,mom,manifested,toward,her,work,,
the,implication,,and,her,professionalism.,,
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What,I,took,with,me,over,the,ages,was,that,talk,we,had,on,the,tram,,the,interest,on,
banking,operations,,the,idea,that,I,should,be,dedicated,to,my,work.,,
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I,am,never,late,on,my,meetings,,appointments,,…,unless,,of,course,,there,are,unexpected,
events.,I,always,plan,my,activities,and,my,preparation,time,before,a,meeting;,I,leave,in,
time,,so,that,I,arrive,at,least,5,minutes,ahead.,I’ve,learnt,punctuality,,seriousness,,integrity,
and,the,sense,of,correctness,from,my,mother,and,they,have,become,parts,of,me.,,It,comes,
naturally,to,me,to,be,this,way,,as,I’ve,grown,with,them.,,
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You,know,,my,mother,didn’t,make,it,a,purpose,to,be,a,role,model,,yet,by,the,way,she,
conducted,in,these,areas,,she,was.,She,played,a,huge,role,in,shaping,this,individual,and,she,
did,a,pretty,good,jobfor,the,professional,I’ve,become,and,not,only.,,
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My%first%“coach”,%Razvan%C.%
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I’ve,noticed,that,people,come,and,go,from,our,lives,and,most,of,the,time,we,don’t,bother,
to,find,a,meaning,for,this,“turnover”,of,friends.,Most,of,us,act,hurt,or,betrayed,or,
defensive,when,a,relationship,ends.,I,did,too,…,until,I,made,a,switch,on,my,perception.,
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There,are,benefits,and,things,to,learn,in,every,relationship,,if,we,look,at,things,from,this,
perspective.,
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Some,years,ago,,one,of,my,friends,introduced,my,to,her,husband!to!be.,He,was,this,really,
weird,,bossy,,know!it!all,yet,interesting,guy.,I,could,listen,to,him,for,hours.,Then,there,
were,times,when,we,would,argue,over,and,over,until,I,was,feeling,this,immense,urge,to,
punch,him,in,the,face.,,
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He,was,giving,normal,things,his,personal,twist,and,was,opening,a,totally,new,perspective,
on,looking,at,life,situations.,It,seems,like,he,was,not,putting,any,limitation,on,what,he,
could,do.,One,day,he,was,a,business,consultant;,another,day,he,was,building,a,strange,
machine,in,his,one,bedroom,apartment.,,
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The,walls,of,his,living,room,were,full,with,schedules,,tracking,lists,,charts,and,all,kinds,of,
colored,sheets,of,papers.,,
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After,about,a,year,of,this,strange,friendship,,he,proposed,me,one,day,to,work,with,him,on,
a,new,project,he,wanted,to,do.,I,accepted.,For,almost,one,year,,I,interviewed,him,on,
different,business,areas,he,wanted,to,give,advice,on.,His,project,was,about,advising,
leaders,to,build,happier,,healthier,,more,profitable,businesses.,
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This,gave,me,the,opportunity,to,get,out,of,the,box,I,entered,after,almost,20,years,of,
working,in,a,corporation.,It,was,a,return,to,the,basics;,a,journey,on,the,basic,elements,of,
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life,that,we,ignore,by,default,–,because,they,are,just,too,simple,for,the,“evolved”,age,we,
live.,,
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But,,more,importantly,than,this,,it,was,a,crash,course,in,discipline,,an,introduction,to,
habits,and,planning.,He,showed,me,fast,reading,,gave,me,my,first,real,bibliography,–,the,
absolute,must,read,books,on,life,and,personal,development.,He,taught,me,what,to,do,
when,you,don’t,know,what,to,do.,He,showed,me,another,version,of,myself.,,
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He,was,the,first,to,introduce,me,to,copywriting,,gave,me,the,best,copywriters’,work,to,
study.,It,has,never,crossed,my,mind,that,I,could,write,a,whole,page,about,something,…,
anything.,I,never,in,my,life,held,a,journal.,The,idea,of,me,writing,was,hilarious.,And,to,tell,
you,the,truth,,the,work,I,did,for,my,friend,was,hilarious.,I,would,say,I’m,ashamed,of,what,I,
did,,but,in,the,meantime,I,learned,that,I,should,look,at,failures,with,a,student’s,eye.,So,,I,
can’t,say,that,anymore.,!),
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This,whole,experience,helped,me,add,on,my,self!esteem,and,self!confidence.,I,got,the,
opportunity,to,know,my,next,coach,on,habits,and,productivity.,
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In,short,it,opened,up,a,whole,new,world,for,me.,One,I,sensed,it,existed,,but,never,really,
discovered,until,then.,
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Our,relationship,didn’t,last,long.,My,involvement,in,the,project,ended,,as,I,didn’t,have,the,
skills,he,needed,at,that,moment.,But,boy,the,benefits,I,got,are,priceless.,,
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He,definitely,was,a,role,model,in,certain,areas.,
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The, next, two, models, are, two, ladies., They, are, both, in, their, late, eighties., One, is, world,
famous:,Louise,Hay.,One,is,famous,in,my,world:,Ana,Haiduc,,my,grandmother.,
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Louise% Hay, is, one, of, the, wisest,, most, soulful, teachers, of, the, present., Following, in, the,
steps,of,other,great,healers,before,her,,she,places,love,and,kindness,to,self,and,others,at,
the,center,of,her,works.,,
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Her,teachings,illustrate,how,loving,ourselves,heals,our,lives,on,all,levels.,A,strong,believer,
in, the, mental, causes, of, physical, ailments,, Louise, used, her, counseling, experience, to,
develop,positive,thought,patterns,for,reversing,illness,and,creating,health.,
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For,me,,she,is,an,astonishing,pioneer.,
She,redefined,my,reality,and,upraised,my,expectations,from,life,to,very,profound,levels.,,
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I,could,split,my,life,so,far,in,two,chapters:,“Before,Louise”,and,“After,Louise”.,Seriously!,
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Before, Louise,, I, used, to, battle, self!doubt, and, endless, negative,, self!criticizing, inner,
dialogue., I, used, to, beat, myself, down, for, the, smallest, mistakes, or, physical, defects., I, was,
haunted, by, worries,, low, self, esteem,, numerous, doubts, whether, I, deserved, to, be, happy,,
prosperous,, loved, or, even, successful., Life, was, often, gloomy, and, the, moments, when, I,
allowed,myself,to,be,happy,were,rare.,
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I,knew,love,was,the,force,that,moves,the,world,,the,ultimate,thing,that,matters,after,all,is,
said,and,done,and,life,is,over.,But,until,I,met,Louise,,I,never,realize,that,I,,too,,deserve,love,,
unconditionally.,
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Louise, re!painted, my, life, canvass, all, over, again., And, boy,, is, it, colorful, now!, She,
empowered,me,like,no,one,else,before:,
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I,learned,that,I,deserve,to,be,happy,and,that,it,is,my,duty,to,keep,myself,joyful,and,healthy.,
Duty,, yes., Not, only, do, I, deserve, unconditional, love,, but, if, I, love, and, appreciate, myself,,
others,will,,too.,What,a,beautiful,realization!,
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She, also, taught, me, that, we, are, not, victims, of, circumstances,, but, powerful, creators,, in,
charge,of,our,own,destiny.,
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I, understood, that, our, thoughts,, emotions, and, words, impact, our, health,, as, much, as, our,
actions.,They,influence,our,health,,our,prosperity,,our,relationships,,our,looks,–everything.,,
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In, time,, I, got, used, to, carefully, monitoring, my, thoughts, and, words,, and, redirecting, them,
faster., No, more, self!deprecating, words., No, cynical, jokes., I, now, use, positive, affirmations,
and,constructive,self!talk,to,build,me,up.,And,it,works.,Big,time.,It,changed,me,inside,out,
and,made,me,so,much,stronger.,So,much,happier.,
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Louise,is,my,role,model,because,she,also,walks,her,talk.,,
When, she, was, diagnosed, with, cancer,, she, put, her, own, philosophies, into, practice, and,
rejected, the, surgeries, and, drugs., Instead,, she, developed, an, intensive, program, of,
affirmations,,visualization,,nutritional,cleansing,and,psychotherapy.,
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Within,six,months,,she,was,completely,healed,of,cancer.,
If,she,can,,so,can,others.,
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I,also,look,up,to,her,for,turning,a,tough,childhood,and,youth,around,,and,starting,life,over,
in, her, forties,, after, her, husband, of, 14, years, chose, to, end, their, relation., She, attended,
meetings,at,the,Church,of,Religious,Science,and,began,training,in,the,ministerial,program.,
She, became, a, popular, speaker, at, the, church,, and, soon, found, herself, counseling, clients.,
This,work,quickly,flourished,into,a,full!time,career.,,
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If, she, could,, so, can, you!, You, can, find, your, calling, and, be, fulfilled,, help, others, if, you, so,
choose,,regardless,of,your,age,and,your,past.,
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Louise,also,redefines,my,expectations,for,old,age,and,strongly,contrasts,the,stereotypical,
profile, of, an, octogenarian., At, 88,, she, is, energetic,, optimistic,, productive, and, more,
committed,to,transform,the,world,than,ever.,She,is,a,vibrant,image,of,health.,
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If, she, can,, so, can, we!, We, can, build, ourselves, up, through, healthy, habits,, we, can, think,
positive,, stick, around, wise,, happy, people,, follow, our, passion, and, contribute, to, other,
people’s,wellbeing.,
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I, love, Louise., She, stands, like, a, sparkling, beacon, in, my, world,, a, living, confirmation, and,
embodiment, of, my, most, cherished, values:, life, is, about, love,, and, happiness, is, about,
contributing,to,the,welfare,of,others,,as,much,as,your,own.,,
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When,I,grow,up,,I,wish,I,could,be,like,Louise,Hay.,!,
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“My)own)heroes)are)the)dreamers,)those)men)and)women)who)tried)to)make)the)world)a)
better)place)than)when)they)found)it,)whether)in)small)ways)or)great)ones.)Some)succeeded,)
some)failed,)most)had)mixed)results...)but)it)is)the)effort)that's)heroic,)as)I)see)it.)Win)or)
lose,)I)admire)those)who)fight)the)good)fight.”))
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Role,models,are,not,always,famous.,In,fact,,most,of,them,are,not,famous,at,all.,They,are,
apparently,ordinary,people,,like,you,and,me;,but,something,about,the,way,they,live,their,
life,inspires,and,changes,us,forever.,
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While,I,grew,up,,and,even,to,this,present,day,,my,grandmother’s,example,was,always,with,
me.,,
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Ana,Haiduc,,the,village,teacher’s,wife,,was,a,strong,woman,,decisive,and,full,of,character.,
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God,,her,love,for,the,family,,her,duty,towards,her,community,,hard,work,,a,clear,
conscience,,discretion,and,a,culture,of,things,well,done,–,these,values,guided,her,ever,
since,I,have,known,her,,and,she,inspired,her,loved,ones,to,embrace,the,same.,
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A,mayor’s,daughter,,a,teacher’s,wife,,a,great,support,for,her,parents,as,a,child,,Ana,Haiduc,
was,so,much,more.,,
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Her,formal,education,stopped,too,early.,In,those,times,,family,duty,required,that,young,
girls,give,up,their,studies,,in,order,to,take,over,household,chores,and,field,work.,She,
stoically,accepted,this,role,,although,she,had,always,dreamt,to,further,pursue,her,love,for,
learning.,,,
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A,bright,thinker,and,a,much!above!average,intelligence,,she,understood,the,benefits,of,
solid,education.,She,fulfilled,her,dream,through,her,sons,,whom,she,devoutly,supported,,
to,reach,for,excellence,in,their,studies,,as,well,as,in,life.,
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With,an,open,mind,,she,embraced,changes,in,society,,but,stuck,firm,with,the,same,strong,
values,that,guided,her,through,tough,times.,She,welcomed,advances,in,technology,with,
interest,,and,learned,to,use,it,easily.,
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A,strong,presence,,always,ready,to,help,her,village,,her,relatives,,her,neighbors.,She,was,
aware,that,,as,the,teacher’s,wife,,she,would,be,an,example,and,role,model,for,her,
community.,Discretely,and,with,compassion,,she,offered,a,constant,support,and,advice,to,
those,in,need.,
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A,devoted,wife,of,over,sixty,years,,a,wise,,energetic,and,loving,mother.,,
Over,the,past,forty,years,,an,extraordinary,grandmother,,the,likes,of,which,are,no,longer,
made,these,days.,
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She,taught,me,to,pray,from,the,heart,,work,hard,and,set,up,a,loving,family,of,my,own.,To,
be,honest,,dependable,and,loyal.,She,planted,in,my,heart,a,burning,faith,in,God,,the,only,
one,that,can,salvage,souls,from,any,sorrows,and,storms.,,
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She,is,88,now,,frail,,hesitating,,but,still,a,fighter,,her,eyes,brighter,when,she,sees,her,loved,
ones,,her,gentle,wrinkled,face,smiling,when,she,speaks,to,God.,
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Tragedies,came,and,went,,painful,losses,swept,her,life;,she,faced,them,all,with,an,
unshaking,faith,in,her,Lord’s,will,,and,a,heart,full,of,love,,strong,and,forgiving.,A,heart,that,
kept,up,its,beat,year,after,year,,waiting,,hoping,,and,rejoicing,with,every,return,of,her,sons,
and,grandchildren.,Many,years,she,lived,through,them,and,for,them,,celebrating,their,
success,and,carefully,cultivating,in,their,hearts,the,same,love,of,God,and,duty,to,their,
families.,,
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I’ve,been,blessed,to,witness,a,life,lived,by,the,book,(the,Holy,one,,that,is):,in,faith,and,
honesty,,with,love,and,a,lot,of,good,work!,She,is,a,shining,,strong,example,that,,along,
Louise,Hay,,her,contemporary,,gives,me,strength,and,hope,that,I,,too,,can,live,a,life,
worthwhile,and,inspire,others!,
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You,understood,how,important,it,is,to,have,the,right,guidance,and,to,travel,through,life,in,
the,right,company,,that,supports,and,uplifts,you.,Now,what?,
Here,are,our,time!tested,guidelines,for,you:,
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1. Your,thoughts,,your,emotions,,your,words,and,your,actions,have,an,impact,on,your,world,
and,on,others.,Master,them,well.,Use,them,in,your,favor.,
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2. Always,be,aware,of,how,the,most,important,people,in,your,life,make,you,feel.,Do,they,help,
you, grow,, or, simply, bring, you, down?, Do, they, inspire, and, nurture, you?, Or, do, they, drain,
your,energy,and,sap,your,self!confidence,and,deplete,your,optimism?,Stick,to,the,positive,
ones, who, help, you, grow,, and, limit, your, exposure, to, and, interaction, with, the, negative,
ones.,
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3. Study,the,lives,,principles,and,choices,of,successful,people.,Find,their,success,ingredients,
and,apply,their,winning,recipe.,You,can,use,the,same,process,for,any,issue,,from,successful,
parenting,to,having,a,fit,and,healthy,body,in,the,shortest,time.,
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4. Take,advice,from,those,who,walk,their,talk,,from,those,who,have,relevant,experience,and,
have,attained,success,in,your,field,of,interest.,
,If, you, wish, to, start, a, restaurant, business,, are, you, going, to, take, advice, from, your, best,
friend,, who, is, a, teacher, with, no, business, knowledge, whatsoever?, Or, a, successful,
restaurant,owner?,
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5. Take, the, main, areas, of, your, life:, health, (physical,, emotional,, mental, and, spiritual),, time,
management,, relationships,, career,, finances, and, mission,, self!development,, contribution.,
List, people,, books, and, ideas, that, define, your, desired, standard, in, that, area., , Understand,
how,they,work.,,
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6. Always, aim, to, raise, your, standards;, not, growing, is, a, slow, death., Aim, to, live, what, you,
preach,and,become,a,role,model,yourself.,,
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Parents!, Whether, you, like, it, or, not,, you, are, your, children’s, first, and, most, important,
influencers.,Don’t,wait,until,they,look,outwards,for,models,to,follow!,Be,their,hero!,Aim,to,
always,grow,and,provide,an,amazing,example!,
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)“You)can't)teach)a)person)to)love)something.)But)you)can)get)him)to)feel)the)heat)of)your)
love)for)something.”))
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“And)then)a)hero)comes)along)
With)the)strength)to)carry)on,)
And)you)cast)your)fears)aside)
And)you)know)you)can)survive,)
So)when)you)feel)like)hope)is)gone,)
Look)inside)you)and)be)strong,)
And)you'll)finally)see)the)truth:)
That)a)hero)lies)in)you!”)
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I,like,to,think,of,role,models,as,being,the,horizon,line.,,How,often,did,you,run,to,catch,it,as,
a,child?,I,know,I,did,many,times.,I,still,remember,the,energy,and,joy,I,was,putting,in,my,
run.,Didn’t,care,for,the,sharp,corn,leaves,scratching,my,skin.,I,was,on,a,mission,catching,
the,horizon.,I,would,get,a,little,disappointed,when,my,mission,failed,,but,would,try,again,
the,next,day,,and,the,next,day,and,the,next,one.,I,wouldn’t,care,for,my,grandmother’s,
advice,that,no,one,could,ever,catch,the,horizon.,I,would,still,want,to,try,it,myself.,
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Just,like,the,horizon,line,,a,role,model,should,be,kept,in,sight,like,a,guide.,You,should,steer,
your,direction,toward,it,when,you,feel,lost,,commit,to,reaching,it,,but,never,compare,
yourself,with,it.,What,counts,really,is,who,you,have,become,in,your,quest,for,the,horizon.,
Look,back,where,you,started,,acknowledge,the,new,muscles,you’ve,developed,since,,
reward,yourself,and,put,up,good,energy,and,joy,for,the,rest,of,the,journey.,And,most,
importantly,,be,aware,that,you,too,can,be,someone’s,horizon,line.,,
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Dear, friend,, we, suggested, that, you, emulate, role, models, in, important, areas, of, your, life;,
“steal”,their,success,recipe,and,make,it,work,for,you.,,
Do, remember,, though,, always,, that, your, own, intuition, is, also, extremely, valuable., Have,
gurus,, learn, from, mentors,, get, your, motivation, from, coaches, and, inspiration, from, your,
heroes,,but,do,your,own,homework,,walk,your,path,and,cherish,the,wisdom,you,gain,along,
the,way!,
Any,one,person,has,influence,in,their,world.,You,have,it,,too.,You,matter.,,
You,are,important,and,can,make,a,difference.,
Be,brave!,Stand,up!,Be,a,PoZitive,role,model,and,a,living,inspiration!,
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