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In fact, Chazal states that Pinchas is Eliyahu. Eliyahu lived in the year 3000 and he was the Navi in the time of King Achav ben Amari and Aciheza ben Achav. His title as Eliyahu Hagiladi is because he is from a place called Gilad. His teacher was Achiya Hasheloni, and he battles and challenges King Achav and his wife Eizavel for bringing Avoda Zarah to the nation. King Achav rebuilt the city of Yericho and therefore the curse of Yehoshua came true; Achav lost all of his children. Upon meeting with Eliyahu, Achav asked him can it be that the curse of the student can come true but not the curse of the master? He was referring to what Moshe Rabainu said, that if the Jewish people will violate the Torah with the sin of Avoda Zarah then Hashem will stop the Heavens from giving rain. At that point in time there was so much abundance in the land that a famine was not conceivable. Eliyahu davened to Hashem to protect the honor of the Torah, and instantly there was a famine. Three years later Eliyahu gathers the entire nation by Mount Carmel for a show down between him and the Naviim of the Avodah Zarah called Ba’al. The result was everyone was returned to teshuva. Eliyahu left a legacy of many miracles and did not actually pass away but went to heaven as a living person. May he return speedily and bring with him the messiah, amen. In the haftorah, Eliyahu is victorious against the Naviim of the Ba’al and this causes Queen Eizevel to threaten his life. Eliyahu runs to Be’er Shevah towards his disciple Ovadia. As he is running in the desert he finds a tree to rest under, and depleted of food and energy, he requests from Hashem to take his soul so he can rest in peace. Exhausted from escaping those who hunt him, he felt that he is too old and no longer useful to do Hashem’s work. While under the tree a miracle appears and a second tree appears so that now he can lie down with enough shade. He has a vision, a dream, that an angel wakes him up and presents Eliyahu with freshly baked bread on hot coals, and water .The angel directs him to eat and drink so he can regain his strength for the journey ahead. After eating and drinking Eliyahu walks for 40 days and nights until he reaches Mount Sinai and the cave where Moshe Rabainu entered to receive the Torah from Hashem. Hashem speaks softly to him asking; “what are you doing here”? Eliyahu responds I have avenged the honor of Hashem and killed the false prophets of the Ba’al . I also instigated the famine because the nation has left the way of Hashem. I am the only remaining Navi left to the nation, and they wish to kill me. I came to the holy place to daven to you that you should punish the idol worshippers and protect me. Hashem told Eliyahu to step out of the cave and Hashem presented before him three types of the most powerful angels, in great multitudes. The first group was from wind, the second was from noise, and the third from fire. Each group was extremely powerful in their own way. However, there was a fourth group present too, and they were from the sound of silence. This referred to the attribute of kindness. Hashem said that the only way I will deal with the nation is with the attribute of chesed. Eliyahu tries to clarify his actions by explaining that his desire was only to defend the honor of Hashem. Hashem responds that He knows the intentions of Eliyahu, nevertheless, the attribute of kindness will always prevail. Eliyahu is instructed to return from where he came from and anoint a new king and the future leaders of the nation. We learn how a location where something great had once occurred will become a holy site with special energies. Just like the location of the cave where Moshe went into the mountain became a holy site where Eliyahu received special revelation. Perhaps the greatest lesson is that the attribute of mercy and chesed will always prevail. May we all experience only Hashem’s lovingkindness in our lives להבין ולהשכיל by Tuvia Pressburger Parshas Pinchas When a woman performs a Mitzva that she’s not obligated in, i.e. Tzitzis or shaking לולב, there’s a great discussion among the ראשוניםwhether or not she should make a ברכהon that מצוה. The ר"ן,רא"ש, and תוספותsay that women make a ברכהon these מצוות. Though they’re not obligated, they nonetheless get שכרfor doing it. However the רמב"ם, among others, argues and holds that they may not say a ברכה. The מגיד משנהexplains that the reason of the רמב"םis, since they are not commanded in the מצוה, how could they say וצונו, you have commanded us, if they are not commanded? The Shulchan Aruch in Orach Chaim 589 follows the opinion of the רמב"םand paskens that they may not make a ברכה. However, the רמ"אwrites on this, that the מנהגof the Ashkenazim is that the women do make a ברכה. Now, here’s the question. When it comes to ברכת התורה, the שלחן ערוךwrites in chapter 47 that here women do say the ברכה. Being that women have no obligation to learn תורה, this should be similar to shaking לולבor ציצית, where as we mentioned, women don’t say a ברכהaccording to the שלחן ערוךwho follows the ruling of the רמב"ם. So, why is ברכת התורהdifferent? The answer to this question is found in the בית יוסף. Though women don’t have to learn תורה, they do have to learn the הלכותpertaining to them. Therefore, it would make sense for them to make a ברכה and say ""וצונו, since they are somewhat commanded here Good Shabbos, Tuvia Questions and comments are welcome at [email protected] An Ex-Loner's Guide to Authentic Friendship Jim's Daily Awakenings for July 2, 2015 The law on using therapists: Therapists are tools we use to accomplish our mission. The best therapist I ever knew made the same speech to all new clients. After hearing them talk about their problem, she would say, "You have a lot of dung in your life. The good news is that I have a shovel. My professional expertise is like a shovel. I will rent it to you, but you have to shovel your own dung." My therapist friend was right. If we go to a counselor without a clear mission and the determination to use the therapist's tools to resolve the issue, we will waste a lot of time and money. Many therapists have tools that are worth their weight in gold to us. But we have to use the tools or our goals are unaccomplished. We are responsible for doing the work necessary to bring about own healing. Rabbi Daniel Aron Coren PARSHAS PINCHAS AND THE SECRET OF THE NER TAMID There is a well-known relief carved in the Arch of Titus on Via Sacra in Rome that depicts the General Titus returning from his victory in destroying the second Bais Hamikdash in Jerusalem and bringing back the Menorah that had stood in the Heichal. What’s the significance of this Menorah? Korban Tamid Parshas Pinchas refers to the mitzva of sacrificing the Korban Tamid which was brought to the Temple twice a day every day including Shabbos. No day went by without first sacrificing the Korban Tamid in the morning and ending the day with the afternoon Tamid. What do these two sacrificed sheep represent? On a nightly basis in our shul, we have been learning Mishna Brura and we are now studying the Halachos of the three weeks. In the first siman, the Mishna Brura discusses the five things that happened on the 17th of Tamuz: The breach in the wall of Yerushalayim took place; the luchos were broken by Moshe Rabeinu; a Greek General, Apostimus, burned a Sefer Torah and erected a pagan idol in the Beit HaMikdash and lastly the Korban Tamid was stopped. I presented the people at the shiur with the following question: What is the common thread between all these events and how does it connect to the 17th of Tamuz and the start of the three weeks? Another fascinating fact to consider is that the year and date on which the Declaration of Independence was signed—July 4th, 1776—just happened to be the 17th of Tamuz. So another question I asked was: Is there any connection between the newly declared United States of America and the 17th of Tamuz? I will share with you a story that I heard personally from a friend. He was scheduled to be in court and the day of his hearing, he visited one of the tzadikim in Israel for a bracha and some advice. The tzadik told him not to worry but to keep Shivisi Hashem in front of his eyes especially when the judge is about to make his decision. Although the judge’s facial expression was not very promising, my friend remembered what he had been told and he followed this advice—he envisioned the name of Hashem spelled out on the face of the judge and thought to himself,’ shivis Hashem lenegdi tamid’. Suddenly, without any prior warning, the judge dismissed the entire case to the great relief of everyone especially my friend. He was the only one that could possibly deduce what had really taken place. What is the secret of Shivis and does it apply to only great kabbalists or every one of us? Surprisingly, this Shivis concept is in the Mishna Brura in the first siman in Shulchan Aruch Orach Chayim. The Chefetz Chayim wrote about this concept because he felt it was the most important conviction in Judaism, one that we must acknowledge when we wake up and keep in mind throughout the day. Shivis emphasizes the existence of a God, master of the universe and king of the world, an omnipotent God who loves me and all His children and only wants what is best for us. This is the secret of Shivis which focuses on placing God in front of you all the time. This is not an easy concept to internalize and takes much training but it should be a life time goal. There are many shuls that have a big Shivis by the chazzan and many siddurim are printed with a picture of Shivis which is basically a menorah with different names of Hashem representing different concepts. The underlying principal that Shivisi represents is our unbreakable and constant connection with Hashem and as the holy books tell us, when you are connected to Hashem nothing can harm you (see Nefesh Hachayim on )אין עוד מלבדו. Now let’s go back to the 17th of Tammuz and how we can use the next three weeks to bring changes to our lives. The first step should be to analyze our relationship and locate where there is a break of some sort. Just like a crack in a house calls for serious analysis in order to fix the problem before the whole structure caves in, similarly when dealing with relationship and certainly a spiritual one, a person needs to find the cause of the problem and then try to find the solution to it. So what do the five things that usher in the three weeks have in common? They all represent the rupture in our constant connection, a breach in the wall. The luchos and the sefer torah represent our covenant with Hashem; the korban Tamid was a constant korban that cleansed the Jews every day and the placing of an image represents our detachment from our creator. I hope these weeks turn into days of joy and the appreciation of our connection with Hashem. Snap Shot Parsha e on th by Lazer Scheiner PARSHAS PINCHOS & HAFTORAH-CHABAD. ORG PARSHA OVERVIEW Bamidbar-Numbers 25:10–30:1 Aaron’s grandson Pinchas is rewarded for his act of zealotry in killing the Simeonite prince Zimri and the Midianite princess who was his paramour: G‑d grants him acovenant of peace and the priesthood. A census of the people counts 601,730 men between the ages of twenty and sixty. Mosesis instructed on how the Land is to be divided by lottery among the tribes and families ofIsrael. The five daughters of Tzelafchadpetition Moses that they be granted the portion of the land belonging to their father, who died without sons; G‑d accepts their claim and incorporates it into the Torah’s laws of inheritance. Moses empowers Joshua to succeed him and lead the people into the Land of Israel. The Parshah concludes with a detailed list of the daily offerings, and the additional offerings brought on Shabbat, Rosh Chodesh (first of the month), and the festivals of Passover, Shavuot, Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur,Sukkot and Shemini Atzeret. HAFTORAH OVERVIEW I Kings 18:46-19:21. The prophet Elijah is the main protagonist of this week's haftorah. According to tradition, Elijah shared the same soul as Pinchas, the hero of this week's Torahportion. They also both zealously fought on G‑d's behalf, while disregarding the dangers involved. Following the showdown with the Baal prophets at Mount Carmel, which led to the execution of the Baal priests, the evil Queen Jezebel issued a death sentence for Elijah. Elijah fled to the Judean desert and asked G‑d to take his life. While he slept, an angel awoke him and provided him with food and drink. Reenergized, Elijah went for forty days until he arrived at Mount Horeb (Sinai), and he slept in a cave on the mountain. And the word of G‑d came to him and asked him for the purpose of his visit. "And [Elijah] said: 'I have been zealous for G-d, the Lord of Hosts, for the children of Israel have forsaken Your covenant. They have torn down Your altars and they have killed Your prophets by the sword, and I have remained alone, and they seek my life to take it." Elijah was instructed to leave the cave and stand on the mountain: "Behold! G-d's Presence will pass." There was a great and strong wind splitting mountains and shattering boulders, but Elijah realized that G-d was not in the wind. Then came an earthquake followed by fire, but again Elijah understood that not in the earthquake nor the fire was G-d. After the fire there was a subtle silent voice, and Elijah realized that the Divine Presence had appeared. G-d asked Elijah again for the purpose of his visit, and Elijah repeated his earlier response. G‑d instructed Elijah to go to Damascus and anoint Hazael as king of Aram and Jehu as king of Israel and to anoint Elisha as a prophet in his stead. These three would continue Elijah's battle against the Baal. Elijah followed the instructions and he immediately found Elisha and recruited him as his aide and eventual successor. Ever since I was a little boy, I've always thought English was an odd language. I'm actually surprised that there is no silent Q in the word English. While I know that rules were meant to be broken, whoever made up English took that concept to the next level! Why is an alarm clock going "off" when it actually turns on? I'll tell you the answer, but before I do, please note that most of these questions do NOT have answers. For example in singular, it's house. But in the plural, it's houses. Than how can we explain that the plural of mouse is not mouses. When we think of the alarm going "off", we think that when the sound goes on that's what we call off. Actually, the alarm is always on. When it's on, it's quiet. Only when it turns off does it make the annoying ringing sound! If there is anyone out there who would like to teach me Yiddish, let me know! ”Think about it, Yehuda Grodko BY SHALOM BER MUNITZ YARTZEIT A Yartzeit is generally associated with two mixed feelings. On the one hand, as we learn from our sacred sources, the soul of the departed enjoys on the day of its Yartzeit, an elevation, passing from one spiritual world into a higher one. This is, therefore, a day of rejoicing for the soul, hence, a day of corresponding joy also for the near and dear ones left behind, for long and happy life. On the other hand, the Yartzeit naturally refreshes in the mind the loss sustained by children in the passing of their parents, giving rise to a feeling of sadness. In truth, however, the Yartzeit should not call forth any feeling of sadness, but rather a feeling of earnest reflection, introspection and self-examination. With a view to attuning one’s life on this earth to the life-path of the soul above, which is constantly on the ascent. This is to say, just as the soul On High is continuously rising, year after year, going "from strength to strength," so must also all those left behind on this earth, who are the associated with the departed soul, steadily go from strength to strength, through advancement in “Torah and the practice of good deeds.” In this way, also, children give the greatest possible joy to their dear departed parents. This also underlines the basic view of our religion, that in reality there is no ‘death’ in matters of G-dliness, Torah and Mitzvoth, experience this transition is one direction only – going higher and higher, first in this world and later in the following world – always on the ascent. ====Rebbe’s letter , והיינו משום שכבר התרגל לזה והיינו שעצם מציאותו של החפץ חיים היה עצם מציאות של רצונו שבזה שראה, עד כדי כך, יתברך חילול שמו יתברך היה אצלו כאלו זהו מי שדבוק, ניטל אחד מאבריו . בבורא עולם פרשת פנחס בענין קנאות וכן מובא בספר שיח ישראל ממרן ( הגר׳ ישראל אליעזר קנריק זצ״ל בענין אלול ) שהאריך בענין של בן שהיה חי, שזהו היה שמו, איש חי והיינו מרגיש ועל ידי זה כל דבר, וכן, בענין רוחניות הרגיש אצלו חיי אצילות חייב, כל יהודי שחי שכל חילול, להיות בן איש חי ועל, שמו היינו פגיעה בו ממש שכואב צועק בכאב אישי עד כדי והיינו שהוא, למסור נפש עבור זה מרגיש חלק מיחודו יתברך שכן הן . והיינו שזה עצם מהותו, הדברים ידוע מה שאומרים הבריאות ״כשכואב צועקים ״ .וזהו הנקרא בעולם קנאות ואבאר והנה בתחלת הפרשה מדברת התורה הקדושה בעד שקינא קנאותו, בענין מעשה פנחס ושכרו ויש להבין עומק יסוד, ובזה זכה לכהונה, יתברך . ענין הך קנאות ועל ידי זה זוכה לכח העילאי שהיא כח ומתנה ממרום, הזאת שנזכה באמת, כמו שניתן לפינחס להרגיש הך הכרה גדולה ולקרבה . הגדולה הזאת רבינו זיע״א בספרו תנינא כתב ביסוד ענין קנאות וזהו לשונו ״ קנאות זו צדקה ״ ויסוד הענין הוא יש לא כמדת הקב״ה.לומר על פי גמרא בבא בתרא י מדת מלך בשר ודם מדת בשר ודם השולח דורון הקב״ה, למלך בו״ד ספק מקבל ספק המלך רואה אינו כן נותן פרוטה לעני מיד נכנס לפלטרין של והיינו שעצם מעשה הצדקה היינו, מלך עייש וזהו, סיבת ומעשה הקירבה הגדולה ביותר והנקודה היא שכואב לו, קנאות כמו שאמר רבינו . לאדם שמתחלל רצונו יתברך שבת שלום מארץ ישראל מצפה לישועת השם ולפני משיח צדקנו הכו״ח לכה״ק או״ח ד י פיירסטון והענין שהאדם נהפך מציאות רצונו לרצון הכביכול ועל ידי זה מקור עצם חיותו הוא נובע, ברוך הוא והפוך מתרחק, על ידי התקרבותו עליו כביכול וכמו העובדא עם הסבא קדישא מרן החפץ, ממנו חיים זיע״א שראה יהודי מחלל שבת מיד התעלף , ואחרי זה שוב ראה עוד יהודי רח״ל ורק בכה, WEEKLY SHIURIM FOR THE ENTIRE COMMUNITY MEN & WOMEN Rabbi YY JACOBSON NO SHIURIUM SHABBOS OR SUNDAY THIS WEEK Crown Heights Mother of 5 Receiving Kidney from Munkacs'er Chossid Donor: Chaim Elazar ben Esther Fradel Recipient: Sara Malka bas Chana Today's kidney donor, Chaim Elazar, was inspired to donate a kidney when his brother did so four years ago. He is a Munkacs'er chossid from Boro Park and father of one. His enthusiasm for thismitzvah was enviable. The recipient, Sharon, is a mother of five from Crown Heights in Brooklyn. Her children wished to donate but were unable to. She was nearing to have to go on dialysis and we are very happy that this transplant can be preemptive. She will now IY"H receive a second chance at life due to Chaim Elazar's amazing selfless act. Donor: Wishes to remain anonymous Recipient: Zvi ben Shoshana Today's kidney donor wishes to remain anonymous. This special person was willing to donate a kidney despite the uniqueness and special expertise required to perform this case. The reason we didn't send out this email yesterday was because of the special circumstances the kidney might not have been usable. We wish to thank the surgeons Dr. Lloyd Ratner, Director, Renal and Pancreatic Transplantation, Department of Surgery and Dr. Pedro Rodrigo Sandoval, Assistant Professor of Surgery Division of Abdominal Organ Transplantation, of NY Presbyterian-Columbia University for performing these extremely long and difficult surgeries. We are happy to report that the surgery was a success and the recipient, a father of one from Queens, NY will now be able to stop needed to go to dialysis three times a week for four hours each time as he has been doing for over three years. They are B"H both in their rooms recovering nicely. Thank you, 5904 13th Avenue Brooklyn, NY 11219 - www.renewal.org WEEKLY SHIUR FOR WOMEN Rebbetzin ESTI JACOBSON WEDNESDAY MORNING 11:15 AM 7 FIELDCREST DRIVE MONSEY NY 10952 FOR HUNDREDS OF ARTICLES & LECTURES FROM RYYJ PLEASE GO TO HIS WEBSITE "THEYESHIVA.NET" WOMEN’S CORNER Rebbitzen Mindy Lankry Women’s Corner-Parshas Pinchas (These words of Torah are dedicated L’illuy nishmas my grandfather, Menachem Mendel ben Nachum) The daughters of Tzelofchod approach Moshe with a request to inherit a portion of Eretz Yisroel. Their father had passed away in the desert without ever having sons, and so the daughters wanted to inherit the land in their stead. They present their case as to why a portion should rightly belong to them even though they are women. Hashem concurs. In recognition of their righteousness, Hashem gave them the honor of being the catalyst for the pronouncement of the laws of inheritance. Few honors can be comparable to that of being the vehicle for the revelation of Hashem’s word. What was so great about the request of the daughters of Tzelofchod? They simply needed a place to live, as their family without a male offspring, was left without a portion. Where was the righteousness in requesting a piece of land? The greatness in the Bnos Tzelofchod actually lies in their pure intention. The daughters were fervently in love with Eretz Yisroel and desperately longed to have a share in this blessed land. There was no incentive of greed for land and they were not willing to accept a portion that was on the other side of the Jordan. We learn, however, that it was not just the daughters of Tzelofchod who loved the land so dearly, but all the woman of Am Yisrael shared this passion for Eretz Yisroel. The Torah discusses in this parsha the re-counting of the nation and it states that of these counted “there was no man from the previous count in the midbar”. Rashi explains that “no man” tells us that although the generation of the spies all died and did not enter the land, this did not include the woman who were not part of the decree. This was because the men said, “Let us return to Egypt” but the woman held the land precious. They wanted possession of the land. That is why the passage dealing with the daughters of Tzelofchod is put next to the verse which says those guilty of the sin of spies died here. In fact, Hashem Himself tells Moshe that the women are the ones who love the land. When the Jewish people wanted to send spies, Moshe didn’t see it as Hashem did. Moshe chose twelve men he thought to be righteous and suitable for such a task. Hashem told Moshe “shlach licho anoshim –send for yourself men”, your request to send men is your own opinion. Meaning to say you think it is a good idea to send men, but in fact it is a terrible idea. The men hate the land and desire to return to Egypt whereas the women love Eretz Yisroel and are enthusiastically ready to enter. The correct approach would be to send women. Additionally, Hashem told Moshe in the future, there will be women who will entreat the right to own a portion of Eretz Yisroel. (These were the daughters of Tzelofchod) Hashem said if you send women to spy the land they will return only with praises of the land as their love for it is great. Hashem was in essence telling Moshe, “do what you think is right, send for yourself men, but I, Hashem think it would be better to send women who truly love My Land.” (Kli Yakaar Bamidbar 13:2) In fact, the Meraglim did speak terrible Lashon Hara which caused the Jewish nation tremendous damage. Only Caleiv and Yehoshua did not speak against Eretz Yisroel. Hashem says “but My servant Caleiv because a different spirit was with him and he followed Me wholeheartedly, I shall bring him in the land…” The words “different spirit-ruach acheres” is written grammatically in female form. This is because Caleiv possessed the same fervent love for the land that the women had. He was inspired by his wife Miriam and her enormous love and longing to enter the land. With this “womanly outlook” he viewed the land and only found it desirable. (Sefer Alufei Yehuda - Rav Yehuda Froind z"l) Our female ancestors persisted through the long wanderings of the desert conveying their love for Eretz Yisroel despite the obstacles. They eagerly awaited the awesome day of settling in Hashem’s holy land and indeed merited the great privilege to do so. We too are wandering in exile; a wilderness of confusion and pain. We can remember the immense love of the land that guided our mothers’ and we can reignite the passion in our own hearts too. Now, as we begin the sad mourning of the Bais Hamikdash, let our yearning for Eretz Yisroel show Hashem how dearly we want to be reunited in His special land. May we once again merit, entering and living in Yerushalayim Ha’benuya, this time forever. WeeklyQuote RON OSTROFF Erma Bombeck was an American humorist who achieved great popularity for her newspaper column that described suburban home life from the mid-1960s until the late 1990s This written after she found out she was dying of cancer. "If I had my life to live over... I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for the day. I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage. I would have talked less and listened more. I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded. I would have eaten the popcorn in the ‘good’ living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace. I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth. I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed. I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life. I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains. I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn’t show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime. Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I’d have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle. When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.” There would have been more “I love you’s.” More “I’m sorry’s.” But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute… look at it and really see it .. live it .and never give it back. hat tip RAC Berach’sRCorner abbi Steinfeld BY TZVI FREEMAN C H A B A D. O R G B Y T Z V I F R E E M A N - C H A B A D. O R G From the Wisdom & Te a c h i n g s o f t h e Lubavitcher Rebbe Working Lessons If all the world is a classroom and all of life is a lesson, then certainly your profession and workplace are included. After all, He has unlimited ways to provide your livelihood—why did He direct you to this way of life? What sparks of the divine await you here? Wonder Making If you see someone’s faults hanging out and you truly want to help—whether it be a friend, a spouse, your child, or even your nemesis—don’t say a word about what you have found wrong. Find something wondrous about that person, perhaps something that nobody ever mentions, and talk about it—to yourself, to those who will listen and sympathize. In very little time, you will see such a new person, you will believe you are a maker of wonders. Indeed, we all are. Hmmm...... "Sometimes you have to deal with issues and show others your uncomfortable side. It’s perfectly okay – it’s a natural part of being human. And the good news is that these tough moments will often show you who will accept you at your worst and who won’t." "Stepping onto a brand new path might be difficult, but you will be better off in the long run, than remaining in a situation that no longer fits, or no longer exists." " Many people are uncomfortable with periods of change and transition; We often think its the end. But change is not death, its a beautiful rebirth. Q A bris took place on Erev Pesach right before mincha. May one make a seuda to celebrate? A The Gemara in Meseches Pesachim daf tzadik tes, amud bais asks; why does the mishna teach us the halacha of Erev Pesach regarding the fact that one is not allowed to eat after mincha? The same halacha applies to every Erev Shabbos and every Erev Yom Tov! Why repeat this halacha concerning Erev Pesach? The Sfas Emes says that on every Erev Shabbos and Erev Yom Tov where there is a seudas mitzvah i.e. one is allowed to eat Seuda Shlishis after mincha when Shabbos falls out Erev Yom Tov. However, when it comes to Erev Pesach it would be forbidden due to the chumra of matzah. We see from this Sfas Emes that one is not allowed to eat a seudas mitzvah on Erev Pesach. We also learn from this Sfas Emes that if one did not eat Seuda Shlishis on Erev Pesach he should not eat it after mincha even though on any other Erev Yom Tov it would be permissible. The question will remain in the event that a person does not have matzah and won’t be able to obtain it either. May he eat after mincha on Erev Pesach that falls out on Shabbos just like any given Shabbos that falls out on Erev Yom Tov? Does the halacha rule that since he does not have matzah, there is no concern of him ruining his appetite; or once the Rabbanon made this gezeirah of not eating past mincha it would not make a difference whether he has matzah or not (Lo Plug)? The latter reasoning would seem to be the correct reasoning; as we see that if Erev Pesach falls out on Shabbos, the burning of the chametz is done a day earlier than usual and yet is done before the sixth hour of the day. In conclusion, mitzvos are so important that one must prepare his body to be ready to do the mitzvah with the best appetite possible. Readers’ comments are encouraged. Send your message to [email protected] Next Week’s Question: If someone has a hard time having an appetite for food, must he spend money and buy a special medicine or herbal drink to help bring on his appetite to eat the matzah or not? The Maggid’s Corner Rabbi Benzion Sneh לכאורה לשם מה היה בכלל נדרש לתת שכר.לכן הנני נותן לו את בריתי שלום לפינחס?! הלא זה היה מעשה מתבקש? אולי אנחנו לא היינו מעיזים אבל פינחס לסוחר משקאות שאסף ילד:בדרגתו בוודאי שכן? התשובה תובן על פי משל .מהרחוב וסיכם עימו שבשכר עבודתו יקבל אש"ל (אכילה שתייה לינה) בביתו אמין וחרוץ משאת נפשו, הבחור התגלה ככישרוני,החוש העסקי לא הטעה אותו ימי פורים. שנים עבד הבחור במרץ מבלי להתלונן5 במשך...של כל בעל עסק הגיעו והעבודה הייתה מתישה שכן עבור חנות משקאות זוהי "שיא העונה" אך עם כל הקושי רמת . בזכות חריצותו של 'בן הבית' החדש,השירות לא נפגעה בכי הוא זה בעל הבית והעובד סגרו את החנות וישבו לסעודת, זמן הסעודה הגיע,' 'פורים דפרזים- יד" באדר אחד הקליינטים ה'חזקים' מירושלים הגיע על מנת, אך ישבו הם ונשמעו דפיקות בדלת.פורים ברור.) 'פורים דמוקפים- למלא את משאיתו בסחורה ללקוחותיו (בירושלים חוגגים בט"ו באדר הבחור לא חשב. הן פורים היום ויש לקיים את מצוות החג,שבעל הבית ביטל את האפשרות במחי יד פעמיים קפץ מהמקום לקח את המפתחות ותוך שעה מילא את המשאית בסחורה והביא רווח גדול לפליאתו (הרי. בסיום הארוחה קרא לו בעל העסק וביקש להתחיל לשלם לו משכורת.ונאה לבעליו עד עכשיו חשבתי שאכן, "הבט: הסביר המעביד,)!?סיכמנו שהאוכל והלינה הם בתמורה לעבודה וויתרת על הארוחה- שכרך הוא בלינה ואוכל אך משראיתי שהנאמנות שלך איננה מסתיימת באוכל ה' בתמורה לקיום המצוות: כן הוא הנמשל...וקמת לעבודה הבנתי שעלי לתת לך שכר מעבר לזה .' ברגע שפינחס חרף נפשו = וויתר על החיים שניתנים לנו כשחר חלף קיום מצוות ה.נותן לנו חיים מי שמוכיח שהנאמנות שלו היא מעבר לחיים שהוא מקבל...הרי שאומר הקב"ה עלי לתת לו יותר ...הרי שעליו לקבל חיי נצח ולא כיליתי את בני ישראל...ינחס בן אלעזר בן אהרון הכהן השיב את חמתי מעל בני ישראל מעניין לראות שהקב"ה מקדיש פרשה מיוחדת לפינחס על מעשה הצלה בודד של...בקנאתי לכאורה מדוע זכה פינחס לכל הכבוד הזה ולשכר הגדול בעוד משה רבינו.כליון עם ישראל :'הציל את עם ישראל כמה וכמה פעמים? כפי שאומר דוד המלך בתהילים פרק ק"ו פסוק כג ומבאר מצודת."בפרץ לפניו להשיב חמתו מהשחית ּ "ויאמר להשמידם לולי משה בחירו עמד אם לא היה משה עומד בפרץ ואחז במשל- לולי משה, חשב ה' להשמידם- ויאמר:דוד היה,כעומד במקום פרצת הגדר לבלי תת לבוא דרך בה ור"ל בתפילתו ביטל החמה ולולי הוא וזה רק מקרה אחד היכן המרגלים? חטא העגל? המתאוננים? ולא הובטח.(הקב"ה) משמידם לסוחר אחד היו:ב'שלום' כפי שהובטח פינחס? והתירוץ יבואר על פי משל למה הדבר דומה כשראה שאין מנוס.הרבה 'נושים' שלקח מהם סחורה בהקפה ולא היה בידו לשלם בעבורה ובכל פעם, מה עשה? נצמד לחבר אחד ששימש כנציגו...'ויש גבול לכמה הוא יוכל 'להתגלגל חבר אחר. היה החבר מדבר עימו שיאריך את זמן הפירעון לעוד חודש ימים,שהיה מגיע נושה 20% כל בעל חוב שהגיע הציע החבר.של הסוחר ראה שכך הוא לא יתקדם והחליט לעזור לו משלא הייתה ברירה הסכימו הנושים להציל לפחות חלק.מהשטר במזומן וסגירת החשבון והחבר קרע את השטר לאלתר וכך תוך זמן קצר חיסל את כל חובותיו...מכספם האבוד ממילא בנו... נישקו וברכו בכל הברכות, משראה הסוחר שנקרעו השטרות קפץ על חברו...של הסוחר מדוע את זה אתה מברך שהגיע אך לכמה שבועות ואילו לא עשית, "אבא:של הסוחר התפלא חברי הקודם, "בני! דע לך: השיב האב."כך לחברך ששהה עימך כמה שנים ועזר לך לא פחות במעשה: הנמשל ברור מאליו, זהו המשל..."רק דחה את החוב אל זה קרע את השטרות לגמריי " "וינחם ה' על הרעה אשר דיבר לעשות לעמו: משה רבינו רק דחה את החוב שנאמר,העגל לעומתו." "וביום פקדי ופקדתי עליהם חטאתם: אבל לא ביטלה לגמריי כפי שאומר הקב"ה...פינחס ביטל את החוב לגמרי לכן נותן לו ה' ברית שלום Kids Corner submitted by Shragie Newhouse Olomeinu in Chinuch.org from Aish.com A Jewish Guide Shoveling Snow to snow decide for itself what it wishes to do, and then if it wishes to be shoveled, do so humanely." JWR contributor Jordan Max is a Toronto-based humorist and columnist for The Canadian Jewish News. Rashi - "Snow, this is a form of solid precipitation that clings to one's beard if you remain outside too long in the winter season. (Old French: neige). Shoveling is a Rabbinic precept, based on the verse in Isaiah 1:18 - "If your sins be like scarlet, they will turn as white as snows" By Jordan Max LAST YEAR, in Toronto, we had a lot of snow. I spent many hours shoveling snow. Shoveling snow is boring work, and after a while a mind tends to wander. So I resolved that this year I would be prepared with lots to think about. I researched and sent letters to key Jewish figures, polling them for their keen insight on shoveling snow. Their responses: Ariel Sharon - "The important thing is to shovel the entire width and breadth of the driveway, regardless of what anyone else thinks." Ehud Barak - "You must shovel most of the driveway, but the exact dimensions of shoveling will be determined in discussions with our neighbors. No wait, you can shovel only in places where snow had previously fallen, but you cannot shovel in places where no snow had fallen - wait, don't do any shoveling until you hear from me!" Yossi Sarid - "You should not shovel any part of the driveway, since you really do not have any valid historical or legal claim to the driveway, and it will soon be given back to its rightful owners." Na Nach Corner This past Week Over heard today "I can't believe that Soldier Field -Chicago-The Judaism allows you to Grateful Dead Fare Thee be so happy" Well Concert Rabbi Nachman says Telshe Cleveland that the main thing in South Bend Indiana life is to be happy! Detroit Camp Dora Golding Na Nach Nachma Nachman Me'Uman Artscroll Hilchos Sheleg ("Laws Regarding Snow; Ashkenaz version, chapter 5) - "First approach the snow with the proper kavanah, meditating on the concept of snow removal. Recite the "...Who commanded us concerning the shoveling of snow" benediction," then take three steps back, bend the knees slightly with feet together, then look at the snow, lift shovel and dig, turning right and then left, bend knees fully, take three steps forward and deposit snow deliberately. Repeat until done, then recite the Sheheheyanu benediction, go indoors and have a hot drink, remembering to say the Shehakol brocha (see Artscroll Hilchos on Drinking Hot Liquids)..." Tikkun Magazine - "What right do we have to violently take snow from its rightful resting place? Snow has rights: each snowflake is a unique individual, and we have absolutely no right to do anything with it. Let the Birthright Israel - "It does not matter how the shoveling is done, but the very act of Jewish teenagers shoveling snow for ten consecutive days, under proper supervision, will have a lifelong impact on Jewish identity." Meir Ben-Meir (Israeli Water Commissioner) - "Just shovel the snow as fast as you can, and ship it here. We are running out of water fast! Is anyone listening to me?" Rabbi David Hartman - "Snow is a potent force in the world which unites all Jews. It falls on us all, regardless of religious denomination and belief, and is therefore instrumental in our understanding of Jewish unity and diversity. In fact, just this week, I was explaining the significance of snow to the Prime Minister, President Weizman, President Clinton, and His Holiness the Pope, who had asked my opinion." Now, if I could just find my boots. Pet Fish After a day fishing in the Sea of Galilee Moshe the fisherman is walking from the pier carrying two rare fish in a bucket. He is approached by Yaki Game Warden who asks him for his fishing license. Moshe says to the warden, "I did not catch these fish, they are my pets. Every day I come down to the water and whistle and these fish jump out and I take them for a swim only to return them at the end of the day." The warden, not believing him, reminds him that it is illegal to fish without a license, and a heavy fine is levied for illegally fishing rare fish. The fisherman turns to the warden and says, "If you don't believe me then watch," as he throws the fish back into the water. Yaki the warden says, "Now whistle to your fish and show me that they will come out of the water." Moshe turns to the warden and says, "What fish?" 911 -A Glimpse into the "Chesed" life of Zvi Gluck INSECTS - VISIBILITY TO THE NAKED EYE: Nachum Scheiner Ohr Chaim Night Kollel This past week we heard a shiur from HaRav Shlomo Gissinger, Rav of Kahal Zichron Yaakov in Lakewood, NJ and Rav Hamachshir of Bodek and Rabbinic Administrator for the Kof-K. I would like to share with you some highlights. Rav Gissinger pointed out that people are unaware how vital it is that they not leave food in the open, especially in the summer months, when insects are prevalent. He mentioned that he once was in someone’s home and noticed that the food was left open before being served. He told the host that it was not a good idea. The host replied, “In my house we don’t have any bugs.” I invited him to take a look at the light fixture located right above the table and lo and behold we discovered plenty of “shady characters,” - actually a whole “cemetery” full of insects. The Chochmos Adam asserts that one must be vigilant to keep food covered at all times and additionally he recommends that one scan the food prior to consumption to ensure that there are no uninvited guests. Indeed the Chochmos Adam adds that many times he was saved from transgression because he checked before partaking from his food. Rav Gissinger also discussed the halachic regulations of nir’e l’eina’im - an insect is only prohibited if it can be seen by the average naked eye. As we find in many areas, the laws of the torah are given based on average and normal situations. One must make sure that there is proper lighting and some training is necessary to understand what is being seen and how to see, but ultimately it must be seen by the average naked eye to be prohibited. Those who use magnification properly are only using it to for identification purposes, but at the end of the day it must be visible to the naked eye. The only time one needs to be concerned is if it one can see identifying features legs (all insects come with at least six of them), wings, the unique shape of the insect, or if it can be seen moving. In the Q&A session after the shiur, Rabbi Gissinger added an important clause. Once an insect was noticed - via one of the aforementioned methods - the insect will remain prohibited. Therefore, if one notices an insect crawling and then it subsequently stopped moving and is no longer nir’e l’eina’im (e.g. it had “cardiac arrest”), it remains prohibited and one who noticed it originally, should inform others of the infestation. COMMUNITY KOLLEL NEWS: The kollel boker would like to extend their warmest bracha to our member, Moshe Kaplan, on the birth of a baby girl. We wish him much nachas. We are continuing to host various guest speakers, on the topic of bedikas tola’im. As we go to print, we are expecting to host Rabbi Isser Mordechai Fuchs, OU Kosher Rabbinic Field Representative for New York City. The last of the string of shiurim will iy”H, take place on July 15th @ 8:30pm. The shiur will be given by Rabbi Sholom Tendler, Kashrus Administrator of Star-K. I also gave a chabura on the topic of worms in the fish, and I will, iy”H, share with you the highlights of the various shiurim in a future article. As always, CDs of the shiurim are available and can be downloaded from the shul’s website 18Forshay.com. Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos, Rabbi Nachum Scheiner Rabbi The Aruch Hashulchan writes clearly that insects that can only be seen through magnification are not a concern. Quoting the scientists, he writes that the air is full of many living microorganisms and dust mites (and the pollution is just getting worse!), but this is a non-issue, because they cannot be seen by the average naked eye. He mentioned that there are those that claim that seeing a black dot on a fruit or vegetable requires further investigation. However, Rav Gissinger stated emphatically that - in his opinion - merely seeing a black dot does not constitute nir’e l’eina’im. There are plenty of black dots that are just dirt and one may therefore follow the majority. Story of the Week: At 21 years old and newly married, he should have been enjoying his new life with his beautiful bride, instead of molesting a child. He should have been, but he wasn't. And it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that he had to have been abused himself as a child. The first time he was abused was at 11. His parents refused to get help for him. By 15, he had turned the tables and was abusing others. His parents had no idea what to do with him, so they sent him away to live somewhere else. Not surprisingly, the abuse didn't end there. The cycle doesn't just magically end once someone has a new address. He continued to abuse unsuspecting victims. No one got him help. And no one reported him, either. Until one day, as a new chosson, who should have been looking ahead to a future filled with promise, he got caught doing the unthinkable. This story continues to unfold and we are learning of more and more victims that he molested. We still don't know how many lives he has forever tarnished. What we do know is this: the abuse that he perpetrated could have been prevented if only he would have gotten the help he needed when he was 11. Instead, 10 years later, he leaves behind a trail of lost innocence and shattered lives. Weekly Stats: This week, Amudim -Dealt with 1 new case of sexual abuse. Started 3 new cases relating to drug addiction. Opened 2 new cases pertaining to At-Risk matters. Assisted 2 people with emergency passport matters. Referred 3 people to therapy. Dealt with 2 immigration matters. Assisted with 1 legal referral. Dealt with 3 jail matters. Where Are They Now: B"H we are able to share more good news of success. Another client has successfully graduated from rehab and is entering sober living. And, we have just learned that a survivor of childhood sexual abuse with whom we worked has been accepted to social work school. These are the stories that give us chizuk to continue forward in our work even in the sometimes very dark moments, knowing that it is saving Jewish lives and helping them towards happy futures filled with potential sparks of light. Have a wonderful Shabbos, Zvi Gluck. MAY WE SHARE ONLY SIMCHOS Rabbi Shlomo Gissinger speaking at the night Kollel last Monday Night on the topic of Checking Vegetables for Insects. 065 Questions? Comments? 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