INSIDE THIS ISSUE August 2014 . Focus on Environment M anor Mirror Reflecting M anor Life TIN MAN SOCIETY 2 BRIGHTSTAR CARE 2 EDEN ASSOCIATES 3 CRESTWOOD LIBRARY 3 OMM NEIGHBORS 4 WELLNESS5 BIRTHDAYS5 TRANSITIONS5 GRANDPA JOHN 6 FEATURED EVENTS 7 BY DENNIS GRAHAM, VICE PRESIDENT OF OPERATIONS Safe Environment Goal of TFD & OMM Tulsa Fire Department visits the OMM campus. T he Tulsa Fire Department and Oklahoma Methodist Manor are working together to keep residents and staff safe. Tulsa Assistant Fire Marshal Captain Ray Evins was on campus July 8th and 9th to educate and train on fire prevention and evacuation. The evacuation drill took place at Crestwood where 55 members and 44 employees participated. The drill began with a presentation on the building’s safety features, fire door operation, escape routes, and instructions on where to gather outside the building for roll call. Members were educated about the safety of ‘sheltering in place’ and how to do that during a fire. This is a very common practice in buildings like Crestwood. With a total evacuation there is a risk of injury and taking this risk is not necessary for a small, localized fire. Members and staff were trained by TFD to determine when sheltering in place is appropriate and when a full evacuation is necessary. The Tulsa Fire Department will be on site in either event for direction and assistance. A program on Fire and Fall prevention was presented to over 150 residents campus-wide. The Fire Department has initiated this program because 1 out of 3 adults 65 and older fall each year. The number one cause of injury and death in this older population is from falls. In 2010, 2.3 million falls in this age group were treated in emergency rooms yet less than one half of the patients discussed falling with their doctors. Captain Evins commented on the two days’ events: “The program was well received by the residents with good turnout both days. I would like to commend the management at Methodist Manor for being proactive by training their staff in fire prevention and evacuation. I would also like to thank them for scheduling the program for the residents and helping us to provide some simple tips that can help them enjoy their retirement years. The residents should feel secure living at OMM where many safety features are built in and there is preparedness to keep everyone safe.” This education and evacuation event was part of OMM’s ongoing fire safety program. MM Hal and Dottie Bockelken Newest Members of The Tin Man Society BY CHARLENE FABIAN, VP DEVELOPMENT H al and Dottie were married 60 years when she died this past January. Dottie suffered from throat cancer but she didn’t want to burden anyone with her problems so her doctors and Hal were the only ones who knew she had the disease. They had decided to move to Oklahoma Methodist Manor while they could do it together. Hal and Dottie both grew up in the same Long Island, NY neighborhood, attended the same schools and church; but did not know each other until they both joined a young adults’ church club. They were married in 1954. Dottie had a successful career with AT&T. She retired in 1969; then went to college, graduating with highest honors. Hal, after several years in the army and college, had his career with CITGO. In 1974 Cities Service Company moved its headquarters from New York City to Tulsa where Hal retired in 1985. The couple enjoyed golf and bridge. They appreciated the performing arts and went to the opera (in Tulsa and Dallas), the ballet, symphony, and theater plays. They traveled extensively and the list of countries is long: Canada, Mexico, Europe, Israel, Egypt, China, plus visiting most of the USA and going on 14 cruises. When talking about their philanthropy, Hal recalls that Dottie was inclined to spontaneous and radical acts of charity. She also volunteered to help children and adults, teaching them to read. The Bockelkens wrote their first trust in 1995 and it was at that time they planned their charitable giving. They wanted to provide for their relatives of course, but also for things they enjoy and places that helped. When they moved to Crestwood, they added OMM in their trust. Hal said, “For us it seemed the proper thing to do … to provide sustaining support for people who will come to live here in the future.” Hal enjoys life. He plays golf and bridge, and has kept his subscriptions to the performing arts. He exercises at Spann every day and frequently attends the Life Enrichment events and trips. His approach to wellness is to stay involved. “OMM has been a good arrangement. We liked the NW exposure on our Crestwood apartment. With the big skyline and the sunsets it’s a little like being on a cruise ship.” Our gratitude to Hal and Dottie for providing this legacy gift and becoming members of the Tin Man Society. From now until November 1st anyone who tells us they have included OMM in their estate plans will be considered a Charter Member of the Tin Man Society. For more information about joining the Tin Man Society, please call Charlene Fabian at 918-346-6639. OMM WELCOMES BRIGHTSTAR AS HOME CARE PROVIDER A fter a search for a home health agency with sufficient size and strength to reliably deliver services to our residents and an agency whose quality of service is consistent with that of Oklahoma Methodist Manor, we are excited to say that we have found such a partner in BrightStar Care. The campus-based OMM agency closed August 1st and BrightStar assumed those services. This is a convenience for anyone who does not want to receive home care from an outside provider. PAGE 2 . MANOR MIRROR . AUGUST 2014 If you have questions related to BrightStar or Home Care services at Oklahoma Methodist Manor please contact Matthew Loyd, VP of Health and Wellness at (918) 346-6625 or [email protected]. OMM TRAINS 50 PEOPLE TO BE EDEN ASSOCIATES BY MATT LOYD, VP HEALTH & WELLNESS O n August 1, Oklahoma Methodist Manor graduated its 50th Certified Eden Associate! OMM began its journey with the Eden Alternative in 2013 by hosting our first Eden Associate training. Since that time, we have sent four staff members to become Eden Educators and sent representatives to attend the International Eden Alternative Conference. We are well on the way to becoming one of the Eden Alternative’s Registered Homes. More importantly, we have reached the halfway mark in our goal to have 100-percent of the caregiving staff certified as Eden Associates! What is the Eden Alternative? In a culture that typically views aging as a period of decline, the Eden Alternative philosophy asserts that no matter how old we are or what challenges we live with, life is about continuing to grow. Building on this new paradigm, it affirms that care is not a one-way street, but rather a collaborative partnership. All caregivers and care receivers are described as “care partners,” each an active participant in the balance of giving and receiving. Together, care partner teams strive to enhance well-being by eliminating the three plagues of loneliness, helplessness, and boredom. What does it mean to be a Certified Eden Associate? Changing lives for over twenty years, Certified Eden Associate Training is an exciting and challenging 3-day journey into the world of person-directed care. As the most widely practiced, comprehensive approach to persondirected care, Certified Eden Associate Training has been proven to offer practical tools, resources, and inspiration that empower individuals and teams to initiate and maintain effective change. For more information about the Eden Alternative or Oklahoma Methodist Manor’s plans, please contact Matthew Loyd, VP of Health and Wellness. CRESTWOOD HOME LIBRARY BY GAYLE TETER, CO-LIBRARIAN H ow do you define what your environment is, and the commonalities between all of the possible things that make up this environment? One example is the Campus OMM Book Club who enjoys getting together on the fourth Tuesday of each month at 7:00 p.m. in the Crestwood Theatre. We discuss agreed-upon reading list and what makes it fun is all of us have our own ideas about the book. This year in January we shared some of our favorite reads, and discussed FLIGHT BEHAVIOR, THE GUERNSEY LITERACY AND POTATO PEEL SOCIETY (a copy in the Crestwood Home Library) and The BOOK THIEF (it was interesting to compare this book with the movie). Our May meeting was a book review by our own Lynette Bennett Danskin. She presented FUNNY LADIES: 100 YEARS OF GREAT COMEDIENNES by Stephen M. Silverman. Lynette included the comediennes she knew and had worked with. We just had a very “lively” discussion in June on the book entitled “THE SNOW CHILD” by Eowyn Ivey. Picture Alaska, 1920: a brutal environment, the first snowfall, and a child made out of snow, who comes to life. This is a modern retelling of the Russian fairy tale. Phyllis Rhodes is our new Library Assistant at Crestwood. She will be helping Carolyn and myself keep organized. We are blessed to have our two OMM libraries and their created environments. PAGE 3 . MANOR MIRROR . FOCUS ON ENVIRONMENTAL WELLNESS OMM NEIGHBORS Helen Frymire (Crestwood) Helen Frymire grew up in a very small town in Texas. She and Bob Frymire met in Sterling City, Texas, which is eighty miles east of Odessa. The most exciting place in Sterling City was an unnamed café. It was here that Bob met this pretty young schoolteacher who had recently graduated from Texas Tech. Helen says he was the perfect husband. The couple lived in the sungate area of Texas and then more than 40 years in Tulsa. Helen started teaching in the Asbury preschool soon after the program began. She retired in 2000 as a regular teacher after twenty-nine years of service. John Westervelt, Helen’s friend of 40 years tells this story: “On a Thursday afternoon of the last day of school, Helen called to tell me that a three-year-old had left a gift with her for me, so I went by her house to pick it up. On the previous Saturday, the preschool had arranged a retirement party in Asbury’s parlor. As I stood on Helen’s driveway visiting with her and Bob, she began to tell me how touched she was with the outpouring of love from those who seemed to care that she had been a teacher most of her life. Bob, being the good husband that he is, looked at me and said, “Don’t you think we should apply for sainthood for Helen?” I agreed, so as a committee of two we declared her “Saint Helen.” Helen stood smiling for a while, accepting our verbal taunts before saying, “Put it to rest Bob, if you want any supper at this house tonight.” Sometimes women just don’t understand their men. Bob’s teasing words were the only way he knew to express his love for Helen, which is infinitely more than the love he had for the pretty young girl in the unnamed café in Sterling City.” Helen was widowed three years ago. She has two sons in Tulsa and one in Houston. Richard & Peggy Ziglar (Villas) Richard and Peggy have enjoyed 56 exciting years together. They both grew up in North Carolina, he in Winston-Salem, and she in Greenville, but did not meet until they both attended Atlantic Christian College (now Barton College) in Wilson, NC. They continued their studies at Brite Divinity School at Texas Christian University in Ft. Worth and married two days before graduation. Peggy’s degree was in Christian Education, and Richard’s studies prepared him for ordination into the ministry of the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ). Together, they served congregations in Richmond, VA, Wilson, NC, and Tyler, TX before coming to First Christian Church in Tulsa. He retired from the staff there in 1994 but is quick to point out that ministers never retire! Peggy worked as a general secretary and receptionist at Phillips Theological Seminary. In 1995, Richard founded the Northeast Active Timers (NEATs) and remains as the organization’s executive director. NEATs is a faith-based agency providing programs and services for senior adults, including a special focus on celebrations for centenarians. The Ziglars love to travel and consider cruises their favorite way to see the world. They have been on 36 cruises…so far! They also enjoy reading and visiting with friends and family. In fact, they entertained literally hundreds of guests during the 39 years they lived in their previous home on 47th Place. In addition, Richard especially has flair for decorating and at one point established Mr. Z’s Decorating Services in Tyler, TX. Richard and Peggy are the parents of a son and a daughter and have two grandchildren. PAGE 4 . MANOR MIRROR . AUGUST 2014 A REFLECTION ON EMOTIONAL WELLNESS BY KATIE COX, WELLNESS DIRECTOR W e are all connected to the environment. God created it all. He created the earth and everything that comes forth from it by his spoken word. The Word says that on the third day God said “…And the earth brought forth grass, the herb that yields seed according to its kind, and the tree that yields fruit, whose seed is in itself according to its kind. And God saw that it was good.” But man God created out of His creation from the very dirt. Man didn’t come along until the sixth day. On the day He created man God gave man the food in the garden as his to eat. The earth was bringing forth life before man arrived on the scene. The story goes on to talk about how God planted a garden eastward in Eden and made every tree to grow that was good for food. Again the earth/environment was producing life by the hand of God without the help of man. Then the story says that God put man in the Garden to tend and keep it. It would seem to me that the point of the story is that the earth can produce and grow on its own but man needs the earth to live. Not just for the food it produces but for the responsibility it gives us. When we are not good stewards of the earth it may hurt the earth but it will destroy man and the earth will heal. Understanding our roll in the environment is essential to our wellness. In God’s command to us for the earth He told us to be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and subdue it/take charge. When in charge it is important to understand the impact we have, not just see it as the opportunity to rule. The wrong rule can impact us in ways that were never intended. Take some time this month to meditate on environmental wellness. Think about it from a different perspective. Does the earth need us or do we need the earth? AUGUST BIRTHDAYS PAGE 5 . MANOR MIRROR . FOCUS ON ENVIRONMENTAL WELLNESS Grandpa John REMEMBERS SAVED LETTERS (2010) BY JOHN C. WESTERVELT I have file folders holding current records as well as archival ones. At age 82, I decided it was time to reduce my holdings so my children would not have so much to throw away someday. I came across a letter from my mother postmarked July 17, 1950. It was addressed to: Ensign John C. Westervelt USN Room 139 Bachelor Officer Quarter Treasure Island San Francisco, California I had just graduated from Oklahoma University in Electrical Engineering and was commissioned as an ensign in the navy. I was attending a threemonth naval electronic school before joining my naval destroyer for duty off of Korea. Mother wrote three pages about news at home in Oklahoma City. The fourth page contained words for her son. “The war news doesn’t sound at all good. It all seems so close this time because the boys on active duty are your friends and boys your age. We sure have made a mess of things if we can’t live peaceably with other nations. “I surely hope this is a short war episode, but you study hard to do your part well so if necessary you can do a good job doing your share. But don’t forget to learn how to take care of yourself. Remember to put your faith in God and not to ever lose that contact, then you can stand whatever PAGE 6 . MANOR MIRROR . AUGUST 2014 comes your way. Always do your job in a way you can be proud of, knowing you do not have to stand alone. Much love, Mother” I found a second letter from Mother postmarked February 18, 1951 addressed to: Ensign John C. Westervelt USN U S S Henry W Tucker DDR 875 Fleet Post Office San Francisco, California By now, my ship was operating off the coast of Korea. Mother wrote, “Today is another beautiful Sunday. Last week we had snow, eight inches all together...” “Your letters are so interesting, and it is good to have you feel so cheerful and finding much in life where you are. I always try to remember it isn’t our circumstances in life, but how we meet them that counts. We can find good in life always if we look for it. Keep looking and keep your head above water. God is still in heaven and all is right with the world. Lovingly, Mother” At the end of the day, I had a large sack of paper for the garbage can and a small sack for the shredder. I read my mother’s letters one final time. I sat remembering. In a few moments, I folded the letters on their original creases, gently returned them to their envelopes, and put them back in their folder. I’ll let my children be the ones to throw them away someday. Featured Life Enrichment Events BY IRENE BROWN, LIFE ENRICHMENT COORDINATOR RAGS, OLDIES, & SOME SURPRISES! Thursday, August 7, 7:00 p.m. in Fleming Center Bill Rowland has been playing and composing music since the age of three. He is active in the American Theatre Organ Society and has twice won the prestigious Composition Contest at the Scott Joplin International Ragtime Festival. Bill’s daughter, Jocelyn Rowland, received a degree in violin performance from the University of Tulsa and teaches music in the Broken Arrow public schools and at Jana Jae’s Fiddle Camp. She has also been a featured performer with several rock bands. No reservations necessary. Campus shuttle reservations needed by 5:00 p.m. on August 6. AMY COTTINGHAM Tuesday, August 12, 7:00 p.m. in Fleming Center Amy Cottingham sings, composes, arranges, transcribes, teaches and performs classical and jazz music. With a Bachelor’s degree in Piano Performance and a Master’s degree in Orchestral Conducting from Oklahoma State University, she has performed multiple solo concerts and traveled around the world performing. She performs regularly with the Signature Symphony and the Tulsa Symphony Orchestra and has also been featured numerous times at the Oklahoma Jazz Hall of Fame. Her program will include jazz, tangos, improvisations and classical music. No reservations necessary. Campus shuttle reservations needed by 5:00 p.m. on August 11. ENGINEERING & ARTISTRY: PENSACOLA DAM & WILLARD STONE Thursday, August 28, departing OMM at 8:00 a.m. RSVP by August 11. At a little over a mile long, the multi-arch Pensacola Dam, which holds back the waters of Oklahoma’s Grand Lake O’ the Cherokees, is one of the most impressive sites in Oklahoma. The dam was built in the late 1930s in 33 months, with over 3,000 workers taking part in the massive construction project. We’ll enjoy a brief video in the lovely Grand River Dam Authority Education Center and a guided bus tour of the dam itself. Then we’ll drive the beautiful winding road to Locust Grove where we’ll refuel at the delicious buffet in the charming atmosphere of the Country Cottage Restaurant. As we will learn in the August 8 Speaking of Gilcrease presentation at OMM, Willard Stone sculpted elegant, graceful figures in native Oklahoma wood. Willard’s son Jason, himself chosen Master of Artists of the Five Civilized Tribes Museum, will welcome us to the quaint Willard Stone Museum, located next to the family home. It features art by father and son, as well as interesting mementoes of their creative process. We’ll be back home by 3:00 p.m. Note: Up to 100 yards of walking on hilly grass may be required to get to the Willard Stone Museum entrance. Also, a valid photo I.D is required for entrance to the dam. Cost of the outing including lunch is $30. A CELEBRATION OF GENERATIONS: GRANDPARENTS DAY AT OMM SAVE THE DATE & TELL THE FAMILY: Sunday, September 7, 2014, 2:00-4:00 p.m. Bring your grandchildren, great grandchildren, a significant child in your life, or just yourself and a childlike sense of fun for classic cars, a petting zoo, the return of the RoundUp Boys Western Swing band, and more! PAGE 7 . MANOR MIRROR . FOCUS ON ENVIRONMENTAL WELLNESS Non-Profit Org. U.S. Postage PAID Tulsa, OK Permit No. 1957 4134 EAST 31st STREET TULSA, OK 74135 CHANGE SERVICE REQUESTED PHONE: 918.743.2565 www.ommtulsa.org In the spirit of Christ, Oklahoma Methodist Manor improves the quality of life for seniors by providing housing, nutrition and health care services that meet the physical and spiritual needs of each member. Steve Dickie, CEO 918.346.6613 Health & Wellness Services Matt Loyd 918.346.6625 Member Services Melanie Fugatt 918.346.6651 Contact us about living at Oklahoma Methodist Manor Residential Living Homes & Apartments Cari Owens 918.346.6684 Assisted Living Jacob Will 918.346.6630 Skilled Nursing & Health Center Paige Taliaferro 918.346.6623 OMM Campus (photography by Member Jerry Ehlers)
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