JEWISH NEWS THE CHICAGO June 12-18, 2015/25 Sivan 5775 www.chicagojewishnews.com One Dollar WEST ROGERS BLUES As off-duty cops patrol the Jewish neighborhood of West Rogers Park, the Chicago Police Department is not happy Supreme Court and Jerusalem passport case Rabbi Goldhamer on how we are all one Joseph Aaron on Caitlyn, Duggars and gray Facebook’s Sandberg on Jewish mourning 2 Chicago Jewish News - June 12-18, 2015 As Lightning vies for Stanley Cup, meet the team’s Jewish owner By Hillel Kuttler JTA Jeffrey Vinik, the owner of the National Hockey League’s Tampa Bay Lightning, is experiencing a first: his team playing in the Stanley Cup Finals against the Chicago Blackhawks. Vinik and his wife, Penny, recently contributed $1.5 million toward building a new Jewish community center in Tampa. The Lightning went 50-248 in the regular season – among the best records in the league. What’s it like to experience these heights and then win three playoff series to get this far? Vinik: Obviously it’s a very exciting time being an owner. We have one of the best franchises in sports here, but we also want to win. We think we have a strong team this year, played well under pressure in the playoffs, got a bounce here and there, and are fortunate to be competing for the Stanley Cup. I’m proud of what we’ve accomplished both on and off the ice. The team has competed hard and is close to its ultimate goal of winning the Stanley Cup. We’ve really resonated in this community. Our fans have been great, our TV ratings are running double and triple what they ever have before and it’s a fun time. As a kid in New Jersey, did you attend any playoff games or even a Stanley Cup Finals game? I can’t remember exactly, but I’m sure I went to New York Rangers playoff games occasionally when I was in high school. As an adult, I’ve been to a few [Stanley Cup Finals] games, but certainly not with a team I’ve owned. Since I’ve owned the Lightning, I’ve watched the finals on TV because I love the sport of hockey. What is the atmosphere like in your arena suite during the final? For the finals, just about all family members are joining us. That’s one of the great offshoots of what’s one of the great events that comes along. For my wife and me, there’s nothing more important than spending time with our kids and our extended family. My box is exclusively for family in the playoff games – and while the puck’s in play, we have a notalking rule. Do you, your kids and other relatives have favorite players on the team? Players are like kids, from an Jeffrey Vinik says his Lightning has "really resonated" in the Tampa-area community, noting "great fans" and soaring television ratings. (JTA) Gracious Living in the Heart of Chicago At Park Plaza, our residents enjoy elegant living in luxury apartment rentals. 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To the extent that that message gets transmitted across the country, whether our $1 billion real-estate development piques some interest – I’m glad that we get that benefit. [Groundbreaking on the downtown project – surrounding the arena with offices, residences, even a medical school – will be later this year.] What kind of interest? Do you mean that there are any obstacles to the project’s getting going? There are no obstacles; it’s all about economic development and jobs. If we can recruit companies to move to this area, they’ll find it’s a great place to attract and retain employees because it’s a great place to live. This is a great opportunity for us to showcase this area. Has the Jewish community of Tampa been rallying behind the Lightning? I wouldn’t single out anything. One of the things we’re proud of is how broad our support is across the region. This Tampa Bay area is very diverse. It’s important that we as an organization reach out to different religions, different cultures, and I think we’ve done a pretty good job doing that. Obviously I have a number of good friends in the Jewish community behind us, and it’s greatly appreciated. 3 Chicago Jewish News - June 12-18, 2015 Limited ruling on Jerusalem passports met with relief from pro-Israel community By Ron Kampeas JTA WASHINGTON – Justice Anthony Kennedy, writing for the majority in the Supreme Court decision that will keep “Israel” off the passports of Jerusalem-born Americans, begins by calling Jerusalem a “delicate subject.” Competing claims to the Holy City were not the only timeworn and sensitive issue the justices contended with in their 6-3 decision, which upheld the State Department’s policy of not allowing Americans born in Jerusalem to list “Israel” as their birthplace. The Supreme Court in Zivotofsky v. Kerry waded into tensions dating to the founding of the United States over whether the executive or the legislative branch determines foreign policy. The ruling effectively nullified a law passed by Congress in 2002 requiring the State Department to list “Israel” as a birth country for Jerusalem-born Americans, should the citizens request it. Like its predecessor, the administration of President George W. Bush, the Obama administration said recognition of another nation’s sovereignty over territory was a matter strictly for the executive branch. Pro-Israel groups had hoped for a decision that would determine U.S. recognition of Jerusalem as Israel’s capital. But after hearing judicial interjections during oral arguments on the case last year, some feared that that case was mutating into a broader issue over Congress’ role in determining foreign policy. Marc Stern, who wrote the amicus brief filed by the American Jewish Committee arguing that recognition of another nation was a matter for Congress as well as the president, said the decision left intact the traditional American ambiguity over which branch determines foreign policy. “This issue has been unsettled for 200 years, and the court leaves much of it unsettled today,” he said. Stern, the AJC’s general counsel, called the decision “as good a defeat as we could have suffered.” That’s because Kennedy’s majority decision considered only the president’s right to recognize another nation’s sovereignty. “A formulation broader than the rule that the president alone determines what nations to formally recognize as legitimate – and that he consequently controls his statements on matters of recognition – presents different issues and is unnecessary to the resolution of this case,” Kennedy wrote. In its statement responding to the ruling, The American Israel Public Affairs Committee noted that Congress, where the lobby is most influential, retained its foreign policy clout. “Clearly, we are disappointed by the ruling,” AIPAC’s spokesman, Marshall Wittmann, said in an email. “However, the court opinion, viewed in its totality, clearly recognizes the important role that Congress plays in U.S. foreign policy – a role that has been critical in strengthening the U.S.-Israel relationship.” In addition to Kennedy, a conservative who sometimes swings liberal, the majority included the bench’s four liberals, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Stephen Breyer, Elena Kagan and Sonia Sotomayor, as well as Clarence Thomas, a conservative. Breyer, Kagan and Ginsburg are the court’s three Jewish justices. The dissenters were all conservative: Chief Justice John Roberts, Samuel Alito and Antonin Scalia. The constitution “does not give the president exclusive power to determine which claims to statehood and territory ‘are legitimate in the eyes of the United States’,” Scalia wrote in the dissent. “Congress may express its own views about these matters by declaring war, restricting trade, denying foreign aid, and much else besides.” The decision was a defeat for much of the pro-Israel community on an issue close to its heart – the Israeli and Jewish claim to Jerusalem. The Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations said it was “deeply concerned” by the decision. “We hope that a constitutionally acceptable path can be found to assure that Americans born in Jerusalem will be accorded their full rights, including the designation of their country of birth,” the Jewish community’s foreign policy umbrella said in a statement. Yet the decision’s narrow cast drew expressions of relief from Alyza Lewin and her father Nathan Lewin, lawyers known for their pro-Israel and Jewish advocacy who represented Menachem Zivotofsky, the 12-year old Jerusalem-born American at the center of the case, as well as the array of Jewish groups that had backed Zivotofsky in friend of the court briefs. “Justice Kennedy acknowledges that ‘the subject is quite narrow: The Executive’s exclu- sive power extends no further than his formal recognition determination,’” the Lewins said in a statement. “Congress’ broad powers to deal with foreign policy remain extensive and virtually unlimited.” It appeared during oral arguments last November that the justices were considering whether to settle a constitutional argument on who controls foreign policy that has dogged relations between presidents and legislators going back to the time of George Washington. “What you’re saying is that Congress can’t compel speech by the president with respect to foreign relations,” Sotomayor said to Donald Verrilli, the U.S. solicitor general who was arguing on behalf of the policy. A wider decision limiting congressional influence might have had an immediate impact, AJC’s Stern said, on efforts in Congress to assert a role in determining whether the United Menachem Zivotofsky, left, and his father Ari posing in front of the Supreme Court with their attorney Alyza Lewin and Lewin's father Nathan. (JTA) States agrees to an emerging nuclear deal with Iran. Pro-Israel groups back an assertive role for Congress in overseeing any deal. “This was a defeat, but a limited defeat,” Stern said. The decision “doesn’t determine the result regarding Congress’ powers regarding Iran.” August 26-30, 2015 On August 26-30, 2015, the AJA will lead a group to New Orleans, LA to study its rich Jewish history. Participants will have the opportunity for interactive learning while touring local historic sites, including TOURO SYNAGOGUE, TEMPLE SINAI, CONGREGATION GATES OF PRAYER, THE FRENCH QUARTER, THE GARDEN DISTRICT, LONG VUE HOUSE AND GARDENS & THE NATIONAL WORLD WAR II MUSEUM. Featured scholars include DR. STUART ROCKOFF, DR. MICHAEL COHEN, and DR. GARY P. ZOLA. Participants will interact with featured scholars, other participants, and local Jewish community members. Total cost of the program is $585.00. Our group will be staying at the Omni Riverfront Hotel in New Orleans. FOR MORE INFORMATION AND REGISTRATION please contact: Lisa Frankel, Director of Programs for the AJA by e-mail: [email protected], phone: 513-487-3218 or visit our website: AmericanJewishArchives.org. RESERVE YOUR PLACE ON THE TRIP! 4 Chicago Jewish News - June 12-18, 2015 Contents Jewish News ■ The Ahava Dead Sea minerals cosmetics company, under pressure for operating in the West Bank, is considering opening a manufacturing plant inside Israel’s pre-1967 borders. The company, owned by Kibbutz Mitzpe Shalem, located about one mile from the Dead Sea in the eastern West Bank, is considering opening a new production plant in the Tamar Regional Council to the south. The company, a target of the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement for operating in the West Bank,framed the potential move as due to changing needs, not politics. “In light of expanding production needs and changes in regulations for cosmetic products in some Western nations, Ahava is indeed examining the possibility of opening an additional factory. One of the possibilities is the Tamar Regional Council. Other possibilities are also being looked into. As of now there is no final decision,” the company said. ■ Israeli lawmakers from all parties have called on a freshman Knesset lawmaker to resign in the wake of a news report that he used crystal meth and pimped prostitutes while managing a casino in Burgas, Bulgaria. Likud lawmaker Oren Hazan, 33, who serves as a deputy Knesset speaker, vehemently denied the claims made in a TV report. The report cited Israeli tourists who said they did the drugs with Hazan at the casino and his former driver, who said he went on Hazan’s behalf to a local strip club to hire prostitutes. It also interviewed the manager of the strip club, who confirmed that Hazan sent for women; she laughed when she heard Hazan was now a lawmaker. “I say this unequivocally: There were no drugs. There was no pimping women,” Hazan said. “I came to the Knesset to do important things for the People of Israel and the Land of Israel. I won’t let anyone distract me from this,” he said, blaming the media “which has yet to accept the Likud and Prime Minister [Benjamin] Netanyahu’s victory.” ■ Israel’s chief Sephardi rabbi slammed Rabbi Shlomo Riskin, the chief rabbi of Efrat, for his liberal “innovations.” Rabbi Yitzhak Yosef said “Every morning we say the blessing [being thankful that G-d] ‘didn’t make me a woman,’ not like that one from Efrat, who makes all kind of innovations, who says we shouldn’t say that blessing, that women and men have equal rights … this doesn’t hurt women. He doesn’t understand,” Yosef said. He accused Riskin of “making a new war.” Riskin recently appointed a woman, Jennie Rosenfeld, to serve as a religious leader in Efrat, giving her the title “manhiga ruchanit,” or spiritual adviser. He has also come under fire from the Chief Rabbinate for his views on reforming the conversion process in Israel, supporting a government directive that would allow municipal chief rabbis to form conversion courts rather than requiring potential converts to appear before four Chief Rabbinate-led courts. Late last month, the Chief Rabbinate declined to automatically renew Riskin’s appointment as Efrat’s chief rabbi and summoned him for a hearing on the matter. Riskin has been the chief rabbi of Efrat since 1983, when he helped found the settlement located in the Gush Etzion bloc of the West Bank. ■ The Iraqi site believed to be the burial place of the biblical prophet Nahum is in danger of being destroyed by the Islamic State, or ISIS.Nahum’s Tomb in Al Ooosh, an annual pilgrimage spot for generations of Iraqi Jews, is 10 miles from territory controlled by ISIS. Until the early 1950s, thousands of Jews gathered at the site during the Shavuot holiday, some staying for as long as two weeks. The tomb, inside an abandoned synagogue, is cared for by Asir Salaam Shajaa, an Assyrian Christian whose father and grandfather also cared for the site at the request of Jewish community leaders who fled, along with the majority of Iraq’s Jews, after the Iraqi government vowed to expel them following the establishment of the state of Israel in 1949.Shajaa told Haaretz that he worries about the future of the tomb and the abandoned synagogue adjacent to it. “I’m not sure how long my family will continue to stay in Iraq – we want to leave, most of the Christians want to leave,” Shajaa told Haaretz. “My brother says he will stay, though. If my family gets to leave Iraq, my brother and his children will look after the tomb. It will stay in the family, G-d willing.” ■ Saudis dislike Iran more than they dislike Israel. A poll released by the Interdisciplinary Center at Herzliya’s Institute for Policy and Strategy found that 53 percent of Saudis named Iran as their country’s main enemy, 22 percent named the Islamic State, or ISIS, and 18 percent named Israel, The Associated Press reported. Israel and Saudi Arabia do not have diplomatic relations. 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Rivlin has made reconciliation between different sectors of Israeli society his central goal as president. But this isn’t the first time Rivlin has offended nonOrthodox movements. In 1989, after visiting a New Jersey Reform synagogue, Rivlin – then the chairman of the Likud party – told Israeli newspaper Yediot Achronot that Reform Judaism is “a completely new religion without any connection to Judaism.” By Ben Sales JTA TEL AVIV – Israeli and American Conservative rabbis are protesting Israeli President Reuven Rivlin, claiming that he shut their movement out of a bnai mitzvah ceremony for Israeli children with disabilities. The ceremony, scheduled to take place at the end of June, was supposed to be co-officiated by one Conservative rabbi, Mike Goldstein, and one Orthodox rabbi, Benny Lau, Conservative movement officials say. At the service, 10 children with disabilities such as autism, will undergo a group bnai mitzvah ceremony. But a strongly worded letter to Rivlin signed by 24 Conservative rabbis and movement professionals claims that Rivlin sent them the official ceremony program – without Goldstein’s name. “It is painful to say it, but this is an act of cruelty in which disabled children and their parents are being denied a service that would help them,” according to the letter, which asserts that “the sole reason for this denial is the contempt of Israel’s leaders for the sponsors of this program, the worldwide Conservative/Masorti movement.” Rivlin’s spokesperson, Jason Pearlman, told a different story, saying the event program had yet to be finalized, and a number of possible options for the ceremony were still on the table. A statement put out by the president’s office in response to the letter criticized the “obstinacy” of the Conservative rabbis and accused them of “seeking to advance their agenda through the cynical use of children.” “The final details of what was going to happen and who would do what in what order, these details had yet to be finalized,” Pearlman said. But Yizhar Hess, CEO of the Masorti movement, Israel’s counterpart to the Conservative movement, said the details of the event had been finalized at a “It looks to me like he’s building his record, he’s expanding his record,” Julie Schonfeld, executive vice president of the United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism, said. “Previously, he’s made these highly derogatory comments about the Reform movement. Now, he has not only added the Conservative movement to that, but he has deepened the impact of his loathing of our movements.” CONCEALED CARRY SAFETY FOR PERSONAL DEFENSE INC. 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The celebration was moved to the president’s residence in Jerusalem after Rahamim Malul, the mayor of Rehovot, in April canceled the ceremony in his city because it would be held at a Masorti synagogue. Malul, a former lawmaker for the Sephardic Orthodox Shas party said that there were several Orthodox students with disabilities in the program who were uncomfortable going to a non- “Previously, he’s made these highly derogatory comments about the Reform movement. Now, he has not only added the Conservative movement to that, but he has deepened the impact of his loathing of our movements.” It’s pretty simple. Every moment you are here is your time, not ours. And we bring every resource to bear to create room for you to... well, be you. Each year, Midwest CareCenter cares for 3,200 patients in 150 communities, and every one is special. Every one. 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Others support negotiations and interim steps to prepare the ground for a future partition. Others want to hang tight while the wars roiling the Middle East play out. Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, who on the eve of his re-election in March appeared to reverse his earlier support for Palestinian statehood, portrayed himself in his conference address as having never shifted his position on the subject. He called on the Arab world to push the Palestinians toward negotiations and insisted that, in a final agreement, the Palestinian Authority would have to agree to a demilitarized state and recognize Israel as the Jewish state – a condition they have thus far refused. “There might be an opening, because some of the Arab states silently agree with what I say,” Netanyahu said. “They might be in the position to influence the Palestinians to adopt a more conciliatory or positive approach. It will be hard, because all politics is theater, and international politics is theater, too, and everyone is cast in a role.” Held annually at the Interdisciplinary Center Herzliya, a college founded in 1994, the Herzliya Conference brings together top officials from Israel’s government, diplomatic and defense arenas to discuss threats facing Israel and the Middle East. The conference offers a peek into the minds of Israel’s leading decision makers and occasionally provides a venue for Israeli leaders to make important announcements. There were no such big developments this year, but the conference did reveal the extent of the disagreement within the Israeli government about the appropriate path forward in resolving Israel’s decades-long conflict with the Palestinians. Likud Defense Minister Moshe Ya’alon was more pes- Israeli Minister of Education Naftali Bennet speaks at the Herzliya Conference. (JTA) simistic than his boss on Tuesday, declaring a “stable agreement” with the Palestinians unlikely in his lifetime. Though Ya’alon, who is 64, suggested measures to improve the Palestinian economy and local Palestinian government, he rejected any limitation on Israeli military operations in the West Bank, saying that could invite a takeover by Hamas, the militant group that governs Gaza. “There’s really something stable here,” Ya’alon said, referring to the West Bank. “Should Danziger Kosher Catering “The Ultimate in Kosher Catering” Exclusively available at many of Chicago’s & South Florida’s throughout the metropolitan area. Call for an updated and complete listing of available locations. Chicago South Florida Glatt Kosher 3910 W. Devon Avenue " #$%'$!$$ ! ()#$%'$!$ $'*+,-/ " #'5%''55 242(,,' ()#'5%''5 www.danzigerkosher.com we upset it out of wishful thinking? So we’re suggesting, within the framework of not ruling them, steps that make it possible for both sides to live in welfare, to live with respect, to live in security without illusions.” Likud Interior Minister Silvan Shalom, who would serve as Israel’s chief delegate to peace talks should they resume, struck a more optimistic tone in his address, calling for a regional conference of Israel and the Arab states to confront shared regional threats, and encouraging the Palestinians to return to bilateral negotiations with Israel without preconditions. “We believe the only way to achieve a solution is through peace, and peace can be achieved only through negotiations,” Shalom said. “If they are willing to do so, and to resume the negotiations, they will find Israel as a real and serious partner to peace.” But Likud Deputy Foreign Minister Tzipi Hotovely dismissed the prospect of a peace deal entirely. Instead, she said mass Jewish immigration to Israel is the solution, as millions more Jews would eliminate any danger of Palestinians gaining a majority in Israel. “This is the Zionist vision: It was always connected to the tradition, connected to the Bible, connected to Jewish history,” she said. “It won’t be achieved by dividing the land. That’s not what will bring Israel legitimacy. Israel needs to be right. Israel needs to continue in its Zionist direction.” At last year’s conference, held just months after an intensive round of Israeli-Palestinian talks had collapsed, pro-settler Jewish Home Chairman Naftali Bennett advocated annexing the Etzion settlement bloc south of Jerusalem. This year, with the prospect of Israeli withdrawal no longer under discussion, he made scant mention of the West Bank, saying simply that he and the foreign governments urging territorial concessions would have to “agree to disagree.” Instead, he turned to another territory Israel captured in 1967, the Golan Heights, calling on the international community to recognize Israel’s sovereignty there. The civil war in Syria has made withdrawal impossible, he said, advocating instead that Israel move tens of thousands of Jews to the strategic plateau in the next five years. “Whom should we give the Golan to, to al-Nusra? To alQaida?” he asked, referring to two terrorist groups active in Syria. “Why do they still not recognize the Golan? What’s the reasoning? If we had listened to the world, we would have given away the Golan, and ISIS would have been on the Sea of Galilee.” While they disagreed on the peace process, Israel’s officials advanced a unified front in opposing boycotts of Israel. Many alluded to recent statements by Stephane Richard, CEO of the French telecommunications giant Orange, suggesting he would pull his business out of Israel. They called on Israel to fight back against boycott efforts, marshaling the buying power of its supporters to boycott companies that boycott Israel. “We have disagreements in many other issues – peace, security, economy,” Shalom said. “But we are very united about fighting back [against] the boycott. And I am sure that if we keep our unity, finally, we will prevail.” 7 Chicago Jewish News - June 12-18, 2015 Arts & Entertainment Jewish comedian goes big in China – but the humor doesn’t always translate By Uriel Heilman JTA How do you tell a joke in China about Jews when the only things most Chinese think they know about the Chosen People is that they’re smart and good with money? That was Jesse Appell’s quandary when he moved to China three years ago from Massachusetts with plans to become a comedian – and, like many stand-ups, to mine his own upbringing for material. “All the bad stereotypes about Jews in the West are considered good in China,” Appell said. ”Chinese say: ‘The Jews control the media and the banks – amazing!’ When people find out I’m Jewish, they say that’s why I speak Chinese so well, because Jews are super-smart. I’m like, that’s not how it works.” Appell, 24, is one of only a handful of stand-up comedians in China, a country of 1.35 billion people that until very recently didn’t have much of a stand-up circuit. The country’s first standup show premiered on Dragon TV in 2012, the same year that Appell graduated from Brandeis University and moved to Beijing. He came on a Fulbright scholarship to train in the traditional Chinese comedic art known as Xiang Sheng, in which two performers engage in witty banter in semi-scripted routines – a bit like the Abbott and Costello classic “Who’s On First.” But Appell, who performs in Mandarin Chinese, soon found a following with humorous videos and stand-up routines. Much of Appell’s humor centers on his position as an insider/outsider, a foreigner in China who gets Chinese culture – except when he doesn’t. A Gagnam-style parody video Appell made about being a “Laowai,” Chinese slang for foreigner, has garnered over 2 million views on Chinese websites. “I’m the type of Laowai who sucks at basketball,” Appell sings in Chinese in the music video. “The type of Laowai who buys stuff at Silk Street but doesn’t get ripped off. The type of Laowai who doesn’t drive a BMW and instead drives a secondhand electric bike. A regular guy who’s a Laowai.” By combining some traditional Xiang Sheng routines with TV appearances, stand-up performances, touring on the college circuit and teaching a high school improv class, Appell has been able to cobble together a living as a comedian in China – not exactly a standard career path for an American Jewish boy. There are some limitations to being a stand-up comedian in China. For one thing, the Chinese term for stand-up is the same as the one for talk show, so many audience members coming to open-mic nights at their college or local bar have no idea whether to expect a Louis C.K. or an Ellen DeGeneres. You can’t really poke fun at the government, which intentionally leaves the boundary of acceptability vague to get artists to censor themselves. The Chinese aren’t great at self-deprecation. Add to that the lack of alcohol and Chinese inhibitions against laughing too loudly and it can make for a tough crowd. “Until I got to China, I never realized how big of an effect there is going into a set where the audience is a little liquored up,” Appell said. “The Chinese tend to come in, sit down in neat rows, don’t talk and wait for the show to start. But people still have a good time – if we can make them laugh.” Appell sometimes serves as an opening act for Joe Wong, one of China’s biggest stand-up comedians. Appell also recently launched a new web series about living in China. He says he has performed in more than 20 Chinese provinces, and last fall he did a 13-city tour in North America. Funny business came early for Appell. He and his brother used to do bar mitzvahs, with his brother handling the music and Appell serving as the emcee and funnyman. He continued doing comedy in college, but also began studying Chinese intensively. Appell spent six months of his junior year studying in China, where he discovered traditional Xiang Sheng comedy. He still does plenty of Xiang Sheng, often with a 300-pound Iranian partner training with the same Xiang Sheng master as Appell. “You have a skinny Jewish guy and a fat Iranian guy doing Chinese comedy,” Appell said, noting that the absurdity of the juxtaposition is lost on Chinese audiences. American-style stand-up offers Appell a way to get his own material onstage. Though Chinese people don’t know much about the Jews, Appell says they’re always excited to hear him talk about Judaism. A routine he recorded about being Jewish in China made it to the front page of China’s version of YouTube and quickly got 100,000 views. “I feel like Jewish culture Jesse Appell performing Xiang Sheng, a Chinese comedic art dating back to the Qing dynasty that involves quick, witty banter between two performers. (JTA) and Chinese culture have a lot of commonalities,” Appell said in one of his stand-up routines. “Jews at the age of 13 have a coming-of-age ritual. It’s called a bar mitzvah. We need to read lots of books, we have to study a new language, but whether we speak it or not doesn’t matter. There’s a lot of praying involved, and finally we share all the boring stuff we’ve learned. After I got to China I realized that Chinese people have a similar coming-of-age ritual at 13: It’s called the high school entrance exam.” Ironically, Appel, who grew up in the heavily Jewish Boston suburb of Newton, Massachusetts, and attended Brandeis, the Jewish-sponsored nonsectarian university, says he has actually become much more Jewishly involved since moving to China. “At Brandeis, the Jewish stuff was everywhere, so you could engage with it without stepping out of your way,” he said. “In China, if I don’t go to services, I’m not going to walk by services or see people lighting candles in their dorm room.” Appell says he finds himself at the egalitarian Jewish congre- gation Kehillat Beijing nearly every Friday night – that is, if he doesn’t have a show. This year he emceed the community’s Passover seder, which drew 200 people on the holiday’s first night. 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Ten spies believe that the land is not worth conquering, for not only could the Israelites not defeat the Canaanites, “We are like grasshoppers in their eyes.” But also the 10 spies believe that once the Israelites occupy the land of Canaan, it will be very corrupting. Their values are inconsistent with the values of Torah Judaism. When the people hear the report of the returning spies, they panic. Moses tries to calm their nerves and renew their courage. G-d threatens to destroy these people with little faith and create a new nation through Moses. “I will smite them with the pestilence, and destroy them, and will make of thee a nation greater and mightier than they.” (Numbers 14:12) Moses appeals for divine forgiveness, even using the argument that G-d’s reputation is at stake. “Now if Thou shalt kill this people as one man, then the nations which have heard the fame of Thee will speak, saying: because the Lord was not able to bring this people into the land which He swore unto them, therefore He hath slain them in the wilderness … Pardon, I pray Thee the iniquity of this people according unto the greatness of Thy lovingkindness, and according as Thou hast forgiven this people, from Egypt even until now.” (Numbers 14:15-19) Regarding this passage, the Talmud teaches us to see ourselves and the world as balanced between good and evil. The Kabbalah teaches us to seek balance between the forces of Chesed (Compassion) and Gevurah (Judgment). Furthermore, Rabbi Moishe Leib, the Chasidic Sassover Reb, suggests that this balance exists within G-d, between the desire to punish wrongdoing or forgive it. Rabbi Douglas Goldhamer In our text, Moses tries to tip the balance toward forgiveness by asking what good punishment would do when the same result could be achieved by forgiveness. Rabbi Leib points to a lesson for all of us. He maintains that if we seek to punish those who have offended us, whom are we harming with our anger –them or ourselves? This reminds me of Chaim Vital’s great kabbalistic text “Sha’arey Kedushah,” which teaches “you are who you hate.” He means by this that we are all one –you, me, the victim of the Boston bombing and the perpetrator of the Boston bombing. And if we continue to hate those who offend us, we are really only continuing to hate ourselves. If we seek to punish those who have offended us, whom are we harming with our anger? Them or ourselves? Clearly we harm ourselves, because we are all one. Prior to the exile of the Shechina from Gan Eden, Adam and Eve recognized that they were one with G-d and the other beings in the Garden. But after they ate from the Tree of Knowledge of Duality, they lost the ability to see wholeness and oneness, and reality became a reality of duality, where punishment is meted out to those who offend us, and forgiveness is impossible. When we lash out with anger at those we feel offend us, we harm ourselves. I think this is a theme that runs throughout this Torah portion of Shelach. Moses tries to teach G-d that it’s not about who’s right and who’s wrong. It’s about how we can embrace “the other,” recognizing that “the other” is ourselves. This insight is alluded to by Talmud teaches us to see ourselves and the world as balanced between good and evil. Rabbi Moishe Leib, when he clearly maintains that, if we seek to punish those who have offended us, we ultimately harm ourselves. I recognize the difficulty or near impossibility of embracing the offender. Even though we know that the Boston bomber and those whom he killed are really one, I am not at the level that sees the offender and the offended as one. Even though this is what Hashem taught us in Gan Eden, with the Tree of Life. I once heard a story that – perhaps 20 years ago –Elie Wiesel took a train from one French city to another, when a man came up to him and confessed that he had committed horrific crimes during the Holocaust. He asked Professor Wiesel for his forgiveness. Wiesel responded, “I can’t forgive someone for crimes they committed against others. I can only forgive those that hurt me. You must ask for forgiveness from those people you hurt.” Professor Wiesel was much closer to practicing oneness than I could ever be, but even he failed to recognize the oneness of Gan Eden and the oneness that modern subatomic physics teaches today. In the magnificent text “Sha’arey Kedushah,” there is the reward of hearing the voices of the departed luminaries of our Bible and Talmud, if we can truly forgive the Boston offender and understand we are he. We are who we hate. But, I can’t do it yet. This Torah portion is very good as an instrument in creating peace with one another. It is commonly accepted today that you are what you eat –I would call it a New Age secular ethic. But I believe if we build on that secular ethic and share with members of our community that you are who you hate, since from the perspective of G-d, we are all one, this would go a great distance in creating shalom. However, I completely confess that I am not yet at that level. And even though, according to “Sha’arey Kedushah,” we are all one, I still can’t find it in my heart to really forgive the Nazi. But perhaps, if I take Ben BagBag’s credo to heart, “Delve into it (the Torah) again and again. Use it to see the truth; for all is in it. Grow old in it and depart not from it, for there is no better pursuit for you than Torah.” Amen. Rabbi Douglas Goldhamer is senior rabbi of Congregation Bene Shalom (Reform) in Skokie and president of Hebrew Seminary, Skokie. 9 Chicago Jewish News - June 12-18, 2015 Community Calendar Sunday June 14 Anshe Emet Synagogue hosts Chicago barbecue festival and competition. 11:30 a.m.- 4 p.m., 3751 N. Broadway, Chicago. $5 suggested donation. (773) 6616384. Illinois Holocaust Museum and Education Center presents Holocaust survivor Ralph Rehbok telling his personal story and answering questions. 12:30 p.m., 9603 Woods Drive, Skokie. Free with museum admission. ilholocaustmuseum. org or (847) 967-4800. Congregation Solel hosts concert, “Voice of Song,” benefitting Kol Zimrah Jewish Community Singers and featuring soloist Cantor Vicky Glikin. 3 p.m., 1301 Clavey Road, Highland Park. $36 and $20. kolzimrah.org or (847) 297-5745. Congregation B’nai Tikvah hosts light supper and discussion of the movie “Ida” followed by screening. 5:30 p.m., 1558 Wilmot Road, Deerfield. $15. RSVP, (847) 945-0470. Tuesday June 16 Chicago YIVO 2015 Summer Festival of Yiddish Culture presents Gypsy Rhythm Project with Steve Gibons and Nicolae Ferraru. 2 p.m., Northbrook Public Library, 1201 Cedar Lane, Northbrook. (847) 272-6224. ELI Talks presents “inspired Jewish ideas” including the neuroscience of ritual, race relations, the moral imagination of the Talmud, Ladino proverbs, death, dance and more. Be part of the live studio audience at 6 p.m. for light kosher reception with chance to meet the speakers. 6:30 p.m., also Wednesday, June 17 and Thursday, June 18. WTTW Channel 11 Studios, 5400 N. St. Louis, Chicago. $18 advance, $20 door. Tickets at eventbright.com/e/ eli-talks-chicago-jewishife-and-learning-tickets16635512265. JCC PresenTense Chicago holds Launch Night 2015. 6:15-9 p.m., 1871 Chicago, 222 Merchandise Mart Plaza, 12th Floor, Chicago. Free with advance RSVP, $10 door. RSVP required, http://bit.ly/ptlaunchchi or (847) 763-3629. Wednesday June 17 Northwest Hadassah Chapter holds chocolate event. 7:15 p.m., Morkes Chocolates, 1890 N. Rand Road, Palatine. $14. Elizabeth Gordon, [email protected]. Ezra-Habonim, the Niles Township Jewish Congregation’s Men’s Club presents Howard Romanek speaking on “Searching for Meaning and Community: The Historical Challenge of Sports to American Judaism.” 7:30 p.m., 4500 W. Dempster, Skokie. (847) 675-4141. Thursday June 18 Illinois Holocaust Museum and Education Center’s Young Professional Committee holds inaugural event, “LOL with YPC” featuring comedian Gary Gulman. 6-9 p.m., Thompson Hotel, 21 E. Bellvue Place, Chicago. $75. ilholocaustmuseum.org/lol-w-ypc/ Beit Yichud presents Jerusalem Rabbi Yitzchak Shwartz speaking on “The Art of MMM-ing” (Mystical, Musical Meditation-ing), a musical exploration of how to meditate in this way. 9 p.m., 6932 N. Glenwood, Chicago. $10 suggested donation. (Additional presentations run through Sunday, June 21.) www.facebook. com/BeitYichud. Friday June 19 JCC Chicago hosts Father’s Day Weekend for grandparents (parents not allowed) and their grandchildren ages 4-12. Runs through Sunday, June 21. JCC Perlstein Resort, Nixon Road, Lake Delton, Wisc. $260 adult, $89 children. Registration, bit.ly/ LDorVaDor or (847) 7633605. Saturday June 20 JCC Chicago presents the 2nd annual Chicago Jewish Film Festival. Runs through Sunday, June 28. Venues for the festival are: Century 12 Evanston/Cine Arts 6 and XD, 1715 Maple Ave., Evanston; Landmark Century Centre Cinema, 2828 N. 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Some 25 families, many belonging to the same synagogue, have hired private security to patrol the area after a series of antiSemitic incidents took place. The patrols are hired for Shabbat and Jewish holidays when Orthodox Jews walk to synagogue and are forbidden to carry or use cell phones. Some residents, community leaders and rabbis favor the patrols or at least feel they don’t do any harm. Many others oppose them. Some, like Ald. Debra Silverstein (50th) would like to see residents work more closely with the Chicago Police rather than hiring a private force of officers. The department is doing a more than adequate job of protecting the neighborhood, she and others say. Chicago Police issued a statement on the matter: “The Chicago Police Department values strong partnerships with every community throughout this great city. Community members are encouraged to remain alert and to notify police if they witness any suspicious or criminal activity.” A spokesperson for the department said the police could say no more about the matter. But Sgt. Shawn Sisk, who leads the 24th District’s community policing efforts, told a reporter for the website DNAinfo that al- though the district could not stop the patrols, “we’re not going to support it. We don’t want that to send a false sense of security to the neighborhood.” he idea of the private security patrols began more than a year ago, according to Andrew Glatz, a member of the loose group of individuals who initiated them. It has no formal name nor organizational ties, he said, but is “kind of fluid. It is in its infancy.” Many who are involved are members of Beis Medrash Mikor Hachaim, an Orthodox synagogue on West Chase Street in West Rogers Park. David Kamish, who has been reported as initiating and organizing the patrols, did not return calls from Chicago Jewish News. Glatz said a series of anti-Semitic incidents over the last year sparked the need for the patrols. “We were all taking the advice of the police to be more vigilant, be more aware of our surroundings, be more prepared,” he said. During last year’s conflict in Gaza, Glatz said, several cars in the area were vandalized and messages were left on them stating the equivalent of “we know who you are and where you live and if you don’t stop bombing Gaza we will come back for you.” In December, anti-Semitic graffiti was scrawled on the garage of Congregation Atereth Yehoshua in the 2900 block of West Touhy Avenue and on the outside of several homes. In April, several synagogues, private individuals and Jewish organizations, including the Bernard Horwich JCC on Touhy Avenue, received letters filled with a white powder that turned out to be baking soda. The letters contained Arabic writing and pictures of what appeared to be Arabic rebel fighters, sources said. Glatz said a rabbi’s car was vandalized in a garage in the area. On April 19, two people were robbed at gunpoint in the early hours of the morning in the 3000 block of West Jerome Avenue. According to police, an SUV pulled up and a man with a T Andrew Glatz Howard Rieger Bruce Rottner gun demanded the couple’s belongings. “That was the straw that broke the camel’s back,” Glatz said. “There has been a rash of anti-Semitic events. We appreciate the diligence of the local authorities but since the attacks (against Jews) in France and Copenhagen, in Europe, the Middle East and elsewhere with ISIS destroying ancient Christian and Jewish cities, it’s happening.” Some 25 families got together and agreed to pay $25 a month for the extra security, he said. He compared it to hospitals where patients, without faulting the care they receive, hire private nurses. Some other cities use citizen patrols for this purpose, but, Glatz said, “we thought the police would prefer to have their own trained officers moonlighting as opposed to our own community members. They work the districts already and are familiar with the other officers. What we are doing now is being proactive instead of reactive.” The effort started at Glatz’s own synagogue, he said, then expanded north to the “Touhy corridor” and beyond. Two to four officers patrol on most Shabbats and Jewish holidays depending on the perceived need, he said. Synagogue members weren’t advertising the service to the public but Ald. Silverstein “got wind of our patrol,” Glatz said, and requested a community meeting with patrol organizers, a CAPS (community policing through the Chicago Police De- partment) officer and heads of community organizations. A reporter for the website DNAinfo attended and “that’s how it got picked up” by other news outlets, Glatz said. “None of us wanted this in public discussion but it’s good now that there is open debate about it,” he said. “We have gotten positive feedback and calls from other communities.” Silverstein said she organized the meeting when she heard about the patrols because “I felt it was very important that we work together (with the police) and have open lines of communication. That was the message given at the meeting – that we need to work together,” she told Chicago Jewish News. “I think it’s encouraging that (the group hiring the off-duty officers) work together with the police,” she said. “I think that’s key – people calling the police when issues arise.” At the meeting, police encouraged residents to call 911 when they witness suspicious behavior or feel unsafe. One CAPS facilitator suggested that Orthodox Jews find a non-Jewish neighbor to whom they can go for help on a Shabbat or holiday. “Never be afraid to reach out and ask for help – or make contact,” he said, according to DNAinfo. which includes West Rogers Park. Rieger, a former president and CEO of Jewish Federations of North America who moved back to his native Chicago several years ago, has done considerable work to improve the area, hiring a planner and laying out a strategy to upgrade and beautify the Devon corridor, where there were many empty storefronts, and other spots. He most recently was instrumental in creating a park at Devon Avenue and McCormick Boulevard at the site of an abandoned parking lot. He has had nothing to do with the security patrols but is aware of them, he said. “These neighborhoods have taken this direction and they have a right to do it,” he said. “But the issue from my point of view is that it be coordinated with the police. An independent force out there operating on its own is not going to be good for the neighborhood. If we can share information with the police then it can be a constructive thing.” He said his interactions with the Chicago police have been positive. “They’ve been responsive to whatever we asked them,” he said. “I particularly appreciate the fact that on an ongoing basis they pay special attention to the neighborhood on Shabbat and yom tovs.” During the Gaza conflict last year, the organization asked the 24th District commander to convene a meeting with agencies and synagogues in the area to discuss security. “They were very responsive to that, very knowledgeable oward Rieger, president of the Jewish Community Council of West Rogers Park, agrees, touting the positive interactions he has had with the Chicago Police Department and its 24th District, H 11 Chicago Jewish News - June 12-18, 2015 about the neighborhood and Jewish traditions,” he said. As for the anti-Semitic incidents, “What can you think?” Rieger said. “The good news is that Jews haven’t been accosted. It’s out there but we have a new police commander (District Commander Roberto Nieves) and he is a sophisticated guy who will help bring up to speed in terms of being familiar with Jewish agencies and traditions. They have always been completely willing to work with us.” Noting that anti-Semitic incidents can and do happen anywhere, including Lincolnwood and Northbrook, Rieger said he hopes people outside of West Rogers Park aren’t left with the impression of “oh my gosh, what is happening here?” Jewish Child and Family Services is building a major addition to its facility in the area, the Horwich JCC is upgrading, “shuls are being built, people are building massive houses,” he said. “There is a lot of good here and more good to follow. Some people are out of touch with that.” Shalom Klein, executive director of the Jewish Community Council of West Rogers Park, said he does not endorse the security patrols and knows of no other formal organization that has become involved in the effort. The council “doesn’t really have an opinion of it,” he said. “These are individual steps people are taking over and above the very wonderful cooperation we’ve had with the Chicago Police.” He feels satisfied with the job the Chicago Police Department is doing, Klein said, and sees Ald. Silverstein’s meeting bringing together police, rabbis and community leaders “a perfect example of a public-private partnership, and that is good news. When things were going on overseas, in France, in Israel, immediately I was on the phone with Chicago police, Lincolnwood, Cook County, the U.S. Department of Homeland Security, the FBI.” All the agencies responded quickly, he said. Rabbi Doug Zelden n the neighborhood, reaction to the security patrols is mixed. Longtime West Rogers Park resident Esther Manewith said the necessity for such patrols “breaks my heart. There was a shooting near a school recently and they had to cancel recess.” Having extra protection “I think is great in a way,” she said. “Orthodox people can’t carry a cell phone on Shabbos. We’ve got to do something. When there is a shooting near a school and kids can hear it, this is an obscenity.” One neighborhood rabbi, Rabbi Douglas Zelden of Congregation Or Menorah, said he does not use the private patrols but is not against anyone who wants to do so. “It’s not a bad thing to do because there is a lot of craziness around,” he said. But he doesn’t feel it’s necessary for his synagogue because the building is small and doesn’t stand out. In addition, he said, “when you walk into a synagogue you want to feel like home. I don’t want people to walk in and feel like they’re getting looked over. You want them to feel like it’s their home, and you don’t want security in your own home.” He also doesn’t want a member of the congregation to stay outside watching the door, as some synagogues have done. “I don’t want to tell one of my congregants that you can’t be in shul, you have to be outside watching the door,” he said. Although “everybody agrees there is precedence” to hire private security patrols, Zelden doesn’t think people in the neighborhood are necessarily terrified. “There is a limited amount of fear, I don’t know about a lot,” he said. “It has died down some. When there is an incident, it lasts for two or three weeks then it dies down, and there hasn’t been an incident recently. People are letting their children walk down the street without adult supervision. I’m letting my 12-year-old walk with a groups of friends without adult supervision when going to youth groups.” Deputy Chief Bruce Rottner served as commander in the 24th District for three years and served with the Chicago Police for 39. When he retired several years ago, he held the rank of deputy chief of patrol for Area North, an area that encompasses the North Side of Chicago. Rottner, who is Jewish, is president of the Shomrim Society of Illinois, an organization of Jewish police officers. Of the private security patrols, he said,”I’m a much stronger believer in working with the police department. That’s’ what we pay taxes for. If you have a good relationship with the police, sit down and tell them what (the community’s) needs are.” He said that today the police are more attuned to the needs of various ethnic communities than when he started with the department in 1972. “It’s just a matter of sitting down with the officers and supervisors who patrol your neighborhood and telling them, this is what our concerns are,” he said. When he served as 24th District commander, “the first thing I did, recognizing that the Orthodox have special needs, I started the Shabbos car,” a patrol car that watched several locations on Shabbat and Jewish holidays. “My stance is the same as it was back in 2005 and 2006 when I was commander,” he said. “I’m in favor of any strategy that can help a community reduce fear and reduce crime, but you need to do it within the framework of what is existing already, and that’s the police. I don’t feel people have to hire outside help to solve the problem. If you work closely with your local police the problem can be solved.” Rabbi Zev Cohen, spiritual leader of Congregation Adas Yeshurun Kanesses Israel and a West Rogers Park religious leader, said he was not consulted about the private patrols and can’t comment on them. His synagogue, like several others in the area, uses “code locks” on its doors, locks with a special code that congregants learn so they don’t have to carry keys on Shabbat when they might want to enter the synagogue at times when it isn’t open. “We’ve had code locks on the doors for 15 years,” Cohen said. “The synagogue is open Rabbi Alan Abramson Richard Baehr I Ald. Debra Silverstein Rabbi Zev Cohen from 5:30 in the morning to 12:30 at night, people are studying and praying there all the time and nobody wanted to carry keys on Shabbat.” But he said that, contrary to some residents’ beliefs, the code locks have to do with convenience rather than security. “As far as I’m concerned, our neighborhoods are extremely secure,” he said. “The police are doing a wonderful job. We live in a wonderful neighborhood in a wonderful country.” Rabbi Alan M. Abramson of Congregation Anshe Motele, another nearby synagogue, said he and his congregants “are satisfied with the attentiveness of the Chicago Police Department. They’ve been responsive to the Jewish community of West Rogers Park and we have confidence.” The congregation sometimes hires private security for a large bar mitzvah or holiday crowd, he said, but not primarily for security purposes. “We just want to make sure when we have a bigger crowd the children don’t get into trouble or get hurt. It’s as much internal as external.” Richard Baehr, a political analyst who writes for the American Thinker, a website that covers issues of Jewish interest as well as others, posted there that the largest number of hate crimes in the country are against Jews. Even though those hate crimes, such as anti-Semitic graffiti, have traditionally not been violent, that could be changing, he said. “People do this (hire private security patrols) when they’re nervous,” he told Chicago Jewish News. “The area where this is occurring is probably not the prime focus area of the Chicago Police Department. They’ve got bigger issues.” He believes the security patrols might be necessary, he said. “I don’t criticize people who try to add security to their community,” Baehr said. “It’s a new situation we’re in in terms of direct threats and the changing population mix in this country and the kinds of things that have occurred overseas. I think we’re entering into a new era. It doesn’t take large numbers of people to commit these kinds of acts.” His view, he said, is that “if people do this, there’s a reason to do it, a need. Sometimes it’s simply communicating that we’re not as visible a target as other places.” latz, meanwhile, said his goal is to get more synagogues to sign up for the patrols and to “streamline” that process. As it is now, he said, “there are various security arrangements in place. Rabbis are handling it on their own, not as a unified effort. Some congregations have private security companies, some have actual police officers, some have shul members who have researched (security issues) and been trained.” Some synagogues and Jewish institutions have staged mock emergencies to provide training to some of their members, he said. “Now it’s a board by board decision as to what type of security (a synagogue) should have,” he said. “The goal of our organization is to train the presidents of synagogues that each respective (synagogue) should have a security detail and evacuation method, have a plan in place , just like most schools have in case there should be an event.” Before his group started the security initiative, “there was no unified response or method in place besides the police. There was no coordination with members of the community. We have CAPS but no one seems to take them seriously,” Glatz said. While he stressed that he and others at his synagogue “very much appreciate and respect” Chicago police and “want them to work closely with us,” he feels the synagogue is much more secure now than previously. “It’s on a busy street,” he said. “We took action, we changed our entrance policy. It used to be that the door was left open. Now we have a lock and on Shabbat we have a greeter. “Now we’re trying to open up the eyes of the community and let them understand (the neighborhood) is not as rosy, safe and tranquil as we would all love it to be.” G 12 Chicago Jewish News - June 12-18, 2015 Senior Living Agnieszka Kurant and the art of what’s missing By Lucy Blatter JTA Agnieszka Kurant has become one of only a handful of artists to have their work adorn the famous curved facade of the Solomon R. Guggenheim Museum in New York. Kurant’s “The End of Signature,” a neon white projection created from the actual signatures of museum visitors with the help of a computer program, is an evolving light sculpture that the Polish-Jewish artist calls an ode to the disappearing art of handwriting. The “collective signa- ture” will be visible on the Manhattan building at night and is similar to a work projected in blue outside a shopping mall in Holland in 2013. “It’s like the signature of an invisible hand of a collective body,” said Kurant, a self-described post-conceptual artist now based in New York. Her work will also be on display inside the Guggenheim as part of its summer contemporary art show. “Phantom Library” comprises 112 fictional books, originally mentioned in novels, lined up on a shelf. Kurant has given the books physicality, complete with ISBN numbers and bar codes. “It relates to my general interest in phantom capital and how [the] contemporary economy is becoming based less and less on physical products and physical labor and more on virtual and immaterial products and immaterial labor,” Kurant said. Invisibility and the power of what cannot be seen are constants in the work of Kurant, who learned only as a teenager that her mother’s family was Jewish. Kurant’s maternal grandparents were Holocaust survivors, and her mother, who spent most of her life in communist Poland, had been afraid to tell her daughter the truth. Her family’s choice to keep The work of Polish-Jewish artist Agnieszka Kurant will be featured this summer at the Guggenheim Museum in New York. 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Noticing the Jewish stars etched on the tombstones – sometimes appearing alongside swastikas – she learned that her mother’s family was Jewish. “When my mother was growing up, Jewish origin was taboo,” said Kurant, who until now has not discussed her Jewish identity in the media. “My maternal grandparents changed their names during the war and kept the fake names. ... They had a fake Catholic wedding during the war and baptized my mother when she was born.” Kurant’s mother’s family had been secular Jews, part of the Warsaw intelligentsia before the Holocaust. During the war they were hidden by a German businessman who allowed them to work in his factory. Her grandfather was a well-known surgeon in Lodz after the war. But in 1968, amid a wave of anti-Semitism in Poland that led to an exodus of 20,000 Jews from the country, he lost his job and was forced to live out his professional life at a small provincial hospital on the outskirts of the city, which is some 85 miles southwest of Warsaw. Before moving to the United States permanently 3 1/2 years ago, Kurant lived on Chlodna Street in Warsaw, the site of a bridge that once connected the small and large Jewish ghettos. She was struck by the absence of a Jewish memorial at the site, which has monuments to Polish victims of the 1919-21 CONTINUED O N N E X T PAG E 13 Chicago Jewish News - June 12-18, 2015 Senior Living CONTINUED F RO M P R E V I O U S PAG E Polish-Soviet war and a monument to a Polish priest who lived on the street and was murdered by communists in 1984. The Jewish narrative, Kurant says, was suppressed. So in 2009, along with the Polish artist Anna Baumgart, Kurant created “(...),” a huge sculpture of movable balloons commissioned by the Museum of the History of Polish Jews in Warsaw. The ellipsis between parentheses suggests a gap in narration. “It was created as an ‘antimonument,’ a way of showing what was not there,” Kurant said, describing the piece as a “portable monument-for-hire for places where unresolvable conflict exist, or where there are problems impossible to discuss and where certain discourses were suppressed in collective memory.” Since learning about her own family’s suppression, Kurant says she has embraced her Jewish-Polish cultural identity. “It’s who I am,” she said. at LINCOLNWOOD PLACE Capture the Story of Your Life THURSDAY, JUNE 18TH, 12:00PM—2:00PM Mary Beth Sammons journalist & author will be presenting a memoir writing workshop; • Discover & preserve the precious stories from family. • Tips on meeting with family members, organizing memories and creating a book, video or audio story. Lunch will be served. Community tours & raffle prizes! 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Sarhon’s center was founded as Jews worldwide, and especially in Israel, grew alarmed at the prospect of Ladino’s disappearance and mounted an international effort spanning four continents to preserve it. The effort to preserve the language also has gotten a boost from Spain’s push to export its culture and language abroad through its Cervantes Institute – and from popular nostalgia for Sephardic culture. Ladino is spoken by about 100,000 people, most of them in Israel, according to Israel’s Association of Translators. Other es- timates say the number of Ladino speakers worldwide may be more than twice that number. Whatever the exact figure, Ladino is not being passed on to the next generation – partly because these Ladino speakers are dispersed in countries dominated by other languages. Starting in the mid 1990s, language classes and online forums promoting Ladino began popping up in Israel. In 1996, Israel’s National Authority of Ladino was established, and in the early 2000s two Israeli universities, Bar-Ilan and Ben-Gurion, began teaching the language. These conditions allowed El Amaneser to recruit writers from Turkey, France, Argentina, Chile, Israel, the United States and Britain, who every month send in far more material than the paper can print in its 24 pages. With no more than 2,000 readers in Turkey and another 300 worldwide, El Amaneser is not exactly a moneymaker. It exists as a nonprofit, like most other bodies that were set up over the past 30 years to save Ladino from oblivion. But whereas most of these bodies have state or university funding, El Amaneser exists thanks to the resources of Turkey’s small Jewish community and Salom – the country’s Jewish weekly, which prints El Amaneser and houses its offices in its building. Unlike most Diaspora Jewish newspapers, Salom actually generates a profit, and, aside from funding El Amaneser, Salom distributes the Ladino paper for free to Salom’s 4,500-odd subscribers. It’s not clear how many of them actually can read Ladino. Originally written in Hebrew letters, the language has been transliterated into Latin letters for the past 30 years. For Turkish Jews, preserving Ladino is a historical obligation, says Sami Aker, a journalist at Salom. He notes that Ladino was developed in the Ottoman Empire by Sephardic Jews who arrived as refugees in the 15th century after fleeing the Spanish and Portuguese Inquisitions. “Contrary to common misconceptions, Sephardic Jews didn’t speak Ladino in Spain and Portugal; they spoke their local dialect over there,” Sarhon said. Only after they came to the Ottoman Empire did they begin using Ladino, “which is very much an Ottoman language,” she said. While most immigrant populations lose their native language within four generations, Ladino has survived for centuries. It was so widely spoken among Turkish Jews that it was chosen over Turkish as the language for Salom when the paper was founded in 1947. But Ladino readership diminished as young Turkish Jews either left for Israel or integrated into Turkish society. Salom switched to Turkish in 1984, keeping Ladino alive only in one weekly page and in the framed, yellowing front pages that adorn the walls of the paper’s headquarters in downtown Istanbul. Ladino did not fare any better in Bulgaria, where Jews spoke LEARN JUST HOW SWEET THE VALUE OF A RENTAL COMMUNITY IS VERSUS BUYING INTO ONE. Karen Sarhon and members of her Ladino song group Los Pasharos Sefaradis in Istanbul. (JTA) the language until recently (Bulgaria, too, used to also be part of the Ottoman Empire). Claire Levy, a Bulgarian Jew, recalls how the language died out within her family, like many other Jewish families, when everyone left for Israel in the 1950s except for one Ladinospeaking aunt. “Later on, she married a Bulgarian guy and stopped speaking Ladino altogether,” Levy said. In Turkey, preserving Ladino is not the most pressing issue for a community concerned about its future amid rising Islamism and the anti-Israel – and, some say, anti-Semitic – tirades of Turkey’s president, Recep Tayyip Erdogan, and his cronies. After two Istanbul synagogues were bombed in 2003, Salom added new security Sweet measures at its headquarters, which are now housed in a nondescript building under constant guard and equipped with massive, blast-proof doors. Turkish Jews’ stake in preserving Ladino – a language rich with humorous expressions, songs, jokes and poetic metaphors – is understandable considering how intricately woven into their communal identity the language has become. To this day, Ladino phrases pepper the conversations of Turkish Jews, not unlike the way American Jews or Israelis use Yiddish. Turkish Jews use Ladino references for everything from domestic items (“pantofeles” for slippers) to insults (“jandaracho,” which can mean floor mop, or a submissive person). 3R I* VII 1 SR XL .3-297 David Nelson, respected Advisor from New York Life will discuss the financial benefits of The Merion’s rental versus buy-in senior communities. Luncheon prepared by Chef Oscar Leon with desserts served on tour of this newly renovated historic building. 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Judaism calls for a period of intense mourning known as shiva that lasts seven days after a loved one is buried. After shiva, most normal activities can be resumed, but it is the end of sheloshim that marks the completion of religious mourning for a spouse. A childhood friend of mine who is now a rabbi recently told me that the most powerful oneline prayer he has ever read is: “Let me not die while I am still alive.” I would have never understood that prayer before losing Dave. Now I do. I think when tragedy occurs, it presents a choice. You can give in to the void, the emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even breathe. Or you can try to find meaning. These past thirty days, I have spent many of my moments lost in that void. And I know that many future moments will be consumed by the vast emptiness as well. But when I can, I want to choose life and meaning. And this is why I am writing: to mark the end of sheloshim and to give back some of what others have given to me... I have learned that I never really knew what to say to others in need. I think I got this all wrong before; I tried to assure people that it would be okay, thinking that hope was the most comforting thing I could offer. A friend of mine with late-stage cancer told me that the worst thing people could say to him was “It is going to be okay.” That voice in his head would scream, How do you know it is going to be okay? Do you not understand that I might die? I learned this past month what he was trying to teach me. Real empathy is sometimes not insisting that it will be okay but acknowledging that it is not. When people say to me, “You and your children will find happiness again,” my heart tells me, Yes, I believe that, but I know I will never feel pure joy again. Those who have said, “You will find a new normal, but it will never be as good” comfort me more because they know and speak the truth. Even a simple “How are you?” – almost always asked with the best of intentions – is better replaced with “How are you today?” When I am asked “How are you?” I stop myself from shouting, My husband died a month ago, how do you think I am? When I hear “How are you today?” I realize the person knows that the best I can do right now is to get through each day. I have learned some practical stuff that matters. Although we now know that Dave died immediately, I didn’t know that in the ambulance. The trip to the hospital was unbearably slow. I still hate every car that did not move to the side, every person who cared more about arriving at their destination a few minutes earlier than making room for us to pass. I have noticed this while driving in many countries and cities. Let’s all move out of the way. Someone’s parent or partner or child might depend on it. I have learned how ephemeral everything can feel – and maybe everything is. That whatever rug you are standing on can be pulled right out from under you with absolutely no warning. In the last thirty days, I have heard from too many women who lost a spouse and then had multiple rugs pulled out from under them. Some lack support networks and struggle alone as they face emotional distress and financial insecurity. It seems so wrong to me that we abandon these women and their families when they are in greatest need. I have learned to ask for SEE MOURNING PAG E 1 6 Let us help make this chapter one of your best. It begins with the right setting. Comfortable surroundings that please the eye and senses. A responsive staff for resident support needs, with a licensed nurse on-site 24/7. Professionally guided fitness and therapy for an active lifestyle. Delicious, chef-prepared cuisine. Concierge and transportation services. 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I did not plan this, and when it happened, I was not capable of doing much of anything. Those closest to me took over. They planned. They arranged. They told me where to sit and reminded me to eat. They are still doing so much to support me and my children... For me, starting the transition back to work has been a savior, a chance to feel useful and connected. But I quickly discovered that even those connections had changed. Many of my coworkers had a look of fear in their eyes as I approached. I knew why – they wanted to help but weren’t sure how. Should I mention it? Should I not mention it? If I mention it, what the hell do I say? I realized that to restore that closeness with my colleagues that has always been so important to me, I needed to let them in. And that meant being more open and vulnerable than I ever wanted to be. I told those I work with most closely that they could ask me their honest questions and I would answer. I also said it was okay for them to talk about how they felt. One colleague admitted she’d been driving by my house frequently, not sure if she should come in. Another said he was paralyzed when I was around, worried he might say the wrong thing. Speaking openly replaced the fear of doing and saying the wrong thing. One of my favorite cartoons of all time has an elephant in a room answering the phone, saying, “It’s the elephant.” Once I addressed the elephant, we were able to kick him out of the room. At the same time, there are moments when I can’t let people in. I went to Portfolio Night at school where kids show their parents around the classroom to look at their work hung on the walls. So many of the parents – all of whom have been so kind – tried to make eye contact or say something they thought would be comforting. I looked down the entire time so no one could catch my eye for fear of breaking down. I hope they understood. 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Twenty-five percent said Israel and Saudi Arabia should team up to fight Iran. “What we think here in Israel about the Saudis is not exactly what they are,” Alex Mintz, head of the Interdisciplinary Center, told AP, adding, “There is a commonality of interests between Saudi Arabia and Israel right now that the Israeli government should take advantage of and capitalize on because it is unique in the history of the two states.” ■ Rabbi Marc Schneier of The Hampton Synagogue reportedly has been expelled from the Rabbinical Council of America. Schneier, the founding rabbi of the synagogue in tony Westhampton Beach, N.Y., reportedly was expelled earlier this year following allegations that he had an extramarital affair with a congregant five years ago. The RCA, the main modern Orthodox rabbinic association, did not deny that it had expelled Schneier. Schneier also is the founder and head of the Foundation for Ethnic Understanding. The woman with whom Schneier is said to have had the affair, Gitty Leiner, became his fifth wife. The divorce papers from his fourth marriage disclosed the affair. ■ The Orthodox Jewish owner of American Pharoah walked to the track to see his horse claim the first Triple Crown in nearly four decades. Owner Ahmed Zayat and his family slept in RVs on Friday night and walked to Belmont Park in New York the next day in order to observe the Sabbath, The Associated Press reported. Racing to victory in the Belmont Stakes, American Pharoah became the first horse to win the third leg of the Triple Crown for 3-year-olds following victories in the Kentucky Derby and Preakness since Affirmed in 1978. “We all wanted it. We wanted it for the sport,” Zayat, of Teaneck, New Jersey, said after the race, according to AP. American Pharoah’s jockey, Victor Espinoza, who is not Jewish, visited the Lubavitcher rebbe’s grave in Cambria Heights, New York, in the borough of Queens, where he prayed and presumably asked for good luck for his colt. Zayat, 52, who was born and grew up in Cairo, had watched horses he owns finish second in the Kentucky Derby three out of the past four years. In 2012, his horses finished second in each of the three Triple Crown races. Zayat owns 144 horses. JTA 17 Chicago Jewish News - June 12-18, 2015 By Joseph Aaron CONTINUED F RO M PAG E Get Home Care 18 Jews, they were not according the Orthodox that very acceptance and respect. If you want how you choose to be Jews to be valued, then if an Orthodox family chooses to be Jews by not having a TV or by having 14 children, that is equally deserving of being valued. There is no difference. Pluralism is a two-way street. Which is why I have so much trouble with liberals berating the Duggars for having 19 kids, saying it’s wrong. Why is it wrong? If that is what they believe to be their Christian duty, we should respect that just as much as atheists wish to be respected for their choice. And the notion that because the Duggars are devout and don’t believe in same sex marriage somehow makes them hypocrites because one of their kids behaved in a very unchristian way is absurd. Again gray. I’m really not sure how I feel about the Duggars. Which is the point. It’s as wrong to dump all over them as crazy religious fanatics as it is for Bible thumpers to defend them as if what happened and how they handled it is not a big deal, not worth talking about. The Duggars and BruceCaitlyn give us much to talk about, think about, reflect about. There are no simple answers here and no, the Torah does not tell us how to respond and feel. The Torah indeed recognizes that we are all frail humans, tells us to remember that we were once strangers in a strange land, to not do unto others as we would not have done unto ourselves. Meaning we need to wrestle with things, be open to things, open our hearts and minds to things. What should someone born male who truly feels in their heart they are somehow intrinsically a woman do about that, deal with that? To say just ignore it and accept who you are is as wrong as saying well then just get breast implants and put on a dress. And so with the Duggars. Were they bad parents, bad Christians because their son behaved as he did? And if he truly atoned and his sisters truly forgave him is that enough? And just because they are intolerant of gays does that make them not worthy of our sympathy for what they had to deal with with their children? There are plenty of other questions to ask and none of them are easy to answer, none of them lend themselves to black and white thinking, all of them are very gray. And, by the way, if you’re one of those who instinctively, arrogantly, looks at all the above and says it demonstrates the superior morality of Jews and Judaism, don’t get so cocky. Please remember that in just the last few weeks, we had one of Washington’s most prominent rabbis sentenced to six years in jail for having secretly videotaped nude women as they used his shul’s mikvah; we learned that one of New York’s most prominent rabbis has for 30 years taken young men and boys, some as young as 12 years old, into the sauna with him where he and they would sit naked, the rabbi gawking as the boys were in the shower; we had the Israeli rabbi known as the ‘rabbi to the stars’ for all the celebrities he advised, sentenced to jail because money intended to provide food for needy Holocaust survivors instead wound up in the rabbi’s pocket. So our superiority too is a matter of gray. We may be the chosen people but we are not necessarily the morally superior people. In all that’s been going on, there has been a whole lot of gray. But there is one very clear thing I do feel emerges from it all. And that is that in today’s world, there is no such thing as a secret. Thanks to the internet and its vast antennas and sources of information, nothing remains hidden. We know now that Speaker Hastert probably molested boys when he was a wrestling coach. We know that the pious Duggars had a son who engaged in wrongful touching of his sisters. We know about the Sauna Rabbi and the Mikvah Peeping Rabbi. Judaism teaches that as the time for the Moshiach to come draws closer, scientific developments come more rapidly and are more amazing. No one denies that has been the case, where if you had trouble believing that G-d hears every word each of us says, that’s less hard to believe when you learn the U.S. government keeps track of every single phone call every American makes every day. And so the notion that G-d sees all our actions, judges us for everything we do, even the things only we and He knows, is less hard to believe in a time when all is revealed about everyone. And so, even as my head is spinning from all the gray things going on in the world that are very hard to know how to process, my heart is gratified that we are learning so much about so many, especially about those we have looked up to, made into false idols. For it reminds us that our deeds, all our deeds, are seen by G-d. Now that our technology makes it easier for us to believe that, and harder for us to hide anything, there is no surer sign that we truly live in the time when Moshiach is not far away. And for all of you who dismiss that kind of thinking as religious claptrap, I remind you that seeing it that way is also being black and white. What do you make of the amazing technologies that have transformed our lives, what does it mean that everyone’s secrets are coming out? 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Taksin, nee Mendel; age 72; died June 3; beloved wife of the late Mike; loving mother of Sam (Victoria) Taksin and Bonnie (Scott) Walsh; devoted grandmother of Beverly (Justin) Kendall, Abbie, Spencer and Becca. Devoted sister of Sylvia (Raymond) Gilbert. Dear aunt of Natalie (Nate) Solomon, Sheldon (Donna) Gilbert and Jeffrey (Jenilyn) Gilbert. In lieu Messamore, Eric (fiancee Emily Bork), and, Blaine and Sean Walsh; proud great grandmother of Dominic Taksin; fond sister in law Aaron (Sheri) and Joe Taksin; aunt of Sarah (Said) Leon, of flowers remembrances to Jewish United Fund, would be appreciated. Arrangements by Mitzvah Memorial Funerals. Embrace the gray Matthew Taksin, and Kara Taksin. In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to the American Cancer Society, cancer.org. Arrangements by Lakeshore Jewish Funerals, (773) 625-8621. Leader of Myanmar’s Jewish community (JTA)– The leader of Myanmar’s small Jewish community and the caretaker of the country’s only synagogue has died. Moses Samuels, 65, passed away, his son, Sammy, wrote in an email to Coconuts Yangon, a media source. No cause of death was identified, but Samuels had been battling cancer for several years. “For over 35 years he has been taken care [sic] of Yangon Synagogue and the Jewish com- munity” Sammy Samuels wrote. “And he made sure [of] keeping the Jewish Spirit alive in Myanmar. He is great person with very good heart. His legacy will continue to live in the hearts and minds of everyone who came across to know him. May Hashem [the Lord] bless his Soul.” The Samuels family has looked over the Mesmuah Yeshua synagogue in Yangon – Myanmar’s former capital and largest city, with a population of over 5 million – for generations. Moses Samuels inherited the task of synagogue caretaker from his father and grandfather. Now his son will assume the role of keeping the synagogue open. Before World War II, Myanmar’s Jewish community flourished, and Yangon’s synagogue had 126 Torah scrolls. 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Deerfield 500 Lake Cook Road., Suite 350 • Skokie 8850 Skokie Blvd. 630-MITZVAH (630-648-9824) • www.mitzvahfunerals.com Sometimes it really does feel like the whole world is being turned upside down. Men are marrying men, women are marrying women, a famous male athlete is featured on the cover of a magazine dressed in a corset, cleavage showing, a movie star-like beautiful female, the former Speaker of the House, chosen to be so because he was so squeaky clean, is exposed as a probable child molester, the Christian family stars of a reality TV show are shown to have a dark secret. Here’s the thing about all that. Everybody seems to know exactly what is right and wrong, good and bad. As if such matters have easy answers, require no thinking or reflecting, only reflexive reactions. One thing I’ve learned is that almost nothing is black and white, almost everything is gray. And it would be nice if we were all mature enough to recognize that, realize that. Take me, for instance. I’m what you would call a liberal. And so in the cable news Twitter Facebook immediate reaction world in which we now live, it would seem obvious how I feel, what I think about some of the issues mentioned above. But that would be an inaccurate, simplistic belief. Take Bruce now Caitlyn Jenner. As a liberal, I should be thrilled about it, see it as a victory for diversity and acceptance. Now I’m for all diversity and acceptance, but I got to tell you, I’m very ambivalent about BruceCaitlyn. For starters, I must admit I simply don’t understand the notion of someone feeling they are not the gender they were born. I’m not making fun of it, I’m just saying I can’t grasp the idea of someone feeling they are a woman when they are a man. And I don’t think that is an easy thing to understand, which is why I equally have a problem when those who are for transgender rights get all upset if you are not one hundred percent overjoyed at all the BruceCaitlyn hoopla; and when insensitive clods like Rush Limbaugh just dismiss the whole thing out of hand as not normal. It is clearly a very complex thing. I believe that Bruce has always felt somehow that in his mind and heart he was female. Doesn’t mean I’m not uneasy to see him all dolled up on the cover of Vanity Fair magazine. If he says he always felt like a woman, does that mean he has always wanted to wear a dress and makeup, or is it something deeper? And how can that be, where does that come from, what does it mean? Gray. To just be thrilled or just be disgusted is too easy. This is something that involves really trying to understand what Bruce is talking about, not feeling you have to be comfortable with it if you are not. I am not. Especially since it kind of feels like a publicity stunt, a way for a has-been to get attention, a way for a member of the hyper manipulative Kardashian clan to get a TV show. And yet it was hard not to be touched by his heartfelt interview with Diane Sawyer. I don’t see BruceCaitlyn as a hero or as a freak. But I must admit it makes me almost physically sick to look at the Vanity Fair cover. Yet, I’m not saying I’m right in feeling that. What I am saying is that there are a lot of complexities here, identity issues, matters that are almost beyond comprehension and it would be nice if we all recognized that and didn’t feel we have to be black or white about it. So it is with the Duggar family. We now know that one of the Duggars’ sons, Josh, acted very inappropriately towards his sisters when he was a teenager. Which, of course, should be condemned. But I must admit, though I am a liberal, I have not joined my fellow liberals in being so quick to condemn the Duggar family. For starters, families are complex things and that is especially so if you have 19 kids. I frankly have found the intolerance of some toward the Duggars to be nauseating. And it is the same kind of intolerance in the name of tolerance that I have often seen in the Jewish community. I used to frequently speak at Conservative and Reform synagogues. And what I universally found was anger and hurt at what they perceived to be the intolerance of the Orthodox community, what they saw as the Orthodox non-acceptance, indeed delegitimizing of them. Funny thing though is that when I would tell them that many Orthodox families I know do not have a TV, they would snort. And when I told them that many Orthodox families I know have a dozen or more children, they would label that as wrong, even disgusting, often followed by the inevitable jokes about the connection between not having a TV and having lots of kids. I would gently point out to them that while they demanded that the Orthodox world accept and respect Reform and Conservative SEE BY JOSEPH AARON ON PAG E 1 7 19 Chicago Jewish News - June 12-18, 2015 FIRST PLACE. TWO TIMES. The Chicago Jewish News has again showed that it is Chicago’s quality Jewish newspaper. Every year, the American Jewish Press Association hands out its Rockower Awards recognizing the very best in American Jewish journalism. And this year, the Chicago Jewish News won two FirstPlace prizes. It was the only Chicago Jewish paper to win any first-place Rockowers. Editor Joseph Aaron won First Place for his story, “Life and Death,” the judges calling it, “Meticulously and movingly written.” Jews and Parkinson’s at A new study n Northwester Universitty he looks at th n links betwee the two in the hope of e finding a cur By Joseph Aaron This week, for the On the day of his first time ever, I marked the yahrze ac He died exactly 70 tual yahrzeit, on the anniversary ofit of my zaydie. years ago, but it wa the day he died. light a yahrzeit ca s not until this ndle That ’s because it , say kaddish on the exact date of year that I could wasn’t until this ye hi death. ar that I knew the s death. exact date of his There is very little , in fa ct, th at aunt, all of whom I knew about my million Jews mur were murdered in the Holocaust, zaydie, bubbie and dered in the Holo th relatives. caust, the three whree Jews of the six o were my closest See story on page 5 Managing Editor Pauline Dubkin Yearwood won First Place for her story “Jews and Parkinson’s,” the judges calling it, “Outstanding work.” More proof that quality journalism is what you can expect every week from the Chicago Jewish News. 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