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October 26, 2014
30th Sunday
in Ordinary Time
Growing in Faith Together
910 Main Street South
Southbury, CT 06488
(203) 264-5071
www.sacredheartchurch.info
Sacred Heart Church welcomes Father Jean Francois Tristant,
pastor of Our Lady of Seven Sorrows Parish, Gran Boulage, Haiti.
Our Mission Statement
Sacred Heart Parish is a faith filled family and vibrant Catholic community of believers in Jesus Christ. We are the visible presence of
Jesus through:
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Creating a welcoming, joyful, and compassionate atmosphere
Empowering the gifts of one another
Supporting one another on our journey of faith
Sharing God’s unconditional love
Providing opportunities for spiritual growth through ministries and worship, particularly in the Eucharist, and
Advocating responsibility for the poor and oppressed
If you are new to our parish or if you have been away from the practice of your faith, we extend a warm welcome and hope that you
will find our parish to be a community in which your faith can be nourished. We invite you to introduce yourself so that we may offer
our heart-felt greeting. Our parish family is enriched by your participation in our life of worship and service. Please consider becoming
a registered member of our family.
www.sacredheartchurch.info/bulletin.html
www.facebook.com/SacredHeartSouthburyYoungAdults
October 26, 2014
30th Sunday in Ordinary Time
Staff
Gospel Reflection Matthew 22:34-40
Father Joseph T. Donnelly
Pastor
[email protected] 203-264-5071 ext. 3
Sr. Patricia Torre, DW
Pastoral Associate for Pastoral Care
[email protected] 203-264-5071 ext. 5
Ami Conlan
Pastoral Associate for Faith Formation
[email protected] (203-264-5065)
Patricia Richards
Director of Music
[email protected]
Jennifer Enger
Accounting
[email protected]
Adults: In a practical sense, what is one thing that would change
your life if you loved your neighbor as yourself?
Children: Why is it hard sometimes to love your
neighbor? How can you do a better job of following Jesus’
Commandment?
PARISH OFFICE
910 Main Street South, Southbury, CT 06488
Monday-Friday 9:00 AM - 4:30 PM
www.sacredheartchurch.info
Tel: 203-264-5071
Tel: 203-264-5071 Fax: 203-264-9562
Faith Formation Office
Ami Conlan
Jay Szymansky
Deborah McGrath
Fran Walsh
Fax: 203-264-4271
Pastoral Associate, Faith Formation
[email protected]
Administrative Assistant
[email protected]
Coordinator of Design (Gr. 1-8)
Coordinator of GIFT (9-10) and Confirmation
Liturgical Schedule
The Lord’s Day: Vigil (Saturday): 5:00 PM
Sunday: 7:30 AM, 9:00 AM*, 11:00 AM*
4th Sunday/Month:Children’s Mass, 11:00AM
Daily Mass: 8:30 AM, Monday to Friday, subject to change.
*At the noted Masses, children are invited to participate in Liturgy
of the Word. Children ages 7-12 go to the chapel; those ages 3-6
go to the Hospitality room.
Sacramental Ministries
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Saturday, October 25, 2014
5:00 PM
Ada & Walter Walker
Requested by their daughter
William & Agnes Burke
Requested by Joan Livingston
Joseph Nykaza
Requested by his wife & family
Requested by Michael & Ann Halford
Office Manager
[email protected] ext. 0
Karen Kirk (Bulletin Information) Information & Communications Manager
[email protected] ext. 201
Mark Bentivoglio
Building & Grounds
[email protected] ext. 105
Tel: 203-264-5065
If you arranged to have a particular person prayed for at a mass, notify
the ushers upon your arrival so that you may bring up the gifts.
Sunday, October 26, 2014
7:30 AM
Intentions of Sacred Heart Parishioners
9:00 AM
Rose Papagno
Parish Office
Mary Korsu
Mass Intentions
Baptism - To schedule a Baptism, please contact Sister Pat for an
initial meeting and a parent preparation session.
Reconciliation (confession) - Saturdays from 3:30 - 4:15 PM, or
by appointment.
Marriage - Please call the Parish Office at least six months in
advance. Couples meet with Father Joe for an initial pastoral
conversation before a wedding date can be set. Please do not
make other plans until a date has been confirmed with the parish.
For the Sick, including pastoral home visits, Eucharist or the
Anointing of the Sick - Please call the Parish Office. Upon
hospital admission, please indicate that you would like a visit by
your parish, or please call the Parish Office to arrange a pastoral
visit.
Peter & Mary Trafford
Requested by their family
Marie Myrtha Delouis
11:00 AM
Requested by her family at Sacred Heart
Angela Sedor
Requested by her family
Perry Jeffery
Requested by Phyllis Phelan
James Dean McHatten
Requested by Jen Mortati
Monday, October 27, 2014
8:30 AM
Eric Block
Requested by his wife and daughter
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
8:30 AM
Gil Connolly
Requested by his wife and family
Wednesday, October 29, 2014
8:30 AM
Angie Mastracchio
Requested by Jen Mortati
Thursday, October 30, 2014
8:30 AM
Chet Hurlie
Requested by his wife, Mary
Friday, October 31, 2014
8:30 AM
John Fitzgerald
Requested by his daughter, Maureen
Saturday, November 1, 2014 - Day of Remembrance
5:00 PM
Intentions of Sacred Heart Parishioners
Sunday, November 2, 2014 - Day of Remembrance
All Masses
Intentions of Sacred Heart Parishioners
(Daylight Savings Ends)
October 26, 2014
30th Sunday in Ordinary Time
Of Many Things….
Liturgy of Remembrance
The Church traditionally dedicates the month of
November to remembering those who lived lives of
faith in word and in deed, and have been called home to
God to share in the life of the saints. We, therefore,
celebrate the lives of our loved ones next weekend by
remembering those who have
died this past year. At all the
weekend liturgies we will hold
in prayer our parishioners and
family members who have
been called home to God.
For those who are grieving
their loved ones, this past year
may have been extremely
difficult. Letting go of someone
whom we love and learning to
live without them in our daily
lives needs the strength and
support of a praying
community. Together, we come
to trust in the promises of a
loving God who holds us close
and wipes away every tear. And so, together this
weekend, we pray that God may ease the pain of those
who grieve and open them to the hope and promise of
our faith.
Funeral and Bereavement Ministry
Our coffee/and this weekend is hosted by our Extend-A
-Hand Committee. This committee provides comfort,
help and compassion to parishioners and family
members when they experience the death of a loved
one. They arrange a reception in the social hall
following a funeral Mass. They order food and drinks,
set up the room, and make sandwiches. Those who can
not be present at the reception bake dessert items and
drop them. These ‘small gestures’ are an enormous
comfort to those who grieve.
The presence of our parishioners at a wake service or as
greeters at a funeral is such a source of comfort to those
who grieve. On the day of the funerals, parishioners
can serve as greeters, welcoming people to our parish,
offering our sympathies, directing them to the coat
closet, the rest rooms, and to the church. All these are
simple signs of our simple hospitality.
Our parish offers support for this grieving process
through our Bereavement Ministry. There is a monthly
support group for the purpose of sharing and
understanding the emotional anxiety that accompany
the grieving process. There is also a group that meets
twice a year for a ten-week session. They use a
process of journaling to assist the bereaved through
grief to healing. Both groups
are held during the day and
the facilitators of these
groups are trained in this
process. The best feedback
that we receive from these
groups is that “there is such
support in being with others
who are experiencing the
same thing. I can’t seem to
talk to my family in the same
way that I can speak to others
who are grieving. We truly
understand one another.”
The pastoral staff is also
available for pastoral
conversations to support
those who are grieving. Our Stephen Ministers are
available to offer one-to-one support for as long as is
needed.
If you would like more information about any of the
funeral and bereavement ministries or are interested in
volunteering in our Extend-A-Hand or funeral
ministries, please call me at 203-264-5071.
May we hold in our hearts all those who are grieving
at this time. May they find peace and comfort in the
support of our community. And may they know the
warm embrace of God’s presence and God’s love.
Sister Pat
Five Wishes Program - Nov. 10 at 7PM
Our parish nurses are offering the
FIVE
WISHES program - a way of planning for and
discussing care at the end of life. Health care agent,
living wills, comfort care, palliative vs. hospice care,
and planning your funeral will be discussed. This is
an opportunity for families to talk with their loved
ones about "end of life" issues.
This will be held on Friday, November 10 at 7:00 pm
in the Jerusalem Room.
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October 26, 2014
30th Sunday in Ordinary Time
Navigating the Rough
Waters
From a Griever’s toolbox –
and their real life experience.
How to deal with grief:
Talk, talk, talk. Don’t
isolate yourself. Remember
your loved ones. Talk about
the good times you shared. Celebrate the important dates. Join a
grief group. Discover that you are not the only one feeling this way.
A grief shared brings you closer to healing. We do not heal in
isolation.
Deal with regrets – as best you can – with a trusted friend or
family member. Holding on to “if only” or “I wish I had” doesn’t
serve any purpose after the initial reflection.
Don’t make major decisions until you have experienced all the
firsts – the first anniversary, birthday, holidays – without your
loved one. Be present to these special moments. Usually the
anticipation of the holiday is worse than the actual day. So hold on.
Be social.
Our parish offers support through our bereavement groups, our
Stephen Ministers, and our pastoral staff. Give us a call today at
203-264-5071. Or have a friend call us for you. We are here to
guide you through this.
Bereavement Monthly Support Group
If you are struggling with a loss and would like support on your
journey from grief to healing you might consider our monthly
support group at Sacred Heart. For information, call Catherine
Hughes 203-758-5421 or Carol McGrath at 203-264-6857.
Women Sharing Wisdom
WSW meets Monday, November 3rd from 7-8:30 pm in the
Jerusalem room. Join with other like-minded women who are
seeking to deepen their faith as they reflect on their life’s
experiences. We will have time for presentation, prayer, ritual,
sharing, and reflection – and of course laughter and tears and
friendship. Please bring a notebook and a bible - and a can of coffee
or a box of black tea for the food bank. Contact Sr. Pat at 203-2645071 or [email protected]
Ladies in Faith Together
LIFT meets weekly on Tuesdays mornings to pray, study, share,
and provide service. It is a social gathering, as well as a prayercentered, learning experience and all are welcome to join us at any
time. This year, we are studying Father Robert Barron’s Blessing,
Three Paths to Holiness. We will be watching the DVD and
discussing Lesson 3 and will have a speaker from the Children’s
Community School, an educational alternative for low-income
Waterbury families.
Pat Kugeman at 203-881-1441 or [email protected]
Debi Obenhaus at 203-405-3447 or [email protected]
Denise Ruppelt at 502-930-4813 or Denise.Ruppelt @gmail.com
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Putting Your Gifts to Use
Stephen Ministry is a ministry in which people with special
gifts for caring ministry can put those gifts to use in an organized
way, bring Jesus’ love and care to those who most need it. One of
our Stephen Ministers offered this reflection: “Stephen Ministry
has given me an opportunity to share my faith and love and trust
in God. I never thought about being in service in this way – to be
present to others through listening and being still - not offering
advice, certainly not judging. I look for the silver lining or the
blessing of God’s presence in the situation. It has made me more
comfortable to serve in other ways in the faith community. I am
more relaxed and try to be wherever it is that God wants me to
be.” Our Stephen Ministers are trained and they care. They want
to help. If you are experiencing a difficult time or if you or
someone you know would benefit from a confidential conversation
with one of our Stephen Ministers, please call Lynn Tidgwell at
203-217-0025, Sister Pat at 203-264-5071 and Stephen Minister
Catherine Hughes at 203-758-5421 or log onto:
www.stephenministries.org
(From Stephen Series)
Mass of Healing and Hope - Nov. 10, 7:30PM
A Mass of Healing and Hope will be celebrated by Father Larry
Carew, Pastor of Christ the King Church, Trumbull. Healing
teams will be available immediately after mass for anyone in
need of prayer. Any questions, contact Bobbie Calabrese at 203405-6078.
Please Pray For...
Lynne Perilli, Dennis Savard, Victoria Tocci, Deborah
Libourel, Ralph Ponzo, John Chapin, Annette Reidy,
Suzanne Hardy, Dorothy Ruggiero, The Ricupero Family,
Charles Mongelli, Maureen Bird McGrath, RoseMary
DeCarlo, Bob Bowalick, Ken Schutte, Greg Fortin, Dorie
Marshall, Mary Johnstone, Don Chen, Mary Ann Preston,
Elena Saliani, Rich Young, George Steven, Elizabeth
Walsh, Glenn Robinson, Msgr. John Burns, Eric Hansen,
Marilyn Brown, Ino Toma, Elaine Williams, Harry
Gaffney, Colin Lent
We also pray in remembrance of the parishioners of Our
Lady of Sorrows Parish in Haiti who were injured or
tragically killed in a road accident this month.
Ami Conlan, Pastoral Associate Faith Formation - [email protected]
Fran Walsh, Coordinator of GIFT (9-10) and Confirmation - [email protected]
Deb McGrath, Coordinator of Design (Grades 1-8) - [email protected]
Jay Szymansky, Administrative Assistant – [email protected]
Faith Formation Office: 203-264-5065 Fax: 203-264-4271
Grades 9 and 10
Confirmation Service
Opportunities
Sunday II, October 26
1:00-3:30PM
October meals catered by: Mikee’s Place
Turkey, Ham, Cheese, Lettuce & Tomato
on a grinder, served with potato chips
Sunday I, November 16
Wednesday, November 19
Friday, November 21
Sunday II, November 23
4:00-6:30PM
5:00-7:30PM
6:00-8:30PM
1:00-3:30PM
November meals are catered by Elenni’s Restaurant
Confirmation Workshop - Social Justice
November 9th at 7:00PM
All sign up sheets are located on the Faith Formation
bulletin board. The sheets will be removed as they are
filled; please check frequently for available service dates.
First Reconciliation Workshop #1
Sunday, November 9th
4:00 - 6:00PM
Make-Up Date*: Saturday, Nov. 15th, 9-11AM
Mission Trip Meeting
All participants and a parent must attend!
October 26th, 6:30 PM
4th Sunday of Each Month
October 26
November 23
December 28
January 25
This is a parent and child workshop that must be
attended by those students in their 2nd year of
preparation for the sacrament of Reconciliation.
*Make-Up date is for those who, due to illness or urgent need,
cannot make the original date.
February 22
March 22
April 26
May 25
Nov. 1
Dec. 6
Jan. 3
Feb. 7
Please consider any of the following opportunities:
Mar. 7
Apr. 4
May 2
June 6
Teens & Young Adults:
Sign up on the Faith Formation bulletin board
Event Set Up/Clean Up* - Assist on Sundays with setting up/taking down of tables and equipment in the hall and other areas. Trash
removal to dumpsters, etc. Many hands make light work in this effort of transforming our parish into a center of gathering and learning
for our GIFT program and then returning it to its original form for all the other wonderful activities.
Kitchen Help/Serving/Clean Up* - Join a fantastic group of people who serve the meal at our GIFT sessions. An hour of your time
provides members with hospitality and community as they grow in faith together.
Office Home Packet Assembly* - Meets one weekday morning, one week before GIFT Sessions
Confirmation Service* - Do you have a calling and interest in working with teens? We need you to:
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Supervise 5 service projects for Confirmation students at St. Vincent de Paul Shelter in Waterbury* - The commitment is
once a month in October, November, December, January and February. 5pm-8pm. Contact Ami Conlan
[email protected]
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Supervise 3 service projects for Confirmation Students at the Southbury Training School* - The commitment is once per
month in October, November, and December.
If you are interested in volunteering, please email [email protected].
* Protecting God's Children is required.
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October 26, 2014
Liturgical
Extraordinary Ministry
Eucharistic Ministers: If you are no longer serving as a
Eucharistic Minister, please return the cross to the sacristy this
weekend. Thank you!
New Reader & Altar Server Schedule
The new Reader and Altar Server schedule can be picked up in
the corner of the Atrium and is posted online.
30th Sunday in Ordinary Time
Nov. 7 & 8: Tom Kendzia
Concert and Workshop
Composer Tom Kendzia will be holding a free
concert at Sacred Heart Church in Southbury on
Friday, November 7, 2014 at 7:00 p.m.
Kendzia will return on Saturday, Nov. 8th at 9:30
-2:30 PM to lead us in a workshop about ministry
and discipleship. For workshop registration,
contact Jennifer Enger at 203-264-5071 ext. 225
or [email protected].
This Week at Sacred Heart Church
Saturday, October 25
5:00PM - Collect bags for Food Bank Drive after Mass
5:30PM - Meeting - Jerusalem
6:00PM - Seeds of Hope Gala - Heritage Hotel
Sunday, October 26
Collect bags for Food Bank Drive after all Masses
12:00PM - Youth Choir
1:00PM - GIFT, Session II, entire facility
6:00PM - Haiti Meeting - Library
6:30PM - ROC Rehearsal
6:30PM - Mission Trip meeting - Hall, Church
Monday, October 27
6:30PM - Extra Choir Rehearsal - Church
7:15PM - LRSS - Shalom
Tuesday, October 28
7:30-4:30PM - Deliver sandwiches - Kitchen
9:15 - LIFT - Church, Kitchen, Jerusalem, Library, Hall
6:30-8:30PM - Stephen Ministry Training - Jerusalem
6:30PM - Extra Choir Rehearsal - Church
7:00PM - Finance Council - Shalom
7:30PM - Mom’s Bible Study - Hospitality
Wednesday, October 29
10:00AM - JAM - Nursery
1:00-3:00PM - LRSS - Emmaus
3:30PM - Women’s AA - Jerusalem
6:30 PM - Haiti meeting - Library
Thursday, October 30
9:30-11:00AM - LRSS - Hospitality
1:30-3:00PM - New Day - Hospitality
7:00PM - Adult Choir - Church
8:00PM - AA - Jerusalem
Friday, October 31
Saturday, November 1
3:00PM - ROC Rehearsal
5:00PM - ROC Mass
5:00PM - Day of Remembrance
5:30PM - Meeting - Jerusalem
6:00PM - ROC Reception
Sunday, November 2*
All masses - Day of Remembrance
‘Coffee and After’ after all Masses
12:00PM - Youth Choir
1:00PM - J-Walking - Basement, Hospitality
*Daylight Savings Times ENDS on Nov. 2nd - Set clocks
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Social Outreach
Covenant To Care
Our adopted social worker at the Dept. Children and Families
has asked Sacred Heart to help provide healthy non-perishable
snacks and juice boxes for children. If you are able to help,
place suggested items in the Covenant to Care box. Cups of
apple sauce, fruit cups, non-refrigerated pudding cups,
packages of Teddy Grahams, pretzels, crackers, juice boxes
and baby wipes. No peanut products please!
Haiti Reflections on Website
Recorded reflections by parishioners who visited Haiti and
our sister parish in Gran Boulage are posted on the SHC
website (www.sacredheartchurch.info). The reflections can be
heard by clicking on the "Features" tab, then the "Photo
Scrapbook" tab to be brought to the main index page.
Young Adults (18-30ish) Group
Our next date to serve a meal at the St. Vincent de Paul
Shelter in Waterbury is Oct. 26. Meet at Sacred Heart at
5:15pm. Email Jenny or Danny for more info. SH Young
Adults Facebook: www.facebook.com/
SacredHeartSouthburyYoungAdults
Southbury Interfaith Thanksgiving Meal Cmte.
We will host our annual dinner at Christ the Redeemer
(formerly Southbury Baptist Church) on Nov. 27 th at Noon. We
invite those in Southbury who are unable to prepare a meal due
to financial or physical limitations, are homebound and those
without family or friends. Call Adele at 203-267-5650.
St. Vincent de Paul Meal Ministry
We provide a meal for the shelter the first Monday of the
month (except when a holiday occurs then it’s served the
second Monday). Team A is responsible for Sept/Jan/May,
Team B: Oct/Feb/June, Team C: Nov/March/July & Team D:
Dec/April/Aug. If you are interested, contact Jeanne
Tillinghast at 203-264-5827.
TEAM 'C' will be serving meatloaf, baked potatoes, tossed
salad, and pumpkin pie on Monday, Nov. 3 at the St. Vincent
de Paul Homeless Shelter in Waterbury. Trays and lids (for
meatloaves) and new schedules are now available in the
church kitchen. We are always looking for new volunteers to
make part of the meal. Contact Sara Van Doren at 203-2626881 if you have any questions. Thank you for your continued
support. The residents of the shelter look forward to our meal
and appreciate it very much!