INSIDE THIS ISSUE
August 2014 . Focus on Environment
M anor Mirror
Reflecting M anor Life
TIN MAN SOCIETY
2
BRIGHTSTAR CARE
2
EDEN ASSOCIATES
3
CRESTWOOD LIBRARY
3
OMM NEIGHBORS
4
WELLNESS5
BIRTHDAYS5
TRANSITIONS5
GRANDPA JOHN
6
FEATURED EVENTS
7
BY DENNIS GRAHAM, VICE PRESIDENT OF OPERATIONS
Safe Environment Goal of TFD & OMM
Tulsa Fire Department visits the OMM campus.
T
he Tulsa Fire Department and
Oklahoma Methodist Manor are
working together to keep residents
and staff safe. Tulsa Assistant Fire
Marshal Captain Ray Evins was on
campus July 8th and 9th to educate
and train on fire prevention and
evacuation.
The evacuation drill took place
at Crestwood where 55 members
and 44 employees participated. The
drill began with a presentation on
the building’s safety features, fire
door operation, escape routes, and
instructions on where to gather
outside the building for roll call.
Members were
educated about
the safety of
‘sheltering in
place’ and how to
do that during a
fire. This is a very
common practice
in buildings like
Crestwood. With
a total evacuation
there is a risk
of injury and
taking this risk
is not necessary
for a small, localized fire. Members
and staff were trained by TFD to
determine when sheltering in place
is appropriate and when a full
evacuation is necessary. The Tulsa
Fire Department will be on site
in either event for direction and
assistance.
A program on Fire and Fall
prevention was presented to over
150 residents campus-wide. The
Fire Department has initiated this
program because 1 out of 3 adults 65
and older fall each year.
The number one cause of injury
and death in this older population is
from falls. In 2010, 2.3 million falls
in this age group were treated in
emergency rooms yet less than one
half of the patients discussed falling
with their doctors. Captain Evins commented on the
two days’ events: “The program was
well received by the residents with
good turnout both days. I would
like to commend the management
at Methodist Manor for being
proactive by training their staff in
fire prevention and evacuation. I
would also like to thank them for
scheduling the program for the
residents and helping us to provide
some simple tips that can help them
enjoy their retirement years. The
residents should feel secure living at
OMM where many safety features are
built in and there is preparedness to
keep everyone safe.”
This education and evacuation
event was part of OMM’s ongoing fire
safety program.
MM
Hal and Dottie Bockelken Newest
Members of The Tin Man Society
BY CHARLENE FABIAN, VP DEVELOPMENT
H
al and Dottie were married
60 years when she died this
past January. Dottie suffered from
throat cancer but she didn’t want to burden anyone with
her problems so her doctors and Hal were the only ones
who knew she had the disease. They had decided to move
to Oklahoma Methodist Manor while they could do it
together.
Hal and Dottie both grew up in the same
Long Island, NY neighborhood, attended the
same schools and church; but did not know each
other until they both joined a young adults’
church club. They were married in 1954. Dottie
had a successful career with AT&T. She retired
in 1969; then went to college, graduating with
highest honors. Hal, after several years in the
army and college, had his career with CITGO.
In 1974 Cities Service Company moved its
headquarters from New York City to Tulsa where
Hal retired in 1985. The couple enjoyed golf and bridge.
They appreciated the performing arts and went
to the opera (in Tulsa and Dallas), the ballet, symphony,
and theater plays. They traveled extensively and the list
of countries is long: Canada, Mexico, Europe, Israel,
Egypt, China, plus visiting most of the USA and going on
14 cruises.
When talking about their philanthropy, Hal recalls
that Dottie was inclined to spontaneous and radical acts
of charity. She also volunteered to help children and
adults, teaching them to read. The Bockelkens wrote their
first trust in 1995 and it was at that time they planned
their charitable giving. They wanted to provide for their
relatives of course, but also for things they enjoy and places
that helped. When they moved to Crestwood, they added
OMM in their trust. Hal said, “For us it seemed
the proper thing to do … to provide sustaining
support for people who will come to live here in
the future.”
Hal enjoys life. He plays golf and bridge, and
has kept his subscriptions to the performing arts.
He exercises at Spann every day and frequently
attends the Life Enrichment events and trips.
His approach to wellness is to stay involved.
“OMM has been a good arrangement. We liked
the NW exposure on our Crestwood apartment.
With the big skyline and the sunsets it’s a little
like being on a cruise ship.”
Our gratitude to Hal and Dottie for providing this
legacy gift and becoming members of the Tin Man
Society. From now until November 1st anyone who tells
us they have included OMM in their estate plans will be
considered a Charter Member of the Tin Man Society.
For more information about joining the Tin Man Society,
please call Charlene Fabian at 918-346-6639.
OMM WELCOMES BRIGHTSTAR
AS HOME CARE PROVIDER
A
fter a search for a home health agency with sufficient
size and strength to reliably deliver services to
our residents and an agency whose quality of service is
consistent with that of Oklahoma Methodist Manor, we
are excited to say that we have found such a partner in
BrightStar Care. The campus-based OMM agency closed
August 1st and BrightStar assumed those services. This
is a convenience for anyone who does not want to receive
home care from an outside provider.
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If you have questions
related to BrightStar
or Home Care
services at Oklahoma
Methodist Manor
please contact Matthew Loyd, VP of Health and Wellness
at (918) 346-6625 or [email protected].
OMM TRAINS 50 PEOPLE
TO BE EDEN ASSOCIATES
BY MATT LOYD, VP HEALTH & WELLNESS
O
n August 1, Oklahoma
Methodist Manor graduated its
50th Certified Eden Associate!
OMM began its journey with the Eden Alternative in
2013 by hosting our first Eden Associate training. Since
that time, we have sent four staff members to become
Eden Educators and sent representatives to attend the
International Eden Alternative Conference. We are well
on the way to becoming one of the Eden Alternative’s
Registered Homes. More importantly, we have reached
the halfway mark in our goal to have 100-percent of the
caregiving staff certified as Eden Associates!
What is the Eden Alternative? In a culture that typically
views aging as a period of decline, the Eden Alternative
philosophy asserts that no matter how old we are or what
challenges we live with, life is about continuing to grow.
Building on this new paradigm, it affirms that care is not
a one-way street, but rather a collaborative partnership.
All caregivers and care receivers are described as “care
partners,” each an active participant in the balance of
giving and receiving. Together, care partner teams strive
to enhance well-being by eliminating the three plagues of
loneliness, helplessness, and boredom.
What does it mean to be a Certified Eden Associate?
Changing lives for over twenty years, Certified Eden
Associate Training is an exciting and challenging 3-day
journey into the world of person-directed care. As the
most widely practiced, comprehensive approach to persondirected care, Certified Eden Associate Training has been
proven to offer practical tools, resources, and inspiration
that empower individuals and teams to initiate and
maintain effective change.
For more information about the Eden Alternative
or Oklahoma Methodist Manor’s plans, please contact
Matthew Loyd, VP of Health and Wellness.
CRESTWOOD HOME LIBRARY
BY GAYLE TETER, CO-LIBRARIAN
H
ow do you define what your environment is, and the
commonalities between all of the possible things
that make up this environment? One example is the
Campus OMM Book Club who enjoys getting together
on the fourth Tuesday of each month at 7:00 p.m. in the
Crestwood Theatre. We discuss agreed-upon reading list
and what makes it fun is all of us have our own ideas about
the book. This year in January we shared some of our
favorite reads, and discussed FLIGHT BEHAVIOR,
THE GUERNSEY LITERACY AND POTATO PEEL
SOCIETY (a copy in the Crestwood Home Library)
and The BOOK THIEF (it was interesting to compare this
book with the movie).
Our May meeting was a book review by our own
Lynette Bennett Danskin. She presented FUNNY
LADIES: 100 YEARS OF GREAT
COMEDIENNES by Stephen
M. Silverman. Lynette included
the comediennes she knew and
had worked with. We just had a
very “lively” discussion in June
on the book entitled “THE SNOW CHILD” by Eowyn
Ivey. Picture Alaska, 1920: a brutal environment, the first
snowfall, and a child made out of snow, who comes to life.
This is a modern retelling of the Russian fairy tale.
Phyllis Rhodes is our new Library Assistant at
Crestwood. She will be helping Carolyn and myself keep
organized. We are blessed to have our two OMM libraries
and their created environments.
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OMM NEIGHBORS
Helen Frymire (Crestwood)
Helen Frymire grew up in a very small town in Texas. She and Bob
Frymire met in Sterling City, Texas, which is eighty miles east of Odessa.
The most exciting place in Sterling City was an unnamed café. It was here
that Bob met this pretty young schoolteacher who had recently graduated
from Texas Tech. Helen says he was the perfect husband. The couple lived
in the sungate area of Texas and then more than 40 years in Tulsa. Helen
started teaching in the Asbury preschool soon after the program began.
She retired in 2000 as a regular teacher after twenty-nine years of service.
John Westervelt, Helen’s friend of 40 years tells this story: “On a Thursday
afternoon of the last day of school, Helen called to tell me that a three-year-old had left a gift with her for
me, so I went by her house to pick it up. On the previous Saturday, the preschool had arranged a retirement
party in Asbury’s parlor. As I stood on Helen’s driveway visiting with her and Bob, she began to tell me how
touched she was with the outpouring of love from those who seemed to care that she had been a teacher
most of her life. Bob, being the good husband that he is, looked at me and said, “Don’t you think we should
apply for sainthood for Helen?” I agreed, so as a committee of two we declared her “Saint Helen.” Helen
stood smiling for a while, accepting our verbal taunts before saying, “Put it to rest Bob, if you want any
supper at this house tonight.” Sometimes women just don’t understand their men. Bob’s teasing words
were the only way he knew to express his love for Helen, which is infinitely more than the love he had for
the pretty young girl in the unnamed café in Sterling City.” Helen was widowed three years ago. She has
two sons in Tulsa and one in Houston.
Richard & Peggy Ziglar (Villas)
Richard and Peggy have enjoyed 56 exciting years together. They both
grew up in North Carolina, he in Winston-Salem, and she in Greenville,
but did not meet until they both attended Atlantic Christian College (now
Barton College) in Wilson, NC. They continued their studies at Brite
Divinity School at Texas Christian University in Ft. Worth and married
two days before graduation. Peggy’s degree was in Christian Education,
and Richard’s studies prepared him for ordination into the ministry of the
Christian Church (Disciples of Christ). Together, they served congregations
in Richmond, VA, Wilson, NC, and Tyler, TX before coming to First
Christian Church in Tulsa. He retired from the staff there in 1994 but is quick to point out that ministers
never retire! Peggy worked as a general secretary and receptionist at Phillips Theological Seminary. In
1995, Richard founded the Northeast Active Timers (NEATs) and remains as the organization’s executive
director. NEATs is a faith-based agency providing programs and services for senior adults, including a
special focus on celebrations for centenarians. The Ziglars love to travel and consider cruises their favorite
way to see the world. They have been on 36 cruises…so far! They also enjoy reading and visiting with
friends and family. In fact, they entertained literally hundreds of guests during the 39 years they lived in
their previous home on 47th Place. In addition, Richard especially has flair for decorating and at one point
established Mr. Z’s Decorating Services in Tyler, TX. Richard and Peggy are the parents of a son and a
daughter and have two grandchildren.
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A REFLECTION ON EMOTIONAL
WELLNESS
BY KATIE COX, WELLNESS DIRECTOR
W
e are all connected to the environment. God created
it all. He created the earth and everything that
comes forth from it by his spoken word. The Word says
that on the third day God said “…And the earth brought
forth grass, the herb that yields seed according to its
kind, and the tree that yields fruit, whose seed is in itself
according to its kind. And God saw that it was good.”
But man God created out of His creation from the very
dirt. Man didn’t come along until the sixth day. On the
day He created man God gave man the food in the garden
as his to eat.
The earth was bringing forth life before man arrived
on the scene. The story goes on to talk about how God
planted a garden eastward in Eden and made every tree to
grow that was good for food. Again the earth/environment
was producing life by the hand of God without the help of
man. Then the story says that God put man in the Garden
to tend and keep it.
It would seem to me that the point of the story is that
the earth can produce and grow on its own but man needs
the earth to live. Not just for the food it produces but
for the responsibility it gives us. When we are not good
stewards of the earth it may hurt the earth but it will
destroy man and the earth will heal.
Understanding our roll in the environment is essential
to our wellness. In God’s command to us for the earth
He told us to be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and
subdue it/take charge. When in charge it is important
to understand the impact we have, not just see it as the
opportunity to rule. The wrong rule can impact us in ways
that were never intended.
Take some time this month to meditate on
environmental wellness. Think about it from a different
perspective. Does the earth need us or do we need
the earth?
AUGUST BIRTHDAYS
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Grandpa John
REMEMBERS
SAVED LETTERS
(2010)
BY JOHN C. WESTERVELT
I
have file folders holding current records as well
as archival ones. At age 82, I decided it was time
to reduce my holdings so my children would not
have so much to throw away someday.
I came across a letter from my mother
postmarked July 17, 1950. It was addressed to:
Ensign John C. Westervelt USN
Room 139 Bachelor Officer Quarter
Treasure Island
San Francisco, California
I had just graduated from Oklahoma University
in Electrical Engineering and was commissioned
as an ensign in the navy. I was attending a threemonth naval electronic school before joining my
naval destroyer for duty off of Korea.
Mother wrote three pages about news at home
in Oklahoma City. The fourth page contained
words for her son.
“The war news doesn’t sound at all good. It
all seems so close this time because the boys on
active duty are your friends and boys your age. We
sure have made a mess of things if we can’t live
peaceably with other nations.
“I surely hope this is a short war episode, but
you study hard to do your part well so if necessary
you can do a good job doing your share. But
don’t forget to learn how to take care of yourself.
Remember to put your faith in God and not to
ever lose that contact, then you can stand whatever
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comes your way. Always do your job in a way you
can be proud of, knowing you do not have to stand
alone. Much love, Mother”
I found a second letter from Mother
postmarked February 18, 1951 addressed to:
Ensign John C. Westervelt USN
U S S Henry W Tucker DDR 875
Fleet Post Office
San Francisco, California
By now, my ship was operating off the coast of
Korea.
Mother wrote, “Today is another beautiful
Sunday. Last week we had snow, eight inches all
together...”
“Your letters are so interesting, and it is good
to have you feel so cheerful and finding much in
life where you are. I always try to remember it isn’t
our circumstances in life, but how we meet them
that counts. We can find good in life always if we
look for it. Keep looking and keep your head above
water. God is still in heaven and all is right with
the world. Lovingly, Mother”
At the end of the day, I had a large sack of
paper for the garbage can and a small sack for the
shredder.
I read my mother’s letters one final time. I sat
remembering. In a few moments, I folded the
letters on their original creases, gently returned
them to their envelopes, and put them back in
their folder. I’ll let my children be the ones to
throw them away someday.
Featured Life
Enrichment Events
BY IRENE BROWN,
LIFE ENRICHMENT COORDINATOR
RAGS, OLDIES,
& SOME SURPRISES!
Thursday, August 7, 7:00 p.m.
in Fleming Center
Bill Rowland has been
playing and composing
music since the age of three. He is active in the American
Theatre Organ Society and has twice won the prestigious
Composition Contest at the Scott Joplin International
Ragtime Festival. Bill’s daughter, Jocelyn Rowland,
received a degree in violin performance from the
University of Tulsa and teaches music in the Broken Arrow
public schools and at Jana Jae’s Fiddle Camp. She has
also been a featured performer with several rock bands.
No reservations necessary. Campus shuttle reservations
needed by 5:00 p.m. on August 6.
AMY COTTINGHAM
Tuesday, August 12, 7:00 p.m.
in Fleming Center
Amy Cottingham sings,
composes, arranges,
transcribes, teaches and
performs classical and jazz music. With a Bachelor’s
degree in Piano Performance and a Master’s degree in
Orchestral Conducting from Oklahoma State University,
she has performed multiple solo concerts and traveled
around the world performing. She performs regularly
with the Signature Symphony and the Tulsa Symphony
Orchestra and has also been featured numerous times
at the Oklahoma Jazz Hall of Fame. Her program will
include jazz, tangos, improvisations and classical music.
No reservations necessary. Campus shuttle reservations
needed by 5:00 p.m. on August 11.
ENGINEERING & ARTISTRY:
PENSACOLA DAM & WILLARD STONE
Thursday, August 28, departing OMM at 8:00 a.m.
RSVP by August 11.
At a little over a mile long, the multi-arch Pensacola
Dam, which holds back the waters of Oklahoma’s Grand
Lake O’ the Cherokees, is one of the most impressive
sites in Oklahoma. The dam was built in the late 1930s
in 33 months, with over 3,000 workers taking part in the
massive construction project. We’ll enjoy a brief video in
the lovely Grand River Dam Authority Education Center
and a guided bus tour of the dam itself. Then we’ll drive
the beautiful winding road to Locust Grove where we’ll
refuel at the delicious buffet in the charming atmosphere
of the Country Cottage Restaurant. As we will learn in
the August 8 Speaking of Gilcrease presentation at OMM,
Willard Stone sculpted elegant, graceful figures in native
Oklahoma wood. Willard’s son Jason, himself chosen
Master of Artists of the Five Civilized Tribes Museum, will
welcome us to the quaint Willard Stone Museum, located
next to the family home. It features art by father and son,
as well as interesting mementoes of their creative process.
We’ll be back home by 3:00 p.m.
Note: Up to 100 yards of walking on hilly grass may be
required to get to the Willard Stone Museum entrance.
Also, a valid photo I.D is required for entrance to the dam.
Cost of the outing including lunch is $30.
A CELEBRATION OF GENERATIONS:
GRANDPARENTS DAY AT OMM
SAVE THE DATE & TELL THE FAMILY:
Sunday, September 7, 2014, 2:00-4:00 p.m.
Bring your grandchildren, great grandchildren,
a significant child in your life, or just yourself and a
childlike sense of fun for classic cars, a petting zoo,
the return of the RoundUp Boys Western Swing band,
and more!
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In the spirit of Christ,
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quality of life for seniors
by providing housing,
nutrition and health
care services that meet
the physical and spiritual
needs of each member.
Steve Dickie, CEO
918.346.6613
Health & Wellness Services
Matt Loyd
918.346.6625
Member Services
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918.346.6651
Contact us about living at
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Residential Living
Homes & Apartments
Cari Owens
918.346.6684
Assisted Living
Jacob Will
918.346.6630
Skilled Nursing
& Health Center
Paige Taliaferro
918.346.6623
OMM Campus (photography by Member Jerry Ehlers)