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Some people prefer having recreational sex with no strings attached – and it’s no surprise why. Having a fuck buddy or a “friend with benefits” can be a sexual adventure like no other. This ebook covers all the things you need to know before you embark on a journey of finding and meeting your very own fuck buddy: Where to find fuck buddies Knowing where to look is the first, most essential thing you should find out before you search for a fuck buddy. Great fuck buddies don’t just grow on trees, you know! How to lure the fuck buddy of your dreams You may have spotted a total hottie, but how do you get your ideal partner to notice you? It takes a lot of skill and practice, but by working on the tips mentioned in this book, you’ll have no problem attracting your desired fuck buddy. How to increase excitement and performance You may talk the talk, but can you actually perform well enough for your fuck buddies to return to you? This ebook gives you tips on how you could get them to want you more. Page 5 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com How to be successful in finding a fuck buddy online Because of the internet, finding a fuck buddy has become much, much easier! Learn how to use the internet as a tool for finding a great fuck buddy. ... and much, much more! So pay attention - this ebook can change your (sex) life forever! If you take all this advice to heart, you'll definitely be on your way to a life filled with great recreational sex! Page 6 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Chapter 1: Fuck Buddy 101 Ever notice that in some books, movies, and TV shows, there are men and women who have great casual sex with the same partner without the hassle that comes with committed relationships? Whether you call them casual relationships, "friends with benefits", or fuck buddies, they're all in it for the same agenda. What exactly are fuck buddies, and how do you get them? What a Fu ck Bu dd y is - an d isn t A fuck buddy is someone that you're having sexual relations with, but without a committed relationship. There's a reason why fuck buddies are also called "friends with benefits" - it's a relationship that is more like a friendship with casual sex rather than a loving, romantic relationship. Being fuck buddies may mean different things, so it helps to verbally communicate to your fuck buddy what it is that both of you want out of your special friendship. You could be sexually exclusive to each other, or you may agree to see each other only for a set number of weeks. Whatever your case, you both have to agree on a set of ground rules. Page 7 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Keep in mind that having a fuck buddy is not the same as having a formal boyfriend or girlfriend - emotional attachments and demands are considered taboo in a casual relationship. This means that there is no commitment, no romantic love, and no expectation of marriage proposals. A one-night stand is also not considered as a casual sex relationship, unless both parties agree to be fuck buddies after the onenight stand. Wh y Do You Need a Fu ck Bu dd y? People get into casual relationships for a variety of reasons. Among these reasons are the following: They want to have as much sexual experience as possible, as if they were "practicing" to become great lovers They want to have sex but feel as if they're not ready for a formal, committed relationship They're biding their time while waiting for "the real thing" (a real romantic relationship) to come along They simply want something to help them get through a boring or lonely night. Page 8 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Of course, there are more reasons why people engage in casual relationships, and one reason is not more important than another. The important thing to remember is that having a fuck buddy should be a casual, pleasurable experience. Settin g Gro un d R ules fo r F uck Bud dies Both you and your fuck buddy should agree to some ground rules when it comes to keeping your relationship fun and casual. You both have to be signed on for the same agenda if you want the experience to be a good one. Many fuck buddy relationships are ruined when both partners realize that both of them have differing opinions and expectations from the relationship. Avoid this scenario by sticking to a set of rules that you both agree on. Here are some things that you should consider when thinking of ground rules: The sexual part of the relationship should be both casual and enjoyable. If you want to ensure the success of your casual relationship, the sex should be as great as it can be. The entire point of getting a fuck buddy is to find physical pleasure in another person, and if you can't do that you're just wasting each other's time. Emotional attachments? Love? Valentine's day gifts? Those all belong in formal, committed relationships. Trust me when I say Page 9 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com that nothing ruins recreational, casual sex like falling in love with your fuck buddy. Of course, it may be a different story if both of you develop the same feelings for each other, but that is rarely the case. When you sign on for a fuck buddy relationship, you should know to stay away from romance if you don't want anyone to get hurt. Make sure that the lines of communication are open between you and your fuck buddy. You have to be honest with each other about any concerns, rules, and problems that come up. The two of you should be aware of the exclusivity and the intensity limits of the recreational sex you're having. The two of you should also have an agreement on the span of time in which you'll be seeing each other (it doesn't have to be exact). Make sure that this period of time doesn't go over a year, or else you run the risk of turning it into a long-term romantic relationship. Wher e To F ind Fu ck Bu dd ies The most popular way of finding a fuck buddy is by doing it online. It is easier and much more convenient than finding people in "real world scenarios", because online profiles allow you to find people that will be Page 10 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com signed on with the same agenda as yours - commitment-free sex. Here are some great places where you can find fuck buddies online: SexSearch.com It's one of the fastest growing online adult sites out there - and for good reason. This site specializes on hookups for threesomes, orgies, and fuck buddies! Member profiles have photo, voice, and video features that allow members to have a better idea of who they're hooking up with before they meet face-to face. Their AutoMatch feature allows you to list what you're looking for in a potential mate, and SexSearch.com automatically sends you a list of members that exactly match your list! It's that simple to find a fuck buddy on this site! membership levels - Basic, Silver, and Gold. There are 3 The Basic member ship allows you to create a profile, as well as to do simple member searches. However, the Gold and Silver membership levels allow you to get more proactive. Both membership types allow you to have access to member photos and videos, as well as to add other members into your "hotlist". You also come out first on search results, while Basic members are always at the bottom. When you sign up for SexSearch.com, I personally recommend that you get either membership, you since these allow to a Silver create the or a Gold best, most customizable profiles available, as well as help you look for a fuck buddy via advanced searches. Page 11 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com SexyAds.com With over 1.5 million members, SexyAds.com is one of the largest online adult communities. Alerts. One of its popular features is the SexyAds Lust This incredibly hot feature makes member matches based on what you're looking for in the bedroom! Using this feature can definitely help you get the fuck buddy of your dreams! They even have a PrivateCall phone service that allows you to have phone conversations with any member, without revealing your phone number. It's a great way to get to know your potential fuck buddies, especially since it's better and more interactive than online chatting and private messaging. You can have a more advanced membership option and be included in "The Kama Sutra Club". This allows you to access more features, as well as be at the top search results over basic members. If you're looking for a good time and an easy, interactive way of finding a fuck buddy, then SexyAds is perfect for you! Page 12 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com AdultFriendFinder.com You're looking for a fuck buddy, right? Well that's what AdultFriendFinder helps you to do. It helps you find friends that are into more intimate and adult activities. While there's an available free membership, I definitely got more emails, messages, and contacts from the paid membership. Also, paid members get unlimited access to webcam chat, while free members can only access webcams for a limited time. The best perk of getting a paid membership is that you have access to a live nude video chatroom. It's a good way to take your fuck buddy for a test drive, don't you think? You can also search for a fuck buddy with the same sex tastes as yours - whether it's for threesomes, BDSM, exhibitionism, voyeurism, and much more! all, the key word in "fuck buddy" isn't "buddy". After AdultFriendFinder is definitely a simple, no nonsense way for you to get right down to your (dirty) business. Page 13 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Now that you have a basic idea of what it's like to have a fuck buddy, you're ready to put yourself out there! Although finding fuck buddies online can be challenging, the next lesson will help you grab your dream fuck buddy's attention. There are also other resources online that can help you, including David DeAngelo’s “Meeting Women Online”. David DeAngelo is a leading dating techniques expert, and through his “Meeting Women Online” program, you’ll see that the most effective way to find a great recreational sex partner is by doing it online. The next chapter will also give you definite, proven techniques on how to do it! Page 14 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Chapter 2: Luring the Fuck Buddy of Your Dreams If you paid attention to the previous chapter, you'd know that the main focus of having a fuck buddy is to engage in casual consensual sex. This means that the two of you can have regular sex with no strings attached, and without the problems that come up in formal committed relationships. Since mutual physical pleasure is the goal of a casual relationship, your partner should be someone who is your exact sexual match. This doesn't mean that you have to have exactly the same skills in bed, but the two of you should be open to the same amount of experimentation, and that both of you can open up each other sexually. Because of this, it is ideal that you create an online profile that reflects who you are and what you want out of a fuck buddy relationship. Settin g Up You r Pr ofile The first thing you have to do to get started with your online profile is to register in an online dating site. I personally recommend that you register for free accounts with at least 2 of the sites mentioned above (AdultFriendFinder, SexyAds, or SexSearch) so that you can take them for a test drive. This allows you to find a site that you're most comfortable with before you commit to a paid membership. Here are the following profile features of each of the mentioned sites: Page 15 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com SexSearch.com The free membership gives you very limited access to great features, allowing you to upload photos and videos, as well as contact other members by email and their "show interest" feature The Gold Membership includes access to "The Gold Room", an astounding collection of porn that will inspire you for your fuck buddy encounters The search features are fully customizable If you don't find what you want via the search features, you can select from a list of criteria and you will automatically be notified if someone is looking for the same things as you are. SexyAds.com Free membership lets you view other members' photo galleries but only the G-rated ones! The SexyAds Lust Alerts feature allows you to know of members who are sexually compatible with you based on your profile You can call up other members via the PrivateCall feature (without revealing any phone numbers) Page 16 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com A personal profile panel shows how competitive your profile is and how well it's doing AdultFriendFinder.com Registration is quick and easy Free registration that allows you to have almost full access to AdultFriendFinder's features Your profile can be matched with people that you're sexually compatible with Simple and Advanced searches are available Definitely the most "adult" of the three suggested sites When you fill out the personal profile questionnaire in the above sites, you will be asked for your location, ethnicity, and even your level of kinkiness, as well as what you like in bed. Filling out your profile truthfully will allow you to get exact matches out of the millions of registered members. However, creating a really effective and attractive profile is more than just about telling the truth... Page 17 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Do's an d Don 'ts Wh en Creatin g a Pro file When you're working on your profile, keep in mind that your primary goal is to find a fuck buddy, not a soulmate. Put up your profile under "1-on-1 encounters" or "casual encounters" so that it's clear to the other members that you're looking for something casual and recreational. Avoid making any distasteful, graphic comments about sex. You can probably say something like "Right now, I'm tired of those complex dating games, so I'm just looking for something casual but passionate. I really like sex, and I'm not afraid to admit it!" By playing it cool and injecting a bit of humor, you give off the impression that while you're a sexual creature, you also have class. Leave something to the imagination. Don't fully describe yourself, whether it's about your physical appearance, your job, or your finances. It's true that everyone loves a good mystery - just show them the best parts to whet their appetite! After all, you want them to contact you and ask you for more, right? Don't show off. Nothing's more annoying than a guy bragging about his car, job, or penis size. It sounds immature and you come off as if you're trying too hard. Page 18 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Make sure that everything is spelled correctly and that you have perfect grammar. This doesn't mean that you have to sound like a Rhodes scholar, but at least you wouldn't seem illiterate. Wh at You r Pho to S ays Ab out You Choosing a photo for your online profile is like an art. You have to show yourself in your best light, as well as make sure that it reveals your personality. It's true that a picture can paint a thousand words, and you'd definitely want those words to do you justice. The picture should be well lighted. Your face has to be seen clearly so that you will be easily recognized. The light behind you shouldn't be too strong either, as it will make your face and other objects in the foreground be darker. Choosing a well lighted photograph will show that you're serious about finding a fuck buddy and that you're not just "trying out" a dating site. If you're including a photo with clothes (cause let's face it, you may want to add more "revealing" photos, since these are allowed in most of the mentioned sites) make sure that the clothes you're wearing are neat and clean. This shows that you have a sense of hygiene and won't be sloppy in the bedroom. Your primary photo should always be a solo picture. This creates confusion because it may not be obvious which one you are in the Page 19 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com photo. Also, some members might get attracted to other people in the picture. You may include photos with other people to show that you're a social creature, but don't use them as your primary photos. Select photos that don't reveal too much about your personal life, such as your car, workplace, home, or income. This includes photos of your office building where signs, logos, and addresses are clearly visible. You want to find a fuck buddy, not a stalker. Make sure that you choose a recent photograph. You don't want your fuck buddy to expect you to look 10 years younger if you display a photo that was taken in 1996. Sum min g thin gs u p... Finding a fuck buddy online can have great, rewarding results. You can meet a lot of people, and have access to great features that will enhance your experience (and sexual knowledge). This is why it's important to find an online matchmaking site that suits your taste, and to create profiles that truly reflect what you want. The same rules apply when you're looking for a fuck buddy in person - you have to be comfortable with the situation, and you have to be clear on what you both want out of your casual relationship. Page 20 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Of course, once you post your profile, potential partners will be clamoring to be your fuck buddy – but only if you do it right. For more tips on creating profiles that will magnetically attract women to you, check out “Meeting Women Online”. But before you select a fuck buddy, you need to know if they'll give you a great fuck buddy experience or if they'll just drive you crazy. The next chapter will show you how to read between the lines and tell whether she's hot or not, as well as more details on how to reel in the perfect fuck buddy! Page 21 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Chapter 3: Searching for your Fuck Buddy! After learning some golden tips from the previous chapter, you've now created an online profile that aims to lure the ladies. You must be kidding yourself if you think that's enough. With all the competition out there, you have to do something to stand out. You have to be more proactive. The first thing you can do is to use the various "advanced searches" featured in the online dating sites you're registered with. You often get more options and search functions with paid memberships, so try not to limit yourself to simple searches. Keep in mind that a lot of sexy women frequent these sites, so I can't blame you if you have a hard time choosing! Every site has a unique search feature, and it's best to familiarize yourself with these features before you get too excited. Cho osin g the Best S ite for You Every reputable sex personals site on the internet has its own unique personality. While you can go ahead and sign up with the first personals website you see, it's best to apply for full membership with a site that reflects your own tastes when it comes to sex and fun. This will also allow you to attract fuck buddies that have the same needs and wants as you do. Here's a brief overview of the top three personals sites on the web: Page 22 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com SexyAds.com Their tagline is "adult personals for everyday people", and they surely live up to it. While lesser sex personals sites have fake profiles and photos - all the SexyAds members are real. Their main site is for the US, but they have regional sites for the UK, Canada, Australia, Germany, and New Zealand. They also provide different sections for a wide variety of tastes - gays, lesbians, MILFs, BDSM, swingers, etc. SexyAds is also a very active community. With over 1.5 million members, there's a pretty good change that you'll find a fuck buddy with all the qualities you're looking for. SexSearch.com SexSearch is one of the fastest growing sex personals websites out there, and it's no surprise. They truly live up to their name - their website provides one of the most extensive search functions out there. Are you a woman seeking for a gay couple? How about a man seeking a lesbian couple? How about a gay couple looking for another gay couple? Whatever your kinks are, you'll definitely be able to search for it at SexSearch.com. You can find someone for actual sex or cybersex, and a fuck buddy with the same fetishes as yours. However, the only downside is that there's no quick way to contact other members unless you pay for their Gold or Silver memberships - which you were going to do anyway, because they're definitely worth it. Page 23 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com AdultFriendFinder.com This is probably the most sexual of the three sites. AdultFriendFinder's member database is filled with thousands of explicit personal ads and photos. Obviously, the AdultFriendFinder members are looking for the same thing you are - fun and recreational adult action. The site allows you to contact other members via email - but without revealing your personal information. In fact, the other members won't know your email address, phone numbers, and other contact information unless you give it to them! But AdultFriendFinder isn't just a site that helps you find a fuck buddy - it's a real online community too. You can meet new friends via the chatroom and even organize parties. There's also an advice line that allows you to talk to trained sexperts if you have any questions or problems. They even have a free online magazine where you can read the best erotica online, and even collect helpful sex tips. Whether you're the average Joe, a foot fetishist, or a swinger, there's definitely a site that caters to your distinct and sexy personality. Tips and Tr icks for Sear chin g Selecting a fuck buddy out of the millions of members in online dating sites seems like a challenging (but fun) task. Here are some tips that will help you find the fuck buddy of your dreams by using the simple search options available on online personals sites. Page 24 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Try to develop little "friendships" first. While you can jump right ahead and request for sex on your first email, that's not the classiest thing to do now, is it? After all, one of the secrets of being a successful fuck buddy is knowing how to communicate with your partner. You can do that more easily if you have some kind of foundation to build up on. Be as specific as you can when searching. Most personals sites allow you to search for keywords, and you should use this function to narrow down your search. Some examples that you can use are the words "busty", "bisexual", etc - whatever interests you. If you have fetishes and fantasies, don't forget to put them in as well - you never know if someone's willing to make your sex fantasies come true. Don't just go for conventionally beautiful women. There are two reasons why you shouldn't limit yourself to women who look like models. lover. First, a beautiful woman isn't always exactly a great You want a fuck buddy, remember? Not a trophy wife. Second, most people have sex in dim or no lighting conditions anyway and it's not as if you're required to go on dates with this woman. Your arrangement is for a fuck buddy, not a girlfriend that you'll bring home to meet your mother. Page 25 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Th e P erfect Fu ck Bu dd y: Qu alities to Lo ok Fo r Having a great fuck buddy has its valuable rewards. You have to be on the lookout for the qualities of a great fuck buddy if you want to get into a truly pleasurable - in every sense of the word - experience. Here are the qualities that you should be looking for in a casual sex partner: It doesn't matter if she can't spell "good hygiene", she just needs to have it. Nothing can put you off like a woman who doesn't know how to take care of herself. "What's that smell?" isn't exactly the sexiest line to say in the bedroom. She has to be adventurous and experimental. What's the point of getting a fuck buddy if you won't get to try new things, right? You might as well sit at home and fly solo. It's a very good sign if she proposes new things to try once in a while, and if she's enthusiastic about fulfilling your fantasies. She has curves in all the right places. Of course, where these "right places" are totally depend on your individual taste. Some guys are into big breasts, while others give more importance to a woman's derriere or her legs. As long as she's shaped in a way that drives you wild, you'll definitely be inspired to please her sexually. Page 26 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com The less pressure you get from her, the better. Sometimes, guys get "performance anxiety", especially when a women rush them or voice out certain sexual frustrations. Recreational sex is just that - recreation. There should be no mental stress involved. After all, you're at your best when you're relaxed. Th e F uck Bu dd y fr om Hell: Qualities to Avoid Sometimes, a woman can be so beautiful that you overlook her negative qualities - and this often comes at a price. While there's nothing wrong with appreciating the beautiful qualities of women, there are definitely some traits that you should watch out for if you want to get out of your fuck buddy experience unscathed. On the same vein, these are qualities that you should get rid of if you recognize them in yourself. If word gets out that you're the fuck buddy from hell, then no amount of dating site registrations can save you. It's hard to get rid of their need for codependency. Remember the first golden rule? Fuck buddies are all about fun, recreational sexual encounters. It's a general rule of thumb that you shouldn't have any emotional attachments or aspirations of commitment when engaging in a casual relationship. Some girls are just addicted to power. Believe me when I say that the last thing you need is a power-tripping fuck buddy who uses sex as a way to control you. It's important to go through a casual Page 27 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © relationship with your dignity intact. 2006 DrDating.com After all, it's hard to get aroused when you're feeling used. Beware of virgins. While cavemen pride themselves in being a woman's "first", there's something wrong with that kind of scenario. First of all, I don't mean virgin in the literal sense. A woman can have no sexual experience and yet be very interested in knowledgeable about sex. The types of virgins you should avoid are those who are too demure, too innocent, and girls who think that the word "buddy" is the key word in "fuck buddy". Finding fuck buddies online is a simple and effective way to go about looking for recreational sex. It can definitely pay off if you know what you're doing. Look forward to the next chapter, which will give you some tips on what to do with your fuck buddy. (Hint: it doesn't involve making cookies or going to church) *** ADBOX *** Get great responses to your online profile by ordering David DeAngelo’s “Meeting Women Online”. This program allows you to create a flawless system when it comes to finding f**k buddies online. Order it now to receive 3 free interviews with other respected dating gurus. Page 28 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Chapter 4: Interacting With Your Fuck Buddy You've initiated contact, exchanged a few emails, flirted a bit in chatrooms, etc. But how do you know if you're making the right "moves"? Do you know what the typical online dating mistakes are, and do you know how to avoid them? This chapter will give you some pointers on the etiquette of talking to potential fuck buddies. Casual relationships may seem to have a simple, "let's get right down to business" feel, but getting there requires a lot of art and subtlety. By the end of this chapter, you'll be on your way to becoming the Don Juan of casual sex! 5 T hin gs T hat Will Tur n Off Yo ur Fu ck Bu dd y Finding out the things that will turn off any potential fuck buddies is important - it's probably more important than finding out what turns them on. You won't even get to first base if you actually do the following things: Talk about your life, especially your problems, at length. Both men and women do not like people who don't keep their mouths (in this case, your keyboard) shut. It makes you look incredibly needy and codependent. Page 29 of 40 If you're looking for a fuck buddy and www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com you're making the mistake of giving everyone your autobiography, this is actually the message you're sending: "I have a lot of things I want to talk about, and my favorite thing to talk about is myself. In fact, I'm not stopping at this 5-page letter to you, I'm actually going to talk to you throughout our entire sex act." The same goes for the quantity of emails you send out - keep it to a minimum of 2 per day. You have to keep in mind that even email is considered as a conversation. You say a few sentences, keep things short, and ask questions. That's it. Keep the atmosphere light. Save the whining and psychoanalysis for your therapist. Don't lie - not even about your sexual experience. If you've had very little or no sexual experience, you can't get a woman more interested by declaring that you're a man-ho. Compensate your lack of sexual experience with your eagerness to learn, instead. After all, it's the QUALITY of your lovemaking skills that's important. Read up on some sex tips, especially oral sex. Don't depend on porn, because it's incredibly unrealistic. The important thing is to always be honest. A woman can smell a lie a mile away, so don't risk your chances by lying. Only reply to the messages of women you're interested in. While being contacted by a dozen women sounds like a dream come true, you don't want to spread yourself too thinly. Do you honestly want to spend most of your waking hours replying to emails? Page 30 of 40 And if you've got bad memory skills, you might even www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com forget what you said to these women, and end up looking as if you're not paying attention. Don't settle for quality just because you want to brag to your friends about the quantity of contacts you're getting. Even if you get nothing but positive responses and compliments, don't act like you're God's gift to women. This can make you look like an egomaniac, and, if anything, your potential fuck buddies will see that this is your attitude in bed as well. Be sexual, but don't sound like a pervert. While you're looking for a woman who wants to keep things casual, this doesn't mean that she feels like a prostitute. Save your dirtiest thoughts for the bedroom, but if she wants to get down and dirty via email before your actual encounter, let her initiate it. "You look hot" or "You look delicious" is fine, but not all women are comfortable with "I want to put my d**k in your a** and pump you like a jackhammer" Page 31 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com 5 T hin gs T hat Will Heat Up Yo ur Fu ck Bu dd y' s Interest Now that you know what pitfalls to avoid when contacting potential fuck buddies, it's time to learn about the sexy qualities you should cultivate. In “Meeting Women Online”, David DeAngelo highlights that you should always keep the upper hand when communicating with women online. There's a lot of competition out there, but by following these five simple tips, you can easily stand out: Be mysterious. It doesn't mean that you have to be quiet and cryptic. Tell her that you know a few tricks in the bed, but don't tell her exactly what these are. Being mysterious is all about giving just enough information to get her intrigued, but without giving her too much that she feels like she knows everything that she can possibly know about you. If you're the CEO of IBM, you shouldn't say it directly as even very good things tend to sound unbelievable on the internet. Instead, say something like "I'm in a very powerful position in the workplace, and I love it. How about you? Are there any positions you like?" Not only are you giving off an aura of confidence of power, but you're being subtly sexual as well. Highlight your personality and individuality. This helps you stand out from the millions of guys who are also scouring the internet for fuck buddies. Find an original way to sign out other than by saying "bye". Try to come up with nicknames for her - just avoid Page 32 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com nicknames that are meant for romantic couples. If the two of you like a certain book, movie, or tv show, feel free to make references to that. As much as possible, you should use a unique sign in name as well - this is especially helpful if you have a very common name. Project sexual confidence. good in bed". No, you don't do this by saying "I'm You project sexual confidence when you tell her that you're a great dancer (but only if you really are), that you're experimental and willing to try new things, and that it gives you a lot of pleasure to make a woman's fantasy come true. Have a unique angle. You want a fuck buddy, but so does Tom, Dick, and Harry. They all say "oh I can give you great sex" etc. It may be true, but where's the wow factor? Where's the creativity? Where the unique hook that will let you get all the ladies? While I can't give you your own unique angle, I can give you tips to help you come up with your own. If you've got a talent for art, your headline could read "Be the next Mona Lisa: Immortalize yourself in a work of art and have great sex at the same time!" This means that your "winning" fuck buddy will not only get the privilege of sharing a bed with you, but you'll also get to do her portrait. If you're a great chef, your hook could be that after your first session, you'll cook a great meal for her that's worthy of 5 Michelin stars. Just don't make your offers too romantic, as it will make your intentions blurry. Page 33 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Be a little "unattainable". You don't have to reply to every single email or instant message she sends out. By becoming a little bit unattainable, you exude more mystery. As we all know, mystery creates sexual tension. She shouldn't just "like" you, you have to make her really want you. Also, if she asks you how many replies your ad has received, don't be shy to say anything more than 10 ;) Especially if it's true. You probably feel like you're finally ready to meet your fuck buddy in person - but don't do it just yet. You have to know what to do in bed, what to say, and how to be the best sex she's ever had. Don't worry you'll be learning these things in the last chapter. Page 34 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com Chapter 5: Meeting Your Fuck Buddy in Person Are you ready for the kind of sexual tension that these trysts have? Do you think your responses will be suave and confident? And most importantly, can you deliver the goods in the bedroom? This lesson will help you get a better understanding of what goes on in a casual relationship, and shows you a the range of sexual activities that you and your fuck buddy can do. You're excited and nervous, and you have your fears - but meeting your fuck buddy in person doesn't have to be that hard. You just have to remember that this woman likes you already. After all, she agreed to meet with you. She might have even initiated the meeting. The following lesson gives you a more in-depth look about what to expect and what to do during your casual sex sessions. Keep it E xciting : 3 Bor ing Th ing s You Sh ou ld NEV ER Do Fuck buddy relationships are all about excitement. The last thing you want to do is to bore your fuck buddy. you that she's bored. Odds are, she won't even tell She'll just stop meeting you. And if you don't know what you did wrong, there's no way for you to use your mistakes for self-improvement. The old saying "Prevention is the best cure" is as Page 35 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days true in sex as it is in health. © 2006 DrDating.com Here is a list of things that you should prevent yourself from doing if you want the thrill to last: Mechanical fucking. No, it doesn't involve machinery. Your fuck buddy may ring you up once in a while and ask to meet, but somehow, you're just not in the mood. Maybe it's the bad oysters you ate the night before, or it's your lack of sleep, or you just saw a documentary about The Holocaust - whatever your reasons, you're just not feeling up to it. Instead of agreeing to meet, if you're seriously not in the mood, it's best not to have sex. Sex without passion is dull and boring, and you might end up using the same old routine moves that a married couple use on their 45th wedding anniversary. If you're not feeling the excitement, it's going to show - and she's not going to like it. Laziness or refusal to learn anything new. You have to always try out new things with your fuck buddy. fulfill each other's sexual fantasy. Use toys, try roleplaying, Better yet, learn some new techniques on how to go down on her better. Don't be afraid to sexperiment! This gives both of you something to look forward to every time you meet up. Location, location, location - do not have sex in the same location. At least not all the time. You'd be surprised how a simple change in location can raise your excitement to a much higher level. Whether it's the car, your rooftop, or the bathtub - a change in Page 36 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com venue can make sex more wild and passionate. Why do you think many people get caught having sex in public? What Type o f S ex is on the Men u? We all have our signature styles and moves when it comes to having sex. By simply reading your fuck buddy's profile and by looking at her pictures, you'll be able to tell what you're in for. Passionate Sex If she just got her heart broken or she got fired from her job and she's really angry - odds are she'll take it out on you. All that pent up anger, pain, and rage translates itself into sexual energy. This type of sex is really intense, especially since emotions are running high. If her online profile shows that she's very emotional and that she can easily get carried away by her feelings (whether positive or negative), then you'll probably be having a lot of passionate sex. Clues: She says she cries during movies, she has strong political convictions, and she has the tendency to flame other members of the dating site (even if it's only during private emails with you). Animalistic Sex Some women are just really in tune with their wild side. They claw your back, bite your neck, and almost rip the sheets to shreds. These kinds Page 37 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com of women are normally not that interested in foreplay. Sometimes, their animalistic nature is always on the surface, and sometimes it only comes up once in a while. She's probably had sex in the kitchen floor, on a pool table, and other random places. You can't tame her, but you should step up and bring out your animalistic side as well. Clues: She's wearing leopard prints in her photo, and she's into artistic hobbies that get her hands dirty. Breaktime Sex She calls you during lunch and asks you if you have 15 minutes to spend with her. She's always on a flight to some board meeting in another state or country, and she even sends you postcards sometimes. There's some foreplay, but only very little. She's constantly on her cellular phone and checking her organizer. She's a career woman, and she has little spare time for you. But whatever free time she shares with you is definitely pleasurable. Clues: She claims to be a workaholic and one of her profile photos has her wearing a business suit. Page 38 of 40 www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com After the Act If your fuck buddy ends up meeting your expectations, you're definitely in for a thrilling ride. However, your work's not done yet! There are some things you have to keep in mind while going through this whole experience: Don't forget to be clear about your intentions. You two are fuck buddies, and nothing more. Don't let her leave stuff at your house and vice versa. You two should communicate effectively, but try not to talk too much, especially since you run the risk of developing emotional attachments. Also, you two have to talk about the conditions of your relationship - how long you expect to see each other, how frequently your meetings take place, as well as the exclusivity of the relationship. Usually, fuck buddies aren't exclusive, but you should always disclose any other sexual partners to each other for health and protection purposes. Try not to have the same fuck buddy for a long period of time. Unless you're meeting only once a year, it's "dangerous" to have a fuck buddy for more than one year, especially if you're exclusive. A sense of emotional attachment and entitlement might develop. Also, it's good to have different kinds of sexual experiences, so don't be afraid to be on the prowl again. Page 39 of 40 Great sites such as AdultFriendFinder.com , www.DrDating.com How to Find a Fuck Buddy in 5 Days © 2006 DrDating.com SexyAds.com , and SexSearch.com are always there for you to browse and find new fuck buddies with. Epilo gu e You're finally ready for commitment-free sex with your fuck buddy! Hopefully, you made the most out of this ebook and that you put all the tips and advice into practice. With time, you could be the master of casual relationships! But whatever you do, don't forget to just take it easy and go with the flow. After all, these relationships are all about spontaneity! Don’t forget to apply the techniques we’ve covered as often as you can – especially if you want multiple fuck buddies. There’s no limit to what you can achieve with a little knowledge, confidence, and planning! If you want to know more about fuck buddies and how to attract them into your life, be sure to check out other products on the DrDating website, as well as David DeAngelo’s remarkable program. Page 40 of 40 www.DrDating.com
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