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JOHN NEWS Boomers is created by GateHouse Media, Inc., parent company of the above newspapers, and is distributed with various GateHouse papers across the country. Reproduction in whole or in part without prior written permission is strictly prohibited. Opinions expressed in the publication are those of the authors and do not necessarily represent those of the management of the publication. ©2014 GATEHOUSE MEDIA ALL RIGHTS RESERVED A new meaning of ‘retirement age’ By Melissa Erickson More Content Now Boomers have a live-towork reputation, and true to form, some are digging in their heels as they approach the traditional retirement age of 65, according to a recent Gallup Poll. While the average age at which U.S. retirees say they retired has risen steadily from 57 to 61 in the past two decades, the poll found that boomers will likely extend it even further. Nearly half (49 percent) of boomers still working say they don’t expect to retire until they are 66 or older, including 1 in 10 who predict they will never retire. need to urgently and collectively shift focus to reduce the Most people would like to barriers and increase educaremain in their own homes for tion on new innovations in as long as they can, but a new technology that bring peace of study by Philips and the mind, safety and convenience Global Social Enterprise Inito aging seniors,” stated Brent tiative at Georgetown Univer- Shafer, chief executive officer sity’s McDonough School of of Philips North America, in Business found that only 21 the report. percent of boomers are planning to incorporate technolHome sweet home ogy solutions or remodel/retrofit their homes A new survey by Better to make staying at home Homes and Gardens Real Eslonger possible. Almost 80 tate found that 70 percent of percent of 60- to 80-year-olds people said the home they will responded that they were not retire in will be the best home thinking about upgrading or they ever lived in. The survey updating their homes with found that 57 percent of new technology, which they boomers planned to move out viewed as costly and unimpor- of their current home to live tant. in a home they’re better suited “Now is the time that we No plans to remodel to. The optimism continues with approximately one out of four boomers saying they are likely to buy a second home during their retirement years, such as a vacation or beach house. “Baby boomers are known for being a hardworking, trailblazing generation. As they have done with every other major life event, they are marching head-on into retirement with big plans and no desire to change pace. Our study shows that boomers continue to surprise with nuances of what they care about and what they are prioritizing,” said Sherry Chris, president and chief executive officer of Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate. FALL 2014 BOOMERS 3 4 BOOMERS legislation SHL takes two pronged approach to ‘Payday Loans’ By J.W. Keene Managing Editor Kiowa County Signal T he Kansas Silver Haired Legislature took an unusual two pronged approach while attempting to deal with regulating the predatory ‘Payday Loan’ industry which effects not only senior citizens of the state of Kansas but borrowers of all ages. The Silver Haired Legislative Committee on Public Affairs working on SHL Bill No. 3104 to amend provisions in the Kansas Uniform Consumer Credit Code governing payday loans made several changes to the proposed Bill given them for consideration. The following changes were made: ■ Increases the permissible amount of the cash advance to an amount to or less than $1,000 (under current law cash advances are limited to an amount of $500 or less). ■ The changes prohibit a lender from having more than one loan outstanding to the same borrower at any one time. Under current law, the lender is restricted to having no more than two outstanding loans made to the borrower. ■ Prohibit a lender from making more than one loan to any one borrower within a 60 calendar day period. Under current law, lenders are permitted to make three loans to a borrower during the specified time period. The bill also would update the notice requirements provided with each loan agreement to reflect the change in the permissible number of outstanding loans with the borrower. Changed the Notice to Borrower to state: Kansas Law prohibits this lender and their related interest from having more than one loan outstanding to you at any one time. A lender cannot divide the amount you want to borrow into multiple loans in order to increase the fees you pay. This notice must be printed in at least 10-point bold face type. ■ Change the minimum term of any loan under Section I of the Bill to (a) No less than 60 days for any cash advance less than $500; or (b) no less than 120 days for any cash advance greater than $500 from the time the loan is made. The loan shall become due on receipt of the first payday of the borrower after the minimum time period expires. In the event the borrower no longer receives the income for which the loan is advanced, the loan shall be due seven days after the minimum time period. The Committee on Public Affairs approved the changes and forwarded them to the Committee of the Whole for consideration, debate, amendment and action. The Committee of the Whole approved Bill No. 3104 as presented in its final form. However, the Public Affairs Committee took one further step by passing Resolution 3107, which was later approved by the Committee of the Whole in its final form, by suspending the rules and declaring an emergency, as follows: A Resolution urging the Kansas Legislature to enact legislation to help combat predatory payday lending practices that adversely affect elderly and other residents of Kansas. WHEREAS, Payday lending, or cash advance, is the practice of using postdated check or electronic checking account information as collateral for a short-term loan. To qualify, borrowers need only personal identification, a checking account and an income from a job or government benefits, such as social security or disability payments; and WHEREAS, Payday loans carry a very low risk of loss, but lenders typically charge high fees causing borrowers to pay more in interest than the amount of the loan they originally borrowed; and WHEREAS, Many Payday loan customers are unable to repay their loan and are forced to get a loan “rollover” at additional cost; and WHEREAS Payday lenders earn profits by making multiple loans to cashstrapped borrowers; and WHEREAS, Payday loan recipients are overwhelmingly lower income taxpayers who can least afford to pay: Now therefore, Be it resolved by the Silver Haired Legislature of the State of Kansas: That the Kansas Legislature is hereby urged to enact legislation ending payday-lending practices. Various speakers during the Public Affairs Committee’s consideration and consideration by the Committee of the Whole expressed outrage that the state of Kansas would allow these practices to continue. Jane Gingles, Floor Leader of the Kansas Silver Haired Legislature FALL 2014 FALL 2014 BOOMERS 5 lifestyle 96-year-old still going strong after full lifetime By Josh Arnett Staff Writer McPherson Sentinel F rom farming to teaching to traveling, Wes DeCoursey has done a lot in just less than a century. DeCoursey, who celebrated his 96th birthday Tuesday, hasn’t let age slow him down. “I keep in shape by walking a mile or two each day, and I do some work,” DeCoursey said. “I can’t explain how I’m as old as I am and can still move like I do. My health is just extraordinarily good.” Hard work has been a part of DeCoursey’s life since his growing-up years. He was born in 1918 in Nampa, Idaho, and worked on farms until he went to college. “It’s an irrigated area. Our family lived on 80 acres,” he said. “Water came from the mountains not far from Boise.” In those days, farming was a lot less high-tech than it is today. “I didn’t use a tractor,” DeCoursey said. “Back then, we were still using horses. I worked on my family’s farm and a few others.” DeCoursey attended Manchester College in Indiana for a year before finishing at McPherson College. He said because he belongs to the Church of the Brethren, McPherson College was a good fit for him. School gave him not only a degree, but a love of sports that would last almost a lifetime. “I played tennis for college and continued until I was 90,” DeCoursey said. “My son and I last played in Chicago.” Because he was a conscientious objector, DeCoursey avoided going to war during World War II. Instead, he became a civilian public serviceman in 1942 and was sent to Wellport, Oregon, to plant trees and fight the occasional fire. 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In 1953, the family moved to Pakistan, where DeCoursey taught chemistry. “During that time, India and Pakistan had a fight, so we went to Iran to teach,” he said. “We’ve been all over. We’ve seen the world a bit.” DeCoursey said his favorite country outside the Untied States was Italy, where one of his daughters worked as a U.S. forest service representative for two years. Despite their travels, DeCoursey has called McPherson home since 1953. After he earned his doctorate degree in chemistry, he taught chemistry, geology and astronomy at McPherson College for 34 years. Verda joined him there, teaching home economics. DeCoursey also worked as a chemist at Hospira. He said some of his students found their way there as well. DeCoursey also started McPherson’s rock and mineral club, which continues to this day. He still has a collection of stones he polished from the shores of Lake Superior. “As a geologist, I do that sort of thing,” he said. Though he has since retired and moved into The Cedars assisted living, he is by no means resting on his laurels. He attends exercise classes three times a week and also works at The Cedars’ front desk for a few hours a week. He said he thinks remaining active is a great way for seniors to stay happy and healthy in the community. “I have to admit my health is so good, and others have health problems that keep them from being as active as they want to be,” he said. “Still, it’s certainly important to be able to keep active.” Your New Home Awaits.... 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Americans love to pamper their pets, and pet spending is expected to hit $58.5 billion in 2014, according to the American Pet Products Association. From sparkly leashes and organic food to posh playhouses and personal trainers, the new trend is that boomers are spoiling their pets rotten. “Boomers most definitely enjoy pampering their pets, as they see their pet as a companion. Their children have left home to go to college or start their own family, so people 50 and older appreciate the affection they receive from their pets and treat them as a member of the family,” said Dixie Eng, general manager at the Olde Towne Pet Resort, Springfield, Virginia. A premiere boarding facility, Olde Towne caters to pets and their owners with one-on-one attention, individual walks, playtimes and a climate-controlled suite complete with soft music playing overhead. There’s also heated indoor swimming pools, a “pawlates” (like pilates) fitness class, an outdoor agility training course and even a Fido Fit Class for chubby puppies. only the best, and not just jeweled collars and premium food,” said Michelle Pollack, the company’s interior designer. La Petite Maison playhouses are popular with people who entertain outdoors and want their pets to be a part of the party, Pollack said. Some are large enough to fit six or seven people inside — standing up — or tiny and cozy for smaller breeds. They’re not only comfortable with air conditioning, dog-themed artwork, media rooms and stereo and lighting systems, they’re also made of the highest quality materials such as hardwood or marble flooring, custom cabinetry, handmade roof tiles and architectural details. Developing a bond Biscuits & Bath in New York City offers a range of services for pampered pooches, including daycare, boarding, training and grooming. BISCUITS & BATH When money is no object Industry analysts think that baby boomers spend the most on their pets, and companies are responding with over-the-top, luxurious pet products. The custom doghouse design artists at 7 la Petite Maison will build a work of art that will compliment your estate with prices starting at $5,500. You can even duplicate your own home in a mini mansion for your pet. “For people with the disposable income and who don’t have kids or whose kids have left home, they have their pets and they display that same maternal instinct for their pets. They want While pampering a pet is a way for owners to express their love and appreciation, some luxe services are a way for owners and their pets to bond and develop a personal relationship, said Scott Smith, owner of New York City’s Biscuits & Bath, which offers dog daycare, boarding, training and other pet services. Smith’s clients are often looking for more than a well-behaved dog. “Some people want to know what their dog is thinking. They want to make their dog happy and more comfortable,” he said. Biscuits & Bath training runs the gamut from pets getting their energy out and using their brains on agility courses to custom playgroups with outings to different neighborhoods. The dog day can even end with a relaxing massage. “In the past three to five years, I’ve noticed more and more people in this age range who are getting a dog after their kids have gone to college,” Smith said. “They want a companion for the next stage in their life. Dogs are great for socialization. They break down barriers and help people meet other people. It gives them something to care for. They’re very committed to their dog and they can spend the money if they want to.” 8 BOOMERS history Airplanes a lifetime passion for Asbury Park resident By Shana Smith Special to The Newton Kansan W hen a new resident arrives at Asbury Park it is always intriguing to hear about their lives and accomplishments. John Boylan loves to tell everyone about his passion for airplanes. As a young child in a farming community in western Kansas, John remembers watching the airmail plane picking up and delivering mail between Garden City and Ulysses everyday and his passion began. At the age of 13, John began building model planes and decorating his room with all the model airplanes. John graduated high school and joined the farming community in the Ulysses area. He is very proud to say he then married the youngest teacher in the area. As John turned 25 he continued farming and he and his wife, Eula raised their three children while his passion for airplanes continued. The local crop sprayer operated the airport and gave flight lessons. John began taking flight lessons three days a week for 2-3 weeks. One day John’s instructor felt he was ready to make his first solo flight. During that solo flight, when John was attempting his second solo landing, the engine quit. The propeller still worked, but that was it. As John’s instructor watched, he was very angry at what he thought was John just messing around. John completed the landing safely and informed his instructor that the throttle had become disconnected. At that moment John’s instructor signed his license and was assured John would be a safe pilot. Throughout the years John owned three different planes using his planes and himself to help oth- We believe that every moment matters. Most of all, we believe in dignity and respect for each patient we serve. Maybe that’s why so many families believe in us when it comes to choosing a hospice provider. For more information or to receive our free DVD, “Hospice and Your Loved One,” call 620-245-0891. gentiva.com/hospice Gentiva accepts patients for care regardless of age, race, color national origin, religion, sex, disability, being a qualified disabled veteran, being a qualified disabled veteran of the Vietnam era, or any other category protected by law, or decisions regarding advance directives. © 2011 Gentiva Health Services, Inc. MKT3144 John and Eula Boylan ERICIA STEVENS/SPECIAL TO THE KANSAN FALL 2014 FALL 2014 ers. When his children were in college he flew them to school and home for holidays. He also lent his services to local doctors to help transfer patients from Ulysses to hospitals in Wichita. John’s passion for flying was his hobby and it was used for great purposes. One year, John saw an ad in an Air magazine that sold kits to build airplanes. This was a “little” more than the model planes he built as a child. The plane came in three boxes, one was 12 ft long, one box contained the engine and the final box contained the wheels. The framework of the plane was made from wood, and a special type of fabric was ironed and stretched over the framework. The fabric then shrunk in place and BOOMERS 9 was held on with glue. John kept a log tracking all of his hours and steps to build the plane. When all was complete the single passenger plane had taken 535 work hours. Over the years, John decided to donate the plane to the Mid American Air Museum in Liberal, KS. The plane is now hanging from the ceiling on display. A mock cockpit of the plane is on the floor and children in SW Kansas who tour the airport get to operate it by moving the rutters. His favorite flights were taking his children back and forth to college. John’s passion for flying has been passed down to his children who have taken flying lessons and one has a pilot’s license. WICHITA 3636 N. Ridge Rd. 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Though vaccines are usually associated with childhood or foreign travel, older adults may need certain vaccinations as they age. Even those who received immunizations as youngsters may need refresher doses or vaccinations tailored specifically to the over 50 crowd. Seniors are urged to talk to their doctors about certain vaccines. In addition to flu shots, there are vaccinations that can help prevent other illnesses, such as pertussis (whooping cough), shingles, diphtheria/tetanus, and pneumonia. Shingles is a condition that affects those who had chickenpox as children, and can be quite painful. A vaccination is an easy way to avoid it. Many local pharmacies now offer on-site immunizations, saving people a trip to the doctor's office. Stop by any one of our convenient locations and see why Via Christi Villages is right for you. Call 316.946.5200 for more information or to schedule your tour today. 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Then starting clicking on these websites targeted at boomers: AARP aarp.com Arguably the most popular boomer website, AARP is a nonprofit advocate for people 50 and up and their needs, from retirement to vacation planning. You don’t have to be one of its 37 million members to take advantage of website offerings like in-depth articles on taxfriendly states and ways to save on the latest technology, health advice, job resources and free online games like Su- doku. Check out the Life Reimagined page for opportunities, possibilities and positive outlooks. home care help and more. Stitch huffingtonpost.com/50 With a tagline of “Life Begins at 50,” on this site you’ll find refreshing blogs, the latest health news and everything from retirement, love, dating, divorce, sex, parenting and grandparenting advice, travel and book reviews, and the thought-provoking “GPS for the Soul.” Stitch.net Not everyone is looking for love, but everybody needs a companion. Stitch provides companionship for mature adults and seniors in a safe online community. Stitch conducts background checks before connecting you with people in relationships that run the gamut from friendship and marriage, to travel companions and buddies who meet to go to the movies or do other activities. The Senior List theseniorlist.com Because you’re caring for your aging parents, The Senior List is an invaluable resource for senior housing advice, HuffPost 50 BoomerPlaces boomerplaces.com If you’re thinking seriously about living comfortably and actively in retirement, check out Boomer Places for tips on a spirited life. The site tackles serious subjects such as retirement and Medicare planning, and includes entertainment, travel and fun things to do this year. 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Everything Zoomer everythingzoomer.com This lifestyle website will keep you up to date with breaking news, comprehensive reporting ranging from health, finance, travel, relationships, lifestyle, arts and entertainment, spirituality and more. City of Boomer Women Speak boomerwomenspeak.com A place where women can share from the heart, Boomer Women Speak helps women encourage, connect and support one another online. Retired Brains retiredbrains.com A destination for preparing for retirement, retirement jobs, starting your own business, working from home, 6199 S.. Mainn P.O.. Boxx 807 620.672.5571 Has Something for You! 620.672.6446 11 discounts and other important info for boomers and seniors. Day One Stories dayonestories.com The biggest generation is retiring. Prudential brings their stories to life with optimism and hope through a collection of films, images and thoughts from people on their first day of retirement. Volunteer Match volunteermatch.org While not aimed specifically at boomers, Volunteer Match is a nonprofit online service that makes it easier to connect people with good causes to support. 12 BOOMERS FALL 2014 heritage Man honors history with marker By Josh Arnett Staff Writer McPherson Sentinel L one Tree Township, a 36-squaremile area southeast of McPherson, is home to just less than 500 people. Thanks to Jake Goering, it is also home to the Lone Tree historical marker, which commemorates the history of the township’s name. In the early 1900s, a large cottonwood tree stood on the north bank of Running Turkey Creek. Known as the Lone Tree, it alerted travelers heading west along the Santa Fe Trail to a possible source of water. For Goering, the connection is more personal. He was born a mile from where the tree once stood and lived in Lone Tree Township for 19 years. “I was very much immersed in Lone Tree,” Goering said. He currently lives at Kidron Bethel Village in North Newton. As co-managers for senior housing in El Dorado and Augusta, Tina McCluer and Tammy Allar offer quality low-income housing to individuals 55 and better at an affordable price. Constantly upgrading and renovating, their properties offer several amenities like barbecues, activity rooms, on site laundry, 24-hour emergency maintenance, low cost cable, as well as a variety of resident activities. If you are ready to leave the work of maintaining your home to us and truly begin to enjoy your home, call or come by today! “I remember fishing at the tree with my family. It was a big landmark,” he said. Goering’s family moved out of the area after World War II, but he later moved back in 1996. He discovered that the Lone Tree had died because of exposure to pollution while he was away. After doing some research, Goering found not much information was available about the township’s namesake. In order to preserve a memory of the Lone Tree, Goering decided to get a commemorative marker placed near where the tree once stood. “It was an important part of the county’s settlement, and I decided it needed a marker,” Goering said. Goering approached the McPherson County Historical Society, which supported the idea. He then gained permission from the county SEE MARKER, PAGE 23 This marker at 19th Avenue and Commanche Road gives a brief history of a cottonwood tree that used to mark the Running Turkey Creek for travelers as a source of water. Jake Goering, formerly of Lone Tree Township and now a North Newton resident, led the initiative to place this marker after the tree died. Customer service is #1 Come see our display at Central/Arthur 211 N. Gordy, El Dorado 316-321-0560 [email protected] Schwindt-Quiring 1630 N. Main, El Dorado Every picture tells a story, and it’s necessary in making a lasting tribute for future generations to learn about our past. “Touching Families, Perserving Memories” Step in and see Will Williams APARTMENTS Tina McCluer Tammy Allar Co-Manager Co-Manager 1515 CLUBHOUSE DR., AUGUSTA 316-775-5636 IN GROUND STORM SHELTERS AT $3,200 1077 South h Arthurr Streett • Ell Dorado,, KS S 670422 • 316.321.6080 FALL 2014 BOOMERS 13 communities PACE fundraising for center in McPherson By Teri L. Hansen Staff Writer McPherson Sentinel A regional center dedicated to providing affordable health and social services to the elderly will soon be located in McPherson. Bluestem Communities, the company awarded a contract known as the Program of All-Inclusive Care for the Elderly (also known as PACE) by the Kansas Department of Aging and Disability Services, is working with an architect in developing the almost $1.5 million facility. The center is going to be located at Ash and Elizabeth Streets (the old Midway Motors building) and is estimated to have 30 employees. To build and effectively run the program will cost about $4 million. The project needs about $300,000 to get the McPherson center off the ground. Fundraising is underway. “We recognize the growing demand for services and the inability of the govern- ment to continue to pay for it,” said Chris Scott, special project coordinator for Bluestem. “It is estimated that 44 percent of people will need long-term care in their lives.” PACE is a Medicare program with a Medicaid state option established in 1997 by the Balanced Budget Act. It is designed to provide people 55 years and older with individually tailored care plans intended to keep them living at home for as long as possible. Only about 7 percent of current PACE clients live in long-term care facilities. The rest reside in their own houses, said Shawn Sullivan, Kansas Department of Aging and Disability Services secretary. “The concept behind PACE is the federal government and the state pay a set amount to a provider who is responsible to take care of all a person’s health needs,” Sullivan said. “The rate incentivizes keeping people at home, to remain independent while still managing their chronic conditions.” On April 2, Sullivan announced the in- tent to expand the PACE program from eight counties to 59. This expansion is a combined effort between state and the National PACE Association. Upon completion of the expansion, it will be the largest of its kind in Kansas. It has been a very successful program in Kansas and 180 sites across the country, he said. Upon the expansion announcement, it was determined that McPherson would be a good location for a primary center. Remote care centers will be opened in other counties, and mobile centers also are planned. McPherson was chosen because of its highway infrastructure and central location, which is in close proximity to an estimated 70 percent of PACE-eligible people. Travel to receive care is included in the services provided by the center. “We are excited about the supportive nature of the McPherson community and its people,” Scott said. “McPherson was chosen for its progressive business climate and the community’s commitment to car- ing for the under served.” The facility will provide a variety of services to the elderly. An 11-person interdisciplinary team will meet and talk with clients on a regular basis to develop care plans. Clients will be able to visit the center as often as they want for various services, such as primary care, hospital care, meals, dentistry, social services and adult day care. There is an estimated 11,900 people in Kansas who are clinically and financially eligible for PACE services. 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They grow their own produce and struggle to survive, but they are a hardy people, he said. They were not able to go to as many camps as usual this year because of the war. They are sponsoring as many as 15 camps, but this year they were only able to visit about 10 or so. He goes with a translator. The camps are like vacation Bible school. Children of all ages come to hear gospel messages and to be fed. They are welcomed by the public schools, and have meetings on soccer fields and in school facilities. Nickel said it is a little ironic that the facilities were built by communists in the 1980s, and are no being used for Christian pur- FALL 2014 Save Save BIG Fre e n e t u l G To o ! Fo o d s on groceries this year! 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He does get an opportunity to interact with the kids at the camps, and talks with them about his faith. “It is the greatest experience to pray with 60- or 100 kids and lead them in a prayer though a translator,” he said. Nickel has been involved with Ukranian ministries since 2002, even though he has been visiting only for the past eight years. They have bought some houses over the years that serve as house churches and gathering places for young people. They were in a part of Ukraine that is close to Poland, and an area where many jews were killed under Hitler’s regime. He was centered in the town of Valinski, which was a place where many Jews were killed. “One of eight people died there. There has been a lot of suffering, and people are very appreciative of what their elders when through. There is a cohesiveness there that is impressive. They are a unique people because of what they have been through,” he said. Nickel said the children, as well as adults are appreciative of the efforts of his ministry. Most people there speak Russian as well as Ukrainian. They are athletic and enthusiastic.” He said. They had record attendance this summer even with the war going on. Many of the camps have around 100 children, but some have 140 or more. Nickel said he has gone there since 2006, and works with a young pastor there who is a seminary professor and is well respected in the communities. That pastor has been to the U.S. some and has visited here. People from the Ukraine have been here and visited churches in the Midwest to tell them about the ministry. They are planning for him to come this year and visit 20 churches or so. Nickel said they were a little nervous at first, but got the goahead from people in Ukraine in May. “We had no fear about it. We had a blessed summer,” he said. The Grace to Ukraine group is involved in several types of ministry in Ukraine in addition to helping run Bible camps. They help people with medical issues, education, and pastors who are working there. Nickel has partnered with another local man, the Rev. Larry Asman, age 90. They went together for the first time in 2001, and that was the start of the ministry. Both of their ancestors came to the United States from Ukraine in the 1870s when Kansas was being settled. They were Mennonites and settled in the Newton area. Nickel was encouraged by what he saw in Ukraine. He believes God is doing great things in that country even with the war and various upheavals going on. 15 “People are taking their faith seriously there. The camps are well attended and we see many people coming to faith,” he said. “God works through crisis at times to wake people up.” Nickel said there is a lot of openness to the gospel there. “We are welcomed by the public schools. The government also invites us to do something for kids in the summer time,” he said. “There is more openness to Christianity there in the public schools then there is here in the United States,” He said people in public there are more open to religious expression. They have more a sense of history about them. Orthodox Christianity is the major religion, and while it is Christian it is different then the Evangelical brand that Nickel offers them. He said the Othodox church does not appreciate them being there. “They tell their people not to come to us, but they come anyway,” he said. TIRED OF LOW INTEREST RATES ON CDS AND MONEY MARKET ACCOUNTS? For investment dollars you have sitting on the sidelines, call or stop in for ideas on higher interest rates for investment income. CD’s offer FDIC insurance whereas other investments do not. Garry E. Fry Registered Principal Financial Advisor Travis D. 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While most people met their ex-spouses in more traditional ways (at school or work, through a blind date or friends), in 2014 “online dating is a must when you’re dating after 40. That’s where millions of people go to find love,” said Weiner. “There’s no greater place for finding a relationship than online dating — if you know how to do it,” said Ken Solin, author of “The Boomer Guide to Finding True Love Online,” available in September. That means being safe and honest online, said Robin Korth, a self-described spokesperson for older people and a frequent contributor to Huffington Post. A recent Pew Research study found that 30 percent of online daters seek details about potential dates online, and major online dating sites, such as eHarmony.com, Match.com and ChristianMingle, often scan clients’ backgrounds for sexual assault, identity theft and violence. 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Although Ed Sharfar and Harold Dyck served during the same time period, they never met during their military years. The two became friends after moving to Kidron Bethel Village continuing-care retirement community in North Newton, and will make the trip together to DC. Shafar’s daughter surprised him by submitting the Honor Flight application for her father, and Dyck applied directly to the program. When Shafar was drafted, the Korean War was underway. He wasn’t required to actually enlist because his brother had been killed during World War II, leaving him as the last surviving son in the family. However, Ed and his wife of 2 years discussed the situation and decided he should serve. It was 1952 when he left for basic training at Fort Leonard Wood, Missouri. After additional training at Fort Belvoir, Virginia, and Fort Meade, Maryland, he embarked on a 21-day boat ride to Korea with the Army’s 378th Combat Engineers. “I was sick for 14 of those days,” Shafar says, remembering. “My return trip in 1954 was much smoother. We came back on a three-stack general and the water was smooth like glass.” Shafar’s Engineer group built roads for the Army’s infantry and facilitated prisoner exchanges near the 38th Parallel. “I really wanted to join the 82nd Airborne, but my wife wouldn’t sign the papers,” Shafar says with a chuckle. “At one point, we were fighting more Chinese than Korean people,” says Shafar. “We captured a 15-yearold Chinese boy, and he’d already been in the service for 10 years. When it was all said and done, they all were there because they had to be. And they missed their families and friends as much as we did.” Shafar was awarded the Korean Service Medal with two Bronze Stars, a Meritorious Unit Commendation, the Good Conduct Medal, the National Defense Service Medal, a Korean Veterans’ Medal and the United Nations Service Medal for his service in the Korean War. He was honorably discharged at the rank of sergeant, and became a lifetime member of the American Legion and the Veterans of Foreign Wars. Dyck was still single when he was drafted in 1952 and left for basic training at Fort Riley, Kansas. Soon immersed in the Korean War, he helped deliver rations to the front line at the 38th Parallel, where he was stationed as a member of the 24th Division, 52nd Battalion Service Battery. “The best experience of my Army career was seeing a company of engineers come in to build a road,” says Dyck. “And right there in the middle of the road, I spotted a man just a smilin’ – it was ol’ Don Anderson, a friend of mine from Newton, Kansas.” Dyck, who was honorably dis- C ome join us at the NEWTON AREA SENIOR CENTER Celebrating 27 Years of Service! Dancing • Exercise • Bus Tours • Computer Classes “Golden Notes” Choir Blood Pressure & Weight Monitoring Legal Advice • Games • Movies Potlucks • Noon Meal • Volunteer Opportunities Hospitality Room for rent! MONTHLY 1ST THURSDAY BREAKFAST 7:30-9:00am (By Donation) 122 E. 6th St. • Newton • 316-283-2222 • M-F 8am-3pm charged in 1954 as a private first class, earned the Good Conduct Medal, Korean War Medal and two Bronze Stars. Dyck’s wife, Neva, and their daughter are taking a separate flight to DC, paid for by family members. They plan to meet up with the Kansas Honor Flight group and see the sites with the 57 veterans and sponsors. “I went back to Korea about 5 years ago with my family,” says Dyck. “Our son was there in the Air Force. Where there used to be cardboard shacks with tin roofs, now there are lots of trees and even a four-lane highway.” “I remember there were only a few buildings in Seoul,” says Shafar of his time in Korea Ed Sharfar during his enlistment. COURTESY PHOTO during the early 1950s. Both expect the Kansas the “Wichita Heroes Welcome Home” Honor Flight experience to be a group that will greet Kansas Honor sobering one, yet they are eager to see Flight #20 when it returns to the airthe nation’s monuments and museport in Wichita, visit kansashonorums erected in tribute to the service flight.org/Flight-Returning.htm. 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By Gale Rose Pratt Tribune T heir names are just three among the 58,286 on the Vietnam Veterans Memorial wall in Washington D.C. But these men, who gave their lives during the Vietnam War, were from Pratt County. These hometown men who died far from home and family were Army SFC Donald Eugene Moore of Pratt, Marine LCPL Jack Vernon Lackey Jr. of Iuka and Army PFC Forrest “Frosty” Dean Hoeme of Preston. The wall honors those that fell in the war. Memories of one Pratt County man listed on the wall, Forrest Hoeme, are kept alive in letters he sent home to his aunt and uncle Ewald and Deanna Hoeme. Their son, Luke Hoeme shared three letters that include inquiries of home and family including requests for pictures of Luke’s older brother Enick who was a baby. The letters were addressed to Deannea, Jan. 6, 1967 Dear Deannea, Edwald and Enick Hi. Isn’t this the greatest. Here I am on radio watch and its 3 o’clock in the morning. We have a couple of companys out in the field now so our 2 F.O.s are out with them. We arrived here and got off the ship on New Years Day. It would have been New Years Eve back home. The truce was on but I don’t believe that meant much to the V.C. because they fired a few times, not at us but other units…My boat ride was great. I didn’t even get seasick believe it or not. And the ocean is beautiful. The sunrise and sunset on the ocean is really great…How is Enick getting along? I’ll bet he is growing like a weed… Write soon please. Love Frosty Jan. 31, 1967 The Dodge City Family YMCA offers a variety of programs and services for older adults. 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I had buddies that told me about it. They said they walked right into a V.C. command post straight into a 50 cal machine gun. Brother that’s hell, don’t kid yourself. Kinda wish I was in a line company. Hate to see them out and leave me behind…It isn’t really so bad over her except for the two companies that got hit. Not much has happened. Don’t tell the folks about them don’t want them worrying… P.S. Send a picture of Enick okay Love, Frosty Feb. 18, 1967 Well we are in the Delta now and I don’t like it. I can hear Bravo Company now just outside town. Guess they made contact. It is hell. The enemy is everywhere and so is the water. I was out in the paddies yesterday. All there is, is mud and water. Boy, that company sounds like they are catching hell. Would like to help but we went though the same thing yesterday. I have never been as scared before in my life either…We can’t get clearance to fire because they are too close in and our shells won’t arm themselves without 10 charges on them…Well Edwald, you’ll have to write and give me a run down on how things are going back at the ranch, okay. Had better close, write soon. Love, Frosty Hoeme was killed just 21 days later on March 11, 1967. He was 22. He is buried in the Natrona Cemetery just a mile north of St. Paul’s Lutheran Church in Natrona. Luke Hoeme lives in the same house where Frosty grew up. Frosty went to Natrona Grade School. The Natrona School closed down and Frosty went to Preston where he competed in football, basketball and track. He was drafted a year or two after he graduated from Preston High School, Luke said. Although he was born after Frosty died, Luke has had two memorable encounters related to Frosty many years David David A. Kingrey, M.D. Bruce B. Ochsner, M.D. Jeffrey A. 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An aging population, an easy ap- plication and the promise of a quick fix to common problems have created “the perfect storm” for the low T craze happening right now, said Dr. Paul Turek, founder and director of The Turek Clinic, Los Angeles and San Francisco, which special- FALL 2014 FALL 2014 izes in male fertility and men’s sexual health care. Here are the issues that have contributed to the current craze that seems to claim testosterone equals youth and vitality: 1. Direct-to-consumer marketing of drugs. “I cannot imagine a better ad for testosterone replacement than: ‘Do you fall asleep after dinner? Feel grumpy? Don’t play sports as well? Feel tired?’” Turek said. 2. Easy application of testosterone. “Give a man a shot and see for how long he takes it — not very long; give a guy a gel to apply like deodorant and he’s off and running.” 3. “Early data for testosterone replacement makes it out to be a holy grail to a long life … but the long term data is still not in and may end up showing that testosterone replacement has some serious risks, too,” Turek said. Big business Recent studies have shown that the number of testosterone prescriptions written in the U.S. more than tripled 25 BOOMERS in the past decade. Prescribed by a doctor and at walk-up clinics, testosterone is big business. Sales are expected to triple from $1.6 billion in 2011 to $5 billion by 2017, according to Bloomberg. Testosterone is a key hormone that develops men’s muscle strength and mass and sex drive, said urology specialist Dr. Michael LaSalle of Barnabas Health, Livingston, New Jersey. It affects body hair growth, bone density, fat distribution, red cell and sperm production. “Testosterone levels change as men age, typically declining around age 30 about 1 to 2 percent a year,” LaSalle said. The correct range is between 300 and 1,200 nanograms per decaliter. Over time symptoms (decrease in energy, libido and work performance, low self esteem, loss of muscle mass, depression, erectile dysfunction) may occur, but not all men who have low testosterone will experience symptoms, LaSalle said. “One symptom doesn’t mean a man has low testosterone,” LaSalle said. Testosterone replacement is beneficial for men who have a “syndrome of symptoms,” he said. What to expect While self-diagnosis with the help of the Internet makes low T replacement an attractive treatment, men should seek out a professional, either your primary physician or a specialist in urology or endocrinology, said Dr. Puneet Masson, director of the male fertility program for Penn Fertility Care, Philadelphia, and assistant professor of urology in surgery. “Any doctor can prescribe testosterone replacement, but very few have a true understanding of how to monitor the therapy, what to look for, the side effects and benefits and how well it’s tolerated,” Masson said. A simple blood test taken twice, both in the early morning, will confirm testosterone numbers and see if treatment is necessary. While many men come to the office asking for treatment, a good doctor will conduct a physical and look at the big picture including other medical conditions, health, diet and exercise and prescribe a medicinal, non-medicinal or a combination of treatments, LaSalle said. Years ago, the treatment was an injectable, which is still available, then patches and pellets, LaSalle said. Now most men opt for easy-to-apply, once-a-day gels, such as Androgel and Axiron, and the testosterone is absorbed directly into the body. “There are more benefits than there are risks, but there are risks. That’s why it’s important to have a conversation with your doctor who knows your medical history,” LaSalle said. A series of studies shed negative light on testosterone replacement and a possible increase in the risk of heart attack, stroke and even death, LaSalle said. The Food and Drug Administration is now looking into the safety and side effects of testosterone drugs. “It’s great that the general awareness has skyrocketed,” LaSalle said. “Over 10 million men suffer from some form of low testosterone, but only 5 to 10 percent were seeking treatment for it” before the recent media awareness, he said. What’s Happening For You at HCC? 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Somewhere along the line, Hayse decided if he was going to be donating regularly, he might as well set a goal of 100 units. At the July blood drive, 100-plus donors were initiated into the Red Cross Century Club. Hayse was eli- Circuit Monday, Wednesday & Friday 8:00-8:45 AM Classic Tuesday & Thursday 10:10-10:55 AM Yoga Wednesday 3:30-4:20 PM gible quite a while ago — he donated his 178th pint on that day. The Pratt community drive boasts 35 members of the Century Club, according to Norma Dixon, manager of donor recruitment for the Central Plains Region Blood Services. Dan McAnarney, blood drive coordinator, visited with several of them who were at the community center Friday. Roy Purcell came down from Salina to celebrate his 165 units, McAnarney said. For many years, Purcell worked for the Kansas Department of Transportation in Coldwater, and scheduled trips to Pratt to coincide with the blood drive. When he first donated, he had a slight adverse reaction, he told McAnarney, and did not donate again for several years. What prompted him to give again Senior Swim Monday-Friday 1:00-2:00 PM Morning Aquacise Monday-Friday 8:00-8:50 PM At Your Own Pace Mon, Wed & Fri 9:00-9:50 AM Arthricise Tuesday & Thursday 2:00-3:00 PM Wellness Center * $22 monthly fee for a Senior Membership. * Silver Sneakers Fitness Programs, Public Swim and Racquetball Courts are included in Senior Memberships. Take Control with Exercise Mondays & Thursdays 9:00 AM - 10:00 AM Scholarships are Available 415 N. Poplar St. Newton, KS 67114 (316) 283-7330 (and again and again) was that a friend’s son had leukemia and the friend asked Roy to donate, McAnarney said. Lewis Hillard has donated 118 pints so far. He began donating because his doctor told him to. Leon Fletcher has about 105 pints, McAnarney related; Alan Hanson is over 100, as are Arlen Hair, Teresa Miller and Al Abbot. McAnarney predicted that the Pratt County Fair kept some regular donors away. Along with honoring the 100-plus donors, the Central Plains Region set a 100pint goal for the Pratt drive. They didn’t make it — 73 units were collected from 76 potential donors, McAnarney said, but he was excited about three first-time donors. Summers are challenging across the region, Dixon said. In Kansas, 20 percent of donations come from high school and college drives, and unless they make an effort to get to the community drive, many students don’t give during the summer. After being active while a student, many young adults don’t donate blood when they’re starting their careers and families. “We need them to come back,” Dixon said, and many do, but not until their children are raised. The blood drives, held every 56 days, help ensure a constant supply of blood. Hayse recalled a time when Evelyn Hillard, manager of the local Red Cross chapter for many years, told him to get to the hospital immediately — no time to shower or change clothes, this was an emergency. Blood was on the way from Wichita, accompanied by red lights and sirens, but the patient couldn’t wait that long. “It made me feel good to know I’d saved someone’s life,” Hayse said, • Prescriptions/Over the Counter Drugs • Most Insurance Plans Accepted • Free Mail-Outs • Free Local Delivery • Gifts & Cards DON’S DRUG STORE HOURS: M-F 1:30-5:30 620-983-2162 126 N Walnut St. PEABODY FALL 2014 BOOMERS 27 but he was quickly informed that donation was no more important than the one at a regular drive, which has the potential to save three lives. The special emphasis at the July blood drive was a way to “express our appreciation to these individuals who have so steadfastly, quietly and without fanfare, consistently shown their concern for others to donate their time and their blood,” McAnarney reported. Evelyn Hillard, who as a longtime manager for the local Red Cross chapter organized blood drives for many years, visits with Paul Hayse, who was at the July blood drive to give his 178th unit, share some stories about old times. At 102, Hillard is no longer an eligible donor. CAROL BRONSON/PRATT TRIBUNE INDEPENDENT LIVING PLUS APARTMENTS Compare our Services Compare 880 Sq.ft. to any Assisted Living! Starting at $2,850 Full kitchen and garage New Memory Support! Asbury Park is now providing a safe environment for those who are challenged with symptoms of memory impairment. Our setting is just like home with a kitchen, dining room, living room, bedrooms and a private courtyard. 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By Melissa Erickson rom your longtime best friend to the newest grandchild, your boss to your hairstylist, there are plenty of people you need to buy gifts for. Have you mastered the art of gift-giving? To help make things a bit easier, experts in etiquette and research weigh in and offer guidance. 1. “Gift-giving is always a hot topic,” said Peggy Post, author and spokeswoman for the Emily Post Institute. People tend to get anxious about selecting the perfect gift and “can drive themselves a little crazy,” Post said. Do a little detective work to figure out what the recipient might enjoy. Ask friends or family for advice or go to the source themselves. “Once you’ve made a decision, get excited about it. Never apologize for your gift. If you’re not sure they’ll like it, the graceful way is to include a gift receipt,” Post said. The question of going practical 2. versus fanciful or luxurious depends on the person, but a new study in the Journal of Consumer Research shows that people are more likely to enjoy receiving practical gifts. “In general, I think it’s pretty unsurprising that givers want the best gifts for their recipient whomever they may be. The surprising thing is that simple fact causes them to give worse gifts. In particular, they think about the receiver and what they want in a very abstract manner causing them to place a higher weight on the desirability features of a gift. In fact, if after choosing the correct category of gift, the giver instead thought about what gift they themselves would like, they would wind up picking a better gift for the receiver,” said study author Ernest Baskin. There are two key gift-giving rules 4.Etiquette to follow, Grosso said. dictates that you always ■ have the recipient in mind. ■ Always give a gift that’s in good taste. “Be cautious. You might think it’s funny, but maybe they won’t,” said Grosso about gag gifts or gifts that can call unwanted attention (for instance to a person’s age). never do it because we’re a nation of so much stuff,” she said. Her rules on regifting: ■ The recipient will really like it. ■ It’s not an obvious cast-off. ■ It must be new and unused. ■ Never regift a handmade, unique or heirloom piece. ■ The regift must be completely rewrapped. Be sure to check for old tags if you’re reusing a gift bag. A better idea may be “honest 7. regifting,” Post said. “Don’t pass it off as a new gift. Instead, let the person know you received a double of the coffee maker that you already have and that ‘I’d love for you to have it.’” Love them or hate them, gift cards are perfectly acceptable gifts and 5. Also be sure your gift is up to the are even better when perfectly suited to 8. times. A bottle of wine was once a the recipient, said Peggy Newfield, pres- go-to gift, but Newfield said to be very ident of the American School of Protocol, a division of Personal Best, Atlanta. One caveat: “The latest statistics show that millions of dollars of gift cards are never cashed in,” Newfield said. cautious of gifting alcohol. The same goes for items that may cause an allergic reaction such as food items with nuts or even chocolate. 200 S. Star, El Dorado, Kansas 316-321-1657 224 W. Ash El Dorado, Kansas www.carlsoncolonialfuneralhome.com 316-321-2260 (O 'RUDGR·V PRVW FRPSDVVLRQDWH )XQHUDO +RPHV serving the community for over 80 years. 24 Hour, 7 Days a week service Markers Available Full time Preneed Counselor to help get your wishes on file Call Laurie DiPietra 316-655-5679 32 BOOMERS FALL 2014
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