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SUGGESTED READING LIST
There are many resources available in the arena of death, dying and serious illness. This list
has been devised to provide assistance when trying to find a book specific to a particular role,
age group or type of illness. We have collated much of the information from our own library and
have also added some information from the Winston’s Wish Website for which the link is
attached.
We have found that in working creatively with young people, communication and understanding
can be enhanced through the use of storytelling, creative activity and metaphor. It can act as a
bridge by providing the means and safety from being one step removed and can also be a
comforter and reaffirming source, when young people realize that they are not the only person
to experience what they are going through and that many of their responses emotionally and
behaviorally are completely natural.
The way we have categorized this information is for general guidance only. There will of course
be acceptations to the rule regarding developmental and chronological age differences. The
books are arranged in the following categories:
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Books for children under 5
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Books for age 5 to 8 years
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Books for age 9 to 12 years
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Books for age 13 to 16 years
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Books for age 18 to 28 years
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Other helpful books (not all directly about death)
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Books for families when someone is seriously ill
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Books for families bereaved through suicide
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Books about the death of a new baby
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Books for adults supporting a bereaved child (parents & workers)
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Books for families bereaved through murder
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Books for professionals
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Books for children with Special Needs
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Other Resources
Many of these resources can be purchased at www.amazon.co.uk you can follow the link to
Amazon from our own website.
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BOOKS FOR CHILDREN UNDER THE AGE OF 5
Resources available at Balloons;
What Does Dead Mean?
By Caroline Jay and Jenni Thomas, Jessica
Kingsley Publishers, 2013
ISBN: 978 1 84905 355 6
What Does Dead Mean? Is a beautifully illustrated book based on the many big questions that
children often ask about death and dying. Questions such as ‘Why do people have to die?’,
‘Where do dead people go?’ and ‘What’s a funeral like and can children go?’.
I’ll Always Love You
By Hans Wilhelm, Hodder Children’s Books, 1985
ISBN: 0-340-4015-2
This is a short story about the relationship between a little boy and his best friend who is a dog
named Elfie. As the boy gets taller Elfie gets rounder and slower until one morning he finds his
beloved pet and friend dead in her basket. Comforted by the fact that he told her every night
how much he loves her helps him face loves Facing loss and remembering loved ones.
The Lonely Tree
By Nicholas Halliday. Halliday Books 2006
SBN: 978-0-9539459-8-6
This is a beautiful and moving story following the first year of the life of an evergreen tree
growing in the heart of the ancient oak woodland of the New Forest. The evergreen is
befriended by the oldest oak who has lived for hundreds of years and has many a story to share
of his lifetime. When winter arrives all of the oak trees must go to sleep, but of course ever
greens never sleep. Finally after a long, lonely and cold winter, spring brings both sadness and
joy to the little tree. A simple story of the life and death process via nature.
The Soul Bird
(2 Copies)
Michal Snunit Robinson Publishing 1998
ISBN: 1-85487-589-2
A superb metaphoric book which explains to children that our soul is the voice that resides
inside us. It uses a bird with many drawers in it to symbolise the many feelings we have. It is
non religious, and very usable and understandable for little ones.
Frog and The Little Birdsong
By Max Velthuijs, Anderson Press Ltd, 1999
ISBN 0-86264-908-0
Light introduction to death through the tales of a frog who finds a blackbird he thinks is asleep,
Only to understand that it is dead. Frog and his friends decide that the blackbird needs a fitting
place to rest so together they find a beautiful spot to bury it.
Heaven
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Written by Nicholas Allan, Red Fox 2006,
ISBN: 978-0099488149
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Dill, the dog, knows his time is up, so he packs his case and tells Lily, his owner that he's off "up
there". "Can I come too?" asks Lily. "Er...not yet," replies Dill. While he is waiting for the angels
to collect him, Dill explains to Lily what he thinks heaven is like: hundreds of lampposts to pee
against, lots of whiffy things to smell and bones everywhere - with meat on them! But, Lily
completely disagrees; she thinks heaven is quite different. Luckily, they agree to disagree just in
time for a fond, and very poignant, last goodbye.
Threadbear
Written by Mick Inkpen, Hodder Children’s, 2007
ISBN: 978-0-340-93109-7
There is one thing that has always been wrong with Threadbear. In his tummy is a squeaker
that has never squeaked… A classic picture book that proves dreams do come true from the
creator of Kipper and Wibbly Pig.
We’re Wearing out the Naughty Step
Written by Mick Inkpen, Hodder Children’s, 2008
ISBN: 978-0-340-95998-5
Josh fed the elephant with the wrong stuff. And I let the nursery hamster escape. But it wasn’t
until things went wrong on Kevin’s birthday that mummy did the really amazing thing!
Lifetimes
Written by Bryan Mellonie & Robery Ingpen,
Bantam Books, 1983
ISBN: 0-553-34402-1
Lifetimes is a moving book for children of all ages, even parents too. It lets us explain life and
death in a sensitive, caring, beautiful way. Lifetimes tells about beginnings. And about endings.
And about living in between. With large, wonderful illustrations, it tells about plants. About
animals. About people. It tells that dying is as much a part of living as being born. It helps us
to remember. It helps us to understand.
Gentle Willow
Written by Joyce C Mills, Imagination Press, 2004,
ISBN 1-59147-072-2
Gentle Willow s a book for children who may not survive their illness. This comforting story
about tender-spirited tree and her friends in the forest will also help all children with the death of
friends, family members or even pets.
Giraffes Can’t Dance
Written by Giles Andreae, 1999, ISBN 978-1-40830
370-2
A best-loved, rollicking, rhyming story – perfect for little ones.
Baa! Moo! What will we do?
Written by A.H. Benjamin & Jane Chapman, 1996,
ISBN 1-85430-894-7
I want a cuddle
Written by Malorie Blackman & Joanne Partis,
2001, ISBN 1-84121-092-7
The Blue Balloon
Written by Mick Inkpen, 1989, ISBN 0-340-91819-5
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Recommended Reading;
I Miss You: A First Look at Death
By Pat Thomas & illustrated by Lesley Harker, 2001
Barron’s Educational Series,
ISBN: 978-0764117640
This bright and colourful picture book very simply talks about life and death. It briefly covers a
range of issues such as why people die, how you may feel when someone dies and what
happens afterwards. It includes questions for the reader to answer about their own experiences
and a section at the back for adults on how to best use the book. This is an excellent
educational book, which could be used as a starting point for discussion.
We Love Them
By Martin Waddell, Walker Books 1990
ISBN: 9780744512786
A charmingly simple 26 page story book that introduces the topic of death through the
relationship between a dog and rabbit. Beautifully illustrated and tenderly demonstrated, a book
that would be useful for any child in this age group. Why wait until a child is in the midst of grief,
when gentle introductions like this are available.
Goodbye Mousie
By Robie H. Harris & illustrated by Jan Ormerod,
Aladdin Paperbacks; Reprint edition (Nov 2004)
ISBN 978-0689871344
This beautifully illustrated picture book tells the story of a little boy who’s told that his pet mouse
has died. At first he doesn’t believe it, thinking it is just asleep, but by asking lots of questions
and with the help of his family he begins to accept Mousie’s death. This is a great story and
would be very helpful to introduce death to young children and a starting point to discuss what
happens after someone dies and the different feelings one may have.
A Star for Bobby
Helen Keenor Bosun Publications 2005
ISBN:0-9546932-1-3
A story to be read to children under the age of 5. This tale is about a chick who hatches later
that his siblings and is born very weak. The other chicks can’t understand why there brother
Bobby does not want to play. Bobby dies and a special place is prepared for him in the ground
where his family can visit and remember him. When the surviving chicks ask where he is his
parent explain that he is way above the clouds and is happy. They explain that they know this
as there will be a star that shines brightly for him and on finding the brightest star in the sky his
siblings have something that they can direct their love and attention to.
Dear Grandma Bunny
Written and Illustrated by Dick Bruna, 1996
ISBN: 978-1405219013
An introduction into some of the feelings that are experienced through the death of a
grandparent. Suitable for very young children this book tells the story Miffy the small rabbit and
how Miffy felt and coped when Grandma died.
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The Red Woollen Blanket
Written By Bob Graham, Candlewick Press
1996 ISBN: 978-1564028488
Even before Julia was born she was given a red woollen blanket that she used "right from the
start." PW said, "Graham's colourful paintings show a humorous, tender regard for a
preschooler's inexplicable attachment to a particular object." Ages 2 to 4.
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BOOKS FOR AGE 5 TO 8 YEARS
Resources Available at Balloons;
Remembering Hare
Written by Carol Lee, Southgate Publishers, 2014
ISBN: 9781857411638
This beautifully illustrated story, written for children aged 5 – 9 years, is about coming to terms
with the death of someone special. Featuring the same much-loved characters from Saying
Goodbye to Hare, Rabbit and Buzzard reflect together on the ups and downs, feelings and
experiences of the first year following the death of their dear friend Hare, as they watch the
‘Great Race’.
A Pea Called Mildred
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark 2011
ISBN: 9780 86388 497 9
A Pea Called Mildred is a story to help children pursue their hopes and dreams:
Mildred is a pea with dreams. She has great plans for her pea life. However, people are always
telling her that dreams are pointless as she is just another ordinary pea. Eventually, with the
help of a kind person along the way, Mildred ends up doing exactly what she has always
dreamed of doing.
What Does Dead Mean?
By Caroline Jay and Jenni Thomas, Jessica
Kingsley Publishers, 2013
ISBN: 978 1 84905 355 6
What Does Dead Mean? Is a beautifully illustrated book based on the many big questions that
children often ask about death and dying. Questions such as ‘Why do people have to die?’,
‘Where do dead people go?’ and ‘What’s a funeral like and can children go?’.
The Scar
By Charlotte Moundlic, Walker Books, 2013
ISBN: 978 1 4063 4415 8
When Mum dies, the little boy in this book knows she’s never going to come back. How can he
make sure he always remembers her.
Feather Pillows
By Rose Impey, HarperCollins Publishers Ltd, 1997
ISBN: 0 00 198139 0
When the grown-ups talk about Sarah’s Grandma, they start to cry. But all Sarah’s memories
are happy ones. Then Sarah finds a tiny white feather which reminds her of one especially
wonderful day she shared with grandma, and she discovers that you can laugh and cry at the
same time.
The Heart and the Bottle
By Oliver Jeffers, HarperCollins Children’s books,
2010, ISBN: 978 0 00 718234-3
Once there was a girl whose life was filled with wonder at the world around her. Then one day
something happened that made the girl take her heart and put it in a safe place. However, after
that it seemed that the world was emptier than before. But would she know how to get her heart
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back? In this deeply moving story the author deals with the weighty themes of love and loss,
and shows us that ultimately, there is always hope.
A Wibble Called Bipley (and a few honks) By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark 2011
ISBN: 978 0 86388 494 8
A story for children who have hardened their hearts or become bullies
Bipley is a warm cuddly creature, but someone has broken his heart. He feels so hurt that he
decides it is just too painful to ever love again. When he meets some big tough Honks in the
wood, they teach him how to harden his heart so that he doesn't have to feel hurt any more.
Luckily Bipley meets some creatures that teach him how he can protect himself without
hardening his heart.
Coping when your Parents separate
By Bill Merrington, Kevin Mayhew Ltd
ISBN: 978-1-84417-790-5
This is the story of Alice and Peter who experience difficult times when their parents separate.
How will they cope with the changes that are taking place and how do they feel about their
parents?
Old Elephant
By Laurence Bourguignon, Valerie d’Heur
ISBN 1 84746 038 0
Old Elephant is very tired and very old, but Tiny Mouse doesn’t want to let him go. Then one
day she understands his time has come, and she can help him follow his dream.
The Sunshine Cat
By Miriam Moss, Lisa Flather. Orchard Books
ISBN: 1841215678
Sunny was the family cat. He arrived as a prancing, pouncing kitten and grew into a majestic
cat prowling panther-like by moonlight. But he loved the sunshine. He was the sunshine cat.
Then, one day, there was a ring at the door. A cat had been knocked down in the road. This
warm, tender story is about Sunny and how the three young children who love him learn to say
goodbye.
Saying Goodbye to Hare
(3 Copies)
By Carol Lee
This is an uplifting story written fo children aged 5-9 years about death and dying. Beautifully
illustrated, Saying Goodbye to Hare is full of honesty and warmth. As young Rabbit witnesses
the life, illness and death of his dear friend Hare, the story explores some of the feelings and
questions children have at this time. Inspired by the author’s own personal experience of
supporting her young children through the illness and death of their father, the story is
sensitively written to give a positive, thoughtful message about death and dying. The book
includes guidance notes for the adult supporting the child.
You’re Not Alone
(2 copies)
By Isabel Hospice
ISBN: 190360706X
Written for children of 5-10 years this book can be shared with a trusted adult to encourage the
child to share their feelings and fears at their own pace. The child will learn to understand that
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sadness, anger, guilt and other difficult feelings are acceptable and that death can be talked
about.
Remembering Michael
(2 copies)
By Anita Harper
ISBN 1 869903 21 8
This book is for all children who have had a baby sister or brother who died. You may feel that
you are the only person who has had this experience, but you are not. What happens to the
people in the story may be like what happened in your family, or it may be quite different. I hope
that reading it will make it easier for you to tell people what it is like for you.
When Caterpillars Fly
By Lisa Mallins, 2004
ISBN: 0-9547267-0-7
A collection of poems and verse written for and inspired by children, teenagers and their families
who all live with one thing in common – they all have a child who has died or will dies before
reaching adulthood. Some poems are funny, some are just sad and some are for those of you
who just like the quiet moments to gather your thoughts and reflect on happy and sad times.
Grandad’s Ashes
By Walter Smith, Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2007
ISBN: 978 1 84310 517 6
Told with gentle humour, this is a charming story for children and an ideal resource for parents
and counsellors to read with a child as a way of broaching issues surrounding loss or
bereavement. This beautifully illustrated full colour picture book tells the story of four children
who set out to find their Grandad’s favourite play – but they are faced with plenty of challanges
on the way.
Grandpa
By John Burningham
ISBN: 0-14-050841-4
The special friendship between one small girl and her grandfather is captured in this gently
humorous, touching story that will delight adults and children alike.
Sad Isn’t Bad
(2 copies)
By Michaelene Mundy, One Caring Place Abbey
Press, 1999
ISBN: 978-0-87029-321-4
A book that assists parents, teachers and other caring adults to assist the child they support to
understand their grief from a very basic viewpoint. It explores positive and less-constructive
ways of demonstrating grief and provides some simple tools to assist young people staying in
control of this strong emotion. A Good-grief guide book for young children dealing with loss.
Remembering Mum
By G Perkins & L Morris, A & C Black, 1996
ISBN: 0-7136-4432-X
Facing loss and remembering loved ones. Two children with the support of their father create a
pictorial memory book through which they can remember their mum. Displaying day to day
images of family routine and how mum (Mandy) lives through the legacy of what she taught her
sons, this lovely short resource will comfort young people who are establishing memories to
honour the life of someone close.
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Mayfly Day
By J Willis & T Ross, Anderson Press, 2006
ISBN: 978 1 84270 492 9
This is a beautifully illustrated light introduction into death and dying through the short life of a
mayfly, which lives life to the full. Even though she only has one day on earth she is glad to be
alive and shares the beauty she sees and feels in a joyous way.
Where’s Jess
By Centering Corporation; PO Box 4600; Omaha,
NE 68104
ISBN: 1-56123-009-x
This book has been designed in the format of a short story, for a parent or carer to read and
use as a beginning in order to address a child’s questions that may arise from sibling death. It
helps explain about the feelings that generally occur when such event is experienced. It offers
the bereaved parent a gentle way to begin sharing with their bereft child and is an opening to
encourage emotional expression and verbal communication/discussion for the under eights.
The Tale of Two Dolphins
(2 Copies)
By Sarah Fitzgerald, Brambles Press, 1999
ISBN 0 9534476 2 6 (paperback)
ISBN 0 9534476 1 8 (hardback)
This story is written by a 13-year-old girl who uses dolphins as a metaphor to illustrate herself
and her sister. This book looks at the responses and common feeling associated with sibling
bereavement. It is simply but thoughtfully written.
Grandma’s Bill
By Martin Waddell, MacDonald Young Books, 1999
ISBN: 0-7500-0307-3
This book is a story about a little boy who learns about his family past and present through a
conversation with his Grandmother who uses family photographs to explain who is who and how
each family member has played an active part in creating their own unique family until, whether
they are dead or alive.
Remembering Grandad
By Gianni Padoan, Child’s Play Ltd. 1999
ISBN: 0-85953-311-5
Light introduction to and for facing up to death. Explores feelings before and after. With the help
of his friends and the old man’s wise words, James comes to terms with the loss of his beloved
granddad.
Muddles Puddles and Sunshine
By Dianna Crossly, Winston’s Wish, 2000
ISBN: 1-86989058-2
An activity book with lots of ideas you can utilise to use with clients under 11. This book
provides the young person with the opportunity to anchor images and memories of the person
who has died in a way that is creative and expressive. It includes activities that can also be
done separately.
When Someone very special dies
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By Marge Heegaard, Woodland Press, USA. 1988
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A delightful little workbook to introduce the concept of death. Created by an art therapist and
grief counsellor in Minnneapolis this is a handy workbook for children to complete. It begins by
introducing changes in life and looks at the loss involved from those changes, namely grief. It
briefly touches upon variations of belief about the spirit in an open manner.
Someone Special has Died
(2 copies)
By St Christopher’s Hospice, 1989
Tel: 020 8768 4500
A short pamphlet aimed to assist young people in understanding how they may feel as the result
of someone close to them dying. It encourages verbal communication, normalises some of the
more common responses and states the importance or memories.
Your Parent has Died
By St Christopher’s1991
A short pamphlet aimed to assist young people in understanding how they may feel as the result
of a parent dying.
There’s NO Such Thing as a Dragon
(3 copies)
By Jack Kent Blackie & Son 1984
ISBN: 0 216 91712 1 (Paperback)
ISBN: 0 216 91712 3 (Hardback)
There's No Such Thing as a Dragon (1975) by Jack Kent, part of the Family Storytime series,
relates the charming tale of Billy Bixbee, who awakens to find a dragon "about the size of a
kitten" sitting on his bed. The dragon grows by leaps and bounds, until Billy dares to pet the
attention-seeking creature and it shrinks back down into an adoring little lap dragon.
When Dinosaurs Die:
By Laurie Krasny.Time Warner Trade Publishing
1998
ISBN: 978-0316119559
This factual picture book uses cartoon dinosaurs to illustrate the text and comment on what is
said. It is a bright and colourful book that explains death in a simple and unthreatening way. It
covers many issues including ‘why does someone die?’, ‘feelings about death’ and ‘saying
goodbye’. It would be an excellent resource for anyone caring for young children
The Day the Sea Went Out and Never Came Back
(2 Copies)
By Margot Sunderland
Speechmark, 2009
ISBN: 978-0-86388-463-4
A beautiful metaphorical example of grief with hope. To accompany helping children with loss
but can be read on its own. This is a story which uses the sea a s a metaphor for death. It is
about a small creature that loves the sea and is devastated one day when then sea appears to
have just disappeared. The creature waits and longs for its return only to be profoundly
disappointed to realise that it has gone and will never be coming back. It is a story of hope as
the creatures emotions are explored and worked through via establishing a memorial.
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Always and Forever
By Alan Durant 2003 (h’back)
ISBN: 978-0552548779
Otter, Mole and Hare miss Fox when he falls ill and dies. They stay at home and don’t want to
talk about him because it makes them sadder. Then Squirrel visits and reminds them of all the
fun times they had together. They all find a way to remember Fox and get on with their lives.
Colourful, detailed pictures in this book emphasise the importance of holding on to memories
A Child’s Questions about Death
(2 copies)
By St Catherine’s Hospice, 1989
Tel: 01293 447333
A superb little pamphlet designed to assist adults to answer some of the questions young
people ask. Could be used for under 5’s also. Subject matter clearly and simply explained.
Badger’s Parting Gifts
(3 Copies)
By Susan Varley, Picture Lions 1992
ISBN: 978-0006643173
Badger is old and knows he is going to die soon. When he does, the other animals think they
will be sad forever, but they begin to talk about the memories they have of the things Badger
taught them and learn to cope with his death. A lovely picture book that emphasises the
importance of remembering the person who has died.
Remembering my Brother
By Ginny Perkins & Leon Morris, A & C Black, 1996
ISBN: 0-7136-4541-3
A memory book that shows the experience of a brother’s death through the brother and younger
sister that are left behind. And how important memories are.
The Lonely Tree
By Nicholas Halliday. Halliday Books 2006
ISBN: 978-0-9539459-8-6
This is a beautiful and moving story following the first year of the life of an evergreen tree
growing in the heart of the ancient oak woodland of the New Forest. The evergreen is
befriended by the oldest oak who has lived for hundreds of years and has many a story to share
of his lifetime. When winter arrives all of the oak trees must go to sleep, but of course ever
greens never sleep. Finally after a long, lonely and cold winter, spring brings both sadness and
joy to the little tree. A simple story of the life and death process via nature.
It’s OK to be Sad
By Margaret Collins, Paul Chapman Publishing
2007
ISBN: 978-1-4129-1825-1
An activity book to help children in the 4-9 age groups to manage loss, grief or bereavement.
Using stories about 20 different life events children are encouraged through creativity to explore
the range of their feelings, express those feelings, encourage empathy towards others and learn
through the demonstration that loss is a common experience for all of us. Usable in a one to
one or group situation and comes with a CD to encourage creativity of usage for the supporter.
Falling Angels
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By Colin Thompson, Random House Australia
ISBN: 9781741664201
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A gentle fantasy about seeing with your heart as well as your eyes. Sally could always fly, and
although her mother doesn’t believe it, her grandmother knows it to be true. As her grandmother
is confined to bed, Sally brings her orchids from Africa, a shell from Patagonia, even snow from
“where no one had ever walked.” Finally her grandmother flies with her, to her favorite place,
where she takes her last breath.
Chocolate Chipped
(2 Copies)
By Shelley Gilbert & Vicky Baruch, Grief Encounter
ISBN: 9780954843496
Chocolate Chipped tells the unique story of a young boy named Charlie and his grieving over
his Dad's death. Using real smells and Scratch & Sniff in the pages to help evoke memories,
this book explores the sensitive subject of grief in an honest, engaging - and sometimes even
humorous - way. Chocolate Chipped can help adults to talk openly to children about the loss of
a loved one. It can be read by bereaved children to help them understand their own feelings and
also by other children to help them appreciate what a friend might be going through.
Teachers,educational specialists as well as Bereavement Counsellors would also gain from
using this book.
Heaven
Written and Illustrated by Nicholas Allan
ISBN: 978-0099488149
Dill, the dog, knows his time is up, so he packs his case and tells Lily, his owner that he's off "up
there". "Can I come too?" asks Lily. "Er...not yet," replies Dill. While he is waiting for the angels
to collect him, Dill explains to Lily what he thinks heaven is like: hundreds of lampposts to pee
against, lots of whiffy things to smell and bones everywhere - with meat on them! But, Lily
completely disagrees; she thinks heaven is quite different. Luckily, they agree to disagree just in
time for a fond, and very poignant, last goodbye.
The Huge Bag of Worries
By Virginia Ironside. Hodder Wayland 1996
ISBN: 978-0340903179
(2 copies)
Jenny begins to worry about lots of different things and these worries build up and get out of
control. She just can’t get rid of them, until she meets the old lady next door who helps her feel
better. A lovely story with fun illustrations encourages children to talk about their worries.
Remembering Michael
(2 copies)
By Anita Harper, SANDS, 1994
ISBN: 1-869903-21-8
A beautiful book that tells the story about a baby brother who dies at birth leaving a brother and
sister to work through the feelings they have as a result of him not coming home. Sensitively
portrayed this book covers many of the actions and feelings associated with baby bereavement.
It gently challenges and reaffirms that the remaining siblings are in no way to blame. It also
takes the reader though the visit to the hospital to meet baby Michael and addresses some of
the questions young people may have regarding the funeral and how helpful it is to cry.
Threadbear
Written by Mick Inkpen, Hodder Children’s, 2007
ISBN: 978-0-340-93109-7
There is one thing that has always been wrong with Threadbear. In his tummy is a squeaker
that has never squeaked… A classic picture book that proves dreams do come true from the
creator of Kipper and Wibbly Pig.
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We’re Wearing out the Naughty Step
Written by Mick Inkpen, Hodder Children’s, 2008
ISBN: 978-0-340-95998-5
Josh fed the elephant with the wrong stuff. And I let the nursery hamster escape. But it wasn’t
until things went wrong on Kevin’s birthday that mummy did the really amazing thing!
“I wish I could hold your hand…”
Written by Dr Pat Palmer, Little Imp Books, 2011
ISBN 978-0-915166-82-4
This warm and comforting book gently helps grieving children identify their feelings – from
denial and anger to guilt and sadness – and learn to accept and deal with them. The expressive
illustrations and simple, direct writing help children discover that it is normal and natural to feel
the pain of loss, and that they can help themselves to feel better.
Suzie Goes to a Funeral
By Charlotte Olson, 2013, ISBN 978-1-909300-29-3
Join Suzie as she goes to Grandma’s funeral and says goodbye. Suzie can help explain to a
child who may be anxious about going to a funeral for the first time. A simple story to help and
show what they might experience on this sad day.
Have You Filled a Bucket Today?
By Carol McCloud, 2006, ISBN 978-0-9785075-1-0
A Guide to daily happiness for kids This book was written to teach young children how to be
bucket fillers. As you read this book with children, use it as an opportunity to model bucketfilling
by filling their buckets. Tell them why they are special to you. Help them think about what they
might say or do to fill someone else’s bucket.
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Recommended Reading;
Granpa – The Book of the Film
John Burningham, Ladybird Books Ltd 1991
ISBN: 978-0721414768
This beautifully detailed picture book has very few words but tells the story of a little girl’s
relationship with her Granpa. It takes the reader through many happy times they spent together
playing games, telling stories and on outings. On the last page, Granpa’s chair is empty,
signifying that he has died. Children may benefit from reading this book with an adult to talk
about the pictures and to elaborate some of the messages it conveys.
Saying Goodbye: A Special Farewell to Mama Nkwelle
By Ifeoma Onyefulu, Frances Lincoln 2002
ISBN: 978-0711217010
This book has large bright colourful photos and follows a little boy, Ikenna describing what
happens at the ceremony after his great-grandmother’s funeral. It gives ideas of different ways
to remember someone and an insight into Nigerian culture. A lovely book that could be used in
many different situations, including schools.
Saying Goodbye to Daddy
By Judith Vigna, Albert Whitman & Company 1991
ISBN: 978-0807572535 (h’back)
Clare’s Dad died in a car accident and this book looks at changes in the family, difficult feelings,
funerals and memories through the eyes of Clare. It would also be a good book to help parents
understand the child’s perspective. It gives good examples of how adults can answer children’s
questions, emphasising the need to be clear and honest.
The Tenth Good Thing About Barney
By Judith Viorst Prentice Hall & IBD 1987
ISBN: 978-0689712036
A young boy’s cat dies and his parents suggest that he could think of ten good things about
Barney to tell at the funeral. But he can only think of nine, until he talks to his Father about what
happens to someone after they have died, and he discovers the tenth. A carefully written book
with black and white pictures, that sensitively deals with death and lets the reader make his or
her own decisions about what happens after the funeral.
A Birthday Present for Daniel:
By Juliet Rothman Prometheus Books 2001
ISBN: 978-1573929462
A child’s story of loss, told by a young girl whose brother, Daniel, has died, she talks about how
things have changed in the family. She also talks about the things she does when she is sad
and how these differ from other members of her family. This book has small black and white
pictures with minimal text but it conveys some important issues. It would be particularly useful to
broach the subject of birthdays as it describes how the family remembered Daniel on his
birthday.
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.Drop Dead
By Babette Cole, Red Fox 1998
ISBN: 978-0099659112
A humorous book with comic-like pictures, two ‘bald old wrinklies’ tell their grandchildren about
their life growing up and how one day they will just drop down dead. It is a light-hearted book
about life that emphasises the normality and inevitability of dying. It is very direct and some
readers may not like its style.
Flamingo Dream
By Donna Jo Napoli. Greenwillow Books 2003
ISBN: 978-0688167967
In this bright and colourful book, a young boy tells the story of his Dad who is seriously ill and
dies soon after a trip to Florida to see the place where he grew up. The collage style illustrations
capture the things the boy collects to remind him of his Dad. A sensitive but honest book which
emphasises the importance of memories.
Fred
By Posy Simmonds, Red Fox 1998
ISBN: 978-0099264125
A light-hearted book with detailed illustrations about Fred, Nick and Sophie’s lazy cat that dies.
After burying him in the garden, they wake up at night to find all the cats in the area have come
to say goodbye to Fred, the famous singer! This funny and touching story would be useful to
introduce death to children.
Gentle Willow
Written by Joyce C Mills, Imagination Press, 2004,
ISBN 1-59147-072-2
Gentle Willow s a book for children who may not survive their illness. This comforting story
about tender-spirited tree and her friends in the forest will also help all children with the death of
friends, family members or even pets.
Up in Heaven
Written by Emma Chichester Clark, Andersen
Press, ISBN 1 84270 333 1
Daisy is devoted to Arthur but she can’t keep up with him anymore because she’s old and she’s
tired. But when she wakes up in heaven one day, she feels young again and can run and play
as she used to. Only one thing is wrong: she knows that Arthur misses her. How can she let
him know that she is happy? And how can she persuade him to get a new puppy?
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BOOKS FOR AGE 9 –12 YEARS
Resources Available at Balloons;
How to Live Forever
By Colin Thompson, Red Fox1998
ISBN: 978-0-099-46181-4
In a library with a thousand rooms are copies of every book ever written. But one book is
missing and it is called How to Live Forever. Why it is missing, and how can it be found? Only
The Ancient Child hold the key to this and to a life-enhancing truth. A labyrinthine journey, in
which books are to play a vital part, begins to find The Ancient Child
A Pea Called Mildred
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark 2011
ISBN: 9780 86388 497 9
A Pea Called Mildred is a story to help children pursue their hopes and dreams:
Mildred is a pea with dreams. She has great plans for her pea life. However, people are always
telling her that dreams are pointless as she is just another ordinary pea. Eventually, with the
help of a kind person along the way, Mildred ends up doing exactly what she has always
dreamed of doing.
A Wibble Called Bipley (and a few honks) By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark 2011
ISBN: 978 0 86388 494 8
A story for children who have hardened their hearts or become bullies
Bipley is a warm cuddly creature, but someone has broken his heart. He feels so hurt that he
decides it is just too painful to ever love again. When he meets some big tough Honks in the
wood, they teach him how to harden his heart so that he doesn't have to feel hurt any more.
Luckily Bipley meets some creatures that teach him how he can protect himself without
hardening his heart
Coping when your Parents separate
By Bill Merrington, Kevin Mayhew Ltd
ISBN: 978-1-84417-790-5
This is the story of Alice and Peter who experience difficult times when their parents separate.
How will they cope with the changes that are taking place and how do they feel about their
parents?
The Hideaway
By Bill Merrington, Kevin Mayhew Ltd
ISBN 978-1-84003-182-9
Young Bill is enjoying life: he’s got a good home, enjoys playing for the school football team and
has every chance of being noticed byt the local club. Just at the crucial moment, tradgedy
strikes and his entire life changed.
Alice’s Dad
By Bill Merrington, Kevin Mayhew Ltd
ISBN: 978 1 84003 374 8
A book to help girls cope with the death of a parent. This moving and realistic story focuses on
a parent’s terminal illness. It will be of immense help to bereaved children and their families
along with all who care for grieving children.
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Milo and the Restart Button
By Alan Silberberg, Aladan 2010
ISBN 978-0-85707-190-3
Surviving the year is all Milo has to do. Start to finish in one whole piece….but it’s not just a
new school he’s dealing with; it’s a new house, a new neighbourhood – a whole new life. And
it’s one without his mum in it. Brimming with heart, humour and hope, this is a book that will
stay with you long after you’ve turned the last page.
Chocolate Chipped
(2 Copies)
By Shelley Gilbert & Vicky Baruch, Grief Encounter
ISBN: 9780954843496
Chocolate Chipped tells the unique story of a young boy named Charlie and his grieving over
his Dad's death. Using real smells and Scratch & Sniff in the pages to help evoke memories,
this book explores the sensitive subject of grief in an honest, engaging - and sometimes even
humorous - way. Chocolate Chipped can help adults to talk openly to children about the loss of
a loved one. It can be read by bereaved children to help them understand their own feelings and
also by other children to help them appreciate what a friend might be going through.
Teachers,educational specialists as well as Bereavement Counsellors would also gain from
using this book.
Remembering Michael
(2 copies)
By Anita Harper
ISBN 1 869903 21 8
This book is for all children who have had a baby sister or brother who died. You may feel that
you are the only person who has had this experience, but you are not. What happens to the
people in the story may be like what happened in your family, or it may be quite different. I hope
that reading it will make it easier for you to tell people what it is like for you.
Your Parent has Died
By St Christopher’s1991
A short pamphlet aimed to assist young people in understanding how they may feel as the result
of a parent dying.
When Caterpillars Fly
By Lisa Mallins, 2004
ISBN: 0-9547267-0-7
A collection of poems and verse written for and inspired by children, teenagers and their families
who all live with one thing in common – they all have a child who has died or will dies before
reaching adulthood. Some poems are funny, some are just sad and some are for those of you
who just like the quiet moments to gather your thoughts and reflect on happy and sad times.
I’m Still Me
By Macmillan Cancer 2010
A guide for young people living with cancer.
Am I Still a Sister
By Alicia M Sims, Big A & Co., 1986
ISBN: 0-9618995-0-6
Exploring the difficulties and dilemmas of the grieving process, this short book has been designed
by an 11 year old girl whose brother died just after his first birthday, when she was four years old. It
is compiled of letters from herself to her brother in heaven. Through these letters this little girl works
through her grief, guilt and longing to keep her identity as a sister. it displays clearly how grief is not
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something that goes, it just changes, and the person who has died lives on through every day
activities they can no longer be a part of.
The Day the Sea Went Out and Never Came Back
(2 Copies)
By Margot Sunderland. Speechmark, 2009
ISBN: 978-0-86388-463-4
A beautiful metaphorical example of grief with hope. To accompany helping children with loss
but can be read on its own. This is a story which uses the sea a s a metaphor for death. It is
about a small creature that loves the sea and is devastated one day when then sea appears to
have just disappeared. The creature waits and longs for its return only to be profoundly
disappointed to realise that it has gone and will never be coming back. It is a story of hope as
the creatures emotions are explored and worked through via establishing a memorial.
Water Bugs and Dragonflies:
Explaining death to children
(2 copies)
By Doris Stickney Continuum Books 1982
ISBN: 9-780826-464583
This pocket size booklet is based on a fable, associating death with a water bug’s
transformation into a dragonfly. It portrays the mystery around death but may need an adult to
explain the analogy and help a child relate it to their own experience. It uses Christian beliefs
with a focus on life after death and also contains advice for parents.
What on Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies?
By Trevor Romain, Free Spirit Publishing inc 2003
ISBN: 978-1575420554
This book for older children is a factual guide, answering questions such as ‘why do people
have to die?’, ‘is it okay to cry?’ and ‘what is a funeral/memorial service?’ It is written in a
straightforward way, with practical tips, advice and information about different faiths and beliefs.
Beyond the Ridge
Paul Goble Aladdin Paperbacks 1993
ISBN: 0-689-71731-8
A beautiful story about death through the beliefs of the Native American Indian. It tells the tale of
a grandmother who has died. Although she can still hear the voices of her loved ones she finds
herself on a beautiful pathway which leads her to her dead parents and friends. Her family lay
her body out in a tree and bring food to symbolise the gift of the strength she will need for her
journey to the spirit world. “Death, there is no death only a change of worlds”.
Milly’s Bug Nut
By Jill Janney, Winston’s Wish 2002
ISBN: 978-0-9539123-4-6
A short, simple story of a young girl who’s Dad has died. It talks about the ups and downs of
family life and how things slowly get easier as time goes. Milly misses her Dad and things are
just not the same anymore. She knows when people die, they can’t come back but she still
keeps a wish to see her Dad one more time.
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When Someone Dies
(2 copies)
By CRUSE, CRUSE Bereavement Care, 1997
ISBN 0 900321 10 5
This book is a guide for teachers on how to help students in this age group who have been
bereaved and how to react when a death occurs in a school community. It explains the common
emotional responses to grief and its likely effects on young people of different age groups. It
suggests how teachers should act when a member of the student’s family dies and what to do when
the death involves a student or member of school staff. A final section suggests procedures to
follow when accidents happen on school trips or in the school itself.
Looking for Atlantis
By Colin Thompson, Julia MacRae Books 1993
IBSN: 1-85681-266-9
When grandfather comes home from the sea for the last time, his ten year old grandson begins to
search through the treasure that is hidden in the sailor's old wooden chest. Gold coins, diamonds
and silver stars are all there but the boy is looking for something greater still. Before he dies,
Grandfather makes a promise - his grandson will find Atlantis, all he has to do is learn how to look.
Wenny Has Wings
Janet Lee Carey AladdinPaperbacks 2004
ISBN: 978-0-689-86759-0
A beautiful story told through the eyes of a boy who was in an accident with his sister. He was
seriously injured but his sister died. Over the next few years Will writes a diary to his sister. This
book gives amazing insight into the depth of emotion a young child can feel and how intricately
deep their coping methods are. Eventually with the impending birth of his next sibling, he is able to
share the thoughts that have shaped his actions and his parents are able to understand him on a
far deeper level.
Michael Rosen’s SAD BOOK
By Michael Rosen Walker Books 2004
ISBN: 978-1406313161
This book has large illustrations and small snippets of text. It is wonderfully honest and will
appeal to children and adults of all ages. We all have sad stuff, but what makes Michael Rosen
most sad is thinking about his son who died. This book is a simple but emotive story. He talks
about what sad is and how it affects him and what he does to cope with it. In true Michael
Rosen style, this book manages to make you smile as well.
Recommended Reading;
A Dragon in your Heart
By Sophie LeBlanc, Jessica Kingsley, 1999
ISBN 1-85302-701-4
Explaining cancer through a mum’s diagnosis into remission. This is a book aimed to give young
people the facts about cancer in an understandable way. It shares the journey a child may have
when a parent is diagnosed.
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Out of the Blue
By Julie Stokes & Paul Oxley Winstons Wish 2006
ISBN:1-903458-71-4
Making memories last when someone has died through creative means. This little book offers
some of the more classic ways to encourage a young person to explore their feelings and
memories in a creative way. Come with templates for the activities.
Beginnings and Endings with Lifetimes in Between:
Bryan Mellonie & Robert Ingpen, Belitha Press 1997
ISBN: 978-1855617605
A beautiful way to explain life and death to children. This thought provoking book has large
pictures complemented with small sections of text. It clearly explains about life and death
focussing on plants, animals and insects before moving on to people. It emphasises that death
is part of the life cycle and is natural and normal whenever it occurs. A simple book with a
powerful message.
Death: What’s Happening?
By Karen Bryant–Mole, Hodder Wayland 1994
ISBN: 978-0750213790
This factual book has clear text and large photos. It uses stories of young people to discuss
issues surrounding death such as feeling frightened, the funeral and the future. It includes
advice on how to feel better and cope with difficult situations after someone has died. Using
straightforward language, this book may reassure the reader there are other young people who
have had someone important to them die and answer some of their questions and concerns.
The Cat Mummy
By Jacqueline Wilson Corgi Childrens 2002
ISBN: 978-0440864165 (also on audiocassette)
Verity’s Mum died the day she was born but she rarely talks about her. Verity doesn’t want to
upset her Dad or Grandparents. This humorous but sensitive story mainly focuses on Verity’s
missing cat Mabel but reveals some of the misunderstandings and anxieties children can have
about death. It also shows it can be good to be open, honest and to talk about difficult issues.
The Ghost of Uncle Arvie
Sharon Creech, Macmillan Children’s Books 1997
ISBN: 978-0333656327
This fun and humorous book is about Danny, an ordinary nine-year-old boy. However, once or
twice a year a ghost visits him. This time it is the ghost of his Uncle Arvie who follows him,
persuading him to make his three wishes come true. As a result Danny and his dog get into
adventures which make him think about his dad who has also died. This book has some
important messages and talks about death in an open way, but is primarily fun and imaginative.
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The Mountains of Tibet
By Mordicai Gerstein, Barefoot Paperbacks 1989
ISBN: 978-1898000549
Based on Tibetan teachings, this book tells of a small boy who grows up to be a woodcutter.
When he dies, he discovers there is a chance to live again but first he must make a number of
choices. A simple tale with deep meaning but the theme of reincarnation could be confusing.
Losing Uncle Tim
By Mary Kate Jordan Albert Whitman & company
1999
ISBN: 978-0807547564
This picture book for slightly older children explains how a young boy finds out his Uncle Tim
has AIDS and is going to die. It is a serious and sensitive book covering many of the issues,
changes and difficult feelings that can occur when someone has a serious illness.
The Best Day of the Week
By Hannah Cole Walker Books 1997
ISBN: 978-0744554670
This storybook tells of two young children who spend Saturdays with their Grandparents when
Mum is at work. It has three chapters, with stories of three different Saturdays. The first is a
happy day; the second is at the hospital and sad as Granny dies, the third at the theatre. It is a
lovely story that gives an important message that it is still okay to have fun after someone dies.
Ways to Live Forever
By Sally Nicholls, Marion Lloyd Books, 2008
ISBN: 978-1407104997
If I grow up," 11-year-old Sam informs readers, "I'm going to be a scientist." He says "if"
because he has acute lymphoblastic leukaemia and knows he probably won't. With the
encouragement of his tutor, he starts to write a bit about himself, then more, until he is using his
writing to sort out his death. Interspersed with Sam's lists, questions and odd bits of mortality
facts on notebook paper, his narrative proceeds in short, candid chapters that reveal a boy who,
though he's not ready to die, nevertheless can confront the reality with heartbreaking clarity. As
his parents wrangle about treatment (he doesn't want it), his little sister grapples with the
changes to the household and his best friend and fellow cancer-sufferer dies, Sam methodically
works through the things he wants to do before he dies, from going up a down escalator to the
more problematic ride in an airship and seeing the earth from space.
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BOOKS FOR AGE 13 – 16 YEARS
Resources Available at Balloons;
Alice’s Dad
By Bill Merrington, Kevin Mayhew Ltd
ISBN: 978 1 84003 374 8
A book to help girls cope with the death of a parent. This moving and realistic story focuses on
a parent’s terminal illness. It will be of immense help to bereaved children and their families
along with all who care for grieving children.
Up Front
By Southgate Publishers, 2009
Up Front is a guide for teenagers that gives you some down-to-earth information and practical
guidelines, to help you aim at a healthier lifestyle. Much of it you will already know but there is
no harm in being reminded. We hope that the way the information is presented will entertain
you as well.
The Hideaway
By Bill Merrington, Kevin Mayhew Ltd
ISBN 978-1-84003-182-9
Young Bill is enjoying life: he’s got a good home, enjoys playing for the school football team and
has every chance of being noticed byt the local club. Just at the crucial moment, tradgedy
strikes and his entire life changed.
Remembering Michael
(2 copies)
By Anita Harper
ISBN 1 869903 21 8
This book is for all children who have had a baby sister or brother who died. You may feel that
you are the only person who has had this experience, but you are not. What happens to the
people in the story may be like what happened in your family, or it may be quite different. I hope
that reading it will make it easier for you to tell people what it is like for you.
Your Parent has Died
By St Christopher’s1991
A short pamphlet aimed to assist young people in understanding how they may feel as the result
of a parent dying.
When Caterpillars Fly
By Lisa Mallins, 2004
ISBN: 0-9547267-0-7
A collection of poems and verse written for and inspired by children, teenagers and their families
who all live with one thing in common – they all have a child who has died or will dies before
reaching adulthood. Some poems are funny, some are just sad and some are for those of you
who just like the quiet moments to gather your thoughts and reflect on happy and sad times.
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Our Father Who Art In A Tree
Judy PascoeRandom House 2004.
ISBN: 0-375-75987-5
A fascinating story about 2 members of a family who feel the presence of their dead husband
and father through an enormous tree which overshadows the house. Sometimes humorous and
sometimes raw with feeling associations between tree responses to real life see uncanny. A
great read.
Young Adults with Blood Cancer
By Leukaemia & Lymphoma Research
Booklet: Young adults with blood cancer, what do I need to know.
I’m Still Me
By Macmillan Cancer 2010
Booklet: A guide for young people living with cancer.
Up on Cloud Nine
By Anne Fine, Corgi Children’s 2006
ISBN: 978-0552554657
Stol falls out of a top floor window and ends up unconscious in hospital with lots of broken
bones and no-one knows whether it was attempted suicide or an accident. This book is written
from the perspective of his best friend Ian whilst he is sitting by his bedside. He recalls all the
fun times they have had together as well as acknowledging the slightly different way Stol sees
the world. Ian captures the emotions of his own adoptive parents as well as Stol’s family and the
hospital staff in an amusing yet moving way illustrating how Stol has had an inspirational effect
on everyone. (Also available in audiocassette)
Johnathan Livingstone Seagull
Richard Bach Harper Collins 1994
ISBN: 0-00-649034-4
A story of difference, rejection death and afterlife through the eyes of a seagull. A compelling a
deep book to assist young people in their quest to accept differences, be different but still feel
accepted and to begin questioning the meaning of life. A classic.
Before I Die
By Jenny Downham David Fickling Books
ISBN: 978-0385613460
With only months left to live, 16-year-old Tessa makes a list of things she must experience: sex,
petty crime, fame, drugs and true love. Downham's wrenching work features a girl desperate for
a few thrilling moments before leukaemia takes her away. Although Tessa remains ardently
committed to her list, both she and the reader find comfort in the quiet resonance of the natural
world. Tessa's soul mate, Adam, gardens next door; a bird benignly rots in grass; psychedelic
mushrooms provide escape; an apple tree brings comfort; and her best friend, Zoey, ripens in
the final months of pregnancy. A wonderful insight into a young person who is going to dies
mind.
A Monster Calls
By Patrick Ness, Walker 2012
ISBN: 978-1-4063-4695-4
A Monster Calls is an extraordinarily moving novel about the difficult subject of terminal illness
and coming to terms with loss. Based on an idea by the late Siobhan Dowd, this is an
unforgettable read. 'The monster showed up just after midnight. As they do...' is how the book
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begins, but it isn't the monster Conor's been expecting. He's been expecting the one from his
nightmare, the one he's had nearly every night since his mother started her treatments. This
monster is something different - something ancient and something wild. A heartbreakingly
beautiful read.
My sister lives on the mantelpiece
Written by Annabel Pitcher, Orion Children’s Books,
2011
ISBN 978-1-78062-029-9
Ten year old Jamie hasn’t cried since it happened. He knows he should have – Jasmine cried,
Mum cried, Dad still cries. Roger didn’t, but then he is just a cat and didn’t know Rose that well,
really. Five years on, it’s worse than ever: Dad drink, Mum’s gone and Jamie’s left with
questions that he must answer for himself. This is his story, an unflinchingly real yet heartwarming account of a young boy’s struggle to make sense of the loss that tore his family apart.
Still Here with Me
By Suzanne Sjoqvist, Jessica Kingsley, 2007
ISBN 1-84310-501-2
A book for teenagers on the effect of parental death. This book is a moving and thoughtful anthology
of the experiences of thirty children and teenagers who have lost a parent. In their own words,
children and young people of a variety of ages talk openly and honestly about losing their
mother or father. They describe feelings of pain, loss and anger, the struggle to cope with the
embarrassed reactions and silence of others, and the difficulties involved in rebuilding their
lives. They also share happy and loving memories of their parents, and talk about the
importance of remembering while learning to accept their parent's death. The accounts cover a
variety of circumstances in which a parent died
Bothered: Helping teenagers talk about their feelings
By Margot Sutherland, Speechmark,
2012, ISBN 978-0-86388-908-0
At this challenging developmental stage, when teenagers are finding things difficult, this book
can really help. The tried and tested interventions are designed to help practitioners to connect
with teenagers and support them to go on to enjoy a fulfilling adult life. Additionally, the
psychological knowledge gained from exercises in the book can empower teenagers to move
from unhappiness, poor functioning or learning blocks, to a place of self-awareness, self-esteem
and ability to thrive.
Recommended Reading;
Double Act
By Jacqueline Wilson Corgi Children’s 1996
ISBN: 978-0440867593 (Also on audiocassette)
Ruby and Garnet are 10-year-old twins. They do everything together, especially since their mum
died three years ago. When their dad finds a new partner and they move house, Ruby and
Garnet find it hard and get into all sorts of trouble. Eventually, they settle down and learn to live
with the changes. A lively and humorous book that deals sensitively with change.
Dustbin Baby
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By Jacqueline Wilson, Corgi Children’s 2002
ISBN: 978-0552547963 (Also on audiocassette)
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April was abandoned in a dustbin as a baby on the 1st April. Having spent all her life in a
children’s home and with different foster parents (one of whom committed suicide), things
haven’t been easy and April is struggling. Now she’s fourteen and on her birthday, determined
to find out more about her past, sets off to find some important people. This is an emotive book
with a great storyline in usual Jacqueline Wilson style. It is open and honest.
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Straight Talk about Death for Teenagers:
By Earl A. Grollman, Sagebrush ED Resources 1999
ISBN: 978-0807025017
How to cope with the death of someone you love. This book was written after the author spoke
to thousands of teenagers and found they often felt forgotten after someone has died. Written
in short, clear sentences that are easy to read, it covers feelings, different types of death and
the future. This book gives the reader many options of what can happen, how s/he may feel,
giving advice and reassuring readers grief is normal.
The Charlie Barber Treatment
By Carole Lloyd, Walker Books Ltd 1997
ISBN: 978-0744554571
Simon’s Mum died suddenly from a brain haemorrhage and he came home from school to find
she had died. With his GCSE coursework piling up and having to help around the house, Simon
finds it hard and doesn’t go out much with his friends. He then meets Charlie, who is visiting her
Grandma, and believes their meeting was fate. Simon starts to enjoy life again and to re-build
relationships with his family and friends. A sensitive and realistic book that conveys some of the
thoughts and emotions of a teenage boy.
The Lost Boys’ Appreciation Society
Alan Gibbons, Orion Children’s Books 2004
ISBN: 978-1842550953
Teenage life is difficult enough for Gary and John, but when their Mum dies in a car accident,
things get steadily worse. John struggles to keep the peace as Gary goes off the rails, saying
his new mates are now his family. With GCSE exams looming and his Dad going out on dates,
things become unbearable for John. A gripping book exploring relationships and how different
people react to life events.
The Man who didn’t want to die:
Retold by Sherab Chodzin & Alexandra Kohn Barefoot Books
1999
ISBN: 1841480096
From the Barefoot Book Of Buddhist Tales, this short story is based on a Japanese folk tale and
approaches death from an unusual angle. When a man decides he doesn’t want to die, he is
sent to the Land of Never-ending Life and expects to meet the happiest people in the world.
However, the realities of living forever are not as attractive as he thought and he consequently
learns an important lesson. This story is very thought provoking and could lead to some
interesting discussions.
The Spying Game
By Pat Moon, Politico's Publishing Ltd; 2003Rev.
ISBN: 978-1842750049
Joe’s dad died in a car accident and he feels really angry towards the man who killed his father.
He decides to set up a secret ‘Nightmare Plan’ to vent his anger and begins to persecute the
man and his family by scratching his car and sending hate mail. This powerful book reveals the
difficult emotions Joe faces both at home and at school. A very readable and fast paced book
that would appeal to many young people.
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Two Weeks with the Queen
By Morris Gleitzman Puffin Books, 1999
ISBN: 978-0141303000
Twelve-year-old Colin, an Australian boy, is sent to stay with relatives in England when his
brother becomes ill with cancer. He is determined to find a way of curing his brother, which
leads him into all sorts of adventures including trying to visit the Queen! Colin finds a friend in an
older man named Ted who helps him express his feelings and understand what he has to do.
(Also available on audiocassette.)
Vicky Angel
By Jacqueline Wilson Corgi Children’s, 2001
ISBN: 978-0440865896
When Jade’s best friend Vicky, is run over by a car and dies in hospital everyone at home and
school starts treating her differently. ‘Vicky Angel’ then starts following Jade around, distracting
her and getting her into trouble. This moving but amusing story illustrates how hard it is to carry
on with every day life after a tragic accident. (Also available in audiocassette)
Ostrich Boys
By Keith Gray. Definitions 2008,
ISBN: 978-0099456575
It's not really kidnapping, is it? He'd have to be alive for it to be proper kidnapping.' Kenny, Sim
and Blake are about to embark on a remarkable journey of friendship. Stealing the urn
containing the ashes of their best friend Ross, they set out to travel the 261 miles to the tiny
hamlet of Ross in Dumfries and Galloway. After a depressing funeral they feel taking Ross to
Ross will be a fitting memorial for a 15 year-old boy who changed all their lives through his
friendship. Little do they realise just how much Ross can still affect life for them even though
he's now dead. Drawing on personal experience Keith Gray has written an extraordinary novel
about friendship, loss and suicide, and about the good things that may be waiting just out of
sight around the corner...
Broken Soup
By Jenny Valentine HarperCollins Children's Books 2008
ISBN: 978-0007229659
When the good-looking boy with the American accent presses the dropped negative into
Rowan's hand, she's sure it's all a big mistake. But next moment he's gone, lost in the crowd of
bustling shoppers. And she can't afford to lose her place in the checkout queue -- after all, if she
doesn't take the groceries home, nobody else will. Rowan has more responsibilities than most
girls her age. These days, she pretty much looks after her little sister single-handedly -- which
doesn't leave much time for friends or fun. So when she finds out that Bee from school saw the
whole thing, it piques her curiosity. Who was the boy? Why was he so insistent that the negative
belonged to Rowan?
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BOOKS FOR AGE 18 – 28 YEARS
Resources Available at Balloons;
Facing Grief
Written by Susan Wallbank, Lutterworth, 2003
ISBN 0-7188-2807-0
A book specifically aimed at the 18-28 age group and those around them, this book deals
frankly, sensibly and compassionately with the effects of bereavement on the young adult.
Counselling for Toads
Written by Robert de Board, Routledge, 1998
ISBN 978-0-415-17429-9
An engaging account of Toad’s experience of counselling will capture the imagination of the
growing readership of people who are interested in counselling and the counselling process.
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OTHER HELPFUL BOOKS (NOT DIRECTLY ABOUT DEATH)
There are a number of books that do not directly deal with death or bereavement but may help
the reader face difficult feelings and responses that are associated with grief.
Resources Available at Balloons;
Black Dog
By Levi Pinfold, templar publishing 2011
ISBN: 978-1-84877-748-4
A black dog appears outside the Hope family's home. As each member of the household sees it
and hides, the dog grows bigger and bigger. Only Small, the youngest Hope, has the courage to
face the Black Dog. When it chases her through the forest she shows no fear, so it grows
smaller and smaller. Finally, back to the size of a normal hound, the Black Dog is welcomed into
the Hope household as their newest addition.
How to Talk To A Widower
By Johnathan Tropper, Orion Fiction 2007
ISBN: 978-0-7528-9319-8
A wise-cracking , darkly comic tale, yet beneath its raucous plot lies a heartfelt meditation on
love and loss.
A Terrible Thing Happened
By Margaret M Holmes, Imagination Press
This gently told and tenderly illustrated story is for children who have witnessed any kind of
violent or traumatic episode, including physical abuse, school or gang violence, accidents,
homicide, suicide, and natural disasters such as floods or fire. An afterword for parents and
other caregivers offers extensive suggestions for helping traumatized children, including a list of
other sources that focus on specific events.
I’m Worried
By Wayland, 2012
ISBN 978-0-7502-2131-3
Young children experience many confusing emotions in their early years. This series of picture
books examines some of them in an amusing but ultimimately reassuring way. Contains notes
for parents and teachers with suggestions of ways to help children deal with these emotions.
The Huge Book of Worries
By Virginia Ironside, Hodders Children’s Books
ISBN 978-0-340-90317-9
Wherever Jenny goes, her worries follow her – in a big blue bag! They are there when she
goes swimming, when she watching TV, and even when she is in the lavatory. Jenny decides
they will have to go. But who can she get help her?
Up Front
By Southgate Publishers, 2009
Up Front is a guide for teenagers that gives you some down-to-earth information and practical
guidelines, to help you aim at a healthier lifestyle. Much of it you will already know but there is
no harm in being reminded. We hope that the way the information is presented will entertain
you as well.
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Managing Difficult Behaviour
By Sonya Hinton, Southgate 2008
ISBN 1-85741-171-4
All parents experience times when their children’s behaviour gives them cause for concern and
when they feel powerless to change things. This booklet will help you gain confidence in
dealing with difficult behaviour; it will encourage you to think about reasons for the behaviour
and will give you lots of strategies to deal with it effectively, both in the short and long term.
Coping when your Parents separate
By Bill Merrington, Kevin Mayhew Ltd
ISBN: 978-1-84417-790-5
This is the story of Alice and Peter who experience difficult times when their parents separate.
How will they cope with the changes that are taking place and how do they feel about their
parents?
Dad Did It!
By Chris Wakefield, Southgate
ISBN 1-85741-116-1
A booklet packed with ways for Dads (and Mums) to enjoy themselves whilst entertaining their
kids. No matter what your technical or DIY abilities, there’s something in here you will enjoy
doing, that keeps you and your kids entertained and informed.
The Gift
By Carol Ann Duffy, Rob Ryan, Barefoot Books
2010
ISBN 978-1-84686-345-7
A story of a girl’s journey through life, and the desires that shape it, will speak to everyone who
wonders about the mysteries that lie at the heart of the human experience.
Talking to the Dead
By Elaine Feinstien, Carcanet 2007
ISBN: 978 1 85754 902 7
Selection of Poetry around bereavement.
Helping People Cope with Crime
By Hodder & Stoughton, 2000
ISBN 0 2340 780495
People who need help to cope with crime, whether or not it has been reported to the police, can
contact Vivtim Support for emotional and practical assistance, in confidence. Victim Support
has local Schemes covering every community in England, Wales and Northern Ireland. In
addition its Witness Service provides support for people attending court, and its Victim
Supportline offers daily access to its services, enabling anyone concerned about crime to talk to
someone who can help.
The Inquest Handbook
By INQUEST 2011
ISBN 978 0 946858 25 5
If someone you know has died, or you are helping someone you know deal with a death where
an inquest is to be held, The inquest handbook will give you information about the inquest
procedure and what will happen after a sudden, violent or unnatural death.
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We Need To Talk About The Funeral
By Jane Morrell & Simon Smith, Alphabet & Image
Publishers 2006
ISBN 1-899296-31-X
ISBN 978-1-899296-31-6
How to plan budget and arrange a funeral.
Time to Go
By Jenny Francis, iUniverse 2004
ISBN: 0-595-31859-2
Alternative funerals: The Importance of saying Goodbye. When it’s time to go we all have to
make this journey, whether it is by a conventional route or a more unusual one. This book will
stimulate conversation on what has for decades been a taboo subject.
What colour is grief
Nell Dale Different Sky 2007
ISBN : 978-0-9555748-0-1
A heart rendering and beautifully crafted book. Nell invites the reader to share in the processes
that were derived from her experiencing the illness and death of her partner through a series of
stunning imagery and poetry. “This book is for all those like me who suddenly found the future
they thought was there-is no more”.
When Caterpillars Fly
By Lisa Mallins, 2004
ISBN: 0-9547267-0-7
A collection of poems and verse written for and inspired by children, teenagers and their families
who all live with one thing in common – they all have a child who has died or will dies before
reaching adulthood. Some poems are funny, some are just sad and some are for those of you
who just like the quiet moments to gather your thoughts and reflect on happy and sad times.
The Tunnel
By Anthony Browne, Walker Books, 1992
ISBN: 978-1-4063-1329-1
A brother and sister who are very different are forced to spend time together. They discover a
tunnel and the boy without feeling or thought for his sister, enters the tunnel leaving her
frightened and alone. Eventually after gathering her strength, she follows him only to find herself
in a scary forest. She knows she has to find her brother no matter how scared she may be and
eventually finds him, but he has turned to stone. In her grief she holds him and cries and slowly
he turns back into her brother but he has changed in the knowing she was there for him.
Into The Forest
By Anthony Browne, Walker Books, 2005
ISBN: 978-1-84428-559-4
A different take on the red riding hood story, a boy whose father is missing and mother does not
know when he will be back sends him off to take a cake to his grandmother. She instructs him to
go the long way around and not to enter the forest; however the thought of such a long journey
convinces him to take the short cut. He faces some emotional challenges along the way but
eventually arrives at his grandmother’s house where a surprise is waiting for him.
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The Bear Under The Stairs
Helen Cooper. Red Fox Books 2002
ISBN: 978-0-552-54881-6
Only William knows about the great big bear living under the stairs. He’s sure he saw one
lurking there... A beautifully illustrated book dealing with the fears born of children’s imaginings.
An extremely usable and reasonably priced resource.
Teenie Weenie in a Too Big World
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2009
ISBN 978-0-86388-460-3
A cleverly written and beautifully illustrated book that tells the story through imaginative use of
metaphor, or a critter named Teenie Weenie who is overwhelmed by life. It feels so insignificant
and vulnerable that it shrinks, hides in a hole and reflects on why bother existing at all.Teenie
Weenie is found in its hiding place by another strange creature who invites it to tea. Firstly this
creature has to reassure Teenie Weenie that when they are together they will feel stronger than
when they are alone. Teenie Weenie leaves his hole and other creatures join them. Together
they address the challenges Teenie Weenie faced before it shrank and Teenie Weenie learns to
recognise that when its feels bad it is because it is spending to much time alone with its
thoughts.
A Wibble Called Bipley (and a few honks) By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark 2011
ISBN: 978 0 86388 494 8
A story for children who have hardened their hearts or become bullies
Bipley is a warm cuddly creature, but someone has broken his heart. He feels so hurt that he
decides it is just too painful to ever love again. When he meets some big tough Honks in the
wood, they teach him how to harden his heart so that he doesn't have to feel hurt any more.
Luckily Bipley meets some creatures that teach him how he can protect himself without
hardening his heart
Hot Stuff
Jerry Wilde LGR Publishing1997
ISBN:0-9656710-0-2
A book to help young people chill out – An anger management book that is aimed directly at
young people. It is designed like a workbook and provides young people with simplistic systems
with which to assess their anger. The language is very American however the concepts can be
utilised.
The Frog who Longed for the Moon to Smile
(2 Copies)
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2009
ISBN: 978 0 86388 495 5
A cleverly written story designed to assist young people who are stuck and waiting for one thing
in particular to happen as the rest of the world passes them by. Full of amazing metaphor as
well as being beautifully illustrated.
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A Nifflenoo called Never Mind
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2005
ISBN: 9 780863884962
A clever book to help demonstrate the usefulness of sharing feelings. Never Mind always
carries on whatever happens! Each time something horrible happens to him, he is very brave
and simply says, Never Mind. He meets with all kinds of set-backs, bullying and
disappointments but each time he just tucks his feelings away and carries on with life. However,
he becomes so full of bottled-up feelings that after a time he gets stuck in a hedge. In addition,
some of these feelings start to leak out of him in ways that hurt others. Luckily, he happens
upon a bogwert who helps him to understand that his feelings do matter and should not be
ignored. Never Mind then learns how to express his feelings and stand up for himself.
Mad Isn’t Bad
By Michaelene Mundy, One Caring Place Abbey
Press, 1999
ISBN: 978-0-87029-331-3
A book that assists parents, teachers and other caring adults to assist the child they support to
understand their anger from a very basic viewpoint. It explores positive and less-constructive
ways of demonstrating anger and provides some simple tools to assist young people staying in
control of this strong emotion.
A Volcano in My Tummy
(2 Copies)
By Eliane Whitehouse and Warwick Pudney, New
Society Publishers, 1996
ISBN: 978-0-86571-349-9
A book to support professionals in working with young people who have issues managing their
anger. Useful up until the age of 10. Full of photocopiable activities that can be used on a oneto-one or in a group scenario. Ideal for teachers also.
Helping Children to Build Self-Esteem
By Deborah M. Plummer, Jessica Kingsley, 2007
ISBN: 978 1 84310 488 9
A superb resource. Full of photocopiable activities to use when helping children and young
people build self-esteem. Suitable for use with children aged 7 – 11. Again, can be used
individually or with groups.
Through the Magic Mirror
By Anthony Browne, Walker Books, 2010
ISBN: 978-1-4063-2628-4
A story about a little boy who is fed up with the world the way it is, only to realise that when
things change it’s not always for the best and that there is a comfort in familiarity. (Junior school
age)
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Piggybook
By Anthony Browne, Walker Books, 2008
ISBN: 978-1-4063-1328-4
Mr Piggott and his two sons behave like pigs to poor Mrs Piggott until, finally, she walks out.
Left to fend for themselves the male Piggotts undergo some curious changes. A story that
encourages families to pull together. Can also be used with young people when mum dies to
explore what would happen in the story if she did not come back. (Junior school age)
Me and You
By Anthony Browne, Doubleday, 2010
ISBN: 978-0-385-61489-4
A different take on Goldilocks through the eyes of a sad little girl who journeys alone but returns
into the arms and warm embrace of her mother after her bleak journey.
Changes
By Anthony Browne, Walker Books, 2008
ISBN: 978-1-4063-1339-0
A superbly illustrated book with a multitude of metaphors to express the confusion a child feels
when being told that things are going to change but not being given all the correct information.
Nothing
By Mick Inkpen, Hodder Children’s Books 2006
ISBN: 978-0340918166
A ‘little thing’ has been stuck in the attic for so long, he has even forgotten its name. When the
owners move house and leave him behind, he sets off on an adventure to discover who he
really is. A lovely book about families and the feeling that you belong. It could be used in many
situations, particularly with a child who is feeling unsettled.
There’s No Such Thing as a Dragon
(3 Copies)
By Jack Kent Happy Cat Books
ISBN: 978-1899248957
Billy wakes up to find a tiny dragon in his bedroom. His mother insists that there is no such thing
as a dragon but the dragon gets bigger and bigger until it fills the whole house. When the family
finally acknowledge that the dragon exists, it returns to its normal size. This colourful picture
book is a useful tool to use with children to talk about difficult feelings and other issues that can
increase when they are ignored.
Voices in the Park
By Anthony Browne, Corgy Books, 1999
ISBN: 978-0-552-54564-8
A cleverly written short story from four perspectives to help demonstrate difference of opinion
and encourage discussion. Four different voices tell the story of the same walk in the same
park. Simply written but deeply thought provoking.
Willy and the Wobbly House
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark 2000
ISBN 978 0 86388 498 6
Willy and the Wobbly House: a story for children who are anxious or obsessional.
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The Big Book of Blobs
By Pip Wilson & Ian Long, 2005
Draw On Your Emotions
By Margot sunderland & Philip Engleheart, Winslow
2000
ISBN 0 86388 117 3
Words to Comfort Words to Heal
By Juliet Mabey, Oneworld Publications 2005
ISBN 1-85168-154-X
Poems and Meditations for those who grieve.
A Monster Calls
By Patrick Ness, Walker 2012
ISBN: 978-1-4063-4695-4
A Monster Calls is an extraordinarily moving novel about the difficult subject of terminal illness
and coming to terms with loss. Based on an idea by the late Siobhan Dowd, this is an
unforgettable read. 'The monster showed up just after midnight. As they do...' is how the book
begins, but it isn't the monster Conor's been expecting. He's been expecting the one from his
nightmare, the one he's had nearly every night since his mother started her treatments. This
monster is something different - something ancient and something wild. A heartbreakingly
beautiful read.
The Huge Bag of Worries
(2 copies)
By Virginia Ironside Hodder Wayland 1996
ISBN: 978-0340903179
Jenny begins to worry about lots of different things and these worries build up and get out of
control. She just can’t get rid of them, until she meets the old lady next door who helps her feel
better. A lovely story with fun illustrations encourages children to talk about their worries.
Ruby and the Rubbish Bin
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2007
ISBN: 978-0-86388-462-7
A sad but inspiring story of a girl who feels she is not worth anything finding hope through
someone else’s eyes. Ruby is convinced she is not worth the ground she stands on until a
supporting adult invests in some quality time with her. Slowly Ruby begins to feel and
understand her worth.
Silly Billy
(2 copies)
By Anthony Browne, Walker Books, 2007
ISBN: 978-1-4063-0576-0
A story of a little boy who worries about everything until his gran gives him a solution in the form
of worry dolls. However Billy begins to worry of the effect, telling all his worries to the worries
dolls will have on them so he decides to make a worry doll for his worry dolls and can at last
Utilse his dolls without guilt. A wonderful little book for children who worry a lot.
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Helping Children who yearn for someone they love
Written by Margot Sunderland,
Speechmark, 2000
ISBN 978-0-86388-456-6
The story in this guide is entitled ‘The Frog who Longed for the Moon to Smile’. The guidebook
details the common psychological origins and most relevant theories for the problems and
issues addressed in the story.
Easy Peasy Party Games
Written by Sarah Underwood,
Southgate Publishers, 2013
ISBN 9781857411539
Twenty-two fun-filled games, perfect for an easy peasy children’s party.
Angry Arthur
By Hiawyn Oram Red Fox, 1993
ISBN: 978-0099196617
Its time for bed but Arthur wants to stay up so he gets really angry. Every time someone tells
him ‘that’s enough’ his anger gets bigger and bigger and takes over the world until he wonders
why he was so angry in the first place. A wonderful imaginative story that many children (and
adults) will be able to relate to.
How Hattie Hated Kindness
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2003
ISBN: 978 0 86388 4610
A hopeful story about a little girl who is on a self-destruct path, pushing everybody away who
wants to be with her. To read to or be read by all age groups who struggle to socialise and
accept that they deserve to be happy. Beautifully illustrated and will strike a chord with many
adults and children alike.
Recommended Reading;
Nothing Scares Us
Frieda Wishinsky Bloomsbury Children’s Books
2001
ISBN: 978-0747550433
Lucy and Lenny are the ‘fearless two’, best friends who have all sorts of adventures. Lenny then
starts watching a scary programme on TV, which gives Lucy nightmares and she dare not tell
Lenny in case he laughs at her. With bright colourful pictures, this fun book is a comforting story
about friendship and adventure.
No Matter What
By Debi Gliori, Bloomsbury Childrens Books 2003
ISBN: 978-0747563310
A rhyming story with large, bright pictures about Small, a young fox who is feeling cross
because no one loves him. Large, then reassures him that she’ll love him no matter what. A fun
and imaginative book that only briefly talks about death but would be a useful story to help
support a young child through difficult times.
Helping Children who Bottle-up their Feelings
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2005
ISBN: 9 780863 884573
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A resource to support professionals who are working with young people to encourage emotional
literacy and catharsis. Provides evidence for the young person in the self-destruction that occurs
when feelings are just bottled-up. Full of wonderful exercises that can be utilised for all age
groups. Is accompanied with a storybook called ‘A Nifflenoo called Never Mind’.
Something Else
By Kathryn Cave Puffin Books 1995
ISBN: 978-0140549072
Something Else doesn’t belong and has no one to be friends with, until one day Nothing knocks
at his door and although they seem very different, they get along and become friends. These
unusual looking characters capture the feelings of young people in a sensitive and fun way. A
lovely book that could reassure children who feel unsettled within their peer group.
Supposing
By Frances Thomas
Books1999
ISBN: 978-0747541738
Bloomsbury Children‘s
Little Monster starts telling his mother a wonderfully imaginative but scary story about what
might happen tomorrow. Mother then gives him an alternative, happier story and takes away his
fears. This story is reassuring as well as fun and imaginative.
Five Minutes’ Peace (The Large Family) By Jill Murphy, 2001Walker Books
ISBN: 978-0744581195
This humorous book with lovely detailed pictures tells the story of Mrs Large who is desperate
for five minutes peace from her three children, but it is harder to find than she expects! A lovely
book that can be enjoyed by both adults and children and may help to explain that every so
often, grown-ups need time to themselves.
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BOOKS FOR FAMILIES WHEN SOMEONE IS SERIOUSLY ILL
Resources Available at Balloons;
Saying Goodbye to Hare
(3 copies)
By Carol Lee
This is an uplifting story written fo children aged 5-9 years about death and dying. Beautifully
illustrated, Saying Goodbye to Hare is full of honesty and warmth. As young Rabbit witnesses
the life, illness and death of his dear friend Hare, the story explores some of the feelings and
questions children have at this time. Inspired by the author’s own personal experience of
supporting her young children through the illness and death of their father, the story is
sensitively written to give a positive, thoughtful message about death and dying. The book
includes guidance notes for the adult supporting the child.
Old Elephant
By Laurence Bourguignon, Valerie d’Heur
ISBN 1 84746 038 0
Old Elephant is very tired and very old, but Tiny Mouse doesn’t want to let him go. Then one
day she understands his time has come, and she can help him follow his dream.
Chemotherapy, Cakes and Cancer
By Megan Blunt, CLIC Sargent
Booklet written by Megan Blunt a young person suffering with cancer, it talks about surviving
long stays in hospital, keeping positive, explains medical terms in a simple format suitable for
children and young people.
Saying Goodbye
(5 Copies)
By Clare Selley and Deborah Butler
ISBN 9 781857 411133
Offers in-depth advice and guidance about how to help children and young people deal with an
unexpected death in the family. The book includes detailed sections on telling the children, may
ask, ways to encourage communication between adults and children, creating lasting memories
together and dealing with death.
When Someone Dies
By Hospiscare
This booklet is designed to help you cope with practical steps you will need to take when
someone close to you dies. It also looks at the emotional adjustments that you will have to face
over the coming months, with information on sources of help and support available to you.
Facing Death and Talking About it
By CLIC Sargent
A booklet to help young adults aged 17+
Young Adults with Blood Cancer
By Leukaemia & Lymphoma Research
Booklet: Young adults with blood cancer, what do I need to know.
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I’m Still Me
By Macmillan Cancer 2010
A guide for young people living with cancer.
Fighting the Big ‘C’
By Sarah J Palmer, CLIC Sargent 2010
A guide for young people and their families to understand cancer and its treatment.
When someone has a very Serious Illness:
By Marge Heegard, Woodland Press 1991
ISBN: 978-0962050244
Children can learn to cope with Loss and Change. Aiming to be used weekly, over a number of
sessions, this workbook will help families communicate and teach children about illness and
coping skills. With simple, clear writing and plenty of space for children to draw and colour, it
covers areas such as change, feelings and looking after oneself. It also has suggestions for how
adults can help children as well as useful addresses and additional reading.
The Grieving Child
By Helen Fitzgerald, Smallwood Publishing, 2003
ISBN 978-0671-76762-4
Explaining death to a child is one of the most difficult tasks a parent or other relation can face.
The grieving child offers practical, compassionate advice for helping a child cope with the death
of a parent or loved one. Parents of children from pre school age to the teen years will find
much needed guidance, which covers helping the child to visit the seriously ill or dying; Using
language appropriate to a childs age level; Selecting useful books about death; Handing
especially difficult situations including murder and suicide and deciding whether a child should
attend a funeral.
How we Die
Sherwin Nuland Chatto & Windus Ltd. 1994
ISBN: 0-7011-6277-5
This book is intended to help people explore the reality of death itself. The author has the
experience of being a surgeon for over 30 years. It look at the causes and different types of
death associated with certain illness. Written with clarity this is an unsentimental investigation
into an inevitable human condition.
The New Natural Death Handbook
Edited by Nicholas Alberry, Gill Elliot & Joseph
Elliot of the Natural Death Centre.Ryder 1997
ISBN: 0 7126 7111 0
A fascinating read. This book investigates all alternatives to traditional death and the process
associated with it. It looks at organising inexpensive funerals, woodland burials, biodegradable
coffins, drawing up wills and funeral wishes as well as caring for someone who is dying at
home.
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A Time to Be Born
By Sue Mayfield, Scholastic Point 1995
ISBN 0-590-54188-9
Tony sharpe is slowly coming to terms with the death of his mother, but he still feels alone and
very angry. He can’t understand how his father can get his life back together so quickly. Things
with Clare aren’t what they were, and Gary and Tony are growing apart. Then the Beach Club
comes, and Tony meets Jodie…
The Secret C
By Julie A. Stokes Winstons Wish 2000
ISBN: 978-0-9539123-0-8
The Secret C – straight talking about cancer, attempts to answer some of the questions and
worries a child may have about cancer, especially when it involves someone in the family. This
reassuring book will help adults and children to talk about the difficult issues and feelings
involved when someone is seriously ill and briefly talks about the possibility of death.
A Child’s questions about Death
(2 copies)
By SCI Funerals Ltd
A pamphlet about questions that a chold might have on the death of a loved one.
A Monster Calls
By Patrick Ness, Walker 2012
ISBN: 978-1-4063-4695-4
A Monster Calls is an extraordinarily moving novel about the difficult subject of terminal illness
and coming to terms with loss. Based on an idea by the late Siobhan Dowd, this is an
unforgettable read. 'The monster showed up just after midnight. As they do...' is how the book
begins, but it isn't the monster Conor's been expecting. He's been expecting the one from his
nightmare, the one he's had nearly every night since his mother started her treatments. This
monster is something different - something ancient and something wild. A heartbreakingly
beautiful read.
Hello Cancer
Wolf + Water Arts Company
A resource book created by & for young people with cancer and leukaemia & their families.
A Child’s Grief
Winstons Wish, 2008
ISBN 978-0-9559539-3-4
A booklet designed to be a helpful tool for adults who are supporting children through
bereavement. It covers the range of issues that may affect a child when an important person
dies, both immediately and in the longer term. Practical suggestions and ideas for activities are
offered as well as suggested further reading and where to find other support.
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Recommended Reading;
Two Weeks with the Queen
By Morris Gleitzman Puffin Books 1999
ISBN: 978-0141303000
Twelve-year-old Colin, an Australian boy, is sent to stay with relatives in England when his
brother becomes ill with cancer. He is determined to find a way of curing his brother, which
leads him into all sorts of adventures including trying to visit the Queen! Colin finds a friend in an
older man named Ted who helps him express his feelings and understand what he has to do.
(Also available in audiocassette.)
As Big As It Gets: Supporting a child when a parent is seriously ill
By Julie Stokes & Diana Crossley, 2007
Winston’s Wish, ISBN: 978-0-9539123-9-1
An information booklet to help families cope with the serious illness of a parent. It provides a
range of ideas for parents or carers so that they feel more able to explain to their children what
is happening, giving some suggestions to what parents might say to children and how to offer
support.
Flamingo Dream
By Donna Jo Napoli Greenwillow Books 2002
ISBN: 978-0688167967
This bright and colourful book is told by a young boy whose Dad is seriously ill and dies soon
after a trip to Florida to see the place where he grew up. The collage style illustrations capture
the things the boy collects to remind him of his Dad. A sensitive but honest book, which
emphasises the importance of memories.
Losing Uncle Tim
By Mary Kate Jordan Albert Whitman & Company 1989
ISBN: 978-0807547564
This picture book for slightly older children explains how a young boy accepts the changes in his
life when he finds out that his Uncle Tim has AIDS and is going to die. It is a serious and
sensitive book that covers lots of issues and difficult feelings that can occur when someone has
a serious illness.
I Carried You On Eagles’ Wings
Sue Mayfield, Scholastic Point 1995
ISBN: 978-0590559393
Tony’s mum is dying and there’s nothing he can do about it. He can’t always put on a brave
face and his dad won’t talk about things. Only Clare seems to understand – somehow she
helps him keep it together. Then Tony finds an injured seagull, a creature he can nurse back to
health. And, slowly, gradually, Tony begins to understand that death can sometimes bring
freedom…..
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BOOKS FOR FAMILIES BEREAVED THROUGH SUICIDE
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The Grieving Child
By Helen Fitzgerald, Smallwood Publishing, 2003
ISBN: 978-0671-76762-4
Explaining death to a child is one of the most difficult tasks a parent or other relation can face.
The grieving child offers practical, compassionate advice for helping a child cope with the death
of a parent or loved one. Parents of children from preschool age to the teen years will find much
needed guidance, which covers helping the child to visit the seriously ill or dying; Using
language appropriate to a child’s age level; Selecting useful books about death; Handing
especially difficult situations including murder and suicide and deciding whether a child should
attend a funeral.
Red Chocolate Elephants
By Diana C Sands, Phd. Child Bereavement Charity 2010
ISBN 978-0-646-54237-9
This book and DVD are a remarkable resource for children bereaved by suicide, particularly
those who have lost a parent to suicide. In a world where children are often forgotten mourners,
this unique combination of text, pictures, and voices – all in the words of bereaved children
themselves – is a treasured safe haven for young people to hear their fears, questions and
difficulties put into words by other children just like them.
A Terrible Thing Happened
By Margaret M Holmes, Imagination Press
This gently told and tenderly illustrated story is for children who have witnessed any kind of
violent or traumatic episode, including physical abuse, school or gang violence, accidents,
homicide, suicide, and natural disasters such as floods or fire. An afterword for parents and
other caregivers offers extensive suggestions for helping traumatized children, including a list of
other sources that focus on specific events.
Up on Cloud Nine
Anne Fine, Corgi Children’s 2006
ISBN: 978-0552554657
Stol falls out of a top floor window and ends up unconscious in hospital with lots of broken
bones and no-one knows whether it was attempted suicide or an accident. This book is written
from the perspective of his best friend Ian whilst he is sitting by his bedside. He recalls all the
fun times they have had together as well as acknowledging the slightly different way Stol sees
the world. Ian captures the emotions of his own adoptive parents as well as Stol’s family and the
hospital staff in an amusing yet moving way illustrating how Stol has had an inspirational effect
on everyone. (Also available in audiocassette)
The Inquest Handbook
By INQUEST 2011
ISBN 978 0 946858 25 5
If someone you know has died, or you are helping someone you know deal with a death where
an inquest is to be held, The inquest handbook will give you information about the inquest
procedure and what will happen after a sudden, violent or unnatural death.
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Coping with Suicide
By Dr Donald Scott, Sheldon Press 1991
ISBN: 0-85969-585-9
Suicide has a devastating effect on friends and family left behind. Each year in the UK 160,000
people attempt suicide and 6,000 succeed in taking their own life. But the bereaved are often
left isolated in their grief. Dr Scott handles the subject with delicacy and tact, offering advice
about practical and emotional problems, showing you how to pick up the pieces of your life and
face your feelings honestly.
Help is at Hand
Department of Health, 2008
A Resource produced by the NHS for people bereaved by suicide and other sudden, traumatic
death.
Beyond the Rough Rock: Supporting a child who has been bereaved through suicide
Diana Crossley & Julie Stokes, Winston’s Wish 2008
ISBN: 978-0-95139123-7-7
An information booklet offering practical advice for families where someone has died by suicide.
It aims to give parents and professionals the confidence to involve children in discussions about
the nature of death by suicide. It also includes activities for children to do with the family to stat
making sense of what has happened.
Recommended Reading;
Ostrich Boys
By Keith Gray Definitions 2008,
ISBN: 978-0099456575
It's not really kidnapping, is it? He'd have to be alive for it to be proper kidnapping.' Kenny, Sim
and Blake embark on a remarkable journey of friendship. Stealing the urn containing the ashes
of their best friend Ross, they set out to travel the 261 miles to the tiny hamlet of Ross in
Dumfries and Galloway. After a depressing funeral they feel taking Ross to Ross will be a fitting
memorial for a 15 year-old boy who changed all their lives through his friendship. Little do they
realise just how much Ross can still affect life for them even though he's now dead. Drawing on
personal experience Keith Gray has written an extraordinary novel about friendship, loss and
suicide, and about the good things that may be waiting just out of sight around the corner...
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BOOKS ABOUT THE DEATH OF A NEW BABY
Resources Available at Balloons;
When my Baby Died
By 30 parents Foundation for the Study of Infant Death
Syndrome (SIDS)
Thirty parents share there experiences of their babies dying unexpectedly. This is a searing
emotional account which should be used to balance the theoretical understanding of
professional textbook. Much is to be learnt by their heartfelt experiences.
Sams Story
By Fiona Chin-Yee, Project Sam Publishing Co. 1988
ISBN 0-921450-00-1
A well written exploration of feelings experienced through sudden infant death syndrome, from
the remaining sibling. This book tells the story of a little boy named Sam whose brother Pat
dies unexpectedly. It portrays the impact this death has on him in an insightful way. Through his
eyes, it is shared how he experiences the grief of his mother and finds solace through one of his
brothers toys which eventually leads him to be able to communicate his own grief to his Gran
and parents. It is accompanied by a useful parents guide.
My book about our baby that died By Lynda Weiss, Greenfield Publishing 1996
ISBN: 978-0952332831
This is a workbook for young children who have experienced the death of a baby sibling. With
pictures that can be coloured in and spaces for children to draw pictures and fill in answers to
questions it covers topics such as hospitals, saying goodbye and feelings. It is a simple book
that does not go into great depth but could be a good starting point for a child and adult to
communicate about the death.
Recommended Reading;
No New Baby
By Marilyn Gryte. Centering Corporation 1988
ISBN: 978-1561230419
Recently revised, this book tells the story of a young girl whose sister died before birth. She
talks about the preparations they were making for the new baby and the different feelings she
now has. Her Grandmother takes her out for the day and tries to answer some of her questions.
This book is American and not particularly informative but there are very few books about the
death of a baby and some young children may find this one reassuring.
Stillbirth & Neonatal Death Society (SANDS)
Website: www.uk-sands.org
Helpline: 020 7436 5881
SANDS provide support for parents and families whose baby is stillborn or dies soon after birth,
including a range of leaflets and books for adults.
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BOOKS FOR ADULTS SUPPORTING A BEREAVED CHILD
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Chin Up, Head Down
By Helena Tym, SSAFA Forces Help, 2012
The loss of a child is perhaps the greatest tragedy that can befall a family On Tuesday 2nd
June, 2009 this was the catastrophic event that shattered the lives of Helena Tym and her
family. Their son Private Cyrus Thatcher was killed in action whilst serving in Afghanistan with 2
RIFLES. Nothing could ever be the same again and this is Helena’s deeply moving and honest
account of a family coming to terms with their loss.
Saying Goodbye to Hare
(3 copies)
By Carol Lee
This is an uplifting story written fo children aged 5-9 years about death and dying. Beautifully
illustrated, Saying Goodbye to Hare is full of honesty and warmth. As young Rabbit witnesses
the life, illness and death of his dear friend Hare, the story explores some of the feelings and
questions children have at this time. Inspired by the author’s own personal experience of
supporting her young children through the illness and death of their father, the story is
sensitively written to give a positive, thoughtful message about death and dying. The book
includes guidance notes for the adult supporting the child.
You’re Not Alone
(2 Copies)
By Isabel Hospice
ISBN: 190360706X
Written for children of 5-10 years this book can be shared with a trusted adult to encourage the
child to share their feelings and fears at their own pace. The child will learn to understand that
sadness, anger, guilt and other difficult feelings are acceptable and that death can be talked
about.
Alice’s Dad
By Bill Merrington, Kevin Mayhew Ltd
ISBN: 978 1 84003 374 8
A book to help girls cope with the death of a parent. This moving and realistic story focuses on
a parent’s terminal illness. It will be of immense help to bereaved children and their families
along with all who care for grieving children.
Saying Goodbye
(4 Copies)
By Clare Selley and Deborah Butler
ISBN 9 781857 411133
Offers in-depth advice and guidance about how to help children and young people deal with an
unexpected death in the family. The book includes detailed sections on telling the children, may
ask, ways to encourage communication between adults and children, creating lasting memories
together and dealing with death.
Thoughts on how to help a bereaved child
By C.H.I.B.S
Booklet around support for bereaved children.
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What on earth do you do when someone dies
By Trevor Romain,Free Spirit Publishing 1999
ISBN: 9 781575 420 055 4
Finding answers to painful questions. This compact little book has been designed to comfort
and inform young people regarding the emotional responses they feel as a result of being
bereaved. It also addresses questions such as How can I say goodbye? How can I honour the
person who has died? What is a funeral etc.
A Wibble Called Bipley (and a few honks) By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark 2011
ISBN: 978 0 86388 494 8
A story for children who have hardened their hearts or become bullies
Bipley is a warm cuddly creature, but someone has broken his heart. He feels so hurt that he
decides it is just too painful to ever love again. When he meets some big tough Honks in the
wood, they teach him how to harden his heart so that he doesn't have to feel hurt any more.
Luckily Bipley meets some creatures that teach him how he can protect himself without
hardening his heart
Someone very important has just died
(3 copies)
By Mary Turner, Jessica Kingsley Publishers,
ISBN: 9 781843 102953
This a small and practical book written for those caring for children and teenagers who have
experienced a close bereavement. Intended for use immediately or soon after the death has
occurred. It looks at processes that occur such as funerals, emotional reactions and stress
reduction.
Badger’s Parting Gifts
(2 copies)
By Susan Varley, Collins Picture Books,2002
ISBN: 0-00-664317-5 (PAPERBACK)
ISBN: 9 780688 026998 (HARDBACK)
Working with memories of loved ones. This story is about the life of badger. Everyone who knew
him stored warm and wonderful memories of him. In recalling these memories Badger lives
once more in the eyes of those who held his friendship. A delightful and thought provoking
resource.
The Soul Bird
(2 Copies)
Michal Snunit Robinson Publishing 1998
ISBN: 1-85487-589-2
A superb metaphoric book which explains to children that our soul is the voice that resides
inside us. It uses a bird with many drawers in it to symbolise the many feelings we have. It is
non religious, and very usable and understandable for little ones.
The Hideaway
By Bill Merrington, Kevin Mayhew Ltd
ISBN 978-1-84003-182-9
Young Bill is enjoying life: he’s got a good home, enjoys playing for the school football team and
has every chance of being noticed byt the local club. Just at the crucial moment, tradgedy
strikes and his entire life changed.
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The Grieving Child
By Helen Fitzgerald, Smallwood Publishing, 2003
ISBN: 978-0671-76762-4
Explaining death to a child is one of the most difficult tasks a parent or other relation can face.
The grieving child offers practical, compassionate advice for helping a child cope with the death
of a parent or loved one. Parents of children from preschool age to the teen years will find much
needed guidance, which covers helping the child to visit the seriously ill or dying; Using
language appropriate to a child’s age level; Selecting useful books about death; Handing
especially difficult situations including murder and suicide and deciding whether a child should
attend a funeral.
Hold This Hand (4 copies)
An Anthology of original work from writers of the South
West. Exeter Cruse, 2007
Website: [email protected]
Anthology of poems regarding bereavement. Celebrating 30 years of work Exeter Cruse
collated donated poems from the South West from those who have experienced close
bereavement and found comfort in the form of writing. Many adults will relate to this resource.
Helping Children cope with grief By Rosemary Wells, Sheldon Press, 1995
ISBN 0-85969-559-X
A short book designed to assist adults who are supporting a young person with their grief. It
includes some interesting examples of how a child’s response may be interpreted as not caring
or understanding the situation, only to learn that young people need to dip in and out of their
grief in order to survive it. They also need to escape which is often misinterpreted as avoidance.
A Child’s Grief: Supporting a child when someone in their family has died
(2 copies available)
By Julie Stokes, Diana Crossley, Katrina Alilovic &
Di Stubbs. Winston’s Wish, New Edition 2008
ISBN: 978-0-9559539-0-3
A useful and informative introduction for any adult who is supporting a child through
bereavement. Covering a variety of issues that may affect a child when a person close to them
dies, both immediately and in the longer term, the booklet also offers practical activities to do
together and a section on further reading and support.
Without You Children and Young People Growing up with the Effects of Loss
By Tamar Granot, Jessica Kingsley Publishers 2005
ISBN-13: 978 1 84310 297 7
ISBN-10: 1 84310 297 8
Without you explores the experiences of children and adolescents who have suffered a
significant loss – for example, through the death of a parent or sibling, through divorce, parental
neglect or through abandonment. Tamar Garnot explains the effect of loss and its aftermath in
the period following the loss, as well as its effect on each stage of the child’s development.
Facing Grief
Written by Susan Wallbank, Lutterworth, 2003
ISBN 0-7188-2807-0
A book specifically aimed at the 18-28 age group and those around them, this book deals
frankly, sensibly and compassionately with the effects of bereavement on the young adult.
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Grief in Children
Written by Atle Dyregrov, Jessica Kingsley
Publishers, 2008
ISBN 978-1-84310-612-8-52495
This fully updated second edition of Grief in Children explains children’s understanding of death
at different ages and provides information on how the adults around them can best help them
cope.
SAD BOOK
Written By Michael Rosen, Walker Books Ltd 2008
ISBN: 978-1406313161
We all have sad stuff - maybe you have some right now, as you read this. What makes Michael
Rosen most sad is thinking about his son, Eddie, who died. In this book he writes about his
sadness, how it affects him and some of the things he does to try to cope with it. Whether or not
you have known what it's like to feel really deeply sad, its truth will surely touch you.
Recommended Reading;
Grief in Children: A Handbook for Adults
By Atle Dyregov, Jessica Kinsley Pulishers, 2008
ISBN: 978-1843106500
This is a very practical and useful book written for adults to help them understand how children
feel when someone important in their life dies. It covers areas such as children’s grief reactions
at different developmental levels, sex differences and different types of death. It makes many
useful suggestions about how children can be helped to cope with their grief in an open, honest
and positive way.
A Star for Bobby
Helen Keenor Bosun Publications 2005
ISBN:0-9546932-1-3
A story to be read to children under the age of 5. This tale is about a chick who hatches later
that his siblings and is born very weak. The other chicks can’t understand why there brother
Bobby does not want to play. Bobby dies and a special place is prepared for him in the ground
where his family can visit and remember him. When the surviving chicks ask where he is his
parent explain that he is way above the clouds and is happy. They explain that they know this
as there will be a star that shines brightly for him and on finding the brightest star in the sky his
siblings have something that they can direct their love and attention to.
Talking about Death:
By Earl A. Grollman, Beacon Press 1991
ISBN: 978-0807023631
A Dialogue Between Parent and Child. This guide for parents recognises that many adults find it
hard to honestly and openly explain death to children, especially when faced with their own
grief. It includes quotes and examples from other parents and suggestions of what to say to a
child as well as general advice.
And When Did You Last See Your Father
By Blake Morrison, Granta Books 2006
ISBN: 978-1862079083
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The book tells of how Dr Morrison’s life slowly slips away during the last few weeks of his life.
Interspersed with this are the authors recollections of his father, who whilst being a difficult man
at times, always remained a loving husband and father. The author is at all times open and
honest - sometimes brutally so - and lays open his feelings for all to share.
One of the strengths of the book is that whilst it is about the death of a loved one it never gets
too sentimental and remains at all times a good read.
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BOOKS FOR FAMILIES BEREAVED THROUGH MURDER
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Helping People Cope with Crime
By Hodder & Stoughton, 2000
ISBN 0 2340 780495
People who need help to cope with crime, whether or not it has been reported to the police, can
contact Vivtim Support for emotional and practical assistance, in confidence. Victim Support
has local Schemes covering every community in England, Wales and Northern Ireland. In
addition its Witness Service provides support for people attending court, and its Victim
Supportline offers daily access to its services, enabling anyone concerned about crime to talk to
someone who can help.
A Terrible Thing Happened
By Margaret M Holmes, Imagination Press
This gently told and tenderly illustrated story is for children who have witnessed any kind of
violent or traumatic episode, including physical abuse, school or gang violence, accidents,
homicide, suicide, and natural disasters such as floods or fire. An afterword for parents and
other caregivers offers extensive suggestions for helping traumatized children, including a list of
other sources that focus on specific events.
The Inquest Handbook
By INQUEST 2011
ISBN 978 0 946858 25 5
If someone you know has died, or you are helping someone you know deal with a death where
an inquest is to be held, The inquest handbook will give you information about the inquest
procedure and what will happen after a sudden, violent or unnatural death.
The Grieving Child
By Helen Fitzgerald, Smallwood Publishing, 2003
ISBN: 978-0671-76762-4
Explaining death to a child is one of the most difficult tasks a parent or other relation can face.
The grieving child offers practical, compassionate advice for helping a child cope with the death
of a parent or loved one. Parents of children from pre school age to the teen years will find
much needed guidance, which covers helping the child to visit the seriously ill or dying; Using
language appropriate to a childs age level; Selecting useful books about death; Handing
especially difficult situations including murder and suicide and deciding whether a child should
attend a funeral.
Recommended Reading;
Hope Beyond The Headlines: supporting a child bereaved through murder or
manslaughter
By Di Stubbs, Danny Nugus & Kate Gardner Winston’s
Wish 2008,
ISBN: 978-0-9559539-1-0
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This book offers practical advice for families in the immediate days, weeks and months following
a murder. It is written for both parents and professionals, giving them the confidence to involve
children and young people in understanding and managing the particular difficulties and
complexities that so often surround a death by murder or manslaughter. The booklet includes
child-friendly activities to do with children or as a family to help them to make sense of what
happened and to begin to express their grief.
Teacher’s Dead
By Benjamin Zephaniah Bloomsbury Publishing PLC 2007
ISBN: 978-0747586098
A teacher is dead, murdered by two of his students in front of the school. He was a good man.
People liked him. So how could this happen? Why? It just doesn't make sense to Jackson, and
he is determined to investigate the case until he understands. Benjamin Zephaniah has, once
again, chosen a topical and hard-hitting subject - and he deals with it in his own uniquely
empathetic and edgy way.
The Dougy Center:
The National Center for Grieving Children and Families 2002
ISBN: 978-1890534073
www.dougy.org
After a murder: A workbook for grieving kids to be used with a supporting adult.
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BOOKS FOR PROFESSIONALS
Resources Available at Balloons;
Helping Teens Work Through Grief
By Mary Kelly Perschy, Routledge 2nd Edition 2004
ISBN: 0-415-94696-4
When teens experience the death of a loved one, their already unsettled lives are often further
complicated by intense emotions, fluctuating hormones, and changing relationships with friends,
families, and themselves. This book is a valuable resource for adults who are interested in
offering teen grief groups, a comforting and effective approach to grief that has helped countless
teens cope with their losses.
Aspects of Grief
By Jane Littlewood, Routldege
ISBN: 0-415-0716176-3
In aspects of grief Jane Littlewood provides an in-depth study of the many aspects of
bereavement and the grieving process. With ample support from personal accounts of
bereaved people, she examines the experience of bereavements: what can go, the importance
of support networks, both family and professional, and looks at how society’s attitudes to death
and dying can affect our ability to cope. There are specific chapters on the death of children in
childhood, adolescence and adult life, and on the death of a partner.
Coping when your Parents separate
By Bill Merrington, Kevin Mayhew Ltd
ISBN: 978-1-84417-790-5
This is the story of Alice and Peter who experience difficult times when their parents separate.
How will they cope with the changes that are taking place and how do they feel about their
parents?
A Wibble Called Bipley (and a few honks) By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark 2011
ISBN: 978 0 86388 494 8
A story for children who have hardened their hearts or become bullies
Bipley is a warm cuddly creature, but someone has broken his heart. He feels so hurt that he
decides it is just too painful to ever love again. When he meets some big tough Honks in the
wood, they teach him how to harden his heart so that he doesn't have to feel hurt any more.
Luckily Bipley meets some creatures that teach him how he can protect himself without
hardening his heart
A Pea Called Mildred
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark 2011
ISBN: 9780 86388 497 9
A Pea Called Mildred is a story to help children pursue their hopes and dreams:
Mildred is a pea with dreams. She has great plans for her pea life. However, people are always
telling her that dreams are pointless as she is just another ordinary pea. Eventually, with the
help of a kind person along the way, Mildred ends up doing exactly what she has always
dreamed of doing.
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Where’s Molly Now?
By Penhaligons Friends
ISBN: 978-0-9550757-2-8
A handbook for Christian churches & fellowships when supporting bereaved children.
Without You Children and Young People Growing up with the Effects of Loss
By Tamar Granot, Jessica Kingsley Publishers 2005
ISBN-13: 978 1 84310 297 7
ISBN-10: 1 84310 297 8
Without you explores the experiences of children and adolescents who have suffered a
significant loss – for example, through the death of a parent or sibling, through divorce, parental
neglect or through abandonment. Tamar Garnot explains the effect of loss and its aftermath in
the period following the loss, as well as its effect on each stage of the child’s development.
Seeing Red
By J Simmonds. Canada, New Society Publishers 2004
ISBN: 0-86571-483-5
Seeing Red is an anger management and peacemaking curriculum for children between the
ages of 6 – 12. Providing thought provoking strategies for adults supporting angry young people
to utilise. An excellent resource that is not based upon making a child feel shamed and guilty
about their responses.
Making Up Stories with Children
By Alison Shakspeare
Create fun times and magical moments with your child making up your own stories from scratch.
Helping Children With Low Self-Esteem
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2009
ISBN: 978 86388 466 5
Provides a brilliant overview and lots of carefully designed photocopiable activities to facilitate
the needs of young people with low self-esteem. Exercises are extremely adaptable and can be
accommodated to all age groups and abilities. Comes with the storybook ‘Ruby and the
Rubbish Bin’, which can be purchased separately
Draw on Your Relationships
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2010
ISBN: 978-0-86388-629-4
An understandable, workable and superb book with photocopiable activities to assist young
people to explore and reflect on their relationships with other humans. A must for any
professional working in the arena of helping children explore the vast array of relationships they
hold and the impact those relationships have on them. Also empowers the child to assess the
healthiness of each relationship.
Remember Me Too
(3 copies available)
By Penhaligon’s Friends 2006
ISBN: 9-780955-0757
A compact and useful handbook to assist busy health care professionals when supporting
children. Child bereavement in a Nutshell. It looks at how children grieve, serious illness,
Breaking bad news, the bereaved child, special considerations, self care and includes a useful
list of resources.
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Good Grief Under 11’s
(2 copies)
By Barbara Ward, Jessica Kingsley, 1996
ISBN: 9-781853-023248
Exploring feelings, loss and death with under elevens. This book provides excellent ideas and
guidance for helping grieving children in a sensitive and imaginative way. It has been designed
to be utilised by children with a multitude of abilities and backgrounds, encouraging
improvisation and discussion.
Grief Counselling & Grief Therapy By J William Worden, Tavistock Publications Ltd, 1986
(2 Copies)
ISBN 0-422-78620-9
Another classic – Worden takes the reader through the tasks of mourning and procedure that
can be useful in assisting those experiencing grief. A frame of reference on which to relate to
and build upon.
The Day the Sea Went Out and Never Came Back
(2 Copies)
By Margot Sunderland Speechmark, 2009
ISBN 978-0-86388-463-4
A beautiful metaphorical example of grief with hope. To accompany helping children with loss
but can be read on its own. This is a story which uses the sea a s a metaphor for death. It is
about a small creature that loves the sea and is devastated one day when then sea appears to
have just disappeared. The creature waits and longs for its return only to be profoundly
disappointed to realise that it has gone and will never be coming back. It is a story of hope as
the creatures emotions are explored and worked through via establishing a memorial.
Interventions with Bereaved Children
(2 Copies)
By Susan C. Smith and Sister Margaret Pennells, Jessica
Kingsley, 1998
ISBN: 1-85302-285-3
A book to enhance practical and compassionate responses for those working with bereaved
children. Twenty contributors describe their work showing effective ways of supporting and
helping them in their loss. Case Studies are sensitively given and there are moving accounts of
individual, family, group and whole school work.
Remember Me
(3 copies available)
By Penhaligon’s Friends, 2004
ISBN 0-9550757-1-8
A concise information pack designed to provide guidance for schools and early year settings
when dealing with childhood bereavement, loss and critical incidents. It provides a practical
guide in dealing with the many responses publically to such trauma and provides a frame of
reference on how to respond sensitively, appropriately and sometimes with authority. An
excellent resource.
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Remember Me
By Penhaligon’s Friends
Guidance for Schools/Settings when dealing with Childhood Loss, Bereavement and Critical
Incidents.
Grief Encounter
By Shelly Gilbert, Grief Encounter, 2008
ISBN: 978-0-9548434-0-3
An excellent workbook to encourage conversations about death between children and adults.
This book is divided into useful sections and comes with guidelines for use. Excellent resource
for class work.
When Someone Dies
By CRUSE, CRUSE Bereavement Care,1997
ISBN: 0 900321 10 5
This book is a guide for teachers on how to help students in this age group who have been
bereaved and how to react when a death occurs in a school community. It explains the common
emotional responses to grief and its likely effects on young people of different age groups. It
suggests how teachers should act when a member of the student’s family dies and what to do when
the death involves a student or member of school staff. A final section suggests procedures to
follow when accidents happen on school trips or in the school itself.
Voices in the Park
By Anthony Browne, Corgy Books, 1999
ISBN: 978-0-552-54564-8
A cleverly written short story from four perspectives to help demonstrate difference of opinion
and encourage discussion. Four different voices tell the story of the same walk in the same
park. Simply written but deeply thought provoking.
Through the Magic Mirror
By Anthony Browne, Walker Books, 2010
ISBN: 978-1-4063-2628-4
A story about a little boy who is fed up with the world the way it is only to realise that when
things change it’s not always for the best and that there is a comfort in familiarity. However,
change can also be weirdly wonderful. (Junior school age)
Good Grief Over 11’s & Adults
(2 copies)
By Barbara Ward, Jessica Kingsley, 1993
ISBN: 9-781853-023408
As above Barbara Ward once again provides an amazing resource through her holistic
approach in working with over 11’s to explore feelings around loss and death. Worth its weight
in gold.
The Good Grief Guide
By Michael Dunn, Pathways 2000
ISBN 1-85703-641-7
A really good resource to dip into and out of. Well worth a read. Provides strategies for
professionals to implement, which assist children of all ages who have been bereaved in
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journeying through all of the emotions and issues experienced with exercise that also address
hope for the future and being at peace with the past.
Continuing Bonds
By Klass, Silverman & Nickman, Taylor & Francis Ltd,
1996
ISBN 1-56032-339-6 (paperback)
ISBN 1-56032-336-1 (hardback)
A study influenced by research in broadening the concepts of healthy grief for the individual as
opposed to impositioning of values from society. This book gives voice to an emerging
consensus among bereavement scholars that our understanding of the grief process needs to
be expanded. A valuable an interesting reflection on how we are more than the sum of our parts
and that simply cutting ties with our deceased loved ones is outdated and impossible.
The Tunnel
By Anthony Browne, Walker Books, 1992
ISBN 978-1-4063-1329-1
A brother and sister who are very different are forced to spend time together. They discover a
tunnel and the boy without feeling or thought for his sister, enters the tunnel leaving her
frightened and alone. Eventually after gathering her strength, she follows him only to find herself
in a scary forest. She knows she has to find her brother no matter how scared she may be and
eventually finds him, but he has turned to stone. In her grief she holds him and cries and slowly
he turns back into her brother but he has changed in the knowing she was there for him.
Supporting Young People Coping with Grief, Loss and Death
Deborah Weymont & Tina Rae, Lucky Duck Books, 2006
ISBN: 9 781412 913126
A user-friendly book that emphasises the importance of the development of emotional literacy
skills. The focus on death and loss and the process of grieving is central to this course. This
book provides all of the supporting materials and comes with a DVD. This book was based on
research with teenagers and its aim is to provide students, aged 11-18 with an opportunity to
understand grief, loss and death, recognise, manage and express the range of feelings
associated with grief, loss and death. To learn more about the afterlife beliefs, death rituals and
funeral customs of major world religions and to promote mental health and resilience.
The Anatomy of Bereavement
Beverley Raphael, Routledge, 1996
ISBN: 9 780415 094542
A handbook for the caring professions which offers a comprehensive and systematic survey of
its subject. Beverley Raphael combines a scholarly approach with an awareness that
bereavement is a unique experience for each individual.
On Death and Dying
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, Tavistock Publications, 1979
ISBN: 0 422 75490 0
A classic based on Kubler-Ross’s model re the five stages of anger: Denial and Isolation /
Anger / Bargaining / Depression / Acceptance. Written with warmth and compassion
providing a useful frame for those beginning to explore bereavement.
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How we Die
Sherwin Nuland Chatto & Windus Ltd. 1994
ISBN: 0-7011-6277-5
This book is intended to help people explore the reality of death itself. The author has the
experience of being a surgeon for over 30 years. It look at the causes and different types of
death associated with certain illness. Written with clarity this is an unsentimental investigation
into an inevitable human condition and will help those whose death is more imminent to work
towards as positive release as possible.
Emotional Healing and Self-Esteem
By Mark Pearson, Jessica Kingsley, 2004
ISBN 9 781843 102243
A guide to working with relaxation, visualisation and meditation. This book aims to guide
teachers, youth workers, counsellors and parents through a range of accessible personal
development exercises for children and adolescents. There are step-by-step guidelines for
planning, presenting and integrating inner-life skills programmes in group work as well as
providing family and group communication games.
The New Natural Death Handbook Edited by Nicholas Alberry, Gill Elliot & Joseph Elliot
of the Natural Death Centre.Ryder 1997
ISBN: 0 7126 7111 0
A fascinating read. This book investigates all alternatives to traditional death and the process
associated with it. It looks at organising inexpensive funerals, woodland burials, biodegradable
coffins, drawing up wills and funeral wishes as well as caring for someone who is dying at
home.
The Frog who Longed for the Moon to Smile
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2009
ISBN: 978 0 86388 495 5
A cleverly written story designed to assist young people who are stuck and waiting for one thing
in particular to happen as the rest of the world passes them by. Full of amazing metaphore and
beautifully illustrated.
A Volcano in My Tummy
By Eliane Whitehouse and Warwick Pudney, New Society
Publishers, 1996
ISBN: 978-0-86571-349-9
A book to support professionals in working with young people who have issues managing their
anger. Useful up until the age of 10. Full of photocopiable activities that can be used on a oneto-one or in a group scenario. Ideal for teachers also.
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The Forgotten Mourners
Sister Margaret Pennels & Susan C Smith Jessica
Kingsley 1996
ISBN: 1-85302-264-0
Clear and concise guidance in short format on how children grieve, what they need, what adults
can do, what schools and teachers can do and looks at different ways of working with the bereft
child. Easy to read and makes good sense.
Sad Isn’t Bad
(2 Copies)
By Michaelene Mundy, One Caring Place Abbey
Press,1999
ISBN: 978-0-87029-321-4
A book that assists parents, teachers and other caring adults to assist the child they support to
understand their grief from a very basic viewpoint. It explores positive and less-constructive
ways of demonstrating grief and provides some simple tools to assist young people staying in
control of this strong emotion. A Good-grief guide book for young children dealing with loss.
The Lonely Tree
By Nicholas Halliday. Halliday Books 2006
ISBN: 978-0-9539459-8-6
This is a beautiful and moving story following the first year of the life of an evergreen tree
growing in the heart of the ancient oak woodland of the New Forest. The evergreen is
befriended by the oldest oak who has lived for hundreds of years and has many a story to share
of his lifetime. When winter arrives all of the oak trees must go to sleep, but of course ever
greens never sleep. Finally after a long, lonely and cold winter, spring brings both sadness and
joy to the little tree. A simple story of the life and death process via nature.
Turn your School Around
By Jenny Mosely, LDA 1993
ISBN 1 85503 174 4
A circle time approach to the development of self-esteem and positive behaviour in the primary
school staffroom, classroom and playground.
Helping People Cope with Crime
By Hodder & Stoughton, 2000
ISBN 0 2340 780495
People who need help to cope with crime, whether or not it has been reported to the police, can
contact Vivtim Support for emotional and practical assistance, in confidence. Victim Support
has local Schemes covering every community in England, Wales and Northern Ireland. In
addition its Witness Service provides support for people attending court, and its Victim
Supportline offers daily access to its services, enabling anyone concerned about crime to talk to
someone who can help.
Gift of Tears
By Susan Lendrum and Gabrielle Syme, Routledge
1999
ISBN: 0-415-08120-3 (hbk)
ISBN: 0-415-07349-9 (pbk)
A practical approach to Loss and Bereavement Counselling. Gift of Tears is designed to help
the helper – nurse, doctor, teacher, police officer, or perhaps just the next-door neighbour.
Everyone at some time or other has to cope with the grief of others, or finds themselves
Confronting unresolved grief of their own. This book sets loss counselling in its broad
theoretical context and gives expert practical guidance for further development and training.
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Parachute Games with DVD
By Todd Strong & Dale N. Lefevre, Human Kinetics
2006
ISBN-10: 0-7360-6363-3
ISBN-13: 978-0-7360-6363-0
The latest information about parachutes, including parachute suppliers, parachute care, and
age-appropriate uses; 59 games, 28 games in live action DVD; new variations and teaching tips
section and plenty of descriptive details to assist you in using and adapting games for your
group and your setting.
Anger Management Games for Children By Deborah M
Publishers 2008
Plummer,
Jessica
Kingsely
This practical handbook helps adults to understand, manage and reflect constructively on
Children’s anger. Featuring a wealth of familiar and easy-to-learn games, it is designed to
foster successful anger management strategies for children aged 5-12.
A Nifflenoo called Never Mind
(2 Copies)
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2005
ISBN 9 780863884962
A clever book to help demonstrate the usefulness of sharing feelings. Never Mind always
carries on whatever happens! Each time something horrible happens to him, he is very brave
and simply says, Never Mind. He meets with all kinds of set-backs, bullying and
disappointments but each time he just tucks his feelings away and carries on with life. However,
he becomes so full of bottled-up feelings that after a time he gets stuck in a hedge. In addition,
some of these feelings start to leak out of him in ways that hurt others. Luckily, he happens
upon a bogwert who helps him to understand that his feelings do matter and should not be
ignored. Never Mind then learns how to express his feelings and stand up for himself.
Teenie Weenie in a Too Big World By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2009
ISBN 978-0-86388-460-3
A cleverly written and beautifully illustrated book that tells the story through imaginative use of
metaphor, or a critter named Teenie Weenie who is overwhelmed by life. It feels so insignificant
and vulnerable that it shrinks, hides in a hole and reflects on why bother existing at all.Teenie
Weenie is found in its hiding place by another strange creature who invites it to tea. Firstly this
creature has to reassure Teenie Weenie that when they are together they will feel stronger than
when they are alone. Teenie Weenie leaves his hole and other creatures join them. Together
they address the challenges Teenie Weenie faced before it shrank and Teenie Weenie learns to
recognise that when its feels bad it is because it is spending to much time alone with its
thoughts.
Helping Children to Build Self-Esteem
By Deborah M. Plummer, Jessica Kingsley, 2007
ISBN: 978 1 84310 488 9
A superb resource. Full of photocopiable activities to use when helping children and young
people build self-esteem. Suitable for use with children aged 7 – 11. Again, can be used on an
individual or group format.
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Here we Go Around
By Jenny Mosley & Helen Sonnet, Positive Press
2001
ISBN 0 9530122 1 2
Quality circle time for 3-5 year olds. The first part of the book covers the basic practicalities
managing Circle Time with younger children. The second part takes this way of working beyond
the realms of personal, social and emotional development and usefully adapts circle activities to
the other five areas of learning. The book is a lovely practical resource to support practitioners
working in all early learning settings.
Loss & Learning Disability
By Noelle Blackman, Worth Publishing Ltd 2003
ISBN: 1-903269-02-4
Observations of grief based on research and long-term work, this book combines a resume of
the theoretical considerations concerning loss, grief and morning with particular reference to
those with learning disabilities. This is a compassionate account of how people who are boxed
under this heading a more likely to be given less consideration. A good source of information for
people working with or training others to assist those with learning disability.
Talking with Children and Young People about Death and Dying
By Mary Turner, Jessica Kingsley, 1999
ISBN 1-85302-563-1
This workbook has been designed for support workers to select appropriately for each individual
child’s responses in an engaging manner. It is presented in a format that can be read by both
child and adult simultaneously every page is illustrated with pictures that both hold the child’s
interest and facilitate communication. Another superb resource well worth purchasing.
When Children Grieve
By Alfred Torrie, CRUSE 1978
Booklet: a study of how children grieve.
Grief and Bereavement
By Marilyn Relf, Ann Couldrick and Heather Barrie,
Sorrell Publications 1991
This booklet attempts in simple, straightforward terms to address the many questions that arise
for the bereaved person.
The Big Book of Blobs Feelings
By Pip Wilson & Ian Lon, 2007
ISBN 978-0-86388-723-9
This workbooks uses the blobs and blob trees to explore feelings, it is split into 4 sections; Blob
theory, emotions, development and issues. It contains ideas and questions to kick-start class,
group or one-to-one discussion.
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It’s OK to be Sad
By Margaret Collins, Paul Chapman Publishing
2007
ISBN: 978-1-4129-1825-1
An activity book to help children in the 4-9 age groups to manage loss, grief or bereavement.
Using stories about 20 different life events children are encouraged through creativity to explore
the range of their feelings, express those feelings, encourage empathy towards others and learn
through the demonstration that loss is a common experience for all of us. Usable in a one to
one or group situation and comes with a CD to encourage creativity of usage for the supporter.
Using Story Telling as a Therapeutic Tool with Children
By Margot Sutherland
Speechmark 2011
ISBN: 978-0-86388-425-2
This practical handbook begins with the philosophy and psychology underpinning the
therapeutic value of story telling. It shows how to use story telling as a therapeutic tool with
children and how to make an effective response when a child tells a story to you.
Mad Isn’t Bad
By Michaelene Mundy, One Caring Place Abbey
Press,1999
ISBN: 978-0-87029-331-3
A book that assists parents, teachers and other caring adults to assist the child they support to
understand their anger from a very basic viewpoint. It explores positive and less-constructive
ways of demonstrating anger and provides some simple tools to assist young people staying in
control of this strong emotion.
Ruby and the Rubbish Bin
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2007
ISBN: 978-0-86388-462-7
A sad but inspiring story of a girl who feels she is not worth anything finding hope through
someone else’s eyes. Ruby is convinced she is not worth the ground she stands on until a
supporting adult invests in some quality time with her. Slowly Ruby begins to feel and
understand her worth.
Silly Billy
(2 Copies)
By Anthony Browne, Walker Books, 2007
ISBN 978-1-4063-0576-0
A story of a little boy who worries about everything until his gran gives him a solution in the form
of worry dolls. However Billy begins to worry of the effect, telling all his worries to the worries
dolls will have on them so he decides to make a worry doll for his worry dolls and can at last
Utilse his dolls without guilt. A wonderful little book for children who worry a lot.
Helping Children with Loss
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2009
ISBN 978-0-86338467-2
A fantastic resource that explores all aspects of loss from a child’s perspective and provides
examples of creative ways of working. Comes with an additional storybook , ‘ The Day the Sea
Went Out and Never Came Back’ which can be purchased and used individually.
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Helping Children who are Anxious or Obsessional
By
Margot
Sunderland,
Speechmark, 2009
ISBN 978-0-86388-454-2
A Guidebook to Willy and the Wobbly House. This guidebook details the common psychological
origins and most relevant psychotherapeutic theories for the problems and issues addressed in
the story This guidebook includes what children themselves have said about what it is like for
them coping with the problems and issues addressed in the story.
How Hattie Hated Kindness
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2003
ISBN: 978 0 86388 461 0
A hopeful story about a little girl who is on a self-destruct path, pushing everybody away who
wants to be with her. To read to or be read by all age groups who struggle to socialise and
accept that they deserve to be happy. Beautifully illustrated and will strike a chord with many
adults and children alike.
Wenny Has Wings
Janet Lee Carey AladdinPaperbacks 2004
ISBN: 978-0-689-86759-0
A beautiful story told through the eyes of a boy who was in an accident with his sister. He was
seriously injured but his sister died. Over the next few years Will writes a diary to his sister. This
book gives amazing insight into the depth of feeling a child will feel and how intricately deep his
coping methods are, which eventually after the birth of his next sibling, his parents are able to
understand.
Counselling for Toads
Written by Robert de Board, Routledge, 1998
ISBN 978-0-415-17429-9
An engaging account of Toad’s experience of counselling will capture the imagination of the
growing readership of people who are interested in counselling and the counselling process.
Death: The Final Stage of Growth
Written by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, Touchstone,
1986
ISBN 978-0-684-83941-7
Drawing on our own and other cultures’ views of death and dying, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
provides some illuminating answers to these and other questions. She offers a spectrum of
viewpoints, including those of ministers, rabbis, doctors, nurses, and sociologists, and the
personal accounts of those near death and of their survivors.
On Life after Death
Written by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, Celestial Arts,
2008
ISBN 978-1-58761-318-0
This classic collection of four essays – based on Dr Kubler-Ross’s studies of more than twenty
thousand people who had near-death experiences-illuminates her sensitive original, and even
controversial findings on death, dying and the afterlife.
Recommended Reading;
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Out of the Blue
By Julie Stokes & Paul Oxley Winstons Wish 2006
ISBN:1-903458-71-4
Making memories last when someone has died through creative means. This little book offers
some of the more classic ways to encourage a young person to explore their feelings and
memories in a creative way. Come with templates for the activities.
Who Dies?
By Stephen Levine, Gateway, 1986
ISBN 0-7171-3121-1
An investigation of conscious living and conscious dying. A really interesting and thought
provoking book that opens the mind on many levels. It addresses itself to the many aspects of
the dying process with refreshing insight, candour and lightness. It divests the incredible
melodrama called death of its frightful power, supplanting fear with calm in a simple,
compassionate and understandable manner.
Helping Children who Bottle-up their Feelings
By Margot Sunderland, Speechmark, 2005
ISBN: 9 780863 884573
A resource to support professionals who are working with young people to encourage emotional
literacy and catharsis. Provides evidence for the young person in the self-destruction that occurs
when feelings are just bottled-up. Full of wonderful exercises that can be utilised for all age
groups. Is accompanied with a storybook called ‘A Nifflenoo called Never Mind’.
Then, Now and Always
Julie A Stokes Winston’s Wish 2004
ISBN: 0-9539123-5-3
Based on theory, research and practice, this book presents the accumulated experience and
wisdom of a community bereavement service for children who are faced with the consequences
of a family death. It presents creative ideas about how to facilitate the grieving process, cope
with difficult feelings, preserve important memories and share experiences with other bereaved
families.
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BOOKS FOR CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS
Resources Available at Balloons;
It’s raining cats and dogs
Written by Michael Barton, Jessica Kingsley Publishers,
2012
ISBN 978-1-84905-283-2
An autism spectrum guide to the confusing world of idioms, metaphors and everyday
expressions.
Finding your own way to grieve
Written by Karla Helbert, Jessica Kingsley Publishers,
2013
ISBN 978-1-84905-922-0
A creative activity workbook for kids and teens on the autism spectrum.
How people with autism grieve, and how to help
Written by Deborah Lipsky, Jessica
Kingsley Publishers, 2013
ISBN 978-1-84905-954-1
This book provides an honest, insider view on how people with autism deal with the loss of
someone in their life. It explores exactly how people with autism feel and express the loss of a
love one, how they process and come to terms with their feelings of grief, and offers practical
and detailed advice to parents and carers on a range of sensitive issues, including death as a
special interest.
All cats have asperger syndrome
Written by Kathy Hoopman, Jessica Kingsley,
2007, ISBN 978 1 84310 481 0
Touching, humorous and insightful, this book evokes the joys and challenges of raising a child
who is different. It leaves the reader with a sense of the dignity, individuality and potential of
people with Asberger Syndrome.
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ADDITIONAL RESOURCES AVAILABLE AT BALLOONS
Resources Available at Balloons;
What is Cancer? (laminated handout)
Penahligon friends
Moving Forward (DVD)
The Kosh
Moving Forward is an intimate portrayal of how young people and parents talk about how this
has affected them and what has helped them to deal with this experience (duration 47mins).
Emotion Blob Cards
Speechmark
Encourage young people to talk about emotions. The groups of Blobs on these cards are acting
in many familiar 'human' ways: celebrating, fighting, feeling left out, supporting or ignoring each
other. Looking at Blobs together instead of alone enables you to explore a wide range of
feelings and emotions to do with personal and social interaction
Teenage Life Blob Cards
Speechmark
An effective tool to explore teenage issues, these cards provide a tool to consider and discuss a
multitude of positive and negative teenager feelings and behaviours.
Blobs are a way of commicating using two of the first languages which are learnt as children body language and feelings. They can be used individually or for groupwork and cover topics
such as: Relationships and friendships, Bullying, Addiction, Emotions, Confidence, self-image,
and many more. Includes cards suggesting over 50 optional activities.
Feelings Blob Cards
Speechmark
Encourage young people to talk about feelings. Blobs are a way of communicating using two of
the first languages which are learnt as children - body language and feelings. These cards
provide a tool to consider and discuss a multitude of positive and negative feelings and
behaviours. They can be used individually or for group work
Bereavement Blob Cards
Speechmark
Encourage young people to talk about bereavement.
Feelings Photos
Feelings photos contain 48 beautifully photographed images of places carefully chosen to help
children to articulate and understand their emotions.
Puppets
A box containing puppets.
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The Bear Cards (Express Yourself!)
(3 Packs)
Q Cards
The Bear Cards is a boxed set of 48 feelings cards featuring endearing bear characters showing
a wide range of emotions without words. Talking about feelings is not always easy and The
Bear Cards games and activities provide a safe and fun environment in which to practise the art
of healthy emotional expression. The Bear Cards have been designed for families, teachers
and therapists.
Animals
A box containing animal figures.
The Grief Game
An engaging and sensitive board game for two to six players that helps children and
adolescents come to terms with bereavement.
All About Me
(2 Copies)
A board game where there are no winners or losers, playing the game should afford both you
and the child an opportunity to have an enjoyable time together, as well as giving the child the
special time that the therapeutic relationship provides. It allows the child to respond to the cards
at their own pace and encourages feelings of safety, control and trust which are essential for
open communication.
Flash Cards
(4 sets)
A set of laminated cards that help children explore their feelings, pre or post bereavement.
Rabbit Hole (DVD)
Becca & Howie Corbett are a married couple struggling to return to normality after a twist of fate
throws their lives into chaos. With their world turned upside down they embark on separate
journeys, making choices that threaten to pull them apart. But as events unfold and new
meaning is brought into their lives they must decide whether to allow their personal journeys to
bring them back together.
Balloons T-Shirts
Available in a variety of sizes and available to anyone involved in a fundraising activity.
Balloons Wristbands
Rubber wristbands available to help promote Balloons.
Parachute
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