1. society
2. social institution
3. marriage

BY
j! w.' kirton,
AUTHOB
OP
**BUY
YOUb!OWN
CHEBBIES,V
LONDON
BEDFORD
STREET,
ETC.
:
W^ARNE
FRKDERICK
ETC.,
COVENT
1870.
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CO
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CO
BLESSING,
OP
MAKE
ENGLAND
SPOTS
SO
TO
HELP
OF
BRIGHTEST
THAT,
DESIRE
MAY
HOMES
MARRIED,"
"ARE
EARNEST
god's
MARRY,"
TO
"ABOUT
ARE
IN
WORLD,
THE
BECOME
THE
THE
HOME
ABOVE.
THE
CONTENTS.
I.
CHAPTER
Page
On
Getting
Home
a
1
II.
CHAPTER
On
Coubting
I.
Popping
and
with
honest
Be
Question:
the
other
each
17
.
.
II.
III.
At
what
How
should
age
people
should
long
to
I.
II.
III.
Mind
23
Select
See
the
that
Seeking
of
daughter
is
she
,
good
a
:
27
up
.
.
.
mother
28
.
habits
domestic
of
.
Wife
a
her
pick
you
.
IIL
Man
w;here
.
.
.
Young
a
00!
marry
court
we
CHAPTER
Advice
.
.
31
.
.
Seek
one
V.
Seek
a
person
YI.
Seek
a
person
a
person
of
a
person
of
TV.
VII.
Seek
Seek
VIII.
IX.
A
that
of
suitable
of
sound
I.
II.
IIL
a
Know
See
See
Young
to
Woman
something
that
that
be
be
40
character
is
.
health
41
....
character
religious
word
concluding
to
39
.
good
3()
money
temperament
41
42
yourself
.
.
.
lY.
CHAPTER
Advice
of
worth
the
knows
Seeking
a
Husband:
44
him
about
Ae^
respectable
ia careful
and
provident
^^
.
.
.
"
CONTENTS.
VI
Page
IV.
See
that
V.
See
that he is of
YI.
See
is industrious
he
he
that
YII.
He
should
VIII.
He
should
IX.
He
should
good
48
moral
is honest
have
49
good temper
have good health
be religious
in his life
49
a
50
61
....
Y.
Seeking
People
Young
to
48
...
CHAPTER
Advice
character
a
House
Live
to
in
I. As
to the
house
52
II. As
to the
furniture
53
CHAPTER
Mutual
The
Duties
I. Do
not
II. Continue
Be
Y.
your
prepared
Bear
54
and
61
expectations
be disappointedin
to
each
other
68
forbear
68
mutual
concessions.
willingto make
Try and hide one another's faults
another
Study to adapt yourselves to one
Be mutually respectful
Be ready to exercise
self-denial
YII.
.
YIII.
IX.
X.
Confide
XI.
XII.
Row
XIII.
in each
together in
Resolve
Seek
XIY.
Have
XV.
XVI.
How
the
a
improvement
family altar
to train
Special
Duties
To
Make
of
,
.
.
home
71
73
means
your
of
75
another
one
of your
76
....
78
...
79
own
the children
the
70
72
boat
80
YII.
Husband:
provide for the support
your
.
.
74
same
to live within
the
69
.
other
CHAPTER
^r.
64
......
Be
YI.
i^
:
courting
III. Moderate
lY.
Lipe
much
too
expect
YI.
Married
op
:
your
of your
casWe
wife
80
.
.
Viii"
CONTENTS.
VII
Parie
III.
Prefer
wife's company
your
TV.
Love
your
wife
V.
Love
your
VI.
Love
your
VII.
Vlli.
IX.
95
to all others
.
99
wife
sincerely
ardently
101
wife
supremely
102
sincere
10 1
Treat
her
Make
yourselfuseful
with
Remember
that
respect
104
is the
she
weaker
10")
vessel
.
X.
Insure
Duties
I. Learn
11.
lOG
Strive
Set out
rV.
Be
VT.
VTI.
op
Wife:
the
to
with
Preserve
Dress
Ill
home
happy
115
good intentions
118
make
at home
keeper
a
Let
VIII.
to submit
III.
V.
.
life
your
CHAPTER
Special
.
health
your
neatly and
122
extravagantly
not
husband
your
make
120
home
that
see
you
.
.124
.
.
desire
to
happy
126
Vill.
Study
your
husband's
habits
129
IX.
Study
your
husband's
wants
131
X.
Study
your
husband's
temper
132
XT.
Don't
talk
about
husband's
your
failings
abroad
XII.
On
137
138
family expenses
CHAPTER
Lessons
Foua
I.
III.
Concerning
Concerning
Concerning
IV.
Concerning
II.
"
from
IX.
Landla.dy
the
Public-rouse
the
Wife:
140
house
a
clean
a
loving smile
147
a
kind
150
a
cheerful
word
the
Rival
153
fire
CHAPTER
Tre
to
X.
op
Ho'Me.
^"^"^
"
Mid
pleasures
palaces
and
though
Be
it
A
the
from
:
sky
hallow
to
there,
seems
Which,
seek
home
no
so
charm
like
place
there's
humble,
ever
I
roam,
may
we
through
the
home,
sweet,
us
world,
is
ne'er
with
met
elsewhere.
j
Home,
!
sweet
home
Thebe's
place
no
An
Oh
exile
!
me-
The
birds
dazzles
thatched
lovely
give
home.
pleasure
home,
from
like
in
again
cottage
my
;
gaUy
singing
that
call,
to
came
Give
vain.
them,
with
that
me
my
of
mind
dearer
than
peace
Home,
!
home,
home
sweet
sweet,
There's
home.'*
no
place
like
all.
HAPPY
HOME
S,
AND
HOW
TO
MAKE
THEM.
CHAPTEE
ON
I.
GETTING
OME
is
A
word
a
[^ and
and
fresh
always
find
words
he
when
"
".
The
:
time
the
That
But
The
By
or
a
land
EnocVs
of
hearts
change
to
can
has
once
may
fortune's
for
a
way,
human
where
foot
heart
only
cot
painter
dwelling-spot
pilgrim
truth, where'er
This
thousands
;
ne'er
we
many
lot
stray
efface
roam,
a
dwelling-place,
Home.
the
palace change,
golden
spell ",
the
subject
Frederick
in
many
haman
Leads
"
has
a
many
and
the
yet
new.
lifetime's
On
and
;
tasked
"
heart
But
ages
ever
have
poet, orator,
response
a
says
In
all
in
illustrate
an
letters, thouglits
whicli
the
to
conveys
few
a
sentiments
ability of
)
whicli
in
Englisliman,
HOME.
is
2
HAFP7
this
But
That
ne'er
can
what
From
HOMES.
truth
love
our
the
which
past t;an
tell.
memory
loves
Still lives beneath
the heart has
That
Bat
only
the trees
we
which
dowm
lanes
green
a
we
dwelling-place.
"
climbing, or the
to wander, pick-
of
used
we
fish,
to
wont
were
fond
so
were
don^B,
many
the river in which
It is not
or
the
to trace,
Home."
a
once
estrange
primrosesfrom the banks, or plucking the
violets from
their hiding-places,
but
Home
our
that sends a thrill through our whole nature when
call up our
we
early days. Was it not there that,
mother^ s knee, we
beside
first
our
lisped our
thence
we
of
Home
of
And
And
old
own/'
our
we
now
friend calls upon
and
are
make
to
as
us,
we
and
we
affection
her
older.
grow
wish
to
tell him
to
we
we
at home.''
If
a
we
side of
pair
a
take
our
cheerful
seat
on
fire,with
Ba,y, ''Now
a
For
feet
.
how
show
^^
".
when
sit down
"
wishes
tells
"
us
;" and
stormy night by
wrapped
slippers,
reposingin an
I feel quitea\" Tioxsia-"
our
""
old,
same
tradesman
^^
of home-worked
chair, we
"
clings
give a good character to his goods, he
Home
that they are
Home
made
fed," or
^^
.
seraph wings."
to
when
from
"
say,
repeatingthe
and
him,
see
himself
with
but
are
again
How
!
thee
round
story over
glad we
Yes,
childhood
our
hovers
even
first prayer,
our
started forth to do life's battle,and seek
Home
"
a
learned
and
words
''
"
the
ing
a
"
the
in
"
a
easy
^cvi-
ON
when
.-.
look forward
we
stimulates
of
''
having
Home
a
ended,
but"
is
done
do
what
in the
Here
Yet
the prospect
And
after
even
is
journey
nearly
thoughts
our
express
Him
day's march
and
says, and
words
of Jesus
roam
Home."
terrible
in
;
moving tent,
wonder
no
spent
of human
school
I
nearer
j
word/'
for
were
asking John
Yes, "Home
for his mother.
HOME
as
Douglas
not
the last
to
provide a
is the
chief
Its
virtue.
responsibilities,
joys,
form
smiles,tears,hopes, and solicitudes,
sorrows,
chief interests of human
the
is it that
body pent,
from
is a sweet
Home
Jerrold
""
the
nightly pitch my
A
"""
as
own/'
our
sing to
Absent
"
much
so
and
we
future,what
'
"
;
to the
of
3
HOME.
A
to exertion
us
life's work
.
GETTING
life. Go
where
a
man
.
may,
.""
home
The
thought of
lightenshis toil.
'""
-
he
".
his Home
God
he
ordained
has
his heart turns.
his
nerves
that his heart
For
is afar oflF. There
sures.
""
to which
is the centre
garners
yearns
men
"""
alike
in providingfor all
highestearthlyhappiness,
Every one must have
sanctuary of Home."*
"
.
when
his best trea-
up
for all
and
arm
marked
that almost
the
strongest motives
the
the
re-
doing,
to well-
honesty, sobriety,diligence,and good
in general,arise,with the bulk of people,
to
conduct
from
-They
considerations
exert
connected
with
their families.
themselves, they deny themselves,
"
Dr.
Charming,
4
HAPPY
they
impelled to
are
HOMES.
form
habits
which
of the
are
greatestvalue and importance,both to themselves
and
to society,
by the strong desire that their-.
children may
not want
anything that is needful
for their bodies or their minds, for their present
and
comfort
their future
welfare/'
*
huexpire,
re-cast ; political
man
governments are constantly
systems are built up by one generationto be pulled
down
and
re- cast
by another ; false religions,
of huaccompanied by the licentious vehemence
man
passions,effect the greatest social changes ;
and
and
revolution, shape
infidelity
war,
peace
and re-shape human
destiny: but amid the decay
As
well expresses
one
it :
Nations
"
"
".
"
"
""
""
and
the
the
wreck,
confusion
'
and
face
the
been
The
amid
the
wasting
Is it therefore
should
exercise
?
men
the
True,
up with
a
Noah,
that the idea of Home
a
may
come
renewed
and
a
vigour.
the
amid
the din
top, in the prison-cell,
the mighty ocean,
the battle-field,
on
and
heart
"
Dr.
Lee.
begin
"The
to
fail;
Family
or
and
all
of
the recol-
men,
mother's
On
.
"
boyhood, but
our
upon
"
change.'^
spellupon the hearts of
forgetsome
occasionally
enjoyments of
.
survives
wonder
father's house
even
overthrown.
of universal
life'slatest hours
lection of
earth,
waters
such
we
and
scenes
when
any
of
crimes,
of the
which
the
constantlydisfigure
has never
asylum of Home
family circle,like the ark
the
when
love
start
mountain-
and
in
.
of
roar
when
..
flesh
distant
itB"D\3L\.\e^r
^-^^^
ON
lands
the
then
Home
"turn
and
GETTING
A
5
HOME.
wandering prodigalcomes
is stillthe centre
to which
spot which
the
himself,
to
the
thoughts
inspires with
fresh
delight.
Home
^^
...
hearts
""
is the
of each
sure
are
placein
one
It is the
confidence.
.
...
mask
the
""
of
world
where
forces
we
where
place of
tear off that
we
suspicious coldness
in
wear
the
out
pour
place where
to
us
It is the
other.
and
guarded
all this world
which
self-defence,and
unreserved
tions
communica-
of full and
".
It is the spot
confidinghearts.
out
expressionsof tenderness gush out with-
where
sensation
any
"
Without
our
"Without
the home
"Without
the
! what
Oh
Home
Powers
one
on
wall
the
that
thorns
etc., from
the
man?
The
they
time
who
dwell
We
are
told
*
F,
W.
of houses
^
think
time, as
should
Cottage
Rose
of
may
be
the
for the
are
lots
the
be
says, but
one
tory.
fac-
all conspiringto
"
There
;
sun."t
a
great moral
a
kinds
seldom
whole, the result
those
to
without
folks read
inside.^'
to
world
names
When
are
a
"
compared
^^
outside.
world
plighted love endears
from plightedbeauty won,
of various
great end.
fears,
our
that
smiles
be
may
without
*
hopes, without
were
and
awkwardness,
of ridicule.' '
dread
any
of
of
jarrings,
on
still,
happinessof
there.
that
Eobertson.
the
French
'
have
no
"\ Oam^^lX.
word
b
HAPPY
whicli
corresponds to
thankful
should
member
that
the
Homes
^^
^^
word,
our
therefore
we
the
of
Home
that
^^
of Old
we
England
re^^
are
much
so
there
;^^how
feel when
happiness.
cannot, alas,forget that Mr.
centres
We
us
HOMES.
at thfe moment
are
in the
Buxton
half a
tells
"
million
""
Kingdom where home
Yet
felt,owing to drink.^^
happiness is never
also
we
rejoice in believing that there are
millions of homes
where
they nightly sing with
hearts full of joy"
homes
of
"
Home,
United
home, there's
sweet
firmlybelieve
We
"
that
no
place like
happy hours, which
earth, as over
paradise;
O'er
Hours
which
Colours
o'er life's worst
from
as
home."
"
has
Love
"
rise
darkness
fling
angel'swing."
an
appreciatethe -value
of ^'Home,'' that we
devoting a little
propose
eflTort to speak of its pleasures, duties, joys,
trials,and dangers ; hoping that both to married
and singlewe
as
a
serve
helping hand to
may
assist in making them
happier,and so increase
the joy and gladnessthat should
springfrom the
For if it be true that
fire-sides of Old England.
And
it is because
thus
we
:
.
"
in the love
whatever
the
people
of Home
the
to
has
its rise,then
ofimprove the homes
of \3aftTia.\iiOTi.A.
the stability
is calculated
adds
country
to
""
OK
GETTING
A
is therefore what
nation
7
HOME.
its homes
make
.
in virtue
rich
it be
for
in
increase
the
be
done
may
or
when
"All
each
old
is
suitable
do better
We
than
smile
may
but
First
get
quote
CATCH
stumble
and
You
speak of
the
the
in
live
they love
because
world
with
with
'^love
..
..proverbthat
"""
the
door,''love
it.
It is this.
we
old
we
!!
to
thousands
on
Home.
are
there
the
hold.
thres-
people
young
folks,^'or
who
?
Where
"
going
are
advice,
the
to live for
'^We
are
fancy that
lodgings.'^ Some
each
other
they can face the
and
crust,^^forgetfulof the
a
^^
says,
subject that
IT
a
directions
if you ask them
Oh,
comes,
to
with
meet
found
our
mistakes
and
settling,^^
present
going
many
"
answer
the
.
^'
of the
of
simplicity
make
may
is to be
is it in reference
How
it.
to
at the
important
how
who
.
of time."
for
so
"
Fate,
in the walls
PIBST,
"
of
receiptfor
which
and
feels that
cookery book there
cooking a hare, one
an
cannot
"
vice;
architects
are
Working
In
in
happy will
all shall be willing
country when
making every house a home, and so
true
happinessof the people. This
our
assist
to
sunk
it,either
When
is very
poverty
likely"to
comes
flyout
in
at
at
the
window.''
Now
helieve
we
that
may
say at
it is not
once
and
good
for
all that
e\t\Let iot
we
TTksajCL ^x
8
HAPPY
be
to
woman
nseful
be
may
HOMES.
Old
alone.
and
now
maids
and
bachelors
then, but give us
"
state
a
""
blessedness, notwithstanding all its
peculiartrials and drawbacks, for these are more
double
of
counterbalanced
than
of married
life.
To
by
the
joys and pleasures
an
always seemed
it has
us
""
""-
dull
^^If you
thing to live alone.
are
for pleasure/^says Jeremy Taylor,
it
marry;
A
prize rosy health, marry.
good wife is...
you
heaven's
last,best giftto a man
; his angel of
awfully
""
^^
minister
mercy,
of
virtues
many
voice,
of graces
his
j her
of his
his
in
a
smiles,
garden of
his safety,the
of his life ; her
her
.
his
""
cence
innobalm
"
industry,
"
his
economy,
advocates
of Heaven's
palacewithout
Douglas Jerrold,
take
Whereas,
make
window,
^^
'tis but
oflF the
the
safest
.
""
""
.
ings
bless-
still will
bring
the
aa
to
petticoatmake
a
the
a
a
petticoat,"says
place
shiver
to
house-top, break
doors
smoke, give free entry
Ovj
her
"
Her
lips,his faithful counsellors; her
softest pillow of his cares
her
; and
the ablest
Live
about
jewels.
the
pale of
his gem
his head.''
on
nay,
;
her
the
prayers,
of
;
kiss,
balsam
wealth;
surest
steward;
"
the
aryns,
casket
music
her
health,the
bosom,
his
;
sweetest
brightestdays;
innumerable
creak,
the
the
little household
the
sun,
in,
every
wind,
hovel
rain
"
"
habitable;
""
gods crowding
obaerye^
beautifully
"
chimneys
fire-place."
another
"
".
"
".
"
10
HAPPY
/
''
HOMES.
:'
Peter
Registrar having looked
presentlysaid, It's all right I
The
'^
intend
you
done
"
;
the
days have elapsed. What
it coming off,and where
of
number
see
book,
the
down
requisite
tkne
do
is it to be
''
?
At
o^clock,at
eleven
.^'
Making a note of the time and place the
Registrarsaid"
I hope you
will be punctual,for I see that
^^
Fve
another
fixed at
for
quarter past eleven;
,
if you
make
can
it
like it
I should
little sooner
a
"
all the better .''
"
Just
ten
past
depend
"
:
as
to
the
can
the
on
go
sign,and
The
ere
expect
money
he
said,^^
I
'^
If
young
man
may
you
be able
man
young
are
you
suppose
pay," (mentioning
to
.
when
folks will find out
the
in the
me
begins, I
ceremony
books
vestry
ready for
to
you
time."
hesitated
cost
at
as
fortnights'
for
a
moment
length said, ^^I
much
to find the
}}
a
the
replied;but
it would
the
you'llmeet
before
filling
up
save
shall not
P^for
as
all young
so
he
and
will have
you
they inquire).
with
book;
away,
which
sum
there
nicely,"repliedthe Registrar,
the
go
what
aware
say half-
"
;
it."
up
to
I'll be
minute;
will do
shutting
turned
the
upon
That
like,''
repliedPeter
you
as
that
cash,you
or
did
sir,and
must
two
not.
as
I
put it
Saying
a
whicli
married
he
-11
HOME.
departed.Now,
what
sort
that
when
it
life would
difficult even
A
GETTING
ON
have
to raise the
been,
needful
cash
of
was
the
to pay
marriage fees. And yet this is the way hundreds
of our
people go about gettingmarried.
young
Some
time since,the followingappeared in one
:
of
our
as
newspapers
recklessness
the
into
to
upon
drunk
the
do
married.''
told
before
state
a
again
come
when
a
in
street, and
should
you
state
end
Another
without
asked
to
said
her,
you, and
state.''
proper
a
^^
"
the
met
Young
in such
man
case
a
by
wait
a
may
penny
woman,
shocking
a
!"
a
friend
the
also be
had
'^
named
: a
sort
was
it would
able to
not
be
Yee^
of
man
young
given notice,"and
whether
bit until he
girl
Lor', sir,"said she, ^^he
he's sober
be
in
you
with
in
to
bring that
to
was
week
a
beginning,what
might reasonablybe expected.
If this
be
to
marry
after,the clergyman
when
come
about
not
away
are
you
married."
to be
won't
an
not
Go
that.
About
the
in
would
I
that
as
week
fit state
a
and
home,
when
come
as
a
or
again, as drunk
ever,
^^Why,^' said the clergyman, "I
worse.
such
must
in
not
are
went
came
you
You
you.
You
He
afterwards
little
with
sober.
are
rush
people
young
called
clergyman was
was,
a
so
couple, and the man
clergyman said, ^^I will have
marry
nothing to
which
illustration of
A
"
that
you
with
life :
wedded
additional
an
when
bettec
^
^'^^^
12
HAPPY
replied,
^'
If
I wait
These
till I
of hundreds
specimens
are
afford
can
it I shall
of
stantlytaking place. The idea of a
the day, going to church, and without
the
world,
or
stijck of furniture
a
"
at all/'
get married
never
HOMES.
cases
con-
fixing
man
a
.
"
in
penny
to call his own,
and
perhaps the very clgthes on his back not
paid for,saying with all the gravityof a judge,
before
^^
the
With
and
also
^^
What
worldlygoodsI thee endow,
result of such mockery, but wretchedness
?
sorrow
If
reap.''
right.
Hence
Home,
sweet
^^
There
Be
"
whatsoever
mocked,
friends,
the
all my
be the
can
and
bride, the parson,
that
is not
shall he
begin wrong they can't end
talk of
we
say again, before
men
we
Home,
is in this
soweth
man
a
deceived, God
not
in many
as
First
must
we
other
""
"
it."
get
things
"
"
"
Which,
A
tide in the affairs of
taken
at
the flood, leads
Omitted, all the voyage
Is bound
On
And
Or
lose
"
^^
his
/Aa^Jbr
or
and
Marriage
out
^
are
made
a
our
two
some
sea
;
and
in miseries.
we
now
the current
afloat,
when
it serves,
ventures."
of
ways
without
An
doing a thing the ;
old proverb says truly,
means
"
is
If this be true
man
to fortune
on
of their life
are
take
the wrong.
beans."
any
full
must
we
There
right
in shallows
such
men,
to
marry
provisionfor
like
a
horse
then, we
without
with-
may
..
add,
having sanded,
tKe waula
""
auA
uece%-
GETTING
ON
"
.
.
-
.-.
evary
young
would
say.
Never
YOU
ABE
TO
do
we
may
TO
GO
this ?
To
be
of
heforemarriage,his
increased
in trying to
be
little
better
longer
trouble
with
matter
And
his
to
look
Look
-
and
soon
a
is
a
man
young
he
does
do
after.
so
oflF the
rush
do
vastly
Hence
it
wedding-day a
headlong into
It is wise
open.
not
to
in this
before
you
man
of
leap,^^
you
are
leaping to into
of the
learmng
promising age
to smoke
and
the
of
drink
in the.Post
depositthe money
Office SaviQgs Bank.
By adopting this plan the
Take
would
th"a Mkr^easilybe met.
difficulty
hig calculation as an illustratioii oi VJaa ^cr^^x "il
would
"
be taken
diflSculties will be
than
eyes
where
bargain.
Suppose a young
Eighteen,instead
.
How
put
rather
HOME
to
"
""
to
DENCE
EVI-
us.
reply.If
we
op
GOOD
FURNISHED
England,
we
day
this stand
upon
asked.
which
A
done,
the
HAVE
HAVE
Let
be
have
YOU
TO.
so
..would
to
UNTIL
women
by the young
brighterday will dawn
But
if it could
consent
FIXED
OWN
YOUR
and
woman,
WEDDING
OF
"
13
"
lifeis, to say the least of it,
and
ought therefore to be condemned.
WRONG,
Toil may
lay it down as a generalrule that a Home
miserable
is happy or
according to the views,
of the malriage union.
high or low, entertained
Would
that it were
possibleto reach the ear of
of
THAT
.".
HOME.
married
sities
YOUR
..
A
resolve
to
14
HAPPY
.A
the pence.
penny
HOMES.
day
a
is "1
lOs, 5d.
a
year.
.
inday, "4 lis. 3c?. a year. If a young man
ing,
dulges in the supposed manly (?)habit of smokand adds to that also drinking,then a pint of
3c?. a day, which
fourpenny and screw
of tobacco
is gone
if regularlysaved
in a jiffy,
for four or
3d.
a
"
"
would
five years
interest
(with the
and
then
made
have
and
dropped in)
him
few
a
from
"20
the possessor
odd
to
..
of
now
shillings
"25
to
call his
would
This
be a nice little sum
certainly
to start housekeeping with, and might easilybe
of sawing instead
secured
if habits
of spending
more
were
generallyadopted by our young men.
Should
also adopt the same
the young
woman
plan of saving a Httle regularly(provided she is
in service or following some
employment), then
she
by the time she is twenty-two or twenty-three,
own.
.
.
'"
"
may
have
are,
to
the
use
in modern
in the
least "10
at
words
You
servants.
have
another, ^^Few
of
societywho
are
rent,
no
buy neither coals nor
(clothingexcepted) any
need
which
though
your
daily tax
income
is
For
bank.
so
rich
no
rates
as
classes
...
domestic
to pay;
candles,nor
of those
there
you
""
food,nor
endless
modities
com-
the
householder; and
small, you
yourself are
"""
rich,for you might easilysave the half of it.^' If
enable you to add to the
you did this,then it would
Comforts
^Jl
want
to
of
Home, by many little extras that,alas,
the lot of very few, in consequence
of the
of the haihit of
.
husbanding tlieii T^^oxrc^ea,
ON
'
our
chance
be
men
young
to
A
are
a
a
is
a
with
the
he had
never
letter
whom
the
news
heard
in
as
Many
turn
of
to
had
good
at
bad
at
it up.
It
lie in bed
bringing
rich
some
died
of
care
but
turning
postman
that
are
up,
man
young
morning imagining
day put
thirtyyears ;
of
per
by taking
"
well for
penny
value
bers
large numconcerned, their only
gettinga Home,
the
week
littles
by week.
wishing for something to
employing the best means
is all very
the
far
so
of
'^
show
"50
that
seen
15
HOME.
followingwill help
small sums
saved.
regularly
into the Savings bank
makes
of
"
A
The
It will thus
"
GETTIKa
of
him
uncle, of
leaving him
a
handsome
thereupon
legacy in his will, and
proceedingto tell you what he would do if such a
thing should ever happen. But depend upon it,
the way
castle building of this kind
is not
to
.
..
Home
of your
secure
a
Home,
hd^ever homely, much
purchased by
than
"
or
one
money
in drink
-hmdj
and
ever
so
than
and
we
the
savings
of
own.
will value
more
if it has
your
own
richlyfurnished
your
Take
by
been
labours,
other
the money
a
hands
spent
by l^ie young men. of li\^%"
safelysay tlMbtjii
a?g^"^SL\si^^
tobacco
may
You
own.
16
HAPPY
we
way
have
of
wants
Well
"
suggested,
the
thousands
'^
something
of
dreaming
the
says
To
Yet
Who
his
each
most
sets
tracks
through
out
wrong
or
all
supply
would
who
the
constantly
are
turning
is
all
daj"
some
up
her
footsteps
path
inclination
error
must
lose
view,
oiir
fallacious
own
leads,
interest
it
"
happiness
different
Through
As
poet,
at
grasp
While
HOMES.
moves
the
wander
we
pursue
approves,
:
wished-for
far
astray."
way,
;
"18
build
well
after-life
Heathen
false
step
pointedin
a
says, "He
wife has lost
of his life :
'^
liere
series of
continued
a
writer
see
first of all
must
you
One
you
HOMES.
HAPPY
lay a good
render
may
your
disasters,for,as
who
more
has
than
been
half
whereas, if,on
to it that you
dation.
foun-
lay a good
and
the
-
a
disapthe happiness
..
contrary,
.
substantial
God's
ably
blessingyou may reasonhope to build thereon a good hope of a fair
allotment
of the bliss peculiarto a weU-arranged
and Heaven-designed union.
If,instead of rash
riages,
engagements, hasty proposals,and heedless marending in misery, we had prudent and
both
careful
sides, resultingin.,
selections,on
suitable
adaptation to each other, then, as a
of course,
matter
sowing such seed, a plentiful
harvest
of good fruit would
But
be the result.
the truth
is comcases
is. Courting in many
menced
by impulse instead of judgment, and
then it becomes
of wooing rather than
a matter
efibi*t to discover whether
the qualifications
an
both
of the right kind.
sides are
Men
and
on
talk of
love at first sight,''
if it was
as
a
women
virtue,forgettingthat it is character we love and
No
the person,
has any right to fallnot
one
in love at first sight; each should
wait and
see
whether
the character
and
such
are
dispositions
will give occasion
for real afiection.
But
as
foundation, by
..
.
"
"
"
"
"
""
"
instead
Men
ask
of
this,many
what
is the
first form
attachments
m^tead
o5 d.u\.y,
patla.
and
of
""
COUBTING
ON
the
doing
.
""find
AND
Nothing worth having in
either by wishing or
by
..
Attention
efforts.
...
late
too
ill-timed
or
given to
the
they
alter.
to
life will
married
be
must
is
the result
come
ill-appKed
requisites
happy union if the results are to be reasonto comintended
plete
ably expected. Marriage was
the happiness of man,
and
if he fails to
it much
realize its pleafsures,
of
depend upon
for
-.
.
a
the
"go
in
be laid to the fact that he does
blame
may
about
it in the
his
right
celebrated
and
next
.
of
yet
the
of
...power
evil husband
and
;
hatch
the
hath
"
"
..
because
.
eternity.
worid,
Life
or
sanctuary
no
she
must
eggs
which
produced
her
;
dwell
and
her
a
retire from
her
on
more
warrant
an
sorrow,
follyor
own
she is
hath
tormentor
to
under
of
felicity
in-
it,
pre-
and the woman
complain to God, as
rogative,
may
subjectsdo of tyrant princes,but otherwise she
And
hath no appeal in the causes
of unkindness.
though
""
in the
a
most, for she hath
..
interest
in the
are
lasting sorrow,
indeed, ventures
marriage. A woman,
or
death, felicity
"
of
state
a
greatest contingency,
for
throw
"Marriage
into
enter
the
greatest
last
the
to
the
on
that
not
Jeremy Taylor,
way.
sermon
Ring/^ says: "They
cast a die of
noiarriage
.-.
-
when
mistake
'19
QUESTION.
THE
and
opposite;
very
their
out
POPPINa
ness,
the
yet
man
he must
sits among
jectionthat
his
can
from
run
return
many
to it again; and
neighbours,he
lies in his
hours
remembers
of his sad-
when
he
the ob-
bosom, aii41[ie""\^^^'^i^'^^
-
20
HAPPY
If such
be the
know
to
the
how
before
and
;
it is
a
must
by
way
love
to
Gives
and
Thou
givest !
receives
word
all
that
On
earth
In
heaven
bliss,fullest when
all
Spring-hea^ of
mysterious, and
!
harps
Sweet
The
sparkling cream
The
silken down
Discemer
of the
man^s
"
with
remarks
!
still
all
!
that
of all time's
all bliss !
sums
blessedness
"
!
happiness complete !
ripestgrapes of joy,
selecteth
with
her hand
sights,
odours, all divinest
heart
bliss,
love!
soimds.
thoughts, all feelingsdearest to
brings the holy mixture home,
Addison
""
of
gathereth and
All rarest
The
of
says
of God
that harmonizes
All finest relishes,all fairest
And
"
most
Emblem
Hail, love ! first love ! thou word
All
we
!
felicity
mysterious
chord
of Paradise
all
sums
Deepest when most is drawn !
Mysterious, infinite,exhaustless
She
PoUok
life.
""
and
men
young
""
"
"Hail, holy love ! thou
The
therefore
is
companion, and do it
know
reallywhat
you
of helping you that we
give a little advice
seekingpartners for
maidens
important
Courting
world;
to
propose
true
the
in
select
you
is most
well, for bad
Court
intelligently,
you
want
then, it
case,
business
worst
say,
to
HOMES.
all
superlativesof
that
"
the
the
and
soul,
fills
bhss."
pleasantest
part
of
;
life is
generallythat which passes in
Courtship,provided his passion be sincere,and
ihe party beloved
diacteXivaii,
flL""^Yc^^
kind; 'jn.tTa.
a
""
-
COURTING
ON
AND
THE
POPPINa
hope, all the pleasingnotions of
the pursuit/'
And
very wiselydoes Sir Walter
''
"
thou
year
.
no
.
and
;
when
attained,and
hast
thou
all,for
at
peace
last
neither
may
rise in
Ealeighadd :"
for beauty only,
which
please thee
nor
one
of
will be to thee
desire
the
soul
life for that
it,it
dieth
when
perishethwhen
affection
the
the
marry
thyselfall thy
bindest
perchance
.-
that if thoa
Remember,
21
QUESTION.
it is
it is
satisfied/'
It is all very
"
the
Now
And
And
And
stars
pretty
be you
may
be
young
were
made
to
bloom, dear,
were
made
to
shine
for the
made
made
were
not
sing
to
man
a
pretty girlswere
if there
but
.
pretty flowers
the
the
well for
for mine
something
"
;
boys, dear.
"
;
more
than
the
their
it when
''pretty flowers,''depend upon
beauty fades away love will be likelyto depart
at the
time.
same
It is true
that
Shakspeare says
"
alters when
Which
Or
bends, with
Oh
..
no
That
'""
! it is
looks
It is the
"
.
"
the
an
it alteration
to
remover
ever
fix^d
is not
finds
"
love
;
remove;
mark,
tempests and
on
Love
:
is
never
shaken;
wandering bark.
worth's unknown,
Whose
although his height be taken.
Love 's not time's fool,though rosy lipsand cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass
come
;
Love
"Bnt
star
to every
alters not
bears
it out
with
his brief hours
e'en to the
edge of
and
weeks,
dooui."
"22
HOMES^
HAPPY
But
this
when
only be the case
Hence
good qualitiesto love.
Mind
the
over
can
who
you
we
"
I
only
see
I
only feel
I
only hear thy beating heart,
''Youth
and
^fchatthou
"
know
^I have
that
be
we
art
near
shall
part."
never
likelyrealize
a
struggle,
most
""
blunder, manhood
a
to be
;
thee, dear;
this,you will
do
you
old age
come
"
"
to
""
able still to say
:
Unless
...
be
may
permit to
other
And
are
again,
say
then, whatever
marey:
changes that Providence
may
your condition,
you will be
to each
there
a
regret.^^
II. We
maybe asked, At what age do you
think people should marry
This depends upon
?
For instance,whether
there is a
circumstances.
fair prospect of being comfortable,or the young
^^
.-"
'^
man^s
income
wife, but
is
also to
with
a
not
only
meet
the
married
life.
suflBcient
extra
If
a
keep
to
..
a
nected
con-
expenses
has
man
young
""
""
good habits, and is wise
to select a suitable help-meetfor his wife,
recommend
then, other things being equal,we
he will be preserved
as
earlymarriages,inasmuch
from
temptationspeculiarto his position,
many
of
are
Jeremy Taylor quaintlyobserves, Some
good
enough
a
situation
and
""
"
-
at
age
Where
oial
some
fifteen,
there is
prospect
is
at
twenty, and
maturityof
mind
we
satisfactory,
and
do
never
some
the
tvo\"
""^^
J'
finan-
^Vj
..
COUETINa
ON
young
.
men
and
AND
women
POPPING
should
THE
not
twenty-two to twenty-fouryears of
Against tlie practice,so common,
":
QUESTION,
at
many
-23
from
age.
of
marriage
would
most
beforethe age of twenty-one, we
"""certainly
protest, as beingunwise both on social
and physiological
grounds. The law very wisely
regards persons under twenty- one as incapableof
taking care of themselves, or of making civil
...
contracts, etc. because
..much
"
of want
of wisdom.
How
should
be urged for
disqualification
the
most
important step that two persons can
take, and one in which their happiness for life is
involved.
so seriously
Depend upon it,nothing is
lost by postponingmarriage until both become
of
By that time you will be better able to judge
age.
other^s qualifications
and
to each
as
capabilities
which
such a step involves.
to fillthe position
III. Perhaps you may
ask, How
long should
This also is a difficult questionto
Court?
we
inasmuch
it so
much
as
depends upon
..answer,
what
be
the
at
means
disposalfor
your
may
ascertainingeach other's qualifications,
tempers,
We
Jacob
told that
etc.
served
are
position,
for Eachel, and
unto
seven
they seemed
years
him but a few days for the love he had for her.^^
And, taking all things into consideration,this is
better
than
running the risk of "marrying in
haste
to
"repent at leisure,^^for, as Shakproveth
marriages seldom
speare
says, "Hasty
Don't he led away "bya"^^^^T^Tka^^^\rQi
weil."
more
..
..
^^
":
^^
""
^^
.
...
"""
^'
""
"""
"""
"
24
HAPPY
HOMES.
.
Take
"
heed
what
of thine
And
thine
The
so
eye,
thy love, for
win
ear
voice
wife
a
thrill thee, sound
may
""
is
""
may
""
"
thou, the hand
to discord
turn
notes
The
the
thy
consider
springeth
death.
and
enchant
But
trifles to
not
unto
harp
real,nor
imagination ;
own
suffer
is
thee
charmeth
brilliant at
will
wither, and
the
sweet
""
;
even,
be
may
with
red
sorrow
""
in the
And
the
the
It
that
morning ;
sylph-likeform of elegance
crampings of pain."
is related
he
courted
less
walking
ask
seven
^^
out
pop
enough
without
to
ask
"
divine,;
even
for
moning
suma
kiss,
question/^ At length,while
moonlight night,he ventured to
if he
of his
affection,to
^^
if you
Two,
years
well-known
in
the
one
his beloved
certain
a
courage
up
much
of
writhe
must
like.^^
might indulge in one proof
which
she modestly replied,
Having obtained permission,
bis next
of it. At
to avail bimself
was
diflBculty
length, folding his hands together, he seriously
said, For wbat we are going to receive may the
Lord
make
us
truly tbankful.^^
We
now
taking into consideration a
propose
few
that
matters
belp to guide you in
may
suggestions are
selecting a partner. These
and
to
man
seriouslyaddressed
young
every
"
"
"
young
out
woman,
they
WffOMAND
will
vsdtb the
help
TFHEN
to
YOU
conviction
settle the
SHOULD
that
grave
MARRY.
if followed
""
question,
26
HOMES.
HAPPY
By whicli
to
Not
in
sunk
Among
heavenly love thou may'st ascend,
carnal pleasures,for which
cause
the beasts
Or, again,Scott
To
"
It is not
Whose
dead
It is the
Which
In
In
heart
not,
short
mind
^^
to
mind,
bind."
can
"
question,
Who
find
can
witli trutli be too
it may
ask, ^'Is
men
young
A
heart, and
seeks ?^^ Is it not
asked, ^^Who
;
sympathy.
tie.
tlie
?"
die
not
silken
in soul
to
woman
etc.? and
to
and
answer
that
!
desire.
desire it doth
sweet, sweet
body
virtuous
given
hath
the heaven
in fierce
silver link, the
The
God
fantasy'shot fire,
as
wishes, soon
granted,fly;
It liveth not
With
giftwhich
beneath
alone
man
found."
was
:
love's the
True
"
for thee
mate
no
too
a
.
often
.
often the
case
""
she
pretty, engaging,
Is she good, domesticated, etc.?^^
...
time
back, in
American
an
the
paper,
?
marry
questionwas asked : ^What do you men
The
followingreply was not less singular than
"
true
'^
:
"
Some
some
and
the hair.
the
will
partners, these, you
do
scraps
as
the eyes
marry
occasionallymarried;
Poor
men
; the
noses
ears
dimples; some
;
contest, however, generallylies
men
young
between
is
the
.
marry
of
a
all
these, and
wife, instead
The
chin
own.
many
of the true
marriage is, such
mouth, too,
not
"
"
often.
so
But
other
:
young
bits
thing.
"
of
Such
is tt^e after-life*
He
"
""
"..
that
...
he
ADVICE
TO
would
have
MAN
YOUNG
a
A
SEEKING
wife
must
one
of
with
meet
can
A
social
equal
K
position,
kindred
disposition,
congenialto his own,
of marrying
beware
like education, similar
and
But
tnarry.
..
or
let him
neck, however
a
melodious.
ever
"
habits
some
swan-like,
and
matches,
queer
do
ladies
Young
unite
pathies,
symlet him
a
curl,
voice, how-
a
or
27
womcm,
a
marry
!
WIFE
also
make
themselves
to
whiskers/'
The
;
take
idea of any
this
wedded
..these
saying I
regular teeth, ringlets,
straightnose,
pretty foot,musical
.'-
in his
man
wife/'
skill,money,
Good
put together.
to be
far
are
qualities
A
^^
senses,
lawful
my
beyond
all
be
may
very
but if she have
woman
plainin her personalappearance,
qualitiesshe will prove a real
good domestic
A
treasure.
step like this, involvingso many
""serious
that deliberatio
considerations, ought to have
"""
..
which
shall
insure
the
full consent
of
judgment and the heart, therefore-7
I. No
intimacy should be seriouslyentered
until you
made
have
yourself acquainted
upon
with the personalhabits and friends of the young
the
"":
In
woman.
...
HBE
""
..be
words,
mind
Acquaintances of this
The
hastilyformed.
saying
UP.
married
.
other
true
to
of the
his
a
wife,
very
and
limited
not
her
extent.
where
you
kind
that
pick
should
not
only
is only
relations,
He
a
man
becomes
he joins hands
family the moment
daughter of it at the altar,and laa \akft^
one
with
^
a
^msr^
"
28
the better
it,for
in
the
report, for
rather
a
than
look about
the
you
ask
Will
whether
find
should
we
of
place
institute
without
a
seek
and
person
wisely;
not
about,
ones
queer
If possibleselect
mother.
Napoleon was
the
Yes, depend
this
the
trained
^Aa^
are
case
and
men
mothers
with
the
properlyat
worth
make
who
women
asked
rock
are
them.
clusions
con-
that it
daughter of
daughters;
Home, they learn
more
to
are
""
a
""
you
whom
answered,
it,those
upon
rule the world!
their
he
marry...
there
as
she
sensible
a
^^mind
once
needed;
most
jump
make
to
woman
To
in mind
Bear
"-.
mechanics^
places, then
suitable
II.
what
class, a
good mother, and,
a
many
nation
to
like
evidence.
sensible
requiresa
great
such
be
person
a
bible
lecture, or
likelyto
wisely,you must
wife
say
worship, a
is very
suitable
a
self
your-
good placeto pick up a
But
if you
certainlynot.
in the habit of attending a
woman
young
a
"""
occupy?'^ Ifhall,a dancing saloon,
her
concert
a
partner, ask
a
she be
wish
casino,or theatre,is
wife:
of
in search
question,
position I
for
want
you
societywill be acceptableat
all circumstances, and as you
"
the
"""
impulse. Remember,
under
you
good or evil
from principle
of his life. Act
whose
and
in
the worse,
or
rest
from
COMPANION
all times
a
HOMES.
HAPPY
a
good
the
what
Mothees
the
cradle
very
much
""
!
Especiallyis
for if they are
lessons
;""
there
than, all "beSkiSiQ. i^xxA. \C
**"
"""
""
"
"""
ADVICE
A
SEEKING
MAN
!
WIFE
29
"
than another
to regret in
thing more
kindthat many
the present day,it is the blunder
hearted
mothers
but mistaken
are
making in the
"bringing up of their daughters. They fit them
for anything but
the positionsthey are
likelyto
there
"
YOUNG
A
TO
is
one
How
.occupy.
often
the
may
busilyengaged in domestic
a slave in looking after the
the house
or
have
may
"
result
The
.
knows
.
"
i.
to
she
""
"
".
a
managed,
being cooked,
the
that
children
young
manage
she
of the
mother
every
useful under
all
wife to know
and
herself
to
how
at
see
finds
a
that
she
of
her
^^ways
would
we
tlieir hands
has 'a'
woman
in.
say,
Domestic
circumstances,
a
house
ought
glance,in
case
be
requiredto work, whether
the
servants
are
dischargingtheir duties in the
manner.
Rough work is not necessarily
proper
the companion of rude manners,
or
a vulgar mind.
is not suitable for the wife of a working
A woman
may
or
man
..
dinner
the
get
'will be very
8
be
To
women
will enable
and
to
own
at all.
young
HABIT
..
when
positivelynothing
house
-Let
let
is,that
of her
house
..
like
luxury and do nothing. Indeed,
the daughters soil their hands.
every
they hardly
seen
duties,working
order
cleaned,in
be
mother
not
a
tradesman
of her
ways
cutting out
cooking a joint;
a
without
wife
cannot
^^look
who
is not
household,^^ or
in
for
who
a
and
whose
Mting
her
shirt, making
no
to
expert
pudding,
or
is properlytrained
woman
education
for such
a
well
begins
duties.
and
ends
30
Indeed,
modern
the
both
True
love has
true
make
to
well
useful as
and
wife
a
make
loss
table with
he
of
well-
a
if he
man,
be-
feathers
for the
up
has
marries, does
if he
companion ;
and
should
Bird^s
a
"
so
should
.
omainent
an
many
helpmate, misery
a
trees."
wife
good
.
of
dinner.
a
shady
when
mistake
sad
the
for
eye
supply the
a
Hence,
sense
common
a
an
"
^^
dinner.
obtain
his ease,
a
will not
homely virtues, nor
instead
what
on
carpet,
a
on
ornamental.
as
decorations
make
"
economy,
spent
are
beneath
starves
woman
grain of
domestic
of
money
nightly loves
And
cooked
helplessnesswith
brought up with regard to
utter
love is at home
And
and
of-
accomplishments !
And
A
mistakes
fatal
most
duties
and
time
called
**
the
essential
most
are
is
girlsare
many
while
tie
of
one
times
which
to
HOMES.
HAPPY
and
recrimination
""
will be the result/^
Wisely
has
one
also
remarked
^^
:
"
Take
unto
""
thyselfa wife, but examine with care, and fix not
suddenly ; on thy present choice depends the
future happiness of thee and
thy posterity. If..
is destroyed in dress
of her time
much
and
"
"
""
adornments
beauty,
she
;
and
if she is enamoured
delightedwith
laugheth much
abideth
not
wit^A boldness
in
and
her
rove
on
her
talketh
father^
s
with
loud;
oi
own
praise; if
own
house,
the faces
her
if her
and
m.eiL
her
",
foot
eyes
though
"
""
""
A
TO
ADVICE
MAN
YOUNG
A
SEEKCNQ
!
WIFE
31
in the firmament
of
the sun
as
beantj were
heaven, turn thy face from her charms, turn thy
feet from her paths,and suffer not thy soul to be
ensnared
by the allurements of thy imagination/^
habits.
If a
III. See that she is of Domestic
her
""
":
"
master
how
wants
a
labourer
they
carefully
fill the
person
to
-
strikes
us,
,.
selectinga wife
something of the
-
are
Unless
mistress
a
about
go
men
duties
for the
servant,
suitable
In
like manner,
should
endeavour
seek
to
a
selectinga
position.
young
substitute
no
or
of
one
who
a
home.
of
lack
it
in
understands
Good
looks
good qualities.
is
acquaintedto a certain extent
with the sciences of bake-ologj,feoi7-ology,
maJce"
and mend^-ology,
it will soon
ology,stitch-ologjy
-
.
woman
a
be evident
that she
is oat
for
instance
the
selected
following,
cases
be
few
days after Mary
husband
expressed
his road
ordered
.
the
one
usual
had
"^
boiled rabbit for dinner
at
expected but misery from
numerous
as
a sample from
"
the
on
from
to be
time
;
so
for
been
to
When
the
to
he
dinner, he
ried,
mar-
have
he called at the
breakfast
sent-
wish
a
a
shop,
factory,and
arrived
was
home
somewhat
surprisedto find no signs of its being ready.
Judge of his astonishment
going into the
upon
kitchen, to hear his wife say,
Why John, Fve
had such a job in all my life ; if I haven^t
never
been all the morning plucking t\i^ \ms
^'S.^^s^a.
^^
.
What
element.
:
Some
:
could
of her
32
HOMES.
HAPPY
rabbit,and
be
idea of
Tbe
drop/^
wife, and
a
done
baven^t
it
woman
a
yet being
incompetent (as so
potato, or
make
that
the
half
aware
that
she
many
are)
to
It
in
tion is wasted.
It is marvellous
literallythrown
away
hardly be eaten, when, with
good
meal
cookery,
have
might
has
it
for
indigestible.With
the
have
fact
cook
a
fairlysaid
be
^^
how
on
much
duties
fearful
mistake.
money
and
thus
for
of
the
find out
and
.
management
provided. English
is
remarked,
hard
rendering meat
best
meat
in
the
.
too
and
world,
"
""
Domestic
soon
will
a
but
..
cooks, notwithstandingthe
worst
of married
nothing
"""
can
Cookery^' books are now
to be had from
sixpenceeach of every bookseller.
And
why is it so ? Because, in large numbers
of cases, young
not duly prepared for
are
women
the position
they hope one day to occupy. Indeed,
few are properlytrained for the
it is amazing how
that
"""
little
a
well
the
money
that
messes
been
been
device
frequentlya
we
tirely
en-
consumed
is
a
may
is
"
by the working
is more
less spoiled in the cooking ;
or
addition,a largeand extravagant proper-
classes
and,
food
ready to
consenting to
ever
shirt.
a
I feel
yet.
to
and
life,
surface
to
learn
prepare
the
cost
Women
that
marries
"
"
character,
he
has
made
""
study, devote time
the callingsof life,
"
of
themselves
housekeeping, how
Harriet
doing so.
who
of his wife^s
his
most
man
.
few
beforehand.
women
ever
Martineavi,^T\\"m^
But
think
^ci\si^
""
"
34
HOMES.
HAPPY
is of a better
school-learning
qualitythan can be found anjrwhere else within
When
the plans are
reach.
got fairlyto work
there will be a regular dinner
provided for the
distance ;
smallest
a
payment, for girls from
meantime, the lesson of laying the cloth, etc.,
of those
who
for the sake
on
bring their
goes
while
the
proper
This
dinners.
and
ever,
the
sort
bought
lesson
rather
superiors
the
of dinners
with
is
money
are
"
"
"
baulked, how*much
vexed, by
disclosed,viz., stale pastry
given
at home
for
the
girls
spend as they like. This phenomenon hastens
the plan for the good hot dinner
at the school
the roast
leg of mutton, or sirloin,with vegetables,the Irish stew, and other good things,to
be cooked
by the girls,in turn, in view of the
of each.
table to be kept in the future home
But
mind
for the roast
beef and
the girlshave
no
Yorkshire
pudding, or the stew, or anything else
sensible
that
people like; they go on buying
to
"
stale
pastry
on
for it than
for
command.
In
their way
the
to
school,and
comfortable
dinner
pay
at
"
"
"
more
their
littlewhile
arises about
difficulty
the industrial part of the schooling. Strange to
do not like that their daughters
say, the mothers
china
should
learn to wash
properly, to clean
furniture,rub up silver,and spread a table ; and
the fathers
even
objectto any time being given
the whole, the very
to the art of cookery. On
superior school learning is gTacio\3L^\y
%cc^i^ted^
a
"
ADVICE
YOUNG
A
TO
SBBKINQ
MAN
A
appreciated
; but the industrial
.fetal.
The
pawnbroker's daughter is
it is her turn to sweep
the days when
"
the
missing
always
draper'sgirlscannot
are
excused
from
and
thus
work;
.
..
end,
school
the
the wretched
does
keep
should, therefore,know
her
able to
is called.
than
'
..habits.
of
Never
to substitute
True
for her
woman
and
man
Many
^^
young
there
a
should
and
a
We
wish
there
of young
was
a
positionand
go
to
"
as
a
it
for
a
prepare
the
of
domestic
young
companion
the rising
real treasure,
case,
a
burden
greater dispositionon
well
regulatedfamily rather
service
shop. Domestic
such
agirlfor
women
situations.
her
ultimate
employment in a
the factoryor
than
to find
part
over
and
snare.
the
the
go
greater blunder
peculiarduties as
the nursing mother
.;
..
to
house."
accomplishments
education
and
wife
finish their education
was
an
domestic
women
generation; she would then be a
instead of being,as is too often the
-.
"
how
to
have
old
know
pen
husbands
to
not
keep it.
boarding-schoolto
be
the
experience of
the
wrangling, because
and
they
and
map
unhappy pupils will
through
She
"
closed,and
of these
mother
and
linen-
schepae is brought
the
children
discomfort
unless
more,
book
or
girlsare
come
any
on
room
the
all but
is
a
ironing days;
on
is
absent
cabinet-maker's
the
bread;
35
element
if not
make
!
WIFE
has
many
It is all the
spherem
advantages
while fitting
^?^ "" ^xA'^QKis^'^
36
HOMES.
HAPPY
would
men
domestic
behaved
happy
^^
likes her
'^
and
neat, well-
a
than
talks about
who
she
the
...
make
likelyto
more
happy home,
a
liberty
of household
is
servant
and
wife
a
Mrs.
that
do well to remember
drudgery
duties.
Stowe, speaking
capitalillustration
trying to induce
daughter, to take
of how
a
this
on
she
gives
subject,
answered
was
a
woman,
young
lessons
some
in
a
.
when
fisherman^
s
and
washing
ironing:
"
^^
child,^^she
My
understand
to be
going
"
her
she
Indeed,
But
you
Oh,
he
to be
little head
wasn't
if you
"
are
;
"
going
will get up
must
married
Yes
trouble
to
herself
;
if
put
them
marry
other
motive
I'm
out.
to make
"
far from
Need
pretences.
what
a
IV.
be
lead to
One
Icnoivs the worth
who
a
and
a
""
your
"
tically,
Pracfalse
beginning life
misery ?
The
of money,
If
a
have
inea.iiE.
desires
man
Ah,
notions
Aa
"
some
under
his wife."
to
woman
above
thou-
"
"
says
first ask
thing for
Iier station
much
so
proverb which
rich he must
terrible
that
lie should
Irish have
going
not
they profess.
wonder
we
"
slave of
a
therefore, they get married
with
shirts ?
husband's
your
myself."
fear
the truth must
be told,we
for a home, for fine clothes,
or
sands
to
to
that.''
about
"
you
of housework
kinds
need
will
^^
married.^^
tossed
She
^^
all
said,
it is
above
yie
see
a
"
"
:"
"
""
"
ADVICE
of them
many
"how
""
A
TO
walk
their parents
"keep np
question,what
along
will it cost
while
If
is to
have
large
or
mind.
are
often
Of how
Her
"
it.
a
a
to
year
the
questionto
same
whose
woman
sity
propen-
will
require
therefore,be
only
'^
fashion
of
say with
we
may
a
dress, for
in
advertisements
of
duck
''
latest
you
will
''
many
empty
an
Cowper
:
"
self-caressed,
insolent, and
women,
which
money
she
find that
soon
supply. DonH,
pretty foot,^^
to
reserve
''
"
upon
not, you
astray by any
bonnet,'^ or the
these
the
put
to
led
..
ourselves
to
to
outlet for your
an
night
buy ''great bargains,^'whether
them
wants
know
of
tied
get
you
and
37
satisfythose
dress,house, etc.? It is
for you
yourselves,depend
!
WIFE
streets, and
our
are
ladies^ notions
worth
a
A
SEEKING
working day
ask
appearances/^ we
young
..
MAN
YOUNG
By vanity'sunwearied
fingerdressed.
Forgot the blnsh that virgin fears impart
To
cheeks, and
modest
borrowed
Curled, scented, furbelowed, and
With
feet too
They
stretch
And
...When
sigh for
the
.
"
tering toys.
time
tion
.
the
show.
and
the neck, and
will
is
It would
attention
the
were
ground.
better
devoted
real
if
to
the
inner
and
men
these
little
a
the
being ; for without
ribbons, flowers, and feathers are
of
eye,
by."
playing with
be
around,
roll the wanton
filled with
cease
art ;
flounced
fool that passes
every
world
they
women,
delicate to touch
from
one
glitmore
cultiva-
this, all
only vain
38
HAPPT
How
many
HOMES.
spend
women
young
all
they get in
they open
:
fineryand tawdriness, who the moment
to speak, displaysuch poverty of
their mouths
What
mind that we instinctively
a pitythat
say,
should be so
nice lookingyoung
such
a
person
"
^^
uncultivated
in herself l'^
"
When
I
see
a
young
.
.
lady with a flower garden on her head, and a
draper's shop on her body, tossing her head
about
if she thought everybody was
charmed
as
be ignorant,
with her, I am
she must
sure
very
don't marry
wardmen
a
ignorant. Sensible
robe
bonnet
of
or
a
a
woman
box, they want
dress sensibly.''
and
these
Young men,
sense,
seek rather a plainlydressed, economical
young
her
rubies; for, as
woman
:
price is above
Erasmus
Love
that
has
nothing but
says,
beauty to keep it in good health,is short lived."
see
women
Many young
only in marriage an
""
.
""
-
^^
easy
an
to
way
easy
himself
ribbons
life ;
to
a
and
rather
whose
than
of
sense
ever
values
of
dress,but
for the
We
female's
are
aware
weakness
It is the
betide
woe
woman
fine
bonnets,
smart
get
the
a
woman
that
to be
who
man
consists
for the
her
it is often
fond
unites
No
virtues.
of
qualities
""
dresses,and
adorning
domestic
"
of
man
"
splendour
mind.
said
of dress
to
and
be
a
:
play.
dis-
all-prevailing
thought of many.
of it,
They think of nothing else : they dream
live for it, and flutter round
a
draper'sshop like
butberEiea
round
a
gaudy flowerj ever on the
"
.
ADVICE
look
-
.
-
woman's
any
posed to
quired^
would
MAN
YOUNG
for the latest
out
upon
A
TO
dress
''
A
SBBKING
It is
style.
If all
was
for
and
.
as
"
expect it
regard
cook
.
W-.
women
"
dress
mind.
He
ing an empty headed
a
slovenly,dressy girl,and hopes
a
good wife, might as well buy
.
en-
We
advocates
no
are
they do ?
abhor
shabbiness, but shabby gentilitywe
above
all things a finelydressed body cover-
.
..
once
blind, whether
were
men
is dis-
she
extravagantly. It
39
great stain
a
when
character
!
WIFE
who
to turn
woman
a
FINEBY,
V.
AND
should
things is
BECELESS
Seek
a
be,
"A
goose,
and
Many
given
not
cheap
a
woman
to
ofsuitable temperamenL
Wordsworth
creature
men
dress^
SPENDING.
person
as
her
a
other
among
cow.''
milch
a
make
to
or
pretfcyplaything,
want
a
wife, select a
as
if you
but
;
out
marries
who
a
;
not
For
human
For
transient
says
too
:
She
"
"
bright or good
daily food
nature's
;
simple wiles,
sorrows,
Praise, blame, love, kisses, tears, and
smiles.
******
A
To
A
"
is
better
comfort, and
and
illustrations
Proverbs, ^^as
so
to
warm,
scoldingwife
known
fair
a
nobly planned
perfectwoman,
to
contentions
a
woman.
or
smoky chimney
as
we
read
jewel of gold in
without
woman
dwell
;
a
command."
in
the
a
in the Book
swine's
discretion."
wilderness
well
are
than
of
snout,
It is
with
a
40
HAPPY
This
HOMES.
illustrated
was
well
bachelors^
a guest
party, when
^^The
ladies, the sweet
of
friend
had
as
gave
at
a
"
ment,
senti-
a
briers
in
the
life/'
Being asked what
authority
for calling
them
briers,he replied that a
had a very sweet-looking wife,
of his,who
garden
he had
evening
one
"
him
informed
she
privatelythat
was
a
thorn
in his side.
Should
friends
your
in
The
"
who
man
Whate'er
Shall
But
Go
a
few
His
cup
up
with
can
but
also
be
a
with
whose
character
^Ii0 maiLj
how
""
"
life,
his
gate.
jtidgment:
age,
her
only ask
not
and
moral
religion,
character
have
is doubtful
more
! If character
so
:"
education,station,
morals
whose
woman
much
"
"
gall."
her
unsound,
will
company
nothing to
The idea of a respectableyoung
man
for his companion and bosom
friend a
are
"
giddy, godless
it bad
within
about
character,
evil mate,
is filled with
the matter
ever
what-
all ;
an
come
"
"
a
in this
him
if
loving wife,
a
under
questionsabout
habits
her.
weds
he that finds
if she
and
or
bear
good
temper,
do
wonder
wonder
of sound
person
to
betide
"No
about
her up !
Depend upon
marriage, for
bad
a
a
^^I
say,
pick
to
nothing
woman.
young
end
him
Bee that slieis
have
Yes;
vixen, don't
a
sometimes
induced
VI.
select
you
"
do with
ing
chooswoman
makes
tive vjoxasbii?
Be-
"""
"
42
HAPPY
righteousness/^and
added
thereto.
the
thing
How
of
only safeguard to
troubles, and in
train up
to
should
name
The
Love
her marble
upon
lightspring
flower
her
Without
this chosen
brow
A
Never
would
trifle with
"
prospect of
is
she '11 be
are
much
able
an
easier
The
connected
income
to
that
as
keep
to
in
the
the
a
to
affections,
"
But
extreme.
fix the
you
not
you
also
have
the
a
a
wife
than
to
keep
that it
determination
to
keep
to
a
"
"
one
ought always
marry
"
married
find
will
.
fair
thought of taking
clearlythat
you see
You
will be needful
"
ding
wed-
select
only
comfort, when
her.
get
wish
with
woman^s
you
wife, ere
your
""
"
Disdain
to be
for your
woman
trulyhappy.
Before
her
keeping
commences.
properly.
be
but
person,
"
for yourself.
specially
it that
to
day, see
woman
to be
candid.
yet,
vanity."
any young
wicked
in
and
and
honest
suitable
wish
;
and
yet,
grace,
than
concluding word
for it is cruel
you
children
scarcelybow
may
feet; and
lighterthing
if you
IX.
a
"
write
may
Seek, therefore,a religious
young
life
one
go.
Beneath
A
be
the
^'
"
His
"
the
"
true
is the poet^s description
exquisitely
without
:
religion
"
wife
shall be
.
woman
a
the
many
which
by
they
way
things else
family springing up,
a
needful^'
in the
all
life from
of
event
then
Religionis
married
secure
HOMES.
to
get such
wife ; for
"
ADYICl
TO
it
remember,
A
takes
more
it,
thougli
A
SEEKING
KAN
YOUNG
keep
to
!
WIFE
than
two
one,
...
depend
upon
before
contrary
in
start
and
a
likely
way
to
then
Resolve
marry.
secure
the
to
men,
mind,
happiness
peace,
let
us
the
address
that
however,
will
which
said
having
now,
suit
much
to
many
sexes,
young
bearing
women,
young
whilst
both
this
need
things
there
matters
are
,
that
women
to
prosperity.
And
said
they
think
many
43
need
who
the
are
special
attention
seeking
husbands.
of
all
young
in
be
CHAPTER
Advice
Young
to
IV.
Women
Husbands,
seeking
I.
EFORB
consent
you
dresses
of
connections,
What
MIND
Women,
them
is that
they jump
in
you,
with
foolish
will
you
blunder
Before
or
Ji0
any
making
js
of
indications
wo7'th
known
his
having.
run
heaven,^^
for
the
^^
a
is
intentions,
Don't
be
of
the
find
led
if
avfay
.
tery,^'
lotyou
""
bad
it done!
""
giving
question,^
out
"
fatal
a
chance
popping
so
a
most
contract
commonly
".
away
is
to
oi
beseech
we
so,
marriage
is
has
many
married,
get
About
day.
man
young
the
to
UP.
All
do
^^
in
made
how
yet
"
and
said
Don^t
that
commit
can
and
any
^^
the
rue
you
marriage,
you
it is
that
to
Don^t
notion
been
.
pOSition,
habits,
reason.
husband.
a
^his
HIM
want
conclusions.
to
or
do
they
selecting
the
PICK
seldom
told,
are
know
you,
YOU
WHERE
we
know
to
repeat
we
men,
young
already
"
"
pursuits,
has
ad-
man,
HIM
ABOUT
the
accept
young
any
SOMETHING
companions.
to
""
^
whether
by
pre-
".
ADVICE
YOUNG
TO
WOMEN
SEEKING
jadice^fancy,impression,or,
One
false step here
.-life.
Never
"""love him.
life
"
a
There
"
..
":
."
in whom
numbers
Mammon
wins
his way
good
-
a
caught by glare ;
seraphs might despair."
stranger.
boy, or
"
a
husband
Never
men.
Recollect
industrious
;
that
mechanic, is
all the
worth
.
farmer's
of
your
said
be
they care about is that they want
but, ''Girls,bewareof transient young
one
.
where
it may
All
suffer the addresses
...
eyer
make
happily
despise. Seek
good qualities.
dwelleth
are
simply
live
you
of whom
you
may
never
habits
Maidens, like moths,
And
..
are
can
whose
one
habits
personal
in ruin for
you
because
man
You
man
therefore
"
His
miserable.
with
a
love at first sight/^
involve
may
marry
'^
'45
HUSBANDS.
The
floatingfops in the world.
of a dandy Jack, with
allurements
a
gold chain
round
his neck, a
walking-stick in his paw,
honest
a
threepenny cigar in his mouth, or some
tailor's coat on his back, and a brainless,though
make
can
fancy skull,never
up the loss of a good
father's home, and a good mother's
counsel, and
""the
societyof
last,while
in the
wane
brothers
that of such
of the
sisters
and
a
young
:
their affections
man
is lost
honeymoon."
gentleman,speaking of such a married state
he wished
his daughter, whom
to disbefore
She who
marries
suade from
matrimony, said,
A
"
.
does
well; but
she
who
doea
iio\" axi^^t^
^'^i'^'s^
"46
'
HAPPr
better/'
"
Well, then/'
"
AND
See
the
says
birds of
a
'^
in
Show
he
with
:"
man's
a
..
is himself,"
it is stiU
together;"and
associates
himself,
me
what
proverb. Yes,
flock
feather
do better/'
respectable
I will tell you
old
man
young
is
woman,
young
choose
who
CONNECTIONS.
HIS
IN
he
that
companions, and
a
said the
I will do well ; let those
II.
''
HOMES.
if you
decent, moral,
true
find
""
and
have
good grounds for
the
the conviction
that he has sympathies with
true, the beautiful, and the good. But if, on
the other hand, he is the companion of the low, the
the
idle, and
godless, the frequenter of the
hall, or the public-house,
theatre, the music
would
avoid
him
as
a
plague spot, or you
you
companions, you
religious
"""
""
find
will
to
that
sorrow
your
these
seeds
of
grief will bring forth bitter tears of anguish
in after days. Especiallynotice how
he stands
with his parents (if
he have either living) A man
does not
live upon
who
good terms with these
is certainlywanting in the qualification
which
a
saith, "A
good son maketh
good husband."
We
for a marriage that cannot
tremble
have
a
father's or a mother's
blessingrestingupon it,
.
See
III.
If
a
so
man
young
as
his
two^
to
and
is
has
not
has
as
careful
he is
been
prudent
and
cultivated
to have
the time
there
habits^
he
him
enable
by
own
that
a
few
provident.
habits
pounds
twenty-one
something
habits
of
or
wrong
go vexy
"""
.
.
""
""
-."
"
saving
to
"
call
twentyin his
.
""
?a.T\""y5N^^ds"
--
ADVICE
YOUNG
TO
the
farhisliing
donH
.
keep
..that
the
simple yet important
livingwithin
agreed
fix the
that
he
your
own
to
position,he
of it ;
...
or
upon
in
come
upon
you.
want
of
a
has
that he
in
sickness
case
few
has
How
a
or
a
many
has
pounds
of
stock
good
indications
for improving
able
the
not
home
up
be
elsewhere,
or
know,
a
turn
may
never
you,
other
opportunity
an
court
furnished
a
after
even
until you
books, and
Savings bank,^^
back
to
that he
to, but
clothes, some
himself
him
provided
and
;
it
to
see
man,
means
wedding day
go
should
his
allow
to
has
his
"
to
agree
learnt
of
that
you
has
only
of
happy^
young
let him
.
home
any
have
you
making
spendthrift.Before
with
.
,
47
HUSBANDS.
company
he
lesson
SEEKING
for
means
a
mwrry
WOMEN
"
avail
to
Post-ofl"ce
fall
reserve
to
trouble
should
young
been
for
man
obliged
to
let
of betteringhis position
slipgood opportunities
in life !
in the
two
It
"".
would
"".
Self
had
..
be
a
be
a
few
bird
in hand
is worth
great advantage too,
did not
respect commands
would
a
ways
bush.^^
women
young
'^
In many
well
if
pounds
bank,^^ they would
the
our
in
themselves
make
our
cheap.
respect of others.
women
young
the
then
too
if
not
"
Post-office
be
It
generally
savings
willingto
make
that
man
engagement with the first young
.offered
himself; they would
pick and choose
an
..
as
they would have
wisely,inasmuch
^"^
to risk, W\"
only themselves
^et\\":^%
rather
not
more
48
HOMES.
HAPPY
of
savvigs
of
some
qualifications,
have
IV.
that
do with
to
to
See
a
bring you
rather
keep
at his trade.
as
you
well
as
to
do
etc., and
home,
Have
nothing
He will
lazy skulking man.
to poverty and misery. And
as
select
preservativefrom mistake,
trade at his fingerends, and
workman
sharply, or
industrious."
is
he
would
men
young
""
the shelf.
left upon
be
they would
our
them
about
look
to
by raising the
Thus^
life-time.
a
who
a
who
one
is also
sure
has
a
himself
in
"""
good
"
a
"..
good
he will have
Remember
this
be
:""
to
"
food, clothes,
properly he
must
be
"
the means
of living
enough to secure
comfortably,and it is important that you know
Whatwhether
he has the prospect of doing so.
of
ever
sing of the sweets
poets may
say or
poverty, it is a painfulthing to be poor ; and no
is justified
in expecting you to consent
to be
man
married
until he
that
gives you fair evidence
has
counted
the cost of keeping you, and
he
also of bringing up a family. No paujper
ought
of making another
than
himself.
to think
poorer
able
to
earn
"
"
"..
"
See
V.
Listen
to
associates
all
he
word
no
gambles,
swears,
risk
that
of
with
trying
bad
person
woman
of
who
whose
op
of
good
moral
breaks
the
him
will be
a
"
;..
who
man
"""
sabbath, tipples,
or
companiousr
Don^t
run
the
and
'
""
after
marriage ; in
disappointedif you do,
receives
moral
character.
lov-e from
to reform
probability
you
"A
is
for
her
husband
character
xe\ig\o\x^
a
""
""
50
HOMES.
HAPPY
Greek
"When
that
the tug of war/'
in
quently work
himself
the
on
does
he will
then
comes
learn
soon
to
he
..
fre-
contrary, contrasts
him
'^
like
"cure
not
together. Let
better
and
of sense,
^^
Like
"
but
tempers,
Greek,
meets
a
man
""
accommodate
^
peculiarities,
just as you will
find it needful to drop into some
of his ways.
A
without
man
some
spiritin him is not good
for much;
who
lets his spirit
control
but a man
will give
him, instead of controlHng his spirit,
some
trouble,depend upon it,to break him
you
in.
your
Woe
a
man
I
were
I
to
betide
as
a
should
a
Jew,
and
whilst
hedge-hog
himself
punishment
VIII.
for this
that
that
true
said,
once
"
rolled
up
his
his bad
of
the
wrong
temper
should
a
young
have
good
who
man
health.
We
hold
a
has
to
"
earn
his stock-in-trade,
livingis virtually
and
it both
own
"
is
"
menting
tor-
the
none
be
must
"
"If
man
way,
prickles,it is
""
bacon,
his
irritable
an
such
to
""
sore
to his wife.
He
to
was
married
fond
particularly
was
a
hog in
he
with
get
it
not
that
say
less certain
if you
you
of whom
one
house,^^for
like
v
of you
will
soon
become
^Yes ;
his
-.
out
with-
bankrupt.
it to be
who
morallywrong for any man
is constitutionally
diseased
with
consumption,
scrofula,or any tendency to insanity,to seek to
the
world.
perpetuate it upon
Every young
should
ask
the
woman
has
question, "What
been
the general state of laia \iea\\\iV'
Aiid
...
"
ADVICE
"
when
YOUNG
TO
she
WOMEN
finds
seeds
the
"
"
many
:
for there
is the
If you
have
should
are
"
refuse
of
perhaps
a
to
being
young
may.
his
in
life.
then
woman,
"
you
"
Ask, too, what
you
will
this
remember
his nature
take
For
steadily
prospect
religious
be
Maidj choosing man,
You
The
she
religiousyoung
a
choice
no
should
with
long left a widow,
familyto bring up as best
He
disease
certain
before
IX.
of
she
.manifesting themselves,
51
HUSBANDS.
SEEKING
his
with
his
religionis,
soon
be of the
:
name.
same."
imperative, Be not unequally
yoked together with unbelievers;^^and depend
can
it, nothing that God has commanded
..upon
command
"
is
.
be
you
innocently neglected;
wed
an
ungodly man.
this, God
bless,
cannot
oppositionto
If, on the
His
A
marriage
inasmuch
hand,
allow
you
to
in
us
'Tis
religionthat
*Tis
Those
homes
is
in
comfort
have
when
decidedly
of God
pleasureswhile we
supply
religionmust
Solid
as
to
urge
and
His
give
can
Sweetest
.
not
all afiection
seek
"
such
it
as
are
firstthe kingdom
for
righteousness,
you
ere
pause
will.
other
then
religious,
therefore
we
live
;
die."
brightest prospect
God^s blessingdescends
the
happiness upon which
to united,believingpxajet.
answer
of
in
V.
CHAPTER
TO
ADVICE
is
there
a
satisfied
day,'' starting
in.
May
taking
In
such.
to
apartments,
I.
and
it
That
day,
but
likely
and
wet
weather.
bad
its
That
not
to
and
be
smoke,
in
little
a
live
to
advice
large
following
town,
things
smiling
easy
drained,
and
on
a
of
access
is
healthy,
has
in
.
from
"
summer's
the
winter
free
good
is free
work,
of
place
your
situation
well
smells,
it does
to
the
the
"
handy
only pretty
not
II.
:
is
that
it
to
see
or,
process
house
a
"
having
"fixing
a
give
to
house,
a
considered
duly
are
allowed
be
we
trying
and
is
heartily
the
for
seek
to
it
other,
question''
out
sight,
each
through
the
popping
'^
TO
couple,
young
with
passed
of
interesting
an
of
that
HOUSE
IN.
LIVE
F
A
SBEKING
PEOPLE
YOUNG
fromthat
water,
vermin
of
all
kinds.
III.
can
IV.
That
afford
Select
the
to
rent
and
taxes
are
such
as
you
"
pay.
such
a
place
aa
yow
\iai\^
^Jtift xji'eKa.'e*
"
ADVTCB
of
TO
YOUNG
famisliing
witli
plain.
so
the
end
will
be
you
are
Don't
'^
;
V.
To
as
to
feel
times.
to
a
away
better
the
they
for
be
with
the
aflford.
pleasure
care,
them
in
ever
in
cheapest
that
they
if
better
a
mistaken
ever
place.
notion
furniture
well
a
and
of
plain
which
and
good
looks
good
things,
than
worse
house.
will
be
thus
tidy.
seeing
with
seasoned,
Prefer
that
those
keep
to
all the
in
furniture
are
purpose,
Nothing
ones.
it attractive.
day/'
some
strong,
least
some
remove
let
the
are
advantage^
to
ones
this,
do
Select
require
work
useful
position
shabby-fine
VI.
is this
there
fine
showy
if
things
can
vou
make
best
led
begin,
you
to
The
53
HOUSE.
things
good things^
a
getting
suitable
A
with
always
be
SEEKING
Start
and
in
PEOPLE
of
will
The
them
the
moat
give
wife
look
the
will
nice
use,
least
then
at
all
CHAPTER
THE
MUTUAL
YI.
DUTIES
^^S"HE
happy morning
that is to make
Truly we
"
'Tis sweet
Ring
Our
Grow
''
may
to hear
say
the
LIFE.
length arrives
at
twain
of
flesh/^
one
:
"
villagebells,
for service
out
hearts, while
But
MARRIED
OP
holy ;
listeningto
their
knells.
sweetly melancholy.
how
a
maiden's
bosom
swells.
joy she's shedding.
When
first she hears the villagebells
Eing blithelyfor her wedding."
What
Let
Who
those
tears
bells
could
of
ring
think
ever
impressive thoughts.
possiblethat two hearts
out
it
apparentlyso united could ever
grow
unloving; and yet frequently,from
and care
to the simple duties
attention
life,such
has
been
the
Having married, let
of the
some
I.
Do
expect
life consists
married
roses;
NOT
soon
however
and
of
want
of
daily
to
state
case.
us
duties
mutual
cold
endeavour
now
op
too
of
married
much.
nothing
life.
Many
"
but
you. will find
a
think
path
of
t"ha.t ife has
*.
56
HAPPY
The
"
'*
astonished
Sir,
bridegroom suddenly exclaimed,
mistake
you
HOMES.
we
;
Well/' repliedthe clergyman,
will marry
you
; but
had
better
be
buried/'
Quaint
old
is not
clearer and
certain
both
and
wind
blown
when
"
''Marriage
"
his
"
storms
some-
air
the
Make
it.
which
troubles
Rochefoucault,in
and
over,
for
wholesomer
cares
friend,you
my
says:
insist,I
Olympus, wholly clear,without
Yea, expect
times, which,
me,
Fuller
Thomas
like the hill
clouds.
believe
if you
"
! '^
married
be
to
came
is the
"
thee.''
Con-
"
says
"
of
account
will attend
Maxims,"
"
:
"
.
venient
marriages there certainly may be, but
there are
ones."
no
delightfiil
Franklin, in writing to a newly-married friend,
said
I
''
:
"
glad
am
gratulate you
in
now
and
the
have
you
celibacyfor
intended
the
the
life
"
of their
lives
a
not
It
serve
odd
An
the
think
situation
value
you
can't
to
of
well
scrape
volume
of its
the
cut
a
who
a
half
set
of
anything ;
trencher."
a
"
"
that
a
bears
the
What
it
set.
may
""
man's
of books
pair of
""
all their
live
greatly lessens
of
of
never
length
at
so
proportion to
odd
citizen,
long postponed
too
of it,and
that
""
are
state
here
fate of many
condition, find
late to think
value.
useful
a
unnatural
the
who, having
it is too
in
becoming
escaped
it,but
change
of
way
con-
You
it.
cordiallyupon
most
and
married,
are
you
"
scissors
""
"
?
possibly
""
"
THE
Another
words
"
DUTIES
MUTUAL
high
a
pays
MARRIED
OP
tribute
praisein
of
57
LIFE.
these
:
"
joys of marriage are the heaven on earth,
Life's paradise,great princes; the soul's quiet,
Sinews
of concord, earthlyimmortality,
Eternity of pleasures."
The
Bernard
Sir Thomas
also
says
:
'^
"
all temporal
Of
worldly enjoyments,the marriage union
with
a
congenial mind, animating a pleasing
frame, is by far the greatest/'
Milton
beautifully
says :
and
"
"
Hail, wedded
love, mysterious law, true
source
Of human
In
sole propriety
offspring,
else,
paradise of all things common
By thee
Among
adult'rous
lust
the bestial herds
Founded
on
Srelations
was
driven
to range
from
;
reason,
loyal,
just,and
and
all the charities
and
brother, first were
dear
Of father, son,
men
by thee.
pure,
known."
'
"
Marriage is the strictest tie
and there can be no friendof perpetualfriendship,
ship without confidence,and no confidence withJohnson
..
...
.
"
writes
"
:
"
he must
integrity
expect to be wretched
; and
who
to beauty, riches, or
politeness,that
pays
claim.
only virtue and piety can
regard which
Marriage has many pains,but celibacyno
pleasures/'
Pope thus speaks of the pleasuresof married
out
.
.
.
life :"
"
Oh
When
happy
state I when
love is
souls each
and
liberty,
other
natva^Xarw
\
draw^
58
HAPPY
All then
HOMES.
is full,possessing and
possessed,
craving void left aching in the breast ;
E'en thought meets
thought, ere from the lipsit part,
No
And
each
wish
warm
springs mutual
the heart."
from
"
"
''
its
Marriage is the sunshine of life ; beneath
genialinfluence springup the best affections and
the noblest virtues of man,
which, in the sterility
and
of selfish celibacy,
would
have lain dormant
of virtuous
useless.
It is the source
pleasure in
youth,the balm and solace of old age.^'
Tupper wisely says :
"""
"""
"
"
"
Marriage
is
figure and
a
of holier
earnest
an
things
"
unseen.
And
well becometh
reverence
the
symbol
dignityand
of
glory.
Keep thy
heart
Selfishness
is base
do dishonour
lest thou
pure
and
hateful
;
to
thy
but love considereth
stale ;
not
"
.
itself.
The
wicked
within
Now
tumeth
good
evil,for his mind
into
is warped
""
him.
this is the
of the matter,
sum
if ye will be
happy
in
"
.
marriage.
Confide, love, and be patient; be faithful,firm, and holy."
speaking
Thomson,
says:
the
of
married
Its pomp,
its
in each
Who
What
Or
on
the
is the world
pleasure,and
other
High fancy forms,
mind,
or
its
to
claspwhatever
and
mind
richest
them,
al
nonsense
illumined
P
fair
lavish hearts
Truth, goodness, honour, harmony,
The
pair,
"
"
wish
can
face.
and
love.
Yiea-veii"
bounty of induigexLti
"
.
.
''
DUTIES
MUTUAL
THE
is the life and
Love
which
.-.
..
."
and
society,
fortable
death.
This
maketh
all
a
defective
it breeds
duties.
all
thingseasy
of all other
supply
Love
marriage,without
and
than
Where
a
and
uncom-
very
love
of it
is abundant
; where
wants
living
the want
;
alike defectiveness
sweetens
59
LIFE.
miserable
better
no
things hard.
it makes
..
.
makes
MAKRIED
soul of
it is a most
.
.
.
"
OP
that is
of all other
all estates
seasons
;
composeth all controversies ;
all passions;it squareth all actions.
..loveruleth
It is,in a word, the king of the heart,which, in
is marriage itself
to them
whom
it prevaileth,
.
love
breaketh
and
..
"
.
a
home,
one
purse,
Hail, wedded
"
heart,
one
one
into
persons
flesh. '^
one
*
love !
by gracious heaven design'd,
At once
the source
and glory of mankind
!
'Tis this can
toil and grief and pain
assuage,
Secure
and
our
youth
dignify our age ;
.
'Tis this fair fame
and
Gilds
pleasure brings.
guiltless
shakes rich plenty from its brooding wings ;
duty's roughest path with friendship'sray,
And
strews
And
with
the
sweet
roses
way."
narrow
A
happy marriage has in it all the pleasures
and
friendship,all the enjoyments of sense
''
of
of two
pleasing combination
and
reason,
''
indeed
Marriage
capitallink of
all the sweets
is the
the
of
hinge
chain
of life.^'
all
that binds
kindred,
the
societytoge-
ther.^^
''
Though singlelife may
"
Wiateley's" Bride
make
BubV
a
man
like
(,U\^^,^.^V
an
60
HOMES.
HAPPY
angel,marriage in
very
the
makes
things
many
pair like Christ/^
marriage has in it less :
Jeremy Taylor says :
than the singlelife.
of safety,
beauty,but more
Christian
^'
"
of
"
It hath not
more
and
merry
more
ease,
but
less
sad;
it is fuUer
danger ;
of
it is
more
"
and
sorrows
"
burdens, but it
joys; it lies under more
and
is supported by all the strength of love
are
delightful.Mar
charity,and those burdens
of the world, and preserves
riageis the mother
kingdoms, and fillscities and churches and heaven
itself. CeUbacy, like the fly in the heart of the
sits
apple, dwells in perpetual sweetness, but
alone,and is confined,and dies in singularity
; but
marriage,like the useful bee, builds a house, and
from every flower,and labours,
gathers sweetness
and sends
and unites into societies and republics,
fuller of
"
"
feeds the world
colonies,and
out
and
with
"
"
delicacies,
cises
obeys their king, and keeps order, and exervirtues,and promotes the interest of
many
mankind
hath
'tis that
:
designed
state
of
good
to
present constitution
the
God
which
of
the
world.''
"
What
The
delicious
a
violet's bed
Is like
a
On
which
To
cast
Sack
breath
not
marriage
sweeter
!
sends
Honest
forth !
wedlock
banqueting-hoose built in a garden,
the spring flowers take delight
their modest
being
the
odours."
varied
opimoiiaoi
em\3aftTit"
.
"
writers
"""
DUTIES
MQIUAL
THE
II. You
subject,it
happy
should
by
is evident
no
61
IJFE.
COURTING.
CONTINUE
SHOULD
please
to
MAEEIED
the
upon
desire to be
you
OP
tliat if
The
"
end
means
on
sire
dethe
wedding-day. It frequentlyhappens that both
partiesthink all is done for securing each other's
is perthe marriage ceremony
happiness when
.
formed.
"
Never
there
was
greater mistake.
a
Says Spencer
"
"
is life's end
Love's
Then
Ah
Thou
"
"""
life's
from
thy
! shouldst
wilt
"
"
!
an
but
reward, rewarded
not
wretched
thou
in
heart
live but
never
ends
rewarding;
fond
care
remove
love's sweebs
love to live, unless
Courting often
"
end
ending ;
All joy, all sweets, all happiness awarding,
Love is life'swealth
(ne'erspent,but ever spending).
More
rich by giving,taking by discarding.
Love
thou
;
to prove,
live to love."
where
marriagebegins. It
if happiness is to conshould be the very reverse
tinue.
Oh, the honeymoon
Many are apt to say,
!'^and why not? simply because
last for ever
cannot
those little atteneach party forgets to continue
tions which
love, and from which so
beget much
much
pleasureis derived during the courtingdays.
life consists mainly of
The happiness of married
twofold
a
duty enjoinedin the word of God.
husband's
I. The
permanent love to his wife.
obedience
to the husband.
II. The wife's willing
"
"
"
"
"
St. Paul's
husband
^^
and
words
indicate
the mutual
wife.
Husbands, love your wWe^.**
duties
of
62
HOMES.
HAPPY
submit
yourselvesto your husbands/^
in detail,presently, how
shall see
We
these
be best discharged. Meanwhile, let
duties can
limited liability
consider how, in this
us
pany,'^
combest promote its prosperityand
we
may
both
for time as well as for
its happiness,
secure
eternity.
the newly-furnishedhouse, and
Let us
enter
the newly-marriedpairinstalled in their own
see
Wives,
''
'^
they
and
castle,
It is their
home.
shut
they
door
the
shut
only theirs.
they shut in themselves to all
well say with
life. They may
"
of all that human
How
small
That
part which
laws
in every
Still to ourselves
Our
With
secret
They
they are
do
love
not
happy
to ask
be made
course,
the smooth
Glides
were
we
felicity
own
the
make
current
.
world,
Goldsmith
can
"
endure
cause
or
place consigned.
find
:
loud
no
storms
of domestic
order
annoy,
joy."
be
to
happy,
the most
to
'^
our
order
to
do
this, let
say to each
"
Burn
Upon
us
like
the
walk
a
the world,
blessed
walls
so
that
our
love
beacon, beautiful.
of life's aurrouudm^
sible,
pos-
continue-"
its
^^
let
""
happiness?
both
resolve,..
courtingall the days of our lives ;
or
other,in the words of Gerald Massey
Oh
:
^'
only reply would be, ''Let us
by God^B help,to be as happy together as
"
but
they love; and if each
shall this union
question, How
the
in
!
cure
because
to contribute
and
but
married
joys of
hearts
or
which
in
the
kings
or
the
out
When
^xV
64
HAPPY
If therefore
be, they
may
of
worthy
what
is
unless
it.
of
married
and
married/'
another
expect to love one
throughout hfe, however long the journey
another
of
courted
been
has
one
HOMES.
persons
study
must
another's
one
make
to
We
love.
unlovely. Happiness will
we
pursue
Some
there
the proper
who
are
themselves
method
tell us
love
cannot
not
"
to
come
"
us
"
of
that
^*
obtaining
the pleasure
"
expectingenjoymentis often greater than that
obtaining it,and that the completionof almost
wish
is found
.
If this
disappointment.^^
to be happy. You
be true, then determine
must
expect to meet with many thingsto interruptyour
quietenjoyment of life. Never mind ; looh at the
brightside of things; or, as the old sayinghas it,
"Never
to if
cross
a
bridge until you come
Aim
to be happy every day.
every
a
"
"
"
"
Moderate
III.
*
you took
of
course
trials
expectations.
your
each other for
ought
you
to
better
expect
or
ber,
Remem-
worse/^ and
share
your
life. Some
to human
common
^^
"
there
of the
are
"
who
"
say, after a few years of married life, Ah,
for better or for worse,
sir, I took my husband
all worse
and no
better so far.''
but it^s been
would
God,
Others, thank
been
in
^^
to them
a
can
source
say
that married
of continual
life has
joy.
Joseph Brotherton,when M.P. for Salford,said,
that he was
his place in parliament,
a rich man
;
bzjt that his riches consisted
ance
fewness
of the
tbingawhich
of his
wants/'
not
in
the
abund-
\i\xfe
lie posses"^e3i,
m
"
the
,
MUTUAL
THB
""
One
.
little life
how
often
disappointed/'
Don't
days are
expect
the
to
come
sure
of the wisest
be
"
The
comfort
found
of
roses
of their antici-
of
perfectlyawful.
who
left his wife
take
Tasso, wifeless
never
wifeless; Milton,
;
do not
They
hence
they
are
Even
then.
some
married
life not
; some,
indeed, the
the
to
lection
followingcol-
genius with
Take Dante,
wishing to see
Petrarch,wifeless
thrice
Cloudy
shine.
in Council.''
Lacon
^^
occurrence
rare
is
and
for instance
of facts from
*^
always to
now
Take
to
^
sun
have
men
reverse.
unhappiness
much.
too
can
altogethera path
very
of
afford,and
know
"
LIFE.
source
expect
65
MARRIED
is the extravagance
pations. They
.
OF
commoii
very
people
young
DUTIES
married,
but
domestic
her
;
exile,
the
more
;
Ariosto,
only
once
son,
Dryden, wedded, hke Addito a title and discord ; Young lives alone till
marriage;
past fifty; Swift's marriage is no
riages,
Sterne's,Churchill's,Byron's, Coleridge's,marhad a wife,
and unhappy. Johnson
broken
lost her.
It is almost
loved, and soon
enough to
make
tremble
at the idea of allyingthemwomen
the
with genius,or givingbirth to it. Take
seves
philosophers ^Bacon,like his famous legaladverwith
much
comfort
;
"
.
.
"
sary.
Coke,
comfort, and
seems
to
have
speaks,for,as
enjoyed little domestic
he says,
^
certain grave
reasons,' disapprovinglyof his partner. Our
Butmetaphysicians Hobbes, Locke, Bentham, ler"are
"
as
solitaryas
Spinoaa anQi
^^5\NSi
'Sjsi.^^*.
'
68
HAPPY
love children
that
we
rV.
Be
"
peepaeed
^Don't
we
say, be
we
other.
to
told, is
prepared
the
Yes,
loveliest human
of mankind^'
be
out
to refer ; and
in
each
for to be
spots, and
will not
you
that
so
graces
:""
warned,
fore-
Hence
has
be
each
the
long
"
..
shortcoming
some
will call forth the
of the Christian
some
you,
in
disappointedin
and
being;
Wordsworth's
be fore-armed.
to
has
sun
togetherbefore you find
and
will manifest
itself,
of
pray
to
father,and
disappointed
be
we
startle,
are
a
brethren
our
thereto by
being bribed
of clustering
charity/'
dower
OTHEE.
be
to
necessary
^^love
may
without
^^
is not
HOMES.
to which
exercise
".
wish
we
the
followingremarks,
do not expect perfection,
allow us to say that as we
neither do we
anticipatethat all our
suggestions
at the
time they are
will be needful,but
same
given as generalhints to make home happy, and
fit please not
does
to wear
if the cap
not
it;
making
"
all
it
Especially,
remember
not to cultivate the habit offault-finding
rather praisethe virtues than look for the failings
of each other, and beware of the first
disputewith
does, then by
if it
put
means
on.
"
...
,
...
"..
one
depend
long
in
This
another.
no
V.
the peace
preserve
belongs to
Beae
it is true
a
simple piece of advice,but
it if it is
upon
small
is
degree
that
the married
and
that
"
carefullyregarded
of your home, and
happinesswhich
it wiU
"
secure
properly
life.
porbeaewith
one
another,
for
"""
MUTUAL
THE
DUTIES
OF
MARRIED
67
LIFE.
taire,
Horace, Volphanes, Anacreon, Lucretius,Virgil,
Rousseau, Swift, Pope, Goldsmitli, Heine,
.
Balzac, Beranger, Sainte-Beuve
and
country, Irving
"
and
.
they
loved
enough
cite.
to
teller of domestic
Miss
Cobbe,
husbands
that
;
of
a
Miss
Howitt, and
while
Platonic
a
writers
Miss
of the
excellent
the
Martineau,
Miss
Bremer,
Miss
are
sense,
many
Austen,
needle
never
Miss
took
Bronte, found
between
their
fingers
great writers
and of course
ecclesiastics,
Almost
pen.
the Middle
all the
of
Ages were
of the writers whose
celibates. A large proportion
works
generalclass as Lamb's,
belong to the same
whose
privilegeit is to enliven, cheer,and sweeten
..
either
life,were
bands.
""
the
cause
secret
touches
"
world
kin,
.
their
.
their
were
Irving,and
women
of nature
have
or
which
awakened
readers, and
hearts
bachelors
hiis-
unfortunate
Happy or not themselves, they have been
the
of happiness to others,have reached
springs of laughter and of tears, and by
those
for
"""
In
married.
biographers
married, but that
not
others,like
a
own
our
their
female
tales,to
matrimony put
instead
..
Of
from
eminent,
but
in any
in
of Beethoven
names
Angelo, of whom
onlythat they were
never
most
.
great
Michael
assert,not
.
Thoreau, never
arts, the
the kindred
and,
;
communicated
the
make
the
better
to them
whole
selves
of
the love
their own
fellow-beingswith which
filled. The
writingsof Goldsmith,
in proofs that to love
Lamb, abound
it 18 not
necessary to\)e u.\vM^^i^^"*"^^si52^\
70
HAPPY
Family life
fice. It is
known
will claim
only thus
and
;
HOMES.
tliat true
wherever
to take
day
every
the
little sacri-
some
love
of
spirit
made
be
can
".
selfishness
"-
is
-
place,discord will assuredly
follow.
"The
duty of the wife is to recognise
fully,simply,and joyously the authorityof her
husband
is to recognise
: the
duty of the husband
of his wife/'
fully,
simply,and joyouslythe equality
would
To the wife,we
specially
say. Concession is
duty rather than your husband's ; and never
your
close your eyes in sleep till you have tried to be
reconciled
if any little dispute should
have
curred
ocA
between
spiritwill
conciliatory
you.
always add largelyto the happiness of home.
allowed
its
..
..
""
VII.
you
Try
will
to
is not
the
should
be
faults.
themselves.
all
frailties ;
of
the
be
at home
Milton
:
cloak
"
men's
and
by
a
and
a
but
a
faults
Fuller
:
mouths
many
to
speak
wife
ought
to
"
""
but
any
"
to
stop
""
the
abroad."
bad
results
well
forgiveoflFences
kept
"
'
.
reconciled; while, if
task
-
another's
one
or
love
ever
go abroad
double
resolution
if
to
husband
half
'tis
will occur,
avoided
sides to
a
Says quaintold
generallyknown,
Hitches
be blind
other's
are
and
;
things,don't
concealed
breach
man
blind,itshould
speak
"Jars
fallen
lot of
Above
to
""
Mary is not quitean angel,
Perfection
altogether immaculate.
of each other's
not
for
faults,
find that
soon
is John
nor
another's
one
bide
on
to say
may
both
with
.
THE
MUTUAL
"
.
OF
DUTIES
Let
US
MARRIED
contend,
more
no
"71
LIFE.
blame
nor
.
Each
.
other, blamed
In oflBces of love, how
..
Each
"
For
it
most
the
.,
...
-"-
...
are
burden, in
make
very
of woe."
and
the
skill to
ANOTHER^s
TEMPERS.
"
to
yourselves
adapt
to
^Alas ! how
one
marriages
many
of temper.
unhappy for want of command
The
one
saying,^'I shall do as I like;-^and the
other flyingoff in the oppositedirection,and saying,'^YoushanH, though." Now, be it remembered,
not sent into the world
we
are
simplyto do as we
like,but as we ought. Duty is the way to happiand
nothing good can be kept without a
ness;
It is the perfectionof
effort.
determined
very
made
of
wife, says Hannah
a
**
And
good
works
therefore
".Strive
to
To
in her
draw
Moore
study
household
husband
to
out
each
:
"
good,
promote."
other's
good
possible,to
and
at the same
time, if
qualities,
avoid
vate
Cultiarousing any of the evil ones.
desire to please,on
the
a
one
hand, and
be
desire
to
the
a
pleased, on
other; then
strife and
of
...
strive,
different
Study
the character
...
share
wound
a
but
lighten
may
our
;
valuable,is least appreciated.
more
VIII.
are
..
we
elsewhere
things. The former is
while the latter,
cultivated,
though
frequently
cure
"""
other's
the skill to
.
"":
enough
any
with
contention
will
existence.
You
than
with
honey
have
but
little chance
will ''catch
more
Yinegat,**
%"^^
flies
*fiaa Osi^
"72
HAPPY
the
proverb. Try
"
Since
of human
sum
beings,
.
:
misery from our foibles spring;
life'sbest joys consist in peace and ease,
half
Since
And
the
trifles make
And
Oh
and
experiment in dailylife,
work
for good.
well it will
how
see
HOMES.
our
though
but
few
yet all
serve,
may
may
please:
"
sanguine spiritlearn from hence,
A small unkindness
give great ofience.
may
wish in vain,
To spread large bounties, though we
Yet all may
shun the guiltof giving pain.
with tides of flowing wealth.
To bless mankind
! let the
With
rank
Our
them,
to grace
little lot denies
Heaven
Nor
to
us
health.
yet liberal still.
;
at
murmur
with
crown
gives its counterpoiseto
let
When
or
stinted
our
kindness, love, and
ill.
every
powers,
concord
be
may
giftof ministeringto other's ease.
To all her sons, impartial,she decrees
The gentle offices of patientlove.
and price above ;
Beyond all flattery
ours.
The
The
mild
The
angry
forbearance
word
and
Subduing
Which
The
sober
From
On
these
IX.
to act
aa
subdued,
the
the colour
small
fault,
petty
of
cares
sacred
;
strife
of domestic
life :
which
springs
of little things ;
daughter,wife, or friend,
joys of
home
depend ;
thou best mayst reign,
sensibility
is thy true, legitimatedomain."
The
MUTUALLY
brother's
suppressed,the taunting thought
large aggregate
almost
There
a
comfort, all the peace
the
The
Home
clouds
at
;
Bible
RESPECTFUL.
if the
bids
"
wedding
maeried
Many
people
married
ceTemony
to
be
people Seem
^Ti^iid to tliQ
"pxife
;"
..,
71
HOMES.
HAPPY
thingswill have to be given up in
order to get through the world
smoothly. It is
individual
of no use
to stand
up rigidlyfor your
rights,and expect quietlyto have it all your own
find that many
the contrary, in the married
On
way.
bartered
freedom
Thy
"
New
require
cares
tender
Thy
parentallove
of
thy loved
thee, the
To
thee, the father,husband,
wants
Confide
in
Secrets
NO
faithful to each
Let
no
one
man
say
:
;
call,
consort
of all."
friend
There
other.
between
would
we
each
"
move.
of
To
XI.
"
double
a
wipe.
and
should
.""
tically
Empha-
"
and
candid, honest,
Be
."
pleasing chain,
load of pain.
a
infants, eloquent to
Call for the duties
BE
for
state
""*.
.
.
other.
have
wife, saving thy
thy confidence, O
.
husband.
Have
not
a
friend
than
intimate, 0 husband,
more
thy
".
wife."
Said
up
Lord
"
of consequence,
I should
with a sensible woman.^^
been
saved
consulting
from
his
disastrous
wife ;
by the wife allowing
judgment to interfere between
Never
whispers,
"
You
one
listen
another
Don't
ought
upon
to
not
any
any
to
:"
first to
like
Many
a
has
man
other
some
man
one
for
wife
be ashamed
\a
step \"\i"A.
been
""
.
person's
her
and
her
tell your
making
was
by
speculations
a
many
rained
who
'^If I
plan
a
consult
has
Bolingbroke:
band.
hus-
moment
a
"
or
^^
""
band.''
hus-
to consult
\"o \i^ ^uakaxL,
'"
,
THE
As
MUTQAL
DUTIES
OF
wiselysays
to suspicion,
and
there
enough for it. In the
-*
one
very
filled with
resolved
"
with
The
sorrows
a
Daily
derive
From
such
less the
And,
one
is
each
up
exchange
heavenly
range,
known
make
united
strength;
interest, and design.
other to the
what
with
he
divine."
race
another; for let
one
his
may,
wife's
his deliberations
a
has
man
he
stairs,
toiled
will be
she
;''or,
is
what
is
husband
step by step up
to
sure
will not
see
another
as
be
find
able
to
a
a
counsel
^^
top, but
..
with
in heart, in
thinh
of
that
pleasantcourse
;
journey'sroughness and its length.
their opposers
When
air is
the
ear
She
will often
seeking.
do it,before the
right,and actually
*^
food
in their
communion
Therefore he frank
..
he
its own,
sympathy esteems
increasinglightand force
worth
-
night
wakeful
fearless confidence
Meet
finished
mind
to listen/'
And
'.man
to
sure
stillest
for the
75
LIFE.
give your
will be
souls that carry on a blest
Of joys they meet
with in their
Gird
..
Once
:
For
Feel
.
sounds
^'
MARRIED
has
says
"
"
flight
a
at the
woman
tell how
she
got
there.'^
XII.
-:
EOW
Married
TOGETHER
life has
been
.
a
two
each
Should
compared
Now
rowers.
SAME
THE
we
to
boat
occupying one
it is
stream
pleasantly,
the
of
them
one
to
pullone
in
row
way
the
a
BOAT.
boat
all know
persons
along
.
of
couple
IN
same
"
with
that
wish
to
necessary
if
go
for
directicya..
o^'et
ouSl \]tL"^
^ixjl^^J^^^s^^
76
HAPPY
the
only result
HOMES.
be
going round and round,
until at length,fatigued and
or
exhausted, one
the
other would
have
to give way.
Strength
and
time would
instead
thus be wasted
of being
devoted to making progress.
*^
souls that should
When
To
have
Look
what
if
the
you,
progress
hand
be
will
you
each
other,
!"
current
able
A
stream.
wishes,
resolve
you
to
to
pull
may
be
make
"
some
lovelysight is
more
?.
same,
ensues
the
strong
the
up
regardlessof
other
together, however
against
their
train of wretchedness
a
on
to will the
agree
objectfor
common
one
different ways,
Think
But
would
"
than a married
rarelyseen
couple thus influenced
of help. It is trulyjoyous
by this mutual spirit
to
"
see
"
them,
When
thought
meets
thought
from
ere
the
lips they
.
"
start,
And
each
XIII.
And
be
Eesolvb
in order
to find
household
for
sum
mental
from
do
wish
warm
we
to
found
much
from
the heart."
youe
means.
how
it costs
"
:"
first efforts
of your
one
""
""
weekly for
Then
lay by that weekly
expenses.
housekeeping. Nothing is so detrihome
happiness as the habit of living
you
"
"..
to
find
In
mouth.
justas
and
that
overlooked.
within
live
this,let
to
out
hand
wanted;
to
springs mutual
when
some
At
dinner
that
other
tea-time
houses
some
is
has
how
ready that
been
sent
aT""
"
the salt is
article
trifling
maltet^
often
for, it
has
is
been
ofti^xLYCLtha
"
THE
MUTUAL
DUTIES
Now
plight.
thought this may
it is your
duty
same
..
.
.
exceed
the
keep them always
By doing this you would
namely,
of trouble
you
go
if you
swallows
Better
often
live
to
than
live
the
..
makes
ruined
If
first ask
.must
so
ever
...
manager,
house.
..
.
given by
...to
hard
no
but
Women
spend, as
will
not
to
**
so
And
a
man
aye
is
into
much
may
to
to
be
him
get
rule.
we
have
rich
get
may
not
from
a
he
work
good
the work-
that
a
by
the Irish
as
help their
spare,
be "bare
to
cause
Be-
thoroughly
man
a
remember
help them
For
stances
circum-
Hence
wife
keep
should
manliness.
of
j^^or,
j^\ for
if his
money
fort,
com-
incubus, which
desires
man
his wife
;
God
a
and
man
badly married
proverb puts it,
pitwhich
and
instead
No
it
plan.
prematurely
diflTerence.
says,
^^
.
this
random
*^
which
this
is this the case?
why
at
until he is
trouble
as
pay
meanest
thousands
all the
proverb
much
peace,
the
wife,
to
upon
exist under
pressed down
..their graves.^^ And
This
in
stant
con-
and
that bottomless
die
has
that
mind
truth,honour,
and
to
many
act
ex-
it if pos-
save
how
things,
it is worth
husband
confidence,
all
and
below
your
to
debt,'^
all
up
and
resolve
into
run
up
think
cannot
you
:
between
Make
expense.
Never
"""
;
eflfort to
will save,
'"
income
your
all
household
your
never
source
.
that
see
fore-
prudent
prevented.Above
be
77
LIFE.
little
a
penses
...sible.
.
by
to
MARRIED
OP
they
are
husbands
living.
78
HAPPY
HOMES.
If his wife be
naught,
naught :
If his wife be
But
would
wife
wife
eternal
for each
K
True
wife ! fond
Like
trees
with
angry
with
a
From
love
Bj which
.And
keep
sight;
sweet
best
the
say
wife ! let
:
to
but
""
is
aid its
sightof
towards
the sunbeams
and
young
see
an
all."
old
If so,
"
together lean
intertwiningboughs, that
shoots
grows
never
.
"
^^
us
winds
the blue
and
so
blow
may
;
screen,
serene.
the
they gather strength,and
their
-..
well
as
wrinkled,
nor
.
his
another.
one
to
gloriousprivilege
To see
a
Says one,
skies, whatever
their heads
whence
"
husband.
immortal
And, though there interposea cloudy
Lift up
with
her
op
true
grey,
let the husband
Brave
frankness
other's
welfare.
couple loving,is
"
domestic
cultivate
growth in beauty.
couple loving, is a
then
:
husband's
her
ask
improvement
the
^then what
"
if the
managed
^^
becomes
^nor
then
wife frankness
Seek
temporal
"
better
be
policy. And
would
his
act wiselyin telling
the
length of his purse.*' Let
every
^Be anxious
old
and
therefore
XIV.
as
might
questionsof
man
wife, and
"
aught."
about
more
every
If his wife be
husband
a
end
aught,
now
opinion on
many
to the
If his wife be
house
a
spend
may
have
And
Many
man
a
raindrops flow,
taller grow,
Baplinga^xe^
^ti^ ^q^-vi.
.
""
Trr
.-
1
Ev
.
r
'.Ai
Tb
""
I
I
.o
I
1
78
HAPPY
HOMES.
If his wife be
naught,
naught :
If his wife be
But
a
And
man
spend
may
to the end
have
If his wife be
aught,
aught."
If his wife be
Many
would
wife
Seek
XIV.
^Be
"
old
eternal
then
"
in
growth
"
a
True
wife ! fond
Like
trees
And,
From
their heads
whence
Bj which
And
there
keep
never
-.
grows
but
to
gloriousprivilege
To see
a
Says one,
sight;
sweet
a
the
best
say
:
to
.
"-
is
aid its
sight of
the sunbeams
and
an
all/'
old
If so,
"
us
winds
may
interposea cloudy
towards
young
see
together lean
intertwiningboughs, that
wife ! let
shoots
his
well
as
wrinkled,
nor
"
another.
one
love
"
husband.
immortal
the blue
and
so
blow
:
screen,
serene,
the
they gather strength,and
their
with
her
of
true
skies, whatever
angry
though
Lift up
with
And
"
^^
beauty.
let the husband
Brave
K
grey,
what
coupleloving,is
with
other's
welfare.
couple loving, is
then
cultivate frankness
for each
becomes
^nor
"
policy.
wiselyin tellinghis
length of his purse.^^ Let
improvement
the
anxious
temporal
as
domestic
-.
husband^s
her
ask
wife frankness
every
if the
managed
act
^^
the
therefore
man
wife, and
then
would
about
more
every
better
be
questionsof
husband
a
wife
and
now
opinion on
many
might
house
a
raindrops flow,
taller grow,
BapVinga^xe^^i "jdA
^^evi.
.
-
MUTUAL
THE
U True
wife !
wife ! fond
Through
Ever
"
I have
Thou
"-
z
felt how
art indeed
By
together stood
a
the wise
true
gift,a
favour
one's word
;
reached
;
the Lord
from
I"
trees and
growing together, even
length become
inseparablyentwined.
constant
branches
at
XV.
Have
a
"Wherever
"
mine
than
79
LIFE.
supporting each
good,
have higher, wider
the infinite and
unto
And
"
have
we
MARRIED
OP
of trial,each
years
Thy thoughts
,
DUTIES
family
the
altar
family
wherever
moral
presents
itself at
its
own.
"
beauty,
wherever
fortified,
in
once
tour
in
appears
is
health
of
its austere
life
and
its
find united
we
smiling aspects, wherever
gress,
protenderness, vigour,harmless
manly eflfort,
".mirth, deep sorrows
accompanied by genuine
consolations ; in short, a loftyhappiness,and the
^
-true
apprenticeshipof life,you will find that
love and support each other, together
those who
.
.
bend
the knee.^'
be
If such
the
then
case,
let
recommend
us
practiceof dailyreading the Bible, however
small a portion;and also of seeking God's blessBy this means
ing by prayer.
you will best secure
a virtuous, moral, happy, and
godlyhome; a centre
the
"
".
from
all
which
around, and help to
better land
"
i
shall radiate
above
;
prepare
for
They
sin who
With
life all other
tell
'
,
each
for
other
good
us
All others
are
In heaven
ambition
but
love
can
die.
passionsfly,
vanity.
coimoX.
^^^,
on
for the
Southey trulysays,
as
.
.
influence
an
"
80
HAPPY
Nor
HOMES.
in the vaults
avarice
of hell.
Earthly these passions as of earth,
They perish where they had their birth
love is indestructible
But
holy
Its
Too
oft
At
times
It here
Then
blessed
discharge,and
has
been
lap,is
well
subjectis
and
we
too
vast
be
must
oppressed ;
care.
of love is there ! "
with
allow
children,
God
;
have
you
us
great
first
duties
to
It
to bear.
great responsibilities
said, ^Hhat a child in a mother^s
work
the
therefore
retumeth
guest,
toil and
with
unsolved
God^s
"
purified,
its perfectrest.
the harvest-time
If
.
times
at
in heaven
SAY, that under
TO
troubled
a
is tried and
here
"
to heaven
deceived,
hath
!
bumeth,
ever
came
earth
on
It soweth
XVI.
it
heaven
From
But
for
flame
;
of
for
"
"..
serious
problem.^' How
training up a child. The
descriptionin this place,
..
with
content
word
a
or
two
"
of brief advice.
Mothers,
teach
and
1. Provident
children
your
to be
"
careful in their habits.
2. Industrious.
To
3.
Simple
4.
High
value
6. To
avoid
nursery
of
of
in their views
5. To
encourage
and
in their wants
things at
tastes.
and
duty
their
right worth.
drinks
intoxicating
children
drunkards.
practise the virtues and
to
drink
Make
religion.
and
is to
smoking.
establish
a
study
to
it your
skvm. tke
yicea
we
have
"
:
".
MUTUAL
THE
mentioned;
DUTIES
will
you
character, it has
of
mothers
its
from
.
happy
aim
case,
..
is
country
our
household
^^
says,
..
world
or
beast
than
laid
that rises
Such
being the
child^s
child
to turn
racter,
cha-
itself,Paley
govern
uneducated
an
is little better
wild
a
send
To
"
tional
na-
smoke
of your
firstby teachingit to
our
the
fires.^'
formation
of
our
by the
strength of
^^
the
raise
to
said,is
Yea,
forged under
the
at
help
been
81
LIFE.
foundation
country.
our
MARRIED
thus
The
character.
...nation^s
OP
out
into the streets.^^
a
into
mad
And
dog
man
a
the
is
.
in rearing his family after this
justified
be
in training a wild
fashion, than he would
beast
the community.
to let loose upon
Remember, that children will either be happy at home,
seek
discontented
and
their happiness from
or
home.
Try therefore to make home the brightest
children
see
or
spot they can
enjoy. Let our
no
.
...
more
say:"
"
:
of
Home's
fche resort
So
the bard, and
says
is the
Home
The
only
scene
To
balls and
Be
mine
Clear
Save
By
way
the
then
children
extracts.
truth
and
of true
routs
say truth
so
where
for fame
happier lot
the stage,
the snug
of
scene
love, of joy, of peace
no
to
and
grace
candour
;
move,
genuine love.
let others
please at
scenery
circle round
and
;
the
we
roam,
home
;
require,
parlour fire."
ing
the importance of trainillustrating
wisely,let lis give the following
82
HAPPY
The
i(
most
HOMES.
or all human
common
under
parents groaning
is
children/'
Good
"
begin
will not
laws
not
home/'
at
reform
is
greater harm
by the neglect
the
advance
them/'
of
cause
I may
''I think
their
of
meet
with, nine
good
or
of
if reformation
.
Baxter.
done
Christendbm
to
.."
children; therefore, to
Christ,we
begin
must
with
Luther.
Martin
"
us,
Richard
"
*^No
than
vices
the
"
Cecil.
B.
"
complaints
say, that
parts
evil,useful
of all the
of ten
or
what
are
not, by their
we
men
they
""
are,
education/'
Locke.
"
The
^'
soul's
the
to
most
children
there
is
important thing in this world, next
of
salvation,is the taking care
and
;
so
yet
much
there
is
no
ignorance as
subject on
on
this/'
""
which
H.
"
W.
Beecher.
The
last
thing forgottenin all the recklessof dissolute
profligacy,is the prayer
ness
or
lips,or uttered at a
hymn taught by a mother's
father's
knee
'^
;
and
where
there
seems
to
".
have
pains bestowed, even by one parent, to
train up a child aright,this is in general more
than ordinaryground for hope/' The Experience
of a Prison Chaplain.
'^I have
long felt that until the fathers and
been
any
"
""
;mothers
schools
believe
are
can
that
better
men
and
better
women,
our
accomplish comparatively little. I
impTO^eTci^utthat could be
any
""
THE
MUTUAL
broughtto
DUTIES
bear
eflfecta
would
yet
"
"
good than anything
Earl of Shaftesbury.
AT
HOME
P
the
glow of sunset
in the western
Fades
sky,
tired of playing,
And
the wee
ones,
Gro trippinglightlyby,
Each
when
day
I steal away
Asleep
And
my
in his easy
husband,
chair.
the open doorway
faces fresh and fair.
watch
Their
Alone
from
from
old homestead
in the dear
That
once
full of life,
was
Ringing with girUsh laughter,
Echoing boyish strife,
We
two are
waiting together ;
oft,as the shadows
And
With
It is
*
*
night !
Yes, love !* I
*
come,
voice he calls
tremulous
me,
home
the children
are
him
answer
gently,
They're all home long ago ;'
I sing,in my
quivering treble,
"
And
A
song
Till the old
With
And
soft and
so
his head
I tell to
Home
in
a
low.
drops
man
upon
to
better
slumber.
his hand.
myself the
numb^T
laud.
83
especially
followingpicture.
CHILDREN
THE
LIFE.
more
of
done/'
been
to realise the
AEE
mothers
greater amount
that has
Try
the
on
MARRIED
OF
?'
84
HAPPY
in
Sometimes,
I
vision
The
Lost
the
With
The
red
a
tangled
In
fell
They
God
still
as
Fades
And
the
Go
wee
*
And
Say,
I
*
Yes,
their
love
the
their
to
from
with
they
for,
grave.
west,
tired
! have
died
sunset
home
!
!
vows
brave.
over
summer
ones,
answer,
dear
and
flag they
calls
"
forest.
bold
in
:
freedom,
to
! floats
trooping
husband
My
brows
the
away
blest.
them,
sealed
the
angels,
the
upon
Southern
and
fingers
of
gave
sword
:
Thank
And
world
brothers,
Twin
:
the
ones,
I
me,
breast,
my
radiant
that
boys
about
skies
cloud
a
their
see
My
to
the
to
evening,
dimpled
beautiful
never
I
the
way
Passed
all
are
whose
the
of
eyes,
my
from
babes
And
dusk
children
the
A
the
shut
only
And
HOMES.
the
eyes
are
of
playing.
rest.
his
comer,
children
?*
come
uplifted,
all
at
home
!'
"
86
HAPPY
I. Provide
It is
fob
HOMES.
the
support
op
your
wipe.
"
-
thing to get a wife, but it is another to
If
be able to keep her as she ought to be kept.
a man
providenot for his house, he hath denied
one
"
"
If God
"
is
faith,and
the
hath
thus
wife,understand,
infidel/^said
an
thee
honoured
0
thine
man,
hath
into
thy bosom
there
is
love
no
and
trust
and
faithful
hath
!
wearisome
a
Set her
rate.
and
let her be
Let
who
one
wealth
in all
or
it not
writer
is in your
of your
her
but procure
do;
suflfer none
work
pray
too
at the
hands,
Bogera^a
"
Matrimonial
and
much
to
thy
".
worth.
let her
modern
more
honour
to
all
*
is done, and
you
.
love
her honour
eclipseher
-.
the wage
the
fruit
it away
those tawdry
guzzle
gin shop, or to squander it on
bits of finery
in which
sillywomen
*
who
canst
than
more
to
of the fruit of her
life's work
she
see
.
could
I
""
sure
thy costliest
that thou
enough
your
thy
with,
thine heart than
birth
hand,
of
..
precious in her at a
signet on thy righthand,
thee
When
who
framed
so
do
to
honoured
^^
"
him
let her
praiseher in the gates.'
again, to quote from a
:
"
bond
a
"
And
a
is
a
be
such
happiness,
to
hath
her
works
as
nearer
and
places,
Give
her
Nabal
that which
due
jewel.
Seal
Paul.
by good experience
thy heart rest in her
respect again,and
value
cannot
let
lost; but
her.
to
not
Let her find
with
own
thanks
with
digestit seriously,
framed
her so, and
brought
and
^
than
worse
take
"ELonowr,"'t^. ^V^A^AS.*
the
-"
SPECIAL
.
let the chief
..
.
He
of
utterly;
do not
dram
a
of the saddest
yes, I think
..
".is
God
honours
down
conqueror^swork, run
shop. Do not despise it so
no
the sink
Do not
do in drams.
fruit of the toil which
honours
87
HUSBAND.
THE
OF
men
delightthat silly
same
as
DUTIES
put
shameful
it to such
things in
saddest
the very
constantlyproved
social
our
that
"
is the
One
use.
condition
"
fact,that it
skilful labourers, who
ample wages, are the most reckless drinkers,
and keep their families in most
miserable
ignoIn fact, they earn
and
want.
much
too
ranee
than theycare
how to spend
know
more
or
money,
Instead
of a nice, tidy, cheerful
intelligently.
able
little house, with
its bit of garden,its comfortof bringing up a
parlour,and all the means
familyso as to set them on respectablyin life,
and put the chance of wealth ^nd influence within
in a
their reach, they are content
to muddle
on
hodman
wretched
a
might grumble
hovel, which
wife slave^
at for a lodging. They let the poor
and
the children
roll and
fight in the gutters,
while they swill down
their hardly-earnedwages
few weeks
at the beer-shop,or
disappear.
every
knows
Heaven
where, 'on the spree.' As a
earn
"
"
..
"
.
..
.-rule,it is
drinkers
it is the
;
beautiful
England
*Bev.
"
poorest that
skilled
his labour
might make
and
the
not
a
home
are
life
the
workman,
the basis of
as
any
the hardest
as
that
man
who
honourable
is lived
^thatis in the world.''*
J. Baldwin
Browiia
^A^^*
"'H.0T"xa\i\i'^r
in
88
HAPPT
II. Make
observes:
has
your
in all ages
ypu
MUST
BE
sible,
^^
have
Here
is
When
PLACE
find
;
...
man,
happiness
and,
-
.
if pos-
-.
delay. Say,
rightit
husband,
a
then, if
if it is not,
and
cause,
to
-.
T7orld, home
without
I intend
wrong,
Knox
experienced
in this
the
out
removed
married
a
fond
HAPPIEST
it
a
of the
If this be true
happy
and
Dr.
"
that the truest
be
to
YOUR
castle.
generalvoice
at home.''
are
brother, try
your
declared
is to be found
ever
home
'^The
"
HOMES.
or
"
at once.^^
""
father,is
a
"
plies
evenings abroad, it imsomething bad, and it predicts something
of
his
spending
worse.
"Asa
that wandereth
bird
So is the
her nest,
from
man
that wandereth
sure
symptom
his
from
place.**
And"
first
The
"
Is the rest
Home
is the
is at
man
the comfort
of the
before
in such
his
own
a
pleasure felt
and
Tell
will tell you
we
at
fireside for
man
what
what
of his
own
home.'*
us
right-mindedman
his wife
cream,
home
if
and
in health,
mind
idea of any
taproom
it,that
a
of character.
test
home,
The
worth.
of heart
of
the
he
a
"
is
leaving
company
bar-parlour!
or
to
goes
will
have
long. For
places is going
to
the
Depend upon
public-house for
drink
he who
not
milk
spends his
the shortest
poverty, and ought
skim
to
road
at
money
buy
\i^
ooTa^\iaaxi\"
to
"
"
SPECIAL
DUTIES
finds himself
"
took
"You
:
the
"
William, when
me,
in
apply ?
lines
followingbeautiful
how
To
expostulationcontained
the
89
"
last in the workhouse.
at
would
many
HUSBAND.
THE
OP
girl,mito
a
and
home
your
heart,
To
..
And,
.
Or
.
tell
I
and
tried that
ever
joy
not
was
fond
a
for
faithful pai*t;
duty
when
me
forego,
to
sunk
were
you
?
woe
rather
I would
No;
after-fate
have
me,
there
pined
in
...
in all your
bear
share
tea,T
your
than
other's
any
glee,
For
"""
though you're nothing
THE
You
"
WORLD
make
There's
.-.
I
look
I cry,
O
Behold
toil from
soul
look
music
in
sleep
"
^my
eyes
with
tears
poor, look
down
from
heaven
day, exhausting strength
to
whole
last
at
him,
on
mercy
him
when
day
:
with
make
And
smiles, and
;
him
and
Oh,
you
of the
Parent
.
.
when
you
him
on
in your
me
dim,
grow
.
shed, this rough-hewn bench
my
tone.
upon
*
all
;
sunlight for
your
..
palace of
throne
a
world, you're
ME.
TO
a
the
to
1
for Thou
Lord,
canst
*
reheving sleep has
on
my
eyelids
smiled,
How
.
oft
forbade
they
are
to
close
in
slumber
by
our
child ?
I take
.
And
.
.
..
the Httle
feel it is
There's
And
only one
it may
feel
a
no
that
murmurer
part
of thee
return
soothe
wroJif^
thee
:
spoilsmy
I lull upon
I crave,
when
I may
I'm
my
not
where
span
of rest,
breast.
need
it
long,
the wretQ.haii.
90
'
HOMES.
HAPPY
kinder
I ask not
for
I ask
not
for less
I ask
not
for attire
a
Suffice to make
But
I would
tone, for thou
ask
gay, if such
more
fair to thee, for
as
I
that
;
mind
I have
more
of hours
share
some
kind
ever
fare I do not
frugal fare, my
me
wert
;
got,
not.
murmur
clubs
on
you
*
bestow,
Of
which
knowledge
Subtract
from
for
hour
Make
If you
meetings amongst
me
of your
not
"
an
eve
.
safelybe.
I may
think
; then
work
when
"
;
I shall
tedious
each
men
soul, as
will read, I'll sit and
youVe away
Less
I
might
;
companion
me
much,
so
P
know
something
prize
you
find
the time, dear
William, if you
"
stay.
A
companion
meet
I'll be
soon
studious
for e'en your
.
hours.
And
teacher
flowers
And
if
of those
ones
call your
you
cottaga
.
;
be
we
little
not
rich and
great, we
may
your
heart,
be wise
and
".
kind.
And
as
heart
my
mind
Theresa
a
many
^^"itsand
her
time,who,
his
castle,would
your
duty,now
from
from
away
her
a
a
so
my
may
"
thus
neglected,:
away^' ^ong before
woman
fades
if the husband
be
but
made
his home
It is
liappyas a queen.
that you have
brought your wife
father's home, and
perhaps far
as
the friends
father
home
poor
sighsand
her
Indeed, your
own
warm
mind."
your
who
away
can
and
work
of her
mother,
now
place of
a
childhood, to be
sister
should
be
and
to
*
to
brother.
make
your
real eujo^mau^, ^iiA. ^n^y^
.
SPECIAL
hour
in
more
with
John
Like
I make
bird
a
:
home
in the
My
home
Let
ambition
Let
the restless go
is my
seem
forest,whose
all,and
stretch
the cat
say
me
;
is its nest,
of rest.
the world
over
to
world
the centre
when
at
stride,
a
the windows,
else from
going
to rest.
night.
face,with
her
cleans
I*m
winter's
foot in
her
loud
the winds, all a-cold,with
Shake
Or
empire
an
I sit by the fire in the dark
And
to
rollingaway with the tide,
life's pleasures as follies at best.
on
While
render
desert,alone in its glee,
And, like sunset, feel calm
((
91
HUSBAND.
"
of the
small
a
I look
THE
the
Clare
thing
a
Like
OP
public-house will only
difficult to accomplish. Learn
spent
this
DUTIES
clatter and
like robbers, who
the cold to be hid, and
want
to
delight.
din,
in ;
come
away
By the bright burning fire,see my children at play
Making houses of cards, or a coach of a chair.
I sit enjoying their happiness there."
While
"
^^
.
poor
Well
the
to
likelyway
made
but
bad
all
a
do
No
so.
husband
has
held
reallyao
So
out
by
beneficial
we
doubt
sometimes
our
aa
^^
to
a
been
home
own
knew
ever
one
by going
your
rob
you
the most
a
man
public-house,
made
would
your
whether
Workmen^s
aome
a
His
V
a
we
would
But
By no means.
however, is
public-house,
affection,Mahe
ducement
reply,
good husband
by going there.
Indeed,
are
to
better
many
one
'^
you
of his comforts
man
going
..
V*
into
a
say with
castle.
the
in-
Cluha.^'
^^^^^ds^
\Taai^ccL^"
92
societyof
the wife
As
delight.
He
^'
teaclithe people is that Home
to
want
we
be
must
woman
the
home
your
working
elements
filled with
the
husband's
says
chief
:
"
We
attractive.
man
of the
have
not
may
do
of
his
of
his
the
who
own
of
earthly
of his
property
the
hand, he
contributes
around
him.
of the
He
is
that
we
who
are
but
that
ill able
he
yard.
No
few
trees
pooFj
that
who
in
can
man
to
is
so
must
poor
his
likes
the
other
""
.
the
of
gratification
his
upon
Do
expense
it!
No
but
value
think
not
is
man
that
he
No
"
ments,
improve-
can
"
"
those
upon
dwelling.
laave
""
attractive,
flowering shrub
a
of
of all the
vicinity.
afibrd
have
value
the real marketable
urging
before
he
to
a
to
""
value
one
On
"
region
public benefactor,
look
his
here
are
thus
merely
adding
property
No
home
own
rising value
'taste of those
but
a
his
the
the
ugliness.
the
contributingnot
the
also sinks
of
makes
to
sinks
neighbours.
sight
who
the appearance
no
property, but
own
live in
to
regard for
premises, not only
has
:
house
a
highestform
.
not
happiness. Peace and love are confined to no
station,all this is within the reach of the poorest.
Remember, as it has been beautifully
remarked,
that, ^^he
"..
very
laid
to make
why
see
be the
and
indiffergood-for-nothing,
is not the best pillow
bosom
her head upon.''
a
whose
ever
Try
should
the Irish Proverb
husband
ent
a
HOMES.
HAPPY
so
poor
"
in his
plant
man
'ti^ Y^^^'^l ^^
is
so
^^
"
.
94
HAPPY
and to
dissipation,
joys which are most
Or,
in
adorning
beauty
this
Let
lesson.
taste
a
for those
ennobling/'
Nature
'^
:
dominions
her
is
in thSm
form
adds
another
as
HOMES.
is industrious
and
;
to whom
man,
addressed, should. feel
and
be industrious
in
him, too,
obey the
adorning
dwellingof
making his home, the
his wife and
children, not only convenient
comfortable,but pleasant.Let him, as far as
his
domain,
it within
it
make
home
place
which
be
brings
draws
this
a
happy
have
I^or
".
Waste
for
them,
a
Bring
Home
memories
is after
a
the
will become
and
pleasant,a
ful,
cheer-
but
your
plant
to cheer
and
""
peace.
happy,
not
"
"
children
souls, in the way
noble
:
Let
content.
spot
your
in
up
by
time
in
in their
proposed, the
of virtue and prosperity.^'
Try and have '^thingsof beauty''in your
They will"
and
"
but-
inmate,
the heart
and
sacred
home.
accumulating wealth
minds
..
order
every
of cheerfulness
scene
parents,who would
careful to bring them
and
to
back
of comfort
done, and
and
neatness
satisfaction
in absence
surelythe
more
of
the abode
associations
this be
in
cir-
"
which
fond
industrious
and
it with
make
Ye
admit, be
.
pleasantobjects,in decorating
with thingsthat tend
and without
to
Let industry
agreeableand attractive.
rounding
and
in
will
cumstances
:
.
.
-
seeds
home.
"
grace."
all tlie \i^""\)^^oc\
\a. 'Oaa
v^
world
"
and
.
is in
women
Why
.
great
"
with
which
their earliest
^^
into
up
that their
men
intelligence
the effort be
of the
some
deeds
nobly done,
days
made
to
which
pictures
by lookingat
and
children
our
may
inspiredto do deeds of similar daring.
than
this,certainly,
singingin a taproom,
up
Better
.
not
tell of noble
grow
"
should
its walls
from
grow
wisely or unwiselydirected.
measure
therefore
decorate
it is there
and
;
95
HUSBAND.
THE
children
it is there bur
;
a
OF
DUTIES
SPECIAL
Britons
shall be
never
slaves.^'
It may
be done
easilyby taking the pennies home and putting
in the savings bank
them
instead
pf spending
them
in the losings bank, i,e. the public-house.
"You
will thus
while
are
enjoy your money
you
will be a castle indeed.
earning it,and your Home
"
..
"
III.
OTHERS.
Prefer
"
work
you
with
them
Tou
did.
once
invited
were
for
wife^s
your
hour^s
an
Company
If after
to
hard
a
all
day^s
by your shopmates to go
enjoyment to the public-
house, your reply was, '^Not to-night,IVe an
^^
and should one
of them, suspecting
engagement;
the nature
"you, you
company,
you
of your
engagement, ask
^^No, thank
replieddecidedly,
three's
started
off
none,''and without
ance,
could
and
walked
many
put
a
on
your
with
come
you;
further
where, after
home,
washed, dressed, and
.
to
delay
tea, you
best
mile, happy
two^s
even
appearif you
glance at the
only catch a momentary
her shadow
object of your affections,or watch
"ELcr^ e.cycw"'s.'^^s^
through the window-blind.
96
HAPPY
pass, then, that
to
^
her,
to
say
well
for you
she is your
now
I^m
Mary,
^^
or
say of the hours
thus
spent waiting
the
lingeringmoments
are
She
?
everything sixes
reply,he
he
should
a
goes
by
care?"
do, if
to
man
home
and
V
sevens
pitied;
is to be
that
remember
"
he finds
the washing about,
squalling,
children
we
numbered
is
and
his work
leaves
fair,
seem
can
What
^^
perhaps you reply,
he
what
pleasant,or
When
the
so
"
seem
when
'^
to the
hour
can
But
dare
can
justgoing down
spend
to
What
"
wife you
an
Happy Home,'
might
HOMES.
and
In the first place,
"
but
at the
however
time
same
bad
"
the state
thingsmay be at home, he will never make tJiem
to the public-houseto grumble
better by going down
On the contrary, they are
about
them.
likelyto
"
of
get
worse
ing
thus
is
I shan't
that
all
was
out
have
had
an
answer
been
so
or
other little matter
wife
And
done.
children
you
^^Let
all
would
me
day
so
then
up
in your
have
help
you
would
effect that
was
of the kind
that
she
if you
had
taken
and
said
"
"
"
how
it
very
likely
was
Pollyhad
had
could
one
worried
not
get
of the
""
as
cheerfully,
had
been
courting,
you
it
put tTamg^ ^^tcfti^lit/'
arms,
to
"
cuttinghis teeth,"
much
done
act-
Whereas, if
kindly asked
Johnny
""
"Well, if that's all he
of sorts, you
"
husband
for him."
care
to the
cross,"or
some
the
to say,
contrary you had
the
finds her
wife who
a
tempted
for me,
cares
on
for
;
""
SPECIAL
would
and
THE
97
HUSBAND.
put fresh strength into your wife^s
have
arms,
OP
DUTIES
long things would
ere
have
been
all
right.
much
to forgetthat it is as
seem
Many men
and then to rock a cradle,nurse
their duty now
a
baby, or playwith the children,as itis the mother's.
It is astonishingto find how
to
men
seem
many
""
be
.
ashamed
;
their
nurse
have
grand thing to
that
..
to
a
with
romp
It is
babies.
own
the
children,and
is not
worthy to be a father who
and then play with them, or take an
now
in their sports and occupations.
Instead of establishingworking men's
man
would
it not
have
be
better
to
try and
? the wives
children
and
cannot
interest
clubs,
get them
would
to
another's
at one
partiesoccasionally
friendly
houses
a
then
share
in their
.
fond of music,
are
enjoyment. Some men
if this talent could be cultivated
or
can
sing. Now
the working classes,and
evening
among
the
as
as
common
they are among
partiesmade
middle
and
upper
necessityfor
men
saved
be
.
the establishment
from
away
from
often
buy
them.
It
classes,there would
their
^^
pay
little foxes
very
that
no
draw
to
They would
pubHc-houses,where
tempers, and
is these
of clubs
be
also
homes.
going to
bad
then
they
dear
for
spoil the
vines.''
Besides
to
and
this,friend,did you not solemnlypromise
love your wife, to comfort
her, to honour
keepher^in
sickness
aiidm^'a"i^fl!DL,ic5t\i^\
-^
98
HAPPY
in
for worse,
all
IN
DELIGHT
ing
"
thee
words
embody
and forsaking
riclies,
A
WIPERS
HIS
in
some
A
Yes
COMPANY,
decision
your
thine P
of heaven
Makes
Something
As
that mellows
o'er
by
the hearth
From
mind
isle
Or
music's
Or
dearer
voice
skies,
;
the ethereal
heritage
the immortal
at vesper
bow
gloriouspage,
a
many
thee its treasures
For
"
spiritualglow,
should
to mind
spot
glorifies,
that
Kindling rich woods, whereon
Sleeps lovinglyawhile.
There
"
yet there
;
the tender
blessed
some
.
divine.
and
from
ever
.
transparent air
in the
like the soft and
E'en
is that hom^
flower
every
o'er it
Breathes
is it not
for thee
lowly
will
"
embosomed
and
Something
:
P Oh,
and
as
let the foUoW-
SO
thy dream
shelteringwood
bower
; lone
husband
good
Love, shall I read
All of
her, as long
only nnto
live ?
shall
both
and
poverty
others,to keep
you
HOMES.
pour
;
be heard,
hours
interchange of playfulword
Affection's
household
rich unison
And
the
The
melody
love.
of
of hearts
mingled prayer
in heavenly air.
;
Thence
daily should arise ;
Liftingth' eternal hope, th' adoring breath,
Of spirits
not to be disjoinedby death,
Up
Never
to
mind
the starry skies."
the
*
ridicule
Mrs.
Hemwas.
*
of
those
who
cry
:
"
DUTIES
SPECIAL
^^Catclime
talk
who
tied
under
this
in
99
HUSBAND.
THE
strings;^^^^I'd
petticoatgovernment/^ Men
being
live
never
.
OP
to
apron
of
enemies
the
are
way
our
homes.
Did
^^
plained?
..
house/
it
It
the
There
husbands,
house.
"
.
in
of
who
sheaf
many
oftentimes
the
cases,
it is
are
band
the
of
not
of the
is
the
who, by
her
wife
she
the
keeps
who
men
not
are
ex-
band
person
married
^
husband
keeps togethera
they
Love
your
love
your
wives,"
you
should
reply :
"
Art
Then
Before
her
thou
let
my
me
you
of
the
same
still thinks
wife
sincerely.
saith
the
Heaven
her, you
her
love her
book,
to which
she
Heaven's
decree
designed
for me.'*
consulted
judgment
upon
she
sincerely,
confidence.
that
old
Is this kind
prize what
married
^'Husbands
"
"
wife ?
wishes, and
surelyif you
""
it,the
many
because
for
^
prudence and thrift and economy, keeps the house
who, by his dissolute
together. The married man
habits, stripshis house of all its comforts, is not
he is,but in no other,
a husband
; in a legalsense
for he is not a house-band
of keeping his
; instead
household
and
together, he sujffers both home
familyto go to ruin.^^
IV.
":
band
are
Truly,
husband;
of
support
a
the word
^the
literally,
means
together, as
com.
hear
ever
you
has
Are
no
you
auda.
her
?
tastes,
everything;
is still worthy
aware
that she
^^S^'^
ip\e.^'a"^TiJ^
",
100
solate creature
sincerityof
her wants
use
a
bread
than
;
hand
her
is the most
in the world.
See
and
the
it that
to
^^
will
"..
"
butter
"
your
""
dry,rather
Remember, as one
her
without.
go
discon-
proved by attention to
thus pleaseyour
wife, to
if you
should
upon
is
love
your
she
homely illustration,
both sides/^and eat
on
you
leaning
neglectedwife
A
?
arm
your
with
she takes
those
as
HOMES.
HAPPY
Marriage is
truthfullysays:
the happiest and the saddest
once
^^
"
own
to
a
event
at
woman
"
of her life.
promise of future bhss raised on the
death of preseut enjoyment. She quitsher home,
her parents, her companions, her occupations,
her
amusements,
everythingon which she has hitherto
for kindness,
depended for comfort, for affection,
for pleasure. The
voice she
parents by whose
has been guided,the sister to whom
she dared to
impart every embryo thought and feeling,the
the
has played with her, by turns
brother
who
It is the
and the
counsellor
dren
and
to whom
the
counselled,and
she
playmate, all
fell stroke
:
every
spring of
every
and
flies with
she
before
her.
the life that is
Then
hope
bids
hitherto
and
joy
up
a
tie
is
""
"
the mother
at
loosened,
one
the
changed ;
imtrodden
path
""
"
action is to be
the
into
by
fond
past, and
been
""
chil-
the younger
be forsaken
to
are
former
Buoyed
quitedlove,she
and
has
""
the confidence
of
re-
gratefuladieu to
with excited hopes
""
""
and
turns
of the happiness to come.
joyous anticipations
"Qsft\i.
"aA5
"w\io csba. \i\\^afe
to the man
woe
""
"".
102
HAPPY
her
to
whom
of the
existence
inwoven
whole
our
AVhen
a
another
first goes
out
live less
being, is altogether
and, by degrees, love,
more
he
its
takes
pure,
his
himself
gives
selfhood
his
on
himself,
and
place.
en-
up
him
causes
;
more"
conscious
being distinctly
heart
""
Love
must
^for others
"
said the
^^
Let
is
apostle;
her
:
"
his
will
advice
"
^No
:
But
nourisheth
although it is
rule,yet
authorityof
with
the
love
be
fear
no
of
of
a
No
".
.
it,''
husband
the
the
""
"
be in love.
lover."
needing
'^
""
that you
true
it should
the
"
""
Then
following
.
"
I know
man
and
to
affections.
your
fiesh,but
own
^Tes, she
"
feel that
tempered
there
it/
his
called upon
are
supremely.
wipe
the^rs^placein
hated
ever
man
""
""
without
even
of it
to
in
your
occupy
""
""
proportion as the claimants
it increase ; and, bursting the bonds
of its
upon
former narrow
extends
exclusiveness,it eventually
its sympathies to all around/'
expands
^I.
:"
his
on
for
is
which
selfishness,
being : in this aflFair of lifehe
of himself, and
inflicts the first
attack
same
".
egotism. By every child
marriage is blessed.Nature renews
wound
which
know
to
..
marries,
man
to
tirely
deadly
and
more
she
is
affection ?
of
by marrriage ;
becomiug
the
of your
the power
"
with
broken
with
love, how
you
Eemember,
HOMES.
not
ever
how
to
his
hateth
is there
a
bodilyviolence
but nourisheth
flesh,
refer to
own
"brute
m
"Woi^a.
: :
^ik^^^^"
SPECIAL
there
DUTIES
to intimate
^^But
looks.
angry
"""
death
will
ranklingbehind.^^
There
world, or
book
a
have
to beat
with
There
;
this
"
would
"
says
".
:
"
The
faults of those
those
..to
who
angels feel.
..
that
.
as
an
be
for
good
a
man
in dealing with
difficulty
no
love fiUed the breast ; for
and
excuse
they love
have
is not
it not:
forgivenessof
man
Jay's "Wife's
and
the
one
which
with
absurd,
for the
it seems
as
way
of the human
that
heart
patientis given
and
it is most
as
account
it is
knowledge
intuition where
Or
love.^^
we
people tolerant
*
cussed
moderately dis-
wife.^^
That
makes
is
it be lawful
no
lovers
.
deadly
Husband^s
"The
perfect sympathy
parents and
the
queer
the
if sincere
question,
forgiveas long as
"we
".
or
his bad
leave
irony
people in the
followingtitle would
some
been
whether
bitter
a
*
published.
Authority Unveiled; wherein
never
A
feeling.
it is true,
are,
will strike
sneer
scorpion, and
a
complish
ac-
may
neglect;by churlish
language ; by alienated or
every
sting like
tender
a
spirit. He
contemptuous
chill into
..
break
to
studied
by
A
exertion
disgrace,every
delicate
a
unkind
by
;
preacher is ashamed
necessary
his work
manners
of
depth
every
cruelty,is not
heart,or to crush
"
the
is not
?
of
,..
husband, who
a
what
to execute
103
HUSBAND.
THE
wretcli, miscalled
a
ashamed
even
OF
needed.
The
less
end-
wife, or parent and
Ad^ocaW
104
HAPPY
child
HOMES.
blessingthat,unconsciouslyperhaps, a
wiU give all he has to meet
Tvith/^
man
The
injunctionof the apostle is, "Husbands
love your wives,and be not bitter
againstthem/'
Is it needful to enforce
this lesson ? Surely love
IS
a
will sweeten
it
all the bitterness
disappearlike
mist
before
It is well to mark
"
Too
lightlysaid, and
Or
VII.
You
Treat
will
find,if
that
sense,
often
be
her
if she
it
upon
a
"take
can
and
to
as
by
an
elaborate
wise
will not
chance
VIIL
a
in
man
against any
will be right.
in this
than
of
yourselt
^'
which
we
for
the
"""
"
The
to
"
read
reasoning.'^
her in whole-
ignorance which
knowledge
the weaker
tells his wife
tjs^ittl
of
per-
"
.
bear.
all he knows.''
kt-aou-^.,
"
weighty
to
sex
:
They
secrets.
unnecessary
surfeit with
Make
has
woman
the conclusions
the
""
depend
more
of
"
Tour
respect, indeed.
women
will
moment,
a
one,
A
"
are
often
with
little who
we
are
of
process
be starved
knows
of
man,'^ says Fuller,"keeps
may
of
it is true.
you
counsels,too heavy
He
'^
f
"
woman
a
Women,
respect.
stock
ignorance
some
respect.
married
and
conclusions,^^
judgments
relied upon
"A
to
rule she
be
mind."
sensitive
a
opinions,taste, and judgment
specialinstinct
intuitive
of
;
unkind,
look
sincere
have
you
warns
a
a
with
entitled
told,"jump
wife
her
deeply heard
too
reproof,or
May destroy the peace
"
passing word,
a
harsh
a
for
the sun,
how
make
and
strife,
of
"
Maxxy
.
a
v
SPECIAL
who
man
while
he would
.
sol,seems,
his
is needful.
market,
hands
in
of
say
Once
to
But
Some
married
and
foot.
.
motive
to
allow
wife
please your
**
We
To
"
And
ber
can
are
?
seeing this
that there
a
you."
what
Was
wives
hand
was
it to
it
your
oblige or
mainly
was
self.
chief
us
own
thought
in life
worth
groan,
a
for his wife."
woman
to be the
are
;
them
upon
No, truly;
the fool 's not
win
flew
if their
as
married, let
bachelor's
Is, or
see
may
altered
ask
to
us
dear
who
act
wait
to
only ?
own
A
:
to
getting'married
pleaseyour
para-
this kind
we
wishes, Philo
seem
do but
Now
in
her
walking with
by his side is
man
that alters all,has
men
nothing to
often
strong
a
prevent my
Time
had
How
help that
to
"
.
.
anxious
so
strugglingbeneath the weight
with
provisions. She might
laden
well
"
105
HUSBAND.
pocket, while
wife
basket
a
indeed
.
his
his weak
seen
THE
courtingwas
crowded
a
OP
scarcelyallow Mary to carry
when
married, to forgetthat
of attention
in
DUTIES
case, you
should
little duties
many
remem-
which
you
the labour
easilydischarge,but which will make
wife
of your
cheerful.
lighter and more
Look
around
and
see
if
.
wood,
break
water, knock
if there
or
in
happen
carry
a
few
some
you
coal, fetch
nails,and,
to be any
chop
cannot
as
we
in
have
some
some
said^
^n^Qcl^^'o^
ciiildieiu,^^:^
106
Kttle ; for without
a
HOMES.
HAPPY
now
and
and
in
with
yoy
IX.
this way
the cradle
share
dignity you can
the baby,
nurse
or
burden
the
the
of
apostle
also,that
wife
ACCORDING
house
and
^^
and
vessel,^^
also
^^
to
are
you
KNOWLEDGE.^^
TO
reference
said, with
has
understand,
Dwell
to
are
you
is
she
that
remember,
to
her
with
this
By
to
consequentlywill need
and
manly courage.
your strong supporting arm
Wisely you can
advise, and
prudently take
the weaker
counsel
As
the
order
that
woman
of
compositionthan
complement of man, and
love, and
of man,
spouse
of
and
;
as
entitled
shadow
cheer
is inferior
man
his
'the sister of
to
to
man
is
that
:
;
more
woman
atum
desider-
great
is bound
man
in
loved
be
;
in
man
time, if weaker,
same
woman
after
comes
creation, and
at the
; that
to
says," Woman
in her
is the
"
together.
Gilfillan
refined
"
wife.
An
your
rock
then
loss of
any
returji
;
as
obey him ; as the
to sympathise with, help, and
man,
and symto receive aid, countenance,
pathetic
to
reflect and
compassion in exchange.^^
X.
Insure
what
a
wife
is
now,
you
day
your
or
OJSce
hour
an
may
"c.
should
death
make
an
of absolute
should
Savings
Bank
know
eflRortto
want,
cau
you.
;
if your
place
at any
not
earnings
your
upon
overtake
you
^You
"
bring forth,and
entirelydependent
the reach
timej if
life,
her
rate
for
a
Post
In the
\a^ "Vs^lot
yond
be-
.
"a
"ol-
SPECIAL
nuity
tlie
the
in
of
age
time
25
Again,
in
sum
few
the
Home
unless
so,
you
Think
will
a
of
never
make
for
be
it
of
house
about
and
that
all
your
3c?.
day,
a
life
your
at
in
a
"200.
by weekly
in
for
insure
can
107
HUSBAND.
and
;
Society,
house
a
THE
age
Office
have
to
of
you
old
Building
a
years
it !
of
putting
by
rent
or
Life
respectable
OP
DUTIES
act
that
own.
or
you
your
12
monthly
may
years
As
should
a
buy
For
be
a
rule,
would
accordingly.
it
in
able
be
own.
small
a
to
a
you
VIII.
CHAPTEE
DUTIES
SPECIAL
EOM
we
of
lord^s
2.
and
distribute
3. To
seek
alone, and
to
7.
be
his
expecting
will
no
"
support.
supplies
family.
in his
society
"
his
return,
and
but
his,
and
to
seek
to
her
forth
undivided
"
To
all her
unsullied
preserve
and
sorrows
complaints
all the
ordinances
his house.
If this be true, then
Oh, 'tis
It is
When
Puts
"
affection.
ears.
"
"
things.
in air
pour
his
relyupon
all needful
wisely to
quaK-
follows.
as
to
for all her
love
ever
give him
To
6. To
into
there
ment,
Testa-
the
are
highest enjoyment
her
know
To
please him
5.
them
that
wife
taught
his hands
at
New
for his appearance.
longing
4.
and
power
receive
To
is
She
good
a
the
gather
may
fications
her
WIPE.
teachings of
the
1.
THE
OF
an
a
anxious
fearful
first the
on
we
the
may
say
"
happiness.
thing,
maiden's
wedding
gentle hand
iim^X
of
"
110
HAPPY
cords
of
HOMES.
and
police
OUT
divorce
dantly
abun-
courts
testify.
In the
language of
should
wife
a
like
be
quaintold writer,
three
things; which
^^
A
good
:
three
things she should not be like. First,she should
be like a snail,to keep within her own
house, but
she
should
be like
not
snail to carry
a
all she
""
has
Secondly she should be like an
echo, to speak when spoken to, but she should not
the last word.
echo always to have
be like an
Thirdly,she should be like a fow;7i-cZoc",
always to
but she should not, like
keep time and regularity,
a
town-clocJc,
speak so loud that all the town may
hear.'^
As this descriptionhas been versified we
give it in that form.
back.
her
upon
A
"
wife, domestic, good, and
Like
sTiail should
But
not, like snail
all her
Keep
Like
time
Keep
all the
That
Alas
tunate
man
!
who
town
be
her
voice
not, like echo, still be
For
ever
having
Las
I
man
bad
hear.
may
,
heard,
the last word."
choice
whose
pity from
a
clear,
so
spoken to;
But
^^
be,
like echo true,
kindly speak when
for the
back.
wife should
regularity;
clock, harangue
wife should
And
a
;
and
not, like
But
A
clock
town
a
her
upon
""
pure,
keep within her door
in silverytrack,
wealth
""
wife.
my
heart
has
been
that
unfor-
unhappy
SVi^ i^ ^\ia,Qklea on
-.
"
his
.
OP
DUTIES
SPECIAL
feet,a palsy to his hands,
to
in his
"Of
bad, the bitterest
I. You
^'
Paul.
old
be
head
one
be
that,''
believe
.
husband.
the
Hfe."
THE
by
St
good man,^' said
the
^
wives
submit,
Nevertheless,there
^
I
only
ought to
can
that
Nature
^^
Indeed,
DUTY
down
household, and
to the
;
to
said
he
wife
LEARN
laid
a
teeth,a
yourselves
law
was
when
lady,"but
don^t
"
Yes, St. Paul
good
submit
husbands, is the
your
der,
shoul-
heart/^
a
TO
Wives
"
his
to
of human
curse
PREPARED
BE
MUST
SUBMISSION.
OP
the best is
his
on
eyes,
earthlygoods
A
burden
a
Ill
WIFE.
vinegar
side,a dagger in his
smoke
thorn
his
THE
revolts
at
indecency of a woman
mounting the box,
grasping the reins, and driving her household,
husband
she will.^'
included, whithersoever
the
And
yet
house, as
in
mind
fiddle.^^
has her
woman
shall
we
;
What
is the
.
wife
^^
always disagreeV
Because
we
of
a
.
"
"
she
wants
Bulwer
"
Lytton
There
who,
in
said, ^I
of
is
be
to
once
story of
a
deliveringa
see
a
woman
disobedience
to
one
illustrated
famous
sermon
"play
man
second
and
your
of another.
mind,^^ he answered
master, and
a
to
let her bear
that you
reason
asked
both
are
duty
in the
occupy
but meanwhile
it is her
that
"
see
place to
on
so
do I.^^
;
Sir
this
by saying,
French
preacher,
the duty of wives,
present who has been guilty
her husband, and, in order
io point her out to universal
C0TLde;T[i"\i'aX"\OT^"^^
112
HAPPY
HOMES.
flingthis breviaryat
book,
and
dived.
^
female
every
Alas
her
He
head/
head
lifted the
present ducked
!^ said the
and
preacher, the multitude
of the offenders necessitates a general amnesty.'
We
often hear of
Women's
Eights but what
to answer
are
they ? The followinglines seems
the questionwisely as well as beautifully.
^
''
''
"
"
The
rights of woman,
right to labour
The
what
and
they P
-
to pray,
The
right to watch while
right o*er others* woes
The
right
The
to bless,
rightwhile others curse
right to love when others scorn,
right to comfort all who mourn,
right to lead the soul to God,
trod."
tread the path her Saviour
The
The
The
The
And
Matthew
to
in
his
creation
of the
of
of the man,
quaintlysays,
of his head
to
his
near
^^
top him,
by him,
but
under
his
trampled upon
equal with him,
heart
to
others
sleep,
to weep,
in distress,
succour
Henry,
speaking
and
are
not
be
when
commentary,
from
woman
She
was
the rib
made
not
out
of his feet to
be
out
of his side to
be
arm
to
out
be
.
protected,
beloved.''
And
no
objectto this description.
Sidney Smith very wiselyremarks also, Every
has little infirmities of temper and
man
tion
disposiwhich
require forgiveness; peculiarities
which
requireto be managed ; prejudiceswhich
sensible
woman
can
"
:
.
"
should
be
be
avoided, innocent
indulged,
fixed
habits
which
should
'^\iAG\i ^Woli
opinioii^
he
"
"
"
DUTIES
SPECIAL
"
be
done
truth, or the
These
the
"
the
"A
the
way
to drive.'' Be
of
importance
studying to
by seeming to obey,^'
wife rules best
;
or
another
as
adds,
generallytell
women
that
it may,
as
the
upon
urge
Men
'^
them
don't
we
hold
which
lieve
quitebe-
Douglas Jerrold, that, Women
alike. When
they 're maids they 're mild as
them
make
once
wives, and they lean their
^^
with
.
of
repay.''
then, we
case
paramount
wisely says
reins, but
one
slightestviolation
the
trifling
infringementof religion.
most
being
suhmit.
.
without
the sacrifices which
are
Such
wife
113
WIPE.
with
delicacies
"
THE
respect, particularfeelings and
which
should
be
consulted; all this
treated
may
OP
are
all
milk
;
backs
and defy you."
against their marriage certificates,
.
persuaded that there are
who
tention
to be found
study to show by strict atmany
and tempers,
to their husband's
dispositions
how
they may most promote his happiness.
Willingly and cheerfullythey accept as their
On
the
contrary,we
the advice
motto
**
kind
From
are
of the
Let
each, domestic
The
household
Make
it your
Endearing
The
And
wrinkled
Before
E'en
His
his eye
o'er your
constant
duty
seem
pride his
the
servant
still shall claim
age
cold, your
flame
bear.
to appear.
him
of life,
in the
shall unobserved
perceivesone
"
to flow ;
acts
common
:
woe,
or
sceptre if he bid you
thus
mistress
his weal
about
concern
saith
poet, who
beauty
evor-aacT^d
wife.
on
come
gone
;
x"t\.^
shsbil \meTL\im^:;Qi^^^^"'^^:^
114
HAPPY
HOMES.
s
Or
Thomson
as
**
beautifully
says,
train the
To
foliageo'er
the
"
lawn,
snowy
:
pencil,turn the tuneful page
To give societyits highest taste ;
best delight,to
Well ordered
home, man's
guide
To
And
hy
With
To
the
submissive
gentle care-
every
sweeten
This
be
the female
will
where
eluding art,
the bliss,
study of
indeed
life,
"
life,and
your
that,
intrude
storms
no
"
dignity and praise."
be the
realise
make
skill.
toils of human
all the
this then
husband
world
modest
raise the virtues, animate
And
Let
wisdom,
;
"
"
There
a
thy
is
haven
"
a
"
of..
a little world
safetyagainstthe tempests of life,
and
of joy and
love, of innocence
tranquillity.
not
there, nor
nor
jealousies,
Suspicions are
falsehood
with her double tongue, nor
the venom
Peace
embraceth
it with outspread
of slander.
there.
When
a
man
wings ; plenty broodeth
and
entereth
it,he forgettethhis sorrows
cares
".
"
"
"
disappointments; he openeth his heart to
confidence, and to pleasures not mingled with
and
a
virtuous
The
not
and
the
husband
the
claims
can
be
it
conscience:
that
private judgment
religion and God, not
allowed
"
wiselysaid,
of
"
to
does
remembered,
of
be
home
woman/^
part,
to
pertainingto
is the well-ordered
amiable
husband^s
extend
Over
been
world
This
remorse.
"
interfere.
is
God^s.
in
things
even
a
It
has
Tlie \ivvs\"aa3L'\ia.'^
^o
li'^t to
.
SPECIAL
He
what
has
no
to become
no
;
of
be
115
WIPE.
unlawful.
or
morally wrong
right to compel the partner of his life
or
ments
amusea partner in sinful pleasures
charge
right to interfere with the proper disher religious
duties, or requireher to
command
"
THE
OP
DUTIES
is
of his vices
the instrument
in
these
follies/'
or
be
must
matters
science
Con-
supreme.
Neither
father, mother, sister,
brother, husband,
wife, or
child, can
reign
here
it is God's
:
place
alone.
II. Strive
make
.
it
make
happy.
home
To
earthlyparadise.
worthy, happy.
E'en
"
to
an
in the
Has
The
and
Endeavour
make
to
is the
Sweet
When
Sweet
The
smile
home
your
hearts
of home
are
of each
;
joys that
crowd
haunt
of all affections
sure
let this
thought
when
he
home,
and
that
he
his weary
work
have
to
may
spirit. He
instinctively
say
to
:
cheer
throws
work,
be
will thus
often
to himae\i\
"
his
and
haven
a
him, ; and
off
nice
everything so
feel home
look
pure."
his labours
sure
husband
your
the household
Amid
be
;
attractive,
so
the mutual
other
all the
reaches
all is done
still be won."
must
and sweet, that it shall be to
lovely,
the brightestspot upon
earth, for
"
it beautiful,
given,
gained, that
prize of happiness
to
favouring heaven
fortune
easy
not, the husband
Think
make
happiest choice, where
equal love
Study
"
cap,
orderly
of rest
while
to
at his
116
HOMES.
HAPPY
and
Rainy
"
There's
day,
waiting for somebody
heart
a
and
be up
I must
sets the
rough
away
Thrice
hath
she been
Thrice
hath
she
Midst
be
a
There'll be
for
There's
the
attire
be
a
he loves
home
coat
a
of
The
chair,
o'er the
care,
endearments
for
be
they'll
making
for
It
The
happy,
is because
making
Home
rind
this
somebodv."
be
ills of life ; and
not
a
is no
led
in
consist
in
"
compensation
Swift
Dean
marriages
few
so
ladies
young
nets, and
should
that
why
reason
should
arms.
woman
j,there
happy
somebody
somebody.
for
in my
a
;
charms,
blest will be
was
say,
in
got both
oh ! how
her home
this.
^^
wakened
happiness of
true
best.
somebody.
There'll be the little one's
Then
west,
wife's tender
Love's fond
I've
;
slippersfor somebody
There'll be
Tliere'll be
the
set from
the bosom
Warming
When
;
shining for somebody.
star
a
Lighting
;
somebody.
comforting fire,
slippersfor somebody
the stars
Though
Soon
somebody
look to the table for somebody
Will
;
gate,
for
listened
in her neatest
There'll
somebody
to the
Somebody's looking
One
for
night, stormy and late.
the
There'll
,
is anxious
Somebody
""
;
spend
to
are
"
their time
making cages.''
shelter
from
"yet\iOYf
fe^
the
a\m
anxiety
\"
Ts^s^^b
118
HAPPY
it should
For
depend
"
evil under
every
There
is
If there
remedy,
a
specialduties
and
impossibleto
evade
first step
to
sun
there *s
or
none.
find it ;
mind
never
none,
it."
that
obligations
if you
Cecil says,
perhaps,as
done.
he a life
must
lifehenceforth
of
life brings with it a series of
your
Married
exertion.
the
try and
is one,
JjTthere is
Remember
be
it
upon
For
it should
when
and
done,
be
HOMES.
to
are
we
know
is
wise
thing
absolutely
happy ; and
be
know
to
"
it is
say of
may
"
""
"
them,
that
The
we
are
""
ignorant/^
III.
It
INTENTIONS.
is
a
If
"
wish, but
we
those
If you
we
be
the
on
determine
look
ask
why there
only reply :
us
are
gain
make
for
so
It
the
best
is those
inconsistent
in
few
..
"
home
it you
means
that
"
thing.
some-
your
upon
all
fail to
may
to
:
than
more
We
sure
to
out
high
rise
never
secure
good
reach
not
may
lovely,depend
realisingyour wishes.
random, irregular,and
who
are
with
out
small.
are
happy, cheerful,and
will
to
sure
want, but
we
set
high,we
are
we
desires
whose
get all
aim
WO
to
live
of'
by
"
methods,
anything. If
happy homes, we
you
"
can
"
1. While
worked
2.
been
they
desired, they
are
are
seldom
for.
There
no
can
sowing.
be
no
reaping where
there
has
""
DUTIES
SPECIAL
THE
OF
people sow, that and nothing
like all the
Like produceth*
they reap.
3. Whatsoever
else
will
"
world
"
over.
Consequently,if
Home/'
sweet
laid down
""
THE
op
we
Order
"
for
BEFOREHAND,
mending,
..
which
often
all
Men
'^
a
of the
that
the meal
be
cast
not
put
a
time
hour
aside
with
*
.
Rousseau
make
ho*me
on
the
them."
;
good
world
^^
Men
Who
button
to
has
see
temper
short,
moment,
tea.
or
and
woman
a
And
house.
not
so
thing
no-
sweet
a
rattlingplate exactly at
while fancy-work will soon
contempt,
ready for
husbands
husbands
good
says,
the
shirts
rule,make
transform
"
of
dinner
to
of her
manager
sound
as
a
only
not
at the last
than
better
in
.
"
time
is
there
"
clever
prepare
tidiness,method;
the finest music
as
in
sit down
ready to
are
love neatness,
is
who
...
stitch
a
when
occur
proverb
By which
to
are
you
to
lueals, washing, clothes-
the
pleases them
.
the
as
first law/'
little article is wanted
some
when
":
*
well
nine, but prevents those outbreaks
saves
or
;''or
that
For
etc.
conditions
Looking
^^
is heaven's
^'Home,
a
the
to
saying,
wise
understand
to
are
attend
HOUSEHOLD
HER
have
to
are
you
must
you
in that
WAYS
puts it,
..
119
WIFE.
into
if the buttons
use.
;
Good
while
bad
bad
ones;
are
wives,
wives
or
as
will
always be what women
would, for instance, expect
happiness to spring out of the following
incident?"
A few weeks
after marriage,a husband
had aome
y^\J6si%^\"k."\sj^
peculiartbougVitavAi'sia.
120
HOMES.
HAPPY
last clean
lie
shirt,as
no
saw
washing. He thereupon
one
morning, and kindled
made
kettle,he
the
on
When
fire.
noise
a
than
on
a
usual
putting
to
purpose
She
wife.
his
earlier
rose
a
of
appearance
immediately peeped over
the blankets, and then exclaimed, "My dear, what
He
are
responded,
deliberately
doing ?
you
Fve put on my
last clean shirt,and l^m
going
for myself.^' "Very
to
wash
well,^'
now
one
repliedMrs. Easy, you had better wash one for
arouse
^'
"
.
"
"
too, while
me,
such
method
a
soured.
even
angel
an
all you
lay yourselfout
to learn
it tends
useful,and
of
the
to
would
would
If,therefore,you
Of
it.^'
at
are
you
be
can,
with
course
.
become
soon
wise,you
and
see
will
"..
that
"""
habits
by cultivating
thought,frugality,
care, patience,
perseverance,
diligence,cheerfulness, and system, you will be
enabled
largelyto add to the happinessof home.
IV.
Some
A
WIFE
women
SHOULD
are
butterflies
from
said, "
Whose
Resolve
never
KEEPER-AT-HOME.
"
everlastingly
gadding
about
flower
such
be
a
flower;
to
feet abide
to
A
BE
in her
not
of
Mrs.
say,"
**
far from
Hence
That
The
Give
fade before
crowded
Where
me
Where
me,
ye
ye
home's
home,
hours
reach
and
to
untold
joys
the heart,
distracted
all is pomp
my
senseless
useless
"
noise.
art !
quiet dear.
and i^eac^^\3\
xtios^
"
it is
house.''
own
with
gossip,but
like
Opie
"
"
So
fate ordain
While
it
woman's
is
place
writer
discreet,keeping
Yes,
.
of
.
*^The
love, the
joyment,
.
"
.
.
tender
the
It
sures,
wealth
desires
.
An
temple
is home
to
of
endure
This
its
its
loves
in its
of
of
retreat
its
enjoy
where
en-
childhood,
luxuries, and
rigours;
of
.
circle of all
is the
to
asylum
garden
the
concord,
health
to revel
bear
be
to
the
"
virtue,the
manhood.
is here
inspired
women
young
the playground
relationships,
age.
out, it is
be
home.
woman
of
nursery
dwellingof
best
I love."
home, good, obedient,''etc.
at
sphereof
the
at
the
Teach
'*
says,
there
place to
be
to
121
WIFE.
of him
man's
a
THE
I sometimes
the voice
hear
May
OP
DUTIES
SPECIAL
plea*
poverty
sickness
can
and
dissolvingnature
most
speak of
contentedly expires. Shall we
the happiness of a husband
whose
bliss to so
considerable
is created by a woman
extent
true
to her noble
spiritand vocation? or the character
and future well-beingfor both worlds
of a family,
if there
the
on
be
order
her
the
manj
an
the
or
comfort'
of
servants, and
and
mestic
pleasantworking of the whole doconstitution,all of which depends so much
?
such home
seat
one
a
Why, to make
of holiness
with
?
one
pains,
and
happiness,to
influence
fascination
sweet
so
of connubial
influence
over
so
countenances
many
hearts
with
such
one
fill one
and
such
sacred, to throw
feelingand
of maternal
community, to
with delight,to
content, axA
sphere
\iO
ate
irradifillso
Y^^^^ast*^
'^'^
122
HOMES.
HAPPY
.
characters
many
such
object would
an
worth
for their
incarnation
an
"
Man
But
this
should
This her
"
deemed
by
angel
an
earth/'
upon
should
woman
To
be
for wealth
may
part in life,
future
and
glory roam,
be blest at home
all her
studies
great objectand
;
tend,
her
end."
"
V.
There
of the
is
for
often
neglected by many
of England, and that is, the best
wives
means
duty
a
preserving
How
health.
their
com-
few married
meet
women
we
with, who
paratively
are
anything like healthy and strong ; they can
neither
eat, drink, nor
sleep as they ought.
far more
of the present day are
English women
feeble than
their grandmothers of the early part
of this century. Surely there
be a cause,
must
and
if we
find it out, it is our
can
duty to do
what
iug
we
to
can
are
a
few
of the
which
mar
the
In
the
first
out- door
is
should
a
until
to
We
take
think
prominent
of
Indeed
they
do
walk
day, even
Then
.
hindrances
they
don't
often
to
want
in the
enough
say, they
go
Every
open
:"
..
out.
woman
".
air every
It
only for a short time.
would
be a complete change for her, and will do
a
promoting her health in a
great deal towards
varietyof ways.
fine
"
the follow-
take
not
fatal mistake.
a
.
wives.
our
place, they
great and
try
it.
more
health
exercise.
stop indoors
This
remedy
.
if it is
again there
tke
is tTae -pTO^et Ne^TLXi^^^YorcLO.^
"
:
^
124
HAPPY
Dr.
Hamilton
HOMES.
in
says
Happy Home^^
a happy home.
*^
"
Six
"..
to create
thingsare requisite
1
Integritymust be the architect.
2. Tidiness
the upholsterer.
3. It must
be warmed
by affection.
4. Lighted by cheerfulness.
be the ventilator.
5. Industry must
6. While
all, as a protecting canopy,
over
nothing will suflBce except God^s blessing.
.
VI.
We
Then
are
it is
with
women
and
its
regard
What
the
heads
covering to
things now
If
it is in women^s
the
fashion
in ladies^
You
it
y
in dress.
look
nice.
the
on
Tvi ether
the
Most
Indeed
orderly woman
houFj
and
clean
and
be neat
can
badly ;
health
consult
to
that
some
our
"
no
"
wonder
any
prevalent
so
needed
"
would
"
one
well
as
of
call the
reform
a
was
dress,
and
can^t
you
"
as
style
clothing!
gant
at
(for
Oh,
their
thin shoes
with
dress.
would
of the
attacks
the
resist
there
ever
"
one
of
"
"
subject,
blindness
bonnets), is
worn
them.
among
or
some
face-ache, consumption, etc., is
that
set
time
to the nature
climate.
dress.
delicate
a
mental
the
to
insufficiency
variable
is
this
high
against
out
of
(question
tbe
that
aware
nevertheless
speak
is
there
like
men
is
there
contrary,
should
she
wash-tub.
a
be
be in the
no
to
yet not
see
virtue
extrava-
their wives
in
seen
""
dressing
thoroughly neat
fit to be
:
and
.
.
at any
kitchen, the parlour,
"Wasitno^*
^om^^
^a.-^'^-
DUTIES
SPECIAL
courting? and
of
A
now?
."case
should
"
"
for if you
OP
desire to
begin
such
not
in
please
leave
"
ance
appear-
single day;
a
A
to
,
should
woman
never
at the
appear
We
know
untidy or badly dressed.
thing to say
anything will do
meal-table
it is
a
will
there
"
do
Many
found
neatness,
made
of
the
arts
without
the
to
for the
not
of personal
matter
have
the
notion
of
personal beauty in
They buy their clothes
and
economy,
have
with
the
from
a
mestic
are
the
circle
Nor
of
doing.
in
so
danger
,
like
our
a
feather-bed
as
soon
do
part, we
of the
as
the
is at all conducive
affection.
need
of
banishment
summary
domestic
idea
For
string.
its appearance,
makes
any
any
suggests only the
toilet
that
"
was
question of behence
marriage sometimes
comingness; and
transforms
a
charming, trim, tripping young
lady into a waddling matron, whose
every-day
round
.
thing
any-
never
would
somehow
seem
up
..
"
in
family life is unmatronly.
with
to
simple reference
them
"
who
women,
wanting
study
any
But
moniing.^^
^'
;
,
worthy
be
that
a
now
mistake.
greater
a
world
for
common
'^
^^
.
the
neglectyour selfyou will find
it the short and easy road to neglect the house.
A dirtywoman
and a dirtyhouse
generallygo
together. Excuse a word of advice on this topic:
.
.
be
your
for
you
125
WIPK.
should
why
never
THE
do
we
These
think
tied
lieve
be-
not
graces
first
baby
to
do-
that there
good
is
housewives
otVier ^satl\.^,qS.i"aii^'^^x"iM5"
126
the
HAPPT
HOMES.
neglectingthe body through too
for others and too little for
thoughtfulness
If
let her
her
a
woman
and
try
domestic
Do
^^
ask
you
her
The
best
all
of
this
words
^^
mind,
while
'^
with
a
"
of
..
can
'^
neatness
and
a
"
dirtyface.
of the
evidence
an
one
ribbon
flaring'
a
of
son;
John-
give you
can
"
on.^'
associated
always
days
of Dr.
respect is, that
that
never
is
I
that
more
home.
in these
she had
things see
Tawdriness
verty
of
one
as
comes
neatness
evidence
what
showy dress,are
^^
is
? listen to the
remember
Above
down
husband
the
perfection in
never
"
is becoming at all times, and
what
extravagance
^^
attractiveness,
any
keep it,settingit
especiallywhen
so
had
ever
selves.
them-
talents.^^
Neatness
"
much
of
error
becometh
po-
"
even
the most
enlightened. Thus by care of health,in
taking proper exercise,seeing to the ventilation
of your sleepingapartments, and dressingin such
to protect you from
a
as
manner
danger, in these
do much
towards
making not only
ways you may
health a possibility
but a certainty.
VII.
Let
HAVE
A
strong
been
said that
see
husband
your
TO
DESIRE
MAKE
and
HIM
before
marriage,women
know
that
HAPPY.
marriage, men
should begin ; and
you
It haS
court; after
if you
""
do,
he
"""
"
will feel that
"
Those
Prom
mean
thousand
all your
soznething.
decencies
words
and
And
it
\a
which
dailyflow,
actions,'*
a\i\^^^^SL^3!DiMi^fot^
.
SPECIAL
DUTIES
feel that
there
OF
is
listen to his troubles, one
of
which
life,one
pillow upon
How
head.
.weary
shines
thus
fireside
her
that
displayed, and
she
to his
cords
"
his
rest
can
wife
good
a
her
own
most
are
cultivation
her
husband
fireside.
Ah
of
with
"
little knows
He
"
"
storms
the
binds
own
the
by
prudence
by
where,
to
open
It is
and
love
homely virtues,
silken
home.
at
most
he
ear
it is that
true
127
WIFE.
always one
refuge from
to
man
.
..
THE
"
A
it will
Deems
dim, and
grief may
And
hopeless hours,
and
cold wind
I" storms
sunless
rise,
her
days
despair the gloomy future fill
she loves through good
loving once
and
that
and
"
his
yours;
and
you
will
ill."
interests,comforts, wishes,
then
be
partakerof
Heaven,
virtuous
by
made
his
a
natural
very
sharer
a
pleasures.
Such
the love
purer,
holier than
Sisters
children
from
woman
"Save
feels for him
woman
brothers"
From
quence,
conse-
of his
Let
him
joys
feel
we
that
she'd
part from
from
pay
their
the husband
cleave
sisters"
brothers
parents
of her
"
bat
choice.
!"
Never
Or
were
life to.
Through
To
"
"
To
A
spoke
dark
therefore
a
on.
of bliss is gone,
And
.
skies,
come
years,
all be
blows,
may
cloud
sorrow
all that
when
the
And
Let
^^
No
change.
And
But
.
heart, who, when
woman's
to
the
use
the
good
language
wife this
:
of
an
old
15 Gjo^l^x^n^
adviser
i
"
"aa"a"^w^'"^^
128
HAPPY
thee, enjoy it
virtues,in
but
thyself,
not
thine husband
the
; express
the amiableness
carriage. Forget it
it
HOMES.
in
the
not
midst
set
upon
of
thy inward
loving and sweet
temper
of
crown
a
a
"
in affliction ; utter
even
.
of
Let
bodily weakness.
thy pleasinginfluence break through all opposition
breaks
and sorrows,
the summer
as
through the
clouds ; yea, though eclipsed
thick mist or dark
in part, yet shine in part, and let a glimmering
even
.
for the
for thee
cheer
the
of
day
worthy
can
day
thee,
of
so
husband
him
sorrow
:
when
to
him,
"
he
while
play the
when
merry,
""
thank-
thee,
but then
:
forsaken
have
friend,made
It is not
without
make
to
true
a
thine
himself
or
sickness,of
of
season
cheer
to
prosperitylasts
comforts
other
art
adversity.
orator, and
sweet
thou
Remember,
appear.
all
in the
this is better
.
sad
than
,
melody. Every busy bird, while
summer
lasts,will chirp and chatter; but to sing
when
the bare
the
bough or thorn-bush
upon
leaves are
gone, and the cold winter approacheth,
this argues a wife truly graceful,truly amiable
to the souVs
and cheerful,and, next
with
peace
and
all music
"
..
...
under
the sun.
greatest content
but to
to play the hypocrite,
woman
is the
God,
exhort
no
to
uttermost
apply herself
truth
with
say
"Tie
world
Is the
*
do
If you
husband.^'*
that
the
comfort
this,he will
be
of
the
her
able
"
well tried
undoubted
to
I
"
the
weVcome
sweetest
ot
"*
thing in life,
mfe."
Hogera' "Matrimoma\"".ouoMTr
\^*i",^.^\^.
to
"
SPECIAL
VIII.
has
"
he
DUTIES
Study
generallyformed
He
.
you
..into
bed, and
to
goes
must
expect
some
of his
great
to
has
Of
"
every
His
house
tear
she
of other
"these
you,
Across
kissed
off
to
enters, there
to be
so
fall
to
you
things are
let it be
said
:
"
led,
shed
as
he
things;
little
soon
before
how
the threshold
as
man
gets up and
he
he will look
ways:
A
"
himself
when
hundreds
little men.^'
And
habits.
pleased
gone,
that
129
WIPE.
of his habits
many
he has
dressed, where
THE
husband^s
your
marries.
OP
;
light
Shining within, when all without is night ;
A guardian angel o'er his life presiding,
Doubling his pleasure,and his cares
dividing!
him
Winning
From
To
a
vain
fire-side
Blest with
How
To
Mirth
arid
.
love, alas !
we
happiness, and
hours
in the
too
throng,
long.
of ease,
the
that charm,
the watch
on
subject; ever
of his mirth, and sorrow
to
meet
by-and-by
in all his ways.
.
world
mingling
certaintyto please.
oft her eyes read his I her gentle mind
all his wishes, all his thoughts inclined;
Still
Try
back, when
a
him
he will
in
his
to borrow
of his sorrow."
whims
feel that he
Indeed,
as
the
and
can
fancies,
trust
you
Spectatorsaid,
'^
A
fairly
enjoysher part as a wife who
does not patronize
her husband
small
a good deal on
is not
points,and who
mildly conscious of her
own
superiorityto him in that emancipation of
makes
her
spirit which
indulgence of these
^
fancies ot his seem
like spoi^Mi^\ms\*
so
^^"^
woman
never
130
HOMES.
HAPPY
yourselfattacli
matters
properly
'
him
he
when
cockering/
When
his
head,
you
when
it
the little
it is not
lament
cold from
and
in wet
comes
bathe
or
importance to
for him, so far
after
look
you
real
any
a
over
"
storm,
snow-
aches, with
eau-
de-Cologne, or see that he has his tonic at the
scold the servants
he is ill,or
right hour when
he
before
for disturbing his nap
his
sets
to
break
an
unexpected bill to
evening work, or
him
in all these
are
cases
simply giving
you
him
hearty sympathy not cockering him
your
that his food is as
But it is in taking care
up.
he likes it;that that odd fancy of his is gratified
'
^
"
"
"
"
pudding with roast beef;
that that curious dislike to being fidgeted by
or
down
the blinds
the servant's entering to draw
and shut the shutters in his study,is humoured
;
that that unfortunate
taste for plenty of cream
or
having Yorkshire
about
in his tea, which
spoilsit
is satisfied
you
feel full
up, and
to
so
it is in
"
things
these
delight of cockering
face beams
finer
your
ception,
perthat
husband
your
with
something of
what
angelic light' in conceding to his frailty
feel entirely independent of for yourself.
you
Nay, a truly cockeringwife will usuallywithhold
something out of very self-denial,and in order
that your
^
"
to
clinch
gives what
her
that
ought
not
the
sense
she
of free
gift with
give.
It
does
all of
to be
these
seems
which
so
clear
she
to
"
superfluouslittle caprices
humouxei
on
lest
"^Tmci^le,
her
132
HOMES.
HAPPY
smiling, ventured
and
happy
of
secret
his
''
secret/'he replied;
of wives
word
kind
of
I have
work
to
go
got
she
meets
no
of the best
has
always
for me,
with
me
''It's
one
she
encouragement
home,
come
I
when
j
cheerfiilness.
constant
the
ask- him
to
and
I
when
and
smile
a
a
a
ready,and she has
done so
things through the day to please
many
find in my heart to speak an
that I cannot
me,
unkind
word
to anybody/'
kiss,and
X.
is
the tea
Study
husband's
your
ber, it always takes
he
happens
calm
will then
all
with
abstain
should
from
keep
duties
should
is the
a
be
a
never
about
inclined
to
long argument
a
best
husband
of
magic
themselves
'^
standing motto,
ness
with
And
wound
wife.
to
way
in
As
a
never
irritate her
"
""
""
"
if
""
"
part.
art
this heart."
disputewith
with
a
good temper
one
joy say
him.
is
""
""
".
to
of the
one
'^
"
it
Gentle-
point, and
well remarks
husband
you,
Let
to irritate J^
carry
and
""
of sorts, try and
the housewife's
played'st
thy threads
^Eemem-
"
quarrel;
thou
If he
a
out
a
Well
Have
be
home
He
temper.
to make
two
come
down.
him
"
to
be
to
sure
"
A
wife
by acting
""
in
oppositionto his prejudices. A husband
usually
has little crotchety notions, about
which
he is
be in themselves
of no
: these
very particular
may
but yet if they are
moment,
constantlythwarted
s^ud contradicted, they N^ffl.cotci^
\"o \i^ looked
""
-
'*'-
.**,
DUTIES
SPECIAL
upon
weighty matters,
as
lead
to grave
your
house
.
the
"
;
wrath,
.
speaketh like
the
but
grievous words
continual
A
and
sions ; the
gratifyhis loose
trials of life,
to
soothe
and
his
recompense
You
need
If
had
do
"
"
so
"in
.
""
the
made
man*s
of his pas-
merely
to
in the
thy tenderness,
soft endearments.
of whom
it
enjoined to try the
and
husband,
his
on
"bilin*
tried
alike/*
are
woman
been
her
rainy
very
to assist him
with
care
on
sooner
pass
told that
head
;
replied
water,** and
as
it
retentive
minute.
idle
than
of their wrongs.
But
sneer
or
a
a
Do
look
men,
but
It is out
is
man
not
it is true,
Women,
away.
easilyprovoked
again and again.
An
a
''
more
a
And
bit of
a
...it. It will
are
anger/*
good, she was rather doubtful
of
coals.**
the efficacy
he does say a provoking thing, try and bear
didn*t
about
away
on
with
coals of fire
heap
she
that
"
him
imitate
not
efiect of kindness
it would
turneth
art
desires,but
but
the pro-
says
woman,
thou
said, that having
was
stir up
your
sword,
a
companion, not the slave
end
of thy being is not
reasonable
make
''There
comfort.
dropping
remember,
frequently
lest you
answer
contentious
a
will
133
unpleasant that
soft
again,
''
and
find
and
Meanwhile,
.
A
''
WIPE.
piercingof
is health/*
wise
of the
THE
Beware
so
to
again,
day,
be
to
away
goes
tongue
verb
disputes/*
appear
husband
is that
OP
apt
to brood
therefore
o"
not
are
and
gone
over
it
stit \s.^ ^W"^*
^V^^
mciT^^\iJC\\"^
"^^"s^
134
HAPPY
HOMES.
good resolve.
exposed to the world has enough to
Every man
having it stirred
try his temper abroad, without
Be therefore on the watch
at home.
against
up
of whose
Happy is the man
provoking to wrath.
be truly said,
wife it can
tlie death-blow
been
to
a
many
""
.
"
**
! blessed
Oh
Can
make
She
who
Or,
if she
cheerful
to-morrow
ne'er
him,
husband
has
dispositionbe embodied
lifers journey
experience, and
this
Let
smoother
ray
!
cools,
she rules
shows
never
day
to
as
till her
answers
rules
unclouded
temper, whose
;
by accepting,by submitting sways,
when
she obeys."
her humour
most
Charms
Yet
with
in
your
will
daily
much
be
*
get into the habit of
husband
feel,in the words
it will if you
than
nagging.^' Let
of Shakspeare,
"
your
"
"
Happy
A
she may
She
ig
learn
bred
not
;
dull
so
Commits
itself to yours
he should
woman's
*
But
To
rosy
thing
of
beauty
'
That
is
it must
for the rest, there
it scold
*joyfor ever,' is
blows
much
may
learn
;
directed."
be
reference
good
to
see
cleanlyout.
cut
surely be
exist
to you"
;
a
;
doubt.
through breakfast, lunch,
Is apt to put the best
No
to
can
gentle spirit
say with
mouth
old
so
she
soft,sculptured lines
its
hear
but
is,that her
of all
than
yet
happier than this,
and
Happiest
With
A
this, she is not
But
Rather
"
in
and
tea,
digestionout.
the
ruby mouth
oftener feom'
'*
xvox-^a.'SkV'CQSMa.^QwSijQL!
careful
'
Be
.
your
how
It is
word
A
Oh
!
A
unkind
air
And
a
"
ruder
touch
a
taken
"
had
shaken.
in
rush
soon
"
shook,
never
like this
will
words
yea,
look,
wrongly
or
love, that tempests
breath,
of
feelings
even
by
the angry
easilydone,
Something, lightas
13*5
WIPE.
THE
rouse
you
husband.
**
OP
DUTIES
SPECIAL
spread the breach that words begin ;
And
eyes forgetthe gentle ray
in courtship'ssmiling day :
They wore
To
And
A
round
tenderness
Till fast
that
lose the love
voices
they said
by one,
all
declining,one
The
sweetnesses
And
hearts
Like
broken
shed
of love
are
gone
latelymingled,
so
clouds,
or
;
;
seem
like the
stream
brow.
smiling left the mountain's
ne'er could sever.
As though its waters
Yet, ere it reach the plain below.
That
Breaks
Dare
of
.
we
if you
temper
man
.
.
to
is bad
be
be
of
not
avoided
enough
and
woman,
part
allude,in passing,to
temper, viz.,that
ness,
.
into floods that
that
;
woman
far ever."
the
oppositekind
''
Sulkisulky woman.
blind
to perceive it,is a
A
by all means.
sulky
a
be
what, then, must
a
wife ;
a
a
constant
sulky
in-
companion day and night? Only think
of the delight of sittingat the same
table and
bed for a week, and not exchanging
sleepingin the same
V^^^
word
all the while ! Very ba"d^^
a
mate,
a
-scolding for
such
a
lengOa-oi\Am^\
V^'^^^sis*^^
136
HOMES.
HAPPY
far
better
and
look
time
the
family ;
will
or
at
the
The
reason.
is unable
to
party
frame
it is better
house
;
and
"
"
not
be
to
take
have
the
to
married
to
""
founded
"
therefore
ex-
for
remedy
The
it to
from
"
unjustifiably;
offence
complaint, and
a
suffer
is to
sulkiness
but
takes
displeasureby silence.
presses
.
of
other
arises
Sulkiness
her.
capriciousdispleasure,displeasurenot
in
some
yourself;and you
this respect marriage
in
that
mend
not
of
symptoms
will,
one
eyes
your
perhaps towards
or
quite sure
be
may
it towards
other,show
or
She
exist.
unhappily
it
this, if
discover
will
sharp, you
have
If you
sulks.
than
""
swing;
its full
disease
""
in your
of
it is little short
""
madness.*^
"
If
Yes,
vainly Betty performs
For
a
ruffled head
and
As
well
we
repeat,try and
as
the couch
a
her
part,
rumpled heart,
making
wants
"
keep a good temper
old
or
"
saying puts it,"whatever
you
may
choose
to give away,
keep your temper.^^ You
of the
will then be able to testifyto the truth
be so
it is possiblethat a man
can
remark, that
not
recognise
changed by love, that we would
And never
him
to be the
same
forget
;
person
that no
neglect of duty on his part, can be any
for neglect of yours, therefore,
excuse
as
the
;
"
"
""
''
"
Seek
A
to be
woman^s
good, but
noblest
aim
not
to be
great
ata\"\OTL\aTQ\itQ"^"\
:
138
HAPPY
should
have
careful
to
and
confidants;
no
conceal
with
occur
HOMES.
should
little discord
any
husband.
her
she
For
if
be
that
one
may
be
person
"
spreads,and the wife has
to regret having lowered
long bitter cause
in popular estimation;
herself and her husband
but, worst of all,a husband
rarelyforgets,
which
such an exposure,
never
quiteforgives,
informed,
ere
both
scandal
the
""
and
Eichardson
as
long after
is
"
observes,
to be
sure
bered
remem-
people have forgotten
the honest
it themselves/^
XII.
Also
HUSBAND
IN
He
can
alone
THE
gives
you
can^t
afibrd
Many
wife
You
a
to
have
prepared
be
MATTER
tell what
good
has
spend
in this way.
he
this
before
The
ners
in
the
same
equallyanxious
or
that
right
to
husband
her
concern,
his
she
and
both
"
he
satisfied.
""
money.
feels that
penny
if he
that
happinessof
who
no
and
"
by allowing his
earned
risk the
rightto spend every
forgets that she has
squander it. She and
;
supposing
that, be
he has
woman
a
spare
ruined
been
rightto
can
your-.
EXPENSES.
FAMILY
for
reason
buy
to
man
no
OP
to
submit
to
home
she
has
get,
can
waste
are
"
or
part-
should
.
be
nightmare, debt,
Home
duties will ever
far, far away.
require
the spirit
of sacrifice to keep all things going
in
well, and women
are
especiallyinterested
inasmuch
as
keeping down
family expenses,
"^i ^^^^
\i^is a
there
"pTo\""i)cSi\\"'^
every
year
to
keep
that
"
-
SPECIAL
larger.
coming
many
may
"
it be
Heaven
DUTIES
OP
Instead
truly
said
bless
the
wives,
little
bees
of
They
soothe
don't
But
"
life's
they
139
WIPE.
doing
so,
of
liow
"
and
fill
they
.
With
THE
honey
shocks,
spend
hives
!
they
the
our
mend
money
our
!
"
socks,
CHAPTER
FOUR
LESSONS
PROM
HE
rS.
THE
wives
LAND],ADT
of
these
:
good fire; 3,
4,
a
married
Let
Both
made
Even
by the other,
other
men
say
to
us
and
far
I. A
to
dirt ? and
seek
try
to
out
make
of
some
the
homes
in
a
made
lovely things
many
us
has
is not
"
a
in
it
them,
"
lovely
having,
"
godliness;
be
God
landlady's example,
things,
HOUSE."
Cleanliness,we
CLEAN
can
;
the
closely connected
who
it is
wilderness/'
wives
other
among
divine
world
Let
"
sweet,
they like, this
enjoy.
let the
is done
stars."
with
""
lead
to
this side of the
on
what
so
a
inconceivable
one
"
world,
by copying
next
of love,
howling
beautiful
two
2,
;
.
smile; and,
his work
heavens
There
four
they are
house
cheerful
a
say, when
are
clean
a
WIFE.
learn
may
great inducements
^are
**
waste
for
"
to
man
The
'^
word
kind
a
THE
and
landlady,
That
1,
"
England
the
lessons from
TO
and
we
with
reallyhappy
yet
some
are
quite sure
home
in the
"houae^
axe^
are
told, is
that it is
happiness.
midst
"
For
of filth and
TXiot^X^^
:"
"
^\%%\i^^'e,
FROM
LESSONS
have
eat the bacon
to
would
fancy it
house, the
well-ordered
.
If
it
spiritof
like
not
of them,
some
reasty.
141
WIFE.
THE
should
we
of
out
rather
be
TO
Indeed,
anything else.
than
to
LANDLADY
THE
we
enter
we
a
prevailsover
genial influence.
While, on the contrary,a disorderlyhouse spreads
all around
its evil spiritover
; and this as a rule is
of a little method
all owing to the want
: for work
rather then
done without
a
plan often increases
clean.
of keeping a house
decreases
the labour
feel at
everything,we
.
"
..
Hence
"
..
"
would
we
now
and
from
the 1 0th
breakfast
at that
and
that tidiness is
untidiness
a
untidybody, she
^hurried at dinner
"
tidy,
chapter of Proverbs,
31st
Remember,
verse.
Look
sorrow.
.
the
wife. Be
every
cheerfulness,and
of
source
read
then
to
say
its
once
cross
"
of
source
is
^'
a
late at
at tea.**
Do
.
you
that she is unhappy, and
wonder
that her influence
spread all over the house ? One
so
one
drop of dirty water will pollutea glassful,
untidy habit will upset the happiness of a whole
Where
there is turmoil there is alwaysdiscomfort;
house.
and such untidy people are always in a
Such things ought not to be.**
kind of low fever.
is
for harm
.
.
''
"
Industrious
habits
with
of
peace
temper, and
"
Strive
.wish
the
to
to be
devil
have
mind,
a
'^
tidy.
all
warm
finds
a
man
close
of
cheerfulness
bodilyhealth.
be
very
Rub
Hence
your
own
day,**is good
or
woman
connection
spirit,
good
we
again,
say
tables
advice
if you
;
idle,he
for if
^e^^ssb-
.
..
ralljBots
him
or
her to work, \i \\" V^ o^^
"^^
^^
142
HAPPY
unlovely sight in theis a listless,
dirty,slatternlywoman.
spoilthe best furniture and the best
mischief.
She
If there
it
world,
would
houses
HOMES.
in
a
is
persons
habits.
These
would
things
for the
had
want,
Some
soul.
life
They have no
always hoping something
windfall
them
to
come
quarter. Now,
much
so
the
in
them.
will
from
better
face
look
with
"
better,
as
women
the world
into
is not
change
soon
better.
come
It
time.
short
very
dwellingssuch
they
an
as
of
"
if*
only half a
They are
turn
or
up,
"
a
unknown
some
if
they would only make up their
minds
to try and improve a little every
day, they
learn the happy knack
of putting
might soon
the face of things.
on
a bright appearance
Once upon a time, a sturdy peasant was
at work
".
'
field,amid
in the
in
rain, and
evening, tired and drenched
loving wife said, My dear,it has
the
hard
not
wet
through,
me
any
wetter.
from
'^
took
the
you
shall
buckets
The
two
any
be
well, which
was
I have
As
obliged to
argument
buckets
raining
so
supper.
of water
; you
was
and
at
you
you
to
cannot
striking;
fetched
a
skin.
some
considerable
On
reaching his house, he found his
ing
comfortably seated by the fire ; there, liftbucket
after another, he poured the conone
distance.
wife
I
couple of
therefore
water
tenta
a
to
the
been
fetch water,
not
make
able
fetch
he
I could
been
are
get
that
home
went
to
^^
His
so
and
storm
over
his considerate
^paTW^T. ""S^-^^^fe
"
said
"
as
may
get
'^
he,
any
into
comb
and
of their
some
brush
to
"
answer,
"
THE
as
143
WIFE.
I am,
so
yourself:you
you
can't
wetter/'
Go
happen
wet
for
fetch water
well
TO
quite as
are
you
LANDLADY
THE
PROM
LESSONS
dinner
the
on
word
a
say
houses,and
about
it doesn't
Well,
if that made
you will find the
table,and
it, you
touch
if you
get for
the
bread
an
or
it the
rightplace for
can't help saying of such
We
such thingsto be.
did he pick her
Wherever
Do
creatures,
up ?
therefore try and
a
place for everything
keep
and everything in its place,"and you
will soon
butter."
.
As
"
"
'^
"
find its benefits
surprising how clever some
in turning things to a good account
and
contrivance
practice. Even
It
"
is
women
by
to
may
are
a
little
unsightly
something comfortable,
an
changed into
which
costs but
tidy,and useful,by a cover
Over every kitchen
mantel-pieceit would
box
"
of ways.
in numbers
be
placethe
motto
'^
WASTE
a
trifle.
be
well
"
WANT
NOT,
NOT,
OB
NOTHING
WASTED,
BUT
ALL
ALL
ENJOYED
!
"
astonishinghow some
people rub on
and
day after day, subjectto constant annoyance
irritation
from
which
a
triflingcause,
very
could
For
be put right in a few minutes.
intliat ^\^":5^%\}vO"ja"^
'^
^^
stance, there is a drawer
It is also
"
EMPLOYED,
144
door
that
or
window
a
never
HAPPY
HOMES.
shuts
without
that
can^t
be
deal
a
of
trouble,
opened without
the
pullingit out. In each of these cases, five
minutes
specialattention to the caiise, would save
valuable
time
an
feeling,and save
many
angry
into the bargain. So
with
slight damage to
risk of
stitch in time
"
clothes
a
:
known
nine,'^is
saves
a
"
"
well-
..
the
Let
be carried into
principle
and
house
applied to every duty ; many
every
then
find it to their advantage, "Never
would
what
to put off till to-morrow
ought to be done
to-day.^'
time do not
into the opposite
At the same
run
adage.
""
""
""
and
extreme,
touch
make
the
husband
feel afraid
whose
anything,like the good man
is given in the followinglines :
rience
expe-
"
"
It is just as
A
I
But
then
As
is
There
She
She
keeps
birds
as
every
the
oa
a
while
care
else
wing;
for rest.
fidgetything !
a
a
rich
custards
life.
one
the best bread
pies are
Of the
in my
moment
a
is such
then
found
never
coffee
Her
But
she
makes
Her
Her
have
busy
perfectdelight,
golden brown,
and
I eat
and
in the town.
puddings just right.
them
the worry
she
tells
they bring.
martyr-liketoil she endures
Oh, she's such aM^efc^ ^Jtmi^X
Of the
:
is my wife ;
for bustle and work
another
never
Green
indeed
treasure
Such
neighbour
say,
you
"
to
146
HAPPY
It's
just as
A
treasure
To
But
lay up
then
Most
She's
^^
:"
earth
"
cleanliness.Dr.
A
clean, fresh,
of each
other.
nection
between
laws
for the
duties
and
laws
of the
Smith
well
ordered
moral
a
direct
tendency
family sober, peaceable,
a
""
of
feelings
of
respect
general,and
the
obligations,
"
and
for
property,
those higher
deservance
which
con-
a
this sort
for
even
enforce; whereas
dwelling,in
"
less
no
is it diflScult to trace
habitual
.-
and happiness
feelings
in
unwholesome
of which
filthy,
squalid,
a
none
of the
cencies
de-
in the lowest
society,even
be observed, tends
or
are
can
civilization,
directlyto
make
regardlessof
"
to
common
the
and
other,selfish,
obvious
and
has
of the
of habits
can
stage of
Southwood
its inmates
Nor
formation
sting;
neighbour Green,
fidgetything !
of
considerate
their
have
know,
a
the members
make
and
no
I
treasure
over
glad
life has its cross,
and
physicalinfluence,
a
be
;
in heaven.
treasure
my
every
house, exercises
the
I fain would
she's such
Speaking
to
me
neighbour Green
has been given ;
pleasureson
a
But
than
say,
to
sometimes
But
remarks
you
HOMES.
between
every
dweller
in
such
a
hovel
feelingsand happiness of
sensual
;
and
the constant
"
the connection
indulgenceof
each
is
"
petites
ap-
passionsof this class,and the formation
of habits of idleness,dishonesty,
debauchery,and
is the enemy
ofviolence.^'
Again '^Muddle
serenity: it preventa \\te ^omii^ ^-c^tjl^^^sx^S.
and
LESSONS
"
FROM
it is
equitably;
intercourse
TO
THE
of
source
disturbed
irritation,
between
and
acrimonious
it
;
source
by being the constant
acquisition,
it disturbs
and
destroys friendship
;
"
and
fester,cancer,
gangrene,
147
WIFE.
passion;it destroyspleasurable
parent and child, rendering
discontented
them
.
main
a
and
temper
LANDLADY
THE
of
rot
prevents
of loss ;
it is
the
life ; it destroys
life itself landing
hopes,prospects,and even
its votary not unfrequentlyin the workhouse
"
and
^^
in
II.
A
^^I
have
that
a
-
-
Loving
than
Smile.
'
married
man,
his
situation
in
the world
a
is
still there
which
little world
a
is monarch
he
;
.
apt
to
run
ruin, like
fortitude
deserted
mansion,
with
overwhelming
which
at
in
energiesof
and
times
it
of
the
for want
the softer sex,
to
to remark
the
Those
fortune.
spiritof
dust, seem
elevation
of
sustain
the
down
a
occasion
women
reverses
break
prostratehim
the
often had
which
love at home
of
singleman
to fall
self-neglect,
and
a
of
whereas
to waste
I have
.
Washington Irving,
fallinginto misfortune, is
because
his spirits
single one, chiefly
are
and
softened
relieved by domestic
endearments,
and
though
kept alive by finding that alself-respect
all abroad
be darkness
and
humiliation,
yet
"
wonders.
says
retrieve
to
^Yes it will do
"
noticed,'
apt
more
"
pauper'sgrave."
a
their
to
bitants.
inhathe
most
asters
disand
call forth all
to
and
man,
is
trepidi
give such incharacter^ that
approaches to s\xbAim\\rj
.
148
Nothing
'^
a
HOMES.
HAPPY
soft and
be
can
touching than
more
female, who
tender
had
to
been
behold
-.
all weakness
dependence, and while alive to every
trivial roughness while treading the prosperous
path of life,suddenly risingin mental force to be
and
and
the comforter
supporter of
the husband
"
under
with
unshrinking firmness
blast of adversity. As
the vine
the bitterest
has long twined its gracefulfoliageabout
which
the oak, and has been lifted by it into sunshine,
the hardy plant is rifted by the thunder-bolt,
will,when
tendrils,
cling round it with its caressing
and bind
boughs ; so, too, it is
up its shattered
ordained
that woman,
by Providence
beautifully
and
in
is the ornamexit
who
dependent of man
be
his
his happier hours, should
stay when
dire and sudden
with
smitten
calamity,winding
of his nature,
herself into the rugged recesses
ing
tenderly supportinghis drooping head, and bind-
misfortunes,
abiding
"
up
It is related
tician,William
country-woman
to
heart.'^
his broken
speak
secrecy,
with
in the life of
Hutton,
called
him.
that
upon
She
that her husband
a
celebrated
a
:
respectable-looking
him
told
mathema-
one
him,
behaved
day
with
anxious
an
unkind
air of
to
her,
sought other company,
frequentlypassing
his eveningsfrom home, which
made
her feel very
unhappy ; and knowing Mr. Hutton to be a wise
jwjan^ she thought he might be able to tell her
and
bow
she
could
manage
to c.\xie\istVxxs^^vA,
"
^Y!"Qa
LESSONS
PROM
THE
LANDLADY
TO
149
WIPE.
THE
thought he could
prescribefor it without losinghis reputationas a
conjuror. The remedy is a simple one/' said
known
it to fail. Always
he, but I have never
case
"
was
commoii
a
and
one,
lie
"
.
^^
"
meet
husband
your
expressed
went
her
Mr.
on
Hutton,
which
she
him, while
her
and
the
sought
this !
member
"
a
house, it
hence
we
"
say,
is like
will then
say
cheers
the
Wives,
I
^^
:
of mind
as
Author
a
re-
without
a
"
gives the
but
constant
of Nature.
!
soul repose
genial shower
should
therefrom.
cannot
her
entering
everything :
husband
your
cheerfulness
spring
written
great
longer
gladdens as it fliows,
sinking heart, and conquers
the
wife's
state
no
the desert,
on
heart, and
has
advice,
treated
glory over
blest her voice, that like the
sinile that
his
sunshine
How
A
belong
On
this
look
on
habitual
An
a
[woes."
half
our
to
the
Addison
cheerful
gratitudeto
inward
fulness
cheer-
implicitpride and thanksgiving to
Providence
under all its dispensations;it \9" ij".
^\kfirt^^a.^^ ^^^
kind of acquiescence
in.tToie".\ia\"^^
is
"
kindness.
blest her
And
.
and
meet
never
He
others, but
of
told
She
gratitudeglistened
of
ray
fowls,
fine
accept.
How
Poured
"
a
of
cured.
smile
a
casts
He
smile.
"
love
and
she waited
followed
had
was
company
constant
to
joy and
she
husband
.
with
that
couple
a
him
of
tear
a
eye,
her
with
woman
curtsy,
a
afterwards
months
begged
"
in
few
The
smiled''
a
thanks, dropped
A
away.
with
an
150
HOMES.
HAPPY
placed,and
conduct
in His
Of
"
towards
smiles
such
approval of
secret
a
Divine
the
will
us/'
it may
said that
be
Little,little joys
they
are
:
"
earth,
on
:
Passing gleams of restless mirth.
Momentary fits of laughter,
Still bequeath a blessing after.
FUtting by, on angel's wing.
And
like voices perishing
the instant
At
Never,
of their birth.
test their worth
never
By the time of
They are gamers
their
in
Pleasant
thoughts
deposits."
Eich
III.
band
A
Kind
makefch
the
he
for age
heart
securing
welcome
home.
comes
light.
:
dearth,
a
should
Word
whenever
enduring
A
Kind
bus-
your
good
words
".
word
have
"
a--
magical power in allayingirritations,
lightening
burdens, sweetening toil,conciliating
affection,
and
diffusingaround
They
are
Milton
the oil to
The
And
See
come
the
Apt
words
of
tumours
are
as
have
balm
landlady,how
in and
to throw
sit
a
machinery
air.
of life ; or,
as
""
"
a
in his
to
power
troubled
'suage
mind.
to fester'd wounds."
gently
down, when
Saturday'swages
how
the
bracing
it,
expresses
"
and
serene
a
she
asks
she knows
pocket.
spratito ca\"^
^.
Yes
John
to
""
he has his
; she
Taas^"st^*
knows
"
"^^sc^
..
FROM
LESSONS
his weak
has
man
Well
of them.
LANDLADY
the
says
Gently
man^s
Many
a
words
with
heart
days of courting.
A
Little
attentions
deal of
love
A
With
of kind
With
mountain
a
each
While
There
too
welcomed
V
"
Did
the
as
Some
you
been
married
not
How
find
might
case
beget
It has
"
^^
"
these
as
in the
inquiries
^'
or
of the kind
much
be.
love
said,with
folks
jewellery,for the world^s
preciousfor everyday wear
Cook
truth
and
:"
a
to
word
of
good-will,
life's road
:
travel, they shorten
of pur
love carols
is
neighbour, though
pathways
aloud
like
may
a
beauty and joy for
sorrow
the hill,
and
labour,
fall ;
lark in the cIoxjA^
ua
"i!i\.
a
keep
burden, they lightenthe load.
So, stranger and
On
;
:
few
a
kind
V
magical helps on
the
a
their
saith Eliza
look
Are
low
fireside.''
the
Well
"
flow
to be
wife.
thinking it
eyes ;
at
such
truth,that
like
find
we
for
few
it very
and
one
mar
whisper
accents
yearns
got on to day
hot, or very cold
their
this is
voice is kind."
you
man
faults
he used
which
151
WIFE.
"
love should
let truthful
Affection's
good
hymn,
when
friends
To
between
THE
place of attack,and
Speak gently :
have
TO
Speak gently : it is better far
To rule by love than fear.
Speak gently : let not harsh words
The good we
might do here,
"
.
.
THE
152
HAPPY
forgetall
And
the past of
rough weather.
glad with the sombre
Let the voice of good fellowshipcall;
For while love sings aloud, like a lark in
is beauty and joy for us all."
There
Let
Look
as
in
"
^^
trust
For
outward
of
burden
show
the mask
knowest
the
of
the
day
he
hasten
to
him
meet
that the
soft hand
from
brow,
his
is
do
is weary
habitation, that
his
when
hour
past ;
are
thing
every-
of bliss."
the
let Mm
not
his
coming
"
should
which
foot
"
toil,and
with
upon
the
the heat
will return, when
jaded with discouragement,find
to
the cloud.
judge amiss.
is but
the house
time, when
such
at
oft
appearances
! thou
woman
goodman
and
;
hint home, and let
if you expected
the house
say to him that they
Who
0
sad
and
the
balance
us
gold,
glowing together ;
the heart's harvest light,
in
spiritsunite
should
of
shine
the red grapes
And
So
ha^e rolled,yet the wheat-ears
thunder
and
Wind
HOMES.
is
wandering at a distance,
which
should wipe the sweat
knocking at the door of other
houses.^^
Can
captivatingthan for a
anything be more
to be able to pictureto himself, as he turns
man
his back upon
the workshop, that in his home
there will be waiting for him
a
hearty welcome,
that his slipperswill be warming by the fireside,
and
"
that
keeping
the
her
to
case
rest
it
he
as
enters
seat
make
might
be
warm,
way
the
house,
will be
for her
truly said.
"
the
very
disturbed
master
?
In
cat,
from
this
154
HAPPT
perhaps
full
seen
never
dust
of
and
the
perhaps
place,
should
day
think
of
to
to
the
and
go
every
offends
and
that
smile,
or
lass,
after
the
^
snug
^
me
THEEE^S
work
of
husband
We
the
will
and
tap-room,
when
care
to
is
annoys
he
fer
pre-
therefore,
say,
the
time
draws
lead
sits
parlour,^
NO
him
down
all, they
PLACE
removed
to
or
say,
say
the
LIKE
as
he
fireside,
what
cosy
HOME.^
of
with
house,
the
by
may
out
you,
clean
a
that
home,
come
appears,
word,
kind
and
the
side.
husband
meal,
boots
in
its
the
so,
;
children
and
the
and
"
when
a
children
attractive
when
not
fire
take
your
that
is
by
woman,
for
near
sit
and
father
pleasure
bright
unswept,
the
an
which
it
grate
with
made
be
round
If
done.
is
a
?
crying
with
gather
find
to
hearth
about,
should
fireside
inviting
the
ashes,
and
than
fire,
a
washing
quarrelling
The
HOMES.
and
a
takes
'*
tap-room,
way,
cheerful
a
they
'^
the
all
fortable
com-
off
Well,
like
his
my
about
but
to
CHAPTEE
THE
PUBLIC-HOUSE
F
TO
RIVAL
THE
wanted
we
X.
evidence
any
the
public-house,it
the
chorus
the
by
inmates
to condemn
is furnished
heard
often
be
to
HOME.
of the
in
sung
tap-room
and
parlour^
"
Till
daylight does appear."
"
is
go
Home,
business
to
do
place like
no
and
their
time
and
either
a
free
flower
to
a
and
It
to
special
draw
people away
them
to spend
induce
money
publican is
is his
in
his
accomplish it,then
house.
he
If
resorts
cards, dice, dominoes, raffles,
easy,
shows,
to
can
the
fiddle,a bowling-alley,a skittle-alley,
clubs, houses
thing
their
will not
means
of
homes.
our
he
homes,
Home."
influence
what
their
fair
"
to
from
.
Home,
sweet
Indeed, the whole
antagonism
with
strikingcontrast
a
There's
.in
till morning,
won't
Certainlythis
.
home
We
"
clubs, burial
sick
of
call,
"
get people
his; knowing
full
out
in
fact, any
of their
weW, \Jaa.\"\i
own
V'^
clubs, money
conceivable
houses
^"^^jcl
^-^
mlck
s^
156
HOMES.
HAPPY
started,he
them
will have
in keepdiflSculty
ing
no
his drink
creates
as
going,inasmuch
an
appetitewhich grows by what it feeds upon.
So thoroughly does the influence of the publicsurround
that from
house
the working man,
sent
prethere can
sion
only be one concluappearances
them
drawn,
TO
THREATENS
hand
every
true
that
then
the
and
In
^Hhe
former
weak
it
as
is
difficult
away
a
law
be
who
as
from
her
wise
and
;
is
right
the
and
hares,'^
victims,
to
protect
however,
wrong
of
doing
making
difficult to
is wrong.
what
man
pit,and when
it, punished it
decoys a hen
strange piece of
government
we
think
"
We
"
to
his
professesto
of the- father
"
his child
happened to
for doing so ?
fall into
Why we
should cry shame
upon him for his cruelty. And
\i^
Txi^^^Xjt^^'^
yet our gcovernment euQ:50^et^^Jcia
a
"
do
who
by a
license other men
we
legislation,
from
best to decoy a man
away
should
"
plan, and make
is right,and
what
do
nest, but
Our
".
the
reverse
do
to
that instead
so
possibleto
family.
paternal. What
dug
Now,
strong.
if it be
homes.
passed
were
temptations
punish
to
their very
home
the
possible to
as
so-called
do
laws
wrong,'^they
easy
have
of wretched
corner
do what
to
easy
as
more
snares
""
On
US.
public-housesthe
times
every
PROM
more
license
^'
what
HOMES
public-house
the
against
at almost
the
multiplying,and
are
more
more
that
"
OUR
WREST
they
law-makers
it
it is this
greater number
the
the
and
""
"
PUBLIC-HOUSE
THE
^^
license
^^
man-trap
a
RIVAL
into
which
thousands
and
the
victim
by
senses,
has
the
imprison him,
"
mind
and
Now
not
To
again/^
that protectionshould
us
sake
protecting the
who
the
they
children
who
proverb, Destroy the nests,
will fly.^'
To working men
we
especially
^^
of your
settled conviction
house
is at
any
to
with
war
connection
it with
decorate
your
with
^^
mind
foo?s
.
Set
with
home
making
in
money
it down
the
as
proper
is wrong,
demned,
of all the
and
a
and
and
your
rule
For
as
associations ot ^^
the
robbed
that
realize
the
rooks
say, let it be
a
public-
Avoid,
fore
there-
of
helping
pence,^^spend your
home
whatever
attractive.
interferes
legitimateinfluence
ought therefore to
inasmuch
ing
poison-
the
Instead
own
that
like
that every
Home.
it.
themselves.
demand
and
stead
in-
public
are
to
power
to
be
that
drink.
life,we
the
with
armed
protect
people is
of home
comforts
be
and
wives
and
publican, the
which
of
streams
it most,
of the
or
gravely
very
to
power
the homes
of the
of the
they
need
of
the
him
fine
do it
those
debase
brought
tell
to
have
is
and
it strikes
should
of his
magistrates,who
same
.
given
character, he
and
very
out, robbed
turned
been
money,
before
"
are
costly decorations, beautiful music,
and
then
after
attractive attendants,to fall,
allured
.
157
HOME.
TO
THE
the
direct
of your
be
con-
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heart
inspire
your
'"'Avoid
it,pass
them
Strike
for your
Strike
for the
then
your
Home
shall
green
your
pass
such
call
we
to
and
joy
sires,
the
such
from
other
they
one
all around.
on
so
now
hearing, as we
shout
and 'Z^n-English
often
among
that
of
bright
and
end
the
of
reflect
Then
do,
the
Homes
a
shall
from
you
grant
when
that
the
God
present
appearance,
kingdom
of your
land,"
native
past.
shall
England
fires,
your
graves
arrive
soon
expires,
temptations to draw
ere
long be numbered
the
of
may
peace
this work
foe
altars and
and
these
things
happy
it and
saying of
are
To
up/^
till the last armed
And
Old
who
Strike
God,
day
those
from
for home,
"
**
the
disrelish
a
by it,turn
not
places,'^Shut
to
with
with
Join
away/'
you
HOMES.
HAPPY
the
their
instead
of
boisterous
"
"
we
We
go
home
hear, ascending
shall
gathered
they
won't
shall
"
round
the
till morning,"
from
firesides
loving hearts, as
of
Happy
sing
"
We
won't
Till
daylight does appear."
go
out
till morning,
Homes,
! home
!
Home
! home
! shrined
Home
! home
! to
Still
Home!
in
thy
home!
Home
! home
Home
! home
That
I have
name
heart
! kind
Home
! home
! for
Home
! home
! with
thy joys
places;
I desire
! thee
! to
cheering,
of
happiest
met
breast
my
I'll rest.
bosom
! home
to
in
my
Home
Back
endearing
how
Home
the
were
thy
round
thee
united
I
thee
thee
I'd
;
bum
faces
fire.
;
;
delighted,
return.
!
;
Butler
The
Selwood
Frome,
A
Tanner^
Printing
and
Works,
London,
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