September 2013 Community Education E-Bulletin Hope House Happenings October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month October is quickly approaching and to help get community members thinking about ways you can get involved in Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Hope House has released a new flyer that you can download from our website. There are big and small ways that you can help out as an individual, with family and friends, with co-workers, and/or with your church or school. Please contact us at 608-356-9123 if you have questions or to let us know your plans. We’re happy to help you plan projects or events and to provide presentations and materials. Position Re-Posting Hope House is seeking candidates for a full-time advocate position. The job description and work application is available on Hope House’s website. If you know someone that may be interested, please encourage them to apply. Gas Cards Did you know that most grants that help fund organizations like Hope House do not provide funding for transportation? Transportation is a huge issue in each of the five counties we serve. Many survivors have little to no money to pay for gas to get to their medical and legal appointments, support groups, daycare, grocery store, or job. Hope House often utilizes the services of Interfaith Volunteer Network, which provides volunteer drivers. However, this service is not always an option, especially with short notice. Hope House greatly appreciates community donations of gas cards, or taxi vouchers, to help cover this gap. Thank you for your continued support! Business Promotions Thank you to those who have recently donated their Kohl’s Cash to Hope House. Likewise, we’d like to thank those that have taken their Summit Credit Union “Pay It Forward” funds and donated to Hope House. Know of another business promotion that could help Hope House? We’d love to hear about it: 608-356-9123. Volunteers Needed for Fall Clean Up Are you a member of a civic club, service organization, church or just know some folks that are willing to help out? Hope House is looking for volunteers to help with fall cleaning projects. Examples of projects include washing windows and raking leaves. For more information, please contact Brenda Gurgel at Hope House at 608-356-9123. Sauk Prairie Night Out Andrea Jaquish, Hope House’s Children’s Program Coordinator, staffed a booth at Sauk Prairie’s Night Out on August 12. Families learned about Hope House, and kids got a chance to make their own magnets on staying safe. September 2013 News & Research Sexual Assault     Montana Judge Criticized for 31-Day Sentence for Ex-Teacher who Raped Teen: “A prominent women’s rights group criticized a Montana judge on Wednesday for handing down only a one-month sentence for a former teacher convicted of raping a 14-year-old student, whom the judge said seemed older than her age. State District Judge G. Todd Baugh sentenced the teacher to 15 years in jail on Monday, then suspended all but 31 days of that term for the 2007 rape of Cherice Moralez, who killed herself in 2010”...Read more...Mont. Judge Apologizes for Comments in Teen's Rape  Burglars Return Stolen Computers to Nonprofit— Along With Apology Note: “Burglars who stole computers from an office building returned the items—along with a letter of apology—after apparently realizing they had ransacked a nonprofit that helps victims of sexual violence”...Read more The New Yorker: Trial by Twitter: “After highschool football stars were accused of rape, online vigilantes demanded that justice be served. Was it?”...Read more Online Predators Not Distinctively Dangerous Sex Offenders: “A new University of New Hampshire study challenges the view that online predators are a distinctly dangerous variety of sex offender...In crimes that involve such communications, offenders who meet and recruit youth online operate in much the same way as offenders who meet and know youth in ordinary offline environments”...Read more Tackling the Roots of Rape: “Its deepest roots, he said, are the cult of hyper-masculinity, which tells boys that aggression is natural and sexual conquest enviable, and a set of laws and language that cast women as inferior, pliable, even disposable. ‘We start boys off at a very early age,’ Kilmartin told me during a recent phone conversation. ‘When the worst thing we say to a boy in sports is that he throws ‘like a girl,’ we teach boys to disrespect the feminine and disrespect women. That’s the cultural undercurrent of rape’”...Read more       Rape Culture At Work: Five Examples Of How Employers Turn Women Into Sex Objects: “But the issues that women encounter on the job can run deeper than being unfairly assumed to be less competent or less valuable than their male counterparts. In many cases, women are up against very specific assumptions about their sexuality, their role as ‘objects’ intended to be attractive to men, and their responsibility to prevent men from desiring them”...Read more Military Sexual Assault Victims Allege San Diego Mayor Bob Filner Harassed Them: “Two more women have come forward to accuse San Diego mayor Bob Filner of sexual harassment, bringing the number to 13 and piling pressure on him to resign”...Read more Pentagon Announces Plan to Combat Sexual Assault: “Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel ordered tighter control of recruiters and trainers, shored up protections for victims and improved tracking of complaints and cases involving sexual abuse. Rep. Jackie Speier, D-Calif., said Hagel’s efforts are welcome but the Pentagon needs to do more”...Read more Pentagon Fires 60 Troops after Sex-Assault Review: “Sixty troops have been fired as sexual assault counselors, recruiters or drill instructors after the military investigators found they had committed violations ranging from alcoholrelated offenses to child abuse and sexual assault”...Read more A Rapist with Child Custody? RAINN Takes Action to Protect Survivors and their Children: “At today’s sentencing hearing, Castro requested permission to visit the 6-year-old child he fathered through rape...A number of states already have laws on the books that prohibit rapists from asserting parental rights, such as custody and visitation, over children conceived as a result of their crime. To incentivize the rest of the country to pass such laws, Reps. Debbie Wasserman Schultz (D-FL) and Tom Marino (RPA) just introduced H.R. 2772, the Rape Survivor Child Custody Act”...Read more [Video] Mind of a Monster: Ariel Castro Speaks: “Ariel Castro spoke during his sentencing hearing (life without parole) and Chris Hayes dissects how much Castro sounds like every other abuser, making excuses and blaming the victim”...Read more Domestic Violence  September 2013 Summer Project Brings  Lawmakers Aim to Limit ‘Revenge Porn’ Domestic Violence to Postings: “[California] lawmakers are attempting Forefront: “This past winter, to limit a distressing social media when Redden was figuring out phenomenon...where spurned suitors post intimate what she wanted to do this photos of their ex-lovers on the Internet for all to summer, she thought it would see. The Assembly is set to debate a bill that be worthwhile to travel around would make such conduct punishable by up to a the country talking with people year in jail, while Gov. Jerry Brown is considering about domestic violence and separate legislation that would make it a crime to meeting some of the other volunteers and impersonate or bully a domestic violence victim counselors who work with domestic violence online”...Read more survivors...For five-and-a-half weeks Redden and  Twitter Hands Down New Rules To Beat Abusive Talk: “The one-click button means that From traveled almost 10,000 miles across America, visiting domestic violence centers all over users will not have to navigate to Twitter’s help the country and talking with random people on the center in order to fill out an abuse form—a process street about domestic violence”...Read more some said was too cumbersome to deal with a  Domestic Violence Victims in Milwaukee Faced mass of angry messages—while the new rules Eviction for Calling Police, Study Finds: “Since includes a stricture against ‘targeted abuse,’ then, Wisconsin law and the city’s ordinance have something which could include slamming a single been changed so domestic violence calls, along user with messages from multiple accounts, with stalking and sexual assault, cannot be creating an account purely to harass someone, or considered a nuisance. Local victim advocates and making threats”...Read more  DC Launches Mobile the study’s author applauded the change but said App that Helps Victims of the problem of domestic violence victims losing Sexual Assault and Dating housing because of the actions of their abusers Violence: “police along with persists”...Read more  How to Talk to a Friend About Her Notseveral agencies took that Awesome Relationship: Check out these process a step further—now suggestions from a survivor for talking to a friend offering a smartphone app aimed at helping victims when you suspect abuse. report assaults”...Read more  Police Take On Family Violence to Avert Deaths: “As the number of homicides in NY has Students & Youth reached historically low levels, the Police  New Illinois Law Compels Schools to Confront Department has intensified its efforts to combat a Abuse in Dating: “Gov. Pat Quinn signed particularly stubborn and daunting source of legislation this month requiring teachers to murders: domestic violence”...Read more incorporate age-appropriate education about teen Saudi Arabia Bans Domestic Abuse (Because dating violence to students in grades seven It Hadn’t Already through 12. So school boards must adopt appropriate policies and determine how employees Technology will respond to such incidents”...Read more  You Can Now Let New York  New Campaign Helps College City’s Mayor Know When You Students Fight Rape Culture: Get Harassed On The Street: “If “‘Know Your IX,’ a campaign to you experience harassment on the help educate college students streets of NYC, you’ll now be able about the rights afforded to to tell the Mayor about it in a matter them under federal gender of minutes….The Hollaback! app. equity laws, launched a new The new app allows victims or website on Tuesday to serve as witnesses to upload, in real time, a hub for sexual assault information about where they prevention activists”...Read more  7 Shocking Ways Colleges Have Trivialized experienced harassment on the Rape: “Here’s a list of some of the euphemisms street. It creates a map of pinned locations where harassment occurs, providing near-instant and coded terms colleges and universities have feedback to the city council’s and mayor’s used that minimize or even trivialize the problem of offices”...Read more violence against women on campus”...Read more Students & Youth, Continued    Young Woman’s Educational Performance May be Hindered by her Partner’s Actions: “Dating violence in adolescence not only takes a physical and emotional toll on young women, it also leads to less education and lower earnings later in life...A young woman’s educational performance may be hindered by her partner’s actions, such as destroying books or homework or causing injuries that prevent her from going to school”...Read more 77 Youths Sexually Exploited in Milwaukee over Two Years, Report Says: “A first-of-itskind report puts the number of children who were sexually exploited in Milwaukee at 77 during two years—likely a gross underestimate, experts say”...Read more Being Bullied Throughout Childhood and Teens May Lead to More Arrests, Convictions, Prison Time: “Almost 14 percent of those who reported being bullied repeatedly from childhood through their teens ended up in prison as adults, compared to 6 percent of nonvictims, 9 percent of childhood-only victims and 7 percent of teen-only victims, the study found”...Read more Training Resources Sexual Assault Response Teams (SART) Awareness Video Released: The SANE-SART Resource Service has created a video titled Break the Silence. The video is available to persons interested in creating a sexual assault response team in their community and in educating potential team members, management, and the community about the value of having such a team in a neighborhood. Local News  Stephanie McMillen, 44, formerly of Baraboo,    UW-Madison Conference on Child Sexual Abuse: In its 29th year, this conference offers 50 institutes and workshops on a wide range of topics related to treatment issues for victims and offenders. It will be  held October 21-23 at the Madison Marriott West Hotel in Middleton. To learn more, click here. Statewide Conference: Transform the Conversation: End Domestic Abuse Wisconsin, the Wisconsin Coalition Against Sexual Assault, and American Indians Against Abuse present “Transform the Conversation” Conference November 5-6 at the Kalahari in Wisconsin Dells. This gathering is an opportunity to bring together hundreds of advocates, the court system, law enforcement, prosecutors, lawyers, batterer and sexual perpetrator intervention providers, health care, corrections, educators, survivors, teens, business partners, and citizens to spend several days pushing our thinking on ending domestic and sexual violence to new and innovative places. To learn more, click here. September 2013 headed to trial on an attempted homicide charge after investigators said she was stalking the wife of a man with whom she had an affair...Read more Douglas Fischer, 51, of Necedah, bound over for trial for first-degree sexual assault of a child...Read more Kyle Garstka, 32, former Sauk County jailer from Reedsburg, slated for jury trial for repeatedly sexually assaulting two children...Read more A judge will allow prosecutors to introduce evidence at trial intended to show that babysitter Jeannette Janusiak, 26, of Reedsburg, had previously injured the child she is accused of murdering...Read more James Day, 61, of New Lisbon, charged with felony incest pleaded no contest to a lesser charge in a deal with prosecution...Read more Faith Communities’ Corner Be Educated & Be Safe: Responding to Sex Offenders in Our Community: The Faith Leaders for Healthy Relationships committee is kicking off the 2013-2014 luncheon series with “Be Educated and Be Safe: Responding to Sex Offenders in Our Community” from 11:30am-1pm on September 19 at Dino’s in Portage and September 24 at the House of Embers in Wisconsin Dells. The speaker will be Valerie Santana from the Wisconsin Department of Corrections, and she will cover the topic of sex offenders and the registry list. There will be group discussion afterwards of what churches can do when a sex offender wants to attend your church. More information, including the registration brochure, is available at www.HopeHouseSCW.org. Parents’ & Youth Service Providers’ Corner September 2013 Teens React to Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines: One of the most popular songs this summer has been Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines.” Check out this YouTube video of teens watching the music video and responding to it in an interview. It’s a great example of using pop culture as a conversation starter and a teachable moment. And check out this related blog post, How To Talk with Your Sons about Robin Thicke. 6 Ways You Can Avoid Gender Stereotypes of Your Kids: “Parents can fight back against toxic stereotypes and help girls and boys discover all their talents so that they can follow their dreams wherever they may lead. Here are six suggestions for mothers and fathers based on the newest research”...Read more Webinar: Safety Tools Workshop: On September cover major online safety resources for children ages here to register. and Tips with NetSmartz 18 from 3-4pm, NetSmartz will risks and how their newest 5-17 address each one. Click Signs Your Teen Is a Victim of Cyberbullying: “‘If your child suddenly stops using the computer or appears nervous when they receive a text message, Facebook notification or email, there may be something going on,’ Johnson says. Parents should also pay attention to their teen’s mood when they do get a message”...Read more For Whites (Like Me): On White Kids: “I read a study some time ago comparing white and black families. It found that on average, African-American parents start talking about race with their AfricanAmerican children by age 3. White parents with white kids? Age 13. Is it any wonder my white students are so racially baffled and behind? That they look like deer in headlights when I tell them we’re going to talk about race in their actual lives? It’s not just the fact of being white, and thus insulated from the negative affects of racism (though I believe white children are deeply harmed as well—in different ways), that works against their developing aptitude about race and anti-racism. We, their parents, are working against them too!”...Read more Seeing a Woman: A Conversation between a Father and Son: “Someday I am going to have to have the conversation with my son...The one that happens after I catch his eye doing what male eyes do well – following an object of lust. We will probably be out at the mall, because that’s what dads do with their sons, and I’ll catch the look. Maybe we’ll go to the beach and see it. Doesn’t matter where it is, there will come a time when I will see it. And then it will be time for this conversation”...Read more Upcoming Hope House Events Fri, Sept 13: Hope House staff will be facilitating a group at Friendship Connection in Friendship on September 13 from 1-3pm. All are welcome to attend! For more information, contact Lenore at Hope House at 608-356-9123. Thurs, Sept 19 and Tues, Sept 24: Please see page 4 for information on “Be Educated and Be Safe: Responding to Sex Offenders in Our Community” luncheon from 11:30am-1pm in Portage and Wisconsin Dells. Sat, Sept 21: Reedsburg Area Medical Center is sponsoring Kids Fit and Safe Day on September 21 from 10am-2pm at the RACA Building on Hwy H. There will be activities and demos related to safety, nutrition, and fitness. Be sure to check out the Hope House booth. Questions? Call Dana Gray at 608-768-6252 or email [email protected]. Mon, Sept 23: Al Behrman Elementary School in Baraboo is holding a parent workshop on Monday, September 23 at 5pm. School staff will cover their bullying policy, and Hope House’s Community Education Coordinator will cover cyberbullying issues. The workshop will end with time for Q&A. For more information, please contact the school at 608-355-3910. Hope House Donation Needs September 2013 Monetary donations are most needed for our services and our capital campaign. Individuals have the option of donating online. Please note that a portion of your online donation will go towards PayPal fees. Donations can be mailed to Hope House, P.O. Box 557, Baraboo, WI 53913. We also appreciate gas cards, gift cards (Walmart, Kwik Trip, Walgreens, Kohl’s), taxi vouchers, and used cell phones, iPods and iPads. Please note that we are not accepting stuffed animals, clothes (except for sweatshirts and sweatpants), shoes, TV’s, or travel-size bottles of shampoo, conditioner, or body wash. Below is a list of our current needs:      Bathrooms: New hairbrushes, Tissues, Toilet bowl cleaner, Cleaning supplies such as Lysol disinfecting spray and floor cleaner, Clorox wipes, Deodorant, Toilet paper, Liquid hand soap, Hairspray, Hand towels, Wash cloths, Bleach, Bathroom rugs and bath mats Kitchen: Fruit juice, Baby cereal, High chairs, Sip cups, Milk, Canned soup, Canned spaghetti, Can opener, 13-Gallon garbage bags, Paper towels, One gallon and two gallon zip top freezer bags, Dishwasher soap, Saran wrap, Aluminum foil Clothing for Women and Kids: Socks, Size 8 women’s underwear, Medium-Large size pajamas, Bath robes, Slippers, Flip-flops, Sweatshirts and sweatpants Laundry: Laundry detergent, Fabric softener sheets Misc: Pocket-sized calendars, Strollers, Baby bottles, Umbrellas, Hangers, Flashlights with extra batteries, Weather radio, Watering can, Journals, Family movie DVDs, Outlet covers, Yoga mats, Exercise balls, Yoga/exercise DVDs, Relaxation CDs, Baby thermometer, #1, #2, #5, and #6 Size diapers, Pull-ups size 3-4T, Baby wipes, CD players, Car seats, Booster car seats, Energy-efficient soft white 60-watt light bulbs, Regular light bulbs, Digital alarm clocks with radio, Hand sanitizer, New twin bed sheets and comforter sets, Air fresheners Kohl’s Cash Do you shop at Kohl’s and sometimes miss the opportunity to use your Kohl’s Cash? Please consider donating it to Hope House. We can use Kohl’s Cash to purchase needed bedroom, bathroom, and kitchen supplies.