1. family and parenting
2. children

Parenting Bibliography
This bibliography lists the resources available at the William Potoroka Memorial Library at the
Addictions Foundation of Manitoba. While many of the resources available are related to
addiction, there are also resources about parenting styles, preventative parenting, etc.
Families Dealing with Addiction/Parents in Recovery:
Don't let your kids kill you: a survival guide for parents of drug and alcohol addicted
children. Author: Rubin, Charles
"When kids turn to substance abuse, parents also become victims as they watch their children transform into
irrational and antisocial individuals. This harrowing scenario finds parents buckling beneath the stress - often with
catastrophic consequences: divorce, career upsets, breakdowns...and worse. Don't let your kids kill you is a
landmark work that dares focus on the plight of the confused, distressed parent and not the erring child. It sets
aside any preconceived ideas that parents are to blame for what is essentially a full-blown global crisis. Drawing
on interviews with parents who've survived the heartbreak of kids on drugs, combined with his own experience,
Charles Rubin provides practical advice on how parents can help themselves and their families by first attending
to their own needs". Book jacket. This book defies the myth that parents must sacrifice themselves. Instead, it
shows them how to reclaim their power, balance, happiness, and lives!
Parenting - life without parole: surviving your child's addiction
Author: Willy
The Department of Health and Human Services estimates that there are 14 million Americans who use illegal
drugs and perhaps 17 million Americans who are alcoholics or abuse alcohol. Shrapnel from each abuser's
actions impact the lives of countless family members, friends, and acquaintances significantly raising the toll
attributable to this national crisis. While there are a variety of programs geared to addressing the needs of the
abuser and getting them on the road to recovery, too often the family and friends are left to fend for themselves.
"Parenting-Life Without Parole" provides both a practical and Christian based perspective on how those impacted
by the abuser's choices can learn to cope with the multitude of challenges they are facing.
The lowdown on families who get high: successful parenting for families affected by
addiction Author: O’Gorman, Patricia, and Diaz, Philip
Lowdown is an easy-to-use book on a complex subject: how to break the cycle of addiction in high-risk families.
Used in conjunction with the 12 steps AA, it shows that being a parent or caregiver and being in recovery can be a
win/win situation.
Art therapy activities : a practical guide for teachers, therapists and parents
Author: Stack, Pamela J.
The author provides step-by step instructions for over forty art activities focusing on important therapeutic
concepts includind awareness, acceptance, choices, self-pity, and conflict. The book is an excellent resource for
art therapists, teachers, social workers, and anyone wishing to encourage a child's creative expression.
Warning signs : a guidebook for parents : how to read the early signals of low selfesteem, addiction, and hidden violence in your kids
Author: Kelly, John. and Karem, Brian J.
Addiction counselor John Kelly has uncovered what he believes to be the common cause of all addictions and
destructive behavior: low self-esteem experienced during childhood or adolescence. In "Warning Signs, " Kelly
explores the causes of the underlying low self-esteem and alerts parents to the early warning signs that can signal
someone is on the road to addiction or violent behavior.
Talk it out: a parent's guide to kids and smoking
Distributor: Saskatchewan Health
Provides information for parents regarding their role in keeping children tobacco free, and tips for parents on how
to talk with their children about tobacco. It also includes a list of organizations and websites which provide further
information about tobacco prevention and cessation. A copy of this resource is sent home with all students as a
part of the TALK program. For additional copies contact
your local public health office.
Easy does it, mom: parenting in recovery
Author: Joy, Barbara
Every mom wants to succeed. Every child also wants to succeed. In Easy Does It, Mom, Barbara Joy provides
moms with positive encouragement, knowledge, and tools they can begin using immediately as they continue their
recovery and move toward being the best moms they can be. Joy relies on experts with degrees and experts with
"mom" behind their name. For more than ten years, Barbara Joy has worked with moms in recovery from
alcoholism and other addictions. She knows what works. Here she includes real-life stories and strategies from
the moms and children she works with. The reader is guided by a professional and encouraged and inspired by
moms who have "been there, done that." Because moms in recovery feel more safe and secure in a familiar and
consistent environment, each chapter begins with an encouraging saying and ends with a writing activity plus
between four to eight clear and concise keys are presented in the chapter - an at-a-glance tools reference section.
Bullying:
The Bully, the bullied, and the bystander: from pre-school to high school: how parents
and teachers can help break the cycle of violence
Author: Coloroso, Barbara
This is an extremely helpful book that both parents and teachers can use to deal with bullying, an aspect of school
that the author feels "is a life-and-death issue that we ignore at our children's peril." Staring with a bottom-line
assumption that "bullying is a learned behavior," Coloroso (Parenting Through Crisis) wonderfully explains not
only the ways that the bully, the bullied and the bystander are "three characters in a tragic play" but also how "the
scripts can be rewritten, new roles created, the plot changed." For each of the three "characters," she breaks
down the behavior that defines each role, analyzes the specific ways that each character can have their behaviors
changed for the better, and suggests a range of methods that parents and educators can use to identify bullying
behavior and deal with it effectively. The book also provides excellent insights into behaviors related to but not
always recognized as bullying, such as cliques, hazing, taunting and sexual bullying. And while there have been
numerous books about bullies, this volume is perhaps best for its sections on the "bystander," the person whose
behavior is too often overlooked or excused. Coloroso's emphasis on aikido-related defensive skills do not
sufficiently address the issue of what a child is to do when physical force is necessary to stop a bully, but overall
this is an important look at the ways that bullied children can affirm their dignity and self-worth.
FASD / Substance Abuse During Pregnancy:
Living with FASD : a guide for parents
Author: Graefe, Sara
One percent of North Americans suffer from FASD… It's no wonder that this book is a Canadian bestseller with
over 40,000 copies sold! Bringing up-to-date and comprehensive information about FASD, this edition includes
the latest Institute of Medicine diagnostic criteria and terms, special considerations for infants and adolescents,
parent needs, and an expanded resource list.
Simon says... : a book about Fetal Alcohol Syndrome for kids, parents & teachers
Author: McFarlane, Heather.
This book is intended to help kids, who may or may not have FASD to understand more about the condition.
ADD/ADHD:
Life on the edge: parenting a child with ADD/ADHD
Author: Spohn, David
Life with a child with attention deficit disorder (ADD) or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) may be
tough, but take it from one who's been there: It can also be full of all the love, humor, and light that a parent might
hope for. In this gentle, lighthearted, down-to-earth book, David Spohn uses his own experiences to help others
make it through the stresses and chaos and heartbreak that raising a child with ADD/ADHD can entail-and to help
them come through whole and happy and sane. From the new vocabulary and friends who come along with a
diagnosis of ADD/ADHD, to questions touching on everything from Ritalin to sibling rivalry to schooling to going
out in public, Life on the Edge offers honest, practical, caring support-and a healthy dose of good humor-for
parents of children with ADD/ADHD.
Different Approaches to Parenting:
Hold on to your kids: why parents need to matter more than peers
Author: Neufeld, Gordon and Mate, Gabor
A psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting issues joins forces with a
physician and bestselling author to tackle one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time -peers replacing parents in the lives of our children. Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation,
which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and
wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the
school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful
explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage
gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an
escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once
understood, it becomes self-evident -- as do the solutions. Hold On to Your Kids will restore parenting to its
natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. The concepts, principles and
practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kidswill empower parents to satisfy their children's inborn need to
find direction by turning towards a source of authority, contact and warmth. Something has changed. One can
sense it, one can feel it, just not find the words for it. Children are not quite the same as we remember being. They
seem less likely to take their cues from adults, less inclined to please those in charge, less afraid of getting into
trouble. Parenting, too, seems to have changed. Our parents seemed more confident, more certain of themselves
and had more impact on us, for better or for worse. For many, parenting does not feel natural. Adults through the
ages have complained about children being less respectful of their elders and more difficult to manage than
preceding generations, but could it be that this time it is for real?-- from Hold On to Your Kids From the Hardcover
edition.
Childhood unbound: the powerful new parenting approach that gives our 21st century
kids the authority, love, and listening they need
Author: Taffel, Ron
Dr. Ron Taffel, one of the country's most sought-after child-rearing experts, draws on decades of counseling
experience and extensive conversations with parents nationwide to offer an original and inspiring analysis of the
distinctive challenges parents face in raising children today. He also introduces a breakthrough approach for
guiding kids -- from children to teens -- in ways that bring out the best in both kids and parents in these twentyfirst-century times. With warmth and clarity, Taffel, who is himself a parent struggling with these issues, helps us
to understand our sons and daughters in an entirely new way: as a distinctive "free-est" generation, born to the
first generation of "post-baby boomer" parents and the products of a decades-long cultural sea change that
intensified in the nineties. As a result, kids of all ages are now a bundle of contradictions: they exude entitlement,
back talk shockingly, negotiate endlessly, worship celebrity, do ten things at once, conduct independent lives
online, and engage in high-risk behavior at younger ages. Yet, they are also far more open with their parents and
each other than kids in prior generations, are strikingly generous and empathetic, and care deeply about ethical
issues. In addition, their high-speed multitasking is preparing them for the demands of the future. The key
question, then, is how to encourage the good while steering them away from the bad. Taffel believes today's
parents, having lived through the beginning phases of the same social changes, are uniquely qualifiedto bring out
kids' best -- and he shows you how. Using a wealth of examples, he walks parents through innovative methods to
get children's and teens' attention, to set limits they will respect, and to engage them in meaningful conversation
to provide the guidance they need. He also instructs on how to rebuild supportive community around us. His
inspiring analysis and expert guidance will be embraced as the authoritative new approach to raising their kids
that parents have been searching for.
Parenting from the inside out: how a deeper self-understanding can help you raise
children who thrive
Author: Siegel, Daniel J. and Hartzell, Mary
In Parenting from the Inside Out child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood educator Mary
Hartzell, M. Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences actually do shape the way that we parent.
Drawing upon stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal
relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a
deeper understanding of their own life stories that will help them raise compassionate and resilient children. In
this book, Siegel and Hartzell present a unique perspective on the "art and science" of building nurturing
relationships with our children. Born out of a series of workshops for parents that combined Siegel's cutting-edge
research on how communication impacts brain development with Hartzell's thirty years of experience as a child
development specialist and parent educator, Parenting from the Inside Out guides parents through creating the
necessary foundations for a loving and secure relationship with their children.
One Parent / Blended Families:
Parenting on your own: a handbook for one-parent families
Author: Manitoba Women's Advisory Council
The Manitoba Women's Advisory Council advises the Manitoba government on issues concerning the status of
women. This guide is to advise single parents of their rights and to list the services and supports that are available
in the community.
Vicki Lansky's divorce book for parents : helping your children cope with divorce and
its aftermath
Author: Lansky, Vicki
No matter what their age, children whose parents are divorcing need reassurance, security and love to get
through this painful period. Drawing on her own and others' experiences, as well as the expertise of professionals,
Lansky gives parents age-specific advice on what reactions to expect from their kids and tips to cope with divorce
realities.
Because life goes on: helping children and youth live with separation and divorce: a
guide for parents
Author: Joubert, Natacha, 1957- , Guy, Kathleen and Canada. Health Canada
This publication is intended to reach out to Canadian families in need of information and resources to help their
children to live through the process of separation and divorce. It is also designed to assist professionals in such
field as social services, health, justice and education, in their work with children and their parents.
Parenting Pre-Teens and Teenagers:
Parents, teens, and boundaries
Author: Bluestein, Jane
How you set boundaries with your teens is among the most important aspects of your parent-child relationship.
Unfortunately, this ability does not come automatically with parenthood. Here Jane Bluestein, a former teacher
and counselor, looks at 20 relationship-building techniques all parents can use to set limits with their teens. You'll
learn the essential arts of loving, motivating, accepting, negotiating, respecting, acknowledging, communicating,
supporting, empowering, trusting . . . and much more.
These practical strategies for boundary setting will enable you to avoid conflict, resolve problems and establish a
foundation of mutual love and respect. As a result of learning to set healthy boundaries, you may actually begin to
enjoy your children's teen years!
Setting boundaries with your adult children: six steps to hope and healing for struggling
parents
Author: Bottke, Allison
This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will
help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones.
Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage—and
how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text. A tough–love
book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children will
empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to help parents regain
control in their homes and in their lives.
Video Game Overuse:
Video games & your kids: how parents stay in control
Author: Cash, Hilarie and McDaniel, Kim
Video Games & Your Kids is for parents who are worried that their children may be spending too much time
playing video games. Based on research and the authors' clinical experience, the book explains what gaming
addiction is, how much gaming is too much, and the affects gaming has on the body and brain. The authors give
gaming advice on each stage of life; birth-2 years, ages 2-6, elementary school years, adolescence, and adult
children still living at home. Where there is a problem, the authors provide parents with tools that will help the
them successfully set appropriate limits for their children.
Video game play and addiction: a guide for parents
Author: Dini, Kourosh
This book will help parents to gain an understanding of the allure of video games, see how video games can
provide positive growth, learn what to consider in assessing for addiction or problematic play, understand the draw
of community and social networking within game worlds, consider the future of society and video games.
Targeted to parents who want to know what's safe and what isn't for their children, Video Game Play and
Addiction contains the information you need to help you navigate the twenty-first century world of video games.
Prevention:
Parenting for prevention
Author: Wilmes, David J.
Here's a book that every adult concerned about kids will want to read. The author convincingly argues that parents
are the ones who not only can but also must take the lead in preventing their kids from getting mixed up with
alcohol and other drugs. Parenting for Prevention shows them exactly what to do and how to do it. The theme is
prevention, but the approach is thoroughly positive. You'll find no threats or warnings here, no long list of don'ts.
Instead, this book says, in effect: If you really want to prevent your kids from getting involved with alcohol or other
drugs, here's the way to do it. Teach them these life skills.
Preventing drug use among children and adolescents : a research-based guide for
parents, educators, and community leaders
Corporate: NIDA
Presents the updated prevention principles, an overview of program planning, and critical first steps for those
learning about prevention. This shortened edition can serve as an introduction to research-based prevention for
those new to the field of drug abuse prevention.
Keeping youth drug-free: a guide for parents, grandparents, elders, mentors, and other
caregivers
Producer: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
This booklet is divided into five sections to address reasons young people give for using marijuana, alcohol, and
tobacco: to feel grown up, to fit in, to relax and feel better, to take risks, and to satisfy curiosity.
Keeping youth drug-free provides caregivers with guidelines to help them do just so. It is targeted to parents and
guardians of 7- to 13 year olds, but the materials and exercises can also work for other age groups.
How to raise a drug-free kid: the straight dope for parents
Author: Califano, Joseph A. Jr.
The book offers advice and information on how to prepare your child for the crucial decision-making moments and
on many of the most daunting parenting topics, including: When and how to talk to your kids about drugs and
alcohol How to respond when your kid asks "Did you do drugs?" How to know when your child is most at risk
How to prepare your teen for the freedoms and perils of college.
Understanding inhalant users: an overview for parents, educators, and clinicians
Corporate: Texas Commission on Alcohol and Drug Abuse
Various areas of research related to inhalants are summarized and general guidance in dealing with this complex
and urgent problem is provided. Topics include (1) "Characteristics of Inhalants," which reviews chemicals found
in inhalants and common modes of administration; (2) "Defining Inhalant Use and Abuse," which includes
epidemiology, drug effects, and chemical categories; (3) "Trends in Inhalant Prevalence," which addresses Texas
school students; (4) "Classifying the Inhalant User and Abuser," which explains user-based categories and userpattern categories; (5) "Causes and Consequences of Inhalant Use," which reviews correlates and cues to
inhalant use; (6) "Effects of Inhalant Use," which covers general, acute, and chronic effects and needed research;
(7) "Treatment of Inhalant Users," which reviews problems in outreach, screening, diagnosis, detoxification, life
skills, peers, and family treatment; (8) "Prevention of Inhalant Use," which reviews a number of problems to be
overcome in planning prevention efforts; (9) "Research Issues in Inhalant Use," which presents issues specific to
inhalant use; and (10) "Summary of Inhalant Issues." Brief, relevant articles are presented in boxes in various
chapters. Appendix A provides a table of "Characteristics of Inhalant Users" with corresponding research
references.
Preventing inhalant abuse: resources for parents, community members, and youth
Corporate: Colorado Inhalant Abuse Program
This manual includes a number of resources for trainers who lead groups in inhalant abuse prevention
Kids & gangs: what parents and educators need to know
Author: Lawson, Ann W.
Audio-Video:
Surviving the Teenage Brain (DVD) – CBC The Nature of Things (2012)
Throw away all of your preconceived ideas about the behaviour and nature of teenagers! This Nature of Things
documentary delves deep into the science of the teenage brain to discover evolution's masterpiece. The film
combines cutting-edge scientific research, YouTube clips of outrageous teen behaviour and a graphic-novel
approach to reveal new research on the immense power and potential of the teen brain. Find out how these allimportant years nurture the judgment, adaptation and innovation that ensure the survival of the species. In the
past, when we put the words selfish, reckless, irrational, irritable and impossible together we could only be
describing one thing: the teenager – that odd creature that can test the limits of our reasoning skills and patience.
But what if teenagers are doing exactly as nature intended? Surviving:) The Teenage Brain looks at this critical
developmental stage from a scientific and evolutionary point of view and challenges conventional thinking about
the adolescent years.
Parenting for prevention: how to stop enabling and start empowering kids (1997)
Producer: Hazelden
You'll learn: - What parental enabling is and how it can hurt your child - How to identify some common parental
behaviors that lead to enabling - Whether you might be enabling your child - How to empower your child.
Parenting for prevention: how to set limits for kids (1997)
Producer: Hazelden
You'll learn: - How to set clear limits - How to set reasonable limits according to age, trust level, and basic needs
- Why limits should be set in advance and checked for compliance - How to respond when your child tests the
limits.
Parenting for prevention: how to enforce consequences when kids violate limits (1997)
Producer: Hazelden
You'll learn: - How to enforce consequences that are reasonable and related to the violation - How to enforce
consequences calmly, respectfully, and without anger - What to avoid when enforcing consequences.
Parenting for prevention: communicating : how to confront kids when they're doing
wrong, how to encourage kids when they're doing right (1997)
Producer: Hazelden
You'll learn: - To identify some ineffective communication styles of parents - How to communicate effectively with
your child through active listening - How to confront your child's negative behavior - How to encourage your
child's positive behaviour.
Parenting for prevention: how to teach kids to handle anger without violence (1997)
Producer: Hazelden
You'll learn how to teach your child to use the A-B-C-D method to handle anger: - Be AWARE of angry feelings BACK OFF and sort out what is really happening - CHECK OUT CHOICES and the CONSEQUENCES of each
choice - DEDIDE AND DO the safest thing.
Parenting for prevention: how to teach kids to resolve conflicts without violence (1997)
Producer: Hazelden
You'll learn how to teach your child to use the 3 T's method for resolving conflicts: 1. Think about the conflict 2.
Talk about the conflict 3. Try to work it out.
Alcohol and the teenage brain: a video guide for parents and professionals [DVD] (2004)
Producer: Human Relations Media, Inc.
This no-nonsense, straightforward video presents the latest research about how alcohol impairs the growing
adolescent brain. The context is delivered by neuroscientist and researcher Scott Swartzwelder Ph.D. of Duke
University whose groundbreaking research will be a wake up call for parents, school administrators and substance
abuse professionals who want to learn more about the damaging effects of alcohol on teens. Swartzwelder
explains that ten years ago researchers used to believe that the brain was finished developing at birth. Now
scientists know that the brain is growing and developing through adolescence and into one’s early twenties. The
research has further shown that adolescents experimenting with alcohol and binge drinking are literally putting
their futures at risk by compromising the full potential of their brains to learn, conceptualize and prepare for
college and the workplace.
Alcohol and the teenage brain: a video guide for parents and professionals [DVD] (2004)
Producer: Human Relations Media, Inc.
This no-nonsense, straightforward video presents the latest research about how alcohol impairs the growing
adolescent brain. The context is delivered by neuroscientist and researcher Scott Swartzwelder Ph.D. of Duke
University whose groundbreaking research will be a wake up call for parents, school administrators and substance
abuse professionals who want to learn more about the damaging effects of alcohol on teens. Swartzwelder
explains that ten years ago researchers used to believe that the brain was finished developing at birth. Now
scientists know that the brain is growing and developing through adolescence and into one’s early twenties. The
research has further shown that adolescents experimenting with alcohol and binge drinking are literally putting
their futures at risk by compromising the full potential of their brains to learn, conceptualize and prepare for
college and the workplace.
Setting rules and limits [videorecording] (1995)
Producer: Hazeldon
This video teaches parents how to create or re-establish boundaries and rules. It addresses how to set limits,
establish consequences, and enforce rules. Setting Rules and Limits also demonstrates how to set personal limits
and act as a good role model for children.
Spotting substance abuse in teens : a video guide for parents & teachers
[Videorecording] (2005)
Distributor: GWC,Inc.
For parents, educators or bosses, this video presents things to watch for that indicate drug and alcohol use in
teenagers. Viewers learn to recognize the signs and are shown what decisions have to be made and what their
next step should be.
Being aware, taking care : information guide for parents, counsellors, youth agencies,
teachers and police : addressing the dangers of street life and exploitation of youth in
the sex trade.
Author: Madsen, Colette,
Includes 2 video tapes and 3 guides in 1 binder
Designed to provide parents, teachers, counsellors, youth workers, police, youth and community members with
information, ideas and resources for developing short and long term strategies to address the sexual exploitation
of children and youth in our communities. Any part of the guides can be copied and distributed. In addition, each
guide contains specially designed pages for use as handouts and overheads.
**The following books are recommended for parents and
caregivers, but are not available at the AFM library. Check with
your local public library or book store. Most can also be
ordered online through Amazon.ca
Drugs Know the Facts Cut Your Risks the Information Book
Published by: Addiction Prevention Centre
This new book, with more than 190 pages, contains information on the substances, their effects, risks associated
with their consumption and the laws in Canada. It provides a national picture of substance and presents statistics
for the whole country. In addition, it offers the details of aid resources for every provinces and territories. The
book, in color, contains a lot of illustrations and boards. (Available at Chapters).
The Romance of Risk
Author: Lynn E. Ponton
Dr. Lynn Ponton has devoted her clinical practice to a particular community—teenagers in trouble. Whether these
kids are struggling with peers, experimenting with drugs, stealing cars, or having unprotected sex, they have
something in common: they are all involved in unhealthy risk-taking. And their parents are scared. "How did my
child get involved in this dangerous situation?" they ask. "And what can I do?"Their fears are justified: today's
teens have moreopportunities for taking dangerous risks than ever before. But in 'The Romance of Risk,' Dr.
Ponton refutes the traditional idea that risk-taking is primarily an angry power struggle with parents—so-called
teenage rebellion—and re-defines it as a potentially positive testing process whereby challenge and risk are the
primary tools adolescents use to find out who they are and determine who they will become.This new perspective
is revealed in a series of mesmerizing tales about individual adolescents and their families. Among others, we
meet Jill, a 13-year-old thrill-seeking runaway; Hannah, a privileged daughter of suburbia who suffers from
anorexia; and Joe, a high school senior with a serious drinking problem. Through these stories, we come to
understand Dr. Ponton's startling observation that teenagers must confront and experience challenge and risk
along the path to self-discovery.For adolescents, the powerful allure of the adult world is equaled only by the fear
of failing to find a place in it. Parents can ease that transition into adulthood, however, by promoting healthy risktaking so that dangerous options will be avoided.In 'The Romance of Risk,' parents will learn how they can begin
to understand rather than fear adolescent risk-taking, and how to communicate with their children about it. After
all, teenagers will always romanticize risk. But with the support and guidance of parents and other adults, odds
are the risks they take will be the right ones.
Why Do They Act That Way? A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your
Teen
Author: David Walsh, Ph. D
In this national bestseller, acclaimed, award-winning psychologist Dr. David Walsh explains exactly what happens
to the human brain on the path from childhood into adolescence and adulthood. Revealing the latest scientific
findings in easy-to-understand terms, Dr. Walsh shows why moodiness, quickness to anger and to take risks,
miscommunication, fatigue, territoriality, and other familiar teenage behavior problems are so common -- all are
linked to physical changes and growth in the adolescent brain.
Why Do They Act That Way? is the first book to explain the changes in teens' brains and show parents how to use
this information to understand, communicate with, and stay connected to their kids. Through real-life stories, Dr.
Walsh makes sense of teenagers' many mystifying, annoying, and even outright dangerous behavioral difficulties
and provides realistic solutions for dealing with everyday as well as severe challenges. Dr. Walsh's techniques
include, among others: sample dialogues that help teens and parents talk civilly and constructively with each
other, behavioral contracts, and Parental Survival Kits that provide practical advice for dealing with issues like
curfews, disrespectful language and actions, and bullying. With this arsenal of strategies, parents can help their
kids learn to control impulses, manage erratic behavior, cope with their changing bodies, and, in effect, develop a
second brain.
Too Safe for Their Own Good, How Risk and Responsibility Help Teens to Thrive
Author: Michael Ungar, PhD.
Canadian children are safer now than at any other time in history. So why are we so fearful for them? When
they’re young, we drive them to playdates, fill up their time with organized activity, and cocoon them from every
imaginable peril. We think we are doing what’s best for them. But as they grow into young adults and we continue
to manage their lives, running interference with teachers and coaches, we are, in fact, unwittingly stunting them.
Internationally respected social worker and family therapist Michael Ungar tells us why our mania to keep our kids
safe is causing us to do the opposite: put them in harm’s way. By continuing to protect them from failure and
disappointment, many of our kids are missing out on the “risk-taker’s advantage,” the benefits that come from
experiencing manageable amounts of danger. In Too Safe for Their Own Good, Ungar inspires parents to recall
their own childhoods and the lessons they learned from being risk-takers and responsibility-seekers, much to the
annoyance of their own parents. He offers the support parents need in setting appropriate limits and provides
concrete suggestions for allowing children the opportunity to experience the rites of passage that will help them
become competent, happy, thriving adults.
Troubled Transplants
Author: Richard Delaney, Ph.D., Frank R. Kunstal, Ed.D.
Caring for troubled adoptive/foster care children can be both harrowing and heroic. Many of today's foster and
adopted children come from backgrounds where they experience not only the loss of previous caregivers, but
have also suffered from abuse, sexual exploitation, or neglect. Individuals who invite these children into their
homes often find themselves in a therapeutic role that can tax and exhaust. Troubled Transplants focuses on
these children, their backgrounds, and their deleterious impact on the interaction and environment with the foster
or adoptive family. The authors provide suggestions about behavioral roots and practical strategies to address
and improve these issues.
We Generation Raising Socially Responsible Kids
Author: Michael Ungar, PhD.
Wouldn’t it be nice if your child committed herself to doing a simple act of kindness every day? As today’s culture
seems to grow more self-centered and obsessed with “me,” Dr. Michael Ungar refreshingly points the way to
raising “we” thinkers. Perhaps most inspiring about Ungar’s findings: today’s kids are eager to help out and be
noticed. What they need, though, is compassion, encouragement, and attentiveness to their most important
connections—those made at home. By recounting the inspiring stories of his work with families, Ungar reveals
how the emotional bond kids crave and the support adults provide can help our children realize their full potential.
Filled with practical tips, this guide will inspire every child and adult to be their best, most giving self.
Emotionally Intelligent Parenting, How to Raise a Self-Disciplined, Responsible, Socially
Skilled Child
Author: Maurice J. Elias, Ph.D., Steven E. Tobias, Psy.D., and Brian S. Friedlander, Ph.D
Have you, as a parent, ever found yourself treating your children in a way you would never tolerate from someone
else? The authors of Emotionally Intelligent Parenting call for a new Golden Rule: Do unto your children as you
would have other people do unto your children. And most important, they show us how to live by it. Based upon
extensive research, firsthand experience, and case studies, Emotionally Intelligent Parenting breaks the mold of
traditional parenting books by taking into account the strong role of emotions -- those of parents and children -- in
psychological development. With this book, parents will learn how to communicate with children on a deeper,
more gratifying level and how to help them successfully navigate the intricacies of relating to others. The authors
take the five basic principles of Daniel Goleman's best-seller, Emotional Intelligence, and explain how they can be
applied to successful parenting. To this end, the book offers suggestions, stories, dialogues, activities, and a
special section of Sound EQ Parenting Bites to help parents use their emotions in the most constructive ways,
focusing on such everyday issues as sibling rivalry, fights with friends, school situations, homework, and peer
pressure. In the authors' extensive experience, children respond quickly to these strategies, their self-confidence
is strengthened, their curiosity is piqued, and they learn to assert their independence while developing their ability
to make responsible choices.
Get Out of My Life But First Could you Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall
Author: Anthony E. Wolf
When Anthony E. Wolf's witty and compassionate guide to raising adolescents was first published, its amusing
title and fresh approach won it widespread admiration. Beleaguered parents breathed sighs of relief and gratitude.
Now Dr. Wolf has revised and updated his bestseller to tackle the changes of the past decade. He points out that
while the basic issues of adolescence and the relationships between parents and their children remain much the
same, today's teenagers navigate a faster, less clearly anchored world. Wolf's revisions include a new chapter on
the Internet, a significantly modified section on drugs and drinking, and an added piece on gay teenagers.
Although the rocky and ever-changing terrain of contemporary adolescence may bewilder parents, Get Out of My
Life gives them a great road map.
The Teen Whisperer
Author: Mike Linderman
Mike Linderman is a teen therapist unlike any other. A real-life cowboy, he wakes up at the crack of dawn, works
the cattle on his ranch, and then counsels some of the country's most troubled teens, approaching them with a
unique blend of down-home honesty, straight-talk discipline, and pure intention that is rarely found in a therapist's
office. Most of the teens Mike treats are angry, abused, violent, and dangerous, yet despite their difficult pasts, he
has achieved extraordinary success with them, helping to turn their lives around and earning him the nickname
the "Teen Whisperer."
In this book, he shares the secrets behind his success with parents everywhere, demonstrating how his regimen
of hard work, integrity, and effective communication has turned seriously at-risk kids into loving, well-balanced,
and productive teens. More than just a plan to rein in bad behavior, The Teen Whisperer deconstructs the
emotional barriers that adolescence has placed between you and your child, helping you work with teens on their
level—instead of simply treating them as subordinates. With this straightforward and open perspective, both you
and your teen will learn to offer each other mutual respect and kindness, as you work together to heal the troubled
hearts of your family.
Hey Mom, I’m Home, Again.
Author: Monica Lauen O’Kane
Addresses the growing phenomenon of older children living at home and related family issues of money, social
expectations, courtesy, maturity, and privacy, and discusses the experiences of adults who return home from lack
of money, disillusionment, or drug problems.
How to Talk, So Teens Will Listen & How to Listen So Teens Will Talk
Author: Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
The renowned #1 New York Times bestselling authors share their advice and expertise with parents and teens in
this accessible, indispensable guide to surviving adolescence. Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish transformed
parenting with their breakthrough, bestselling books Siblings Without Rivalry and How to Talk So Kids Will Listen
& Listen So Kids Will Talk. Now, they return with this essential guide that tackles the tough issues teens and
parents face today. Filled with straightforward advice and written in their trademark, down-to-earth style sure to
appeal to both parents and teens, this all-new volume offers both innovative, easy-to-implement suggestions and
proven techniques to build the foundation for lasting relationships. From curfews and cliques to sex and drugs, it
gives parents the tools to help their children safely navigate the often stormy years of adolescence.
Kids are Worth It
Author: Barbara Coloroso
This bestselling guide rejects "quick-fix" solutions and focuses on helping kids develop their own self-discipline by
owning up to their mistakes, thinking through solutions, and correcting their misdeeds while leaving their dignity
intact. Barbara Coloroso shows these principles in action through dozens of examples -- from sibling rivalry to
teenage rebellion; from common misbehaviors to substance abuse and antisocial behavior. She also explains how
to parent strong-willed children, effective alternatives to time-outs, bribes, and threats, and how to help kids
resolve disputes and serious injustices such as bullying. Filled with practical suggestions for handling the ordinary
and extraordinary tribulations of growing up, kids are worth it! helps you help your children grow into responsible,
resilient, resourceful adults -- not because you tell them to, but because they want to.
Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles
Author: Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
End Those Power Struggles and Begin Connecting with Your Child. Noted family educator Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
struck a national chord with her bestselling Raising Your Spirited Child. Now she hits upon another crucial
parenting topic: coping with the everyday challenges of disciplining your child, while understanding the issues
behind his or her behavior. In Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles, she offers unique approaches to solving the
daily, and often draining, power struggles between you and your child. Kurcinka views these conflicts as rich
opportunities to teach your child essential life skills, like how to deal with strong emotions and problem solve. With
her successful strategies, you'll be able to identify the trigger situations that set off these struggles and get to the
root of the emotions and needs of you and your child.
Parent’s Guide for Suicide and Depressed Teens: Help for Recognizing if a Child is in
Crisis and What to do about it
Author: Kate Williams
Drawing from personal experience, Kate Williams provides support for parents seeking help for their teen .
Williams helps parents recognize the signs of a child in crisis, how to find immediate and effective help, and how
to deal with ongoing adolescent issues.
Parenting on your Own Handbook
Published by: MB Women’s Advisory Council
Parenting on Your Own: A Handbook for One-Parent Families (tenth edition, 2012) is available through the
Manitoba Government, and lists services and supports in Manitoba that are of interest to one-parent families. It is
an excellent resource for anyone accessing services in Manitoba, and includes information about services related
to: Aboriginal Services, Abuse, Child Care, Education, Training and Employment, Financial Help and Stretching
the Dollar, Health Care and Disability Services, Housing, Legal, Recreation and Wellness, Services for Newcomer
Immigrants, Support for Families.
Parenting with Wit and Wisdom in times of Chaos and Loss
Author: Barbara Coloroso
Bestselling parenting author, Barbara Coloroso, tackles the question of how to parent when life is not smooth.
When tragedy or trauma invades daily life. Whether it be a small crisis or a major disaster, Barbara looks at how
we as parents can best comfort and nurture our children, and ourselves, as we navigate through the inevitable
suffering, adversity, chaos, and losses in our lives. Barbara shares her own experiences, along with others, to
illustrate the importance of optimistic parenting during these times. Along with the crises encountered by most
families in their daily lives, Barbara's own family has experienced the trauma of a child being diagnosed with
cancer. As Barbara says: 'Life is not fair. Life hurts. Life is good'. The T.A.O. theory of successful parenting during
difficult times is introduced: time, affection and optimism. Concentrating on these three factors during difficult
times is the key to good parenting, says Barbara Coloroso.
Remarried with Children
Author: Barbara LeBey
It's the most daunting task many parents will ever face: bringing two growing families together into one brand new
marriage. But even though statistics show that most remarriages are at high risk--especially when there are kids
involved--more and more people are learning how to make them work and more and more kids are coming out of
them with their psyches and souls intact. This honest and hopeful book looks at those successes--and at some
failures--to show what they have in common: ten essential secrets that are at the heart of a healthy blended
family. As a stepparent with six children in a blended family, Barbara LeBey draws on her own family's hard-won
success, as well as on extensive interviews and new research to show how to navigate the stresses, sticking
points, pitfalls and perils most couples don't even anticipate. Starting with her first controversial secret--that the
new marriage comes first, even before the demands of the children--LeBey debunks prevalent stepfamily myths
and anticipates common traps. (Among them, money issues, warring stepsiblings, and destructive exes.) A strong
advocate for children (including how to guard against fade-out parenting), she also suggests ways that in-laws,
schools, and the legal system itself could provide better support for blended families. REmarried with Children is
an expert, compassionate, down-to-earth book to turn to over and over again for advice, support and sanity.
7 (Seven) Habits of Highly Effective Families
Author: Stephen R. Covey
In his first major work since The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Steven R. Covey presents a practical and
philosophical guide to solving the problems--large and small, mundane and extraordinary--that confront all families
and strong communities. By offering revealing anecdotes about ordinary people as well as helpful suggestions
about changing everyday behavior, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families shows how and why to have family
meetings, the importance of keeping promises, how to balance individual and family needs, and how to move from
dependence to interdependence. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families is an invaluable guidebook to the
welfare of families everywhere.
Teenagers with ADD: A Parents’ Guide
Author: Chris A. Zeigler Dendy, M.S.
This book discusses typical troubling behaviours, provides perspectives for parents of diagnosed teens, and
assists other parents in determining whether ADD is affecting their child. Hallmark characteristics of the disorder
and methods for overcoming these difficulties are described. Throughout are the voices of teens, parents,
educators and professionals who describe the peaks and valleys of life with ADD, providing insight, hope, support,
and advice for successfully navigating the teenage years.
Tired of Yelling (Teaching our Children to Resolve Conflict)
Authors: Lyndon D. Waugh, M.D. with Letitia Sweitzer
In Tired Of Yelling, renowned family psychiatrist Lyndon D. Waugh offers the solution for more peaceful homes
and classrooms, offering parents the lifelong gift of teaching their children the most valuable lesson they can ever
learn: how to get along with other people. Dr. Waugh's simple fifteen-step model shows parents how to teach their
children to: assess their emotion and gauge its intensity; be angry while behaving well; listen actively; admit fault;
brainstorm solutions; make acceptable decisions.This practical and easy-to-understand book provides specific
teaching language for each age group-from infants to teens-so you'll know exactly what to say and how to say it.
Complete with strategies for overcoming a child's resistance and sections on motivation, defensiveness,
discipline, and "goat getting," Tired Of Yelling helps parents defuse tension and achieve something truly pricelessan emotionally stronger and happier child.
When Good Kids Do Bad Things
Author: Katherine Gordy Levine
Parenting a pre-teen or teen? Time to "Suck it up, Buttercup." There is no way around the fact that for some
parents the teen years mean dealing with Good Kids Doing Bad Things. The bad ranges from those little lies, that
one shoplifting episode, loving the wrong guy or gal, to a major problem with drinking and drugging, or suicidal
depression. Looking for helpful advice is like thumbing the dictionary hoping you will find a word you need but
don't know how to spell. If you are lucky you will stumble on what you need. What can a parent do? Check out the
credentials of the advice givers. Most fall into two categories: parents who have raised a child or two or more and
therapists who work with disturbed children and their parents. Each offer advice that works some of the time for
some parents and some children, but each also falls short for too many parents and too many children. One offers
the best of both—Katherine Gordy Levine. Katherine Gordy Levine is not only a certified therapist, former
professor, director of mental health crisis teams, and mother of two - over a period of 12 years she was foster
parent to almost 400 troubled teenagers. Her wealth of experience is shared with humor and angst in examples
throughout this engaging page-turner. Her suggestions are both clinically sound, but also based on practical
experience. She knows what works and what does not work. Moreover, she is on the side of all parents. Effect
real change in the behavior of your adolescent with the adaptable techniques you'll find in this book.
Fantastic Antone Grows Up: Adolescents and Adults with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome –
Author: Judith Kleinfeld
Fantastic Antone Grows Up is a field guide to life with an adolescent or young adult with fetal alcohol
syndrome/effects. Under the best of circumstances, adolescence is a trying time for young people and their
families. The budding adult seeks independence and autonomy while the resistant child within longs for protection
and structure; questions about sexuality and work, social commitments, and solitary accomplishments loom large
and can create a family battlefield. For the challenged and challenging young people with FAS/E, the
circumstances as they begin maturing are never the best. In this sequel to Fantastic Antone Succeeds, young
people with FAS/E and their caregivers report on their experiences coping with the problems of adolescence and
young adulthood. Again the editors and authors have concentrated on the wisdom of practice, as they candidly
convey which techniques worked and which did not during the difficult passages of the teenage years and
beyond. The twenty-one chapters are grouped according to theme. Section one discusses the meaning of
success for adolescents and adults with FAS/E -- the need to define success in new ways. Cindy Gere found her
path to success, for example, through creative expression. She graduated from college with a degree in fine arts
and successfully completed a program in art. Many of her paintings, including the one illustrating the cover of this
book, provide a poignant and candid expression of what FAS/E means to her. Section two discusses strategies
that work in areas such as counseling, education, sexuality, trouble with the law, and independent living. Section
three covers what families need from the community, including innovative programs that help individuals with
FAS/E, and how to get a diagnosis at adolescence. The book also contains important resources, organizations to
contact, and internet addresses. More has been learned about how alcohol poisoning in the womb alters brain
function and physical development since the release of Fantastic Antone Succeeds, but science is far from
providing the answers that affected young people and their caregivers need. Until such answers are forthcoming,
nothing can replace the voices of experience with their practical messages of coping, caring, loving, weeping,
laughing, and -- more often than might be expected -- succeeding.
Best Things Parents Do
Author: Susan Kohl
Parents are doing a better job than they think they are. Author Susan Kohl has been a parent watcher for more
than 30 years—and she knows what parents do well. A kind of Mr. Rogers for parents, Susan Kohl’s The Best
Things Parents Do is a "best practices" book that parents will turn to again and again.
Each chapter focuses on one topic and contains stories and vignettes from Kohl’s personal experience, relevant
statistics and psychological truths, strategies to use, and things to think about or actions to take. Kohl knows that
when parents begin to pay attention to what they do well, they can do more of it—channeling their children’s
energy into constructive endeavors, modeling positive behavior and discouraging negative behavior, and honoring
their children’s feelings as well as their own.
How to Keep Your Teenager Out of Trouble and What to Do if You Can't –
Author: Neil Bernstein
The teenage years are tough-for kids, and for parents. Many teenagers are grappling with a slew of overwhelming
emotions, and the results can range from not wanting to be seen with a parent in public to reckless and
destructive behavior that can destroy a family. Parents despair as a child becomes a sullen, defiant stranger. A
clinical psychologist who's spent more than two decades bringing families back from the brink, Dr. Neil I. Bernstein
knows how to help parents and teens successfully navigate these difficult and trying years. Thoughtful, cleareyed, comprehensive, and refreshingly free of jargon, HOW TO KEEP YOUR TEENAGER OUT OF TROUBLE
AND WHAT TO DO IF YOU CAN'T helps parents identify whether their teens are exhibiting typical behavior-such
as locking themselves in their room for hours-or are exhibiting real danger signs, such as being secretive,
despondent, or constantly angry. And then he tells what to do about it. The focus, above all else, is effective
communication: how to avoid threats and put-downs, offer clear explanations, stick with the issues at hand,
negotiate, improve listening skills, ask relevant questions, and stop interrogating or lecturing. Throughout,
Bernstein uses examples from his practice to tell specifically what to do and say. There is sample dialogue to
keep discussions from becoming arguments; signals that parental efforts are actually working; and Skill Builders
that give parents the tools
When Parents Ask for Help: Everyday Issues through an Asset-Building Lens
Author: Rennie Howard
With reproducible articles that speak directly to parents and caregivers about the dilemmas adolescents face, this
collection reframes issues from an asset-based point of view to give parents plenty of encouragement, hope, and
practical ideas.
Beautiful Boy (A Father’s Journey through his Son’s Addiction
Author: David Scheff
What had happened to my beautiful boy? To our family? What did I do wrong? Those are the wrenching questions
that haunted every moment of David Sheff’s journey through his son Nic’s addiction to drugs and tentative steps
toward recovery. Before Nic Sheff became addicted to crystal meth, he was a charming boy, joyous and funny, a
varsity athlete and honor student adored by his two younger siblings. After meth, he was a trembling wraith who
lied, stole, and lived on the streets. David Sheff traces the first subtle warning signs: the denial, the 3 A.M. phone
calls (is it Nic? the police? the hospital?), the rehabs. His preoccupation with Nic became an addiction in itself,
and the obsessive worry and stress took a tremendous toll. But as a journalist, he instinctively researched every
avenue of treatment that might save his son and refused to give up on Nic. Beautiful Boy is a fiercely candid
memoir that brings immediacy to the emotional rollercoaster of loving a child who seems beyond help
Buzzed
Author: Cynthia Kuhn, Ph.D., Scott Swartzwelker, Ph.D., Wilkie Wilson, Ph.D
"The gap between scientific information and public information about drugs is growing hour by hour," declare the
authors of this thorough, popular guide to pharmaceutical and recreational chemicals. The public's misinformation,
they say, is only compounded by the fact that most descriptions of drugs' benefits and risks are oversimplified,
inaccurate and politicized. Marijuana, for example, is portrayed by some organizations as a wonder drug, and by
others as a dangerous contagion. The authors' guide aims to avoid such pitfalls. Divided into a dozen sectionsAlcohol, Caffeine, Ecstasy, Hallucinogens, Herbal Drugs, Inhalants, Marijuana, Nicotine, Opiates, Sedatives,
Steroids, and Stimulants-the book adopts a straight, neutral tone that reflects its commitment to providing
unbiased, scientific fact. As professors at the Duke University Medical Center, Khun, Swartzwelder and Wilson are
well-qualified to analyze and synthesize lots of complicated information, and this second edition of the guide has
been fully revised to reflect scientists' growing knowledge of how chemicals of all kinds affect our health and
development. Best of all, the descriptions are jargon-free, making this book a great choice for anyone looking for
clear, reliable information about any kind of drug. (from Publishers Weekly).
Common Sense Parenting
Author: Ray Burke, Ph.D., Ron Herron
Here's a great guidebook for parents of children ages 6 to 16 facing a myriad of family challenges: a teen who's
defiant; siblings who constantly bicker; a child having trouble in school, or parents and kids who occupy the same
house but don't communicate or have fun together anymore. Common Sense Parenting provides parents with a
menu of proven techniques that will aid them in building good family relationships, preventing and correcting
misbehavior, using consequences to improve behavior, teaching self-control, and staying calm.The book shows
parents how to approach discipline as positive teaching rather than punishment of their children. Encouraging
children by recognizing their good behavior and teaching before problems occur are as important as correcting
children's negative behavior. Parents also learn how to help children solve problems, reach goals by using charts
and contracts, and practice new social skills. As each new parenting technique is introduced, the authors explain
each step, provide many clear examples, and give parents an action plan for implementing it in their home.
This newly revised and updated book answers parents' commonly asked questions and offers new behavior
charts and more helpful information than ever. New chapters include those offering advice on setting reasonable
expectations for children, creating predictable family routines that help children feel secure as well as improve
their behavior, and putting together a parenting plan using all of the techniques explained in the book.