How To Make A Woman WANT You By Unlocking The Secrets To Her Mind By Matt Flynn ~~~ Smashwords Edition Copyright © 2013 Matt Flynn All Rights Reserved. Smashwords Edition, License Notes This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to Smashwords.com and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author. Are You Hopeless With Women? Can’t get a date? Can’t ask women out? Not confident around them? Some guys have it, some guys don’t. That is just the way the world is. However, if you are the type of guy that just can’t get a girl to go out with you, date you or even talk to you, now there is no reason that you can’t change that. Women are emotional creatures. Regardless of what you look like or what you do, confidence, the things you say and do can make any woman weak at her knees, if you do it right. www.seductionsorcery.com/men Download 3 FREE Amazing ‘Dating Secrets’ Reports and Start Attracting Beautiful Women Now! Click Here for FREE Instant Access Disclaimer No part of this report may be reproduced or transmitted in any form whatsoever, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any informational storage or retrieval system without express writer, dated and signed permission from the author. DISCLAIMER AND/OR LEGAL NOTICES: The information presented herein represents the view of the authors as of the date of publication. Because of the rate with which conditions change, the authors reserve the right to alter and update their opinion based on the new conditions. The report is for informational purposes only. While every attempt has been made to verify the information provided in this report, neither the authors nor their affiliates/partners assume any responsibility for errors, inaccuracies or omissions. Table of Contents Chapter 1: Navigating Your Way Inside of a Woman's Mind Chapter 2: Top Five Places to Take Any Woman on a Date Chapter 3: Instant Amazing Icebreakers Chapter 4: How to Challenge Her without Losing Her Chapter 5: Demolish Your Fear of Rejection Chapter 6: Simple Strategies for Getting Her Number Bonus Chapter: 5 Things Single Men Do That Women Hate Where To From Here? FREE Bonus Offer – www.seductionsorcery.com/men Dear Reader, First of all I want to offer you my sincerest congratulations for taking the first step in a series of positive steps that you will need to take in order to take control of your dating life. The things which you will learn here about women and about dating are things that I guarantee you most men in the entire world will NEVER learn about their female counterparts. You are given knowledge and information about the biggest secrets women have. This includes information on how women think. It includes information on what attracts women. It also includes information on how you can show the woman around you that you are a great catch and they should stand up and take notice. The book contains information on how to approach a woman as well as how to talk to her (or not talk to her) and then how to keep her hooked as you start to date her. There are dating tips in here that most men would literally kill to have. At this point you might be curious as to how all of these secrets—and there seem to be a lot of them —can be contained here in this short and simple ebook. And if this is true then why is it that all men do not have access to them? Why are these secrets not well known if they can fit here? Well the answer is that most men do not have the secrets because they assume that the things they have done over and over in life and made a routine are the way things should be done. This is not just true of the dating world but also true of money management as well as the way people take care of their relationships and themselves. If you were taught that left is right and right is left you might live your entire life that way without questioning it because—after all—it was the way you were taught. I am sure that you are aware at this point that people will not go out of their way to find information about any subject if they already think that they have enough information to get the results they want. But then what happens when your methods stop producing the results that you so desire? What happens when you realize that as you get older your methods are not working for you in the same manner? Well at this point you have one of two choices. First you can choose to continue in your habits and keep doing whatever you are doing even if you know it isn’t working well for you and just expect different results. Or second you can look for new data or new information that can help you change your existing habits and make better choices in the future. Of course the first of these options is quite bad but the second shows a good sign of your character. And picking up this book is one of those good signs! Bear in mind that most men continue with the first (and bad) option. They might even do this for the rest of their lives even if it does not give them the results they want. There might be men who have picked up this book and are already reading it while the thought “What idiot needs a book to tell them how to date?” The irony to this thought is that it is the exact reason why almost ALL men FAIL to learn the most effective and simple strategies for dating which you will uncover in this book. But this bodes well for you because it means that you will have the skills to snatch up women right from under the Neanderthal men who laugh at reading such material (there is more on this topic later in the book) You could have picked up this book because you decided that it is high time you set aside your ego and just accept the simple fact that you may not know as much as you would like on dating and that you can always stand to learn more about relating to the fairer sex. Or maybe you just had a bad break up or suffered through a divorce and now you want to learn more about the dating game. Or perhaps you just want to find a higher caliber of women with whom to associate and you realized that there may be better methods of doing this than the ones you are currently using. Whatever reason you have for finding out more about how the dating game is play you will learn a lot from this book. You will learn to expound upon the lessons that life has already taught you as soon as you open up this book. Soon you will see a variety of dating options unfold at your fingertips. Before you read any further, check out this killer free video that shows you the biggest mistakes you are making when it comes to attracting women: Important Video: The Biggest Attraction Mistakes You’re Making http://www.seductionsorcery.com/go/taoofbadass Chapter 1: Navigating Your Way Inside of a Woman's Mind Do you ever feel that if you could open up a woman’s mind you could power yourself with the knowledge of knowing just what she is thinking? It may be possible, but, mind reading isn’t what this book’s about. You are going to learn about women, and what drives women. Once you have the power to understand what they are, you will have the power to connect with nearly every woman. For most men, the physical and mental attraction to women can be overwhelming. There’s one thing that seems to separate men and women, and that is that they are different. In fact, they can seem like foreigners at times. Understanding them doesn’t take years of researching the subject matter, it basically requires that you acquaint yourself with, and recognize the two basic ways that women think differently than men. #1 How Women Get Their Way Many women are charismatic. However, there’s a great difference between them and us. The difference is the way they influence others. Women are not physically stronger than men. Men realize this, and some men (as well as, women) assume that women are easily intimidated. The situation then boils down to a different method used for women to get their way- to control a situation. The most commonly used method for women to get their way is through manipulating other people’s emotions. Better put- drama! One example is when we hear we’ve “made her mad”- after she hasn’t gotten her way! Now, as a man, she’s played on your emotions, and drama is in the scene. As men, our soft spots are hit, and we step up to plate, feeling as though we take responsibility for the emotional state of the woman. We do our best (or not) to avoid “making” a woman feel insecure, pouty, angry, jealous, upset, sad, stupid and other dramatic emotional states. When you consider it, it is almost amusing. When a woman uses drama, she can nearly win any situation between her and a man. It’s a method that works; and, a good one! Being the weaker sex, women have resorted to this method for thousands of years. Unconventional ways have long been a means for women to accomplish something as they have not only been the physically weaker sex, but, also deprived of positions of authority. Before I go much further, there is something I’d like to point out. Manipulation is a tactic that when it comes down to it, isn’t harmful to use- not even with drama. Each of us uses manipulation to get what we want. Some individuals term it as influence or inspiration. Manipulation isn’t “force”. Manipulation can be considered a type of persuasion. Intimidation is more often the method men use to get what they want, and a more forceful method than drama. Therefore, men really don’t have to lose respect for women when they use drama to get what they want. What they can do, and what I am going to teach you, is how you can gain from this new knowledge to enhance your options to get optimal results in your interactions with women. There is no woman on earth that is “drama free”. Women love drama because it is a method that gets them what they are after. As men, we not only have the need to understand this, we need to learn how to deal with women’s drama and how not to allow them to overpower us when using it. The best thing about this is that it is what most women crave. #2 How Women Process Attraction If you are questioning the last statement, then it is time to look a little deeper into a woman and understand how attraction is processed by women. The first thing, which most men are completely ignorant of, is what women really want in a man. Let’s start here. If you are dating and have been asking advice, stop! You’ll drive yourself off the deep end. You likely have already caught onto this. This is the bottom line: Do you feel like you go in all directions because you feel as though women have no idea of what they really want from a relationship with a man? You hear they want a “nice” man that is polite and sensitive and respects the woman like his mother. A man that knows how to care and one that is responsible, and puts the woman first. A man that floods her with compliments and one that listens and is a good friend. But then… They choose the wrong men- they are suddenly in love with men that are selfish, unrefined, childish, and cocky, and you sit back and think: “What the hell does she see in him?” You’ve played your cards right, you’ve been kind and considerate; you’ve treated her like a lady. You are a man who has shown her respect, and how well a woman can be treated. And, where has that gotten you? You are now “one of the girls” or a “great friend”, or even worse, she has dismissed you from her life. So, what’s with this? You were the man of every woman’s dreams. You used every tactic that could make the woman feel as though she’d found everything she was looking for, and you are in the friend zone, and have the bitter reality of seeing her fall for that simply disgraceful guy. The reason this happened is because what a woman says she wants, isn’t necessarily what she wants. The sooner you realize that what women say and what they actually want are two separate things, the better position you are in. This should not come as a surprise; most of us want say that we want things that are contrary to what our behaviors reflect. Diet is a perfect example. Everyone wants to be healthy. But, not everyone eats healthy. Most people want to be rich, but not all people conserve their money. Our deeper subconscious motives drive us, and women are no different. I am not saying this to be critical. Most of us are unaware of our true motives behind our behaviors, and most of us feel that we are true to our words when we say what we want. If you are serious about wanting to know what attracts the woman, then don’t listen to what she says. Take a closer look at her behaviors. The sad reality is, that “jerk” has something that women like- something that attracts them. They help pump the woman’s adrenaline, and make them feel safe. In romantic relationships, excitement and security are primary emotional needs. Men that can meet this need for women have a power that others don’t. They ignite the woman’s subconscious attraction which influences her heart to take control of her mind. Sound like a tough concept to grasp? Think of men you know that have lost their marbles over the physical attraction they have to a woman. Consider individuals that are overweight with high blood pressure and eat fast foods every day. Think of impulsive spenders that want to be rich, but, they just can’t stop spending. Each is a prime example of how our emotional drives override our reasoning minds into submission. Now do you have a better understanding as to why “jerks” aka “bad boys” trigger that animal instinct- the subconscious attraction that draws them to exactly what they say they aren’t looking for? The first thing to understand as a “nice” man, is that women do not have an effect on these “bad boys” when they use drama. Women find this exciting, as this makes them unpredictable. Consider this. Does the woman get any excitement out of being able to predict how a man will respond to her when she manipulates him because he is afraid of “making” her feel angry, jealous, upset, sad, stupid, insecure, and pouty or some other dramatic emotional state? You got it… this can get pretty boring. The harsh reality of the situation is that the better looking a woman is, the more she is used to having men “fall” for this method, and having control over them. This is a situation she is fine with, as it gets her what she wants. But, these aren’t the men she dates. She tends to be drawn to the men that aren’t intimidated by drama and know how to take charge. This is where the need for safety and security exists. Consider this. Does a woman really feel secure when she has a man that she can manipulate into submission? Does this mean that the man is weak, submissive, and insecure, or confident and powerful? Most women want a man that is kind and knows how to respect a woman and treat her with love. A man that is responsible and sensitive and who treats her like she is the most important thing on earth, and to be a good friend. The reality is that men have a tendency to be one or the other. The nice guy or the unrefined bad boy. There are few of us that are both. Unfortunately for the nice guy, the bad boy meets the woman need for excitement and safety, and the bad boy wins. After all, the nice guy is predictable. Did you pick up on the key element in the last two paragraphs? There is a way to be every woman’s dream of a man, and it boils down to balance. Work on developing the bad boy’s immunity to drama, and balance that with the manners, chivalry, and sensitivity of the nice guy, and you have become every woman’s dream. Chapter 2: Top Five Places to Take Any Woman on a Date Now that you have a basic understanding, let’ get a bit into the dating scene. We’ll start with where to take a woman on a date. I am going to discuss five wonderful ideas, and about the significance of what you’ve learned in the last chapter to relate it to dating activities and locations: When you have the best understanding of how a woman thinks, how she estimates a man’s value, and how attraction is processed, the less important dating activities and locations become. Do not misread this. This isn’t saying that even if you are a man of high value you can take a woman on a cheesy date. It is saying that you will be more important than the location or activity of the date. We all know people that seem to have a good time no matter where they go. This is what you want with a woman. Men that don’t feel confident in their ability to create attraction with a woman have the tendency to feel that they need to plan an extravagant date. Women are not dumb to this, and this I not what necessarily attracts the woman. Sure, she likes nice things, but, she is also aware of men that lack the confidence to create attraction. The man goes out of his using exterior things to create attraction, when what she really wants is to connect to the man to fulfill her needs for security and excitement. Relax; I have some great date suggestions that might not sound like the “hot” date you had you had in mind. Realize that for a great date, you need to set the stage to let her see you are a man of high value, and to make a connection with her. Date #1: Group Dancing Lessons When I say group dance lessons I am not referring to a noisy club where you are screaming to hear one another. Take her to a dance studio that offers group dance lessons for partners such as ballroom dancing. What’s the purpose of this date? Dancing is physical, it is touching, it is expressing, and it is the ideal way to bring you into contact with one another without having the intimidation of “should I”. Dancing is an ideal way to build attraction and to get comfortable with each other. It will also give you something to connect with one another, to further your conversation with one another, and to laugh about before, during, and after the date. Dancing also offers other benefits that might not have popped into your head. She will likely not be your only the only woman you dance with, and this is a plus for you. When she sees that you are confident seeing her with other men it will show your confidence. It will show that you aren’t the jealous type, and that you are secure- all a sign of high value. It is not uncommon for women to test men to determine if they are the jealous type. When you take her to a group dancing lesson, you’ve already overcome this, and she is able to see that you aren’t the jealous type from the get go. You’ll also be able to determine how confident she is with seeing you with other women. Another benefit is that this may be only the first dance lesson, and it may be an activity that you continue, which is a good activity in a relationship. Dancing has a way of igniting the spark between couples and strengthens the bond between couples. Date #2: Piano Bar Piano bars can be the ideal date offering the best of both worlds- you have plenty of space for good conversation, and plenty of relaxation to not be concerned with keeping the conversation going. The mood is also a romantic mood, with a minimal noise level. Get a little closer to your date by making the date a little more exciting by putting in requests for the pianist. Spark your date to also make some requests. This allows you to pick up on the other’s taste for music and to have something more to talk about. Music is a great way to discover a person. Now, you can discover why they like the music as well. This is an opening to a conversation that can lead you to find out a great deal about a woman. She’ll likely tell you something about herself, as well. Music also has the power to help us with expressing ourselves, and sharing with people we aren’t close to. Date #3: Wine Tasting Wine tasting is a great date and one that you can be a man of sophistication, or one that does show ignorance- the same goes for the woman. Both can be a turn on to the woman, as long as you come across in the right way. This boils down to your personality, and the type of woman that you want to attract. Knowing about wines can give you the image of sophistication, culture, and class, and a wine tasting venue is a relaxed atmosphere that offers an environment to enjoy wines together and have plenty of space to enjoy conversation. The key is to ensure that you do not come across as a snob, and do not go overboard in impressing her with your intellect. Instead use this as a chance to charm her with your personality. If you are one that is ignorant to wine and she is, as well, it might be the perfect venue to enjoy some good tastes and some great conversation. Date #4: Mini Golf If your date has a competitive side, this is the ideal date. Miniature golf is play, there is no real skill that is necessary, and it can be the ideal date to build sexual tension. Men and women have an interesting connection between competitiveness and sexuality, and mini golf can be a fun and intriguing way to bring out your date’s competitive side. There is always the possibility that this is the first time she’s played miniature golf and that she is open to you teaching her how to use the club, which is the prime opportunity for physical contact. Miniature golf can be a date that offers just the right combination and gives you something to talk about before, during and after the date. You will also discover your date’s playful side. Date #5: Amusement Parks Amusement parks or fairs offer a date that is fun, and one that can be memorable for years. You have the enjoyment of sharing rides, winning her a stuffed animal, eating carnival foods, and plenty of time to share conversation. You will also discover her playful and fun side and get a better view of her personality. Chapter 3: Instant Amazing Icebreakers You have the dates, but, you still need some icebreakers to start the date off right. A first date is awkward, conversations can be a struggle, and you can be uncomfortable. There are times that this is a sign that you and your date don’t have a connection, but, there are others that a good icebreaker can mean the difference in your connection. 1. Ask her about where she grew up “Where are you from?” may seem like a run of the mill question, but, it can be a question that leads into a conversation that allows you to discover a lot about her growing up, a lot about her family and her background. “Where are you from?” is an icebreaker that can start fairly easily and lead into further conversation. Ask if that is where she grew up, how she liked living there as a child, what were things she did, and so on. You are able to have her open up and share a bit about her. You don’t have the unpleasantness of where the conversation should go or what you should say next. If she grew up in a different town from where you meet you also have the topic of what brought her to the town you are in now. 2. Ask her about what she was like in High School This is an icebreaker that can be a humorous conversation. In high school, most individuals were a complete different individual than the mature adult they are in their grown up years. When you ask her about what she was like in high school, you may find some interesting tidbits about her. You can simply ask her what group she was in, and go from there. You might find out she was the prom queen, or the nerd, or the athletic star. 3. Ask her about where she has traveled to (other countries etc.) Asking her about her travels is another great icebreaker and one that can be done in much way. You can ask her what countries she’s visited, or how far she’s traveled from ____. The nice thing about conversations that involve travel is that they are generally a topic that people like to share, and a place that is interesting and exciting. You are able to ask about the culture, the atmosphere, and so on. Travel is a great topic to share in a conversation that is interesting and exciting, as most people don’t travel to places that aren’t important to them. 4. Ask her about places she wants to travel to (other countries etc.) If you started with the “where have you traveled” icebreaker than asking her about places she’d like to travel to is a great follow up question. This will also give you an insight into her interests. You can ask her why she’d like to travel there. What attracts her to the place… or why she would find the place an interesting place to live? This can also give you some insight as to the lifestyle she may want for the future- a relaxing atmosphere, or a fast paced city. 5. Ask her about her hobbies, dreams or interests These are also questions that seem run of the mill, but they offer you the opportunity to show here that you are interested in knowing her, and they should be topics that she is comfortable with. Be sure that you do show interest when you ask. Don’t just ask the question and then move onto the next question. Expand on the topic a bit, to show that it is interesting to you, as well. You can ask her what makes her interested in the hobby, and maybe connect to why it is enjoyable. Ask her how long it has been a hobby of hers. Or ask her when she realized that ____ was a life dream. It is important to show interest so that you don’t come across like a man screening a possible candidate for a future partner! The nice thing about this is that you will discover a lot about her and get a feel for whether or not the relationship does have the potential to grow. When you use icebreakers, understand that to get the best results you must be a good listener. In turn, your date is more likely to want to listen to you. Chapter 4: How to Challenge Her without Losing Her Let’s take a look at how we can best demonstrate this value when on a date. When we learn to challenge her and to show that we are not the “needy” type personality; that we are men with emotional fortitude who can provide her with the safety she needs, we are a man she will want. Many men think that this approach can cost them the relationship. It is the opposite; it will make her head over heels for you. She will begin to see that you are a man of value. If we were to go deep into how a woman determines the value of a man, it would take us the entire book. Instead, we are going to focus on how women “test” men to determine their value. One question you might have is why women tend to fall for these bad boys they can’t control, but, still try to manipulate them into her control. This isn’t a bad question. The reason is that she is putting him through the “test” to determine if he is a man she wants or not. To determine if he is a man of high value. The sad reality here is that the better catch the woman is the more tests the man will go through! Simply put, women that are a good catch know that they are in high demand and they have other options. Testing is a way to sort through the men they date to determine the best pick. You really can’t blame women here. Most reasonable individuals use the same approach when they have many options to choose from. The greater the volume of options, the better they tend to be with determining their best. Is there any reason why a woman with high value would settle for less than a man of high value? If you had plenty of options to choose from, would you settle? Simply put: If you are after the super intelligent, super-hot women with high value, then you will need to learn how to respond properly when she puts you through the tests to show that you are a man of high value. If you don’t, you won’t be the man that passes her test, and ends up with her on his arm, and you will be in a position to settle for less. It is my guess that this has happened at least once in your life, and you want this to end, right? Again, what is the method women use to test men? Yep! Drama! You’ve likely noticed that the most attractive women hold the highest skill in manipulating a man’s emotional state with drama. There is reason for this. Every man’s dream is to be with a high value woman, but they don’t learn to be a high value man by developing emotional fortitude. They just expect a woman with it all to land on their doorstepwithout taking into consideration that there is a world of men for these women to choose among. If you want the woman to discover that you are the man of her dreams, you need to prove yourself and to show the confidence when you are tested. The better you are able to do this, the better you show yourself as a high value man. Your next question is likely how long these tests will take. Get ready! As long as you are the man in her life, you can expect these tests to continue. When we date most of us are on our best behavior until we get further in the relationship, then we let our hair down. The better catch the woman is, the more reason she has to not settle for a man that she doesn’t have full confidence in, and she will keep checking to test, to ensure you are the same man you once were- the man she fell for to begin with- the man she can count on. Chapter 5: Demolish Your Fear of Rejection Fear of rejection is natural and normal, and the intimidation is real. The fear in a human is the same fear in an animal- it is a defense mechanism. It seems as though the reality of fear can make it bigger than life, but when you overcome fear, you have overcome the obstacle it creates. This is the reason for this chapter. When you are able to demolish fear of any kind you are in control. Fear is something that you don’t “get rid of”, but you overcome. To overcome your fear of rejection, find another fear that is greater, and one that the reward achieved will be greater. Think back to when the last time you did something that really triggered fear. Why did you not stop? What made you do it anyway? It was likely that you realized there was a reward that was great than the fear itself. It could be that you were being interviewed for a new job, and you were scared you wouldn’t portray yourself as the ideal candidate. That didn’t stop you from going did it? No! In this situation, you risked rejection because you needed this new employment. You didn’t have another option- or you didn’t in your mind. We always have a choice to collapse to fear. You didn’t have to go to the interview. You could have convinced yourself that there was a reason to not go. Was it courage that made you go? It wasn’t courage that made you go through with the interview, it was the fear that triggered the will to confront the fear and the belief there was a greater reward. It was your survival mechanism. The fact that in order to survive, you needed employment. The reward was greater than the fear. There are many times people confront fear due to a greater fear. There is fear of driving for many people, but, they confront this fear to be independent. The fear of not having transportation is often more paralyzing. The fear of being dependent on another driver is also eliminated. With practice, the fear of driving is overcome. But, if you were to simply sit behind the wheel and focus on your fear and not start the engine, you’d never experience the reward that driving brings. This is the same with fear of rejection. When you approach or meet women the rejection of fear is intimidating. If the fear overcomes you, then you do not have the confidence to meet women. In other words, you lack experience. With experience the fear diminishes. You need to understand this when you experience the fear of rejection. When you realize that it is experience you lack, then it will be easier for you to get over the fear of approaching women. There are many things you could try- creative visualization, positive thinking, affirmations, hypnosis, and every other mind over matter strategy for overcoming fear. The downside is that with each of these is that fear isn’t a mind state. Fear is a condition that is real and is physical and it takes action to overcome it. With action you build experience and the more experience you have the less fear you will experience. Yes, there will still be that magnificent physical rush you feel when you approach a woman, or ask for her number, or to go on a date. But, the more experienced you become, the less intense the action will be. Now, if you don’t take the experience approach, but try to talk yourself out of the fear or use mind over matter, the greater the fear will likely become. This will paralyze your initiative and the result will be that you settle for less. With this said, let’s look at the steps involved in confronting fear for a MUST DO- getting her phone number! Chapter 6: Simple Strategies for Getting Her Number There’s a little more to dating than getting the phone number, as you likely have had the experience of getting a phone number in the past to have nothing come of it. It could be that you never called her. But, if you meet a great woman, you definitely want the opportunity to contact her…and, a phone number is essential. 1. Give Her your Number First Giving her your number first is effective because she has the security that you are willing to offer her something, as well. Granted, this may not be what she was asking for, but it is a mutual exchange. The best way to exchange numbers is by making it a part of tying up your encounter. You can say something like: “I have to get going right now, but I’d love to talk again.” Then, you can jot down your number on a piece of paper, tear the paper into two parts, and hand her both pieces and while you tell her this is your number, hand her the pen and ask for her number as well. If the woman seems hesitate you can say: “Although I am not much into talking on the phone, I’d like to have the opportunity to get in touch sometime.” Don’t forget to smile as you say this. 2. The Text Approach The text approach is another approach and one that may be the less intimidating of the two, and gives you the opportunity to get her number. You need a reason to text her, though. You don’t want to say “What do you say I text you sometime?” This is a weak approach and doesn’t sound solid. A better way to ask if you can text her would be: “I enjoyed our meeting, but I have to run to meet a friend for ___, do you text?” As you say this, take out your cell. Women are more prone to accept a “text offer” than asking for their phone number. A text isn’t as awkward and can be easier to ignore if the woman isn’t sure she’d like to have future contact. If the woman is interested, she’ll say yes whether she texts or not. If she tells you that she doesn’t text, and doesn’t volunteer her phone number, it might be a “no” signal. You might want to end it there and not lower your social value. 3. Set Up a Date, Then Get the Number Setting up a date, and then getting her number is the most practical option. It only seems reasonable to set up a date if you want to get to get to know her, right? Phone conversations can hinder meeting in person as you can create an illusion of chemistry which may not actually exist in person. The reality of the situation is you are already going out on the line asking for her phone number, so why not ask for a date. You may be totally thrown at the number of “yes” responses you actually get with this approach. When it comes down to it, getting her number to ask her out in the future is just an added step and gives her the opportunity to lose interest. There is also the competition- especially if she is a high value woman. Think of this from her standpoint, as well. She suddenly encounters a man, and has a date with him. She is more likely to blush when she thinks about this, and more likely to share the encounter with her friends, thinking of you each time she does! This definitely has the advantage over giving her your number with no sense of pleasure of when she’ll see you again. The best way to ask for a date is again at the closing of the encounter. “You know, I hate to have to go, but I have to ___. I’d love to meet again. How would you like to go out on ____?” If she says yes, then all that is left is to ask for her number. The key element here is to ask for a specific day, and if there is some certain place or activities you have in mind, and then let her know this, as well. Don’t resort back to the date chapter here…those dates may be a bit too much for a first meeting. Maybe somewhere you can share a drink and get better acquainted. If all goes well, you’ll be on your way to a better date. Bonus Chapter: 5 Things Single Men Do That Women Hate This is a chapter that I included for fun! The benefit is that with each, you’ll realize that they are downers in a relationship. Therefore, it is best for all mean to know the five things women hate about single men so each is in a position to correct it right away. 1. Sloppiness Sloppiness is a definite turn off. A messy house or apartment, torn or stained clothes, and bad hygiene are all things women hate. They are also easy habits for men to acquire when there is no one in their life. Get organized, de-clutter your home, and get rid of the shabby clothes. Purchase some air fresheners and add some decorations to your home that show character, and compliment your personality. Clean and organize your bathroom, and the rest of your home. If you pay attention to women that you entertain, the bathroom is one of the first places she goes in the home. The reason is simple- she gets a better look at how well you care for your home. 2. Childish Friends There are few men that don’t have a single friend that is a bad influence. As a man, I can tell you, the second you start to get serious with a woman, this is the friend you’ll fight about. Why? Because she doesn’t like how irresponsible he is, or his influence, and doesn’t want to risk you. She may be right. Friends are a necessary part of life, but if he is a bad influence, it is likely best to keep a distance. The harsh reality is that the friend may also have problems with her, and you’ll likely come to the realization that he wasn’t such a good friend after all. 3. Boyishness Men are single for different reasons- they haven’t meet the right person yet, or they are immature. Women aren’t drawn to men that are irresponsible, and if you have yet to grow up due to the boyishness in you, then you aren’t likely to meet that high value woman. Start making changes now. Some sure signs of boyishness are: you let your parents or friends control your decision making, you don’t earn a steady income, you are impulsive with your spending, you are constantly partying, or you don’t have grown up attitudes towards relationships, dating, and women. Most aren’t difficult to overcome, so why not start now! 4. Bad Manners We’ve discussed being a bad boy, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t need to treat the woman with respect, as well as, other people. Good manners are important to women, and many men with bad manners will find themselves single. Good manners need to become habits. They are simple things like opening the door for the woman, treating the waitress or waiter at a restaurant with respect, being courteous behind the wheel, and listening when someone speaks. Most of us know what good manners are, and how to practice them…but, if you have your doubts, then definitely get on the Internet and see if you’ve overlooked any that could hurt you. 5. Gawking What man doesn’t want to gawk at a beautiful woman? Noticing a beautiful woman is acceptable, staring is not. It is rude to the woman you are with, rude to the woman you are staring at, and it portrays you as creepy. If you are a gawker, break the habit. When you do, you will find that the women you are with are more comfortable, and you will have a greater chance of meeting other women. No woman is attracted to a man that gawks. It is intimidating. It is much better to approach the woman. If the woman is with a man, then focus on something else. The temptation will pass. When you are able to work on these five areas, your odds at meeting women is enhanced. Where To From Here? If you enjoyed this book write a review! If you enjoyed this book it would mean the world to me if you would please write an honest review for it because that will help others know what they are going to get and get the same benefits you have achieved. I strongly believe that the advice in here can help you build your confidence with women and you can help too by spreading the word! If you think this book could be better in any way you can let me know what needs to be improved by sending an email to [email protected] I can then update this and future books and provide the best information so that you and others can get even more value from it. 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