ST. JOSEPH 1765  N

NEW JERSEY’S OLDEST CATHOLIC COMMUNITY
ST. JOSEPH  1765
OUR PARISH MISSION STATEMENT
250 years of faith-filled commitment distinguishes St. Joseph Parish, a Roman Catholic community
located in West Milford Township in rural northern New Jersey. Lay people founded this community in
1765 and maintained it in the consistent practice of the Roman Catholic faith, thus earning it the honor
of being the State’s oldest parish.
Today’s parishioners, responding to the needs of the changing West Milford area, aim to develop further
the lay involvement that historically characterizes St Joseph’s They accomplish this by expressing their
PASTORAL STAFF and PARISH OFFICE
Father Steven Shadwell ................................................................................................................. Pastor
Harry White, Ben Lo Paro........................................................................................................... Deacons
Sister Janet Brisky, P.B.V.M. ......................................................................................... Pastoral Associate
Sister Geraldine Corio, P.B.V.M. ..................................................................... Director of Faith Formation
Justine Smith ..................................................................................... Faith Formation\Baptism Assistant
Pat Mattera ............................................................................... Adolescent Faith Formation Coordinator
Mary Beth Ferriola....................................................................................................... Business Manager
Mary O’Neill .................................................................................................................. Parish Secretary
Christine Alessio.................................................................................... Director of Volunteer Ministries
Camille Kluge .................................................................................................................. Youth Director
Jacqueline M. Reilly .......................................................................................................... Music Director
Bob Sautter......................................................................................... Buildings and Grounds Supervisor
Kevin Kennedy and Diane Parisi ...................................................................................... Parish Trustees
SACRAMENT OF BAPTISM
Baptism arrangements are required to be made at least 2
MASS SCHEDULE
Monday through Saturday ...... 9:00 am - Church
Saturday evening ................... 5:00 pm - Church
Sunday morning ... 7:45, 9:00 am, 12:00 Noon -
Church ............... and 10:30 am - Parish Center
months in advance by contacting Justine Smith at the
Parish Office at 973-697-6100. Baptisms are celebrated
on the first and third Sunday of each month. Families are
asked to attend the 12 Noon Mass, the baptism ceremony
will take place immediately following.
If a Baptism
Preparation class is required, the class will be assigned at
HOLY DAYS
Please consult the Bulletin
NEW PARISHIONERS
Please call the Parish Office to register, to learn
PARISH OFFICE ....................... 973-697-6100
the time the baptism is scheduled.
SACRAMENT OF RECONCILIATION
Saturday at 3:30 pm until 4:30 pm; or, anytime anyone
wishes to receive the Sacrament, please call the Parish
Office to set an appointment with a priest.
FAX........................................... 973-697-3716
MINISTRY TO THE SICK
FAITH FORMATION… .................. 973-208-0636
anointed should call the Parish Office. If you or anyone
CONVENT .......................................973-697-2846
E-MAIL .......................... [email protected]
Anyone who is seriously ill or aged and wishes to be
you know is in the hospital, please call the Office.
WEBSITE ......................... www.stjoseph-nj.org
BUSINESS HOURS
MARRIAGE PREPARATION PROGRAM
Monday thru Thursday ................... 9 AM - 5 PM
one year before the wedding. All couples to be married
Friday .......................................... 9 AM - 12 PM
Saturday and Sunday .............................. Closed
454 G E R M A N T O W N R O A D 
Arrangements should begin by setting a date with a priest
at St. Joseph’s must participate in a Marriage Preparation
Program.
W E S T M I L F O R D NJ 07480
ST. JOSEPH CHURCH
SUNDAY, OCTOBER 26, 2014
30TH SUNDAY OF ORDINARY TIME
SUNDAY, OCTOBER 26
GOF Sunday Morning II Following 9:00am Mass - KH
12:00 PM Youth Mass - PC
12:00 PM Straight and Narrow Gospel Choir - PC
6:30 PM Year 2 Teens\Peer Ministers - PC
6:30 PM Decision Point - NR
MONDAY, OCTOBER 27
5:15 PM Girls CYO Basketball - PC
7:00 PM Communion of Saints Grade 5 & 6\Parents - PC
TUESDAY, OCTOBER 28
6:30 PM Boys CYO Basketball - PC
7:00 PM Bereavement Group Mtg. - NR
7:30 PM Alcoholics Anonymous - KH
WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 29
4:00 PM Moms Club Int’l - KH
7:30 PM Boy Scouts - PC
THURSDAY, OCTOBER 30
9:30 AM Moms and Tots - KH
6:00 PM Engel & Congleton Wed. Reh. - CH
7:00 PM Confirmation Practice - PC
FRIDAY, OCTOBER 31
9:30 AM Kids Playgroup - KH
3:00 PM Engel and Congleton Wedding - CH
Midnight Alcoholics Anonymous - KH
SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 1 - All Saints
11:00 AM Confirmation - PC
10:00 PM Alcoholics Anonymous - KH
SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 2- Al Souls
Baptism Following 12:00 pm Mass
12:00 PM Commissioning Ministers of Communion - CH
2:00 PM Boys CYO Basketball - PC
6:30 PM Antioch Prep. - NR
LECTORS FOR THE WEEKEND OF NOVEMBER 1\2
C. Alessio, V. Haggerty, G. Wargo, D. Petronchak
Parish Center: Ray
EXTRAORDINARY MINISTERS OF HOLY COMMUNION
FOR THE WEEKEND OF NOVEMBER 1\2
SATURDAY 5:00 PM: K. Burns, A. Egan, M. L. Aungst,
C. Alessio
SUNDAY 7:45 AM: A. M. Cooney, C. Carbone,
A. Moralishvili
9:00 AM: C. Gerri, J. & L. Endres, G. Stagg
10:30 AM: M. & S. McKenzie, S. Luke, P. Green
12:00 PM: D. Petronchak, A. Cangelosi, J. Vigna,
S. Alessio, A. Cazorla, S. Batory
Any Extraordinary Minister who would like to serve one
Friday a month at Chilton Hospital, please call Carolyn Gerri
at 973 838-3705 or 973 934-1994.
MONDAY, OCTOBER 27
9:00 AM Intention\Emily Hennessy Green by McKenzie
Family
TUESDAY, OCTOBER 28 – Sts. Simon and Jude,
apostles
9:00 AM +John Jones by Pat Jones
+Marianne Losefsky by Mother and Family
WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 29
9:00 AM +Hurley Smith Helms, Jr. by Marianne Russo
THURSDAY, OCTOBER 30
9:00 AM +Lillian Organ by Marjorie Grazecki
FRIDAY, OCTOBER 31
9:00 AM +Tom Lichtenberg by John Hughes
SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 1 - All Saints
9:00 AM Intention\Rachel Shadwell
5:00 PM Intention\Pat Burd by Rosarians
+Ed Patscher by Joe, Ellen, Ryan, Maggie
Mark and Lisa Patscher
+Joseph Vidulich by Joanne Klosz
SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 2 - All Souls
7:45 AM Commemoration of All Faithful Departed
9:00 AM Commemoration of All Faithful Departed
10:30 AM Commemoration of All Faithful Departed
12:00 PM Commemoration of All Faithful Departed
OFFERING AT ST. JOSEPH’S LAST WEEKEND
Budget:
$6,340.00
Weekend October 18\19
Difference:
$5,738.00
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$ 602.00
SMALL FAITH COMMUNITY
Experience a Small Faith Community.
We meet in the Upper Room on Tuesday
evening for an hour to reflect on
the following Sunday’s Scripture from 7:30 –
8:30 pm. Our next meeting is October 28th.
Sunday, November 2, 2014.
Next Week: 31st Sunday of Ordinary Time
1st Reading: Malachi 1:14: 2:2, 8-10
2nd Reading: I Thessalonians 2:7-9, 13
Gospel: Matthew 23:1-12
SCRIPTURE FOCUS: In today’s Gospel Jesus comes
right out and accuses scribes and Pharisees, the religious
leaders, of being false. Some Pharisees who were supposed to be role models for the people, taught one thing
but lived another way. Jesus told the disciples to respect
the Pharisees’ positions as successors of Moses and to
take their teachings seriously. But the disciples were not
to follow the Pharisees’ example. Jesus makes it clear to
his followers that they must honor and respect God instead of being overly concerned about their own importance and power. They were called to serve others, not
to be applauded by them.
LIFE FOUCS: Describe a time when someone did something special for you without letting you know who it was.
CAN YOU HELP? Info: Sr. Janet 973-697-2846
Please leave donations in Sr. Janet’s garage.
Thank you!
If it’s not in this box, don’t leave it in Sister’s garage.
She can’t get her car in!
Needed: Straight and Narrow needs men’s and women’s
winter coats spotlessly clean and on hangers all sizes up
to 3X & 4X ASAP. Please leave in Sister’s garage. Also,
deodorant, body wash, toothpaste, shampoo, Fixodent
(original), and large umbrellas. Also, current magazines:
inspirational, sports, hobbies, National Geographic. Black
out your name and address from the label and leave in
Sister’s garage.
Call Sr. Janet: If you are able to help a friend in Milford
Manor with Facebook for an hour a week.
Sr. Janet: Knows a college student who needs a car to
get to school. Please call Sister.
Call Sr. Janet: If you are willing to cook dinner for 2
people once a year.
BINGO AT MILFORD MANOR: Saturday, December 6
2:30 – 3:30pm
Come 10 minutes early and stay 10 minutes late to help.
Bingo prizes are needed. Sister always needs help. If
you need a signature, Sr. Janet will have a pen after
bingo.
GIFT CARD NEWS: New in stock! Lowe’s and The Home
Depot for all your home improvement needs! Thank you to
all the families that help support this fundraiser. Spread the
word!
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Veterans Day November 11, 2014
Let us honor and thank our veterans with donations of the following: coffee (regular only),
nondairy creamer, sweetener (no sugar) and
Sleepy Time tea. We will be collecting these
items the weekend of November 1 & 2. Our own vet Doug
Bock will deliver these supplies.
Time for Vocations… Please pray for:
Deacon Giovanni Rodriguez and
Seminarian Henry Pinto
A Time To Serve In The Military… Please pray for:
Nicholas Costello, Lt. Jamie Curcio, Jennifer Smolinski,
Tom Oroho, Brian Hartigan, Mario Lanza, Kevin Canova,
Alex Richnavsky, Jason Benedict, Ryan Benedict, Jonathan Greenwald, Erik Filipek, Jonathan Gabay, Matthew
Lattanzi and Tara Lee Wrocklage
A Time To Heal… Please pray for:
Bob Weiss, John Paicer, Scott Frew, Sal Domenico,
Marilyn Whritenour, Gregory Whritenour, Martha Colombo, Denise Thiel, Emily Hennessy Green, Jim Casey, Jim Giro, Joseph Di Santo, Sandra Roberts, Walter
Roberts, Pat Burd, Zachary Scieslicki, Peg Misner, Aiden
Patrick and Chase Michael Martinez
A Time To Die… Please pray for: Donna Tamayne,
sister of Tom Tamayne
Please Note: Only family members may request to have
someone included in prayers for the sick.
The shelves of the pantry are low
on food. Your donation of the following
items would be greatly appreciated:
Macaroni,
beans,
soup,
rice,
chili, juice, peanut butter, jelly, powdered milk, salad dressing, mustard, mayonnaise, baby food, and gluten and sugar
free items. Non-food items: shampoo, cleaners, laundry detergent
Thanksgiving is coming. Donations of turkeys and holiday
food is appreciated.
Thank you for your anticipated generosity.
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THE PERFECT GIFT - 250TH JUBILEE
COOKBOOK
“SECRETS FROM ST. JOSEPH’S”
OVER 600 RECIPES from parishioners,
family and friends
HARDCOVER - $20 (2 FOR $35)
Available at parish office: [Mon-Thurs, 9 am -5 pm]
or [Fri, 9 am -12 noon].
For mail order: Call parish office [973-697-6100]. Checks
may be sent to “St Joseph Church.” Add $8 S&H.
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Clip and Return
Veterans Day of Recognition of
Living Veterans of the Parish
On Sunday, November 9th a salute to the living
veterans is scheduled, at the 9:00 am Mass in church. If
you have already not done so, please list your name, rank
and branch of the service below and return to the parish
office by November 3rd.
Name_________________________________________
Branch of Service________________________________
Rank_______________Service from _________to______
Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be
stronger men. - John F. Kennedy US President & Knight of
Columbus!
11-9: Living Veterans Mass 9:00am
11-11: Veterans Day
11-13: Business Meeting
11-15: Food Drive at AP (we don't mind if you drive
over food from ShopRite!)
11-27: Thanksgiving (no social)
11-29: Visit w/St. Nick (cooking crew required)
12-6: Antioch Breakfast Detail (cooking crew required)
Contact Grand Knight Mike Heller at 973-728-6228 or
[email protected] about becoming a Knight of Columbus or joining us at this year's "Pride in our Priests
Dinner." …………………………………………………………………
Protecting God’s Children
Virtus® Workshop
As required by the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishop, all
parish volunteers who “have regular contact with children”
must attend a “Protecting God’s Children Workshop.”
This workshop is being offered in:
Our Lady of the Magnificat in Kinnelon on
Wednesday, October 29 at 6:30 pm.
St. Thomas the Apostle in Milton/Oak Ridge on
Tuesday, November 4 at 6 pm.
To register on-line: go to www.patersondiocese.org
Virtus® is on the bottom of the left column on the diocesan
home page. Click on Virtus® and follow the directions for
registering.
The Paterson Diocese also requires that volunteers complete a background check and sign an acknowledgment of
having read the Diocesan Code of Conduct. Informational
packets are available in the parish office.
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THANKSGIVING EVE ECUMENICAL SERVICE
Wednesday, November 26 at 8:00pm in Newfoundland
Methodist Church on LaRue Rd. If you would like to sing in
the choir be there at 7:00pm.
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250 Anniversary Passport Stickers: If you have attended one of the events and didn't get a sticker for your
family passport book, stop by the rectory and pick it up.
MEMORIES OF OUR PARISH
Memory: the faculty of the mind by which it retains
knowledge. Good, bad, happy, sad – these are some
items in my memory of St. Joseph Parish.
The very first time attending Mass at St. Joseph in the Parish Center some 26 years ago, the Knights of Columbus
served coffee and cake after Mass….When I became a
Knight….When flat after flat of flowers arrived and Fr. Bernie armed with a map of where and how these were to be
planted….at Christmas with the mile high Christmas trees
on each side of the altar made up of 20 artificial trees and
tables….When the Home School Association of SJ presented me with a school jacket because I was always
around fixing something….the summer when we rebuilt the
boys & girls bathrooms, floor to ceiling, all new with the labor of love from many people….sad when St. Joseph
School closed….happy that my daughter graduated from
our parish school….sad when our dear friend Ceil
died….happy she is with our Lord.
Sad when Sr. Janet took over my corner of the driveway to
give away free stuff….happy to hear each day, “Good
morning, Bob” from Sr. Geraldine. Sad to see Fr. Bernie
leave, I cried….sorry to see Fr. Boniface leave, I cried
again. Happy to work under Fr. Sig….”Do not lean on the
wall.” “Hymn books need to face one way!” Happy and
blessed when Fr. Steve arrived; where else can you see in
a parish the true meaning of family.
Can you believe over the years all the improvements accomplished to the buildings, grounds and cemetery? Who
would ever think Sr. Geraldine’s car would be out of the
snow and rain….or that Sr. Janet would need a new rear
window for her car when a 2 x 10 fell off of the roof? Or
that St. Joseph’s Carnival during a week of rain would be
in a swamp – you had to be there!
To be continued…………
Bob Sautter
Generations of Faith
Join us bringing to life
the gifts you already have!
Many new families are participating in our
faith formation learning experiences called, Generations of
Faith.
Sr. Geraldine is looking for people who have served as catechists in the past and would be willing to teach a small
class of children once or twice a year. In November the
opportunities include the evening of Friday, November 14,
the morning of November 15 and the afternoon of Sunday
November 16.
Attendance at Virtus ®, Protecting God’s Children is required as well as a background check. Lesson plans and
all class materials are provided.
If you are able to assist on any of these dates please send
Sr. Geraldine a message at [email protected]. Thank
you.
Drastic evils call for draconian prohibitions and this explains the
harshness of Yahweh’s language in our First Reading from Exodus 22: “You
shall not wrong any widow or orphan. If ever you wrong them and they cry
out to me, I will surely hear their cry. My wrath will flare up, and I will kill you
with the sword; then your own wives will be widows, and your children orphans.” Such language from God shocks us especially in a society where prohibiting anything,
except perhaps trans fats and large soft drinks, is not looked on kindly. Certainly God does not
intend to create more orphans and widows as a just response to wrongs committed against these
same. It is hyperbolic language whose exaggeration carries home the point of the message with
force.
In fact, how God uses human vocabulary and how we understand the same words almost never
agree. Take for instance Jesus’ promise to return soon; soon to us is a short earthly while but
Jesus intends God’s time and not ours. Soon, in this case, is an eternity to us but a blink of an eye
for God.
In today’s Gospel (Matthew 22) a similar vocabulary glitch is afoot. When Jesus says, “You
shall love your neighbor as yourself,” we take this to mean we should give the same care and
attention to our neighbor as we would spend on ourselves. We even state Jesus’ command sometimes as “love your neighbor as you love yourself.” Not a bad interpretation but not exactly the
fullness of what Christ intended. What Jesus really means is that your neighbor is yourself; there
are not two persons but one only in this understanding. “See your neighbor as another self,” is a
better translation albeit still not carrying the intensity of Jesus’ will in this matter.
A while back (earthly time) I asked a pediatric nurse to complete a certificate in Catholic Bioethics so that I might have a well trained professional for parishioners to consult. Mrs. Ranft, a
devout parishioner of St. Catherine’s where I was associate, rose to the challenge and beyond
obtaining a degree and not just a certificate. Already a pediatric nurse she turned her skills to
offering specialized in home care for infants born with severe challenges. Now a Catholic Bioethicist and still practicing pediatric nurse she is ready to offer her immense experience and studies
to the parishes of our area. I cannot thank her enough and encourage all who may need such skills
to take advantage of her information session described here below. Some may even be able to
lend their own experiential or studied skill sets to this nascent and necessary ministry.
A Positive Response to a Serious Prenatal Diagnosis
More than 100,000 expectant couples each year receive the devastating news of a so-called
poor prenatal diagnosis. It may be the detection of a heart defect, spina bifida, or genetic syndrome,
but whatever the diagnosis, the parents are shocked and bereaved. With little or no information or
resources available that support the option of carrying to term, 80% of these pregnancies end in
abortion. When offered a service of comprehensive support, however, 80% of parents chose to
carry to term.
A ministry which will offer this comprehensive support to couples experiencing a serious prenatal
diagnosis and carrying to term is being developed for North Jersey. Peer ministers and volunteers
are invited to be part of this important ministry. If you have carried to term following a prenatal
diagnosis consider becoming a peer minister. Interested persons who may not have experienced
a serious prenatal diagnosis can volunteer to support parents in other ways such as sewing, knitting, photography.
An information presentation will be given at St. Catherine of Bologna Parish Center, Ringwood
on Monday November 17th at 7:30pm.
Questions call Kathy Ranft 973-962-9152. For more information on this ministry see
isaiahspromise.net and benotafraid.net.