HIS BRAIN/ HER BRAIN Why It Took Moses Forty Years To Find His Way Out Of The Desert THE BRAIN • • • • Reptilian Mammalian Homo Sapien Corpus Collosum • Wired For Survival • Unchanged 50,000 Yrs DEVELOPMENT • • • • • • Basic Template Female Affected By Chromosomes XX Girl XY Boy Hormonal Wash 6-8 Week Brain Genitals Brain Orientation HIS • • • • • • • Hunter Long Range Directional Skills Spatial Sense Single Task (Charles Emerson Winchester) Procreation Things Pain And Empathy HERS • • • • • • • Nest Protector Communal More Finely Tuned Sensory Skills Multi-Tasker Non-Verbal Communicator People Can Process Input Faster, Integrate BRAIN 2 • MEN – Resting Brain 30% Active – Logic – Left Brain Dominant (Except Spatial Area) – When Speak, Only One Site Active • WOMEN – Resting 90% Active – Emotive – Multi-Hemisphere, Corpus Collossum – Speech And Hearing Centers Active SPEECH • MEN • WOMEN – Left Brain Frontal – Multiple Sites, Bilat – 8000 Signals – 20,000 Signals – Direct, Literal – Indirect Language, Negotiating, Emotive – More Stutterers – Use To Compete – Emotionless Listening – Don’t Feel Need To Express Pleasure In Words – More Facile, Integrated – Use As Reward, As Bond – 6 Listening Postures – Talks And Talks SPEECH 2 • • • • • • • 60-80% Non-Verbal Signals 20-30% Voice Sounds 7-10% Words Men Only Hear The Words Women Hear And Use 6 Tones Men Hear And Use 4 Tones Silence Is Not Punishment LYING • Women Lie To Make Others Feel Better • Men Lie To Make Selves Look Good • Men Don’t Lie More, They Just Keep Getting Caught • Most Common Lie Self-Deception • The Closer A Person Is In Relationship, Harder To Lie SOCIAL • MEN – Goal Oriented – Lone Hunter – Problem Solver – Talks Achievement – Defines Self By Achievements • WOMEN – Community Builder – Communal – Problem Sharer – Talks Relationships – Defines Self By Relationships PROBLEM SOLVING • MEN – Linear – Compartmentalize – Emotion Divorced – Solitary – Gives Space – Wants Answers – Help Means He Failed • WOMEN – Cluster – Churns Til Solved – Emotion Involved – Communal – Wants A Hug – Wants Support – Wants To Help SIGHT • MEN – Tunnel Vision, Great Distances – Can See Zebras On The Horizon – Better Spatial Vision – Color Cones Xattached (What The Hell Is Mauve?) • WOMEN – Greater Peripheralup To 180° – Can Find The Butter In The Fridge – Better Night Vision – Rarely Get Caught Ogling Men OTHER SENSES • SMELL – Women Can Smell Whether A Man Has Healthy Immune System Within 3 Sec. – Most Sensitive At Ovulation • HEARING – Women’s Hearing On At All Times – Men Find Sound Direction Better • TOUCH – Women 10X As Sensitive – Touch Releases Oxytocin “Cuddle Hormone” – Men Grope, Women Caress ATTRACTION • MAN – – – – – – – – – – Athletic Body Sensitive Mouth Full Breast 70% Waist-Hip Ratio Round Butt Attractive Eyes Flat Belly Blonde 12-14 Yr Old Meat On The Bone • WOMEN – – – – – – – – Athletic Shape Broad Shoulders, Chest Full Hair Sensual Mouth Kind Eyes Strong Nose And Chin Narrow Hips Credit Cards SEX • MEN – – – – – Larger Hypothalamus Orgasm 2 ½ Minutes Need To Spread Seed Relieve Tension Really Can Mean Nothing – Visual Stimulation (Lights On)(Playboy Handy) – Talk Dirty Before Sex • WOMEN – – – – – Larger Amygdala Orgasm 13-30 Minutes Need Monogamy Build Tension Needs Emotional Bond – Touch, Sound, (Lights Off) – Talk, Listen, Smell, Touch… LOVE and SCIENCE Each Stage Has Chemical Release, Specific Brain Activity LUST - Physical, Non-Verbal Attraction INFATUATION - Attempt To Form Bond With Potential Partner: Associated With Elation ATTACHMENT - Build Cooperative Bond To Raise Child REFERENCE • WHY MEN DON’T LISTEN AND WOMEN CAN’T READ MAPS – Barbara and Allan Pease – ISBN# 0-7679-0763-9 • WHY MEN DON’T HAVE A CLUE AND WOMEN ALWAYS NEED MORE SHOES – Barbara and Allan Pease – #ISBN 0-7679-1610-7 QUESTIONS?