T HIS M ONTH : F EBRUARY 2015 I SSUE This Month: Panel Discussion; Attending a National Conference Newsletter Editor: Crys Kelly 17 TH A NNUAL —F IREMEN ’ S 5K The 17th annual Firemen’s 5K and One Mile Fun Run will be held at 8 A.M. on Saturday, May 23th at Arborlawn United Methodist Church, 5001 Briarhaven, Fort Worth. All proceeds benefit the Fort Worth Chapter of The Compassionate Friends, The WARM Place, and The Firemen’s 5K Scholarship Fund. This is a major source of funds for our chapter. tribute water to the runners. If you can commit to a Thursday evening meeting and the Saturday morning of Memorial Day weekend, please call Lori Carver at 817-819-5530 or e-mail [email protected]. If you or your company would like to sponsor the race, please see the form at the back of this newsletter. Sponsor donations are needed by April 1st. Volunteers are also needed to pass out packets, point out the route or dis- We invite you to join us and walk or run in memory of your loved one. Online registration is now available at www.athlete360.com . Registration fees are $20, until May 15th, $25 after May 15th, and $30 on race day. G ROUNDHOG D AY According to folklore, every year on this day, a groundhog named Punxsutawney Phil, in a little town by the same name in Pennsylvania, wakes from his winter slumber, rises from his cozy little burrow and gazes about at his surroundings. Legend has it that if he doesn’t see his shadow, he shakes himself off and ventures out to welcome an early spring. If he sees his shadow, he becomes frightened and quickly retreats down his hole to safety where he goes back to sleep and the winter weather continues. This year Punxsutawney Phil saw his shadow, thus predicting another six more weeks of winter. When we lose a child, we seem to linger in a perpetual winter. For a very long time we see our world as a barren winter landscape. The warmth and love that our children brought to our hearts has been ripped away by their death and we’re left with a cold aching void. We are a little like Punxsutawney Phil. We might be afraid to come to our first Compassionate Friends meeting. We may want to hide from the world and stay in our burrows. But if we are very © 2014 Compassionate Friends Fort Worth - All rights reserved brave and come to a meeting, we will meet others who have survived the long cold winter of their hearts. We gather to share our stories, support each other, love each other and very slowly we begin to and rejoin life as best we can. Remember, we need not walk alone. Janet G. Reyes TCF/AAC Steering Committee Chapter Leaders Crys Kelly (817) 875-7490 Jaye Sanford (817) 475-9363 Contact via Chapter Email [email protected] Treasurer Steve Roberts (817) 914-8689 [email protected] Hospitality Marty Akeman (817) 636-5645 Christine Anderson (817) 300-6196 Lydia Moore (817) 829-3801 Newsletter Crys Kelly (817) 875-7490 [email protected] Librarian Liz Hutchison (817) 726-3999 Welcome Bags Janet DuPertuis Committee Members Jeff Abodeely Jeff & Marty Martin Jerry & Sharon Austry Charles & Genie Dean “When you are sorrowful look again in your heart and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight”. Kahlil Gibran Monthly Newsletter Newsletters are emailed to those on our recipient list and available online the 1st of every month on our website. Need to Talk? Listed below are parents, grandparents and siblings who have walked where you are today. If you are having a difficult day and just want to talk, please call. Addiction Helen (817) 431-6964 Auto Jeff & Marty (817) 4759141 Grandchild/ Multiple Loss Lydia (817) 829-3801 Drowning Debi (817) 270-3275 Drowning (Young Child) Stacy (817) 656-7540 or (817) 845-3433 Long Term Illness Marty (817) 636-5645 Homicide (Only Child) Steve (817) 914-8689 [email protected] Suicide (Only Child) Joy (817) 453-2227 Suicide Glinda (817) 485-3772 Siblings Cheryl (817) 624-7043 B REATH “I was dreaming, but I felt awake. Everything around me was darker and deeper than night. I had no eyes to open. Hannah was with me. I could feel her weight on my lap and the softness of her hair on the top of her head where I rested my chin. She was leaning against me, or perhaps I was leaning against her. I held her quietly, breathing her in. My eyes opened. I could barely see the outlines of furniture in the room. Had I been awake or asleep? I wasn’t sure. I could feel Hannah’s presence, lingering, as if she had just stepped away for a moment. I closed my eyes, knowing she had been here, greedy for her to return.” The foregoing is taken from the book Hannah’s Gift. Her mother, Maria Housden recounted sensing Hannah’s presence in a dream after her death to let her know she was very much alive, just on a different spiritual level. Hannah’s Gift Lessons from a Life Fully Lived Maria Housden L IFE LESSONS IN M OVIES Each one of us will at one time in our lives look upon a loved one who is in need and ask the same question: We are [email protected] willing to help, Lord, but what, if anything, is needed? For it is true we can Middle of the seldom help those closest to us. Either we don't know what part of ourselves to give night calls or, more often than not, the part we have Liz (817) 726-3999 to give is not wanted. And so it is with “A thousand words can't bring those we live with and should know who elude us. But we can still love them - we you back I know because I tried can love completely without complete And neither can a million tears understanding. N ATIONAL C ONFERENCE National conferences have become an annual pilgrimage for so many who attend just once. This meeting will be a panel of parents, grandparents and siblings who will share the fulfillment of the TCF conference experiences. This year, Dallas will be the site of the 38th TCF National Conference on July 10-12, 2015. "Hope Shines Bright ... Deep in the Heart" is the theme of this year's event, which promises more of last year's great national Conference experience. The 2015 Conference will be held at the Hyatt Regency Downtown Dallas. We'll keep you updated with details here, on the national website as well as on our TCF/USA Facebook Page and elsewhere as they become available. Plan to come and be a part of this heartwarming experience. The Hyatt Regency Downtown Dallas, 300 Reunion Blvd., Dallas, TX 75207, is now accepting reservations for TCF's National Conference. To make your reservation, please access the following link, which will take you directly to TCF's reservation portal on the Hyatt's website. Conference attendees are receiving a discounted room rate of $129. We anticipate a large attendance for the conference, so we encourage you to make your reservation as soon as it is convenient for you. I know because I cried”. Sarah Ratliff A River Runs Through It TCF National Office — The Compassionate Friends . P. O. Box 3696 . Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696 Fax: (630) 990-0246 Call toll-free: (877) 969-0010 9 A.M. - 5 P.M., CST, Monday-Friday. Email:[email protected] Website:www.compassionatefriends.org The website contains links to TCF’s national and regional conferences, brochures, e-newsletter, online support community, We Need Not Walk Alone magazine, “Healing the Grieving Heart” and “The Open to Hope Show” radio program archives, webinars, chapter websites, and other resources. Regional Coordinator: Bill Campbell 972-935-0673 [email protected] Facebook: The Compassionate Friends/USA In Spanish: Los Amigos Compasivos/USA Twitter: Text follow TCFofUSA to 40404 T HE C ORD R EFLECTIONS We are connected, My child and I, By n invisible cord Not seen by the eye. With the death of my sister came some painful realizations: that life isn’t always fair or predictable; that sometimes even my best still isn’t good enough; and that from the day of her death, the happy events in my life would always be tinged with sadness. It’s not like the cord That connects us ‘til birth This cord can’t be seen By any on Earth. This cord does its work Right from the start. It binds us together Attached to my heart. I know that it’s there Though no one can see The invisible cord From my child to me. The strength of this cord Is hard to describe. It can’t be destroyed, It can’t be denied. It’s stronger than any cord Man could create It withstands the test, And can hold any weight. Though you are gone, And not here with me, The cord is still there But no one can see. It pulls at my heart I am bruised, I am sore, But this cord is my lifeline As never before. I am thankful that God Connects us this way A mother and child Death can’t take it away! “As long as I can I will look at this world for both of us. As long as I can I will laugh with the birds, I will sing with the flowers, I will pray to the stars, for both of us”. Sascha Wagner Despite the pain and loss, death has also left me with some valuable lessons and precious gifts. As a result of my sister’s death, I have a great appreciation of life and a great compassion for those who hurt. I have learned to be a survivor and to have a successful career and productive life in the face of tremendous grief and loss. I have been gifted with good friends and special people to help me through the rough times. But most of all I have the gift of time—time to heal and time to replace the painful memories of death with the priceless memories of my sister’s life. Cathy Schanberger B IRTHDAY T ABLE February birthdays will be celebrated at this month’s meeting. If your child, grandchild, or sibling’s birthday is in January, please feel free to bring a photo or memento of them for the birthday table. It is also a great time to bring their favorite food or snack to share with the group on the refreshment table. W ANT A B UT TON ? Photo buttons are a perfect way to share your child, grandchild or sibling with others at monthly meetings. If you would like to have one, simply bring a photo to any of our monthly chapter meetings and we can make one for you. There is no cost. Keep in mind that the button is about 2 1/4 inches in diameter, so the picture needs to fit inside that area and the actual photo is used, so make sure it’s one we can cut into a small circle. LOVE GIFTS In Memory of Beth Alden DuPertuis By Janet S. DuPertuis Love Gifts are a thoughtful way to remember our precious children and can be made ONLINE on our website or by sending your donation to: Steve Roberts P.O. Box 202654 Arlington, 76006 A Journey of Hope Hope is not an easy word for Grievers. But we, more than most others, need to understand what hope can mean for us. Hope means finding the Strength to live with grief. Hope means nurturing with Grace The joy of remembrance. Hope Means embracing with tenderness and pride our own life and the gifts left to us by those we have lost. Visit our website for more Online Grief Resources 2301 N. Sylvania Ave. Fort Worth, TX 76111 ADDRESS SERVICE REQUESTED www.TheCompassionateFriendsFW.com February 2015 Fort Worth Chapter Meeting We meet the 2nd Tuesday of every month. Meeting Time: 7 P.M.—9 P.M. This Month’s Program Panel discussion on attending a National Conference Refreshments Please feel free to bring refreshments to share. ~ Paper Goods and Drinks are provided ~ A RBORLAWN U NITED M ETHODIST C HURCH - R OOM 271 5001 Briarhaven Rd., Fort Worth A Special Message To those of you who are newly bereaved and receiving our newsletter for the first time, we warmly welcome you to The Compassionate Friends. We are a self-help organization of parents, grandparents and adult siblings who have experienced the death of a loved one. We offer understanding and support through our monthly meetings, a lending library, support materials and loving telephone listeners. Please do not be afraid to come to a gathering. Every other person in the room has lost a child, grandchild or sibling. They come because they feel the need to be with someone else who understands. We know it takes courage to attend that first gathering, but those who do come find an atmosphere of understanding from others who have experienced the grief that you have now. Nothing is asked of you. There are no dues or fees and you do not have to speak. There is a special feeling at meetings of The Compassionate Friends. Benefitting The Firemen’s 5K (501c3) Scholarship Fund Honoring fallen Fort Worth Firefighters Phillip Dean and Brian Collins and The Compassionate Friends and The WARM Place grief support centers for families who have experienced the death of someone they love •$1,000 Sponsor - Name on race course sign, t-shirt and race sponsorship banner •$500 Sponsor - Name on t-shirt and race course sign •$250 Sponsor - Name on race course sign (18”x24”) • In Kind Donation of $500 or more – Name on t-shirt • Additional Sponsorships: • Finish or Start line race banner 4’x 12’ (limited availability) - $750 • Finish or Start line race banner 4’x 4’ (limited availability) - $400 Donations needed by April 1, 2015 Proceeds benefit The Firemen’s 5K Scholarship Fund, The Compassionate Friends & The WARM Place Please call Lori Carver at 817-819-5530 with questions or e-mail [email protected] Race date – May 23, 2015 Please return completed second page with donation Firemen’s 5K– 501c3 Name: Amount of Donation: Name as it should appear: If name is to appear on t-shirt or race banner, please email logo to [email protected] Make checks payable to Firemen’s 5K & mail to P.O. Box 10249, Fort Worth, TX 76114 Firemen’s 5K – 501c3
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