Dear CARE Supporter, Thank you so much for making our annual appeal a big success! Your support helped us to raise over $14,000. One program participant, Tracy, recently said “My favorite experience has to be my last session. I never thought I would feel so good about myself again. The support of my therapist was excellent. I couldn’t have gotten here without her.” Your support helps us to serve individuals like Tracy and to impact the lives of over 25,000 people throughout southeastern Michigan. We have two big events coming up soon. Our first is our 19th Annual Parenting Conference on Saturday, March 8th at the Macomb Intermediate School District. This year Dr. Terri Orbuch, the Love Doctor, will be discussing “Strategies to Strengthen the Relationship with Your Child”. We will also have 18 different speakers presenting on a variety of topics. I hope you can be one of the 300 people that attend this year’s conference! Our 2nd Annual Bike PATH will be held on Sunday, June 1st at Lac St. Clair Metro Park. We are hoping to have 400+ riders this year! This edition of our agency newsletter will be the last one mailed to individuals’ homes. We will continue to publish our quarterly newsletter and send it out through email. To sign up for the digital copy, please visit www.careofsem.com/newsletter/. We will still be printing and delivering copies to schools, libraries, and other community sites. You can also stay connected with us on Facebook. Thank you, Monique Stanton President & CEO (L to R) Betty Risher, Emily Wright, Curt Harder and Harry Kalogerakos. The word discipline comes from a Latin word that means to instruct a person to follow a particular code of conduct. When we punish children by yelling, spanking, or taking privileges away, we stop misbehavior temporarily but we don’t teach them what to do instead. They will repeat the same misbehavior which leads to frustration for us and them. Consequences which are related to misbehavior teach children the rules of society. Children will tend to accept or at least understand these rules which will lead to less power struggles and revenge. When there are less power struggles, instruction can take place. Natural consequences occur without parental involvement. Examples include: if the child doesn’t eat their dinner, he will be hungry before bedtime; if a child goes out in the rain without a Continued on page 2. Discipline continued from page 1. raincoat or boots, he will get wet. Sunday, June1st, 2014 9:00 am - 2:00 pm Lake St. Clair Metropark 25 Mile Advanced Ride! 10 Mile Athletic Ride! 2 Mile Family Friendly Ride! Bicycle Parade! Raffles, Prizes, Children’s Activities, Vendors, Refreshments & MORE!! Calling all Volunteers! We need your help to make Bike PATH Safe & Successful. To register, volunteer or learn more about sponsoring the event visit www.careofsem.com. For more information contact Meghan at 586.541.2273 ext. 214 or [email protected]. However, some consequences are not safe for children to learn on their own. In those instances parents need to create logical consequences. Logical consequences are created and help parents model respect. Children who feel respected feel good about themselves; and when they do, parents will see respect reflected back to them. It’s important to “separate the deed from the doer” by creating consequences that are related to misbehavior instead of making children suffer to learn the rules. We can do this by asking ourselves, “What do I want my child to learn at this moment?” If you want your child to learn to be responsible, you may choose not to run his forgotten homework up to school as you have in the past. You may let your child learn from the logical consequence of receiving a lower grade by turning in their homework late. If you want your child to learn not to run in the street, the logical consequences would allow them to play in a fenced backyard until they can understand the importance of staying safe near a busy street. Spanking a two year old for running towards the street only teaches the child that the world is not safe to explore. Finally, set limits but give choices within those limits. For instance, “You can do your homework after school or after dinner, you decide.” Feeling empowered to make choices and feeling respected helps to create an atmosphere of cooperation. ~Teresa Sandner, Parent Education Specialist CARE of Southeastern Michigan Raffle tickets are $10 and go on sale March 1st. For more information or to be added to the presale list please contact Meghan at [email protected] or 586.218.5269. Raffle tickets will be sold at the Parenting Conference on Saturday, March 8th . Workshop Topics : ABCs & 123s of Learning Disabilities Become a Love and Logic Parent Boys and Girls Learn Differently Bullying: A Healthcare Imperative College Planning Digital Citizenship for Parents Disciplined Parenting & Confident Children Behavioral DNA Effective Discipline Financial Management and Kids Mentoring Girls & Inspiring Sisterhood Parenting Teenage Boys Raising Young Readers Safe Baby Macomb Teens - “Living Above the Influence” When Children Self-Injure: What Parents Should Know You are What You Eat Registration 586.541.2273 www.careofsem.com Sponsors Paula Kircos Emilie MacNeil Kathy Rager Lucia Smith Monique Stanton Patricia Steele-Kefgen Apple Annies Kitchens Heather Battaglia Joelene Beckett Karen Beger Big Family Of Michigan Blue Cross/Blue Shield Of Michigan Rachel Busby Carol Altman Jessica Catalano Mike and Wendy Corrion CSIG Holdings Del Taco Roseville Nicole Dessinger-Flynn Detroit News Helping Hand Fund Bethany Dimmig Denise Dorsz Courtney Dusseau Ana Ebright First State Bank John and Carolyn Fredal Dana and Sharon Gire Good Shepherd Lutheran Bethanne Hetner Gertrude Hoeft Tia Hurchalla Independence Village of Aurora Independence Village of Avon Lake Independence Village of Brighton Valley Independence Village of Frankenmuth Independence Village of Grand Ledge Independence Village of Midland Independence Village of Petoskey Independence Village of Plymouth Independence Village of Waterstone Independence Village Of White Lake Vickie James Harry & Jackie Kalogerakos Rosetta Lynn Karnes Rosella Kiley Meghan Kindsvater King Venture, INC. Carol Laske Legal Strategies P.C. The Marshall Mathers Foundation Karen Massucci Patrick McLogan Michigan First Foundation Karen Leppanen Miller William & Rosemary Nebel Parisian Community Shopping Day Sara Perron PNC Bank Victor & Anna Ptasznik Andrea Rakowicz Janet Reed Elizabeth Risher David Saad Geraldine Scaduto Kristina Schmidgall Katherine Sinicropi James E Skelton Debbie Smith Matthew Smith Robin Smith St James Lutheran Church St. Blase Catholic Church Lisa Stemple Stoney Creek Recovery-Sharon Ranke Nancy and John Temelko Thomson Reuters George Tohme United Way Of Metropolitan Dallas, Inc. Denise Warren Patsy & Dewitt White Emily Wright Zion United Church Of Christ Memorials Garbarino Memorial Fund Robert Galan Janice Garbarino Margaret Garbarino Haithcock Household invited to our Annual Dinner Meeting. All donations are 100% tax deductible and benefit CARE’s family focused programming. Become a Prominent Supporter Today! The Board of Directors, staff, volunteers and clients at CARE of Southeastern Michigan are very excited to announce the start of the new “Leadership Circle.” The Leadership Circle is a recognition level for donors and supporters of the organizations mission. In fiscal year 2012-2013 CARE was able to serve over 25,000 individuals because of the community’s continuous support. Being a member of the Leadership Circle will provide contributors with special recognition in our agency newsletter, on our website and in our annual report. Leadership Circle Supporters will also be The Leadership Circle will include supporters that have provided CARE with monetary donations accumulating $1,000 and above over the course of 2014. This could be a one time gift, or a pledge to give during the 12 month period. If you would like to show your commitment as being a donor in the “Leadership Circle,” please visit www.careofsem.com. If you have questions or would like to make your pledge please contact CARE’s Fund Development Manager, Meghan Kindsvater, at [email protected] or 586.541.5269. & *Times, dates, and locations subject to change. Please call CARE or check our website for any updated information. Spring 2014 Specialty Workshops Non-Profit Org U.S. Postage PAID Permit No. 25 Fraser, MI 48026 31900 utica road fraser, mi 48026 If you would like receive our newsletter electronically, please call 586.541.2273 ext. 212 or [email protected]. CARE of Southeastern Michigan’s mission is to educate, link and support individuals, families, businesses and communities affected by family concerns, workplace challenges, mental health conditions and the misuse of alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs. Federal, state and local funding has been provided through Macomb County Community Mental Health/Office of Substance Abuse and other funding sources to support project costs. Recipients of substance use services have rights protected by state and federal law and promulgated rules. For information, contact CARE of Southeastern Michigan Recipient Rights Advisor, 31900 Utica Road, MI 48026, 586.541.2273 or State Recipient Rights Coordinator, P.O. Box 30664, Lansing, Michigan 48909. Please feel free to be a “copy cat,” and make all the copies you want of this newsletter. You have our permission! Stay Connected with CARE! This is our last hard copy mailing. Sign up for electronic news Visit Us EM.COM CAREOFS CAR E of SE Like us on FaceBook ns. e p Hap lp. Life an he c We Mich @CAREofSeMI igan ICE Y OFF T N U E CO nue WAY N mack ave mi 48230 8 1 7 10 e p o i n t e , 2 7 s gros 13.332.09 3 tel s Call U 1 . C A R E 586. 54 Scan QR Code for more information MA IN OF FI CE 31900 utica road fr aser, mi 48026 Watch Us