Adath Shalom A Conservative Synagogue MAY HAPPENINGS AT ADATH SHALOM 1 Fri 2 Sat 9:30am 11:30am 5:30pm 7:15pm 9:00am 5 8:45pm Sun 9:00am 9:00am 10:30am 10:45am 11:15am Tue 7:00pm 6 Wed 7 Thu 8 Fri 3 7:30pm 7:30am 9:30am 4:15pm 6:00pm 9:30am 7:15pm 9 Sat 10 Sun 12 Tue 13 Wed 14 Thu 15 Fri 16 Sat 17 Sun 19 Tue 20 Wed 21 Thu 9:00am 7:30pm 1:00pm 9:00am 9:00am 9:00am 10:30am 11:00am 12:00pm 7:30pm 9:30am 4:15pm 9:30am 5:15pm 7:15pm 9:00am 9:45 am 10:30am 10:30am 9:00am 9:00am 11:00am 10:30am 6:30pm 7:30pm 7:30pm 9:30am 6:30pm 7:00pm Shabbat Shapers Morristown Soup Kitchen Lunch Pajama Neshama Kabbalat Shabbat Family Service 7:38 pm Candle Lighting Gimel Siddur Service Shabbat Service, Parshat Acharei Mot-Kedoshim Bat Mitzvah of Peri Manoff; Hochman baby naming Cabaret Night of the Stars! Religious School Minyan, Torah Discussion and Breakfast Writers’ Circle Hey Hall of Fame Youth Committee Meeting Is It Typical Teen Angst or More Serious? Parent Education Program, Part II Mah Jongg Study Group – Increasing Happiness in our Lives, Part 3 Florence Melton Mini School Religious School Lag B’Omer Picnic Shabbat Shapers Shabbat at Home Kabbalat Shabbat Service 7:45 pm Candle Lighting Dalet Class Service Shabbat Service, Parshat Emor Vov Class Service USY Regional Event – Closing Dance (Metuchen, NJ) Shabbat Attendance Award Recognition Event Religious School Minyan, Torah Discussion and Breakfast Tikkun Olam Mothers Day Car Wash Writers’ Circle Religious School Zimriyah Chazak Luncheon Info Session: Synagogue Trip to Holocaust Sites in Europe Florence Melton Mini School Religious School (last midweek session) Shabbat Shapers Shabbat Shalom at the JSDD Kabbalat Shabbat Service 7:52pm Candle Lighting Shabbat Service, Parshat Behar-Bechukotai Bat Mitzvah of Sarah White Jr. Congregation Shabbat Chavurah Tot Shabbat Last Day of Religious School Minyan and Zayin Graduation Youth Talent Show Writers’ Circle USY Beach Party Board of Directors Meeting Mah Jongg Florence Melton Mini School Women’s Rosh Chodesh Group Dinner The Jewish Angle continued ... 12 Iyar 5775 —13 Sivan 5775 MAY 2015 841 Mountain Way Morris Plains, NJ 07950 Office: 973-539-8549 Fax: 973-539-4884 Web: www.adathshalom.net Bulletin email address: [email protected] Phone Extension Moshe Rudin, Rabbi [email protected] Jack Korbman, Cantor [email protected] Brian Kalver, Student Cantor [email protected] Charlotte Frank, Education Director [email protected] Juan Isaza, Facilities Manager [email protected] Pam Jorlett, Religious School Administrator [email protected] Jayne Karten, Program Director [email protected] Laurie Lindner, Synagogue Administrator [email protected] Jessica Davy, Youth Advisor [email protected] Rebecca Fish, Teen Education Coordinator [email protected] Maxine Moses, Bulletin Editor [email protected] Susan Solomon, Synagogue Social Worker [email protected] Michael Stepak, President [email protected] 110 111 120 107 121 106 105 108 Synagogue Office Hours Monday-Thursday Friday 9:00am - 4:00pm 9:00am - 3:00pm Rabbi’s Drop-In Hours Tuesday 4:00pm - 6:00pm Feel free to call anytime! MAY HAPPENINGS AT ADATH SHALOM continued 22 Fri 23 Sat 24 Sun 25 Mon 28 Thu 29 Fri 30 Sat 31 Sun 9:30am Shabbat Shapers 7:15pm Kabbalat Shabbat Mazal Tov Service 7:58pm Candle Lighting 9:00am Shabbat Mazal Tov Service, Parsha Bamidbar Bat Mitzvah of Jordyn Kushel 8:30pm Tikkun Leil Shavuot 9:00am Services, Shavuot (first day) Shavuot (second Day) and MEMORIAL DAY – OFFICE CLOSED 9:00am Services, (Yiskor) 9:30am Florence Melton Mini School 7:00pm The Jewish Angle 9:30am Shabbat Shapers 11:30am Morristown Soup Kitchen Lunch 7:15pm Kabbalat Shabbat Service 8:22pm Candle Lighting 9:00am Shabbat Service, Parsha Naso Jacob Badian Bar Mitzvah 11:00am Donor Brunch at the Suskind home Table of Contents TOPIC PAGE PRESIDENT’S MESSAGE REMARKS FROM RABBI RUDIN FROM OUR SOCIAL WORKER RELIGIOUS SCHOOL NEWS YOUTH NEWS BNAI MITZVAH COMMITTEE NEWS TRIBUTES & TZEDAKAH COOL EVENTS 3 4 5-6 7-9 10 11-12 16,18-19 26-28 29-43 Click on listing to link to specific page Follow us on 2 President’s Message We need you! We need your skills, energy, passion, enthusiasm and your gift of time. To be successful, Adath Shalom depends on the commitment of its very dedicated volunteers. However, we need to be mindful of the time that our volunteers spend on synagogue matters in order to keep them from “burning out.” To help with this, we need to cultivate and nurture a volunteer culture so more members of our congregation are motivated and interested in volunteering and reaping the benefits from doing so. We have started this process at the Board of Directors level under the leadership of Vice President Lisa Epstein. Lisa created a five page Committee Needs Assessment Form distributed at our April Board meeting. The detailed Needs Assessment Form requests that all Committee Chairs define their committee’s purpose, primary goals, objectives and highest priorities and responsibilities. Committee Chairs are also asked to provide descriptions of the skill sets and expertise needed, the time commitment required and the training and succession planning that currently exist. In the near future, we plan to survey congregants to better match talents and interests to synagogue needs. We are also looking at ways of improving communications so that congregants have better access to information regarding these needs. Finally, we are considering a United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism training session to help cultivate a volunteer culture in which congregants are motivated to volunteer, enjoy what they are doing as volunteers, and are acknowledged for their efforts. In the meanwhile, if you are interested in volunteering but not sure how or in what capacity, contact Lisa Epstein at [email protected]. On Sunday morning, May 31, we will have our second Annual Donor Appreciation Brunch at the home of Robin and Jay Suskind for all congregants who made a Kol Nidre Appeal or Sustaining Membership gift of $360 or more in the last year. So far, we are fortunate to have 61 Adath Shalom families who gave at this level. If you are interested in joining these families in supporting Adath Shalom and coming to the brunch, please contact Synagogue Administrator Laurie Lindner regarding increasing your Kol Nidre or Sustaining Membership gift. I want to wish a Mazel Tov to Peri Manoff (May 2), Sarah White (May 16), Jordyn Kushel (May 23) and Jacob Badian (May 30) as they are called to the Torah this month to celebrate their B’nai Mitzvahs. Also, Mazel Tov to Richard Hochman and Debra Bernstein on the baby naming of their granddaughter and first grandchild that will take place on May 2. Our Religious School students take center stage this month with several class services and graduation. Mazel Tov to the 3rd grade (May 1), 4th grade (May 8) and 6th grade (May 9) Religious School students as they lead their class services and Mazel Tov to all our 7th grade Religious School students as they graduate on May 17. Finally, I want to wish all of the amazing Adath Shalom moms a Happy Mother’s Day on May 10! Regards and Shalom, Mike Stepak 3 Remarks from Rabbi Rudin Summer Lovin’.... For many of us, Judaism is an autumn through spring affair, starting around Rosh HaShana and ending when Religious School lets out in May. Some synagogues used to actually shut down and go on break over the summer; an odd phenomenon without any precedent in Jewish life. But really, there ain’t no Yiddischkeit (Judaism) like summer Yiddischkeit! There are so many awesome Jewish moments during the longer, warmer days; don’t miss the opportunity to celebrate and connect! For our parents: It’s still not too late to sign up for Jewish summer camp. As a former camper, former counselor and former camp director, I can attest that there is hands down no better way for a kid to spend the summer than at one of our awesome camps; from MetroWest’s Deeny Riback to Ramah day and overnight camps to many more. For complete information, be in touch with Tracy Levine, camping specialist for the Jewish Federation at [email protected]. But even beyond camp, there’s plenty going on in Judaism and at Adath Shalom over the summer. Some highlights: Shabbat Al Fresco! Kabbalat Shabbat services on the patio are so beautiful. Watching the sun go down and the sky darken, the stars coming out on Shabbos eve… indescribable! Especially if it’s one of our Summer Schul Friday nights featuring live music performances and cookouts! Lag BaOmer This year we celebrate on Thursday, May 7th after religious school with our annual volleyball game and hot dog roast. Shavuot This festival is the shortest of the three major holidays - a mere two days in contrast to the seven day celebrations of Sukkot and Pesach. Shavuot celebrates the giving of the Torah on Sinai. In preparation for this cosmic event, we stay up late studying, davening, singing and noshing. This year, Shavuot arrives the evening of May 23rd. We’ll be exploring Torah and Bible through drama, music and more, as well as making our own blintzes and other goodies. Tisha B’Av Okay, truth be told, this commemoration is not a joyful celebration but a day of national mourning for the destruction of the Temple and the shadow side of Jewish history. But in a sense we need to acknowledge and confront the shadows if we’re going to celebrate the light. Tisha B’Av, the ninth day of Av, falls on July 25th and is marked by reading the Book of Lamentations and, for some, fasting. It marks a low point in the dog days of summer, but in another sense begins the wind up to the dawn of a new year of hope and renewal. Tu B’Av The very, very, very last Jewish celebration of the year… It’s the festival of love when the young men and women of Jerusalem would hike out into the orchards dressed in their finest to mingle and meet. This year Tu B’Av, the Jewish day of romance and love, comes on August 1st. Rosh Chodesh Elul August 15th is the beginning of the month of Elul, the month when we prepare for the High Holidays; as the days grow shorter and cooler, excitement builds for 5776 - sure to be the best year ever, overflowing with blessings, celebrations, Torah and renewal for the Adath Shalom family, Am Yisrael and the world! Happy Summer! Stay tuned! 4 Susan Solomon Synagogue Social Worker Rapid Conflict Resolution TM As we all know, conflict is natural and almost inevitable. The challenge is successful resolution. Conflict impacts almost every part of our lives at some time. So I decided for my article this month to share information from a Webinar, Rapid Conflict Resolution TM (1). In my experience, the process is one of the more straight-forward and non-threatening ones. However, it does require personal investment of time and energy. The Webinar uses work situations as examples, but the concept is easily generalized to all types of relationships. A counseling method, Reality Therapy by William Glasser, also uses this method. The process includes 8 questions to facilitate resolution. The approach is present-based and aimed at fixing the future. It is not focused on past negative behaviors, blame, and excuses. A person outside the conflict usually facilitates the discussion to keep things moving forward. Questions 1 and 2 are asked privately of each individual before the parties meet. Question #1 (a) Do you want to resolve this situation? (b) How and why is resolution important to you and maybe to others? In conflict resolution, there inevitably needs to be some modification of behavior by all parties. Thus, until all participants can say YES to (a) and find significant motivation in (b), it is not possible to proceed. Sometimes this step needs time and an examination of the negative consequences of continuing the conflict. Guidance by the facilitator may be needed to develop commitment. Question # 2 - Whose behavior do you control? The answer must be MY OWN. We all know you cannot force another person to change. If the response to this question is to blame, make excuses, or the expectation that only the other person needs to change, the conflict is not resolvable - at least at this time. Hopefully, the person will receive some help to see his/her contribution to the conflict. Questions 3 to 5 are to be discussed in the meeting of the individuals. Often, those involved in the conflict need time to think about their responses privately and write down thoughts before the meeting. If people are in high conflict, it may be helpful for the facilitator to meet with each person individually to help them process what they wish to communicate to the other person(s) at the meeting. Question #3 - What’s working now or has in the past? The purpose of this question is to build some common ground and set a more positive tone. Even if they do not like each other, they need to find some positives about situation? For instance… In a marriage, we love our children and we need to be mindful of them. At work… we used to get the work done on time or the person works well with some other staff. Question #4 – How would things be if the conflict was resolved? In this area, individuals need to address, not only specific behaviors, but also, emotions, tone of voice and even body language. Question #5 – What is ONE thing YOU agree to do differently for this week (or even tomorrow) that can help reduce the conflict situation? How can changing one thing really help? The key is for BOTH parties to START to take responsibility for their actions. It helps to start positive shared experiences and make sure the parties are committed to resolution. The change needs to be specific, clear to the other person and attainable. The change must be dependent ONLY on the DOER. continued ... 5 Susan Solomon continued Synagogue Social Worker Questions 6, 7, and 8 asked after an agreed amount of time – short, like one week or even daily for a period of time, if this is needed. They are used to keep lines of communication open and the conflict resolution moving forward. Question #6 - How did it go this week (or yesterday)? Question #7 - Did each participant do what he/she said they would do? Is there any back-sliding? Review without blaming or excuses, just note change needed. Question #8 - Where do you want to go from here? Parties make additional commitments to resolve conflict situation. Decide how frequently to meet to discuss progress. Agree on how things will be handled if either party is not living up to their commitment between meetings. Finally, remember to celebrate and give thanks when things improve. Just don’t think that the person “should have” done such and such anyway… no big deal. Every improvement IS a big deal, as change is difficult and conflicts are hard on those involved and those around them. (1) Rapid Conflict Resolution TM is a trademark of an eight question method of facilitating conflict resolution by Doug Walker, M.S., Manager HR, Insperity and author of A-Ha! Performance: Building and Managing a Self-Motivated Workforce, 2007. To watch his full webinar, go to http://www.hr.com/ en/webcasts_events/webcasts/archived_webcasts_podcasts/rapid-conflict-resolution_i0txj8s7.html My Consultation services are available to discuss this concept or a specific conflict. Susan Solomon, M.Ed., MSW, LCSW, Adath Shalom Social Worker 973-539-8549 x 108 or email me at [email protected] Regarding challenges of parent-teen communication, make plans to attend the program at Adath Shalom on Tuesday, May 5. Click here for more information. For information on current and upcoming Support Groups held by Jewish Family Services MetroWest NJ, click here. Jewish Family Service Social Worker @ Adath Shalom Do you have questions about aging loved ones, concerns about children, other emotional issues, financial pressures and/or finding community resources? For guidance, information, referrals and support, contact your Adath Shalom Social Worker, Susan Solomon, M.Ed., MSW, LCSW, at 973539-8539 ext. 108 or via email [email protected]. There is no fee and all conversations are strictly confidential. This is a partnership of Adath Shalom, Jewish Family Services of MetroWest NJ, The Federation of Greater MetroWest, and Healthcare Foundation of NJ. 6 RELIGIOUS SCHOOL NEWS From Charlotte Frank / Education Director We are in the midst of counting the Omer – a measure of the harvest designated for the Temple as a sacrifice. The counting began on the second day of Pesach and ends with Shavuot (when we stood at Mount Sinai and received the Ten Commandments). Shavuot is the second of the three Pilgrimage holidays when our ancestors would head to the Temple in Jerusalem to make sacrifice. This year it is observed on Saturday night, May 23 through Monday, May 25 (Memorial Day). This is the Torah holiday that gets the “raw deal” since we are not in Religious School when it is celebrated. Growing up, the teachers would tie it in with Mother's Day and Father's Day because of the Fifth Commandment. There were foods attached to the holiday like blintzes, cheesecake and anything dairy to remind us of the Land of Milk and Honey - or was it to keep us from sacrificing another golden calf! Maybe this year is the perfect year to celebrate the holiday since it falls on Memorial Day weekend – tradition says that our ancestors stayed up studying the night before so that they were ready to receive G-d's word at Sinai. How about a backyard late night as a family. Great resources for observing the holiday exist – check out: http://www.myjewishlearning.com/holidays/Jewish_Holidays/Shavuot.shtml http://www.joi.org/celebrate/shavuot/index.shtml http://babaganewz.com/holidays/shavuot http://www.uscj.org/JewishLivingandLearning/ShabbatandHolidayInformation/Holidays/JewishHolidays/ Shavuot/default.aspx http://www.shalomsesame.org/parents-and-educators/shavuot/stories-that-shape-jewish-life Videos online: http://www.g-dcast.com/video/#Holidays Some great books are available as well – a personal favorite is Mountain of Blintzes by Barbara Diamond Goldin DATES TO REMEMBER IN MAY May 1.............................Gimel class participating in Family Service and receiving their siddurim May 3 ............................Hey Class – Jewish Heroes Hall of Fame in lobby from 11 to 12 May 8.............................Dalet class Name Service and participating in Friday night service May 9.............................Vov class service and lunch following May 17...........................Graduation and Last Day of Religious School with Talent Show during school May 23-25 .....................Shavuot holiday Hey Class /Fifth grade making their Yads and learning about using a Yad to read Torah 7 RELIGIOUS SCHOOL NEWS continued From Charlotte Frank / Education Director Gan class/Kindergarten Making challah plates for their families. Max Klayman Dalet/Grade 4 Yasher Koach to the following Religious School students who have completed their Shabbat Attendance requirements. Aimee Wolosin Hey/Grade 5 Ben Brandes Vov/Grade 6 Benjamin HarterAleph/Grade 1 Josh Cohen Zayin/Grade 7 Jared Solomon Bet/Grade 2 Rachel Brooks Vov/Grade 6 Eitan Leinwand Zayin/Grade 7 Max Tiffen Zayin/Grade 7 8 RELIGIOUS SCHOOL NEWS continued From Charlotte Frank / Education Director The Dalet class/Grade Four created beautiful handmade artwork to reflect the completion of their study of the Shema, which is the "watchword" of the Jewish people. The artwork was done with the help of Marissa Carrella, a member of the Religious School Education Committee, and their teacher Beth Rems. We hope that all the families have put the artwork up in their homes to enjoy. 9 YOUTH NEWS Tot Shabbat (Pre-K) with Morah Shari Saturday, May 16 at 10:30am in the Kindergarten Room For the month of May we will be doing a very cute project. We will be making banana people! Come to Tot Shabbat to see how it is done! Looking forward to seeing you! Shabbat Chavurah (Kindergarten—Grade 2) with Morah Helaine Saturday, May 16 at 10:30am in the “old” four-year old room Only 2 Shabbat Chavurot remaining!!! Join us for a wedding... A what? Yes, a wedding! Of the Jewish people to G-d as we learn more about Shavuot and receiving the Torah on Mt. Sinai. A special dairy snack will be served!!! You may even be the bride.. Or groom. Junior Congregation (Grades 3–6) with Morah Deb Saturday, May 16, 9:45-11:45am in the Beit Midrash/Library Did you know that there is a line from the Torah on the Liberty Bell? How about the fact that we are told in the Torah to rest our fields (long before anyone ever heard of crop rotation). Come join us to find out what it says. Shabbat Shapers (ages 5 & under with their caregivers) with Rabbi Rudin Join this free weekly interactive program on Fridays, from 9:30-10:30am The place to be Friday mornings is with Rabbi Rudin and the adorable participants of the Shabbat Shapers Program. Shaping our littlest munchkins into menches, Rabbi Rudin leads the group in Jewish music, crafts and Kiddush. Participants have a chance to stay after the program to continue the fun, playing and socializing with friends in the preschool room. The program has been such a huge success and we are always looking for volunteers to help Rabbi Rudin. See flyer later in the bulletin for more details. If you are interested in helping with the Shabbat Shapers program please email Mara, [email protected]. Pajama Neshama (Pre-K) with Rabbi Rudin Friday, May 1, 5:30pm - 7:30pm (See flyer later in the bulletin for more details) 10 B’NAI MITZVAH Peri Manoff (Penina Liora) will become a Bat Mitzvah on May 2, 2015 Peri is the daughter of Amy and Brian Manoff and sister to Ella. She attends Brooklawn Middle School where her favorite subject is Social Studies. When Peri grows up, she would like to be a teacher. To Peri, becoming a Bat Mitzvah means that she has learned the foundation to all of the prayers so she can participate and contribute during services and feel like a member of her Jewish community. Peri’s wish for the future is that there is peace throughout the world and that life is found outside of our Milky Way Galaxy. At her Bat Mitzvah, she would like the Rabbi to talk about the importance of having the love and support of family and how to be tolerant and give back to the community. For her Mitzvah Project, Peri worked with the Manny Reichman Feeding Progam. Jordyn Kushel (Chaya Yardena) will become a Bat Mitzvah on May 23, 2015 Jordyn is the daughter of Randi and Rick Kushel and sister to Zachary and Sydney. She attends Randolph Middle School where her favorite subject is writing. To Jordyn, becoming a Bat Mitzvah means that she is now a Jewish adult. Her wish for the future is have a happy and healthy family. For her Mitzvah Project, Jordyn volunteered at Youth Consultation Services. YCS’s mission is to help at-risk and special needs children build happier, healthier and more hopeful lives. Sarah White (Haya Sorah) will become a Bat Mitzvah on May 16, 2015 Sarah is the daughter of Stacy and Matthew White and sister to Adam and Julia. She attends Randolph Middle School where her favorite subject is Art. When she grows up, she would like to be an entrepreneur and bakery owner. To Sarah, becoming a Bat Mitzvah means being an adult in the Jewish community. She is proud to be a Jew because she is proud of her Jewish heritage. She enjoys all the traditions we have and the strong sense of community we all share. Sarah’s wish for the future is to go to a good college, get a business degree and then continue on to open up a bakery. At her Bat Mitzvah, she would like the Rabbi to talk about her parsha - that we all need to find our place in the world and think about what we can contribute. For her Mitzvah project, Sarah will be adding baked goods to the meals prepared by Emily Kern for congregants in need. Jacob Badian (Yakov) will become a Bar Mitzvah on May 30, 2015 Jacob is the son of Caryn and Stephen Badian and brother to Shayna. He attends Brooklawn Middle School where his favorite subject is Science. When he grows up, he would like to be a physical therapist. To Jacob, becoming a Bar Mitzvah means that he’s become a man in the Jewish community. He is proud to be a Jew because it makes him unique and proud of where his people came from. Jacob’s wish for the future is that there will be religious freedom all over the world. At his Bar Mitzvah, he would like the Rabbi to talk about his mitzvah project. For his Mitzvah project, Jacob will be raising money and collecting supplied for his uncle Alan’s group home. 11 One way to honor your son or daughter at their Bar/Bat Mitzvah is to have family and friends read from the Torah. This is also a meaningful way to honor loved ones on their Yahrzeit. Cantor Jack will record a CD for you and give you the text. Please contact the Synagogue Office to request a Torah portion and CD. 12 Truly Celebrating Our Children Sitting in a café, waiting for my next meeting, slowly sipping coffee, playing on my phone, while actively trying not to listen to the two women sitting next to me. That quickly proved impossible. Two women, enjoying their afternoon tea on a sunny Northern California afternoon, were sharing family stories. “She’s gotten letters from UCLA and UC Berkeley,” “She just got her certificate yesterday and we’re turning her room into a guest room!” And I stopped to think, these women have a lot to be proud of, and how lovely that they are sharing it with each other. Their friendship seemed like a deep long lasting one. But do they really share everything? Did they share that it took five tries to get accepted to UCLA? Did they share the disappointments that helped lead to these accomplishments? It got me thinking about how we talk about our kids, even with our closest friends. How do we share growth, milestones and achievements? Are we honest about our kids, their struggles and successes? Can we really talk openly about what our kids are going through? How many of us can say with pride to our friend over coffee “He took one step without his walker today!” “He didn’t bite at school!” or “She made a friend.”? Let’s re-think how we talk about our kids: 1. Celebrate the tiny things: Getting into Berkeley is a big deal, but so is learning how to write your name. 2. Sometimes not doing something is as big a reason to celebrate as doing something. Some days, it’s what didn’t happen that is a momentous occasion, in light of what could have happened. 3. Share equally the achievements and the challenges. We are too achievement focused. Falling off your bike is just as important as biking the Tour D’France. 4. Ask about the struggles, we all have them. If we don’t ask each other for honesty, then how can we ever truly celebrate with each other? Elana has been working at the intersection of special education and Jewish education for over 15 years. She is the founder and Executive Director of Rosh Pina, a non-profit that offers a certification for Jewish institutions after a year-long process of reflecting and creating a more inclusive community for people with disabilities. She was the Ruderman Fellow of the Joshua Venture Group and a member of Upstart Bay Area. She directs the Tikvah program for kids with disabilities at Camp Ramah in California, which includes a camper program, a vocational program for young adults, and a camp for families that have children with disabilities. Elana has consulted with multiple Jewish institutions to aid them in thinking about how to be more inclusive of Jews of all abilities. She has taught professional development courses in differentiated instruction, behavior management and teaching Hebrew. She lives in Berkeley, California with her husband and three boys, Yair, Nevo and Etai. 13 Moments from Pesach, 2015 It was a great Passover here at Adath Shalom— our Mitzvah cleaning crew went after the Chametz and helped Juan, Godfrey and Kenneth kasher every surface, oven and storage space… Our Yallah Teens got into the action on a search and destroy mission for whatever Chametz (leaven) was left... Our pre-school Shabbat Shapers whipped up matzah and created their own frog puppets for their Seders... And our Club 345 and Kadima kids got in the act with their chocolate Seder featuring… chocolate Matzah, bittersweet chocolate maror, chocolate spread on s’mores, 4 cups of chocolate milk and yet more chocolate! 14 Moments from Pesach, 2015 continued Meanwhile, our Intergenerational Mishpocha Family Outreach and Chesed Committee prepared Pesach care packages for homebound and seniors in our community and beyond…. And finally… Nearly one hundred of our members, friends and family took part in our joyful and freilach annual Community Seder featuring plenty of music, discussions, games and great food. A true feast of freedom that embraced and connected our entire congregational family. L’shana HaBa’ah Biyerushalayim - Next Year in Jerusalem. EDITH PICON Pediatric Speech/Language Pathologist Consultations, Evaluations and Therapeutic Services 152 Summit Road Florham Park, NJ 07932 Hours by Appointment: (973) 377-6316 15 COMMITTEE NEWS Lifelong Learning Ellen Muraskin & Cookie Samuels, Co-Chairs Chazak Join us on Tuesday, May 12, 12 noon for our End-of-Year Meeting Chazak winds up its third year of programming, schmoozing and lunch. Adath Shalom's social worker, Sue Solomon, who's been bringing us news of community events and services, will lead us in an ice-breaking game or two, which should be fun even if there's no ice left to break. And it never hurts to learn people's names again … easier to make plans to get together over the summer! Our featured speaker is Sylvia Kramer, who will speak about the relationship between parents and adult children, and how that changes through the years. Although a parent's daily responsibility might be over, the connection is forever. During this interactive program, we will explore methods of relating to our adult children and come away with a deeper understanding and closer bonding. And of course, lunch! RSVP to Cookie so we know how much lunch to prepare - at [email protected] or 973-366-0763. And bring your friends! Oldest Established Permanent Floating Book Club All dates are Wednesdays at 7:30 pm unless indicated. RSVP to Ellen at [email protected] to find out who is hosting in any particular month. May 27: The Lost Wife by Alyson Richman June 24: Indignation by Philip Roth Summer, date TBD: Sonata for Miriam by Linda Olsson At its April meeting, Adath Shalom's Chazak group enjoyed hearing about the Soviet Jewry mission that congregants Sue and Meyer Rosenthal undertook in 1989, visiting and getting supplies to refuseniks - Jews who applied for and were denied the right to emigrate - in Moscow and Vilnius. The best part getting past Soviet passport control at the Moscow airport and meeting these Jews, and those whose names they smuggled out at Kennedy years later. The Rosenthals' presentation was followed by a short selection of Yiddish songs, sung by former Borsht-Belt performer (and congregant) Pauline Hahn and would-be Borsht Belt performer (and congregant) Ellen Muraskin. We were ably accompanied by Rabbi Rudin. Photos taken by Joel Aronson 16 Memorial Plaques Permanently memorialize your loved ones by dedicating plaques on the memorial alcoves in our sanctuary. Celebrate your simcha with us by sponsoring a Kiddush! Buying a plaque also means that the name will be included in our Yizkor book every year. Cost: $360 Please contact synagogue office The donation to our synagogue is $360. Please call the office for more information. Mazal Tov Shabbat Services Share your simcha (anniversary, birthday, birth of child or grandchild, engagement, promotion, retirement and more!) with your Adath Shalom family. Please fill out the form on page 21 to recognize your celebration. A placard sharing your simcha will be displayed on the Oneg or Kiddush Table and your simcha will be announced from the bima during services. HEADQUARTERS FINANCIAL GROUP INC. Gary S. Reppen Registered Representative LONG TERM CARE INSURANCE LIFE INSURANCE ANNUITIES 1 Cattano Avenue Morristown, NJ 07960 Tel: 973-451-9840 x11 Email: [email protected] Headquarters Financial Group Inc. is not affiliated with Signator Investors, Inc. Registered Representative/Securities offered through Signator Investors, Inc. Member FINRA, SIPC. 290 West Mount Pleasant Avenue, Suite 2300 Livingston, NJ 07039 973-994-0100 374-20130723-150121 17 COMMITTEE NEWS Holocaust Education Committee Sam Varsano, Co-Chair Please come to Adath Shalom on Wednesday evening, May 13th at 7:30 PM. We will have a presentation on our planned trip to the sites of the Holocaust and also the major capitals of Europe. The trip was created by the Holocaust Education Committee and follows a mandate of our fund benefactor and Holocaust survivor, Mr. Ed Mosberg. The tour provider is Isramworld. Sam Varsano will take us through an itinerary that includes Berlin, Krakow, Budapest, Vienna, Warsaw and Prague. In addition to visiting the notorious camps where the Holocaust took place, we will take the opportunity to sight see some of the most beautiful locations in Europe. We also plan to take in some exciting cultural events. The trip has been priced as competitively as possible and will cover thirteen nights. In addition, the fund will be used to subsidize a portion of each synagogue member's trip. Please join us to discuss the trip that is set to depart on June 28th, 2016. SISTERHOOD TRIBUTE FUND A thru M Elaine Blafer (973) 402-6268 or [email protected] To: From: Debra Bernstein and Rich Hochman In honor of the birth of your granddaughter, Juliet Calliope Tammie and Harvey Applebaum Elaine and Elliott Blafer N thru Z Patti Siegel [email protected] To: From: To: To: From: Dino & Valerie Cappello In memory of your father and grandfather Maxine, Andy & Janey Smith From: To: To: From: To: From: Jennifer and Eric Cohen In honor of Joshua’s Bar Mitzvah Maxine and Jerry Moses From: Karen Mazal In memory of your beloved father, Jerry Mann Tammie and Harvey Applebaum Maxine and Jerry Moses Maxine and Jerry Moses In honor of your generous donation to Donors Choose Elaine Blafer Jeannie and Scott Neufeld and family In memory of your beloved grandfather and Great-grandfather, Fred Mechanic The Appel Family Maxine and Jerry Moses Randi and Rob Greenberg In honor of your generous donation to Donors Choose Elaine Blafer Adath Shalom is a member of: 18 COMMITTEE NEWS Thank you to all those who attended Harry Ettlinger's talk on the Monuments Men! It was sponsored by Sisterhood, Men’s Club and Lifelong Learning and was a great success! Harry Eittlinger with Caryl Wolosin, Cookie Samuels and Meredith Ross. Caryl & Meredith are two of our Sisterhood co-presidents and Cookie is co-chair of Lifelong Learning. The “Monuments Men," were a group of approximately 345 men and women from thirteen nations, most of whom volunteered for service in the newly created MFAA section during World War II. Many had expertise as museum directors, curators, art historians, artists, architects, and educators. Harry served as an interpreter. Their job description was simple: to protect cultural treasures so far as war allowed. From August 1945 to July 1946, Harry Ettlinger and Lieutenant Dale Ford were assigned to supervise the underground operations at the Nazi repository in the Heilbronn-Kochendorf salt mines. . In addition to the mining of salt, the underground mines had been utilized by the Nazis to protect German museum treasures. 19 20 Yom Ha’atzmut Celebrate Israel with Greater Metrowest 21 22 23 BULLETIN ADS To place an ad, please contact the Synagogue office 973 539-8549 Full Page $150/month Half Page $80/month Quarter Page $45/month Business Card $30/month Annual ads: Pay for 10 months and get two months free 24 25 26 Giving is a part of our Jewish heritage and our Jewish way of life. Traditionally, Jews give “tzedakah” to commemorate occasions, both happy and sad, and to acknowledge honors (aliyot), accomplishments, friends...almost anything. Giving can take many forms. One can give of their time and effort to the Jewish community or to the synagogue. One can give books, tapes, or other necessary and tangible items. Many, however, choose to give money, either to individual funds available through the synagogue, or to the general fund, allowing the leadership to use the donation in whatever way it deems most necessary. ADATH SHALOM EXTENDS CONDOLENCES TO: The Neufeld Family On the loss of Jeannie's grandfather and Bethany & Benjamin's great-grandfather ADATH SHALOM EXTENDS A MAZAL TOV TO: The Badian Family In honor of Jacob becoming a Bar Mitzvah The Kushel Family In honor of Jordyn becoming a Bat Mitzvah The Manoff Family In honor of Peri becoming a Bat Mitzvah The White Family In honor of Sarah becoming a Bat Mitzvah The Gimel Class In honor of their Class Service A DONATION TO THE CANTOR’S DISCRETIONARY FUND WAS RECEIVED FROM: Harvey & Tammie Applebaum In honor of Cantor Korbman’s birthday YAHRZEIT DONATION TO THE CANTOR’S DISCRETIONARY FUND WAS RECEIVED FROM: Joseph & Gloria Weisberg In memory of Eva Kobren DONATIONS TO THE RABBI’S DISCRETIONARY FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM: Glenn & Barbara Davis In thanks for your thoughtfulness and caring when Glenn’s Aunt Rita passed away Marc & Melanie Gimbel The Dalet Class In honor of their Class Service Hal & Jeri Kimowitz In honor of Jacob Badian becoming a Bar Mitzvah In honor of Jason Kalver becoming a Bar Mitzvah The Vov Class In honor of their Class Service DONATION TO THE HOEXTER FAMILY CARING FUND WAS RECEIVED FROM: MAY ONEGS AND KIDDUSHES ARE SPONSORED BY: Ethel Lerner Thank you so much for the thoughtful Passover package The Badian Family In honor of Jacob becoming a Bar Mitzvah YAHRZEIT DONATIONS TO THE HOEXTER FAMILY CARING FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM: The Bernstein-Hochman Family In honor of the naming of their granddaughter Mindy Beck In memory of Yetta Brooks The Kushel Family In honor of Jordyn becoming a Bat Mitzvah Inna Benin In memory of Yury Benin The Manoff Family In honor of Peri becoming a Bat Mitzvah Steve & Charlotte Frank In memory of Erna Frank The White Family In honor of Sarah becoming a Bat Mitzvah Walter & Dorothy Freidel In memory of Irving Freidel The Gimel Class In honor of their Class Service The Dalet Class In honor of their Class Service The Vov Class In honor of their Class Service ADATH SHALOM EXTENDS THANK YOUS TO: The Becker Family For providing the Yom Hashoah candles The Friedel Family For sponsoring the Passover Siyyum YAHRZEIT DONATIONS TO THE GENERAL FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM: Steven & Fern Bukowiecki In memory of Edward Bukowiecki Keith and Rochelle Rotenberg In memory of Harry Rotenberg In memory of Benjamin Rubin Sheila Schaeffer In memory of Moishe & Sarah Raesch In memory of Meyer Raesch continued... 27 Giving is a part of our Jewish heritage and our Jewish way of life. Traditionally, Jews give “tzedakah” to commemorate occasions, both happy and sad, and to acknowledge honors (aliyot), accomplishments, friends...almost anything. Giving can take many forms. One can give of their time and effort to the Jewish community or to the synagogue. One can give books, tapes, or other necessary and tangible items. Many, however, choose to give money, either to individual funds available through the synagogue, or to the general fund, allowing the leadership to use the donation in whatever way it deems most necessary. DONATIONS TO THE GENERAL FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM: A DONATION TO THE YOUTH FUND WAS RECEIVED FROM: Michael & Linda Thailer In honor of Marcy Thailer Mindy Beck Joseph & Gloria Weisberg In memory of Rhoda Weisberg DONATIONS TO THE MARK DUNN SPECIAL NEEDS FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM: Harvey & Tammie Applebaum Mindy Beck Gary & Rita Chesler Richard Cohen Lewis and Lynn Coopersmith Glenn & Barbara Davis Phil & Patty Einhorn Marty & Nancy Fields Howard &Marjorie Forman Scott & Jamie Gladstein Neal & Alison Goldner Howie & Fran Heller Larry & Merle Lomrantz Michael & Rona Moroz Steve & Barbara Nappen Jacob & Julie Rosenberg Meyer & Sue Rosenthal Jim & Linda Wolk TREES HAVE BEEN PLANTED IN ISRAEL BY: Larry & Judy Appel In honor of Bea Usdin Jackie Harris In memory of Eugene Faccuito DONATIONS TO THE TORAH FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM: Glenn & Barbara Davis In honor of Marcy Thailer’s recognition for all that she does for Adath Shalom. Jerry & Maxine Moses In honor of Jason Kalver becoming a Bar Mitzvah In honor of the birth of Rich Hochman & Debra Bernstein’s granddaughter, Juliet Calliope Andy & Sue Silbert Mazal Tov to Rich Hochman and Deborah Bernstein on the birth of their granddaughter YAHRZEIT DONATIONS TO THE TORAH FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM: Deanna J. Bresky In memory of Thelma Bresky David & Oreen Wallach In memory of Louis Leight DONATIONS TO THE MOSBERG FAMILY HOLOCAUST EDUCATION FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM: Granatal Construction Robert Mortillo, Scapes Landscaping, Inc. Neidich and Company Marc & Amy Rosenberg SOS Gases, Inc. Donations gratefully accepted: Tree in Israel $ 18.00 Prayer Book $ 54.00 Chumash $ 72.00 Tree of Life $ 180.00 Memorial Plaque* $ 360.00 *names on memorial plaques will be included in our Yizkor book every year Please contact synagogue office 28 COOL EVENTS in MAY 29 Pajama Neshama Fridays: May 1, June 5 5:30 pm - 7:00 pm Bring your pre-school children in their PJs for an age-appropriate Shabbat Service, singing, a craft and a bedtime story - all concluding with a light child-friendly Shabbat dinner! 30 31 Adath Shalom Beit Midrash Adult Education Come and explore, discuss, learn, laugh, share and connect! Great Opportunities for informal Jewish learning on Sunday mornings! Davening and Parsha Schmooze! Jewish prayer is most powerful when shared as a community. Join our seventh graders and adults for a short morning service (30 minutes) to begin your week with a spiritual blast! Then stick around for one of Rabbi Rudin’s inspiring discussions about the weekly Torah portion over breakfast for learners of all backgrounds! 9:00 AM - 10:15 AM in the Sanctuary and Kiddush Room Dates: May 3, 10 Writers’ Circle Writing is one of the most powerful forms of self expression. Here’s a great opportunity for Adath Shalom writers and those with an interest in writing. Here’s a chance to have your material read and responded to by other writers. Any subject, any amount of writing experience - just come with a piece of writing you’re willing to share. Facilitated by Pauline Hahn. Rabbi’s Office: 10:30 AM - 12:00 PM Dates: May 3, 10, 17 Free for Adath Shalom Members! RSVP to [email protected] 32 PERMISSION SLIP REQUIRED TO ATTEND SKY ZONE After you RSVP to Jessica Davy please click the link below and fill out the REQUIRED permission slip for your children to attend the SKY ZONE Party. https://pinebrookstore.skyzone.com/waiver/ 33 34 Adath Shalom Invites you to: Lag B’omer Picnic Place: Adath Shalom’s Backyard May 7th, 2015 at 6:00 PM Hotdogs (veggie options), watermelon, chips dinner! Schmooze and Blues Jewish Music Kid/Adult Volley Ball/Newcomb Tourney A fun family and adults evening for all! $5.00 per person ($20.00 max per family) Children 5 and under Free RSVP to Caryn Reppen at [email protected] 35 New date! It’s never too early to invite someone for Shabbat! Our next Shabbat@Home is planned for Friday, May 8th Interested in hosting? It’s so easy to turn your dinner into Shabbat! Just invite at least one Adath Shalom family/couple to your home. We provide the blessings, challah, candles, and Kiddush You provide the dinner – any way you want it! Interested in being a guest but not yet ready to host? Send us an email to let us know how many people in your family and we will do our best to match you up. For more information email Maxine Smith at [email protected] or call her at 973-326-8883. 36 37 Adath Shalom presents... Shabbat Shalom at the JSDD 18 Jeffrie Trail, Whippany May 15, 5:15 - 6:15 PM Rabbi Rudin and Company will bring some Shabbat simcha to the residents of the Jewish Service for the Developmentally Disabled in Whippany with snacks, conversation, stories and games. RSVP to Rabbi Rudin at [email protected] if you can join us! 38 2014-2015 Saturday Morning Monthly Youth Services Schedule Energetic, fun, interactive services, discussions and games to help your child connect with Judaism, develop their character and feed their spiritual selves! Junior Congregation (grades 3-6) 9:45 am with Debbie Cirkus Morah Debbie brings stories and prayers to life and creates a welcoming prayer environment! Shabbat Chavurah (grades K-2) 10:30 am with Helaine Schreiber Morah Helaine is a dynamic educator who shares her love of Judaism with her students! Tot Shabbat (pre-Kindergarten) 10:30 am with Shari Berman Morah Shari is an engaging educator who makes Shabbat fun for our kids! May 16 June 20 RSVP to Pam Jorlett at [email protected] or just come by After Youth Services conclude, please join us in the Main Sanctuary for the conclusion of the Shabbat Service and then Kiddush in the Social Hall 39 THE JEWISH ANGLE Get spiritual, have a nosh, have fun!! Short davening, discussion and dessert with Rabbi Rudin. For Adults Thursday evenings at 7:00 PM in the Beit Midrash May 21, 28 RSVP to [email protected] 40 Tikkun Leil Shavuot- Shavuot Evening Join us for an evening of music, drama, noshing and study as we prepare for receiving the Torah on Shavuot! Lobby May 23rd 8:30 PM-10:30 PM Session One Welcome and Torah through Music Rabbi Rudin 8:30-8:45 PM Session Two The Book of Ruth through drama Reb Deb 8:45-9:35 PM Session Three The Art of the Blintz Kitchen 9:35 PM-10:15 PM Session Four Text Study: The Year of Sabbatical Rabbi Rudin, Reb Deb Session Five The big finish! Spiritual renewal and fun All Adath Shalom members and friends are welcome! Schlep a friend along! 41 42 43 Adath Shalom A Conservative Synagogue 841 Mountain Way, Morris Plains, NJ 07950-1955
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