NCSoS Internet Security How to Become an Online-Aware Parent

NCSoS Internet Security
From the NCSOS Internet Safety Committee -
May 24, 2007
Router= A communication device designed to send out data by the most efficient route possible.
Editor: Lori Thompson,
Ready Springs School
“Sex offenders
[online predators]
rely on parents
staying unaware!”
FBI Special Agent
James Harris, Jr.
Online Crime and
Project Safe
6 in 10 children
online receive
messages from
strangers. More
than half write back.
1 in 5 youth
receives an online
sexual solicitation in
a one year period.
29% of children
freely give personal
information online
when asked. (2002)
How to Become an Online-Aware Parent
The internet can be a wonderful tool as
long as everyone plays by the rules. But
not everyone on the internet wants to be
helpful and kind. Online predators will
spend months – six months or longer –
grooming a child/youth to build up trust
where the child/youth will comply with
any request. But you have the homecourt advantage to defeat that every day.
• Talk to your kids, regularly (not just
once) about What they do online and
Who they talk to online. Ask questions
(and then confirm to make sure they are
telling you the truth!) Let me them know
you’ll be checking. Sit down with them
and have them show you how they surf
the net. TTYL F2F (see page 2)
• Remind your kids frequently that
anyone they don’t know off-line is a
stranger. This is the hardest thing for
kids to remember! Tell your child Never
Ever give out their name, address,
phone number, pictures or other
personal information to Anyone online.
Bill Gates Limits His
Kids’ Computer Time
Bill Gates, founder of Microsoft, and his
wife Melinda limit their ten-year old
daughter and her younger brother to 45
minutes computer time per day during
the week and only one hour on
weekends. That includes games and
anything other than actual homework.
He also uses monitoring software to
track their online contacts. When his son
asked if he was going to have limits like
this his whole life, Gates replied, “No,
when you move away you can set your
own screen limits.”
• Take computers out of kids’ rooms.
Put them in public areas (family room)
with the screen facing the room. There
is safety in numbers. A child spending
unlimited time online, surfing aimlessly,
is asking for trouble. Set time limits.
• Choose your child’s screen name,
email address or instant message
name wisely. Don’t reveal ages, sex,
hobbies and NOT suggestive or sexy
names. Predators pursue those names.
• Ask to see their MySpace (or other
social network) profile page. . .
tomorrow! It gives them a chance to
remove everything that isn’t appropriate
or safe. . .and becomes a lesson in what
not to post. Talk it over, don’t explode.
• It’s not an invasion of privacy if
strangers can see it. The diary in their
drawer is between them and the paper;
their MySpace is between them and 700
million people online! Don’t be KPC
• Get to know the people your kids
consistently chat with online. Most
predators who want to exploit your child
pretend to be children or teens on line.
You may be able to spot an adult posing
as a teenager or young child better than
your kids. Monitoring software allows you
to review your child’s internet usage.
“. . .It's very appropriate for
a parent to get a sense of
what they [their children] are
seeing out there and be able
to have conversations about
it," Bill Gates on monitoring
computer use.
Cyberbullying: The Silent Tormentor
112 Nevada City Hwy
Nevada City, CA 95959
(530) 478-6400
Stan Miller,
[email protected]
Linda Krapfel,
Nevada City District Technology
[email protected]
Unlike playground bullies that you can
get away from when you go home,
cyberbullying follows you at home and
can even follow you for life. Once
on the web it is
impossible to recover and destroy them.
Cyberbullying uses information and
communication technologies to
express and support deliberate, repeated
hostile behavior by one or more people
with the intent to cause harm to others.
It can be done through email, pagers,
cell phones, instant messaging (IM),
chat rooms, online games, online voting
polls, and personal websites.
•Sending cruel or threatening messages.
•Creating websites with pictures, stories,
and jokes ridiculing or smearing others.
•Posting classmate pictures online and
asking others to rate them in online polls
– who’s ugliest, fattest, dumbest.
•Using a digital phone camera to take an
embarrassing or private picture, sending
that picture to others or posting it online.
In a survey of 4 - 8 grade students
(ages 9 – 13) more than half had
received mean or hurtful things online
and more than half admitted saying
something mean or hurtful to someone
else online. Of those who received mean
or hurtful things, none of them had told a
parent or adult about the incident.
What to Do:
• Know your child’s friends, their school
activities and their online activities.
• Know your child’s technology, their
lingo, and their culture (movies, music,
online games) does it promote bullying?
• Teach your child Stop, Block, & Tell:
Stop: Do not respond to mean/hurtful
messages. Unplug and go offline. Don’t
send messages when angry. Cool off.
Block: Use buddy lists on IM account
of only people you know & trust well;
report cyberbullying to the Internet
Service Provider for websites
Tell: Tell a parent or trusted adult
who can help them deal with anything
online that makes them feel sad, hurt,
uncomfortable, angry.
FWIW(for what it’s worth): Acronyms Parents Should Know
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parent alert
parents are listening
parents are watching
parent in room
PLOS parents looking over shoulder
parent over shoulder
ASL or A/S/L age, sex, location
GYPO get your pants off
IWSN I want sex now
kiss for you
keeping parents clueless
LMIRL let’s meet in real life
male or female?
MOOS member(s) of the opposite sex
MOSS or MOTSS member(s) of the same
NALOPKT not a lot of people know that
NIFOC nude in front of computer
straight or gay
TDTM talk dirty to me
WYCM will you call me?
WAYF where are you from?
WYRN what’s your real name?
let’s get high
BTDT been there done that
CWYL chat with you later
CYT or SYT see you tomorrow
do I know you?
email address
face to face
FYEO for your eyes only
laughing out loud
mother over shoulder
name, address, zip
pardon me for jumping in
PTMM please tell me more
please explain that
ROFL rolling on the floor laughing
SMIM send me an instant message
SMEM send me an email
SLAP sounds like a plan
thanks in advance
TTYL talk to you later
TTFN ta ta for now
YMMV your mileage may vary (your
results me be different)
nighty - night