All Because of Children March 2015 ABC House - A Child Abuse Intervention Center serving Benton and Linn Counties ABC House Myth Busters! By Esther Friedman, ABC House Interviewer MYTH: It’s polite to make children give hugs, even if they don’t want to. M any child abusers gain access and evade detection through manipulation of both the child and the parents. Abusers “groom” children, developing trust and confusing the child about what is appropriate over time. Therefore, we all need to take steps to make children less vulnerable to this manipulation. We can do this in several ways, but the main way is by letting children have ownership of their bodies and their boundaries. There are lots of ways to keep our children safe and aware of what is “ok.” Allowing a child to say “no” to touch that is not medically necessary, not forcing a child to hug on demand, and asking if you can hug or touch—these all help children learn that they have ownership of their bodies. Teach children to judge their safety by their comfort level, allowing them to trust and act on their feelings of when, where, and how they want to be touched. Most importantly, allow them the right to refuse. We don’t expect adults to allow acquaintances to hug or kiss or pat them–give children the same control. This empowers them to speak up and to listen to their instincts about what is safe. Take notice of who does not listen when the child wants to stop wrestling, tickling, and other forms of physical contact, and take immediate steps to set limits with that person. If someone repeatedly forces contact, do not allow them to be around the child. You will be showing your child that she has rights and support. If someone is intrusive, allow your child a voice. Teach the child that politeness is not as important as her own safety – let her develop the “NO” that so many adults struggle to achieve. Also, model this for your child. Statements like, “Joey doesn’t want to be hugged, but you can ask for a handshake” or “Please ask before you tickle” can offer your child protection and ideas on how to refuse unwanted contact. Director’s Corner W elcome to Spring! Our March newsletter is a great opportunity to share with you—our friends—ABC House’s accomplishments over the past calendar year and to thank you for your ongoing support. In the following pages you will read excerpts from our 2014 annual report, including financial information, service statistics and trends observed over the past three years. Of note, all of our service programs experienced increases in the number of people served compared to 2013. While it may feel frightening when our numbers rise, particularly in our child abuse assessment program, we take comfort in the fact that we were able to provide support to all of these children and their families. Every child referred to us is one more child on the path toward healing. We consider ABC House supporters to be investors in our organization and so we want you to feel confident that your donation is being used effectively and efficiently. If you would like more information on our services, please feel free to get in touch to learn more. As always, thank you very much for your generosity and commitment to keeping children in our community safe. 2014 At A Glance I n 2014, all ABC House programs served more people than in the previous year. The number of Assessment Services rebounded after an uncharacteristic decrease in clients in 2013. Notably, both Karly’s Law consults and Drug Endangered Children (DEC) consults increased, while on-site interviews and medical exams decreased. Assessment Services 2012 - 2014 Community Education services saw an overall increase, particularly in student presentations and Girls Circle attendees. The number of adults trained decreased slightly. Counseling saw increases in the number of child clients, adult clients and number of counseling hours. Community Education 2012 - 2014 Counseling 2012 - 2014 I n 2014, ABC House was required to fundraise 86% of our budget. Only 12% of our expenses are funded through service fees, primarily due to major shortcomings in insurance reimbursement. As a result, we made greater investments in marketing and fundraising this year to address the funding gap. 72% of our expenses were related to direct services. ABC House Revenue by Source Percentage of Expenses by Program # Employees: 10.15 FTE 7 full-time 7 part-time Saturday October 17, 2015 Registration opens April 1st! Caring Community Highlights Thank you to the W est Albany Leadership class for collecting toys from their sharing tree and donating to ABC House! They helped make the holidays merrier for kids in need. NW Natural From all of us at ABC House, we would like to share our deepest appreciation. W e are so incredibly honored to be chosen as the '2014 Nonprofit of the Year' at the Celebrate Corvallis event. Thank you to the Corvallis Chamber of Commerce and Leadership Corvallis for this award. Jubitz Family Foundation Thank you for awarding us with a grant for our child abuse assessment program. We are so thankful! Thank you for awarding ABC House with a grant for our Counseling Program! That is amazing! Crop Production Services Soroptimist International of Corvallis Thank you for the grant to help fund our Girls Circle program! Thank you so much for donating supplies to ABC House each month! We are so fortunate to have your support! East Albany Lions Club Herbert A. Foundation Templeton Thank you so much for the grant for our Community Education program! We would like to show our appreciation for a gift to support our programs. Thank you! Thank you to Sam Goff, owner of Pig Out BBQ Catering, for surprising us with a donation! Wow! This gift helped us reach our end of year goal. Autzen Foundation Wow! Thank you for the grant to support our programs at ABC House. Thank you to the Albany Police Benevolent Association and the Corvallis Fire Department for donating funds to ABC House from their Christmas parties! Dear Dr. Carissa: How Can Substance Abuse Affect Parenting? T here are 8.3 million children in the United States living in a home where at least one parent has a substance use disorder. That equates to about 3 children in every regular-sized classroom. A substance use disorder does not mean that a parent loves the drug more than their child. Substance use can be thought of as a chronic, relapsing brain disease. The chemicals in the brain become disturbed and, without treatment, a parent may lack the ability to make good judgments and decisions, have difficulties with their behavior control and have problems with learning and memory. The alterations in the brain due to this chemical imbalance allow a person to continue making poor decisions despite the negative consequences. Between 60-80% of all child abuse and neglect cases involve at least one custodial parent or guardian with a substance use disorder. Substance use disorders are the second highest cause of a parent losing their parental rights (neglect is the leading cause ). Substance use affects children in many ways. Many drugs and alcohol affect the developing fetus, possibly causing birth defects, prematurity and developmental and cognitive delays. Children in homes where there is substance use are at risk for neglect, accidental and non-accidental injuries, emotional problems, and developing their own substance use conditions. judgmental discussion about their problems with drugs or alcohol. In our community we are grateful to the service agencies that provide assistance to families struggling with substance use disorders. For more information on how to get help, contact your local health department for a list of programs in the area. *Statistics from SAMHSA Dr. Carissa is a staff pediatrician at ABC House What can be done to help these parents and children? There are many programs available to parents, but first the substance use problem needs to be identified. Identification can be done through standardized, routine screening (prenatally, during social service assessments and by the parent and child’s medical providers) and engaging the parent in a non- Building Self-Reliance in Children C hildren can begin in early childhood to develop the confidence they need to help them handle whatever life throws at them. Self-reliance adds a sense of calm to life — a sense of being that soothes worries about attempting new things. Children and teens then become the self-responsible, self-confident, self-motivated, self-accepting and, ultimately, self-reliant “experts” on their own lives. What is self-reliance? Self-reliance is an inner knowing that tells us we can handle life no matter what challenges arise. It is thinking for ourselves and doing things for ourselves. It doesn’t mean that we want to run our lives alone, only that we know we can if we must. When you and your children are self-reliant, you are decisive and you know you can depend on your own internal resources, even when life gets tough. By Greg Warburton, ABC House Counselor Fostering self-reliance As long as you yell, tell, remind, nag, give advice, and/or make speeches, your children do not need to think, talk, listen, remember, or decide for themselves. I’m not blaming parents for their children’s misbehavior, but it’s important to acknowledge that this kind of parenting puts children on the pathway to self-doubt and dependence. If they do not learn to think and make decisions as they are learning and growing, they pay a huge price later in life by becoming dependent young adults who are unable to stand on their own two feet and run their lives successfully. They learn to look to others to handle life for them, and blame the world and other people in their lives when things don’t work out. When self-reliance is not taught, children can experience a fear so great that they won’t even start anything new. In order to foster self-reliance in your child, practice letting them think, talk, listen, and remember before you begin telling, reminding, and directing them yourself. Thank You for Your Support This list represents generous donations from November 18, 2014 through February 23, 2015. Monthly supporters are not listed in this issue. If we have inadvertently missed someone or misspelled a name, please let us know so we can acknowledge your generosity in our next newsletter. Send corrections to Megan at [email protected] or call 541-926-2203 Cash Donations AHM Branding, Inc. Andrea & Rod Holmquist Anne Roberts Aqua Pro Pump Service Barbara Brunkow Barbara Mulkey Barry Cousins Beckie & Barry Cousins Bill & Barb Stellmacher Billy & Ashley Scott Brenda Johnston Brendan Kane Bryce & Kelly Thorpe Carla Allen Carol Glassman Carole Perkins Carolyn & John Gardner Caron Horn Catholic Daughters of America Cathy & Will Summers Central Willamette Credit Union Charles & Janis Volz Chris Scariano Christina & David Miller Clara Lagler Clayton & Donna Dluehosh CMH Manufacturing Colleen Egan Concetta Gilmore Corvallis Country Club Dave & Cathy Benneth David & Dana Peterson David & Darlene Chambers Dean & Vonda Rietz Deena & Jason Marruffo Del & Kat Anderson Dixie & Alton Sullivan Doctors in Training Donna Moline Dorothy Cook Douglas & Jean Spencer East Albany Lions Club Elizabeth Brown Faith Lutheran Church Gerding Companies, Inc. Glenn & Jeenie Balkins Greenberg Glusker Helen Smith Jacob Lamp Jacquelyn Poppleton Jamie Kitzrow & Lisa Schwartz Janeth Oden Jason Yutzie Jeff & Lynda Christman Jennifer & Ryan Beathe Jennifer Duvall Jerry & Kerry Drum John & Margie Marchel John Harland & Janet Hoffman John Pirie & Nancy Powell Karin Stauder & Mary Gentle Kathleen Burbey Kathleen Smith Kenneth & Laurie Orwick Kenneth & Margot Sutherlin Ladies of Chi Sigma Larry & Barbara Mullins Laura Dawn Hyde Laureate Nu of Beta Sigma Phi Leadership Corvallis Leigh Flowers Linda & Thomas Bell Lisa Kutsch Lloyd & Sharon Jochimsen Lori Werderitch Margaret Langwell Marianna Marshall Mark & Jody Gordon Mark Raum Matthew Woods Maureen Rhea Melinda Murphy Michael & Tari Morse Mike & Lisa Huycke NaeDean Mahr Nettie Karr Noma Ann Reitmann Norm & Sandy Jager Oregon Freeze Dry PayneWest Peggy & Kenneth Burling Performance Health Technology Pig Out BBQ Catering Ralph & Linda Scariano Randall & Pamela Silbernagel Randolph & Michele Crenshaw Rebecca Brownstone Richard & Jami Kenyon Robert & Georgine Henkle Robert & Joyce Weatherly Sally Dvorak Selco Community Credit Union Selmet Sharlan Colson Sharon Stevenson Sheet Metal Solutions Sibling Revelry Starker Forests, Inc. Stellmacher Farm Inc. Steve & Donna Pensinger Susan Long Thomas & Victoria Ozanich Tiffany Backer Timothy Johnson Tracy Foltz Tunnel Radio of America Violet Carruth Virginia Larsen Walter & Mary Gustav William Hoffman William MacHugh Xi Gamma Pi Beta Tangible Donations 4 Seasons Produce Delivery Albany Safeway Angela Muse Annie & Halle Perlenfein Bailie Goff Barbara Hogg Becca Johnson Bob Clark CASA of Linn County Corvallis Safeway Crop Production Services Danette Utley Diana Bailey Grocery Outlet Healing Garden--Lori Joy Cook Irene Martinez-Alvarado Jackie Harris Janice Jackola Jeff Davis Jennifer Beathe Joyce Bryan Joyce Hopkins Judith Ellingston Katie Forsman King Office Kohl's Laura Kadelbach Loving Stitching Melinda Sorte Melissa Monje-Wells Fargo Oregon Freeze Dry Stahlbush Island Farms Tisa Broadhead VFW Ladies Auxiliary WAHS Leadership Wendy Hiatt Wes & Tammy Knight In Honor Of Benjamin Mumper From Catherine Mumper Jennifer Gilmore-Robinson From Elizabeth Brown Jennifer Gilmore-Robinson From Kim Bliss Leslie Burns Spencer From Jacob Robinson The Spencer Family From Izaac Spencer In Memory Of Karly Sheehan From David Sheehan Melvin Freerksen From Barb & Bill Stellmacher Verona Bargsten From Dale & Beth Bargsten 2014 Vision of Hope Society Names listed below represent individuals and organizations who have donated $120 or more in 2014 to provide safety and child abuse services to local children. These gifts may be spread out over the year or made in one lump sum. Those who your gift has helped say “Thank you” for your faithful support. Angels of Hope ($1000 and above) AAsum-Dufuor Funeral Home AK Carpet & More Al & Dixie Sullivan Albany Optimist Club Albany Police Benevolent Assn Albany Rifle and Pistol Club Altrusa International Of Albany Andrea & Rod Holmquist ATI ATI Pacific Cast Technologies Barbara Emily Knudson Charitable Foundation Benton County Foundation Bill & Barbara Stellmacher Buzz & Sheila Wheeler Carissa Cousins Carol Chervenak & Bill Barish Caroline Fisher & Patrick McCabe Carolyn & John Gardner Central Willamette Community Credit Union Chris & Nancy Giggy Citizens Bank City Of Millersburg City Of Philomath Clay & Donna Dluehosh CMH Manufacturing Coastal Farm & Ranch CoEnergy Propane Columbia Seeds LLC Comcast Business Corvallis Clinic Corvallis Country Club Dale & Elizabeth Bargsten David & Christi Miller David & Darlene Chambers Dutch Bros Coffee Ford Family Foundation Gerding Builders, LLC Gordon Vogt Jr. & Associates Insurance H & R Block Helen Smith Herbert A. Templeton Foundation Jake Robinson & Jenny Gilmore-Robinson Jim & Becky Merryman Jubitz Family Foundation Many Hands Trading , LLC Melinda Murphy Mike & Lisa Huycke National Children's Alliance Oregon Freeze Dry PacificSource Health Plans Pape Family Foundation Performance Health Technology, LTD Peter & Patti Kenyon Phil & Penny Unverzagt Philip Krolick & Jeanee Reichert Polly Strickland Ralph & Linda Scariano Ralph Hull Foundation Rick & Jami Kenyon Ronald & Patti LeBlanc Rotary Club of Albany Rotary Club Of Corvallis Sam Goff Samaritan Albany General Hospital Samaritan Health Services Samaritan Lebanon Community Hospital SELCO Community Credit Union Sheet Metal Solutions, Inc. Soroptimist Intl. Of Corvallis Spirit Mountain Community Fund Stacy Mitchell Steven L Duerksen LLC Sybaris Target Distribution Center T558 Teeny Foods The Autzen Foundation The Collins Foundation The Sheriff's Foundation Toledo Community Foundation, Inc. Tom & Laurie Foster Tom & Wendy Phelps Trust Management Services Tunnel Radio Of America Udell Engineering & Land Surveying, LLC United Healthcare UPS Foundation, Inc. Walmart WalMart #1775 Western U COMP-Northwest Will Bowerman William & Marsha Langer Cherubs of Hope ($600—$999) Abbe & Richard Montgomery Ann Rietmann Best Heating & Cooling Coldwell Banker Valley Brokers Curt & Ronda Dannen David & Carol Triebes Debbie Barker Fred Meyer Jamie & Michel Bryant Joe & Julia Paz Joy Henkle & Bob Meister Keller Williams Lassen RV Mark & Jody Gordon Michael Sessa Mick & Susan Keister-Schy Peak Internet Pioneer Telephone Cooperative Russ & Dawn McUne Scheler Corp Siletz Tribal Charitable Contribution Fund State Farm Stephanie O'Connor United Way Of The ColumbiaWillamette Quilters Corner Anna Grace Cauffman Darlene McGie Helen Crossley Mary Lou Neher Visit ABC House You are cordially invited to visit ABC House and learn more about how we help children. Tours are offered by appointment on Thursday mornings or Monday-Thursday at 5 pm. Mary's River Quilt Guild Piece Maker Quilts Quilts from Caring Hands Riverside Baptist Church Contact Megan Konzelman at 541-926-2203 or [email protected] Make a secure online donation today w w w. a b c h o u s e . o r g Monthly giving now available online! Hope Builder ($300—$599) Aaron & Christy Rivers Advanced Chiropractic Ameri Title Amvets Auxilliary Post 15 Amy & Brian Vandetta Arthur Meeker Barbara Hogg & Bill Honey Barker Uerlings Insurance Inc Bob & Angela Yeats Boldt Carlisle & Smith Brett Johnson & Helen Tennican Buck & Amy Pearce Cam & Jennifer Ellis Charlie & Mary Eads Cindy Etzel Corvallis Fire Department Crop Production Services Crossfire Enterprises David & Lisa Hughes Doctors In Training Donna Pensinger East Albany Lions Club Ed & Tawni Boyd Gary Cole Gifts For A Better World Glenn & Amy Fairall Glenn & Jeenie Balkins H30, Inc. Hodgie Construction Hubbard Family Trust Jamocha Jo's Java and Ice Cream Jason & Staci Yutzie Jeff & Lynda Christman Jerry & Estelle Goodpastor John & Margie Marchel John Kollaer Jon Pirie & Nancy Powell Jonathan Crow & Jane Snyder Keith Lynch Keller Williams Keller Williams Kiwanis Club Of Corvallis Kutsch & Renyer Family & Cosmetic Dentistry Larky Hansen Larry & Barbara Mullins Lebanon Chamber Of Commerce Linn Co Federal Credit Union Lloyd & Sharon Jochimsen Lowe's Lynn Youngs Nancy Hart National Frozen Foods No Dinx Norm & Sandy Jager Northwest Health Foundation OSU Federal Credit Union OSU Folk Club Thrift Shop Foundation Pacific Power Pam & Michael Hays Pat & Elizabeth Boren Patty & Chuck Sheffield Patty Carper Paventy & Brown Orthodontics Pennington Seed Re/Max Realty Red Canoe Credit Union Rhodes-Warden Insurance Agency Rhonda Loewen Rick & Bernice Franklin Rickard Engineering & Design Robert & Joyce Weatherly Samaritan Lebanon Community Hospital Shawn & Staci Rubesh Six Point Plumbing LLC Soto Law Firm South Pacific Auto Sales Starker Forests, Inc. Steve & Lori Reid Tim & Kelli Fitzpatrick Timothy Johnson Timothy Roels Top Form Contracting Umpqua Bank - Home Lending US Bank V.S. Restoration Veronica Burke Virginia Larsen Wendie Wunderwald West Coast Industrial Systems, Inc Western Regional Children's Advocacy Center Whitney Hill William & Cathy Summers Friend ($120—$299) Adam Kirkpatrick, DDS Aimee Kennel Amy Maceira Angela Kemp Art & Judy Waggle Betty Schmidt National estimates indicate that 1,520 children died of abuse and neglect in 2013. Nearly three-quarters (73.9%) of these children were younger than three years old. Bob & Karen Grant Bret & Diana Godfrey Brian & Mary Oare Bruce Riley Bryce & Kelly Thorpe Carl & Gloria Johnson Carla Allen Company Carol Glassman Cary & Lori Stephens Catherine Law Cindy & Bill Draper Cindy Ertle Clara Lagler Clarence & Evonne Walls Colleen Egan Consumers Power Inc. Corvallis Papa's Crop Production Services Crystal Kimball Curtis & Pat McCann Damon & Lois Struble Dan & Crystal Ripplinger Daniel Steele David & Dana Peterson David Dodson David Sheehan Dean & Vonda Rietz Del & Kat Anderson DLF Pickseed USA Dwayne & Faylene Gardner Edward Jones Encore Physical Therapy First American Title Frank & Erika Stevenson Grady & Teena Corr Greg & Rita Hamann Helen Crossley Heritage NW Real Estate, Inc. Ho Logging Holderman Paving Jacob & Sue Lamp Jan Oden Jane Freres Janice Danaher Jason & Krissy Bennett Java II Oregon State Jay & Deborah Gile Jennifer Beathe Jennifer Stanaway Jerry & Kerry Drum Jessica Basinger Jim & Elke Asleson Jim & Michelle Egan Jim & Jenny Johnson Jim Stom John & Cynthia Greene In 2013, there were 126 confirmed victims and 156 separate incidents of abuse/ neglect in Benton County. There were 487 confirmed victims and 609 separate incidents of abuse/neglect in Linn County. Kenneth & Peggy Burling Kim Shelby & Taylor Halstead Kip & Sue Much Kori Jones Kreg Lindberg Kristin Latimer Larry & Jan Thornton Lisa Kutsch Lisa Metz Dittmer Lisa Wolfe Lorena Reynolds & Justin Wirth Lynn & Betty Koehn Main Auto Body & Paint Mario Lattanzio Mark & Nadine Floyd Marsha Swanson Maryann Davenport Michael & Frances Wong Mike & Amanda Peaslee Mike & Tari Morse Mike Ransom Nate Gerding New Dawn Nicole Beachboard Optimist Club Of Lebanon Pat and Elaine Eastman Patrick V. Hagerty, DMD, PC Pete & Carolyn Early R Squared Rhythmes Randy Williams Rebecca & Barry Cousins Rich & Julie Ames Rick Peterson Roberson Albany Ford Sara Gelser Sharlan Colson Sibling Revelry, Inc State Farm Insurance Steven & Lynne Schauble Suzanne Meyer Take Shape For Life Tammy Jack Terri Shank The Reynolds Law Firm Tim & Pam Rediger Travis Giboney Umpqua Bank US Bank Violet Carruth Virginia Corcoran Walter & Mary Gustav Will & Lynne Tucker Willamette Sams RV Club William & Tara Robinson 1 in 8 children will experience a confirmed case of child abuse or neglect before their 18th birthday. www.abchouse.org Board of Directors Jennifer Stanaway, President Citizens Bank Gordon Vogt, Vice President Gordon Vogt & Associates Jason Yutzie, Secretary Performance Health Technologies Jerry Drum, Treasurer Albany Police Department Chris Giggy Gerding Builders, LLC Celebrate Hope ABC House’s Community Partnership Celebration 2015 RSVP NOW! Seating is Limited - RSVP Required Andrea Hampl AK Carpet & More, Inc Becca Johnson Six Point Plumbing & ATI David Peterson Benton County Sheriff’s Office Debbi Richards Albany Parks and Recreation Barbara Stellmacher Wednesday, April 8, 2015 5:30pm - 8:00pm Linn County Expo Center Visit www.abchouse.org to RSVP Join other community members for dinner and learn how you can make a difference in the life of an abused child. Stellmacher Farm Amy Vandetta RSVP by March 25th Udell Engineering & Land Surveying, LLC Sheila Wheeler Coastal Farm & Ranch Executive Director Jennifer Gilmore-Robinson Medical Director 15th ANNUAL ABC HOUSE BENEFIT SHOOTING MATCH Saturday, June 20, 2015 @ 9am • Albany Rifle & Pistol Club Carol L. Chervenak, MD Development Director Lynn Youngs Features: *6 exciting stages of fire *Excellent door prizes *All levels of shooter welcome! *Catered, delicious lunch *ALL this for ONLY $60! Register online at www.abchouse.org Registration opens April 15! 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