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How To Seduce Out Of Your League™ by Derek Rake
How To Seduce Out Of
Your League™
The Complete Uncensored Blueprint of The
Underground Master Seducers
Derek Rake
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Praise For Derek Rake’s
“How To Seduce Out Of Your League™”
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Contents
Chapter 1. Seduction and Selling
Chapter 2. It All Starts With Your "Mindset"
The Average Man's 'Dating Mindset'
The Woman's 'Dating Mindset'
The Seducer's Mindset
Chapter 3. Make Her 'Work' For It
Chapter 4. Build a Better YOU
A Word on Rejection
Get Rid of the "Scarcity" Mindset
Raise Your Standards!
Be Ready for the "Tests"
Why Do "Jerks" Get All The Women
Confidence
Visualize Your Way to "Super Confidence" & Dating Stardom
Chapter 5. Plan Ahead
Chapter 6. Step Into "Their" World
Learn to Speak Their Language
Figure Out Who You Are Targeting, Specifically
Where to Meet Lots of Eager Women
Chapter 7. How to Seduce A Woman: The Essential Steps
Pull Them Into "Your" World
Two Power Strategies
Becoming a Master Salesman
Get Their Attention / Shift Their Focus
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Be Funny, Not Goofy
Create Interest and Intrigue
Let Her "Categorize" You
Get Her to Chase You
Start Building a Relationship/Bond Immediately
Create Instant Rapport
Stay Away From The "Friend" Category
Introduce the "Attraction" Factor
Is This Fair?
Monitor Her 'Comfort Level'
Go For the Kiss
Chapter 8. Leave Them Wanting More
Chapter 9. Constantly Test & Improve
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Chapter 1. Seduction and Selling
A
t the core level, seduction comes down to "selling." You're trying to convince a
woman that you are a "hot product" she has got to have.
You're selling
"yourself."
And, while that sounds fairly simple, most people have no clue how to sell a product or
service "effectively" let alone sell "themselves."
Think about it... how many great salespeople have you met in your life... people who were
able to convince you to buy into a product, a service or even an "idea?" How effective
were they in getting you to jump in 100% - without any hesitation or regret?
It doesn't happen that often, does it? Even the socalled
"trained"
salespeople
are
not
very
convincing. Often times, they're the worst at it
because they seem to believe they're hot stuff just
coz they've gone through an 8-hour "training"
program.
Now think of all the people you've met who were
"bad" sellers? In other words, they were "trying" to
sell you something (maybe at the clothing store,
“
Most people are
just bad sellers.
And it's not their
fault because no
one taught us
how
to
sell
effectively.”
over the phone, or even out on the street) but they
just weren't getting anywhere? You were too
'smart' for them, you saw them coming a mile away. You immediately defended yourself
from being sold. Many of them were just too aggressive and were trying to shove the
product or service down your throat with that "Buy me, buy me, pleeease buy me" vibe.
Most people are just bad sellers. And it's not their fault. Because, no one taught us
how to sell effectively. We weren't born with that skill either. And I'll tell you
something else... even the people who are great at selling products or services in a
'business setting' are poor sellers when it comes to "selling themselves".
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The best sellers are the best because you'll never see them coming. While they're working
their magic, you'll never realize that they're trying to "sell" you. And by the time they're
done, you'll be the one begging them to sell the product to you. Those individuals are the
true masters of selling. And they make up a very small percentage of the population,
because there are so few of them out there who can 'really' sell.
This special report will show you how they do what they do. It will reveal to you secrets
of 'real' selling that most people will never know… and it will show you how to apply that
powerful knowledge to "selling yourself."
You will learn about powerful psychological motivators that most people don't
even know exist.
More specifically, this report will show you how to convince a woman to fall for you,
despite your looks, income, or social status.
It's about mastering the "true essence of selling" - the kind of selling that even most top
marketers and business people don't know about.
When you're done with this book, when you've learned the secrets I'm about to share
with you, you'll be able to do what most men have no clue how to do: have the most
beautiful, drop-dead gorgeous women eating right out of your hands... and wanting more
and more because they'll never seem to get enough of you.
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Chapter 2. It All Starts With Your Mindset
T
he first thing you absolutely must understand is that most men and women are
"programmed" to believe certain things and "act" a certain way when it comes
to "dating." These 'programmed' beliefs and attitudes are the main problem
that's keeping both men and women from enjoying each other the way they were meant
to.
2.1 The Average Man's 'Dating Mindset'
Most guys walk into the dating game with a weak mindset. (Yes, it is a "game.") They see
women, especially beautiful women, as being 'superior' to them. They become nervous,
tongue-tied, and even scared whenever they think of approaching a woman, talking to
her, or asking her out.
Even the guys who have self-confidence and are
able to approach women without any problem are
“
Since men are
coming from this
(weak) "mindset,"
everything they do
or say to a woman
takes the tone of
"begging."
still handicapped because they still feel that they
have to "prove" to a woman that they're
"worthy" of her attention.
Since men are coming from this "mindset,"
everything they do or say to a woman takes the
tone of "begging." They're hoping and praying
that the woman will "accept" them.
They will compliment women too much, mostly on
her "physical attributes." They will agree with everything the woman says. They will
more or less act like an obedient puppy dog that's ready to obey her every command.
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And while they think this stuff will impress women, it does not. In fact, women are often
turned off by this. (I will explain this phenomenon later.)
Moreover, since men believe that doing all these things will get a woman to "like them,"
they are often disappointed when this strategy doesn’t work. They are hurt, they feel
rejected, and they may even feel worthless. Sometimes, they will even accuse the woman
of being cold-hearted or a tease, or worse… mainly because they can't explain what
happened any other way. So, they assume that "it has to be the woman."
Since most men walk into the game with the above weak mindset, they are
doomed from the very beginning.
2.2 The Woman's 'Dating Mindset'
For most women, dating can be a "chore."
To start off, they are "conditioned" by society to believe that they should let the men
make the first move, and that they cannot ask men out.
Of course, this rarely works the way they hope it will because most men that approach
women are boring at best. They use the same ol' pickup lines and talk the same ol' boring
(or macho) way about the same ol' boring subjects (sex, sports, cars, beer) -- subjects
that most women have absolutely no interest in whatsoever.
Then, there are the "nice guys" who just worship the ground she walks on, even if they
have just met the woman a few minutes ago. They compliment the woman too
much, they agree with everything the woman says, and they are pretty much ready to
obey every command that comes out of her mouth.
Women are tired of this. They are bored with this. They are dying for a man to come by
and say something different, and do something different! They want someone who can
talk to her like a human being instead of just a "hot body."
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However… because of her "past experiences" with most men, she assumes that every
other guy who approaches her will be the same way… boring, monotonous, with only
"one thing" on their minds. So, she usually keeps her defenses up when approached
by men.
Think about it. What's the first thing you do
when you find out that someone's trying to
sell you something you didn't really "ask" for
(even if it's something you want) your
guard goes up instantly, doesn't it?
That's how most women react to most men,
and dating. They believe (and rightly so) that
most men are mostly after one thing: to get
into their pants, without having much to
“
Women are tired of
this. They are dying for a
man to come by and say
something different,
and do something
different”
offer in return at all.
So, as soon as you approach a woman, she immediately goes to "red alert." Shields up!
At least, this is how the 'modern woman' responds. Despite the fact that deep down
inside, she really wants a man to come by and just sweep her off her feet. It's a pretty
rough place to be, really.
And that's where YOU come in to save the day.
To be able to touch women in ways no other man has been able to, you have to first
understand how women view the world, what their pain and frustrations are. And,
now you know a big part of it. You've seen a glimpse of how she sees things. It's
something that most men will never know, or even care to know.
2.3 The Seducer's Mindset
So… believe it or not, women want to be seduced. They want to be swept off their
feet. And, while this may surprise some men, they want sex as much as men do.
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Sometimes more! But, they won't let you know that. "It's just not the way women are
supposed to behave," according to society.
Therefore, your job, my future fellow seducer, is to 1) get past her initial defenses,
which she uses to keep "most" men out, and 2) show her that you're the kind of
man she's been waiting for all her life.
That's where great selling comes in. You have to know your target audience, what their
needs and wants are, and most importantly, you have to get them to realize how much
they want it, and how much of it you can give them, without coming across as a used car
salesman.
Action speaks louder than words. So, instead of trying to "tell" her that you're the kind of
man she wants, you have to "show" her, and let her come to her own conclusions. Of
course, you'll set it up in such a way that she'll come to the conclusions you
want her to come to.
So, as far as she's concerned, in order to seduce her, you have to prove to her that you're
worthy of her attention. You have to show her that you're a different kind of man. Not
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Chapter 3. Make Her Work For It
W
hen you get something for free, you usually don't attach much value to it.
When you have to "work" at getting something, you usually appreciate it a
lot more.
For most women, getting a date is not difficult at all. Men are coming at them from every
direction. It's no wonder they have to make snap
judgments about who to accept and who to reject.
“
When you have
to "work" at
getting something,
you usually
appreciate it a lot
more.”
The game is annoyingly easy for her. She doesn't
have to do any work. There's no "chase." There's
no challenge in it for her.
So if you really want a woman to go crazy over you,
you have to turn the tables on her. You have to
make her believe that you are the prize. And
that you are the "rare commodity" that she needs
to work at getting… before it's gone.
Most guys make themselves too available. They are there to please her in every way
possible. And it rarely works in their favor; because women are so used to this it's not
even funny.
If you want to become highly attractive in her eyes, establish your scarcity.
Remember, nice guys are a dime a dozen. You don't want to be one of those guys.
Let her believe that you are that unique one-in-a-million guys whom she had better
grab right now or else regret it later.
You have to be a man who makes her feel like no man has ever made her feel before.
And, that's what this manual will show you how to do.
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But, in order to be that kind of man, you have to "be" that kind of man. In other words,
you can't fake it.
In order to convince the buyer that you're selling a quality product, you first have to start
by "selling" a quality product. Otherwise, you won't go too far in this game.
I've never believed in selling a lousy product and you shouldn't either. Trust me, you'll be
able to sleep better at night knowing that you've delivered on your promise.
Yes, I'm afraid that means you'll have to change a few things about yourself. But, fear
not, these changes are for the better because it will make you a better man overall, not
just in the eyes of women.
So… it's time to…
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Chapter 4. Build A Better You
4.1 A Word on Rejection
H
ave you ever been rejected by a woman?
What you have to realize right now is that there's no such thing as rejection. If
a woman says no to you, that does not
automatically mean that she has "rejected" you.
There are several reasons she could say "no" and
none of those reasons would have anything to do
with you. She may just be having a bad day, she
“
A "no" from one
woman means
absolutely nothing.”
may already have a boyfriend, she may be a
lesbian, etc. etc. You just don't know what's
going on in her life at that moment in time.
So, when you approach a woman for a date and she says "no," don't automatically
assume that she has "rejected" you. That's just silly.
A "no" from one woman means absolutely nothing. It's just one woman's
"opinion". You can't let it affect you much, if at all.
4.2 Get Rid of the "Scarcity" Mindset
Since men feel that they have to get a "yes" from this woman or it will mean that they're
a failure, they invest too much into what the woman will say or do. At that point in time,
this woman is the only thing that matters to them. When you do that, you end up giving
the woman too much power over you.
What you have to realize is that, IF she says "no" to you, it's not the end of the world.
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There are still hundreds, even thousands of women out there that you have yet to talk to.
Heck, this particular woman could very well be a self-absorbed maniac who just doesn't
want to be happy. Do you see what I'm trying to say here?
Men believe that women are hard to find. Yet, all you have to do is step out of the
house and you'll see 'em. They're everywhere. If you can't seem to find them, I'll show
you (later) where to go to find plenty of them.
“
If you invest too
much into what
the woman will say
or do, you end up
giving her too
much
power
over you”
Men also believe that when they see a woman
they'd like to talk to, in their mind she's the only
woman that exists in the entire world at that point
in time. They become desperately focused on that
one woman. And, because of this 'belief,' men feel
that they have to get this woman to say "yes" to
going out with them, no matter what. Or else, they
would feel "rejected."
When you do that, you are giving way too
much power and control to one woman. From that point on, she gets to control
how you feel and what you do. You have just turned her into a "superior" being whom
you have to prove your worthiness to. You should never give one woman that much
power and control over you, especially when you've just barely met her.
Remember that.
4.3 Raise Your Standards
I want you to raise your standards.
Let me explain…
Most men, when they get focused on one woman, and their whole world now starts to
revolve around this one woman, they don't even care what the woman is really like. All
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they can see is how she looks on the "outside." Men slip into this "fantasy world" where
this woman can do no wrong. She's "perfect." And they'll continue pining over this one
woman even when she treats the man like trash.
Don't ever do that.
Moreover, if you ever see a woman who's just being a bitch or a jerk to others around her
(not just to men who are approaching her, but to everyone), then I want you to never
give her the time of day no matter how hot you think she looks.
Can you promise to do that? Good.
Listen… with what I will share with you in this book, you'll be able to walk up to the
hottest women around and get her to go out with you and have her enjoy it.
So, if you're able to pick up the most beautiful women out there, doesn't it just make
sense to also pick women who have a great personality as well?
Why settle for women who are bitter, or clingy, or just plain psychotic? They're only
going to make your life miserable, no matter how good they look on the "outside."
Never put a woman on a pedestal, especially when you don't even know what's she's
like "as a person." Sure, she may look like a supermodel on the "outside," but she could
me a total bitch, and just a bad person on the inside.
I want you to realize right now that "good looks" are not enough! You deserve more than
that. And you can get it.
In fact, I want you to go one step further.
Whenever you see a woman you'd like to talk to, I want you to approach her with a
mindset that says "I am here to see if YOU are good enough for ME!" I don't care
how 'hot" she looks.
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That's right. I want you to honestly approach every woman with that attitude. Gone are
the days where you have to beg for HER approval. From this day forth, it is the
woman's job to impress YOU, to prove to you that they're worth YOUR time.
When you start to truly believe that, you will be amazed at the number of women that
will want to be with you. I'm not joking
here.
So, I want you to start practicing that
mindset, okay? Please do it, it will turn you
into the kind of man women will be drawn
to… you'll become a "babe magnet".
“
Never put a woman
on a pedestal,
especially when you don't
even know what's she's
like "as a person."
If you don't do it, you'll continue to get the
same results with women that you were
getting before.
4.4 Be Ready for the "Tests"
Women will also test you quite a bit, no matter how well you approach them. It's almost
an unconscious reaction on her part at times. She's testing you to see whether you're a
"real" man or not. She's testing you to see whether you'll just sit there and take whatever
she dishes out, or if you'll stand your ground. She wants to see whether you'll agree to
everything she says or if you have "a mind of your own."
Remember that. It is extremely important for your success with women.
Women will always test you. So be ready for this.
Women will purposely disagree with you and they may purposely try to push your
buttons, just to see how you handle yourself in that situation.
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And, when they do, don't get mad. Don't get angry. Just calmly tell her how you really
feel about the situation. If needed, you will also have to "put her in her place." You may
think that women will be turned off by this and leave. Not true.
They may "pretend" to get upset or hurt, but in fact, they'll thank their lucky stars that
they finally found a man who has the guts to put her in her place instead of putting up
with her crap.
4.5 Why Do "Jerks" Get All The Women
Have you ever wondered why men who are total jerks always get all the women? It's
because they walk around with an attitude of "not giving a crap." If a woman doesn't
respond to him like he wants, he doesn't care. He just walks off. Because he knows that
there are hundreds of women out there.
Jerks are also not afraid to speak their mind. If a woman tries to boss him around
or be unreasonable, he will not hesitate to let her have it.
Women are drawn to men like that. Not because women are stupid and only want to date
jerks. Not at all. It's because women can sense that "I don’t care if she says no" attitude in
these jerks. That's what women find attractive. Also, when women try to push them
around, they will put the woman in her place quick. Without even blinking. That's what
women are drawn to.
Now you know why women often end up with jerks when there are so many "nice guys"
around that will do anything she asks for.
Obviously, I don't want you to become a jerk. You can still be a gentleman, you can
still be "nice." BUT, I want you to adopt a similar mindset of "not giving a crap if the
woman doesn't respond to you favorably" because there are plenty other women out
there for you. Also, don't ever let her walk all over you or she'll quickly lose respect for
you. Don't be afraid to give it to the woman (verbally) when she's being rude, obnoxious,
or just a plain ol' bitch.
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Walk around with that attitude and women will be drawn to you like moths to a flame. I
kid you not.
Here's a classic example taken out of a bar setting:
Man: Hi, how are you? I'm Jack.
Woman: I don't talk to you unless you buy me a drink first. (in an arrogant
tone.)
Man: Waiter! Can I get a glass of water here, for this… lady?
The man then turns back to the woman and says…
Man: Funny. You "looked" like a nice person. I guess looks can be deceiving.
He then walks up and leaves.
A few minutes later, the same woman "accidentally" bumps into Jack again at a different
location of the same bar. And, she says…
Woman: I'm sorry about before. That was rude of me. Would you like to talk?
What the heck happened there?
It doesn't seem like it should have worked, right? But it did!
Why? Because Jack decided to put her in her place… unlike "most" men who would have
immediately bought her a drink, despite her rude and obnoxious behavior. More
importantly, Jack also decided long before he ever stepped into that bar that a woman
with that kind of lousy attitude didn't deserve his time.
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Now, I don't know whether this woman was just testing Jack, or if she was just being a
bitch because it seemed to work for her in the past with other men. The fact is, because
Jack showed her that he had standards, she was drawn to him. He established his
"uniqueness" by not falling for her b.s.
Always remember that.
WARNING. As I said earlier, you don't have to be a jerk to put her in her place. You can
do this calmly, even with a smile. In fact, doing it calmly is 10 times more effective
because it has more impact on women. Women see this and think "Hmm, not only did he
put me in my place, he did it without losing his cool. I can't rattle him the way I do most
men."
I'll tell you right now… the stuff I've told you above will be the hardest for you to adopt.
Your "old" self will keep creeping up to tell you to not do this. Your old self will want you
to treat women "nice" no matter what she does to you or how badly she treats you. Don't
listen to your old "programmed" beliefs.
If you want to be successful with women, you'll have to learn to adopt the above mindset.
I can't stress that enough. Everything else I share with you is based on the above
mindset.
And remember, I'm not asking you to be abusive to women. I absolutely do NOT
tolerate physical or mental abuse towards women (or anyone) in any form. That's just
not something a "real" man will ever do.
As I've said before, you can calmly put a woman in her place IF/WHEN she's being
arrogant, rude, obnoxious, overly dramatic, insulting, or even when she's purposely
"testing" you to see what kind of man you are. There is nothing abusive about this
at all. You're simply letting her know that you are not going to put up with her crap.
Period.
4.6 Confidence
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Confidence is an attractive quality.
Have you seen those James Bond movies? It's almost as if women are ready to jump on
this guy even before he talks to them. But that's only true in the movies, right? Wrong.
A man who walks into the room with "true confidence" will just draw people to him…
both men and women, but especially women. A man walking with confidence says to
them that "This is a different kind of man. A man who won't just agree with everything
I say. A man who will put me in my place, if needed. A man who I won't have to be a
"mother" to. A man who is sure of himself!"
That's attractive.
Have you also noticed that James Bond is quick to put a woman in her place when she's
misbehaving or just being plain rude? That's also part of his magic with women.
It's not that he's abusive to women. Not at all. He loves women. But he won't take any
shit from them. And neither should you.
Because you're confident in who you are. You're confident in what you bring to the table
and what you have to offer a woman. And if she is too dumb to see that, you are not
going to waste your time with her.
But…
How do you gain this kind of confidence? What's a guy to do if he is terrified of
approaching women, let alone stand his ground and be confident and not take shit from
her?
Glad you asked.
Here's the easiest way I know of that can quickly help you build your self confidence with
women.
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4.7 Visualize Your Way to "Super Confidence" & Dating
Stardom
Visualization has been given a bad rap. This reason is because most people are doing it
all wrong. And when it doesn't work, they blame the visualization when in fact it is the
"method" that's at fault.
Visualization is taught in many different ways. Most of them don't work.
I'll share with you the method of visualization that does work, and works powerfully well.
But first, let's discuss why visualizing in this way works so well. The better you
understand the process, the better you'll be able to use it.
Here's the key fact to remember.
Your mind cannot tell the difference between an experience that is real and an
experience that is imagined.
If you're not quite ready to believe that yet, that's alright. Allow me to convince you of
this fact.
Have you ever watched a movie that scared
you? How about one that made you sad, or
excited, or maybe even one that caused you to
shed a few tears? If you've ever seen a movie or
TV show that caused you to feel strong
emotions, then you have just convinced
yourself that your mind cannot distinguish
“
Your mind cannot
tell the difference
between an experience
that is real and an
experience that is
imagined”
between a real experience and an 'imagined'
one.
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Why? Because you knew all throughout the movie that the characters were fictional, the
plot was fictional, and when the actors seemed scared out of their skin, they actually had
an entire camera crew following them around, shooting the entire scary scene.
You knew all along that it was all just great acting and special effects. Yet, after
watching it for just a few minutes, you were sucked into the movie. Your brain was not
able to tell the difference between real and the "imaginary." Eventhough you knew full
well that everything was choreographed and acted out ahead of time, you still felt scared
or sad or excited, just as the movie makers intended.
Here's another example: Let's say you're all alone in your house at night. The lights are
out. You hear a noise and while you're scared, you gather enough courage to investigate
the origin of the noise. As you're walking towards the direction of the noise, someone
jumps in front of you out of nowhere and screams.
You, of course get the life scared out of you. Your heart skips a beat, you gasp for air and
scream at the top of your lungs.
Seconds later, you discover that the other person is someone you know, who is simply
pulling a prank on you.
Let's dissect that...
Was there a real burglar in the house? No, there wasn't. Was there ever any real danger
to you? No there wasn't. These are the facts. These are what's "real."
Yet, you still got scared. You still probably feared for your life because your mind
"believed" that there was a stranger in your house, that there was possible danger. As a
result, your felt strong emotions which also caused changes in your physical body - the
change of heart rate and breathing, possible perspiration, muscles tightening, and so on.
Similar things happened to you when you were watching that scary movie, even when
you knew all along that it was "only a movie."
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That is another key point to remember... The mind always controls the body, and
not the other way around.
So… as you have just witnessed from the above examples, your mind cannot tell the
difference between that which is real and that which it imagines. If you can imagine
something with enough detail and clarity, your mind will believe it to be
real.
Now...the important question again is 'how can you use this?'
Simple. You just "trick" your mind into believing that you are confident and irresistible
whenever you approach and talk to women.
Don't be too concerned. This method is not based on assumptions. It has been tried,
tested, and proven. Not only will a repetitious
"imagined" experience produce results as
“
If you can imagine
something with
enough detail and
clarity, your mind will
believe it to be real.”
effectively as a repetitious "real" experience, the
"imagined" experience will in fact produce
considerably better results than the "real"
experience. I'll explain why below.
Extensive research has been done involving
various groups of athletes and other test groups
which have proven this fact numerous times.
Group A were put through actual practice sessions for a few hours per week while Group
B were instructed to only practice their skills "mentally" for the same number of hours
per week. At the end of the experiment, both groups were tested on their performances.
In every case, Group B performed just as well as Group A. In many cases, Group B
performed considerably better than Group A.
Our own personal tests have proven the same to be true for our own experiments.
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The best part about visualizing your actions instead of actually doing them is that…
during visualization, you can select your outcome beforehand. In real practice
sessions, you can hit some or miss some. But during visualized practice, you can always
swing perfect shots! This is one of the reasons that Group B usually performed much
better than Group A. You see, while Group A was experiencing some hits and some
misses, Group B was only experiencing hits… perfect hits… every single time.
Now that I've provided you with enough evidence to back up the claim, and also
explained why imagined practice sessions
are often better than actual ones, let's
discuss the best ways in which to take
“
During visualization
… select your
outcome beforehand.
You can always swing
perfect shots”
advantage of this strategy.
Let's say that you would like to improve
your confidence with women. You now
know that instead of physically practicing
your pickup strategy, you can simply
rehearse
'mentally'
by
using
your
imagination. In other words, you can
visualize yourself walking up to a woman, with complete confidence and charm, and
actually talking to them and having them become really interested and excited.
Here's how most people are taught to visualize...
They are told to close their eyes and watch themselves doing the task which they would
like to improve. In most cases, they are told to watch themselves as if they were watching
a movie of themselves practicing the task required.
There are many things wrong with this method of visualization, the biggest one being
that the person is not visually participating in the action. Instead, he is simply
"watching"; he is merely an observer. He is detached from the experience.
Here's the correct way to visualize...
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The first step to proper visualization is… Don't watch yourself performing the task as if
you're watching a movie of yourself. But instead, be "in the movie," be a part of the
experience, see everything with your own eyes.
So, if you were to practice talking with women, instead of watching a movie of yourself
talking to them, you have to be inside the picture so that you actually see the woman in
front of you, and you see the woman getting closer to you as you walk up to her. You're
inside your body.
You don't necessarily have to open your mouth and actually speak the words you'd say to
her, but it doesn't hurt. It may actually help you embody the experience better if you
do speak out loud, and then imagine how the woman would respond.
Remember, you are only visualizing "success", so talk to the woman, and only visualize
positive responses from her. You can also imagine her saying something to "test" you,
and then imagine yourself calmly and nicely putting her in her place…which in turn gets
her more excited and drawn to you.
The next important step is to get all of your senses involved. As you visualize yourself
doing the perfect pickup, make the picture as real as you can. Imagine what the
surroundings are like. If it's a bright sunny day, imagine how the warmth would feel on
your body. Imagine what the sounds and smells around you would be like. Get in touch
with all those sensations. Imagine actually hearing the woman speak to you. What does
that sound like?
When you extend your hand to shake hers, physically extend your real arm out, as if
you're really shaking her hand.
I know this all may sound a bit weird, but just do it anyway, okay? It will really help you
with your confidence and your overall attitude with women. Remember, this is not
theory. This is actual tested and proven strategies that work extremely well.
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Get all your senses involved. Make the experience as real as you can. Convince
your mind that it's "real" just as a good movie convinces you. And don't forget to always
visualize perfect results. Remember, you are only practicing success.
And of course, the last important piece is to be "consistent." Practice this visualization
technique at least once everyday, more often if
you're able to. I would recommend that you do it
first thing in the morning, and the very last thing
before you go to bed. Those are usually the best
times to program your mind.
If you follow the steps as I've outlined them above
and practice sincerely, don't be surprised if you
“
Get all your
senses involved.
Make the
experience as
real as you can”
start feeling a renewed sense of confidence and
charm about you. Don't be too surprised when you
starting going out and talking to women with complete confidence and calmness, as they
melt away with your words.
Another thing you can do is, start going out there and talking to women. Any
woman, all women. Attractive women, not so attractive women. And don't worry about
hitting on them or picking them up. Just talk to them, one human to another. Without
any outcome or goal in mind. Just get into the practice of talking to women and
carrying on a conversation. Get used to it. The more you practice it, the more
comfortable you will be with the process.
And keep doing your visualization. You can even wait till you've done your visualizations
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Chapter 5. Plan Ahead
A
s you've probably noticed by now, a lot of the strategies I've shared with you
above are to be done before you ever step out of the house to meet women.
Preparation is key.
Do you walk into an interview unprepared? Do you take a test without studying? Would
you try to win at a sport without practicing some moves ahead of time? Would you take
off for a trip without first planning out as much detail about it as you can?
Of course, you wouldn't. Then, why should dating, and finding a mate, be any less
important to not require adequate planning?
The amount of energy you put into planning your strategy will dictate how successful you
are with women. So, don't just run out into the battlefield unprepared. You'll get
massacred! I think you know what I"m talking about.
This is why you must learn and practice everything I reveal in this manual long before
you ever start approaching women. You have to be prepared ahead of time.
Now, let's continue further and find out what else you have to learn and prepare for
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Chapter 6. Step Into “Their” World
6.1 Learn to Speak Their Language
T
he best way to be effective at selling is to understand your target audience, to
be able to see the world through their eyes, with their perspective. When you're
able to step into their shoes in that way, you will have an almost indescribable
power over them, you'll be able to create a bond with them that is hard to explain with
words.
If you're not able to convince them to buy from you, you have not learned to view the
world the way your customers do. You have not learned to see, hear and FEEL
the world through your customers’ shoes.
And you have not learned to speak to them in the language that will make them want
what you have.
You may be speaking English, you may be using words that they understand, but you're
just not speaking their language.
That's the absolute #1 reason why most people are not able to sell anything
to others. They just don't take the time out to understand their target market.
Most men would agree that women seem to speak a foreign language. Of course, most
women would claim that men just don't understand them.
And you know what? They're both right.
Women DO speak a different language, even if they are using the same "words" as men
are. They think, see, and feel very differently than men. Therefore, they vocalize
their thoughts and feelings differently.
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There are very few men who can seduce a woman with just his words. Very few indeed.
Just ask a woman.
Most men will try to wine and dine a woman, they'll try to impress her with their money
or car or job. They'll even try to be as obedient and compliant as they possibly can. That
just makes matters worse. It just doesn't work.
So, how are these small group of men able to
make a woman melt with just their words?
Simple. They have learned the 'language'
that women speak. They have learned, and
they understand, how women view the world.
“
The best way to be
effective at selling is to
understand your target
audience, to be able to
see the world through
their eyes, with their
perspective”
For this reason alone, they are able to touch
women in ways that most men will never be able
to.
I'll show you how to do this in a later section.
6.2 Figure Out Who You Are Targeting, Specifically
It's not enough to just say "I want to meet women." Figure out what kind of women you
are interested in. I'm assuming you want them to have more than just a pulse, right?
By now, you have realized that "good looks" is not enough. Remember, you have
standards.
Take some time out to write down what specifically you're looking for in a
woman: personality, looks, financial status, sexual orientation, etc.
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Why is this important? Well, for starters, when you have a better idea of who you're
looking for, you won't waste your time on women (or let them waste your time) if
they don't match your criterion.
Moreover, when you know who you're looking for, you'll have a better idea of where to
look for them.
For example, if you're looking for a woman who is very open and sexually adventurous,
you probably won't go to a church to find this type of
woman. I'm not saying that sexually open women
don't go to church. I'm saying that your chances of
“
Don’t waste
your time on the
women who
don't match
your criterion”
finding such a woman in church may not be as great
as finding her at a tantra or yoga class. Also, if you do
happen to find this type of woman in church, you'll
have to work a lot harder to get her to the point
where you both can enjoy that aspect of her
personality. It's not impossible to get her there, but it
may take longer. It's all about strategy. You want to
play the odds in your favor. Why do extra work when you don't have to?
You also want to become clear on why you want to meet these women.
Is it mostly for sex and casual relationships? Is it for friendship? Serious relationship?
Marriage? Find out right now what it is that you want, and it will be a lot easier for
you to find the right kind of woman.
6.3 Where to Meet Lots of Eager Women
Don't go to meet women in places where the competition is stiff, where there are a
hundred horny, drooling men to every 3 women. Those are lousy odds. Go where the
women outnumber men by a ratio of 5 to 1, or 10 to 1, or even 20 to 1. That means, for
every one guy in that place, there are 5, 10, or even 20 women! Those are my kinda odds!
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Don't think a place like that exists? Well, you're in for a pleasant surprise.
Here are just a few suggestions to get you started…
Bachelorette Parties: When women are out to celebrate a friend's bachelorette
party, they are ready to let down their hair and go a little wild, a little crazy. When
women are ready and open to be a little adventurous, your job as a seducer
becomes a lot easier, simply because their normal defenses and hangups are not
present. Their defenses are on vacation for the night.
Find the restaurants in your area that cater to these types of parties. There are
also some hotels (with restaurants) that cater to this crowd. Just pick up the
phone book and pretend you're organizing one of these parties. You'll be
surprised at what you find.
Yoga or Art Classes: These types of classes mostly attract women. It's a good
place to stack the numbers in your favor. You should also look into classes that
deal with psychic studies, metaphysical stuff, etc. These also attract very openminded women who are open to "exploring" new things.
Women's Gym: There are some women's gym that are now allowing a few men
into the classes. (Maybe they're trying to give their members a little more
"incentive" to show up.) There may be some of these gyms in your area.
Bookstores & Coffee Shops: These are often frequented by women. You're
bound to run into some during mid mornings and/or early evenings. Other times
may also work. Check it out for yourself and find out what works best in your
area.
Cooking Classes: I'm not sure about this one anymore since a lot more men are
going into these classes, so check the classes in your area out before you join.
Grocery Aisle of a Supermarket: Supermarkets are great places to meet
women. In fact, some women believe that supermarkets are the best place to go if
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they want men to "pick them up." Well, let's help these women out a little, shall
we? The best times to go are early evenings, right after the end of the average
workday.
How About College Campuses? Another great place to meet not only
attractive, but smart women. Although, don't drive up in an unmarked van and
park on the side of the road. They might report you to the authorities.
There are many other places you can go to where the women outnumber men by high
numbers, but the suggestions above should keep you busy for a while.
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Chapter 7. How To Seduce A Woman –
The Essential Steps
S
o far you've learned to walk around in their world. You've learned how they think,
how they communicate, how they interact with others, and where they hang out.
You've learned a lot about women that most guys don't know. And we're just
getting started.
Now, it's time to pull women into "your" world! And take them for a ride of their life...
the kind of ride that probably no guy has taken them on yet.
7.1 Pull Them Into "Your" World
A very attractive woman was walking down the street, with at least 6-inch high heels,
making loud clicking noises with her shoes everytime her feet hit the pavement. Here's
how the conversation went…
Me: Hey, I have the exact same shoes, but I can't wear them out because they gave me a
ticket for being in violation of breaking the 'noise' code.
Her: (Starts to laugh.)
Me: (Smiling) You know, for some odd reason, I just knew you had to have a great
sense of humor, despite the fact that you are attractive.
Her: (Smiling now) Oh yeah? And how did you know that? (Said in a challenging tone)
Me: Actually, I thought there was a good chance you'd be like most attractive women
who think they're better than everyone else. But I really wanted to talk about high-heels
today which is why I still decided to talk to you. (said in a playful tongue-in-cheek
manner.)
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Her: (Laughs again) So… you're a funny boy, huh?
Me: Funny "man!" (Said with a sly smile and a quick raise of the eyebrows.)
Her: (Laughs again.)
Me: But the "real" question is… what kind of a "woman" are you?!
Her: (A bit confused now) What do you mean?
Me: Well, you obviously are very attractive. And, you can obviously appreciate good
humor, which is a major point for you, by the way. But, I'm interested in finding out IF
you possess other admirable qualities, aside from the 'sense of humor' thing.
Her: Ahhh (said with a look that seemed to say, "Ahh, interesting…")
Me: Yep, yep. So, I think we should sit down for a few minutes and get to the bottom of
it all, or I'm afraid I would have no choice but to report you for violating that "noise"
code.
Her: Hmm… I don't want to get into any kinda legal trouble, so I guess I don't have
much choice then, do I?
Me: Exactly. I think there's a coffee shop just down the block.
Sounds pretty simple, right? Nothing too out of the ordinary or overly creative there.
Then why did it work so well… so quickly and easily?
That's what you'll find out, and be able to do, after you read this section. You'll find out
that there was a lot of stuff said above without using actual words. And, that's what made
this seemingly "obvious" approach work so well. Because it's not ordinary and
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obvious at all. There are a lot of very powerful psychological motivators at play in the
above conversation which you'll learn about.
7.2 Two Power Strategies
I've touched on this earlier, but it's worth repeating…
If you want to succeed with women, just do two things.
1.
Do the exact opposite of what "most" guys do and you won't believe how
attractive you'll become to the opposite sex.
2.
Turn the tables on women. As far as most men are concerned, women control
the dating game. They make the rules, they call the shots. They have the upper hand.
So, in order to win the game, you simply have to reverse the system by using their own
powerful strategies against them.
Then… add to that the 'master salesman' formula and you can have incredible success.
7.3 Becoming a Master Salesman
Let's start with the basics…
The basic sales formula can be described using the famous acronym, A.I.D.A., which
stands for Attention, Interest, Desire, Action.
So, first of all, you need to get her attention, shift her focus.
Have you ever been so engrossed in a movie, a thought, or maybe even a daydream that
the rest of the world just seemed to fade away into the background?
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Have you also noticed that other people would have to yell, snap their fingers or wave
their hand vigorously in order to get your attention?
That's how you should imagine your customers before you approach them to make a
"sale." And, that's the attitude you should have when you're going in to "sell yourself."
You have to realize that people are usually lost in thought. They generally have a
million thoughts going through their heads at any given moment.
And, when it comes to women, boy oh by, they have 10 times as many thoughts going
on in their heads than men do.
So, to get them to notice you, you would have to do just what someone would do to you if
you were lost in thought. You would have to grab their attention.
You must interrupt their current mental state. You have to shift their focus.
That's the first, and most important, step.
Once you've got their attention, you have to hold it. Think of the effect Disney
has on people, especially children. It captures your imagination. It holds your interest.
You have to do the same to women. You have to "pull them into your world" just as an
exciting movie pulls you in.
Next, give them a glimpse of the future. Show them what their future will be like if
they were to have you in their lives.
You've heard this before...people don't buy products; they buy experiences.
For example, most people who buy self-improvement books rarely put them to use. They
buy them because at that moment, the seller was able to convince them of the benefits;
He was able to show them how much better their lives would be - in the future - by
having that book.
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Turn up her desire for you… and finally, show her how she can have you and be able to
enjoy all the experiences you have to offer her. (I'll discuss these steps in more detail
shortly.)
You can make the AIDA formula even more powerful by adding the elements of Scarcity
(showing her that you're a unique, precious
commodity), Limited Time Offer (showing her
that if she doesn't grab you now, she'll miss out on
the opportunity forever) and a few other powerful
sales motivators.
It will all start to make sense once you start seeing
“
People
don't
buy
products;
they
buy
experiences.”
the big picture, and all the little pieces that make
up that big picture.
7.4 Get Their Attention / Shift Their Focus
So, the first step to seduction is to get their attention. If they aren't aware of your
existence, you're not going to get anywhere with them.
How do you get someone's attention? By being 'different', unique, and maybe
even a little outrageous.
Most guys are never able to get a woman's attention simply because they do the same ol'
things that guys have been doing for decades… the same ol' things that have consistently
not worked on women.
Women can see all of that stuff coming from a mile away. They have been
exposed to this stuff on almost a daily basis, since they were 12 years old. And, believe it
or not, from "their" point of view, the stuff most men try to use to pick them up are not
much different from the stuff boys used to try to pick them up when they were 12! Scary,
huh?
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Men will use the same old pickup lines that they've been using all their life, even when
they know that it absolutely doesn't work. They are stuck. Women have heard just about
every line that you've gotten from your friends or from the movies.
So, your job, if you want to succeed with women, is to get her attention by doing the
exact opposite of what most men do.
Be "unique," different, and maybe even a little
outrageous. If you don't do that, in her mind
“
How do you get
someone's
attention?
By
being 'different',
unique,
and
maybe even a
little outrageous”
you'll just be another boring guy who's trying to
get into her pants by using cheesy and lame lines.
To be unique, just ask yourself one question…
"What would the average guy do when trying to
approach a woman… and how can I be unique
and different in my approach?"
Here are a few ways to be unique:
DON'T comment on her "physical beauty." If you do, you have to follow it up with
some kind of a "challenge." Also, since most guys can't think of anything else to comment
on aside from her good looks, it's even more important for you to do the opposite of what
they do, i.e. do not comment on her looks or physical attributes at all!
Do or Say Something Outrageous or Funny. Most guys will start with something
along the lines of… "Hi, uh… I just wanted to say that you are very beautiful and…uh, I
was wondering if… if maybe you'd like to go out sometime?"
Or, the other extreme is... "Hey baby, you look really great today. How about I get your
number so we can get together later?"
It's old, it's dull, it's boring. It's no wonder women rarely respond to that. That just
doesn't get their attention because they're so used to hearing similar stuff all the time.
And if they do respond to something like that, it will probably be because she's had a
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rough day and needs a brush to her ego. She may lead you on just so she can feel a little
better about herself for the rest of the day. (Yes, there are women out there who enjoy
doing just that.)
One of the best ways to 'really' get her attention is to show her that you're paying
attention to more than just her "physical" attributes, i.e. her body and looks.
In the pickup example, I gave towards the beginning of this section, I noticed the
woman's high heels and the noise they were making, and I used that instead of saying
something about how great she looked.
I then took that piece of information and decided to say something funny about it. You
can do the same. Notice what she's wearing, any interesting jewelry or accessory that
stands out, and so on.
You can also do something a little more outrageous, but not too outrageous or it will
appear a bit creepy.
Example: Go up to her and say "I'm sorry I'm
late, I hope I haven't kept you waiting for too
long."
Something like that will make her stop for a
second, even if that second is made up of
confusion. It will "get her attention."
Once you have that, you can then follow up with
something funny. Or, you can just admit that you
were messing with her just to see what kind of
“
Show
her
that
you're
paying attention
to more than
just
her
"physical"
attributes,
i.e.
her
body
and
looks”
reaction you would get out of her.
7.5 Be Funny, Not Goofy
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Sense of humor is a very attractive quality. In both men and women.
Have a sense of humor and keep the entire conversation/interaction light and easygoing.
However, don't be goofy. I see many guys trying to be funny and they're just trying so
hard that they start looking goofy, and even desperate.
Don't force humor. Just be relaxed and come from a "playful" frame of mind.
If humor doesn't come easy to you, think of some funny stories, openers and/or oneliners ahead of time and make mental notes of them. There's nothing wrong with that.
(Prepare ahead of time, remember?)
A great way to develop a good sense of humor is to start watching comedy, either TV
shows or movies.
If you can get a woman to laugh within the first 10 seconds of meeting her, you'll be
able to melt away most of her fears and walls that she puts up as soon as she feels she's
being hit on.
I know a guy who saw this woman sitting at the bar. So, he walked up to her, sat right
next to her, held up a napkin and said, "Hey, I'd like to draw a life-like portrait of you
right now."
The woman was taken back a bit and all she could say was, "Uh…"
For that second, the guy had her attention!
Guy: Come on, it will only take a minute.
Woman: Well… OK.
The guy then puts a serious look on his face and starts to draw on the napkin, using his
other hand to hide the drawing from her. After a few seconds, he hands the napkin to
her.
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The woman takes one look at the drawing and starts laughing out loudly. The guy had
drawn a stick figure of a woman on the napkin.
Pretty clever way to break the ice, huh? And, the "shared laughter" between them got the
conversation going. He did something unique that most guys probably haven't even
thought of, which got him extra points.
7.6 Create Interest and Intrigue
The easiest way to keep the conversation going is to ask her open-ended
questions. i.e. questions that can't be answered with a simple 'yes' or 'no.'
Example: If you meet someone who's just leaving a restaurant, it's better to ask "Hey,
what's good in there?" which requires a little thought on her part… instead of asking,
"Hey, is this a good restaurant?" to which she can reply "yes" or "no" and the
conversation can easily die there (unless you follow up with an open-ended question.)
In the pickup example I gave earlier, I used a few ways to get the woman's attention.
Let's take a closer look at what I did…
Me: (Smiling) You know, for some odd reason, I just knew you had to have a great sense
of humor, despite the fact that you are attractive.
Her: (Smiling now) Oh yeah? And how did you know that? (Said in a challenging tone?)
I said "I just knew you had to have a great sense of humor" which made her curious
about how or why I knew that. And it worked. Not only did I have her interested and
curious, I even had her asking me questions and "volunteering" to continue the
conversation.
I also said, "…despite the fact that you are attractive."
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That little statement above said a lot of things. The main message was that "I was
unique" because… even though I thought she was attractive, I was interested in more
than just how good she looked. I wanted to see if she had a sense of humor.
Then, I said…
Me: Actually, I thought there was a good chance you'd be like most attractive women
who think they're better than everyone else. But I really wanted to talk about high-heels
today which is why I still decided to talk to you. (said in a playful tongue-in-cheek
manner.)
Even though I said the above in a playful manner, the message was clear: that most
attractive women can be so into their looks that they think they have a
license to treat others like crap.
But there's something even more powerful that I did above. I also "challenged" her to be
different from most other attractive women. Now she would want to "prove" to me that
she wasn't like those other women, that she was more evolved. In other words, I gave her
a reputation to live up to!
Important: When you challenge her as directly as I did, you have to do it in a playful
way. Or… you have to be less direct with the statement you use.
I then further challenged her by saying "But the "real" question is… what kind of a
"woman" are you?" which also created more interest and intrigue… and then I followed it
up with… "I'm interested in finding out IF you possess other admirable qualities, aside
from the sense of humor thing." which was another challenge combined with a
compliment which would require her to "prove" to me that she actually had more good
qualities.
Do you see how this works, and how powerful it can be?
7.7 Let Her "Categorize" You
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Of course, all throughout my statements in the example above, I kept reinforcing the
thought that I was interested in more than just her "looks." I kept reinforcing that I was
"unique," not just with my approach, but also with what I was actually looking for in her
as a "person", i.e. her "qualities" instead of just how attractive she looked.
(Note: Earlier on in this book, I mentioned that you should "show" her who you are, not
"tell" her, remember? That's what you're always going to do. You're not going to "tell" her
directly that, "Hey, I'm unique. You should go out with me." Nope. Instead, I'm using my
'approach' and my 'action' to show her, to imply to her that I'm a different kind of man. I
never say it directly, because she'll just think I'm full of it. "Showing" is a lot more
powerful than "saying.")
What I was implying to her was, "Maybe there's more to you than just your good looks.
And I'd like to find that out before I decide to spend my time getting to know you
better."
It tells her that I'm not like all the other guys out there. More importantly, it
says to her that I'm interested in more than just her looks, or in just getting into her
pants. It says that I'm interested in finding out more about the "person" she is. And that's
a breath of fresh air for good-looking women because they're so often idolized for their
physical beauty.
Do you see how this is completely different from what most guys do?
With this kind of approach, the woman can't help but place me in a different category
than most of the other guys who try to pick her up.
In her mind, I've already started to establish my "uniqueness" - that breath of fresh air
she's longing for.
She sees me and she thinks to herself, "Hmm, this is "new", this is interesting. I like this,
and I want to see where this goes…"
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I've got her interested, and I've created some intrigue, to a point where she wants to find
out more about me, and starts asking me followup questions.
We're off to a great start.
You see, whenever men approach women, the women will place them in a category
almost immediately. Often times, that category will be the "same ol' boring guy"
category.
So, your job is to 'show' her that you belong in the "different and interesting"
category.
7.8 Get Her to Chase You
In the "sales" world, there is a powerful marketing principle called "The Principle of
Scarcity." Basically, what it means is that "an item or opportunity will become more
desirable as it becomes less accessible." In other words, the less there is of something, or
the harder it is to get, the more people will want to have it.
People, especially women, always want what they can't have. And they usually
don't appreciate the things that they can get very easily... they take those things for
granted.
For most women, finding a date is not difficult at
all. All they have to do is get semi-dressed up and
walk out the door. Most guys are so desperate
that they'll be lined up to take her out to dinner,
movie, a trip to Paris, or whatever it takes.
They're all stuck in the "shower her with gifts,
“
People,
especially women,
always want what
they can't have”
presents, and compliments" mindset.
And, because she knows that she has this amazing power over men even when she's
being the biggest bitch in the whole world, there's no real excitement in it for her. Sure,
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it can be fun for her to tease guys and see just how much power she has over them, but
after a while, it just becomes boring.
It's too easy. She doesn't have to do any work. There's no "chase." There's no challenge!
So if you really want a woman to go crazy over you, you have to turn the tables on her!
You have to make her believe that YOU are the prize. That YOU are sizing HER up to see
if she is good enough for YOU. And, that YOU are the rare commodity that she needs to
grab… before it's gone.
Most guys make themselves too available. They are there to please her in every
way possible. You may think this is what she wants, but it's not! At least not during this
stage of the game.
If you want to become highly attractive in her eyes, establish your scarcity. Remember,
nice guys are a dime a dozen. You don't want to be one of those guys.
Let it be known that you are screening her.
In the above pickup example, I made it clear from the very beginning that her "good
looks" was not enough for me! That I was looking for more.
Here's something that may be difficult for you to adopt and do but you must do it, if you
want to gain the upper hand in this game.
Be ready to walk away if she is being too difficult or if she's not smart enough to
appreciate what you have to offer her. Some women are just too dumb to
recognize the opportunity to be with a man who is clearly more evolved and
refined than most men. You don't want to deal with these women anyway. They will
only cause you grief later on, just trust me on this one.
Remember the reason why women are drawn to jerks? It's because they have no problem
walking away from women if she's not playing ball.
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I want you to understand from the very beginning that there are thousands (if not
millions) of women out there. Smart, sexy, beautiful, funny, generous and giving women.
Women who will even drive you wild in bed. So, DON'T settle for the damaged or just
plain stupid women. Some of them are just not worth your time. You really have to
cement this into your brain right now.
It's also the only way you'll be able to ever establis.,h your scarcity, which believe me, is
one of the most attractive qualities in a man, from a woman's point of view. (Remember,
they want most what they can't have!)
Turn it into a challenge for her!
Here's an example of a pickup that didn't initially go in the direction I wanted it to…
Me: Hey, I have those exact same shoes, but I can't wear them out because they gave
me a ticket for being in violation of breaking the 'noise' code.
Her: (Puts this weird expression on her face that screams "How dare you talk to me,
the wonderous, miraculous princess of beauty??" as she keeps on walking.)
(Now this is where most guys would have just given up… or worse… they would have felt
angry/hurt/rejected, they would have called her names or cursed at her and walked
away. And guess what, that's what women are "used to!" They know that they have the
power to easily get such a reaction out of men.)
Me: (Smiling) You know, a part of me was absolutely sure that you wouldn't have a
sense of humor at all, especially since you're a bit better looking than most people.
BUT… I decided to give you the benefit of the doubt anyway… and find out IF maybe
you had anything more to offer than just your "looks."
You have yourself a nice day now! (And I started to walk away.)
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Now… notice what happened above, and especially notice how it is different from what
most guys would do in a similar situation.
After she gave me that weird "how dare you" look, I gently slapped her verbally. It's
something she probably would have never expected. And as great as she looked, it's also
probably something she's not used to (since most guys probably put her on a pedestal
just because she looks "hot.")
Her: (Turns around to face my direction, as I'm walking away.) Uhh… hey, wait…
listen… I'm sorry. I've just had a bad day… and I'm kind of in a rush…
So, what I did above immediately shifted her focus… I had her attention (because it
was something she wasn't expecting.) That's the first step.
And I did all this without being angry or obnoxious. I did it without being a jerk. I
simply stated the facts to her, from my point of view, with a very pleasant look on my
face. (That's part of the fun for them… to get a reaction out of you when they simply
ignore you. Most guys get upset or just feel rejected.)
Me: (Turning around to face her) Are you saying that you're not usually this rude and
arrogant around people?
Again, I'm setting it up to where she has to try and prove to me that she's worth my time,
or that she's a better person than what I think she is at this point in time.
Her: I'm really not.
Me: Alright… well, if you buy me a cup of coffee, maybe I'll forgive your behavior.
Maybe I'll even tell you about this yacht that crashed into my front door last night.
Notice again, how I turned the table on her. She's used to guys buying her coffee or
dinner or whatever. Except in this case, I'm having her do the buying. AND… I also
added something else into the mix… a "bonus" if you will… sharing a weird "yacht
crashing into my front door" story with her. I used this to create further interest and
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intrigue. You can prepare an interesting story or experience of your own to use here,
preferably something 'real' that actually happened, either to you or to someone else.
By the way, my 'yacht' story turned out to be a 'dream' I had recently had. Shhh.. don't
tell anyone.
Her: Well…I... I can't... I have to get to the cleaners before they close.
Me: Ok… no 'weird yacht crashing' story for you, I guess.
Again, I'm just dangling the bonus in front of her… instead of "begging" which is
what most guys would do.
Will it work? I don't know. Only one way to find out, right?
I'm also showing again that it's "not a big deal" for me if she decides to walk. It's not the
end of the world for me. I actually feel this way! I'm not just doing this for show.
Her: Uh.. well.. if you can wait 5 minutes, I just have to run in there and pick a few
things up…?
Me: Hmm…. well, alright. Don't say I never did anything for you. (Smirk)
When things are back on track, I subtly introduce humor into the conversation.
Her: (Smiles) Okay, I'll be out in a bit!
You should understand that the only reason this worked is because I showed her, from
the very beginning, that I was 'unique.' I got her attention the moment I verbally
slapped her to put her in her place.
AND… I also showed her that her being a bitch was unacceptable to me, and that I was
willing to walk away from her if I didn't like what I saw. That's very important.
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Something very important for you to understand is that other people cannot control how
you feel. So, don't give them that power. It doesn't matter what the woman says or
does, you're always in control of your emotions.
If she's being a bitch, you can calmly (but firmly) put her in her place. I can't tell you how
much of a turn on this can be for some women. Finally, a guy who will not put up with
her bullshit. She doesn't find a guy like that often.
As I mentioned earlier, this is also why women are drawn to jerks and/or "bad boys."
These men walk around believing that they have "nothing to lose." If a woman turns
them down, they know that there are hundreds more they can talk to.
THAT's the attitude you should have too. Have fun with the process. You should view
'approaching women' as an adventure where you're going to find out just what kind of
woman you're dealing with and how you can find out if she's good enough for you.
WARNING: While this approach works very well with women, don't get arrogant or
egotistical with it. Women still want a guy who can respect her as a woman, someone
with a good heart. They really are looking for a nice guy. But, not so nice that she can
step all over him without him doing anything about it. She wants a nice guy with a
backbone. Someone who is a gentleman, BUT will not take crap from her.
As I explained earlier, often times, women do this
purposely to test you. If you let them walk all over
you, if you don't put them in their place when they
are wrong, they won't think much of you. And you
may not get anywhere with her.
I realize that I’m repeating some things here. It's for
good reason. They are extremely important concepts
for you to understand and adopt.
“
Women
are
drawn to jerks or
"bad boys" - men
who walk around
believing that they
have "nothing to
lose."
Onwards…
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After you've set up the first meeting/date, it's time to move to the next important phase.
7.9 Start Building a Relationship/Bond Immediately
Here's something interesting about how men and women differ: Men have sex with
women first and then they fall in love. Women fall in love with men first, and then they
have sex with them.
Men are ready to sleep with a woman on the first date, if they find her attractive. Women
operate a little differently. Of course, this is not always the case. But, most times it is.
What does that tell you? It tells me that in order for 'most' women to feel comfortable
about having sex with you, they first need to feel an emotional connection with you.
Women are emotional creatures. This is why they devour romance novels and can't resist
romantic movies. It's also why those little romantic gestures mean more to them than
presents you spend money on. (Gold diggers excluded.)
In most cases, it takes women at least 3 or 4 dates before they can begin to feel
comfortable and 'ready' to want to sleep with you. Sometimes longer.
But, here's what's interesting… it doesn't have to take that long for them to get to that
place in their mind. You can speed up the process, if you know how.
7.10 Create Instant Rapport
What's the easiest way to bond with a stranger?
Think about this...
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How are most friendships formed? It starts when you find out that the other person has
something in common with you. That the two of you are alike in some way, when you
share a common interest.
That relationship becomes even stronger when you begin to realize that the other person
understands you, that's he's going through the same challenges that you are.
Nothing creates a bond faster between two people than sharing something
in common, especially a common pain or frustration.
Before you can get a person to do what you want them to do, you have to first meet them
where they are "mentally", and see things from their point of view. Only from there can
you lead them towards the destination you have chosen.
This is a powerful strategy that master marketers and motivators use to lead
people.
The easiest way to begin to create that bond is to 'ask' her (open-ended) questions about
'herself.' The most favorite subject for most
people are "themselves."
“
Nothing creates a
bond faster between
two
people
than
sharing something in
common, especially
a common pain or
frustration”
Show her that you're genuinely interested in
getting to know her better. And don't fake it.
Actually be interested. (Be different from most
other guys, remember? You have to keep that
theme going the entire time. You have to
establish your uniqueness from the beginning
and then continue to build on that.)
Remember what I said earlier… you're not just
"pretending" to be a better man. You're actually "becoming" a better man.
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Don't ask her what her favorite color is, or what her "sign" is. Those are lame questions
that "most guys" ask. Remember, you're not "most guys". You're that "unique" guy that
has got her attention.
Start off by asking general questions: work, interests, hobbies, etc.
Then, go a little further by asking about family, friends, her future goals, dreams,
passions.
Remember… women are "emotional creatures." Don't be afraid to get a little
vulnerable yourself. Leave that "macho" façade at home. You don't need it here.
You can be strong and manly, and still be sensitive and emotional. Find a nice balance
between the two.
And, when she talks (i.e. answers your questions) listen to what she's saying. Her
answers will give you lots of interesting ideas for further stimulating conversation.
Here's an example of something that happened to me at a bookstore…
I went up to the cashier to check out my books. While she was ringing them up, I noticed
a very unique ring on her finger. It definitely looked like it had been around for many,
many years.
I really hadn't planned on striking up a conversation with her. But the ring just happened
to catch my attention.
So, I asked her about it.
Me: Hey, cool ring, where'd you get it from?
Notice that I asked an open-ended question. Something she couldn't just answer a 'yes'
or 'no' to. She would have to go into a little more detail to answer it.
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That one question turned into a 20-minute conversation where she told me that the ring
once belonged to her great grandmother and was passed on down to her. It was an
amazing conversation, and I could tell that she was very passionate about the ring as well
as the history behind it.
At the end of the conversation, she was almost sad to see me go since we were having
such a great time.
Do you think she would look forward to seeing me
“
Women want to
feel appreciated for
who they are, not
just for how they
look physically”
again? You bet! All because I paid attention to
"her" as a "person" - instead of just staring at her
chest and wondering what I could say to "impress"
her.
The best compliment you can give to a
woman is to show her that you want to get
to know who she is "inside" that attractive body, something most men can't
look past.
And, in order to do that, you have to get out of your own head. You have to put your
"lust" aside and become interested in the "person" that she is.
That's what's sexy! That's what women respond to. They want to feel appreciated for who
they are, not just for how they look physically. At least during the initial meetings, when
you're just getting to know each other.
7.11 Stay Away From The "Friend" Category
While the above strategy will get her to feel a strong bond and connection with you
almost instantly, you need to do something else next, or else it could all easily go to hell.
Here's why…
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You don't want her to place you in the "friend" category. Past experience has
shown us that if she sees you only as a friend, she will usually decide not to go the
relationship/sex route with you. If you have lots of women as "friends," you know exactly
what I'm talking about.
You want to stay away from that category! So… now that she has started to feel a
connection with you, and she's feeling comfortable and open being around you, you now
need to…
7.12 Introduce the "Attraction" Factor
What I'm about to share with you here is some extremely powerful strategies that very
few people know about. It's a secret about how the human mind works. Please use it
responsibly or else you will definitely pay the price.
Here's the first secret…
If you can get a person to feel a certain "emotion" while they're with you,
their mind will attach that emotion to you.
In other words, if you both see something funny and start laughing together, on some
level in your minds, you'll associate "being with each other" to "fun," "enjoyment" and
"laughter."
It's a fact. That's just how the human mind works. And you can use this powerful
knowledge to get her to attach any kind of emotion to you. Let's say "attraction" for
example.
Here's another powerful secret you should know about how the human mind works…
If you want a person to feel a certain emotion, all you have to do is "remind"
them of a time in the past when she felt that same emotion.
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Example: If you want her to feel the feelings of "attraction" (so that you can attach those
feelings to you,) just get her to think of a time in the past when she felt the sense of
attraction with someone.
The easiest way to do this is to ask her a question like this…
You: So, tell me something… can you remember a time in your past when you felt
incredibly attracted to someone?
Her: (Laughs) Well, sure.
Next, you want her to experience those feelings again, as vividly as possible.
You: What was that like? Did you feel any weird sensations in your body? Did your
heart start beating faster?
Her: Oh yeah! I just felt excited, and happy, and nervous all at the same time! And this
heavy feeling in my chest. And butterflies in my stomach.
You: I bet you can remember exactly how it all felt, and actually begin to feel all of it
again, just by thinking about that time, huh?
Her: Yeah, actually I can. Wow.
You: I bet you had to go home afterwards and take care of it huh? (Sly smile) Or at
least take a cold shower.
Her: (Laughs) Uh….. maybe... (Laughs again.)
Ok… before I go any further, I would like to address a question that I often get when I
discuss the above strategy…
Is This Fair?
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A few people, after learning some of the above strategies, said to me: "This doesn't seem
fair. It gives men the upper hand, and does not give women any choice in the matter."
You know what? They're right.
But, let me give you an example of the everyday situation that most guys have to deal
with when it comes to "dating"…
You meet a woman who you're really attracted to. And by some strange luck, you're able
to convince her to go out on a date with you.
Naturally, she expects you to be the perfect gentleman who won't make a move until
"she" is ready. So you play along, wondering if and when she'll be ready for the next
stage.
Of course, she is allowed to do whatever she wants. She can flirt as much as she wants
and lead you on as much as she wants. Oh, but you can't do so until she tells you that it's
okay, or she'll scream bloody murder! Is that fair?
She'll take up your time, and spend your money. She'll "let" you see her on future dates
whenever it's convenient for "her." Basically, she'll call all the shots while you continue to
be the obedient little dog that she wants you to be.
A few dates later, you find out that she's either not interested anymore, or she just met
some guy two days ago who's already having sex with her, or worse… she had a boyfriend
all along who just wasn't paying attention to her, so she just needed that "brush to her
ego" and decided that you were the "chum" to make her feel better about herself again. Is
that fair?
Of course, you don't find this out until weeks (or even months) later. You've been a total
gentleman, you've wined her and dined her, you've bought her roses and chocolates, and
presents. And, now you've got nothing to show for it except a broken heart and that oh so
familiar feeling of "rejection."
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Now, let me ask you this… "Is that fair?" You know that it isn't.
Clearly, I'm not saying that all women are like that.
But, here's the truth, whether women agree with me or not… most of the
women out there play the "dating game" as I've described above, whether
they are "consciously" aware of it or not.
Women know that they have power over men when it comes to dating and sex. They
know it and they take full advantage of it.
Dating is also a way for many women to get free dinners and presents out of men. That's
just the way things are for the majority of society.
So… is it "fair" to level the playing field a little
by using some of the strategies I've given you
above? Is it fair to keep taking the abuse that
women throw your way during "most" dating
situations?
Is it fair that only the good looking, the rich, or
the powerful get their pick of the best women
while you have to settle for the bottom of the
“
Women are out
there
play
the
"dating
game",
whether they are
"consciously" aware
of it or not”
barrel?
Remember, it's very easy for women to get dates, and even get sex whenever they want.
For men, it's not that easy. Society has 'rigged' the game against you.
So, if you think the game is fair right now, I'm sorry to tell you that you're sadly
mistaken.
Now… if you happen to find a woman who doesn't believe in playing games, who is
honest, and likes you for who you are, then my friend, you've hit jackpot. In that
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instance, you won't need some of the stuff I've outlined above. All you'll need to do is talk
like to grown adults.
Unfortunately, that's not a common experience for most men when dealing with "most"
women.
Don't get me wrong. Women can be wonderful, loving, caring beings that can make you
happy beyond belief. I honestly believe that.
But… there are also a LOT of women out there with low self-esteem, social
and sexual hangups, depression or some other condition, and of course
there are those that are just downright bitches when it comes to dating. They
have this "need" to control men and make them dance around just so they can feel better
about themselves. It's the only way they can exercise their power.
So, the bottom line is, if you find a great woman who isn't out to play mind games, you
can have a wonderful time with her.
Although, if you happen to be living in the "real world", you'll probably run across some
women, who may not be bad people, but are just "programmed" to respond to men in a
not-so-nice way. Many of them don't do this on purpose - it's just what they've been
"programmed" to do.
When you come across a situation like that, the strategies I've provided in this report
may be your only defense. And your only chance at passing those silly tests of
hers and getting to meet the "real woman" behind all those mind games.
My advice to you would be to learn the above strategies, and use them as you see fit,
whenever you feel there's a need for it.
Don't use it just so you can start playing games with them. That's not what these tools
are designed for.
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If you're a nice guy and you 'know' that you'd be much better for a woman that some jerk
out there who tricks her into a relationship, if you know for a fact that you're going to
treat her better than most other men out there, I don't believe there's anything wrong
with using some of the above strategies to level the playing field.
Women are in fact looking for that special guy who can sweep them off their feet, make
her feel feelings and sensations that she doesn't normally feel with most men. In some
ways, you're doing her a favor by introducing these tools to her.
In the end, the choice is entirely yours. If you're okay with using them, go for it. If you'd
rather not, I have still given you enough information in other sections of this book that
will get you as many dates as you want.
Onwards…
7.13 Monitor Her 'Comfort Level'
Okay, this is a very important point to always keep in mind…
Now that you've introduced a moderately heavy and personal subject into the
conversation (attraction) and you've also started to touch on some sexual stuff, you
have to pay attention to how comfortable (or "uncomfortable") she is about these
subjects, while you're having the conversation, and while she's around you.
If she's totally comfortable and into it, you can continue on down that path and see how
far you can go with it.
But, IF she starts to get uncomfortable or doesn't want to discuss those subjects too
much, it's time for you to take a step back. It means she's not quite ready yet for those
subjects. And, you never want to force anything on her, remember? That's not how a
master salesman does it.
Be ready for this ahead of time (and thanks to this book, you can be).
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Change the subject to something else. Ask her about her work, or her family, or
something a bit more casual and light.
Then, when you've got her feeling comfortable again, and maybe got her laughing some
more, you can gently revert back to the sexual talk. Start off slowly and then gently turn
the heat up.
Example…
You: Hey, have you ever experienced that "perfect kiss?" You know the one where you
just get totally lost in the moment, and you forget about the rest of the world. It's
almost like… time just stands still… Have you ever had that?
If she says "yes," then get her to feel it again by using descriptive languaging, and have
her describe how she felt and what sensations she experienced in her body.
If she says "no," ask her… "Well, what's your idea of a perfect kiss? How would you
want it to be? How would it start for you?"
And then let her go off with it.
If she's not able to describe it, you can always help her with the description.
Again, preparation is key. Think of how you'd want your perfect kiss to be. Or ask one of
your female friends to help you out with it.
NOTE: Do you notice the "language" I'm using when I talk about these 'emotional'
experiences? I'm talking the way most women think and experience life. They're very
sensuous and romantic beings. They love "details" and elaborate descriptions, especially
when it comes to the subject of romance and sex. It's also why they're a lot more
interested in long, extended foreplay than most men are.
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If you really want to get good at having women feel strong emotions while they're with
you, pick up a romance novel the next time you're in the bookstore or library. Flip
through the pages and read how the story is told, and how the authors describe events
and experiences in it. Don't just read the story, pay attention to the "language" - pay
attention to how they talk.
Remember, if you want to be able to sell to your target market, you've gotta know how
to 'speak their language.'
Onwards…
You: Mine would have to start out reeeeally slow. So that our lips are just barely
touching. And when they do make contact, you can almost feel this tingling sensation,
this shiver up your spine. You can feel the soft lips touching yours. Warm, slightly wet…
so sensual… so romantic… it just turns you on so much. You know?
Her: (Breathing heavily now) Um hmmm
Remember, as you're describing that perfect kiss in detail (in "present" tense) she is
going to start imagining it all in her mind, and she's really going to start getting very
turned on.
Keep monitoring her comfort level at all times. (In fact, it's a very good idea to do
this from the very beginning of the game, right from the moment you first meet and talk
to her.)
If she seems to be enjoying the feeling, you can slowly lean over and…
7.14 Go For the Kiss
When I tell most guys to kiss the woman at this point, they get scared and surprised.
"Well, Derek, what if she doesn't want to be kissed," they ask me.
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My response is… How will you find that out unless you go for the kiss?
And, for Pete's sake, don't ask for permission before you kiss her. That's what a
"nice guy" would do. You're not a nice guy.
Just watch her and see what signals she gives you. Then, go in for the kiss.
Note: You're not "forcing" yourself on her. You're paying attention to how she feels and
reacts. If she's not comfortable with it yet, she'll stop you. That's ok. No big deal. Don't
take it as rejection. She's just not ready for it yet.
Talk more about feelings and emotions, and past experiences. Yours, hers,
other peoples. The more she talks about it and feels all the emotions again, the more she
will associate those feelings with you and the more ready she will become.
Sometimes, the first meeting is all it will take. Other times, it may take 2, 3, or maybe
even 4 meetings before you get really hot and heavy.
Keep your head in the game. Don't lose patience, and whatever you do, do NOT become
desperate or angry. That is a turn off, and it's also what will scare her off.
Remember, you want her to chase you! So, don't appear too available. Give her reasons
that will want her to chase you! Set up the challenges as you did initially, and let it be
known that you are a "rare commodity." Guys like you are scarce, and she doesn’t meet
one everyday.
So, if she's smart, she will do what it takes to keep you. Again, you're turning the tables
on her. Usually, it's the men who will do whatever it takes to hold on to the woman, even
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Chapter 8. Leave Them Wanting More
What happens when you get just a small taste of your favorite food or dessert? You want
more, don't you? And what happens when you get a bucket full of it? After you've eaten
as much as you can, you don't wanna even look at it again.
Think along those same lines when sharing your personality, and yourself, with women.
Don't immediately lay it all out on the table. Tease them a little. Leave some mystery
and intrigue. Women love to use their imagination. So, let them.
And, whenever you part ways, especially during the first few meetings, leave her with
anticipation.
Example: Before I leave, I will usually say something like this… "Remind me to tell you
about ____________ the next time I see you." (Fill in the blank with something that
will peak her curiosity. Women are curious creatures.)
Let them wonder about you until the next time they see you. You'll definitely be on their
mind. Anticipation can be a wonderful aphrodisiac. And, it can be a big part of your
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Chapter 9. Constantly Test & Improve
What's the best way to get better at something? Practice, practice, practice.
It doesn't matter how much you learn from this book or from other resources. In the end,
the only way to get better is to actually apply what you learn and put it into practice out
in the "real world" where it matters. Where real women are. That's the only way to
master this material.
So, get out there, and start talking to women. Don't worry if you make mistakes. That's
how you will learn and become better.
And, don't forget your mistakes either. Remember the "lessons" within them. Learn
from them. Become better. Test everything out on women and keep improving on
them. We all have our own styles and personalities. By practicing and testing, you'll find
what works best for you.
I've given you enough information here to beat most guys to the finish line. You now
have the "unfair advantage" over most guys, and most women too!
Use it wisely. Use it responsibly.
Remember to have fun with this. And enjoy the results you get!
Sincerely,
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