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How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Defuse fear to unleash your true authentic self Conquer uncertainty and follow your heart Boost trust and confidence in your own inner guidance Connect with your authenticity to generate clarity, calm and vitality Kathy Hughes TABLE OF CONTENTS Note from the Author ................................................................................................................. 2 The True Authentic Self .............................................................................................................. 3 The Cleansing Shift .................................................................................................................... 5 Your Are Energy ......................................................................................................................... 8 You Are a Creator ....................................................................................................................... 9 Allowing Your Light to Shine..................................................................................................... 12 Step Number One ..................................................................................................................... 13 Step Number Two ..................................................................................................................... 14 Step Number Three .................................................................................................................. 15 Step Number Four .................................................................................................................... 16 Step Number Five ..................................................................................................................... 17 Step Number Six ....................................................................................................................... 18 Step Number Seven .................................................................................................................. 19 Step Number Eight ................................................................................................................... 20 Step Number Nine….. ............................................................................................................... 21 Step Number Ten...................................................................................................................... 22 Step Number Eleven ................................................................................................................. 24 Step Number Twelve….. ........................................................................................................... 25 You are the Author of Your Own Life ....................................................................................... 26 Sources and Acknowledgements.............................................................................................. 28 About Kathy….. ......................................................................................................................... 29 How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 1 Note from the author: This little book of nuggets was written at a time when I worked with many alcohol and drug affected people. Most of these people worked hard each waking moment to stay sober after experiencing some very debilitating life experiences that could be difficult to shake. I wrote this book for them which contains age old wisdom bound in simplicity to help enhance one‟s life by simply being authentic i.e. the true self. It was a reminder that they were oh so much more than the labels alcoholic, drug addict or junkie of which they were told they would always be. I wanted them to find that spark of truth that their true self had been concealed from the world for a time and from themselves and that it was possible to find this certainty again. As I shared this book with others and my other private clients, I found many people found some hope that had been lost for a very long time. The subheadings have deliberately been omitted under each of the steps in the contents page for a purpose. You make look at the page and feel which step you are drawn to at any given time. This can propel you into focusing on that step as it could very well be the thing you need at the time. This is not my work. I simply wrote these truths to paper which has existed for thousands of years for everyone to behold. Read this book and apply the principles that it may prompt that inner knowingness that you are indeed unique and have a purpose here. May you find that purpose and live it to the fullest. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 2 The True Authentic Self Originally, the title of this mini e-book was going to be named, “12 Steps on How to „Discover‟ your True Authentic Self,” but the word discover is not entirely accurate, as your authentic self has always been with you, (100% of the time, 24 hours a day, every minute, every second). The correct term is rediscover, for reasons I will explain. The true authentic self, is often defined as our higher self, spirit or soul. At birth, we are pure and authentic. As children we were raw and would feel our emotions at a core level. We marveled at the simplicities of life. However, life experiences, and our ancestors‟ unresolved issues (which have been passed on to us through our DNA, cellular memory and energy fields), become triggers - causing us to create ways to survive in this world. We create coping mechanisms which cover up who we really are, as we begin to feel unsafe in being ourselves. We come to believe that to be authentic usually causes pain. Even society as we know it today does not encourage you to bring out your authenticity. Society has certain rules we are expected to live by in order to be accepted and valued in the world. However many of these values are not our own authentic core values. Being authentic and true has power. The more you allow your true self to shine, the more you can carry yourself through life with grace and ease. This is not good for those in authority who believe you must conform to certain rules that stifle the very essence of who you are. I pledge to you to try and see beyond what society has moulded in order to control. Look within and you will come to know yourself as a marvellous energy light being vibrating intelligence and wonder that DonTolman also calls your “inner athlete” (FDR, Farmacist Desk Reference). You will also value your own body more. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 3 It‟s not about being „puffed up‟ or an ego boosting trip to value your own body. It‟s loving the body and every little thing about it, perfect and the not so perfect. Loving the body and its marvelous design which is the temple that houses your spirit generates gratitude while striving to protect you in its purpose of keeping you well and happy. The more you love and appreciate your body and your true essence the more your inner athlete will shine. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 4 The Cleansing Shift So, the purpose here is not to discover but rather re-discover our authenticity; as the truth is we simply lost touch with ourselves along the way and forgot who we really are. It‟s all about bringing the spirit and body back into harmony. Over a span of over 20 years as an energy therapist and counsellor I have observed consistently that many people‟s innate desire to reconnect with the self is obvious. And the more entrenched we seem to be in our negativity the further away from our authenticity we become. Many clients have acknowledged to me that they would love to be able to “be themselves” and rediscover their true authenticity, but they don‟t know how. They are masked by fear and pain. Many of us are grappling with this, and are feeling as though we are aimlessly existing here on this planet. We are living in very interesting times where we are seeing a massive shift happening in our world. We are hearing of disasters from all over the world as well as systems that we have become accustomed to are breaking down. The monetary system is also on its way out and to some people this is frightening as we tend to want to hold onto the „old way‟ as this is familiar. One such system is the health industry which I call the sickness industry. We hear of the grim state of our hospitals not being able to cater for the many health issues people are being ailed with thus leading to long waiting lists. There are also many people who are actually dying from the treatment of disease through modern technological science and so called wonder drugs. We have drifted too far from the simple truths as taught by wise physicians such as Hippocrates, the father of medicine who believed that we should “let food by thy medicine and medicine be thy food”. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 5 But these truths are hushed and even if some of us are exposed to the truth, we still hold onto the old way as the notion is that we don‟t believe we have the answers so we must continue to trust in the authorities. The sickness industry is breaking down and will continue to until it crashes with great force as the earth is cleansing. It must be so as the way health „care‟ is viewed has actually caused more harm to the health of the mind and body. The truth is, each and every one of us do have answers. These answers lie deep within and thereby shaving away the toxic elements that have kept us from the truth of who we really are is the key to finding it. We have been slaves to the food industry which has no regard for our welfare and chooses to laden our packaged foods with a vast array of harmful chemicals that affect the body and the mind with disease. We have been subjected to toxins in the air we breathe, the water we drink and chemicals in our homes. Some of us are also struggling with toxic relationships. Because we are microcosms of the earth and universe, we too on an individual level are also looking towards cleansing of our own body. Cleansing or detoxing of chemicals has become an interesting concept as the interest in this is increasing by the day. Many people are engaged in a detox program or thinking about cleansing their body that‟s almost become a fad. My book, “How to Detox Without Starving Yourself” illustrates many simple to apply options to detoxing but the main theme is to cleanse holistically of the toxins in the body, mind and spirit (emotions) in order to feel and be more of who you really are. It‟s as though there is a diamond inside each and every one of us waiting to be discovered. But we have to search deep within while removing the rubble and dirt that has covered this precious diamond for a long time. Once it emerges, we cut off the blemishes and polish it to define its incredible beauty thus attracting many towards its magnificence. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 6 The aim of this ebook is to help you identify the masks that have consciously or unconsciously been holding you back, in order for you to love yourself and your life more and live it to the fullest. You are unique and brilliant. When you become more authentic, your life flows and you begin to experience change in your relationships and in every other area of your life. You also become more bold, as you experience more confidence in your own uniqueness. Others will find it more comforting to be in your presence, and want what you have. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 7 You Are Energy You are an authentic being with a body and a mind. Your body contains the sensors required for you to access knowledge from your authentic being (your true self), and your mind is the screen on which this knowledge is displayed. Your body is energy, and this energy is connected to the vast universe of energy which we are living in. There are various vibrations of this energy which when vibrating at certain frequencies, will form into matter that we can see with our eyes. But we do not see energy. Do you see electricity? No - but you know that it is there because you know that a light would not turn on without energy pulsing through it. So it is, with your spirit, your true essence (intertwined with your body), the container of all knowledge and data. You don‟t see your spirit, but it is there: it is vibrating at a high speed, which is your true authentic self. Energy is light and light is energy. Your spirit is energy, light, feelings and emotions and where all truth lies. The truth of who you are, your brilliance. Your spirit (the true self) knows what is best for you. Your spirit, the true essence of yourself, is always striving to emerge. I‟m sure there are many of you who have at times in life ignored the inner prompting not to go ahead with a certain decision you‟ve made only to find out later when it all goes wrong you say, “I should have listened to my gut feelings!” Throughout life though, we have prevented this light from fully shining through toxic emotions such as fear, anger, rage, resentment and toxic relationships with self and others as well as being too far removed from nature. There are hundreds of emotions that we have used to mask out our true authenticity but we hold onto them as we invest time in them and give them energy. While we feed energy to anything it becomes bigger and becomes an identity unto itself. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 8 You Are a Creator In the book “Energy Over Mind” written by John Mace he gives the analogy that modern technology today has been able to somewhat mimic what or who we are through the invention of computers. The keyboard is the body, the display monitor is the mind and the hard drive is the spirit. The body houses many sensors which when activated (just as we do when typing certain keys on a keyboard), will activate stored data or knowledge on the hard drive (which is your spirit). This data displays on the monitor which is the picture that is formed in your mind. It is our spirit that is the creator of the pictures which we project onto our minds, but there is also another element which needs to be acknowledged that also projects images and over rides the spirit. We are also creators of our own negative identities, which is a concept discovered by John Mace. It is contained in his book: “Energy Over Mind”, in which he outlines how we form negative identities in response to an “upset”. John Mace states: “The question may now arise as to why the being gives the identity any energy in the first place. The answer is that energy is an essential element in any action – no energy, no action. Go back to the car-driving identity. If a person wants an identity to assume responsibility – the mundane mechanical aspects of shifting gears etc. – while he or she concentrates on safety aspects, the identity must be given energy to do it. This may sound a strange concept, but if you carefully examine it, the truth will be apparent. Nothing can operate without an energy source, but the only power any identity has is what it receives from the being that created it. The being has to supply the energy for the identity to keep operating. Although the identity is energy, just as a being is energy, the difference lies in the fact that the being is a natural source of energy whereas the identity is not.” (“John Mace, Energy Over Mind”, p. 30, Morgan James Publishing, LLC, 2009) How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 9 Carl Jung also had a similar theory to this, as he discovered that we tend to take on “sub-personalities” and live out our lives accordingly. He believed we can have hundreds of subpersonalities, which become dominant in our lives. For example, you may have a sub-personality which is angry at men because of the negative experiences you‟ve had with them. Then, whenever you form a relationship with a man (such as a partner or your male boss), you may easily react to certain aspects of his personality with anger. Jung stated a way we can overcome these dominant personalities which do not serve us. It is based on his theory that we need to create a new sub-personality of the ideal personality we desire to be, and practice that personality until it becomes the dominant one. With new studies emerging which demonstrates that the brain changes itself when you exercise a consistent action (thus causing the brain to rewire itself to the new action), it is plain to see how Jung‟s theory holds true, and is extremely valuable in helping one to be more of who they wish to be. Although both theories point to our giving energy to either sub personalities or negative identities they are similar in that we tend to be more swayed in giving energy to them. However, I am inclined to be more drawn towards John Mace‟s theory. If we can release our creation of negative identities, and simply allow our true self to emerge, everything will fall into place and life will flow as it should with our best interests at heart at all times. This is an effortless way to bring out our authentic self. When our true self is on line we don‟t have to force things to happen for us, they just do. The opposite to authentic is „fake‟. Therefore we can also understand that we consistently give energy to the fake self. Thus whether we are giving energy to sub personalities, negative identities or fake self, as creative beings we can defuse that energy by honouring it and letting it go. This is where the true self How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 10 blossoms and rises – this is where joy, bliss and harmony naturally occur. Dr Pee Tek Chan also states in his book “Sacred Surfer, Eternal Wave” that “the reason we are often affected by negative emotions, thoughts and attitudes of another is because we have become too solid, dense and visible. We have put on multiple coats over our invisible self and have become visible and hypersensitive.” He also goes on to say, “we seem to believe that life beyond emotions may be dull, boring, passionless, indifferent, cold or unloving. Thus we seek excitement and experiences of highs and lows so as to feel that life is worth living. This state of mind comes from a focus on our external self-image and does not know the power that lies within.” (Dr Pee Tek Chan, Sacred Surfer, Eternal Wave, p. 68-69, 2005) Dr Chan‟s work is in helping people to find and know that power within. It is also my intent here to help you find the means to let go of the external coverings that have held you bound from leashing that power, you true authentic self. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 11 Allowing Your Light to Shine You have met people who seem to shine and are radiant. These people exude „feel good‟ energy – their light that others can see. Their body also radiates a certain quality that you may not be able to explain. What are some of the attributes of someone like this? They are just being themselves and they genuinely honour those around them. They are passionate about what they do and they exercise their body. In Don Tolmans explanation that we all have an inner athlete trying to come out, he mentions what we must do in his book, Farmacist Desk Reference, to enable our inner athlete to emerge to the world. “Therefore, seek to become „speech gardeners‟ and „speech Farmacists,‟ and plant the seeds of healthy thoughts and healthy words deep within the garden of your heart and the bowels and mind, and learn to pluck the weeds of despair, weakness, jealousy, anger, self pity, and burn them in heaps upon the fires of purity of being at purpose through diet and exercise.”(Don Tolman, Farmacist Desk Reference, p.252, 2005) Next page illustrates simple approaches given in 12 Steps to help your true self, your inner athlete or the invisible self to come out of hiding, and BE more of who you really are. I had a couple of clients who were recovering from alcohol or drug addiction tell me that they would randomly pick one step by closing their eyes and pointing to one and then using that step to focus on as the thing they need to be aware of on that day. Practice these ideas and see and feel the subtle changes that take place in your life. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 12 Step Number One Practice being „bigger‟ than the problem When we run into a problem, we tend to view the problem as being bigger than we are. We talk about it and mull over it, which creates a vivid picture in our minds of the event. The trouble is, the more we talk about it or dwell on it, the bigger it gets and literally appears to become bigger than we are. We tend to create the event over and over in our minds and it becomes harder to escape from the uncomfortable feelings associated with our story. We then become addicted to the drama by giving it energy, and the true self gets hidden amongst it. Since your true essence is light but when we focus on our problems and allow them to grow our light become dulled. Thus the negative energy we have created then becomes more dominant. Light can enter darkness but darkness cannot enter light. Tell yourself: “I am bigger than this”, and imagine yourself as bigger than the problem. “I” is your true authentic self, and you are saying: “I” is bigger than this problem. Imagine your inner light is shining where there is only solutions, love, honour and knowledge. Honour any persons involved and honour the situation. You will be given the resources and strength to deal with the problem from interesting circumstances that will fill you with wonder. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 13 Step Number Two Go with the flow What you resist persists. When we resist something, we are trying to control it or force it to be the way we want it to be. This resistance is usually brought about by fear. With this in mind, acknowledge that fear is on line and allow yourself to flow with life. Remind yourself of the serenity prayer, “God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference”. Accept what you cannot change, and flow with what life brings you. Let go of resisting what is. Write it down what comes to your mind that you may be resisting. Is it someone who is making things difficult for you? Do you wish for that person to change and see things your way? Or is there a situation happening that you feel you cannot control? Accept this is happening and allow whatever it is for you to learn from this experience to unfold and you will move towards more of who you really are. Resisting life‟s woes also resists your own truth and will continue to make you feel uncomfortable. While in the resistance state you are also more likely to make wrong decisions. It is very liberating when you accept something as is and you allow positive energy to flow through your life rather than resisting it. Energy can neither be created nor destroyed – it just is. But you can change energy. Change resistance to acceptance and your whole world changes. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 14 Step Number Three Meditate Studies have now shown that the practice of Zen meditation (of thinking about not thinking) could help free the mind of distractions, such as hyperactivity disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety, depression and other distracting thoughts. These distracting thoughts also divert us from our focus on our own authenticity: but when we meditate, we can allow these thoughts to gently flow by while connecting with who we really are. While you are meditating, allow yourself to flow with what is. The times I have done this, rather than trying to think about something in particular, have been the times when I have been so in touch with my authentic self that the experiences have stayed with me and guided me constantly. This is when your authentic self (your spirit) is giving you knowledge that you need at the time. What comes up for you is always fitting and pertinent to your life. Try it, and you will learn to love meditating and the beautiful connection you feel with your “self”. If you are grappling with a problem, you can ask for guidance or simply allow whatever comes up. And when you do have problems, honour them. If people have upset you, honour them. This allows freedom to move on and receive guidance to help you overcome the pain that you may be experiencing as a result. Helpful tip: Incorporate the 7/11 deep breathing technique while meditating. Slowly breathe in seven times and exhale eleven times. Gradually increase this and you will experience instant calm and clarity. Deep breathing has been recognized for thousands of years as a powerful way to reconnect with the self. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 15 Step Number Four Visualize Whilst meditating, visualize yourself as a spiritual being. See your invisible self as the inner athlete, strong, healthy and wise which is expressed through your body. Allow yourself to gently get in touch with your light and ask that it will shine and that others will see your light. We tend to busy ourselves with life and problems, which dull our natural impulses to utilize the benefits of allowing our inner light, spirit, true essence to guide us. Allow the thoughts from the deep reservoirs of the body to manifest as matter through the body. Imagine your body is magnificent. Do not allow the negative beliefs that it is wrong to love your body. Many of us have come to detest our own body because we feel shame of our form (matter). Change this belief to wonder and awe and love your flesh, love your life. Remember, this is not an ego boosting talk, it is loving everything that you are – your body is an extension of the true authentic self. Embrace it. Spend some time each day acknowledging your true essence and thank it for being there and guiding you each day. When you have a problem visualize yourself seeking deep within and trust the answer is there that will manifest itself to you perfectly. Your quest for the best possible solution to bring out a positive outcome for all concerned is always at the forefront when dealing with life. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 16 Step Number Five Smile and Laugh It has been said that laughter is the best medicine and scientific studies have actually proven this fact. Laughter is recommended for overcoming disease, along with a healthy diet and detoxing. Laughter will also release many negative emotions which keep you stuck. View comedy movies and laugh at yourself. Find things to laugh at throughout your day. You always feel lighter and happier after a good laugh and when you feel good, you feel free and more in touch with your true self, without fear or judgement. Smiling has proven to have many benefits, such as uplifting your mood when feeling down, relieving stress, boosting your immune system, lowering blood pressure and releasing endorphins which help you feel better. Try smiling and feeling negative at the same time - it‟s difficult. Thus it keeps you in the frame of mind which enhances your true authenticity to shine. Practice smiling whenever you get the opportunity. When you smile while saying hello or speaking to someone, you will make that person feel at ease with you and you will quickly be recognized as someone who is always happy and approachable. Also, practice smiling whenever you meditate. Smile at your problems and concentrate on smiling on each organ in your body. This will enhance healing and have your whole body singing, again making you feel good all over and allowing your true self to shine. Awesome! How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 17 Step Number Six Eat a healthy diet (predominately raw foods) What has eating healthily got to do with being authentic? When we consume lifeless foods, we feel low in energy and flat. Lifeless foods consist of junk foods, soft drinks, processed white sugar and white flour. These so called foods are low energy vibration foods, without the necessary life force which your body needs in order to function at its peak. Low energy vibration foods can also cause you to feel fogged in your brain and lethargic. Your body begins to crave for whole foods and, because we have lost the ability to listen to our body, we tend to make wrong choices in what we eat. Thus we eat more of the bad stuff. On the other hand, high energy vibration foods are stimulating and will enhance your energy, as well as causing you to feel vibrant. You will also notice that you become more in touch with your spirit, as your mind develops more clarity and you more easily connect with your authentic self. Along with healthy eating, ensure you drink plenty of fresh, clean water. Turn on your lights within by eating wholesome foods. Organic whole foods are energy and emit light frequencies and codes that the body recognizes and welcomes. It shows in your body when you eat healthily just as it does when you eat junk foods that have no „life/light‟. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 18 Step Number Seven Exercise Exercise (such as walking) can have a positive effect in that it releases endorphins (happy hormones) in your brain, thus causing “feel good” emotions. As stated previously, feeling good is the time when resistance is lifted, thus allowing our true self to BE. Walking utilizes both hemispheres of the brain and is also a good time to process whatever is happening in your present life. I wholeheartedly believe that the rhythm of walking causes an energetic shift which can place us into a „state‟ of deep concentration and attention on what we want in life, enabling the true self to connect with this desire by projecting it to the mind. So, whenever you walk again, be aware of what you want and allow this to manifest in your life. Walking gives us space away from the stressors which we may be experiencing in normal everyday life. It helps fade away the unhelpful thoughts that get in the way of what we want and how we wish to BE. We were built to walk, and the development of bilateral coordination (crossing the midline), is also important for the development of cognitive skills, such as the ability to read, write and learn. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 19 Step Number Eight Lock in the feel good times When we feel bad, we tend to make decisions which are not good for us. However, when we feel happy, the decisions we make are usually in our best interests. Why is this so? Our authentic being is naturally on line when we feel happy, has the knowledge we need to assist us, and is always striving to guide us. When we feel good, we can be sure these are the times when we are closest to our true self. A great little tip to lock in these feel good feelings, to ensure we can feel more good times than bad, is to tap this into the third eye. The third eye is between the eyes and around 5cm above. Whenever you feel good or happy, place the thumb over the Third Eye and stroke it upwards a few times. This will lock in the feeling and, whenever you experience anything similar, will activate the feel good responses automatically. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 20 Step Number Nine Live out your passions Find your passion and live it! We were meant to reside here on this planet to be happy and happy in what we do, including making a living by following our passions. When you are enthusiastic and vibrant you are ejecting positive energy into a fulfilling and rewarding life. The more you do this the more your true self shines brilliantly. When someone is passionate about what they do, you can‟t help but feel drawn to that person. An example of this is a training instructor named Tess, at my gym. She was so passionate about her classes that the room was always so full we had to make sure we could get there early to enable us to get a spot. There were other instructors who taught the same class but did not attract the same crowd as Tess. The only difference was her passion, which brought out her true essence. Everyone wanted to take her class, as her enthusiasm was so contagious we wanted to experience her positive energy, which made us feel uplifted for the whole day. We can also be like Tess - by just following our own passions and living them. If you don‟t know what your passions are yet, the more you practice the steps on bringing out your authenticity, the more you will be guided and directed to what makes you feel good. It has happened to me in the most unexpected ways. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 21 Step Number Ten Send out heart energy Take some time out to imagine sending heart energy (love) to others, even those who have upset you. I do this sometimes when I retire at night. I visualize each member of my family and send energy from my heart to them. Moreover, this will help defuse depression, which in essence is caused from a lack of joy in one‟s life. This is a very peaceful and beautiful experience, and helps to defuse any negative emotions which you may have towards anyone you may find challenging. I have also done this technique towards someone who I have felt quite negative towards, and the result is a softening towards this person which truly is a liberating experience. Expressing love opens your heart, which creates a vacuum; and you will experience more love coming your way. When you are loving, this will bring out the deepest aspects of yourself, which have a positive effect on how you view the world and how others view you. For some of us, we have had to learn to love and be loving, as we didn‟t experience it while growing up. However, we must not let that deprive us of the most fundamental attribute one can possess in enhancing our authenticity. To send heart energy, relax your mind and body and focus on the heart chakra (the heart area). Allow the feeling of love to well up inside you, and imagine sending heart energy to whoever you wish to. Many years ago, I did this during a MRI scan. I was very nervous about having this scan, as the thought of being stuck in that small tunnel for twenty minutes caused some anxiety. So I elected to perform this technique of sending heart energy to a few people I am close to. The experience was amazing; and when I came home I had a message from one of these people, just calling to say hello and that they loved me. I noted that the time of the call How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 22 was the same time I was in the tunnel sending heart energy. When you do this, don‟t be surprised if the person you focus on contacts you there and then, or shortly afterwards. They do feel your heart energy as you are tuning into their own heart energy. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 23 Step Number Eleven Release negative emotions Negative emotions create an energetic charge within the body which triggers the body sensors, which in turn create unwanted pictures in your mind. When negative emotions are left to reign in our lives, they can affect our health, relationships and how we feel about ourselves. There are many useful tools available that can help release these emotions. It is important to acknowledge their usefulness in their role of alerting us to something which is uncomfortable in our lives, and therefore keeping us from being who we really are. It is a simple truth that when we are feeling negative, the opposite of that feeling is the truth of who we really are. For example, if you are feeling anger, the opposite of that emotion is peace and acceptance – this is your true authentic self. At times, it may be deemed necessary to seek the assistance of a practitioner to help us in our goal to release what it is that is preventing us from being more of who we are. The tools I highly recommend to search for in a practitioner are EFT and someone who is utilizing the concepts of Energy Therapy or Energy Psychology. These methods are simple and also very powerful. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 24 Step Number Twelve Be calm About twenty years ago, I attended Bob Proctor‟s (as seen on The Secret) “You Were Born Rich” program. One of the things he said then has stayed with me to this day. He stated that we do not need to slow down, we need to calm down! Since the day I heard that statement, I have continuously tried to practice it, as at that time I was a very irrational and highly strung individual. Just ask my kids and they will testify to this but for people who know me now, they have trouble imagining that I was once like this. Another testament to me that this is an essential character trait to have in order to make good choices, live in the present, and enjoy the journey of life is the example of someone I know who has built a multimillion dollar empire. I have observed with wonder how, in this man‟s business life, he maintains a calm disposition when making business decisions. It is plain to see that he tends to place himself „in the zone‟ when required to make decisions. I am certain that it is this calm attitude he displays in his business which has contributed to his success. When you practice being calm, you are in touch with your true essence, which builds faith in all choices that you make in life. Maintaining calmness, whilst involved in seemingly difficult circumstances, will pull resources within the deep reservoirs of the self, which you would not have otherwise been able to do when trying to cope in a stressful state. Not only that - it feels good to be calm, and when you feel good you are being true to the self. To help support your body in being calm, eat foods high in magnesium. Magnesium will relax you. Treat yourself to an Epsom salts bath (Magnesium Sulphate), which relaxes muscles and your mind. Also, add Celtic sea salt to your diet, which will also enhance a state of calm in your everyday life. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 25 Be the Author of Your Own Life Being authentic means: following and listening to your heart (hear – t) going with the flow trusting being bold and allowing yourself to shine living in harmony with nature creating the life you want by being the author of your own life being yourself and loving yourself having gratitude knowing that joy and bliss is God‟s plan for you honouring yourself, your life honouring others, even those who have hurt you embracing many of life‟s lessons with wisdom…we don‟t fight them nor the feelings living your passion allowing ourselves and others to BE Enjoy these ideas, practice regularly, and you will notice profound changes in your life - to the point at which you no longer identify with the person you once were. The changes can be so great that you will no longer perceive yourself as you were in the past. You are an authentic being, the author of your own life, and it is your birthright to BE in this world without fear, judgement or pain. Only you have the authority to shape it the way you want. As the author of your own life, you get to write the script exactly how you want it to be. Don‟t allow someone else to write it for you. Imagine really owning that power, and trust in your authenticity. You are unique and original. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 26 Allow the true aspect of YOU to shine, and know that the world is waiting for you to show yourself as you truly are. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 27 Sources and Acknowledgements John Mace, Energy Over Mind, 2009, Morgan James Publishing, LLC, ISBN: 978-1-60037-607-8 Dr Pee Tek Chan, Sacred Surfer, Eternal Wave, 2005, Michelle Anderson Publishing Pty Ltd, ISBN: 0-85572-363-7 Kathy Hughes, How to Detox Without Starving Yourself, 2010, www.authenticdiscovery.com.au Copyright © 2011 www.authenticdiscovery.com.au. Reproduction in whole or in part of this mini e-book, “How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps”, is prohibited without written permission of the publisher. All material in this publication is provided for information only and may not be construed as medical advice or instruction. No action should be taken based solely on the contents of this publication; instead, readers should consult appropriate health professionals on any matter relating to their health and well-being. The information and opinions provided in this publication are believed to be accurate and sound, based on the best judgment available to the author, but readers who fail to consult with appropriate health authorities assume the risk of any injuries. The publisher is not responsible for errors or omissions. How to Rediscover Your True Authentic Self in 12 Simple Steps Copyright©2011 by Kathy Hughes www.authenticdiscovery.com.au 28 About Kathy I am a mother of 5 and grandmother of 6. I have a passion for sharing the latest developments in health and longevity by sourcing raw, authentic approaches which includes whole foods and energy and has its roots in ancient wisdom. The small changes we can make in our own lives can contribute enormously to the health and wellbeing to those we love around us. I have been servicing clients now for 20 years. During that time I studied Counselling, Kinesiology, Energy Therapy, Alcohol and Other Drugs Work, Colour Therapy and Nutrition. After teaching for many years the powerful benefits of using energy therapy techniques, I came to realize that we need to take a 'holistic' view to healing. This holistic view encompasses the truth that we are authentic and unique energy and light beings therefore in order to feel and be whole we have everything here on this planet to achieve just that. This includes all that nature and mother earth has provided for us. I have written several ebooks that you will find on my website and if you are inclined to read them, you will find the theme is always a holistic view throughout. When you observe the wisdom of the ancients and you embrace this into your life you will experience harmony and longevity as we were meant to. Please visit me at my website www.authenticdiscovery.com.au – would love to see you there. 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