7 Untold Secrets to Your Best Sex Ever Best Sex

7
Untold Secrets
to Your
Best Sex
Ever
Untold Secrets to
Your Best Sex Ever
THERE’S NOTHING WRONG with
your sex life that a little adventure (and
peppermint schnapps) won’t cure.
“Ultimately, fun is the best
aphrodisiac,” says Paul Joannides,
author of The Guide to Getting It On!
“Quit looking for sexy, and look for fun
instead—and you’ll end up having more
sex.” We like the way this guy thinks.
That’s why we brainstormed these
adventures (with some help from sex
experts and our male friends). To get more sex. For you. Call it our little
community service project.
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12 REPORTS
1
Take him shopping, and let him pick the clothes.
Men don’t hate shopping because of the
money. It’s the sitting on the boyfriend
couch at Banana Republic that they don’t
like. But what guy wouldn’t be enthused
about a mall trip if he knew that every
2 minutes a beautiful woman would pop
by to model a sexy outfit he just picked
out? “Men love to enhance their erotic
experience visually, so if a woman is
willing to play exhibitionist, it should
work like a charm,” says Carol Queen,
Ph.D., author of Exhibitionism for the Shy.
If he agrees to buy, there’s no reason you
shouldn’t agree to model.
2
Get naked!
Pour peppermint schnapps in your belly
button. Have him sip it. Then have him
kiss your breasts and blow on the spots
he kissed. The peppermint schnapps
and air combine for a cool sensation that
heightens arousal, says Ava Cadell, Ph.D.,
a Los Angeles sex therapist. Do some
shopping at adult-toy Web sites and the
grocery store. There’s a whole world of
flavors and textures—whipped cream,
chocolate and fruit-flavored sauces,
liqueurs—out there to play with. (Beware
of oil-based products, such as many
massage oils with coconut, which can eat
away and break latex condoms.)
3
Dance!
Turn dancing into dirty dancing with an
Audi-Oh Butterfly Vibrator, which pulsates
to the speed and intensity of whatever
beat is playing. Wear the harness with
butterfly vibe underneath your panties.
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with him at a club, or play deejay at home.
This is one remote you won’t fight over
($80, babeland.com).
4
Go to dinner at a super-fancy restaurant.
“During the meal, you’re allowed to talk
only about sexual fantasies,” suggests
Patricia Love, Ed.D., author of Hot
Monogamy. “There’s something very
erotic about being public and being
surreptitious about your sexuality.”
Bonus mission: Order foods that are
delicious and lascivious at the same time.
Share a chocolate mousse in a martini
glass for dessert. “Chocolate produces
PEA (phenylethylamine), a natural
amphetamine that creates feelings of
euphoria, especially during orgasm,”
says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She
Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to
Pleasuring a Woman.
5
Get cooking.
“It’s an opportunity to create something
special as a couple,” says celebrity chef
and restaurateur Bobby Flay. “So the
crème brûlée doesn’t set. Who cares?
It’s just the two of you.” Make an entire
dinner that can be eaten with your
fingers, and then feed your lover. For
dessert, Queen suggests “putting a berry
or chocolate truffle in your mouth and
kissing your lover to share it.” Food fights
can also be frisky, fun, and sexy—as long
as you’re willing to clean up after.
6
Challenge him to strip-PlayStation.
What’s more fun than dropping in on
UNTOLD SECRETS TO YOUR BEST SEX EVER
your guy’s football game, intercepting
a pass, and scoring the winning
touchdown? “You don’t have to be into
S&M to find power and competition
erotic,” says Queen. Remove a piece
of clothing every time you score. “The
reason this works is because it eroticizes
something ordinary.” For the ultimate in
heated competition, try ESPN NFL 2K5.
The combination of sexy cheerleaders
and hotties like Patriots quarterback Tom
Brady is sure to spark some one-on-one
action.
7
Get naked again!
Make your own art—on each
other. Pick up a chocolate tattoo set ($15,
early2bed.com). The creative kit includes
a jar of chocolate body frosting, stencil
sheets, and a paintbrush. Lick off.
8
Star in your own sex video.
Shoot yourself while you’re alone, and
upload your own porn flick onto your
computer. Then call him over to the
screen to show him this, um, really cool
Web site you just found. He’ll think he’s
dating Paris Hilton. Not so tech savvy?
Use your camera phone to beam him a
few peek-a-boo surprises. “From Pamela
and Tommy Lee to the folks next door,
DIY porn is hot,” says Queen. And if you
ever plan to run for the Senate, just make
sure you know where all the copies are
stashed.
brain is really our biggest sex organ, and
we want to stimulate our creativity and
imagination as much as possible,” says
Kerner. Have your guy try to pick you up
at a bar. He might even enjoy watching
you flirt with other guys as long as he
knows you’re coming home with him.
“Whenever a guy knows that his woman
is the object of desire to another guy, it’s a
turn-on,” says Kerner.
10
Get wet.
Ask him to help you wash the dishes,
and then start a water fight. “Water fights
might be even better than food fights,”
says Kerner. Studies have shown that
when couples do physical chores together,
it can lead to sex in new places at different
times, according to Kerner. Get all wet
washing the car together, and while you’re
at it, rediscover the backseat.
11
Just make out.
Have a make-out date at least an hour
long, says Joannides, with no below-thebelt contact. It’s fun, teenage-style!
9
Pretend he’s a stranger.
This is a great way to spice up your sex life
without going outside your relationship
for extra ingredients. “Remember that our
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