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Kathy Heustess Tell us a little bit about yourself… I am a life long resident of South Carolina. I was born in Horry County in the Green Sea community on a tobacco farm. I currently live in Florence, am married and have two grown sons. When I am not working, beach is still my favorite place to be – I guess it’s my Horry County roots! I feel so fortunate to have a “vacation destination” so close by! How long have you been with your current employer? I have been with ArborOne since 1989! It’s amazing to me to realize that I have been here for almost 26 years. I think it’s a testament to the company. I love what I do and I feel privileged to serve the farmers of the Pee Dee region. They work so hard and have an independent and entrepreneurial spirit. How did you get started in your career? I started my career in a CPA firm with my goal to become a CPA. After being with the firm for a few years, an opportunity came up in private industry so I made the move. In 1989, I learned of an opportunity at Farm Credit as the controller. I came to Farm Credit as controller but still attained my CPA goal in the meantime. I am a firm believer getting and using your education as a means to attain personal financial security. Through the years I have worked in various positions, including chief financial officer and chief operating officer. Three years ago, when my predecessor retired, I became the CEO. It has been a very rewarding experience. The staff and our board of directors are wonderful to work with—just a good, hardworking bunch of people, to whom I owe my success. Tell us about your education… I have a BS in Business Administration from Francis Marion University. Share with us the highlights of your professional career…. I have enjoyed my career at Farm Credit for an array of reasons. First and foremost, it’s very rewarding to work in the agricultural industry to provide agricultural financing to such dedicated customers – our SC farmers. As a child who grew up working on a tobacco farm, I understand the mindset of farmers and the stressful circumstances that they face year after year, from commodity prices, equipment purchases and repairs (and breakdowns) to the weather. My favorite days in my professional life are those spent out in the field, visiting with our customers. Of course, over the almost 26 years at Farm Credit, I have seen a lot of changes. Being a farmer today is a lot harder, riskier, more political than it was “back in the day”! I think that is why there are fewer farmers who have to manage larger operations in order to be efficient and still provide the safest and least expensive food in the world. What are some of the things you’ve learned in your current position…. I have learned that people skills and sheer tenacity are more important than technical skills. My technical skills got me hired. However, it is my drive that helped me to reach the CEO position. I consider myself to have business savvy www.scwomanmagazine.com and the ability to relate to people. I hope the legacy that I will leave at ArborOne Farm Credit will be that of a strong culture of employees who want to work to provide solutions which will make our customers’ lives more successful. What would you have done differently if you could do it over again, professionally and/or personally? I believe that everything happens for a reason. I try to live with no regrets. I think I have gotten the “big things” right. My two greatest treasures in life are my two sons. I know of no greater joy than the time I have spent just being their “mom”. Now, tell us what you like to do in your “off” time….. In my off time, I like to see my boys, go to the beach, have a good meal…and just unwind. I used to like to do “projects” like refinishing furniture or making something crafty such as painting or crocheting. I think I get that from my mom, who always has a project or four going on! I hope that when I retire that I will be able to pick up some of those hobbies again. Please share with us some things you’re passionate about….. I know it sounds cliché but I am passionate about my work, family and friends. I believe that you get back what you give. Any financial tips to offer women in particular? Women need to be independent. What I mean is, be financially and emotionally able to take care of yourself. If you are married, be involved in and understand your family’s finances, because circumstances can and do change for a vast variety of reasons. If finance is not your forte, get a trusted advisor, who can guide you. In the long run, you will be better off, and better protected. Name: Kathy Heustess Occupation: CEO, ArborOne Farm Credit Location: Florence, SC Website: www.arborone.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 7 “Woman to Woman” I love March, I love the thoughts of spring and new life, I love the start of daylight savings time, I love a new season. March is always my start-over for anything I haven’t started from the first of the year. This usually involves spring cleaning and clean-out. Recently in a Bible Study I attended, the leader made a lot of us realize we have too much stuff. Too many clothes we don’t wear, too many knick knacks we don’t need, too much food in our pantry that we let go to waste. So, that’s been my mission, lately. Getting ruthless with clothes I haven’t worn, giving knick knacks that are packed up to the Salvation Army, donating foods we aren’t using to Churches Assisting People (CAP). Let me encourage you to go through your house and clean out. Get rid of the clutter and let it help others…lighten the load this spring! From the Publisher Diane Dale If you’re ready for Spring…raise your hand. What a rollercoaster ride it’s been with the temperatures. Once day it’s 43, the next day it’s 73…what’s up with that? I hope you have a wonderful start to the Spring Season…and be sure to tell our advertisers you saw them in South Carolina Woman Magazine…this helps us all! Diane Please tell our advertisers that you saw them in South Carolina Woman Magazine! For links to their websites, go to www.scwomanmagazine.com Check out South Carolina Woman Magazine on Pinterest South Carolina Woman Magazine is a monthly publication, distributed throughout Horry, Georgetown, and Marion Counties. All editorial submissions become the property of Dale Publishing, Inc. and cannot be returned. The contents of all submissions are for information and entertainment purposes only. This publication accepts no responsibility for the consequences of any actions taken from written or implied information within the contents of this publication. All material is copyrighted by Dale Publishing, Inc. and cannot be copied in whole or part without the written consent of the publisher. Dale Publishing, Inc. PO Box 2265 Conway, SC 29528 Phone/Fax (843) 397-9020 E-Mail [email protected] www.scwomanmagazine.com Publisher/Sales Diane Dale (843) 222-6631 Other Dale Publications: Transitions News Magazine www.transitionsnewsmagazine.com Parent News www.parentnewsmagazine.com Waccamaw Outdoors www.waccamawoutdoors.com Read South Carolina Woman Magazine online at scwomanmagazine.com Editorial/Composition Cindy Sudowski on 8 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com www.facebook.com/pages/South-Carolina-Woman-Magazine/ ment. The great thing about this product is it will leave no streaks, no orange hue, just a gorgeous custom tan. 2. Can I get custom nails to match my dress? a. Of course! Our Nail Artist is one of the most popular in the area, and Pam can help match colors to your dress. We do recommend that you bring your dress with you for best results. 3. Should I bring in a picture of my updo before the day of my appointment? a. Yes, this is a great idea. 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Women make up half discuss it openly,” claims psychotheraof all workers in the United States with pist Olivia Mellan in an article pubnearly four in ten homes having a mom lished in Psychology Today. “Most people that is also a working mother. Although relate to money much as they relate to a women make over 85% percent of all conperson in an ongoing and complex way sumer buying decisions, and account for that taps deep-seated emotions. When 30% of all privately held firms in the U.S., two individuals form an enduring relawe often fall short when it comes to our tionship with each other, money is own fiscal health. always a partner too.” Often times, the According to the National Center for non-financial partner of the household Women, 80-90% of women will be solely entrusts financial decisions to the other responsible for their finances at some point partner, and this often leads to resentin their lives - partly due to divorce, partly ment, and misunderstandings. CCNB’s due to the fact that (on average) women Kinard suggests, “Regardless of who outlive men by seven years, and partly due oversees finances, there should be a routo women living more independently. However, only one in ten women feel that Two top executives from CCNB – Coastal Carolina tine discussion between partners regardthey are properly “prepared” to make wise National Bank. Dawn Kinard, (shown left) is the compa- ing the financial position of the housefinancial decisions on their own. ny’s SVP/CFO, and has been with CCNB for nearly hold. Open communication leads to a “Generally, women live longer than men five years and has seventeen years experience in com- healthier relationship between partners so they will need more retirement savmunity banking. Chris McElhinny, SVP/Commercial and, very often, smarter financial deciings,” says Dawn Kinard, Senior Vice Banking Manager (shown right) has twenty-four years sions.” One of the biggest mistakes anyone President and Chief Financial Officer of in banking and has been with can make is not putting enough money Coastal Carolina National Bank in Myrtle Coastal Carolina National Bank for over three years. into savings. Generally, a fifth of your Beach. “On average, women have shorter income should go towards financial pricareer spans and earn less wages than men which add to the orities including, debt payments, retirement contributions and financial challenges women face.” According to the Bureau of savings. Financial institutions like Coastal Carolina National Labor Statistics, women earn 80% of what men earn on average. When it comes to finances, it’s important to know that several Bank offer several saving account options, including IRAs and CDs. For individuals under 18 years of age, we offer savings financial tools exist to help you manage your money. There are accounts with no minimum requirement. As parents, it’s never several apps and websites that interface well with your existing too early to educate your child on the importance of saving bank accounts. “Coastal Carolina National Bank provides its money and preparing them for the future. CFO, Dawn Kinard customers with a useful home budgeting tool free of charge as says, “Education is key to savings. There are more opportunities part of our online banking package. We believe that a bank to save than you might think. Visiting with a financial advisor is should do more for its customers than just process transactions. an effective way to begin educating yourself on the many Building financial literacy and aptitude are ways CCNB gives options available.” back to our customers and our community. We want to empowFiscal responsibility extends far beyond the home. According er our customers to feel confident with their financial decito Forbes, the number of women-owned businesses increased by sions,” says Kinard. 59% between 1997 and 2013 (one and a half times the rate of “An individual needs to take ownership for their financial U.S. businesses overall). Over the past 16 years, employment by position regardless of gender. The first step to managing your companies owned by female entrepreneurs was up by 10% and money is to take the first step. Get started by taking a close look their revenues grew by 63%. at where your money is being spent. Once you analyze your “The increase in women-owned businesses has soared nationspending, you can determine essential spending (e.g., mortgage wide, as well as locally, over my career in banking” says Chris payment, utilities, food, gas) from discretionary spending, and McElhinny, Senior Vice President, Commercial Banking then make any necessary adjustments” says Kinard. Another W 10 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com Manager responsible for business development and commercial lending for Coastal Carolina National Bank. “With the divorce rate at an all time high compounded by the rising cost of living, women are getting creative and using their talents in very productive ways to start new businesses. Women bring a unique perspective to owning and managing a business, and often times excel because of their innate ability to understand what motivates the consumers’ buying decision. Women in key senior management positions are also on the uptick for similar reasons,” says McElhinny. “A common mistake female business owners are making is their failure to seek out a multitude of programs and grants available locally, statewide, and even on a federal level for women-owned businesses. The common criterion is that 51% of the business be owned by a woman. This does not mean in just ownership alone; the primary decision maker of the business has to be a woman. As a consumer-focused community banker, I help customers by guiding them through these nuances, and by indentifying which programs are available. I help them gain access to these special programs, and look for ways to meet the necessary requirements. On a federal level, the Small Business Administration (SBA) has numerous minority programs where the government will guarantee a portion of a bank’s loan encouraging the financial institution to grant approval. For female-owned businesses, this guarantee is higher than the standard SBA programs thus incentivizing women-owned businesses even further. State, federal and local grants should also be researched for start-up and expanding businesses. The availability of grants can be obtained through your county’s local small business development office, usually housed within a local college or chamber of commerce. Many grants are never disbursed simply due to the lack of awareness that they exist. In addition, several communities offer free business services, such as the formulation of business plans, industry and competitor research and banking advice to help women and everyone in the community learn how to better position businesses for financing. Such groups include, but are not limited to, the Small Business Development Center and SCORE, which is a non-profit organization that is mainly comprised of retired volunteers from a cross-section of industries. SCORE has assisted more than 10 million small businesses since their inception,” says CCNB’s Chris McElhinny. It is estimated that women will control two-thirds of the consumer wealth in the U.S. over the next decade and be the beneficiaries of the largest transference of wealth in our country’s history—compelling insight for anyone curious about who’s keeping the U.S. economy going these days. According to CCNB’s Dawn Kinard, “Whether we’re examining our finances or other aspects of our lives, the only limitations we have as women are the limitations we create for ourselves, usually by comparing ourselves to others. The statistics regarding women often being the financial managers of households and influencing the majority of purchases made in the U.S., accentuates that financially, women are more empowered than they think.” Coastal Carolina National Bank is a five-star rated community bank that combines local market experience with a “We Can Do That” attitude. This March, CCNB will open its third branch in North Myrtle Beach, adding to its other locations in Myrtle Beach and Garden City. For more information, visit www.myccnb.com. Member FDIC. Equal housing lender. www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 11 That’s Wright What is My Personal Injury Case Worth By Jill Wright This is by far the number one question posed to me by clients and potential clients. I have handled personal injury cases for almost 16 years now. My answer is a typical lawyer answer, “it depends.” I can see you rolling your eyes but let me explain. ALL personal injury cases, no matter the type, require proof of 3 things: 1). A negligent act or wrongful conduct on the part of a person, 2). that causes injury to another person, 3). that results in damages suffered by the injured party. Civil cases are about collecting money. Causation is an element that must be proven by the injured person before they are entitled to receive any money damages. This should make sense to you as it would not be proper to expect a negligent wrongdoer to pay for injuries that he or she did not cause. However, I reserve the topic of causation for another article. This article, I want to focus on damages as damages is how we measure the worth of a personal injury case. Because we cannot turn back the hands of time to undo the negligent act or wrongful conduct, the only remedy available to the injured party is money damages. The court system is designed to determine how best to make the injured party as “whole” as can be expected after they have been injured. As long as all three of the elements listed above are able to be proven in a court of law, the system should work to restore the injured party as much as possible. So, when we talk about “damages,” we are talking about what the injured party is entitled to receive as a matter of law with regard to their injuries. South Carolina Law provides that 12 persons injured due to another persons’ negligence or wrongful act are entitled to receive a laundry list of money damages, including but not limited to, payment of their medical bills, pain and suffering, reimbursement for out of pocket expenses, prescriptions paid, lost wages recovered and a “catch all” category that lawyers refer to as “loss of enjoyment of life.” In addition, if the injured party’s injuries are considered permanent, they may be entitled to money compensation for the disability caused by their permanent injury. Items such as medical bills, prescription costs, out of pocket expenses and lost wages are relatively less difficult to ascertain. You just add up the bills and receipts. The medical bills are totaled. The prescription costs are totaled. The out of pocket expenses are totaled and …viola, you have a number. But the case is often worth more than just this number. The challenge comes when determining “how much is pain and suffering worth?” or “what do you mean by loss of enjoyment of life?” Unfortunately, the law does not provide a neat mathematical equation for responding to these questions. Lawyers are often resigned to using their own knowledge and experience in dealing with past cases when estimating these damage amounts. My past experience and shared stories with colleagues is what I use to determine the ultimate value of a client’s case. The amount of money the client should expect to receive depends on what we believe a jury would provide at trial. If you are a personal injury client, and you do not like what the insurance company is offering you by way of settlement, M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine you can file a lawsuit. If you think the insurance company is not paying you enough for your expenses or for pain and suffering or for some other aspect of your damages, then you can file a lawsuit. By filing a lawsuit, you are literally gambling that a jury will award you more than the insurance company’s offer at the end of the trial. It is very similar to a poker player raising his bet because he is gambling that he has the best hand at the table. I use the analogy of gambling because by electing to go to a jury trial, no party or lawyer in the case knows what kind of jury they will end up with. In some respects, we all go into trial a bit “blind.” By responding to your lawsuit, the insurance company is betting that a jury would not award you more money than their top settlement offer. Again, I use the word “betting” purposefully as jury trials are always a gamble for both sides of a lawsuit. The only way to force an insurance company to pay you for your injuries is to obtain a jury verdict, and subsequently a court order, in your favor. Both sides of a lawsuit have the right to present their case to the jury but neither side can be sure of what the jury will decide. I had the honor and privilege of working as a law clerk to then-Circuit Court Judge, Honorable Paula H. Thomas, right out of law school. I loved how she explained things to the jury. She said, when both parties walk into a courtroom, the scales of justice are equal. Once all of the evidence is presented, the scales will tip either in favor of the injured party, the plaintiff, or in favor of the defendant. “It will be up to you as a jury to use your col- www.scwomanmagazine.com lective experiences, knowledge and common sense to determine which way and by how much the scales tip,” she would say. The point I am making is this. Please do not expect insurance companies to be concerned with making things right for you if you have been injured, or being fair to you, or showing compassion for your situation. They are in the business of keeping their money. They will never pay a penny more than what they think they will be ordered to pay by a court. So, how do I answer the question when clients ask me how much their case is worth? I explain to them that there are a number of variables that factor into my answer. For example, pre-existing conditions, severity of the injury, permanency of the injury, how my client would present as a witness to the jury, etc. For years, I have heard lawyers throw around a general answer that an injured person should accept any settlement offer that falls between “two to three times their medical bills.” This answer came from the fact that juries back in the old days generally awarded two to three times your medical bills. Nowadays, juries are not so generous. This is especially true in our jurisdiction of Horry County. More common than not, juries will award the medical bills or an amount just over the medical bills. This may seem neither fair nor reasonable but this changing dynamic of jury verdicts is what drives lower settlement offers from insurance companies. If you cannot get a “good” settlement offer from an insurance company, it is not necessarily because you have a bad lawyer. It is just a sign of the times. Having said that, now more than ever is the time to hire an attorney for any personal injury case suffered by you or a family member. Because the process varies so much from case to case, because there are multiple variables that affect the value of a personal injury case, and because of the changing dynamic of jury verdicts, it is never advisable to proceed on your own with an insurance com- pany. Not hiring an attorney is one sure way to deprive yourself of anything close to a fair and reasonable offer, let alone jury verdict. Jill Wright is an attorney with Mike Kelly Law Group. She can be reached by telephone at (843)946-7550, by email at [email protected] or by mail at 816 Broadway St., Myrtle Beach, SC 29577. Financial Tip Don't rely on someone else, like a husband or boyfriend, for your financial security. Educate yourself about money management and investing. Winter is the perfect time for your skin cancer screening. If you’ve spent the past several months in the sun, be sure to schedule your skin cancer screening now. You need a thorough skin check every year or sooner if you have noticed any changes to a mole or a new growth on your skin. At Inlet Medical Associates, we are experts in detecting skin cancer. To schedule your screening, call (843) 651-4111. KNOW YOUR MOLE ABCS A B C D > 6mm E one half doesn’t edges are ragged, shades of tan, bigger than a pencil spots that stick out match the other notched or blurred brown & black eraser above skin A=Asymmetry • B=Border • C=Color • D=Diameter • E=Elevation www.inletmedicalassociates.com www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 13 A Woman You Want To Meet Terri LaPorta Lowes Foods Floral Designer Say it with Flowers from Lowes Foods Given as a gift, floral arrangements are an outward expression of love and care for the people in our lives. Be it romance, celebration or memorial, flowers say, “You are special to me.” But, just like the infinite range of human expression, there are many ways to assemble a floral arrangement to capture that expression. Getting it just right is an art and, like any other art form, there are few that have the creative flair and eye for color to accomplish it (though we all like to think we do). Terri LaPorta, lead floral designer at your local Lowes Foods at Grande Dunes, is one of these few. For twenty-two years, Terri and her husband ran his family’s florist business in Pennsylvania. It was there that she honed her skills and developed her creative talent. “I was a school teacher before, so of course I took some classes,” Terri reflected, “but it was really the hands-on creation that really sparked my passion for floral design.” When the right business opportunity arose, combined with a strong desire to move south, Terri and her husband sold the flower shop and moved to Myrtle 14 Beach. “I didn’t want to give up what I love to do,” Terri explained, “but I wanted it to be different.” The lead floral designer position at Lowes Foods was exactly what she meant by “different”. No more constantly ringing phone, no more complicated delivery coordination. “Here at Lowes Foods, it’s all about presentation because almost all of our customers are on foot,” she continued. “When people see a stunning arrangement it attracts their attention.” From unique creative arrangements, M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine like Terri’s signature floral birthday cake, to exotic and seasonal plants or personally customized arrangements, the floral department at Lowes Foods can offer exactly what you need for any occasion at a price you can afford. Terri agreed, “My shop could never have competed with these prices.” Interestingly, a recent study by The Society of American Florists revealed that a much higher percentage of consumers stated they typically purchase flowers at supermarkets versus a local florist shop, citing lower price and the convenience factor. This statistic is even higher among the younger generations. These days we are all juggling a lot of responsibilities. Throw in a holiday, wedding or another special occasion and getting the details done can seem impossible. Take Terri’s advice, “Come on in and order your flowers, pick up a cake and buy the champagne all at one place. “ So the next time you need flowers for a prom or a party, are looking for the right romantic gesture, or just want to brighten up your home, come by and see Terri LaPorta at Lowes Foods, Grande Dunes, or visit the floral section at any local Lowes Foods. Lowes Foods, LLC is a wholly owned subsidiary of Alex Lee, Inc. Founded in 1954, Lowes Food Stores, LLC employs nearly 9,000 people and operates over 100 stores in North Carolina, South Carolina and Virginia. The company is committed to offering fabulous fresh foods and delivering personal attention to each of its customers. Locally owned and operated Lowes Food, LLC is committed to buying local products and supporting local suppliers. They offer programs such as Lowes Foods To Go, a personal shopping service as well an online meal planner that focuses on saving people time and money. Information about these programs and other services offered by the company may be found atwww.lowesfoods.com or by following Lowes Foods on Facebook or Twitter. www.scwomanmagazine.com Spring and Summer: Seasons of Injury By Richard Owens, PT, MS, OCS, Cert. SHT, CWcHP, Cert. DN As we head away from the chilly embrace of winter (I know a good SC winter is brutal), for many people it means one thing - time to get off of the couch and enjoy the sunshine. Many of us like to spend that time actively, whether hitting the beach for a game of volleyball, lacing up the running shoes for a jog, or cleats for a game of softball. We love to humble ourselves on one of our many golf courses, or challenge a friend in a tennis match for bragging rights. Whether it’s running a marathon, or just getting out for a walk, this inherent calling to get outdoors also results in a predictable upswing in sports injuries, often caused by doing too much, too 16 soon. Stress fractures, shin splints, patellar and Achilles tendonitis, ITB syndrome, and rotator cuff tendonitis all seem to meteorically rise during the warmer months. These are common overuse injuries that tend to “pop-up” as we attempt to feed our recreational hunger. Sprains and strains of the ligaments and tendons of the ankle and knee, wrist and elbow are also very common sports injuries as we attempt to relive our youth and leave it all out on the field. Over-the-counter or a medically prescribed anti-inflammatory may help some conditions while some, more involved, conditions may occasionally need an injection such as cortisone to effectively resolve. As with any treatment there is a risk of adverse reactions and even rupture in some tendons. Other conditions may respond to braces or straps to decrease tendon load and allow the body to heal on its own. Physical therapy may be ordered M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine by your physician to assist the healing process for your return to the court or streets. While strengthening and stretching appropriately have their benefit and can play a part in the healing process, the often quoted mantra of “no pain, no gain” does not always help with these conditions and can actually worsen the condition if you play through the pain. Stress fractures need rest, typically 6 weeks to recover, possibly wearing a boot for protection. If not it could turn into a more serious issue that requires surgery. Tennis elbow is another common summer injury. Patients feel pain on the outside of the elbow, in the muscles that extend the wrist. The counterpart to this is commonly referred to as Golfer’s elbow and affects the muscles that flex the wrist and is felt along the inside of the elbow. These can plague those who participate in any of the racket sports, golf and/or weight lifting. Both conditions are the result of overuse and cumulative micro-trauma www.scwomanmagazine.com from repetitive wrist extension and flexion with more forceful activities. Shoulders suffer in the summer, too. People are out throwing balls, both true athletes and middle-aged dads playing with their kids. Rotator cuff tendonitis and tears are common in the warmer months. Tendonitis usually responds well to anti-inflammatories and/or cortisone injections and physical therapy, while tears are usually treated by surgical repair. Regardless of the injury, the best treatment is prevention. You can reduce the frequency of injuries by maintaining some degree of health and gradually building yourself up to 100 percent over time. For example pitchers, both young and old, should watch their pitch counts and let their arms rest sufficiently between outings. Fatigue leaves you more susceptible to lazy mechanics and increased risk of injury whereas hydration and good nutrition is key for performance and proper recovery from activities. Runners should give their tissues enough time to recover and closely monitor their shoes for wear. Some experts recommend replacing shoes two to four times per year (depending on factors like mileage and surface), and complementing their regimen with running on soft surfaces and/or crosstraining with non-impact activities, like the elliptical machine, biking and swimming. To some degree, injuries are an unavoidable by-product of an active lifestyle, but the advantages of being healthy and active far outweigh the risk and incidence of injury. The pull of outside sports in the spring and summer sun will always draw a crowd, as it has for generations before us and is likely to continue generations beyond. We will continue to test our metal with those around us even at the expense of nursing a sore shoulder or knee for a few weeks thereafter. Professional Rehabilitations Services will be there to assist your recovery and get you back in the game. Our therapist will assist you with injury prevention and efficient recovery so you can get back out there and enjoy your lives. At Professional Rehabilitation Services, we treat a wide variety of musculoskeletal conditions using the latest in evidence based therapies provided by highly credentialed physical therapists. In addition to being licensed physical therapists, our providers have additional specialty certifications in orthopedics, manual therapy, sports, and vestibular treatment. Professional Rehabilitation Services now has five locations, with the newest office located in Conway. For further information on physical therapy in general or on specific sports related injuries, you can contact Richard A. Owens, PT, MS, OCS, Cert. SMT, CWcHP, Cert DN (Surfside) (843)831-0163) or Conway (843)733-3031, Dr. Richard DeFalco, DPT, OCS, CSCS, CWcHP, Cert. DN t (Myrtle Beach) (843) 839-1300, Dr. Brian P. Kinmartin, PT, DPT, MTC, OCS, STC, CWcHP, Cert. DN, Dr. Nathan Watts PT, DPT, CSCS (Pawleys Island) (843) 235-0200, Dr. Jill Phelan PT, DPT (Surfside) (843) 831-0163 or (Conway) (843) 733-3031, Dr. Kristen Lies PT, DPT (Murrell’s Inlet) (843) 3143224. You can also visit our website at www.prsrehabservices.com. Call and schedule a free 15 minute consultation today! Professional Rehabilitation Services, Inc. The Outpatient Physical Therapy Specialists Serving the community since 2004 Call for a FREE 15 minute consultation NEW CONWAY LOCATION NOW OPENING We specialize in treating, Sports-related injuries, Orthopedic injuries, Neurological problems, Balance problems, Back & neck pain, Joint-related disorders, Repetitive strain injuries, Post-surgical recovery, Golf injuries Are You Suffering from Pain or an Injury? Don’t let pain or injury compromise your competitive edge. We offer a full range of physical therapy and rehabilitation services to get you back on track. NOW OFFERING DRY NEEDLING FOR PAIN BY CREDENTIAL PROFESSIONALS Pawleys Island Murrells Inlet Surfside Beach Myrtle Beach 38 Business Center Dr. Pawleys Island, SC 29585 4731 Hwy. 17 Bypass Murrells Inlet, SC 29576 (843) 235-0200 (843) 314-3224 3076 Dick Pond Road (Hwy 544) Myrtle Beach, SC 29588 1301 48th Ave N, Suite D (Intersection of Hwy. 17 Bypass & 48th Ave., N) Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 (843) 831-0163 (843) 839-1300 NEW Conway 2676 Church St Unit D-2 (US-501) Conway, SC 29526 (843) 733-3031 WWW.PRSREHABSERVICES.COM Dr. Brian P. Kinmartin. PT, DPT, PCS, STC, CWcHP. • Richard A. Owens, Jr., PT, MS, OCS, Cert. SMT, CwcHP. • Dr. Richard DeFalco, DPT, OCS, CSCS, CWcHP. www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 17 Style-Wise: Totally Wearable Spring Trends by Sara Wise Last month we discussed spring’s color palette of beautiful pastels and earthy anchors. This month we’re talking about the new season’s trends! I know, it feels kind of cruel to show you what we have to look forward to while we remain in perpetual winter. But indulge me! Grab a cup of chili or chowder and a toboggan, and let’s gleefully fantasize about warm weather wardrobing. The Trend: Gingham Does gingham ever really go out of style in the south? Heavens no. This season it’s back in a big way after cooling itself in the shade since 2012. The scale is fun too. This spring designers are mixing large and small-scale gingham together in monochromatic palettes for a very chic look. If you want to mix colors of gingham, like the blue DVF two piece with black purse, keep the size of the pattern consistent. Gingham’s picnic pattern can visually add to your frame, so be mindful to wear it in places that you enjoy emphasizing. The smaller the check, the more figure flattering, so if your aim is to minimize hips, go with a tinier check on bottom. Want to give the illusion of a fuller bust? Pick a bigger check like the coat seen here. The Trend: Shirtdresses The shirtdress is the epitome of crisp, timeless, one-piece dressing. What’s not to love about that? With just a change of shoes, this look goes from office to beach. Options include traditional shirttail hems and level hems, plus every sleeve imaginable from sleeveless to epaulet shoulder to three-quarter length. While the early spring feels cool, layer your shirtdress of choice over leggings or crisp cigarette pants (you can even layer a basic long sleeve tee or thermal if the weather keeps being frosty). Patterned or plain, you’ll find these styles in denim, gauzy voile, and anti-wrinkle blends. Mediumwidth obi belts are also dotting spring runways. Tie one on 18 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine and show off your middle. The Trend: Culottes Culottes made the most wearable trends list, but I’m personally leaving it off. Culottes require a thin ankle and long leg line, and without both, who can afford to wear a cropped and wide combo? Pass. The Trend: Blue and White This soothing combo has been on the scene for a few seasons and continues to live on into this spring. Navy and white is a crisp combo and always looks sleek, whether in stripes or polka dots. Mix in some baby blue for added dimension and a nod to the tranquility of days spent by the sea. One of my favorite pieces is this spaghetti strap beaded tank from J. Crew because of its versatility as a layering piece that can go from casual events to smart spring soirees. The Trend: Yellow Whether it’s custard or mustard, yellow is the perfect hue for spring. www.scwomanmagazine.com Every complexion can wear a shade of yellow. Redheads do well in mustard and canary shades while brunettes look best in saffron. Blondes can usually wear yellow in butter and lemon, depending on the undertones of their skin. If you don’t feel comfortable wearing yellow near your face, pick out a great tote bag or skirt in this sunny shade. I also spied yellow playing opposite of indigo in the latest Pottery Barn catalog so feel free to dabble with yellow in home décor as well. My favorite piece is the chunky interlocking necklace from Anthropologie, pictured. An excellent finish to your yellow look is a swipe of cherry lipstick. The Trend: One Shoulder I’ve always loved one shoulder styles. The diagonal this neckline cuts across a woman is striking, flattering, and in my opinion, conveys confidence without being too revealing. This spring’s version of the style includes neck ties and side cut-outs beneath the lone shoulder and spans a mix of patterns and fabrics from sheer to satiny. Three-quarter length skirts and pants are the perfect proportion to pair with a one shoulder top, but some designers dared to bare, combining high-waist short-shorts with the open neckline. The Trend: Comfort Shoes Who isn’t thrilled that comfortable shoes are here to stay? My arches and Achilles sure are elated! The common denominator in footwear this season is width, giving our toes plenty of room to wiggle. Footbeds are thick and plush or ultrathin this spring, and if you can only get one new pair of shoes this season, a minimalist white sandal is the way to go. Classically styled athletic shoes are also big this season, falling in with the continuing athleisure trend. Birkenstocks have also crept their way back into popularity. I tossed mine out in college but will happily invest in a new pair of silver ‘stocks. www.scwomanmagazine.com The Trend: White Out Let me dispel the fashion myth: wearing all white does not make you look heavier. Yippee! In fact, wearing head to toe of any one color will give the illusion of a leaner look because the line of your body is not broken up into various colors or patterns. So relax and let’s embrace this look that suggests we’re super models who just got back from St. Tropez or recently shot a commercial for feminine products. I’m willing to give all white a try, even though, like many of you, I am pretty clumsy and prone to stains of the ink, coffee, red wine variety. A word of advice? Never pay full price for white. Even well-made pieces can show age and need to be replaced often, so buy white when it’s on sale. When it comes to wearing white, remember that skin-toned underpinnings are the way to go, not white undergarments, as many of our mamas taught us. And let us not wear our white too tight. Think body-skimming versus sausage casing and never buy unlined white unless it’s denim. Or sleepwear. The Trend: Army So last month we talked about Pantone’s spring palette, which included both woodbine and treetop. Both play into the army green theme of spring. Woodbine is a lighter version of army green, making it a pitch perfect neutral for spring (gray, feel free to sit this one out). I love this dusty green shade paired with peach or lavender or even metallics. Some designers went literal with the military trend, incorporating military-inspired jackets into their runway shows, and so can you, but think outside the ration box and try this sturdy color in a flowing dress or relaxed joggers. Sara Wise is a wedding planner, style guru, career coach, distance runner, wife and Christian. Contact her at [email protected] South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 19 Get to know….Jen Lashley, a New Face -and Facet- of Travel Connection By Anjana Duff, Travel Consultant Travel Connection I am excited to introduce you to my new associate, Jen Lashley. Jen has a passion for travel which inspires and connects you to your soul. She is now using her passion to offer clients soul-touching journeys through her own niche business, Travel ConnectionAdventures and Retreats. This new facet of our agency will be incorporated into our boutique services and will offer clients something unique in travel. Jen will focus on South America, Southeast Asia and the South Pacific for clients who desire a yoga retreat, a hiking adventure, or an intimate village immersion in a far away land. Many of these excursions include sustainable, environmentally conscious retreats and voluntourism opportunities. I couldn’t be more pleased to have Jen working with me. Her passion for art, music, yoga, and, of course, travel keeps her inspired to work with her clients in an authentic and dedicated manner. Get to know Jen in her in her own words: “Originally from Durham, North Carolina, I have always had a thirst for travel. From family trips to the west coast into Mexico, road trips up the east coast into Canada, south to Florida or to the Midwest, the travel bug bit me early on. It did not take long for me to find my way to Europe, where I had a rail pass and a backpack and discovered the world. There I was enthralled by the art, culture, history, architecture and the many different styles of food!! It was as though I had awakened from a slumber and taken my first breath. Immersing myself into the diverse cultures of this world and celebrating the humanity among strangers has always brought me such joy. It is with this passion that I find myself assisting clients in fulfilling their 20 March 2015 Anjana Duff and Jen Lashley “bucket lists,” creating life-long memories and discovering themselves by uncovering new lands. Whether your next excursion is soul-o, couple, or group, whether it includes snorkeling, yoga or zip-lining, I will work with you to design the perfect vacation. Wishing you love and light! ~Jen” Destination Spotlight by Jen: Travel Connection - Adventures & Retreats will focus on destinations which center around reconnecting you to your soul, to nature and to replenishing your body. Whether you prefer to escape by going mountain climbing or doing yoga, the perfect destination awaits you. While Indonesia and Southeast Asia have long been recognized as “the destination for spiritual renewal,” you don’t have to go that far. However, keep those on the bucket list! They are worth it! Costa Rica’s rural mountain AmaTierra Retreat and Wellness Center is an eco-lodge that is focused on organic living and Hatha yoga. With many different packages including yoga, massage, nutritional consultations and energy balancing, you are sure to feel com- South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine pletely restored. In addition, the Center also offers eco-tourism/voluntourism to promote environmental education, recycling and an organic farming initiative to assist their local village. This enables you to build a relationship with the local village and make an impact in their life and livelihood, and leave you feeling full of bliss and gratitude. Samasati Retreat and Rainforest Sanctuary is located in one of the last Private Biological Reserves in Costa Rica. This retreat includes massage, daily yoga, your choice of a treehouse casita, beach house or bungalow, as well as a private beach surrounded by rainforest. In addition, there are many activities to choose from to fill your day, if you choose: horseback riding, jungle tour with zip-line, waterfall tours, chocolate tours, surfing lessons, white water rafting, sea and river kayaking. This environmentally focused resort was built without cutting trees or clearing land, using reclaimed, local wood and preserves the local surroundings. You can feel fabulous about your decision to stay in such an environmentally mindful retreat. These are just a couple to stimulate your imagination. It is so important to get back to nature and find that pure sense of joy and wonder we all knew as children. Give that time and love to yourself. You are sure to come back renewed! Caution: There may be monkeys!! ;) Safe travels and bon voyage! Anjana Duff is the owner of Travel Connection, a boutique travel agency specializing in tropical escapes and worldly adventures. She creates customized luxury vacation packages for individuals and small groups. www.travelconnectionad.com [email protected] (843) 455-4478 www.scwomanmagazine.com A Heartfelt THANK YOU from Hearing by Design My how time flies! Unbelievable but it’s been a year already! We have learned so much in this last year and wanted to take this opportunity to express how thankful we are and to tell you all how much we appreciate your support, we are so grateful! We have been busy attending expos, festivals and other community events in the hopes of offering our services to as many people as we can. Opening our own business was challenging and difficult at times but we have had an incredible experience so far and we hope to continue serving our community for many years to come. It is a fact that hearing loss is something so many people struggle with, so if you or anyone you know is having hearing difficulties, please give us a call. We would be happy to do our very best to help in any way we can. Thank you again for making our first year so amazing! Proud recipients of the ~ 2014 Grand Strand SCORE Start-up Business of the Year! Jennifer Reed and Kayla Bracey Hearing by Design 802-A 13th Avenue, South North Myrtle Beach, SC 29582 843-272-1486 www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 21 What’s Better, Baseball or Allergies? By Mark Schecker, M.D. Coastal Carolina Allergy and Asthma Associates With the first scents of spring in the air and warmer weather approaching, many individuals’ thoughts turn to baseball. And, of course, baseball is better than allergies, but unfortunately for some, the return of the “grand old game” coincides with the return of their not-so-grand old spring misery. At about the time the first pitch is thrown in spring training, pollen begins to appear in the air from pine, oak, elm, sycamore, and walnut trees. Because of its larger size and visibility the Pine pollen usually takes the rap for all of the grief, but it’s because of these factors that Pine pollen is not a major allergen. The other hardwood trees mentioned above produce pollens that are microscopic and light; floating in the surrounding air where they are able to impact noses and eyes and do their allergy damage. In addition they can travel on the wind 50-100miles from their source making it difficult to hide from their effects. In the latter innings of the spring grass pollens are the offending 22 culprits. Like tree pollens, grass pollens are also microscopic airborne particles responsible for the sneezing fits, runny and stuffy noses, and itchy, watery eyes typical of a seasonal allergy. The most unfortunate allergy sufferers can have Asthma, which is like getting hit by a fastball to the chest. Here shortness of breath, wheezing, cough and chest tightness are the typical signs. Suffering, fortunately is not mandatory. A bullpen full of relief for allergy sufferers is available in many different forms. Of course, avoidance of the allergen is always most desirable; however, this is rarely easy or practical. Some helpful tips include staying indoors on high pollen days and avoiding outdoor activities in the early morning hours when pollen counts are at their highest. Also stay in air-conditioned environments because these units are excellent filters of airborne pollens, so keep your windows closed in your home and cars for clearer days. When avoidance is suboptimal, alternative treatment in the form of medications designed to control symptoms and allergy immunotherapy like shots can be used. Newer medications are much improved and many are now also available over the counter, but free of many of the debilitating side M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine effects of their older over-the-counter teammates. Allergy immunotherapy like allergy shots is like getting vaccinated against allergies. This is the only allergy treatment that treats the underlying cause of allergy rather than just trying to control symptoms. Slowly, over time, symptoms disappear, freeing the patient from misery, serious complications and the need for frequent medication and their potential side effects. Eventually Allergy Immunotherapy can be discontinued and for many no further allergy treatment is required again. So don’t be a wimp this year and spend this season warming the bench, shut up in the dugout; get an allergist to help coach you to become a power hitting star and get you to the playoffs and series, allergy free. Dr. Schecker, a Board Certified Allergist, is the founder of Coastal Carolina Allergy & Asthma Associates. He is a Certified Take Shape For Life Health Coach, a COPE Certified Health Coach, the co-founder of the Myrtle Beach Marathon and the founder of Camp Airwaves (a camp for children with asthma). Dr. Schecker has been recognized as the “Allergist of the Year” by the Myrtle Beach Herald (2005-2014). www.scwomanmagazine.com Mortgage Tips for Home Buyers By Kimberly Dahlin, Realtor Mortgage rates are staying incredibly low in 2015 and expectations are that the trend will continue through the Spring. Borrowers who want to refinance or buy a home have the best chance to get the lowest rate by knowing more, not less, about the mortgage game. Your Realtor, Lender, Home Inspector and Closing Attorney are all on your team. Use them for their expertise to guide you through a successful closing! Get Prepared to Purchase With A PreApproval Not only do sellers often prefer buyers who come preapproved by a lender, making their offers more attractive, but a preapproved mortgage also can help you avoid any hiccups down the line. “Find a Lender who wants to see you succeed and will help you through each step. Early approval gives the home buyer the advantage when it comes to negotiation by showing their responsibility and intent to complete the purchase”, says Donna Case of Everbank Home Mortgage. With a real pre-approval, a mortgage broker or bank loan officer will pull your credit report and submit supporting documentation to their automated underwriting system. This allows the bank to give you more accurate terms based on your actual credit score, debt obligations and income, instead of relying on your estimates. It also puts you ahead of the process when you finally go into contract and could help you close faster. Know and Maintain Your Credit Profile In the months leading to your home purchase, avoid changing your credit obligations, especially between a preapproval and the closing of your mortgage. It could hurt your credit score in a way that would raise the rate and fees related www.scwomanmagazine.com to your loan or, at worst, keep you from qualifying altogether. Don’t close or open any credit cards. Keep balances on your credit cards within normal range so it won’t mess with your debt-to-income ratio, a key factor in determining mortgage rates. And don’t buy a new ride. The car company doesn’t care if you have a house, but your mortgage lender cares if you have a big car payment. Don’t Move Money Around In the months leading up to your home purchase, keep your hands off your finances. That includes moving money from a savings account into a certificate of deposit, or CD. It also means no cashing in investments from stocks, retirement accounts or CDs. Otherwise, you will create a huge headache for yourself as you try to show the bank the paper trail of where that money came from. Prepare To Write Letters. Lenders these days scrutinize every corner of your financial life, and if something looks funny, even just a little bit, they will want to know why. That means you will have to write letters explaining the oddity. Don’t fight it. Write ‘em, send ‘em and move on. For more information call Kimberly Dahlin, Realtor 843-602-6023 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine M a r c h 2 0 1 5 23 bellafill ® Youthful Looks That Last Submitted by DermaVogue Dr. James E. Turek, Medical Director What is the bellafill® Filler Difference? Immediate correction. Natural look. Lasting improvement. Bellafill offers a new level of filler rejuvenation. In addition to immediately adding volume to smooth away facial wrinkles, also known as smile lines, Bellafill helps your skin re-create its own firm structure for beautiful, younger looking skin and lasting results. Also, Bellafill has just received FDA approval for the improvement of Acne Scars. Bellafill’s microsphere-enhanced collagen support works to correct wrinkles for long lasting results. Temporary wrinkle fillers have always been known as just that, temporary. The body eventually absorbs them thus forcing patients to receive frequent repeat injections to maintain the results they love. Bellafill’s microspheres, which the body does not absorb, creates the long lasting results that you have been searching for. Bellafill injections provide the support your skin needs for long lasting results that look and feel completely natural. The results are economical and extremely convenient because it requires fewer injections, thus saving you time and money. Why struggle with the hassles of frequent repeat injections when the solution is clear? Don’t rent your filler, own it—Bellafill! Say goodbye to the injectable wrinkle fillers of the past and hello to the ease of bellafill. 24 Bellafill injections provide you with a long lasting solution that will only improve over several months and without a doubt stand the test of time. This safe, minimally invasive, treatment is done using a simple in-office procedure. You will not only notice immediate results but you can continue with your normal daily activity without any down time. How do bellafill Injections help combat aging? Gravity, sun and environmental damage, and volume loss are all factors affecting our appearance as we age. These factors all play a major role in the appearance of fine or deep lines in our face during the aging process. There are two types of injectables that are available for diminishing the appearance of lines and wrinkles, neurotoxins and dermal fillers. Toxins reduce the appearance of wrinkles by temporarily paralyzing the muscles that are contracting to form the wrinkle in that area. Over time, the decreased contracting of the muscle reduces the appearance of the fine or deep lines. Injectable wrinkle fillers on the other hand, are injected below the skin’s surface to help create smoother more supple looking skin. Dermal fillers are used to combat the signs of aging by delivering volume, which plumps up the skin, thus smoothing out the wrinkle or fold, and since they do not paralyze any muscles the results are always natural looking. Why should I choose bellafill? Understanding Dermal Fillers When creating dermal fillers there are several types of materials used such as collagen with polymethylmethacrylate (PMMA), calcium hydroxylapatite, hyaluronic acid (HA), and poly-L-lactic acid (PLLA). With the exception of PMMA, over time all of these fillers M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine will completely degrade and will be absorbed into your body. PMMA microspheres do not degrade and are not absorbed. This allows for long lasting wrinkle correction. Bellafill uses these microspheres to aid in collagen production thus creating the natural volume and smoothness of younger looking skin. What should I expect with a bellafill Filler treatment? The Bellafill Injection treatment is a safe, in-office procedure that only takes a few minutes. Before receiving a treatment patients come in for a collagen skin test and are advised to make an appointment in four weeks for treatment. This is done to gauge sensitivity to the treatment. If no reaction to the skin test occurs, treatment with Bellafill may be administered that day. Many patients receive more than one treatment to reach the level of correction that they are looking for. A follow-up appointment is made four to six weeks later. At this visit you and your doctor will decide if you would like further treatments to enhance your results. Along with Bellafill’s collagen supporting microspheres, it also contains a numbing medication, lidocaine, to lessen any possible discomfort from the treatment. Many patients report that Bellafill cannot be felt after treatment. Patients see immediate results in wrinkle correction or areas of acne scarring, and can return to normal daily activities immediately following the procedure. Is a bellafill Injection safe? Yes, Bellafill Filler has been proven as a safe and effective dermal filler. The U.S. FDA approved it in October of 2006 after thorough clinical testing. Until now, Bellafill has been marketed and sold under the name of Artefill, primarily for wrinkles due to aging. www.scwomanmagazine.com ment. However, anyone who has a positive reaction to the Bellafill skin test or has a history of severe allergies, hypersensitivity, or anaphylaxis, and those prone to thick scar formation are highly advised against receiving treatment. Patients with skin outbreaks, including cysts, pimples, rashes, hives, or infection near the injection site are also advised to postpone treatment until they have cleared. Speak to your doctor about any and all concerns regarding treatment. As with any injectable wrinkle filler, patients may experience mild swelling and redness at the injection site. Although these side effects are common among dermal fillers they are typically temporary. Rarely, mild bruising that generally disappears in three to seven days can also occur. Other, less common, side effects include rash and/or itching more than 48 hours following treatment; persistent swelling or redness, and increased sensitivity at some or all injection sites. Extremely rare but potential side effects of all dermal fillers also include lumps and granulomas, both of which can be treated by your physician. Since its release in February of 2007, more than 25,000 patients have undergone treatment using Bellafill. Patient satisfaction is high and most people are candidates for treat- www.scwomanmagazine.com Of course, we’ll be glad to answer your Bellafill questions, so don’t hesitate to call DermaVogue at (843) 357-2444 for our Garden City location or (843) 272-4071. You can also find us online at www.dermavogue.net. We offer free in office consultations. South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 25 Life's Balance Wheel Things Aren’t Always What They Seem By Donna Tyson There is a story of two angels who were traveling together on a trip. As night fell, they stopped to secure a room at the beautiful home of a wealthy family. The family was rude and selfish, and they made the angels feel quite unwelcome by offering them very little food and giving them cots in the basement instead of a guest room. As the angels prepared for bed, one angel noticed a hole in the wall and proceeded to repair it. The younger angel questioned him as to why he was making that kind gesture, and the older angel simply responded “Things aren’t always what they seem”. The next night, the angels stopped at the meager home of a very poor family. The kind family welcomed the angels with open arms, sharing their food and giving them the couple’s very own bed to make sure they had a good night’s sleep. As they prepared for bed, the youngest child came crying that the cherished family dog had suddenly died.The younger angel turned in frustration and questioned the older angel as to why he allowed this tragedy to happen to this 26 kind family, especially since he had just taken time to help the selfish rich family. The older angel simply shook his head and replied “Things aren’t always what they seem”. As they began their travels the next morning, the younger angel again questioned the older angel on his confusing actions and responses. The angel paused and looked at his younger travel companion and said “Things aren’t always what they seem”. He went on to explain that when he had looked inside the hole in the basement wall of the rich family, he saw that there was a hidden treasure behind the wall. He had sealed the hole so that the greedy owner would not find the treasure, knowing that he would never have shared it or used it to make a difference in the lives of others. He then explained that last night the angel of death had come for the poor man’s beloved wife and the angel had given him the family dog instead. “Things aren’t always the way they seem”. Such a powerful story. Indeed, things are not always what they seem. Again and again in my life, I found that the very thing that I thought was a crisis turned out to be part of a bigger blessing. Lost jobs opened the door for new opportunities. Relationships that ended left me free to meet new interesting people. Illness slowed me down and gave me time to reprioritize my health and my commitments. Even the deaths of loved ones brought a renewed appreciation for the gift of each new day and the circle of life. I have learned not to let the circumstances define my life as “good” or “bad”. Circumstances are temporary events and do not reveal the bigger picture. I know that every weaving requires both light and dark threads to M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine create something of beauty. My trials develop my character, my courage, my strength, my knowledge, and my appreciation for life. I am reminded of the story in the Bible about Abraham walking up the mountain in obedience to God with the intent to sacrifice his son. That has always been a really hard story for me to understand as I could not fathom that type of trust and faith. I am afraid my response might have been….”anything but my son, Lord.” Yet the big picture revealed that unbeknownst to Abraham, a sacrificial lamb was steadily walking up the other side of the mountain at the same time. With every step of faith Abraham took, God was preparing the way for something better to be offered. When you are faced with a difficult situation or a crisis, try to remember that “Things aren’t always what they seem”. Be confident that God is in the details. Pause for a moment and think about the things that have preceded this event and prepared you for this exact moment in time. Just this morning I sat and prayed with a distraught friend who had just found out that her dad’s cancer has returned. I reminded her that it was no accident that she has recently started attending church again and that she has been a sounding board for me as I began Infusion, the new spiritual support group I just started for encouraging cancer patients and caregivers. As we discussed the many ways God has been working in both her life and her father’s life to prepare them for this difficult chapter, she nodded in agreement that indeed God is in the smallest of details. Her dad’s new faith will be used as a testimony for many others as he faces cancer this time, and she is not walking this journey alone. Things are not always what they seem. There is a beautiful bigger picture being painted as we speak. May that thought bring you peace as you journey through difficult times. Know that God is still in control, and He loves you deeply. He has promised that all things work together for good for those who love the Lord, so if it isn’t good, then God isn’t finished yet! Hold on. The darkest hour is right before the dawn. www.scwomanmagazine.com The Time Is “Now” By Diane DeVaughn Stokes His name is Phil. He told me that he was three days away from knee surgery when friends from the Amish country told him about their incredible success with CuraLase Laser Therapy for pain. They said they came to Myrtle Beach, made a vacation out of it, and went home brand new. Phil said he was “a big chicken” about surgery. He injured his knee baling hay and had orthoscopic surgery about four years ago. However, the pain was back worse than ever. It took him ten minutes every morning when he got out of bed to be able to walk, stretching out the muscles to face the chores of the day. Why not head to Myrtle Beach—a place he and his wife already loved—and try CuraLase before going under the knife with months of physical therapy and painkillers that can sometimes become addictive? He had nothing to lose. If it did not work, they would at least have a great get-away! You guessed it. Phil is now one of the thousands who will tell you how wonderful and amazing this treatment is. After six weeks of laser therapy, Phil returned to Ohio without pain and found himself jumping out of bed without the stiffness and achiness he had before. “It sounds too good to be true, but I tell everyone to give CuraLase a try,” Phil said. Friends, if you are in pain, do as Phil did. Give CuraLase a chance to get you well and out of pain. You live here and will not have to spend six weeks on accommodations as others are who are flying in from all over the country. CuraLase is just around the corner next to South Strand Medical Center in Myrtle Beach off 17 Bypass South. They offer a free consultation to see their doctor, and you do not need to bring your former x-rays or MRIs. You can also attend a free dinner seminar to see the laser demonstrated and ask questions in a relaxed dinner setting. Call 843-294-5273 and make your dinner reservation for one of the following upcoming seminars: Monday, March 2, 5:00 p.m. at Ryan’s, 3607 Highway 17, North Myrtle Beach Monday, March 9, 5:00 p.m. at Wahoo’s, 3993 U.S. 17 Business, Murrells Inlet Monday, March 16, 5:00 p.m. at Rossi’s, 9636 N. Kings Highway, Myrtle Beach Monday, March 23, 5:00 p.m. at Ryan’s, 8671 Highway 17 Bypass S., Surfside Beach Monday, March 30, 5:00 p.m. at Ryan’s, 3607 Highway 17, North Myrtle Beach What on earth is stopping you from getting out of pain? With all their successes, why hesitate to seek this treatment? CuraLase Laser Therapy keeps working long after the sessions are over as the body continues to heal. If what you have been doing to get out of pain is not working, take matters into your own hands. Call CuraLase and get out of pain. The time is NOW! Diane DeVaughn Stokes President of Stages Video Productions Host and Producer of “Diane At Six”on EASY Radio And “Inside Out” on HTC channel 4. 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Why you should consider snacking less... 1) Snacking less means more time to focus on your exercise and your daily life 2) Snacking less makes tracking what you’re eating easier 3) Snacking less meals actually makes you more productive throughout the day 4) Snacking less will help to maintain your weight 15 ways to stop snacking and start losing weight fast 1. When you feel like snacking drop to the floor and do crunches. 2. Jump naked in front of a mirror. 3. ONLY drink water: When you feel hungry between meals drink 3 glasses of water, as you may just be dehydrated. – Drink 4 liters (1 gal) per day... 4. Eat 4 -6 cups of vegetables daily with lunch and dinner 5. ONLY eat in front of others 6. Throw away all breads 7. Throw away all junk food coupons 8. Throw away all fast food delivery numbers 9. Clean out all the junk from your cupboards and refrigerator 10. Buy a nice piece of clothing that’s a little too small. Make it a goal to fit in this in a month or less 11. Do not pick at meals while preparing food 12. Brush your teeth or use strong mouth wash when you feel the urge to snack 13. Write yourself a letter about why you want to lose weight 14. Drink herbal tea to curb cravings 15. Make sure you get in enough protein to fill you up Metabolic Medical Center will create you a meal plan that will keep you satisfied and help you to lose the weight fast - the healthy way. Call 843-357-2851 MYRTLE BEACH HARLEY-DAVIDSON® 4 Convenient Locations MYRTLEBEACHHARLEY.COM www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 29 A Closer Look with... Kim Williams Tell us a little bit about what you do…. My field of work is interesting, challenging and exciting! As General Manager of the Long Bay Symphony, I work behind the scenes to bring incredible music to our community. I love the variety that comes with a job in arts administration. Every day is different. On days leading up to a concert, I focus on logistics such as coordinating a piano delivery, writing press releases, and preparing contracts for guest artists. Other days, you might find me speaking at an Optimist Club or meeting with sponsors. Some elements of symphony management are what would be typical of any business—handling payroll and preparing financial reports—but the part that I find most rewarding is engaging with our patrons. I enjoy meeting people when they come to our office to purchase tickets and speaking with them at concerts. What are some of the things you’ve learned at your job…. I learn things every day. This job is teaching me the value of listening and working with community stake-holders. The LBS has a fantastic Board of Directors with diverse work experiences and backgrounds. Each person brings a unique and valuable perspective to the table. Now, tell us what you like to do in your “off” time….. I have a 1 year old daughter who consumes most of my “off” time. Being a career mom has its challenges and I am learning the importance of spending time with her and also taking care of myself. When I am able to get away I like to read and hike. My family moved to Myrtle Beach in October, just as the weather was changing, so I am also looking forward to spending time at the beach this spring. Please share with us some things you’re passionate about….. I chose this profession because I believe in the power of music to enhance and transform lives. I come from a musical family and cannot imagine life without it. Name: Kim Williams Occupation: General Manager of the Long Bay Symphony Location: Myrtle Beach, SC Website: www.longbaysymphony.com 30 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com Frequently Asked Questions about Plastic Surgery Topic: Tummy Tuck Part III of III By Steven K. White Sr., M.D. Carolina Coastal Plastic Surgery & Medical Spa Deciding to have plastic gaining in popularity and the surgery isn’t a big decision; it’s a advantages of having the proHUGE decision. What we reccedure are numerous. One of ommend is that you do a lot of the most obvious reasons is to research before you seek out a fit into your clothes better, surgeon for a consultation. There especially jeans. If you have a are several things you need to be topic or drooping butt this prolooking for: cedure will often lift that area • A Board Certified Surgeon to some degree. That is always • A Surgeon with good a nice outcome. This procedure reviews and hospital privileges is also a permanent change to • The facility where the surgyour body. Since your own fat eries take place should also be certified is used there are no implants to worry about, • Consider how long the Surgeon has thus preventing complications later on. been in practice and what kind of experiQuestion: What happens during the proceence they have in the procedures that you dure? are considering Answer: The surgery is performed by tak• Talk to people you know who have been ing you into a certified surgery center where to the Surgeon you are interested in you will be photographed extensively before • Review pictures of their work going into surgery. This procedure can be Once you have settled on a Plastic Surgeon performed under general or local anesthesia and you have scheduled your consultation, with sedation. The fat is harvested from variyou should be considering many different ous parts of the body such as the flanks, bra questions to ask. Questions should vary based strap fat area, abdomen, medial thighs, lateral on what procedure you would like to get. Be thighs, arms, etc. In doing so the whole body sure to research your procedure before your is basically contoured in addition to creating consultation so that you can ask as many beautifully curvaceous buttocks. questions as possible. So let’s talk about In the right hands, that being a board certisome of the more popular body surgeries. fied plastic surgeon, approximately 70-80% The Brazilian butt lift is a procedure that is of the fat harvested should “take”. The proce- dure can take anywhere from 2-5 hours depending on where the fat is harvested. In addition, later lipolysis is used to tighten the skin in the donor sites to give a more satisfactory result. The patient is watched closely in the certified surgery center but the procedure is always an outpatient procedure and the patient will go home the same day. Patients are placed in a specially designed buttocks augmentation girdle. Question: What is the recovery like? Answer: The recovery from a Brazilian butt lift requires minimal exercise for at least three weeks. Because it is a fat grafting procedure the buttocks will be sore. The fat is actually placed into the muscle of the buttocks. No sit-ups or lunges should be done for at least three weeks. The final result will be fully appreciated at six weeks. There are several forms of buttocks that need to be treated. There’s the triangular, reverse triangular, square, flat, and hourglass buttocks. All of these can be shaped into what is known as the Brazilian butt. Question: What makes it a Brazilian butt? Answer: The Brazilian butt is firm, round and is well isolated from the rest of the body. If you want your jeans to fit perfectly and accentuate that area, this may be the best procedure for you! If you’re considering a surgery, make sure you have a good consultation with your surgeon and ask questions. Until next time… remember YOU IMAGINE, WE CREATE! Steven K. White, SR., M.D. Certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery and The American Board of Surgery, Carolina Coastal Plastic Surgery & Medical Spa 1275 21st Ave. North, Myrtle Beach, SC (843)448-9977 www.carolinacoastalplasticsurgery.com Spring into the SUMMER Mode! NEW! Breast Augmentation Special Silicone: Only $5250 | Saline: Only $4750 This offer is only good for the month of March so call now for your consultation. Your dream bathing suit awaits! Steven K. White, SR., M.D. Certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery & The American Board of Surgery 1275 21st Ave. North, Myrtle Beach, SC 843.448.9977 Carolinacoastalplasticsurgery.com www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 31 DAR Community Service Award Presented to Renee Hembree This month marks the 57th anniversary of Theodosia Burr Chapter. October 11 will be the 125th anniversary of the National Society of the Daughters of the American Revolution. This is a year to celebrate milestones, but it is also a year to recognize service. Eugenia Wasington, one of the four women who founded the DAR said, “We want a society founded upon Service.” Ronald Regan said some years later, “We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.” Both of those quotations are ones by which we should live. In DAR we are all expected to take our talents and apply them as we can in service for others. Our committees give us opportunities to serve Veterans, support historical preservation, encourage school chil- Snoring and Sleep Disordered Breathing has been linked to: -Depression -Sexual Dysfunction -Family Discord -Alzheimer's/Cognitive Disorders 32 -Increased Mobility -Cardiovascular Disease -Hypertension -Ischemic Stroke M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine dren as they study American History… the list goes on and on. Our Celebrate American effort under President General Lynn Young has re-energized our dedication to community service and our members have responded with over 3 million volunteer service hours during each of the past two years that we have counted these aggregate hours. DAR provides us a way to recognize outstanding Community Service. Today we are recognizing one of our own who has performed an amazing feat by creating a new community service organization born of her own astonishment that she was living in a community where high school students were homeless. The face of homelessness came to Renee Hembree in a moment when she realized that there were students at North Myrtle Beach High School who had little in the way of the normal support that most children take for granted: regular meals, appropriate clothing, health care, a home…a bed … parents who could provide the necessities for them. In her own words, she started out 5 years ago with a dream to provide Christmas for a few students. Today that dream has flourished into a community service called Teen Angel, that takes care of the immediate needs of high school students identified by the counselors at North Myrtle Beach High School as living in challenged situations. Sometimes the student needs shoes, sometimes they need a haircut, sometimes they need a place to live, or the utilities in their temporary home need to be paid. Sometimes they need to visit a dentist. The needs are everything that any family must have to be safe, warm, and healthy. The needs are everything that a student must have to get their homework done, to develop a strong self image, to pass those standard tests and get a high school diploma. Some dream of college, and that can happen only if the basics are provided by others when parents cannot do so. Renee’s love of these students is obvious as she goes through her day ever mindful of the needs of these students and encouraging those civic organizations and individuals who want to help and who will help by supporting Teen Angel. According to Trevor Strawderman, Principal of North Myrtle Beach High School: “over the past 5 years 41 seniors have graduated successfully and several have gone on to college thanks to the help provided by Teel Angel. Renee Hembree is very deserving of any recognition that can be bestowed on her for her work with Teen Angle. Renee is truly the “Angel” in Teen Angel. We are pleased to present the DAR Community Service Award to Renee Robertson Hembree. We are so proud of you! www.scwomanmagazine.com Foot Facts: True or False Submitted by Coastal Podiatry How much do you know about your feet? Try this short true false test to see just how much you know. The foot is a complex structure of bones and joints containing nearly a quarter of the body’s bones. This is true. Each foot and ankle contains 26 bones and 33 joints. As long as my feet are not in pain, I can ignore them. This is false. Your feet are important to your overall health. It is important to inspect them as you wash and consider any kind of pain you feel. A podiatrist should address pain or concerns lasting longer than two weeks. I generally take about 1,000 steps per day going from home to school or work. This is false! The average person takes anywhere from 8,000 to 10,000 steps in a typical day. It’s ok to share shoes with my friends or family. This is false; sharing shoes is not a good idea. This is one of the best ways to get a fungus like athlete’s foot. It is best to wear high heels for only a few hours a day and avoid walking long distances. This is true. High heels are extremely hard on your feet. Wearing them often and for long periods may cause long-term damage like bunions and hammertoes. I should just paint over my toenails since they are yellow and gross. This is false. Discolored toenails generally mean they are infected with a fungus. Using nail polish can trap in the fungus and make it worse. My feet sweat and smell terrible, but there is nothing to fix it. This is false. Using foot powder, changing socks throughout the day, and letting shoes air out for at least 24 hours will help combat sweaty, stinky feet. My feet are incredibly complex part of my body and a podiatrist knows them best. This is true! The podiatrists at Coastal Podiatry Associates are uniquely qualified among the medical professionals to treat the foot and ankle. Dr. Hamilton, Dr. Menn and Dr. Werter continually receive specialized education on how to best treat the foot and ankle. Their offices are located in Myrtle Beach, Conway, Surfside, and Little River. THANK YOU FOR LETTING US SERVE YOU FOR 15 YEARS!! T h e 1 0 + Ye a r w r i n k l e f i l l e r Why use bellafill as your wrinkle and volume filler? Bellafill is distinctive and shows immediate results. Over time, the biocompatible microspheres in bellafill develop a “matrix” to support your own collagen and strengthen the layers that support your skin. Before Bellafill After Bellafill Why rent your filler when you can own it? 843-357-2444 Medical Skin Rejuvenation Call for your free consultation 843-357-2444 • www.dermavogue.net www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 33 Buyer Beware: A Lesson in Consumer Protection Law By Ted Cligrow, Carolina Home Exteriors I’ve written several articles for this magazine. By now, many of you probably recognize my face from my photo, and associate it with my name and business, Carolina Home Exteriors. However, when I first bought my company a couple of years ago, little did I know how hard I’d have to fight to protect its name and reputation. Shortly after I purchased the business, I discovered a key employee was stealing from the company. Instead of firing him on the spot and having him escorted off the premises, I made the mistake of scheduling a meeting to discuss the transgression— giving him the benefit of doubt because he had been an important part of the team. Basically, between the time of my discovery and the scheduled meeting, he stole the company identity: intellectual property, marketing materials and key files that essentially allowed him to open his own company on the goodwill of the company I had purchased. On a basic level, it was identity theft. He started a company by impersonating my company. He named his company a name very similar to my company name. He wrapped his vehicles in a style almost identical to 34 mine. All his marketing materials looked just like my company’s materials. The purpose, of course, was to create confusion in the mind of the consumers. He wanted my customers to think his company was my company. Unfortunately, I wasn’t the only victim of this scam. Unhappy customers who used his services thinking they were dealing with Carolina Home Exteriors also suffered at the hands on this bad actor. The good news is a jury finally put a stop to his actions. After two long years of litigation, we had our day in court, and a jury of 12 found him guilty of violating the South Carolina Unfair Trade Practice Act (SCUTPA). This law essentially states an individual who willfully and repeatedly takes action to deceive the public shall be found guilty of the SCUTPA. He now has to pay damages and attorney fees and is legally prohibited from using a name similar to our company name, so he won’t be able to continue deceiving the public by trading on the reputation our company has worked so hard to establish. Of course, I’ve learned many lessons from this experience. First and foremost, the next time I suspect an issue with an employee, I’ll act swiftly to protect my business and my customers. From now on, I’m also making it my mission to educate consumers. My hope is, if we all work together, we can rid our community of these types of bad actors, people who like to take advantage of the trusting nature of others. To that end, I offer M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine this advice to consumers who may be considering hiring a contractor. When you are approached by a contractor to work on your home, besides the usual best practices of asking for proof that they are licensed, bonded and insured (which you should always do, and asking for references (make sure you actually contact the references and ask good questions), I recommend you also do the following: 1. Contact the Better Business Bureau and your local home builders association to check the company’s status. The Better Business Bureau (BBB) is an independent organization that sets standards for ethical business behavior and keeps check on businesses to see if they meet those standards. The BBB helps consumers identify trustworthy businesses. Accredited members of the BBB have agreed to follow a Code of Business Practices and a Code of Advertising. Companies adhering to these codes agree to 1. Build Trust, 2. Advertise Honestly, 3. Tell the Truth, 4. Be Transparent, 5. Honor Promises, 6. Be Responsible, 7. Safeguard Privacy, and 8. Embody Integrity. Carolina Home Exteriors has been an Accredited Member of the Better Business Bureau of Myrtle Beach, South Carolina since 2003, and we have an A+ rating. The company impersonating our company attempting to apply to the BBB but was unsuccessful in doing so because he did not meet these standards. He is no longer listed as a member of the local home builders association due to www.scwomanmagazine.com the judgment against him. For more details on the BBB codes of ethics and to look up any business you are considering hiring, visit their website at www.bbb.org/myrtle-beach. Information about The Horry Georgetown Home Builders Association, their Code of Ethics and members, can be found online at www.myrtlebeachhomebuilders.org or by calling (843) 438-4124. 2. Look for ‘social proof.’ No longer do you need to rely only on the references a contractor gives you. Now, you can conduct your own independent research simply by typing their company name into your computer. “Google” them. You may be surprised what you will find. If the company is reputable, you should find proof that they are who they say they are, and plenty of testimonials from satisfied customers. Maybe you’ll find a review or two from unsatisfied customers because nobody is perfect. The key is to consider how the company responds to unsatisfactory reviews if there are any. Look for reviews on Google, Yelp and Angie’s List. If you are not familiar with Angie’s List, it is an independent online rating service. It is a fairly nominal fee to join and could be well worth it if you plan on hiring any type of contractor or service provider to work on your home. A few minutes spent poking around on the computer could save you thousands of dollars and a whole lot of headaches down the line. 3. Get two more estimates. Of course we want you to do business with us, but any reputable company will not be concerned if you want to get additional estimates—in fact, they’ll encourage it. Why? Because it demonstrates that you are a savvy, educated consumer. The more educated you are about what you want, the easier it is for us to service your needs. At the end of the day, we want you to get exactly what you want. The more you know, the more accurately you can articulate your needs and desires, and the more accurately we can prepare our quote to meet those needs. At Carolina Home Exteriors, we may not sell the least expensive product, but we are confident we provide good value and service for your investment. Our mission is to transform your outdoor space into an extension of your home so you and your family can enjoy it for years to come. These are just a few tips to consider when hiring a contractor. For more tips, visit www.CarolinaHomeExteriors.com and download our free checklist: How to Hire the Right Contractor. If you are considering adding a sunroom, screen room, patio enclo- www.scwomanmagazine.com sure, lanai, pool enclosure, pergola, windows or doors, patio or deck, hot tub or spa or any other custom home improvements to your home, we’d love the opportunity to meet with you to discuss your options. Call us today at (843) 651-6514 to schedule a free in-home consultation, or stop by our showroom at 11730 Hwy 17 Bypass, Murrells Inlet, SC 29576. Carolina Home Exteriors is proud to have been serving Horry, Brunswick and Georgetown counties since 1980 with over 7,000 satisfied customers. South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 35 Breast Cancer Awareness By Randal Croshaw, M.D. How did the subject of breast cancer – once the disease that no one discussed openly – become the cancer that people are most knowledgeable of and feel most empowered against? Breast cancer is one of the earliest recognized forms of cancer. People have known about it and attempted treatment of it since early Egyptian times. It was recognized in ancient times because it is a relatively common form of cancer and, if not treated early, can become quite visible as an ulcerated and bleeding mass. Other than skin cancers, most other forms of cancer are internal and hidden from view. The treatment of breast cancer during that time is believed to have been directed at controlling symptoms by cauterization and removal of dead and abnormal tissue. No cure existed and this strictly palliative approach to treatment persisted until the mid-1700s. At that time a breast amputation may have been performed for a breast mass that was limited in size, but not much more would have been possible. The ability to achieve a cure would have been extremely limited. In 1846 anesthesia was introduced and greatly advanced the field of surgery. With anesthesia much more complex operations could be performed. Many operations that are performed today are based upon procedures developed in the late 1800s to the mid-1900s. The radical mastectomy was introduced in the 1890s by Dr. William Halsted and was widely accepted as the standard treatment for breast cancer for the next 80 years. With this procedure came the first evidence of a possible cure for breast cancer as long term survival rates improved from 10% to 50%. The radical mastectomy removed the skin, breast tissue, muscles of the chest, and all of the lymph nodes from under the arm. The wound was typically covered with a skin graft. This procedure has many long-term complications including (but not limited to) arm swelling, wound healing problems, and impaired shoulder function. This procedure was common until the 1970s. It is terribly disfiguring by today’s standards which only served to further demoralize those women affected by breast cancer. They were already stigmatized by the fact that the average person did not understand what caused cancer and had for centuries attributed it to infection, sin or other various causes. These were the times when one did not talk about cancer, nor did polite people even mention the female breast. Many more advancements were made against breast cancer in the 1900s. The American Cancer Society was formed in 1913 and began a campaign of awareness, support and research. Mammography was introduced as a means to detect a cancer too small to be detected by physical exam. The use of mammography came into widespread use by the 1970s. Finding cancer at a smaller size and earlier stage meant that breast cancer could be potentially cured surgically if it was excised before it had a chance to spread. The ability to find these cancers earlier also coincided with a transition away from the radical mastectomy to limited mastectomies and even lumpectomies without a reduction in survival. These procedures offered better cosmetic outcomes with less side effects. The use of hormonal therapy, chemotherapy and newer targeted drug therapy further improved survival. Newer chemotherapy drugs and protocols have lessened the associ- YOUR PROM ONE STOP BEAUTY SHOP Updos & Makeup Spray Tanning Manicures & Pedicures Waxing, Facials & Massages Open 6 days a week! Tanning & Waxing Hot Deal $25! Ask about our bundling and group discounts on multiple services combined. 1117 48th Ave. N. #123 • Myrtle Beach | 843.839.1716 | www.divinesalonspamb.com 36 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com ated side effects making it much more tolerable for those that need it. In order to address the disfigurement that can result from breast cancer treatment breast reconstruction was developed to help a woman maintain her body image. Having a diagnosis of breast cancer was no longer thought of as a death sentence. And the treatment was no longer almost as bad as the disease. Education and advocacy that started with the American Cancer Society and support as offered by Reach to Recovery blossomed with the women’s liberation movement of the 1960s and 1970s. It was now OK to talk about it and a woman no longer had to feel as if she was facing this alone. Increased awareness translated to women understanding the importance of mammograms for early detection. It also meant that more women were seeking help for masses or other concerns rather being afraid to come forward and hiding it; which unfortunately still happens even today. More money is being raised for research and assistance programs that help with screening, treatment and support. Legislation has been passed which provides funding for growth and education in areas ranging from research, screening, treatment and reconstruction to genetic testing. It is now more common to see physicians dedicating their practice entirely to the treatment of breast cancer and breast disease like myself. By choosing to place my focus in one area, I am able to spend more time with the patient and their families explaining what treatment options are available and addressing their concerns. This has become necessary because there are so many treatment options available today that must be tailored to each individual. Every case is different and it is our duty to determine what care plan will work best for each person rather than the one size fits all approach of days past. It is encouraging to me that many patients come into my office having some level of understanding about breast cancer that would have been unheard of at the time of Dr. Halsted. I don’t want someone to feel like they are doing something just because I said so. They should understand why. Unfortunately seeking knowledge in this age of internet and social media is not without its problems. A Google search for the term breast cancer will get you at least 109 million results in 0.32 seconds which is far more than any other cancer type, yet somehow, not nearly as many results as Justin Bieber or Kim Kardashian. The sheer volume of information can be overwhelming even if you manage to find a reliable, balanced, evidence-based site. The odds of this are against you as many are selling something, are biased, or offer anecdotal or very weak “evidence” for their opinions and recommendations. My advice is to not be afraid to ask as I or the other nurses and doctors devoted to your care can typically not only provide information, but also explain how this pertains to you and guide you toward sources of more information as needed. Dr. Croshaw is a fellowship-trained Surgical Breast Oncologist Coastal Comprehensive Women’s Center 199 Village Center Blvd. Suite 100 Telephone (843) 236-4330 Financial Tip! Don't take on your partner’s or spouse’s debt when you marry. Wait until you're both out of debt before tying the knot, or protect yourself with a pre-nuptial agreement. They're not only for the rich. www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 37 GIVING YOU MORE IN (SOCIAL) MEDIA How To Keep Your Online Financial Transactions Safe By Dorien Morin-van Dam This day and age, everyone seems to be online. Whether you bank online, order a movie ticket ahead of time and pay for it online, or register for a conference, your financials are needed to complete these online transactions. Each time you do use your credit card online, you need to be aware and alert to prevent credit card fraud, phishing and identity theft, just to name a few things that can go wrong. For most of us, the convenience of being to pay bills and shop online, far outweighs the risks associated with online financials. If you are a smart consumer and a smart shopper, make sure you are also smart about where, how and when to use your credit card online. Reasons to use online transaction vs. offline transactions are plentiful and include • Convenience • Time-saving 888-318-5107 38 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine • Money-saving • Greater selection • Better products • Fast • Reliable • Instant just to name a few. Why do you shop and bank online? On the Grand Strand, many Snowbirds use online banking and shopping because of the convenience of being able to access their bank remotely while away from their primary home and because online shopping saves on trips to the store. Many parents use online shopping to find better price deals than local stores can provide on things like children’s clothing, toys and electronics. Parents also use online shopping to buy products currently not available in our geographical area. Caution Ahead As stated before, if you are going to use the convenience of online shopping and banking, you need to familiarize yourself with best practices. I’ve put some of these best practices together and have created two neat little categories of what to do and what not to do with regards to online financial transactions. In order to keep your online transactions safe, do • Change your passwords to your online accounts often. • Choose a strong password filled with numbers, symbols, and lowercase/uppercase letters. • Keep your passwords safe in a non-digital place. • Use optional security questions. • Register for a two-step verification process where it is offered. • Do your shopping at home, from your own computer. Don’t use public WiFi when performing online transactions. • Secure your at-home network! Add a password to protect it. • Check each website to make sure it is secure before typing in your credit card information. All online transactions should take place on a website whose address begins with: https://. The “s” means the site is secure. If you don’t see the “s,” don’t trust the vendor. • Always log out after accessing your shopping or banking accounts, then close your browser. • Scan your computer frequently with current, up-to-date antivirus software. • Keep your firewall turned on. • Check your credit report. At the same time, in order to keep your online financial transactions safe, don’t • Click on links sent to your email (phishing attempts) • Use the same username and password for all your online accounts. • Share you credit card information with friends and family. • Forget to log out after accessing your shopping or banking accounts (always close your browser). • Allow your computer to store your usernames and passwords for shopping and banking sites. • Give out your social security number. • Continue a transaction if it looks suspicious. Click out of the site, get offline and turn off your computer. Keeping to these best practices will prevent many cases of identity theft, credit card fraud and phishing. Keep yourself, your loved ones and your financial safe! Dorien Morin-van Dam More In Media Social Media Consultant [email protected] www.scwomanmagazine.com Tips from the Grooming Corner By Kevin Kaminski Waggin’ Tails-Pet Supplies & Grooming Regular grooming makes your pet look good and has many health benefits as well. A clean fourlegged friend is an important step to sustaining a pet’s skin, hair, and fur and helps in preventing other illnesses as well. As an owner, you can better inspect your pet’s skin when it is properly maintained. After a bath and a full groom, it is much easier to see any bites, skin irritations, bumps, etc. Timely examination of your pet will alert you to follow up with your veterinarian if needed. Keeping your pets ears clean is very important and very easy to do. A reputable groomer will always clean the ears when grooming your pet. It is also a very simple task that can be done at home with an ear wash sold at any pet store. This will help prevent ear infections and your pet will be happier. Getting your pet used to regular nail clipping is a good habit to get into and if they’re not accustomed to it, it then becomes a very difficult task. Overgrown nails are challenging not just for your pet but also for the owner. Long nails not only can get caught in objects and be pulled out, but they can scratch people and damage furniture and floors in the house. Keeping the nails trimmed will eliminate most chances of them getting snared on anything. Hair mats are both unsightly and problematic as being not good for pets’ health. Your pet’s hair bunches together, tangles and exerts a constant pressure which pulls on the skin. This is very uncomfortable for your pet and, if not addressed, more than a nuisance. Mats can range from small and easily resolved to large and severe requiring much effort and even shaving. Large mats can sometimes spread right to the skin level and are very difficult, if not impossible, to brush out. You may see additional scratching and biting which can lead to further skin inflammation or other issues. Mats and long hair and fur can hide bumps and swelling which can be potential health problems if left undetected. A regular bathing and grooming schedule is important to your pet’s wellbeing. A well trained groomer can also detect some health problems on your pets during the grooming process. Your groomer should be able to see various skin problems and possible ear infections during the grooming procedure and www.scwomanmagazine.com bring them to your attention. If you were not previously aware of areas of tenderness or skin irritations, or a possible ear infection this will allow you to follow up with your veterinarian. It can help you maintain your pet’s overall health. If your pet has dry, itchy, or flaky skin, having them bathed with a specialized skin shampoo, oatmeal shampoo, or a hypoallergenic shampoo will offer benefits for your pet’s skin and coat over the long term. You can get veterinarian prescribed shampoos or buy over the counter shampoos depending on what you require for your situation. You should always consult your veterinarian on skin issues to determine the best treatment. There are many options. A good groomer will be flexible enough to allow you to bring your own shampoo from home and make special accommodations for your pet’s needs. Remember a regular grooming is beneficial to both dogs and cats. They will be happier and healthier in the long run. Please remember to Keep grooming in mind when thinking about your pts long term health and keep up with grooming in between your visits so that your pet will get used to being groomed. Kevin Kaminski Waggin’ Tails-Pet Supplies & Grooming 4017 Hwy 17S, North Myrtle Beach, SC 29582 843-663-1620 www.waggintailsnmb.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 39 Framing The Smile By Jeffrey W. Horowitz, DMD, FAGD As many of you already know, the possibilities are endless for smile enhancement with porcelain laminate veneers. What many people do not know is that just like a beautiful painting, the smile must be framed. Simply adjusting or changing the frame can make a decent smile stunning. So what constitutes the frame for a smile? As you may have guessed, the gums and lips surrounding the teeth finish the smile. This is usually the point where I pull the stack of Cosmopolitan or Vogue magazines out to prove my point. I’ll ask my patients what they like about the smiles they see, and together we usually discover that it is more than just the teeth. 6RFLDO 0HGLD 0DQDJHPHQW &RQVXOWLQJ /RFDO 6RFLDO 0HGLD 0DUNHWLQJ 7UDLQLQJ 6WUDWHJLF 3ODQQLQJ $QDO\WLFV &RQWDFW GRULHQ#PRUHLQPHGLDFRP 40 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Let’s talk about the gums. One of the most common problems we see is the gummy smile. The usual complaint is either “My teeth are too short” or “My gums are too big”. In fact, most of the time, both statements are correct. Gummy smiles can make the teeth look short and poorly proportioned. Even the most expensive veneer from the most prestigious ceramic laboratory cannot overcome a tooth that is wider than it is tall. For most, the ideal way to re-proportion the tooth is to increase the actual length. Sometimes a small amount can be added to the incisal (tip) edge, however for most gummy smiles the length must be gained by gum sculpting. Modern lasers have allowed this procedure to be accomplished in a short time, under only local anesthetic with little to no bleeding, and only minor discomfort afterwards. Taking this one step further, the gums are framed by the lips. If patient “A” and Patient “B” have identical tooth and gum anatomy but patient “A” has a short upper lip, while patient “B” has a long upper lip, patient “A” will have a more gummy smile. Subsequently, this patient would be treatment planned differently than the patient with the long upper lip. Patient “ A” might require gum sculpting or possibly Botox for the overly mobile lip, while patient “B” might just need more lip support from the veneers to keep the lip from coming so far over the teeth. With more and more patients seeking cosmetic dentistry, it becomes important for the consumer to know that there is much more to aesthetics than just fixing the teeth. ALL dental cosmetic procedures must include a comprehensive evaluation of not just the teeth, but all of the surrounding structures. There is an answer to almost every dental problem, as long as all of the diagnostic cues are addressed. A well-trained cosmetic dentist should be able to answer your questions about framing the smile, so don’t be afraid to ask. Dr Horowitz is a 1991 graduate of The Medical University of South Carolina, College of Dental Medicine and completed a general practice residency at the Mountainside Hospital In Montclair, N.J. He is a Fellow of the Academy of General Dentistry as well as a member of the American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry, the American Orthodontic Society, The American Equilibration Society, The American Academy of Craniofacial Pain and The American Academy of Dental Sleep Medicine. He is in private practice at, and is the founder of The Carolina Center for Advanced Dentistry / Advanced Sleep and Breathing Centers at 1515 9th Ave., Conway, S.C. He can be contacted at (843) 248-3843 or via the Web at www.carolinacosmeticdental.com www.scwomanmagazine.com Making Weight Loss More Convenient By Dr Kevin Sattele For years we have offered weight loss on a large scale in our Florence location. This began with our Rapid Weight Loss Program in January 2008. It wasn’t long before we had a large number of beach patients driving to Florence on a regular basis. In January 2010, we opened our North Myrtle Beach location and this quickly became just as busy as the Florence location. Since then we have had many requests from the patients along the Strand for us to open a location on the south end of the beach as well. We have searched long and hard over the past few years for the perfect location and it gives us great pleasure to announce the opening of our Murrells Inlet location in March 2015. The office is located at 11883 Plaza Drive along the bypass just north of the Inlet Square Mall and should offer a great deal of convenience for our south end patients and anyone in the area interested in weight loss, body shaping or any of our esthetic services such as Botox, Restylane, Juvederm, microdermabrasion, chemical peels, hair removal or laser skin resurfacing. There is plenty of medical literature regarding obesity as a major cause of morbidity and mortality in this country. Obesity is now the number one cause of liver disease and the number two cause of preventable death (just behind smoking) in the US. It is a major risk factor for diabetes, hypertension, heart disease and multiple cancers including breast and colon cancer. Obesity complications also kill more people in this country each year than breast, colon and prostate cancer combined. It is a growing problem not only in adults but in our pediatric population as well. If you are overweight or obese, even just a little weight loss can help you feel so much better. Just 10 pounds of weight loss has been shown to reduce blood pressure by 10 to 30 points. This small amount of weight loss can also reduce reflux, sleep apnea and diabetes as well as joint pain such as knee and back pain. Every 10 pounds of weight you lose takes 40 pounds of pressure off your knees. Imagine how much better you will feel after losing 30, 50 or 100 pounds. Even the simplest things such as getting dressed and getting in and out of the car become so much easier. You also sleep better and have so much more energy. Not to mention being healthier while eliminating diabetes and high blood pressure. With our programs, we use a combination of medications and B12/lipotropic fat-burning injections along with proper diet and exercise to help you lose the weight quickly and safely regardless of whether you need to lose 10 pounds or 200. Our program www.scwomanmagazine.com will work in every person, every time and we perform bioelectric impedance testing to show your body composition so that we know exactly how much fat you lose each month and we know how many calories you are eating per day. This way we know that you are losing your weight correctly and safely and all of this is with real food that can be obtained at any restaurant or grocery store. There is no liquid diet or meal replacement necessary to complete our program successfully. We also have the EZ-Diet Planner and Fitness Tracker online to plan your meals and track your carbs, calories and exercise for you. We have nearly 60 low carb recipes online for you to use also if you like. Basically, our Rapid Weight Loss Program takes the guess-work out of the equation for you and makes your weight loss very easy. Most patients say they have tried everything and that our program is the easiest thing they have done to lose weight. And now we are making weight loss even more convenient for you with the opening of our new Murrells Inlet location in addition to our Florence and North Myrtle Beach offices. Weight loss has never been so easy! If you or someone you know needs to lose weight quickly and safely, simply call our office to set up a free, no-obligation consultation at 843-491-4811. We have a program for everyone, regardless of the amount of weight you need to lose. 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In addition to saving your budget, old pieces grow even more charming when you choose from the thousands of fabrics available for recovering, rather than picking from the manufacturers’ bland choices. Consider unusual fabrics such as scenic designs, cotton ticking, or animal spots next time you recover, to give your home a unique air. For a modern, casual home I recommend slipcovering for a wash- able, cozy look, and I prefer sofas and chairs of a normal scale. Have a designer measure before you buy – nothing looks very big in a large showroom. In the condo living room above, we chose a medium sized sofa and small scale, movable chairs for maximum seating. Even if you live in a large home with huge rooms, you gain nothing by using a ten foot sofa that only two people will sit upon. Divide large rooms into two or more cozy seating areas; make sure that people sitting in these areas are no more than about eight feet apart, so they can chat comfortably. Delineate the areas further by mixing area rugs, and denote uses for the areas, like putting bookshelves for reading, or a games table. Remember, really big rooms are still inhabited by regular size people; and the nicest times are often spent with different activities happening in the same room. Practical Concerns Make sure your seating areas have adequate lighting. Ceiling lights are not meant to light people, they are for artwork, pathways and task areas. Each chair and sofa should have a large lamp – at least 28 inches tall, with a 3 way bulb. The light should be over your shoulder for reading, so choose a high enough end table. If you don’t read, keep in mind that most civilized people do! Make sure there are enough soft pillows, preferably feather filled since you can scrunch them up just so, flop on them, and fluff them up again. We recommend making at least some throw pillows washable, so you can really use them. Don’t put too many – one per chair, three to four on a sofa is plenty, since you want to see the seat cushions if you expect people to sit down. Pairs of chairs should be angled slightly inward for conversation, not lined up straight. Tables should be plentiful – each seat must have a spot to put a book or drink. Think outside the box – side tables can be anything from a 40 inches round skirted table to a Chinese garden seat or small carved stool. At least one large table, deep in a corner or behind a sofa, can offer a large surface for piles of books and a potted geranium, or an interesting display of travel finds. A small stool beside a club chair is perfect for a glass of wine and remote control, and is easily moved when there’s a crowd. And don’t forget someplace to put your feet up! This library show off the homeowners antiques and fine rug; a comfortable sofa is slipcovered in rose printed linen. This custom library we created (above) provides a home for the owner’s books and antiques; small stands and ottomans can move as needed, and comfortable pillows help create the perfect spot to curl up and read. 42 www.scwomanmagazine.com How To Make A House Into A Home by Kerry Ann Dame WE ALL KNOW that a home is more than four walls; we want a comfortable, relaxed environment that is inviting to friends and expresses who we are. But to have the kind of home that offers even more, the kind of place where memories permeate the air, we must pay attention to more than just matching colors and hanging pictures. Just what sets apart such wonderful places? Some of the good design principles below, combined with personal touches and collections, make all the difference when creating a home. A condo living room with plenty of seating, thanks to small scale furniture selections. M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Personalize I often wonder who people really are when I visit their home and there no mementos of trips, no original art, and few books. Nearly everyone is interesting in some way, and here is where a professional designer can really help. Check your closets for heirloom art pieces that can be re-framed or rematted to personalize your house. Bring your collections out of hiding – hang plates on walls, fill bookshelves with trophies from childhood, make that funny old Chinese statue into a lamp. A professional eye can help sort out the really valuable things and make good use of them. Stay away from the mass-produced poster art sold in furniture stores – no matter how fancy the frame, it’s still just a poster! Why have a $400 picture of a watercolor painting when for about the same price, you can have the real thing? Check art fairs for talented unknown artists, find something you really like, and start building a collection of real one-of-akind art at great prices. You’ll have pieces with a story to tell, and if an artist becomes famous, you’ll have something of real value one day. Antiques shops are another great source for the works of unknown “Sunday artists”. It can be fun to work around a theme – some people collect dog paintings, or rose pictures, or still lifes, or botanical prints. Our design for the Bel Air living room below includes antique lacquer boxes, French chairs, and 19th century oil paintings, combined freely with vintage textiles to create an air of intellectual glamour. A backdrop of taupe silk curtain panels and walls calms the mix. Bel-Air living room Control clutter by gathering pieces into collections and using a hutch, bookshelves, or large tabletop for tidy display. Set your things off with a strong paint color for an inexpensive change with dramatic impact. Remember, when you leave the furniture store with your new living room suite, you are not finished with the room. Really great rooms move way beyond the three fabric combination of retail. Mix in several other fabrics, varying pattern scale and texture, adding fringe to pillows. This is another area where design help can make all the difference. Look at the really fabulous rooms in national magazines and count how many different fabrics populate the sofas, chairs, ottomans, pillows and curtains in a beautifully finished room. www.scwomanmagazine.com Speaking of Curtains The loveliest homes are usually replete with some sort of window treatments. Custom treatments can be a significant project, but are necessary for large and odd-shaped windows. For a quick solution, our new Ready-Made Drapery Panels give a polished finish to a room at a great price. Draperies control light, soften corners, hide poor architecture, quiet echoes, and create a human scale in high-ceilinged rooms. They also add pattern and color – in our business, we believe that not having curtains is wasting an opportunity for colorful excitement, or for a soothing cocoon of calm. You could spend a fortune on accesssories and not have nearly the impact of finely made window treatments and a pretty paint color. Palladian window We used yards of linen to give a relaxed air to this Lowcountry bedroom (above). Slipcovers keep the wing chairs from looking too serious for sitting, and the simple curtains allow the beautiful Palladian window and view to take precedence. Get Help I’ve encountered many homes cluttered with tchotchkes and too much furniture. Often people make one impulse purchase after another as they try to find the one thing that will make their home fabulous. One couple I worked with had five sofas, all bought within three years. Every time they wanted to perk up the house, they went to the furniture store! With professional help, after a couple of years of disciplined decorating, their home was a comfortable, charming and elegant showplace, with pretty curtains, oriental rugs, and slipcovered chairs. And when they moved, they had learned so much they didn’t need my help at all to make the new home just as attractive. As I tell my clients, if you add up all of the $50 impulse purchases we make in a year – the lamp that was too short, the picture that doesn’t match, the rug that was too big for the bathroom – and apply those funds instead to interior design, you may have enough in the budget for a nice window treatment or a slipcover. Combine that with some good professional advice and your own pieces, your collections, and good quality sofas and chairs, and you’ll soon have a home ready for creating even more wonderful memories. Kerry Ann Dame is an interior designer, owner of Posh Living at PoshSurfside.com. Kerry Ann can be reached at (843) 238-0078, or by email at [email protected] South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 43 March is National Sauce Month Chicken with Mustard Cream Sauce Serves: 4 (1 breast with 3 tablespoons cream sauce) 4 (5 oz) boneless skinless chicken breasts 1 Tbsp olive oil 1/4 tsp salt and pepper, to taste 1/2 cup low-sodium chicken broth 1 cup half and half 3-4 Tbsp Dijon mustard 1 tsp dried tarragon or oregano Preheat oven to 350 F. Add olive oil to a large skillet and preheat over medium-high heat. Season chicken breasts with salt and pepper. Add chicken to skillet and sauté until golden, about 3-4 minutes per side, turning once; transfer to a baking dish and cover with foil. Bake for 12-15 minutes or until cooked through. Pour chicken broth into hot skillet. Whisk in the half and half, mustard, and tarragon or oregano. Whisk for 4-6 minutes over medium heat until thickened. Pour sauce over chicken and serve hot. Chicken Enchiladas with Sour Cream White sauce 10 small soft flour tortillas (you can use corn but I like flour with chicken) 3 tablespoons flour 2 cups chicken broth 1 cup sour cream 2 1/2 cups shredded and cooked chicken (we like to use rotisserie chicken) 3 cups Monterey Jack cheese – shredded 3 tablespoons butter 4oz can diced green chillies (I like medium – they are not spicy at all) Preheat oven to 350 degrees Combine shredded chicken and 1 cup of cheese Fill tortillas with the mixture above and roll each one then place in a greased 9x13 pan Melt butter in a pan over medium heat Stir flour into butter and whisk for 1 minute over heat. Add broth and whisk together. Cook over heat until it’s thick and bubbles up Take off heat and add in sour cream and chilies. (be careful it’s not too hot or the sour cream will curdle) Pour mixture over enchiladas and add remaining cheese to top. Bake in oven for 20-23 minutes then you will want to broil for 3 minutes to brown the cheese. You can freeze leftovers and serve later! Teriyaki Salmon with Sriracha Cream Sauce 1 tablespoon cornstarch 1/4 cup soy sauce 1/4 cup brown sugar, packed 1/2 teaspoon ground ginger 1/4 teaspoon garlic powder 2 tablespoons honey 2 salmon filets For the Sriracha Cream Sauce 1/2 cup mayonnaise 2-3 tablespoons Sriracha* 1 1/2 tablespoons sweetened condensed milk To make the Sriracha cream sauce, whisk together mayonnaise, 2 tablespoons Sriracha and condensed milk in a small bowl; set aside. In a small bowl, whisk together cornstarch and 1/4 cup water; set aside. In a small saucepan over medium heat, add soy sauce, 44 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com brown sugar, ginger, garlic powder, honey and 1 cup water; bring to a simmer. Stir in cornstarch mixture until thickened enough to coat the back of a spoon, about 2 minutes; let cool to room temperature. In a gallon size Ziploc bag or large bowl, combine teriyaki marinade and salmon filets; marinate for at least 30 minutes to overnight, turning the bag occasionally. Preheat oven to 400 degrees F. Lightly coat an 8x8 baking dish with nonstick spray. Place salmon filets along with the marinade onto prepared baking dish and bake until the fish flakes easily with a fork, about 20 minutes. Serve salmon immediately with Sriracha cream sauce. Craft & Antique MALL Art Vintage Jewelry Crafts Handbags Candles Antiques Collectables Gift Baskets Home Accessories Fabric Floral Arrangements Sports Memorabilia & Plaques Sun. 1-5 Mon-Fri 9-6 Crab Cake with Tangy Sauce 1/4 cup real mayo 1 egg 1 teaspoon Worchestershire sauce 1 teaspoon Dijon mustard 1/2 teaspoon Old Bay seasoning 2 teaspoons freshed parsley, chopped fine 1/3 cup plain bread crumbs 1 pound (16 oz.) lump crab meat 1/2 cup plain bread crumbs or Panko for coating 1/2 cup oil (I use Canola) 1/4 cup (1/2 stick) butter Mix together the mayo, egg, Worchestershire, Dijon, Old Bay and parsley in a large bowl. Stir in the 1/3 cup of bread crumbs. Mixture will be like a paste. Gently fold in the lump crab meat being careful not to break it up too much. You want to large chunks of crab to remain. Pour the 1/2 cup bread crumbs or Panko into a pie plate. Form 4 crab cakes with your hands. They should be about 4 inches in diameter and about an inch thick. Press the cakes into the bread crumbs coating both sides. Lay the crab cakes on a cutting board or plate and cover with plastic wrap. Refrigerate at least 20 minutes to help keep them from falling apart when cooking. While the cakes are being refrigerated, make the crab cake sauce recipe below. Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Melt the butter in the oil. When the oil is hot, carefully place the cooled crab cakes in the oil and saute until lightly browned, about 3 minutes per side. Move them to a baking sheet and bake 10 minutes in the oven. Crab Cake Tangy Sauce 1/4 cup real mayo (not reduced fat) 2 teaspoons Dijon mustard 2 teaspoons milk 1/2 teaspoon Worchestershire sauce 1/4 teaspoon A1 steak sauce 1/4 teaspoon salt Combine all ingredients and chill until ready to serve. May be doubled.. www.scwomanmagazine.com 114-A Hwy 17 N. Surfside Beach 238-3622 Sat. 10-5 homespuncrafters.com PET SUPPLIES & GROOMING www.waggintailsnmb.com Potato Free Chicken Free - Grain Free Hills Natural Miracle Eukanuba Iams Tetra Kong Natural Balance Furminator Now offering dogs and cats grooming six days a week in a safe, clean, and caring atmosphere to please our pets. We have great prices on a large selection of pet supplies for all your feathered, fluffy, finned and four legged friends. So stop by Waggin’ Tails and see what all the buzz is about!! 4017 Hwy 17 S. North Myrtle Beach (843) 663-1620 Located in the shopping center behind Jersey Mike’s in Windy Hill South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 45 A Closer Look with … Diane DeVaughn Stokes With the news of Diane’s new book, we decided to catch-up with her and have her share a little bit about her background and how she got into broadcasting... I was born in New Jersey but moved to Florence, SC and became a Southern Belle when I was fourteen. I always wanted to be a writer- cause from the time I could read, I started writing poetry and essays winning several contests during my school years. My teachers were also encouraging. I was always on the newspaper and yearbook staff in high school and college, and while in high school I even had my own column in the weekly newspaper paper in Florence. BUT I never planned on writing a book. However, as I went out to speak to civic clubs, garden clubs, book clubs, etc- the audience would laugh at my TV and radio stories and urge me to document them in a book. Three years ago- I decided to do just that. As for broadcasting- I was always a ham…certainly the first to volunteer in class to stand up and do my book report. I was never afraid. However, I never set out to be in broadcasting because when I was growing up that not an option for women. Gosh, that makes me sound like a dinosaur!!! However, I got tons of experience in high school as President of the Florence Youth Council as I was constantly being interviewed by the local media. Then, I was the student spokesperson to the media while attending the University of South Carolina -Florence campus which became Francis Marion. It was awesome being a part of a new college helping to write the student by-laws, designing a new school ring, organizing a new student government. And when the media came to the campus to ask what was going on, President Walter D. Smith chose me to represent the student body. It was great experience. While in high school, I met my mentor and best friend, Doug Williams, who I dedicated the book to. He was in radio at WOLS in Florence and told me I had a gift and needed to be in broadcasting. He asked me to be his co-host on his daily live radio show as soon as I finished college. “The Holiday Show” paid $15 a week- for an hour and half every weekday morning, but working with Doug was truly an education. He even took me to WBTW and taught me how to record voiceovers for TV commercials, finally becoming an official spokesperson on camera. At that time, I also continued writing for a local tourism magazine and became the Director of Sales for two Holiday Inns in Florence, which paid the bills. In 1974, I asked Joe Foster the Gen. Manager of WBTW if he would consider letting me host a TV talk show and he said, “Miss DeVaughn, we do not want women in television!” That’s right. At that time they did not even have female reporters. So even though I hosted every telethon with Doug for WBTW from 1973 to 1981, and appeared in hundreds of TV commercials, I did not get my own TV Talk show until WPDE went on the air in 1981. It was hard to leave Doug and the “Holiday Show” but Doug knew I had to follow my heart. The show was “Pee Dee People” and it ran until 1984 when I was being forced to anchor the news by the station manager, but refused to do so. I knew news was not up my alley. I loved “Talk”. It was at WPDE, however that I met the love of my life. Chuck and I felt that the cancellation of my show was the 46 www.scwomanmagazine.com M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine impetus we needed to make the move to Myrtle Beach since we knew TV was going to be bigger there than it ever was in Florence. Thank goodness we were right. In 1985, I hosted “Grand Strand Gazette” for WBTW, “Southern Style” for Cox Cable, and “Studebaker’s Live”- a local dance show for Cox Cable. Three wonderful shows! Chuck became the production manager for WBTW’s first MB office and remained there until 1989 when we opened Stages Video Productions so that we would finally be in charge of our own destiny- the best decision we ever made. “Southern Style” lasted for 23 years until Time Warner closed the studio. Currently I host “Diane at Six” on EASY Radio and love my new hour-length TV show, “Inside Out” on HTC channel 4 which runs 40 times a month. I’m so proud to be a part of HTC as no other company is more dedicated to this community. Thank goodness, I am still “Floating On Air”. There are over 130 stories in my book- eighty celebrity interviews, the rest local. After 42 years- and still going strong- it’s hard to name just one favorite. Astronaut Ronald McNair from Lake City was one of the most inspirational interviews, Mickey Spillane was the most fun, Dizzy Gillespie’s was out of control as Dizzy started asking me questions about the area, and Jimmy Carter announcing his presidency on the air years before anyone knew who he was, is simply the highlight interview of my career. And it’s all in the book. “Floating On Air- A Broadcasting Love Affair” Diane DeVaughn Stokes has written a book entitled “Floating On Air…A Broadcasting Love Affair”, featuring four decades of TV and Radio stories that will make you laugh, while others will touch your heart. Celebrity interviews include Dolly Parton, Jimmy Carter, Dizzy Gillespie, Jerry Lewis, Nancy Kerrigan, Charles Kuralt, Jerry Falwell, Robert Duvall, Mickey Spillane, Bobby Richardson, Amanda Blake and seventy more. Local treasures like Jimmy DeAngelo, Marge Stonebrook, Billy Roberts, Harry Love, Merlin Bellamy, Jack Thompson and the Waccattee Zoo to name a few. Also hilarious live bloopers that are too priceless and daring to not share. Diane is the owner of Stages Video Productions with her husband Chuck. She is the Host and Producer for “Inside Out” as seen on HTC Channel 4, the Host and Producer of “Diane At Six” on EASY Radio and a free-lance writer for local magazines. She has appeared in hundreds of TV commercials throughout the southeast. She began her career at WOLS Radio in Florence, South Carolina in 1973, was a free-lance commercial talent and www.scwomanmagazine.com telethon host for WBTW-TV 13 from 1973 to 1981, Hosted and Produced “Pee Dee People” and telethon host for WPDE-TV 15 from 1981- 1984 before moving to Myrtle Beach. Diane hosted several shows for WBTW in Myrtle Beach including the first area real estate show, “The Coastal Real Estate Video Guide”, and “Grand Strand Gazette” in the mid eighties. Diane served as Host and Producer in 1985 for “Southern Style” on Cox Cable/Time Warner Cable, which ran for twenty-three years. She also Hosted and Produced a local dance show, “Studebaker’s Live” for seven years. Diane formed the first chapter of the March of Dimes of Horry and Georgetown Counties serving as their first Executive Director for seven years, served on the board for the Myrtle Beach Chamber of Commerce, Theatre of the Republic in Conway performing in dozens of shows, is very involved with First Presbyterian Church and is the Chairman of the city of Myrtle Beach Cultural Arts Advisory Committee. Diane calls herself the “Emcee Queen” because she has emceed more non-profit events than anyone in the community, including the National Shag Dance Championships for twenty-seven years. The book published by Prose Press is available on Amazon.com and Barnes and Noble.com. Diane can be reached at 843-902-0843 Or [email protected] Magnolia We believe the patient always comes first! • GYNECOLOGY • OBSTETRICS • INFERTILITY • ULTRASOUND • ADOLESCENT GYNECOLOGY • FETAL TESTING • TREATMENT FOR MENOPAUSE ISSUES Tracy D. Nelson, M.D. Karyn C. Markley, M.D. Helena P. Kirkpatrick, M.D. Tracey A. Golden, M.D. OB/GYN, LLC OF MYRTLE BEACH • TREATMENT FOR INCONTINENCE • BOTOX INJECTIONS • OBAGI SKIN FITNESS • IN OFFICE DEXASCANS AND FOLLOW UP TREATMENT • DAVINCI ROBOTIC SURGICAL PROCEDURES Jessica Brown, MD Erin Smith, MD Norah Nutter, MSN, WHNP Karen Thompson, DNP 8203 Nigels Dr. (Ste 100) • Myrtle Beach, SC 449-5848 www.magnoliaobgyn.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 47 Design Your Life by Reaching Your Goals Make Your Goal a Reality You have written down your goal as a positive statement. You have made sure that it is a Specific Measurable Attainable Realistic and Timely goal (or a SMART goal). Now, what do you do? How do you stay motivated and not get side tracked or derailed? You have to make a plan, anticipate obstacles and stay motivated. Developing a Goal Action Plan: Once you have clarity around your goal, develop a plan that will get you where you want to go. Decide what resources you will need and what steps you have to take. What do you have in place already that might move you forward? What are your strengths, motivations, and weaknesses? How can you make the journey fun and successful so that you will stick with it? Take Inventory of Resources: Maybe your goal is to lose 20 pounds in the next 6 months. What do you already have in place that you can use? Do you have a kitchen scale so 48 you can weigh your food portions? Do you already have a blender so you can eat smoothies or nutritious shakes for meals? Make a list of resources you already have in place. What resources are not readily available? Where will you exercise? Do you need a gym membership or a trainer? Do you already have an exercise routine that you can stick to and kick up a notch? Do some research to figure out how many calories you can eat or have to burn off each day. Will M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine you implement some other kind of strategy, such as low fat, low carbs, or incorporate organic fruits and vegetables? Hiring a nutritionist might even be a good idea. Break It Up and Stay Flexible: What will you need to stay motivated? Are you someone who is motivated by deadlines, competition or rewards? Structure your plan to help you stay the course and make weekly or monthly milestones to track your progress. Make sure that you have a support system in place. Find someone else who is working toward a goal and support each other along the way. As you develop your plan, organize it into smaller attainable steps. Build in review breaks along the way to help you determine whether or not you are making the progress you anticipated. Flexibility is also important. Life still happens, so make sure that you schedule in some “Plan B” alternatives. For instance, if the weather is bad, how will you get in your exercise? Have Fun and Be Realistic: Above all, make sure that you have some enjoyable steps mixed into the plan. Do you love to go shopping? Then make sure you include shopping for the proper clothes, shoes, etc. Also, are you a night owl? Then, try not to schedule yourself for a 5 am run right away. Make sure you keep in mind the best way for you to be successful. Anticipate Obstacles: Once you have created your plan and visualized how you will reach your goal, figure out where you might encounter some obstacles or challenges. If you have a group of friends who likes to stay out late, and you have to start getting up early to fit exercise into your schedule, decide how you will handle that situation before it arises. Maybe there is a friend www.scwomanmagazine.com you go to brunch with on Sundays. Make sure that you schedule your Sunday run afterward. If you travel a lot, figure out how you will eat properly on the road. Make sure that you are ready for anything that might take you off your course. List your obstacles and next to each one, list a solution. This exercise will help you be prepared so you don’t get off track. What happens when you can’t anticipate a situation that might come up out of the blue? Don’t let decisions overwhelm you. You will have many decisions to make during your journey. Think about a situation you were in before where you had to make a similar decision. How did you make that decision? What worked for you? What would you have done differently? We are all human, so if you do get off track, just get back on as soon as possible. Be Your Biggest Fan: This may be the most important rule of all. Be nice to yourself! Check the negative self-talk at the door. We all know that our limiting beliefs and self-sabotage techniques can stop us dead in our tracks. When you start doubting yourself, take a step back, and think about how deserving you are for great things in life. Also, think about all of your strengths. I like to call these mind tricks internal obstacles. Make a list of 20 reasons why you deserve success. Here are some examples: 1. I care about people? 2. I am strong-willed? 3. I am authentic 4. I volunteer to help child and animal charities 5. ... You probably found that exercise easier than you thought it would be. Save this list, pull it out and read it anytime you feel undeserving of success. Find affirmations you can say to yourself. See yourself through the eyes of others. Many times our opinion of ourselves isn’t as high as others might see us. Talk to yourself the encouraging way you would talk to someone else. It is often said that if we spoke to others the way we speak to ourselves, we wouldn’t have any friends! As ridiculous as that sounds, I believe it to be pretty accurate. If you would like a free copy of the eBook, Design the Life You Were Meant to Have, then email [email protected]. Or feel free to call me @ 202-294-1080 with any questions or comments you may have. Kim Fowler, founder of Fowler Life Coaching (www.fowlercoaching.com), specializes in transitional coaching for those who are ready to make a big change in their lives. She has her training and certification from the Fowler Wainwright International Institute of Professional Coaching and the International Association of Coaches. She holds her Masters of Business Administration from George Mason University, and lives in Surfside Beach with her husband, Rich, their three cats and Sam the parakeet. www.scwomanmagazine.com We will be hosting our Easter Baby Talkers group on March 30th at 6:30 at Young Talkers Speech Therapy Clinic in Surfside Beach This is a group for children ages birth to 3 years and their parents/family members. We are going to have a theme of Easter for this group. There will be lots of fun songs, crafts, activities, and baby sign! We will have an Easter egg hunt so if you want to bring your child’s Easter basket, please feel free to do so. There is no fee for this group as it is provided as a service to the community. There will be a limitation of 15 children for the group to allow it to be as fun and productive as possible. If you would like to attend, please send an email to [email protected] by March 9th. You can visit the Young Talkers Facebook page to see pictures of past Baby Talkers group and the activities that we did in these groups. We look forward to seeing you and your little one(s) there! South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 49 A Product We Love 11 Tips to Help You Improve Your Connecting Skills Cushies (nufoot.com) By Dr Nancy D. O’Reilly Cushies, the newest indoor footwear creation from the Nufoot Company, are a comfortably padded and soft slipper-shaped footwear, but which is also nearly weightless, amazingly flexible and has a breathable mesh top. They are also antimicrobial and both water and skid resistant. Its sturdy neoprene construction makes it durable and comfortable on any indoor surface. Comes in a variety of colors in sizes for both men and women. $19.99, nufoot.com 50 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine The Women-Helping-Women Movement Is All About Connecting. Here Are 11 Ways to Do It Better. Making meaningful connections with other women can change your life (not to mention the world). Problem is, many of us don’t know how— or where—to do it. Competing with other women is out. Connecting with other women to share ideas, work together on projects, and offer support is in. The changes brought about by the global economy have made collaboration and innovation “must-have” skills, and the great news is that women tend to be naturals at them. And that, says clinical psychologist Dr. Nancy D. O’Reilly, is why the women-helping-women movement is really picking up steam. “We’re making a shift to what I call ‘Connecting 2.0,’” says O’Reilly, who along with 19 other women, cowrote the new book Leading Women: 20 Influential Women Share Their Secrets to Leadership, Business, and Life (Adams Media, 2015, ISBN: 978-1-440-58417-6, $16.99, www.drnancyoreilly.com). “It’s more meaningful than the ‘mile-wide and inch-deep’ type of connecting we associate with social media. It’s based on sharing and cocreating, not self-interest. It’s authentic, it feels good, and it works.” This deeper approach to connecting works so well, in fact, that we are creating an ever-expanding network of resources offering expertise and support to women in business, government, education, philanthropy, and other fields. The idea is not just to advance our careers and make money, but to make life itself richer, more exciting, and more creative. “This is more than a trend; it’s a movement—and women are loving it,” says O’Reilly. “More and more smart, amazing women are connecting to help their ‘sisters’ live their very best lives. These likeminded women are passionate about making the world a better place— so they are finding one another and building strong, supportive communities.” www.scwomanmagazine.com The women-helping-women movement is nothing like the phony, self-serving, let’s-exchange-cards-and-move-on networking that most of us hate. Sure, connecting with other women does pay off in amazing ways, but the rewards flow organically from our “feminine strengths” and a genuine desire to make a difference in the lives of others. You may be wondering, Where do I sign up? The answer is “everywhere.” This is not some exclusive club— it’s open to all women with passion, enthusiasm, and a yearning to live a richer, more fulfilling life and maybe even change the world. But O’Reilly knows you may not be used to thinking this way. That’s why she offers the following tips: • First things first: Aim for a good mix of online and face-to-face connecting. It’s easy to send an email message, and it’s really easy to like, to share, to follow in the world of social media. That’s why so many women do it. (It’s easy to push a key or click a mouse after all.) And while there is nothing wrong with social media, it’s also no substitute for real-world human interaction. The women-helping-women movement depends on both types of connecting: virtual and face-to-face. “If you’re burning up social media, consider taking an online contact offline,” she advises. “Tell her you’d love to meet her for lunch the next time she’s in town. Conversely, if you’re proudly ‘old school’ and are neglecting your social media presence, dive in. You really need a foot in both worlds.” • Join a new group that interests you and really attend the meetings. Make them a priority. It doesn’t matter what activity it’s based on. This may be a book circle or a kayaking club or a community cause. What’s important is that you’re getting together with other women who share a common interest—and that you go to meetings and events often enough to let these strong connections develop. “It’s the shared passion for the activity that generates the connections,” notes O’Reilly. “And those connections take on a life of their own. You may end up forging alliances, finding jobs, winning clients—even though that’s not the ‘purpose’ for the group.” • Get on a different team at work. We tend to stick to our comfort zone. But shaking things up from time to time keeps you sharp and puts you in the path of exciting new people. When you work with women you don’t know on projects you’re unfamiliar with, you will learn, grow, and often discover vital new talents and interests. • Get involved in a philanthropic cause that speaks to your heart. Women who care enough about others to volunteer their time, talents, and treasure are the kinds of women you want to meet. They tend to be “other-oriented” and want to make new connections, too. 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Dr. Pamela Benbow Doctor of Audiology 843.484.0981 MYRTLE BEACH 5913 N Kings Hwy CONWAY 1415 Third Ave, Ste 103 hearinghealthcare.net 52 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine through my Women Connect4Good, Inc., foundation,” she adds. “In fact, the book is living proof of the kind of collaboration that happens when women make connections based on their desire to serve.” • Think about what you need to learn. Seek out mentors who can help you learn it. Let’s say you have a small catering company specializing in weddings, parties, and family reunions. You’d like to expand into the healthcare conference arena but know nothing about the field. You might reach out to someone who plans such conferences and offer to trade services—perhaps cater an upcoming event for free or for a greatly reduced price—in exchange for the chance to learn and get a foot in the door. “You’re not asking for something for free,” notes O’Reilly. “You’re also bringing something to the table. Who knows: Her clients may love your fresh approach, and it could result in the two of you starting a whole new venture.” • Likewise, give back to women who need your expertise. In other words, don’t just seek out mentors. Be a mentor to women who can benefit from your knowledge and experience. It’s “good karma” and it can pay off in unexpected ways. • Take a class. (And don’t just sit there; talk to your neighbor.) Whether it’s continuing education for your job, a creative writing class at the local community college, or even a martial arts training session, actively pursue new knowledge and skills. This will bring new and interesting women into your life—women who, just by being there, show that they have a zest for life and learning. • Volunteer your speaking services. Yes, yes, you hate public speaking. Many women do. But taking to the podium is a powerful way to get your voice heard, to build up your confidence, and of course to make new connections with those who hear you speak. And there are many civic and service organizations—like the Chamber of Commerce and Rotary Club—that need speakers. • Handpick five to ten powerful women in your community and ask them to participate in an event. This might be a roundtable discussion that takes place at an industry conference or a community fundraiser, for example. And don’t think that busy, important women won’t have time for you, says O’Reilly. “Remember, women love sharing stories, best practices, and ideas,” she says. “You might be surprised by how many will say yes.” • If you’re invited, go. When someone invites you to an event or gathering—whether it’s an industry trade show, a party, or a hiking trip—go if you can. Yes, even if you’re tired, out-of-sorts, and feeling blah. “Say yes if it’s remotely possible,” advises O’Reilly. “There are always reasons to say no and some of them are good reasons. But overall, life rewards action. Life rewards yes. The more times you say yes, the more connections you will make. The more connections you make, the richer and more creative your life will be.” www.scwomanmagazine.com • Set a goal to meet “X” new women per month. Insert your own number, depending on your circumstances and personality. Hold yourself to this number (it will help greatly to keep track in a journal or calendar). If you take this metric seriously, you’ll figure out how to make it happen. And while meeting isn’t the same as connecting, it’s the essential first step. “Let’s say your goal is to meet five new women this month, and it’s the last day of the month and you have two to go,” says O’Reilly. “You can always pop into the spin class at your gym, or maybe go to an open house or political rally. While you’re there, of course, strike up conversations with at least two women and introduce yourself.” Voilà! You’ve met your goal! While women are naturally good at connecting, it doesn’t happen automatically, notes O’Reilly. We really do have to make an effort. “Most of us are so busy and overwhelmed that we just don’t make it a priority to connect with other women,” she says. “We really do have to be deliberately purposeful about it. The benefits of connecting with other women are incredible, so we owe it to ourselves—and each other—to make it happen.” Nancy D. O’Reilly, PsyD, is an author of Leading Women: 20 Influential Women Share Their Secrets to Leadership, Business, and Life and urges women to connect to help each other create a better world. She is a clinical psychologist, motivational speaker, and women-empowerment expert who devotes her energies to helping women achieve the lives they want. O’Reilly is the founder of Women Connect4Good, Inc., and for seven years she has interviewed inspiring women for online podcasts available on her website. For more information, please visit www.drnancyoreilly.com and follow the author on Facebook and Twitter. About the Book: Leading Women: 20 Influential Women Share Their Secrets to Leadership, Business, and Life (Adams Media, 2015, ISBN: 9781-440-58417-6, $16.99, www.drnancyoreilly.com) is available at bookstores nationwide and from online booksellers. Does your child have speech, feeding, or reading difficulties? Please call us to schedule an evaluation. Our new reading programs can help your child become a better reader Nicole Young-Cline M.A., CCC-SLP www.scwomanmagazine.com 8703 Hwy 17 Bypass S., Suite I Myrtle Beach 843-457-1053 www.YoungTalkers.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 53 Do You Know How Old Your Cat Really Is? When Is Senior Care Necessary? By Kim Hurley Owner, Cats Meow Veterinary Hospital The commonly held belief that a “cat year” is worth 7 “human years” is not entirely accurate. In reality, a 1 year old cat is similar to a 16-17 year old human, and a 2 year old cat is like a person of 21-23 years. For every year after, each “cat year” is worth about 4 to 5 human years. Using this formula, an 8-10 year old cat is similar age wise to a 53-60 year-old person, an 11-13 year old cat to a 66-70 year old person, and a 15 year old cat to a person of 74. There are many more senior cats than kittens. While they are kittens for only up to one year, they are seniors for many more years. Seniors make up the majority of the pet population, yet experts now estimate that less than 10 percent of these elderly patients get the recommended health screens. If you think about it, we humans are told “you need to get your cholesterol, blood pressure, mammograms, prostate check, and other blood work etc., etc.” at certain ages, and then every year after that. What is the difference between early detection for us versus our feline companions? NONE!! Too many times people will say “Oh she/he looks good for an old kitty”. They will chalk up laziness to just being older. Cats may slow down a little just like --us humans, but there could be a lot more going on. It is important to set up a good “Senior Care Program” with your veterinarian. A lot of people tend to bring their cats in only when there is a visible problem. It is hard to wrap your mind around paying for exams and tests when your cat seems perfectly healthy. As good as veterinarians are, they can’t see inside your cat, nor can your cat tell you exactly how they feel. The tests will give us an inside look at your cat’s overall health, which can greatly improve their quality of life expectancy. We are not necessarily looking for something wrong, but rather starting a baseline. These give us normal ranges so we have something to compare for future tests. Diseases can develop rapidly in seniors. You should have them rechecked once a year and the older they get, every six months. Early detection can make a huge difference in the outcome of your cat’s health. Kidney disease, which is prevalent in older cats, can be delayed and controlled if found early. By the time we see changes in their blood chemistry, 75 to 85 percent of the 54 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine cat’s kidneys could be gone. Like people, they need 50% to function. A simple change in diet can add years to your cat’s life if we find the disease early through blood tests and urinalysis. It may not be necessary to overload your senior cats with many of the different vaccines. Talk to your veterinarian about what your cat needs. It can be too much stress on their older bodies to use some of the yearly vaccines they may have needed in their earlier years. There are new vaccine protocols, and your vet can help determine the risk factors for your cat. In their older years, health screens are much more important. Below are some things for you as the owner to look for to help your vet manage the aging process of your cat. • Dehydration. Is your cat drinking more water than usual - hovering over the water bowl? Is the size of their urine outlet in the litter box a lot larger? This could be a sign of kidney problems or diabetes, just to mention two. • Excessive meowing, wandering, some disorientation. As in humans, aging changes in the brain contribute to loss of memory and personality changes. We can say that they can become “senile” too. • Hearing loss and changes in vision for various reasons can be noticed. • Dental disease is extremely common. You can lift the side of your cat’s cheeks to look at their back teeth for tarter. If they have bad breath, this is a really good sign of a problem. Most people do feel more comfortable having their vet deal with a cat’s teeth. Some of them look pretty sharp! Ha ha • Arthritis is also very common. Watch their movements. Make sure they can still jump up on things as they used to. You can always give them a little stool for a boost. Sometimes they may have trouble getting in and out of their litter box if the sides are too high. There are many good supplements, many the same as we take, for their aging bones and joints. • Hyperthyroidism is yet another problem common in older cats. Are they always hungry, eating all the time, but remain slim? Are they hyperactive to a point? Do the throw www.scwomanmagazine.com up often? Watch for these signs. • Feel of their body often for lumps and bumps. These could be tumors and/or lead to a problem with cancer. • Watch for changes in the appetite. Monitor their weight. Losses or gains in weight are significant. Proper diet is essential. • Are their bowel movements normal? Older cats can often get constipated, or irritable bowel syndrome is common if you see diarrhea with possible blood. This is a very small list of things to look for. Again, the best way to help your cat is a checkup with your veterinarian and report anything you notice different. The smallest thing may help detect a potential problem early. What about an older cat and grooming? As well as veterinary care, an older cat may need help keeping its coat healthy. • The skin of an older cat is thinner and loses its elasticity. They have reduced circulation also, which is why older cats love warm places to sleep. • Older cats are not as good at grooming themselves. Their hair may begin matting. They may not be able to reach certain areas as they are not as flexible as they used to be. • Their claws are often overgrown and thick. They can grow into their paw pads and should be trimmed on a regular basis. A good groomer that is familiar with cats should be consulted. Even older cats can get a bath with the right groomer. It makes them feel so much better. The buildup of oils in their coats and matting can cause skin infections. Heaven forbid if they have fleas! It may not be as easy for them to scratch themselves. Luckily, Cat’s Meow Veterinary Hospital is an exclusive cat’s only facility. We can help you keep your seniors healthy with caring veterinarians and skilled grooming. We also offer luxury boarding facilities. If you have to travel, we feel better watching the older kitties in oversized palaces. It is better to see them for 8 - 10 hours a day versus someone just checking in on them at your home daily. We can notice any changes sooner. Last but not least, remember that there are many senior cats out there for adoption. They may have lost their owners for many reasons and would be so grateful for a second chance on the rest of their life. Many are still spunky and play. Or you may want a lap cat. If you could have met “One-Eyed Sally” at Cat’s Meow, she was a perfect example of how much love an older cat has to give. After losing Sally to cancer, we still have old man “Oscar” who likes to climb on people’s shoulders for attention. 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March 2015 55 would lead me to write after I’m not good at giving up my treatments were finished. things for Lent. You wouldn’t y s s i And as always, His perspecwant to live with me if I r No P tive was right. How about couldn’t eat chocolate for Shoes that. forty days. My non-traditionPreoccupation with self al alternative is to take on seems to be a common malasomething new instead of dy. Guess it always has been. giving up something old. Me, my and mine. How often This year, I am reading a new an m do our thoughts dwell on Christian book on prayer be ra By Linda G those dear-to-our-heart subwith a girlfriend, but that’s jects? Sadly, we slip into that not all. For only the second self-absorbed tendency far time I can remember in recent too easily. I do anyway. years, a secular book has also That’s when circumstances and human interactions, thankgrabbed my attention and securely wrapped itself around fully, remind us that lives lived only for ourselves are lonely, my heart. Its message is actually a refrain which keeps sad existences. replaying in my life lest I forget it. Let me give you the So let me tell you about this book which has made such background. an impact on me. It is called an INVISIBLE THREAD, and I Over eight years ago, when I was diagnosed with fairly was so privileged to hear and meet the author, Laura advanced breast cancer, a friend said something which has Schroff at this year’s Women in Philanthropy and had more impact on my life than she would ever believe. Leadership Conference a few weeks ago. I immediately When I told her of my diagnosis, she responded with these related to her because she had her speech totally written out words, “It’s not all about you, Linda.” I was a little shocked on the podium, and she very humbly told us so. The previbut in hindsight I can see how accurate those words were. I ous speaker had given a perfectly polished, no-notes-at-all was thinking about me...my chemo, my sickness, my hair talk. I couldn’t fathom doing that. I have very extensive loss. God was also thinking and caring about me, but in addition, He was thinking about the other 2,200 women who notes when I speak. Or maybe I felt a heart-to-heart connecare diagnosed each day with cancer, and how they might be tion with her because we were both unexpected authors. (But that is where the literary similarities end, because she is encouraged and comforted by No Prissy Shoes, the book He now a NYTimes #1 Bestselling author.) Her heart-warming yet convicting story was about some simple gestures which made an incredible difference to both the receiver and the giver. Laura befriended a hungry eleven year old boy in New York City nearly three decades ago. She had actually walked past the little boy who was begging, refusing his plea for money. She was very accustomed to those pleas. But thankfully, something made her turn around. Neither of their lives have been the same since. This kindness refrain had also reverberated through another bestselling book called Praying for Strangers. This author, River Jordan, was a guest on the Grand Strand a few years ago at a Moveable Feast, and I had the distinct joy of sitting at her table. Interesting how each of these books writVisit our showroom at ten about the power of kindness quickly shot to the top of 11730 Hwy 17 Bypass the most-read list! Maybe we are happy to find yet another Murrells Inlet, SC 29576 reminder to step out of those self-imposed hamster wheels we are prone to spin on day after day. We all need eyes to see, to even notice that a person is having an upside down s Kindnes Refrain 56 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com Family of Motorcycle Legend Working to Make A Difference Jean Davidson, an internationally known author and speaker, comes from an amazing line of motorcycle legends. She is the granddaughter of Walter Davidson, one of the founders and first president of the Harley-Davidson® Motor Company. Her father, Gordon Davidson, was the vice president of manufacturing and for many years and she and her husband, John, owned the largest Harley-Davidson® dealership in Wisconsin. She also serves as the Davidson family historian and has written numerous books on the family history. Since her first book published in 2002, Jean has been traveling all over the U.S. and the world as a public speaker in conjunction with her book tours. She recently published her 6th book, Harley-Davidson® Family Memories, which she co-authored with her son Jon Davidson Oeflein. From growing up immersed in the motorcycle culture to being invited to speak at H-D® dealerships across the globe including Sweden, Hungary and England to being the special guest at the largest motorcycle rally in Europe, she’s certainly covered a lot of ground in the biker world. Yet her passion in life took her outside of the dealerships. Prior to becoming an author and international speaker, Jean was a teacher who specialized in children with spe- day or looking a little blue. What a difference a smile, a kind word, or a cup of coffee can do for someone feeling totally disheveled. A lot of good with very little effort on our part. Aesop was right. “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” One of my favorite birthday presents last year was a plaque with this saying: “Every time you smile at someone else, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.” The speaker was Mother Teresa, whose life exemplified the power of kindness. You may choose to do small gestures of kindness for many people like River Jordan did as she prayed for strangers... every day, wherever she went. Or you may prefer to do larger acts for one individual, like Laura Schroff. Either way, the world is a little less lonely and a little more connected because you looked beyond yourself and cared enough to reach out to someone else. By the time this SCWoman magazine hits the stands, there will be five weeks of Lent remaining. Plenty of time to add either one of these books to your pre-Easter discipline. I promise, you’ll be happy that you did. But even if you don’t buy the books, embrace kindness a little more tightly. Enrich and enhance your own life by reaching out to others, whether in big ways or small. “Never underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” Leo Buscaglia Visit Linda at www.lindagrabeman.com www.scwomanmagazine.com cial needs. In 2006, a tragic water accident involving her four year old grandson, Ryder, led her to develop a children’s safety program known as, Yell and Tell. She now uses her Harley-Davidson® book tours as a platform to spread the word on this lifesaving program that is gaining worldwide attention. Jean will be making her first appearance along the Grand Strand this March at Myrtle Beach Harley-Davidson®. She will be onsite for a book signing, Sunday March 29th from 11am3pm during the dealership’s 5th Annual Biker Bluegrass Festival. Jean will be signing her newest book, Harley-Davidson® Family Memories. In this book, she and her son, Jon Davidson Oeflein, share a very personal glimpse behind the scenes of the great Harley-Davidson® Motor Company, that includes little-known stories and over 250 photographs collected from numerous sources including family members, personal collectors, rare magazines, long-time H-D® employees and dealers, and the Harley-Davidson® Motor Company Archives. For more information on this event visit MyrtleBeachHarley.com. For more information about Jean go to www.jeandavidson.com and please visit www.yellandtell.com to help save the lives of our children. PRESENTS FEATURING SATURDAY, MARCH 7, 2015 DID YOU MISS YOUR HIGH SCHOOL PROM? DID YOU HAVE A BLAST & WANT TO DO IT AGAIN OR WAS IT JUST NOT WHAT @ HOUSE OF BLUES, BAREFOOT LANDING 3 TICKET LEVELS AVAILABLE MUSIC BY 80’S TRIBUTE BAND RUBIX KUBE SPONSORED BY: YOU ENVISIONED AND YOU WANT A REDO? JOIN US FOR THE KATIE’S PROJECT 2ND CHANCE PROM! For more information please visit www.KATIESPROJECT.org South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine March 2015 57 Ask the Organizer Being Organized Will Save Your Money! Diana Aversano, Organizing Made Simple The average American spends 55 minutes per day looking for things they’ve misplaced. A quarter of homeowners don’t park in their garage due to their garage being “too full” of stuff. 43% of adults claim they have paid a bill late because they lost it. 23% of them admit this happens regularly. 58 Here are some ways to keep track of those things and get that time back! Saving Time = Saving Money • Organize your time for the early morning rush hour at your house, the night before. Set those things out so your morning and day will go smoothly. • Gift Cards ~ Keep them in one envelope or container unique enough to not be overlooked, then put them in a place where you see them often, like a dresser drawer. • Physical Mail ~ Have one container and one container only to hold incoming mail. Then keep it near your entry door. Without fail, place all M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine incoming mail there, until you can properly go through it. • Bills ~ Don’t get stuck with late fees and credit card interest. Set aside a holder to keep all your bills together in, as soon as they come in. Consider paying them on the same day of the week or the same day of the month. Research some apps that will remind you of the dates they need to be paid by. • Rebates ~ The minute you bring home a purchase that requires you to send in a rebate, tape the original receipt to the box near the barcode. That box will be harder to ignore than a receipt in a pile somewhere! Then send it in asap. • Receipts ~ Place store receipts, important or not, in one holder. When you need one later on, it will be a relief to find it right there instead of ransacking the house for it. Other receipts for tax purposes can be housed together in different folders so tax time will be easier to navigate. • Returns ~ Hang a “reuseable bag” near your entry door. As soon as you know that something needs to be returned, place it there in its own bag complete with the receipt. When the time comes to return it, it will be there ready to pick up and go. Tidy Places = Tidy Savings • Eliminate buying duplicates! In your pantry, your clothes closet, and on your workbench arrange items so they can all be seen. It is a constant reminder of exactly what you have. It will not only suppress the urge to buy more, it will show you at a glance just what you need to buy. How many pairs of scissors have you bought because you couldn’t find the ones you thought you had? If you have a cluttered area, take www.scwomanmagazine.com everything out. You’ll probably be surprised by the duplicates there, for example, under your sinks. How many different types of cleaning products do we seriously need, don’t a few do it all? • Clean out your storage unit, or at least par it down to a smaller size. The things that are stored away, out of sight, typically aren’t needed and decisions ought to be made about them. • Freezer labels ~ Freezers are tight places and things get lost in there in a hurry. Keep a magic marker nearby to write the contents on bags as you slip them into the freezer. For easy retrieval, keep like-foods happily together in a very large storage bag, and odds and ends like www.twiceasnicemytlebeach.net CATS ONLY VETERINARY HOSPITAL A Place Just for Cats at Very Affordable Prices! shredded cheeses all together in another. Be Aware = Be Richer • Close out any subscriptions, paid memberships or accounts you don’t need. Temporarily suspend your magazine subscriptions until you’ve read all the ones you have in that pile near your chair. • Make a budget which is simply a plan for your money. Even if you don’t follow it strictly, you’ll become aware of expenses in your near future, and you’ll see how those little daily expenditures effect your bottom line. • Call service providers, internet services, and car insurance companies to negotiate better terms every year or sooner. Be Organized to save your money! Maintaining an organized home will reduce stress in all areas of your life. It will also result in less spending! Attend to the little things as often as you can, and the savings will add up to a lot of money. Organizing Made Simple 843-385-1204 www.scwomanmagazine.com Let's make sure our Older Kitties still Feel a "Spring in their Step"! 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It’s our families that give us our history, and food is very much a part of that. But when women stepped outside the home to become cooks and professional chefs, they made history for all women. They proved that in a world where few females had gone before, they not only achieved success, they changed the industry. One of the most inspiring stories about the triumphant female chefs is the biography of Edna Lewis, the granddaughter of an emancipated slave. In 1949, she opened a successful and high-profile restaurant in Manhattan at a time when few women, especially black women, owned businesses. She cooked for luminaries such as William Faulkner, Truman Capote and Gloria Vanderbilt. One of Edna’s favorites was a Lane Cake, also called an Amalgamation Cake. The cake was created after the Civil War. “Amalgamation” means “combining or uniting,” and the cake’s name may have symbolized the union of race and culture marked by the freeing of blacks from slavery. The history behind the Lane Cake and the Amalgamation Cake is varied, but somewhere their paths cross. Today, both cakes are white cakes with a filling of raisins, nuts and coconut. Some recipes also use bourbon, dark rum or brandy. This recipe was passed down from contributor Gina Harlow’s husband’s grandmother. She was given the recipe by her mother-in-law, which makes it more than 100 years old! No matter which name you choose for this historic recipe, it’s a delicious reminder of the contributions that women have made to the culinary industry. AMALGAMATION CAKE For the cake: 2 sticks (1 cup) unsalted butter, room temperature, plus more for the pans 3 cups all-purpose flour, more for the pans 2 teaspoons baking powder 1/4 teaspoon salt 2 cups granulated sugar 1 cup whole milk, room temperature 5 egg whites, room temperature For the fruit filling: 5 egg yolks, room temperature 1 1/2 cups granulated sugar 1 stick (1/2 cup) unsalted butter 1 cup raisins 60 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com 1 cup sweetened grated coconut 1 cup chopped pecans For the boiled white frosting: 2 cups granulated sugar 3/4 cup water 1 teaspoon cream of tartar 2 egg whites, room temperature For the sugared pecans (optional): 1 tablespoon unsalted butter 1 egg white 1 tablespoon water 2 cups pecans 1/2 cup granulated sugar For the cake: 1. Heat oven to 350 F. Butter and flour two 9-by-2-inch cake pans. Set aside. 2. Sift together 3 cups flour, baking powder and salt. Set aside. 3. Place butter in bowl of electric mixer. Cream on medium-low speed and gradually add sugar. Continue mixing until pale yellow. Alternating between dry and wet ingredients, starting and ending with dry, add the flour mixture and milk to the butter mixture. Set aside. (The batter will be very stiff and thick.) 4. In a clean second bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the whisk attachment, beat the egg whites to stiff peaks, 3 to 5 minutes. Take a cup or so of beaten whites and whisk into batter. Fold in remaining beaten whites. Divide batter between prepared pans. 5. Bake until the tops are pale golden and a toothpick inserted into the center comes clean, 35 to 40 minutes. Remove to rack to cool slightly. Invert the cake layers onto a rack to cool completely. F. Pour syrup in a steady stream down the side (to avoid splattering) of the bowl containing the egg white mixture, with the mixer on medium-low speed. Beat frosting on medium speed until cool, 5 to 10 minutes. The frosting should be thick and shiny. To assemble the cake: Place one of the cooled cake layers on a cardboard cake round. Spread with half the fruit filling. Top with the second layer, bottom side up, and top with remaining fruit filling. Ice the sides of the cake with the reserved boiled icing. To see how-to videos, recipes and much, much more, Like Angela Shelf Medearis, The Kitchen Diva! on Facebook. Read Gina Harlow’s blog about food and gardening at www.peachesandprosciutto.com. (c) 2015 King Features Synd., Inc., and Angela Shelf Medearis Tropical escapes; Worldly adventures; Enriching experiences; Stress-free planning Anjana Duff 843-455-4478 [email protected] www.travelconnectionad.com For the filling: Combine yolks, sugar and butter in a medium, heavy saucepan over medium heat. Cook, stirring constantly, until the sugar is completely dissolved and the mixture is thick and candylike, about 10 minutes. Remove from heat and add raisins, coconut and pecans. Set aside and keep warm. For the frosting: 1. In a small, heavy saucepan, combine sugar, water and cream of tartar. Heat over medium heat, stirring occasionally, until sugar has dissolved. Increase heat to a boil. Do not stir anymore. Boil, washing down sides of pan with a pastry brush dipped in cold water from time to time to prevent sugar from crystallizing, until a candy thermometer registers 240 F, about 5 minutes. 2. Meanwhile, in bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the whisk attachment, whisk the egg whites on medium speed until soft peaks form, about 2 1/2 minutes. 3. Remove syrup from heat when temperature reaches 240 www.scwomanmagazine.com Diane Aversano, Organizing & Productivity Consultant www.organizingmadesimple2.com [email protected] 843-385-1204 3822 Palmetto Dr. Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 ORGANIZINGMADESIMPLE2 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine M a r c h 2 0 1 5 61 Technology Today: A Modern Mother’s Balancing Act By Meaghan Grettano Lately I’ve been seeing posts and articles buzzing around on social media depicting what life was like growing up as children in the 70s and 80s. This makes me very reminiscent of my own childhood because I, a child born in the 70s, can remember with fond memories what these posts recall. The photo of a dozen bikes sprawled across someone’s front lawn with a caption about how THIS is how we found our friends. Very different than today where we often find our friends on Facebook. We know where they are and what they are doing through their check-in’s and status updates. Or the articles reminiscing about how we spent our days outside until the street lights came on, with no plan other than to use our own imaginations, exploring the familiar turf of our own neighborhood. A Saturday afternoon today looks very different for many kids who would rather explore the new worlds and levels on their latest app. My point here is that times have changed. As a mom in today’s modern world, I’m not sure how I feel about all of this yet. I’m torn between wanting to tell my kids to unplug and go outside and play with sticks or just letting them do their thing on the tablets. And when I think about this internal struggle, here’s the thing I often ponder…we are the first generation of moms to face the challenge of balancing technology with our kids. Yes, there have been home games systems around for some time but the portable technology, fully loaded with games, like the smartphones and tablets are pretty new and are around everywhere we look. Kids are holding them at the store in shopping carts. They are watching movies at a table in a restaurant. While riding in strollers. On a car ride. And often plugged in at home. This is a new advancement in the world of technology and us moms today are the pioneers when it comes to exposing our children to it. How much is too much? Is it ok to let them sit in all day on a Saturday and play games? At what age is it acceptable to buy them their own device? And the biggest concerns which often leave me worrying…is having a device on their laps connected to wi-fi emitting radiation even safe for their small growing bodies? And, how does all of this screen time affect their growing brains? Then I go back to the reminiscent days of playing outside until the street lights came on and making a day out of playing with sticks and rocks in the backyard. I know this still does happen, but let’s face it…today technology often wins. Kids would rather play an app on the phone or tablet and I can honestly say that my kids are no exception to this. WINE LIGHTS recycled wine bottles into nitelites! A spiritual support group for anyone going through cancer, cancer survivors and caregivers living in Horry County, South Carolina. This group is open to men and women and anyone suffering from a debilitating disease. Infusion meets the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of each month from 8 - 9 am at a delightful little shop called the Come visit us at HUDSON’S FLEA MARKET Building F (behind Bldg A!) Open Friday & Saturday 9 AM - 1 PM Wine Lights As well as Chandelier, wreaths,candles and more! [email protected] 843-222-0905 62 M a r c h 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Just Because IYQ Tea Room 2520 US 17 business in the Oasis complex in Garden City There is no fee to attend and no pre-registration is required... because you never know how you are going to feel from one hour to the next when going through cancer treatment. This encouraging group is birthed from the heart and experience of internationally acclaimed motivational speaker Donna Tyson, who was diagnosed with Triple Negative Breast Cancer in April 2014. For more information, contact, Donna Tyson at 1-504-419-6916, by email at [email protected] www.scwomanmagazine.com So I’m left wondering, as a modern mother, how do we balance this? While I have no answer to this and feel on most days that I’m floundering through it, I remind myself that like it or not, this is the way of the world today. They learn on iPads at school now for goodness sakes! The reading assignments that often come home from school are on apps. This is their childhood. It’s all they know. When I reminisce to them about how it was when I was a child, I probably sound ancient to them. I do want what is best for them. I want them to be healthy, happy, well-rounded children. So what I do is parent the very best I can, knowing that no parent that has come before me has faced these challenges. The struggles and challenges of parenthood are real, all of them. But, that’s just parenting, right? Whether we’re talking about screen time, potty training, or sleep issues, it’s all very real. All we can do is love our kids, embrace the modern times, and simply do our best, remembering that a screen-free day every so often will do a family good! Meaghan is a holistically-minded mom raising her two children in Wilmington, NC. 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