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The CoastLine
Unitarian Coastal Fellowship
Member of the Unitarian Universalist Association
1300 Evans Street, Morehead City, NC 28557
www.ucfnc.org
252-240-2283
Minister: The Reverend Sally White
252-726-4863 [email protected]
OUR VISION STATEMENT: Our congregation’s vision is to be a visible presence in the community, growing a
just world through spiritual enrichment, compassionate action, and free religious inquiry.
A WELCOMING CONGREGATION: We are an intentionally diverse community welcoming of and enriched by
people of varying cultures, economic and ethnic backgrounds; by people of varying sexual orientations, gender
identities and family compositions; by people of all races, ages and beliefs.
November 2014
FROM THE WORSHIP COMMITTEE
Promise of Carteret County called “Cardboard City.” This
morning several of the young people who participated will
talk about their experiences, and Family Promise
Executive Director Sandy Giacobbi will tell us about the
wonderful work this organization does for homeless
women and families in Carteret County.
November 2: Thin Places. Celtic spirituality shares with us
the idea of thin places. But what are “thin places” and why
should the concept of them be considered? These are just
a couple of the questions that will be explored in the
service presented by Chaplain Kelley Wheat-Rivers. She is
Chaplain and Bereavement Coordinator at Liberty Hospice
and one of the on-call chaplains and member of the
Professional Advisory Group at New Hanover Regional
Medical Center. Kelley is a member of the UU Fellowship
of Wilmington.
November 30: Thanksgiving Memories. What do you think
when you turn the calendar page to November and see
Thanksgiving? What Thanksgiving memories come to your
mind? On this Sunday following Thanksgiving three
members of our congregation will share memories that
still resonate with them today.
November 9: No Thanks. How does gratitude or a lack of it
affect your sense of generosity? When is it difficult to give
and what do we do when it is hard to give thanks?
Reverend Karen Day will be guest speaker on this day. She
is a community minister in Floyd, VA with Plenty!, an
organization that nourishes community and feeds hungry
neighbors by growing and sharing food.
PRESIDENT’S COLUMN
Greetings!
It was a wonderful service on October 26 on singing,
tremendous energy and passion, thanks everyone.
November 16: The Gentle Art of Spiritual Self-Defense.
Unitarian Universalism has been called everything from a
cult to a bunch of godless communists and everything in
between. What’s a good UU to do when others condemn
us, try to convert our children, or even honestly question
our beliefs? Our service will be presented by the Reverend
Tom Rhodes who is the former minister of the Unitarian
Universalist Fellowship of Raleigh where he continues to
practice the Gentle Art (and sometimes it takes lots of
practice!)
Your UCF Board of Trustees met in October and discussed
a number of issues, primarily remodeling efforts at the
church and an update of the Long Range Plan. We agreed
to start a Long Range Plan revision looking out five years.
We will be assembling data on where we are today
focusing on a number of topics, where we have been in the
last 5-10 year time frame, and where we hope to be 5
years down the road. This is exciting work and there will be
plenty of time for input from the congregation. This input is
critical for all our projects. I need to find ways to find out
what you all are thinking. As I have been traveling a lot
lately I lost some day to day connection with UCF; Penny
November 23: Homelessness in Carteret County. On
October 17 and 18 our youth participated in a
homelessness awareness and fundraising event for Family
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and I have a trip in November but for the most part we will
be home. For me the best way is one on one, as plans
become more concrete please seek out a Board member
and give them your comments. We will do our best to
organize the discussion and provide the important
information.
UCF’S CURRENT LEADERSHIP
On November 1 we will meet at the church at 10 AM to
begin our remodeling efforts. First up is the storage shed
at the side of church. We need to fix the shed, it will be
emptied, all materiel sorted, the outside repaired and
painted. This will give us a secure location to store
material moved from other projects. I am inviting all ablebodied men and women who may want to come help with
the project.
Staff:
Music Director: Ann Odell
[email protected]
Religious Education Administrator: Emilee Mroz
[email protected]
There will lots of opportunity to participate in remodeling
efforts over the next few months. One thing that will be
required is we have to "sort through our stuff." The shed
outside is a good place to start, we have some material
stored in the shed that no longer has much useful purpose;
sort, clean, recycle, throw away…At the end of the project
we will have an organized storage shed. At this Saturday
November Work Day we hope to have a crew working to
mount our new AC unit. Please join us if you can, thanks.
See you in church,
Mark
RELIGIOUS EDUCATION
Finally, it feels like autumn is upon us. These cool
mornings are so refreshing! Eight of our youth and several
UCF adults recently spent the night sleeping in a teepee
made out of cardboard at Camp Albemarle as part of the
Family Promise Cardboard City. Our youth raised close to
$400 for Family Promise and won third prize for their
cardboard house! They did an awesome job planning and
then actually participating in the event. And, they learned
a thing or two about the unfortunate reality of
homelessness. Thank you to everyone who helped make
this event a success!
We will continue our unit on Bible stories in the RE
classroom. So far, the children have enjoyed the lessons,
and hopefully have taken home some new understandings
and perspectives. As always, we need UCF members and
friends to volunteer to teach our Sunday morning RE
classes. Without your help, we would not be able to offer
Religious Education to the children who attend our
fellowship. The sign-up sheet is on the RE board in the
Social Hall, or you can always contact me.
Thank you, and best,
Emilee
Minister:
Rev. Sally B. White
[email protected]
Board of Trustees:
President: Mark Hooper
[email protected]
Vice President: Brad Rich
[email protected]
Secretary: Karen Baggott
[email protected]
Treasurer: Joe Naset
[email protected]
Leadership Trustee: Claire Doyle
[email protected]
Leadership Council and Committee Chairs:
Chair: Claire Doyle
[email protected]
Facilities: Ron White
[email protected]
Worship: Ann Odell
[email protected]
Finance: David Evans
[email protected]
Membership: Penny Hooper
[email protected]
Social Outreach: Miriam Green
[email protected]
Barb Thomas
[email protected]
Religious Education: Emilee Mroz
[email protected]
Care Circle Coordinators:
Martha Naset
[email protected]
Newsletter Editor:
Paul Fontenoy
[email protected]
WHAT IS THE FUNCTION OF THE
LEADERSHIP COUNCIL?
The Leadership Council is made up of the Committee
Chairs of each of the seven standing committees of UCF
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and its function is to engage in the day to day operations
of the Fellowship. It meets on the 3rd Tuesday each month
and is chaired by the Leadership Council Trustee who
serves as the link between the Board and the Council.
Anyone from the congregation can attend the meetings
and bring any ideas before this council. There is a definite
effort to "cross-pollinate" between the activities of each of
the committees and the LC insures that "the right hand
knows what the left hand is doing"…most of the time!
UCF GROUPS
These UCF Groups meet regularly and are open to anyone
interested. All meet at UCF unless otherwise noted.
Suggestions for new groups are always welcomed.
Womens’ Group: 1st Wed. at 12:00―Ann Odell (726-3648)
Book Group: 2nd Mon. at 5:00―Ted Odell (726-3648)
Buddhist Study Group: 1st & 3rd Thurs. at 7:00―Ann Rivers
(240-1914
Meditation: Every Wed. at 5:00―Happy Ewbank (7279233) or Ann Rivers (240-1914)
Photography Group: 3rd Wed. at 7:00— Jim Canada (7281227) or Pat Harms (808-3815)
Lunch Bunch: Every Sun. at 12:00
BUDDHIST STUDY GROUP
A Buddhist study group meets on first and third Thursdays,
at UCF at 7:00. There will be discussion of a chosen book
and how it applies to our lives and there will be time for
quiet reflection; other Buddhist materials will be shared
and discussed. All interested are very welcome.
WOMEN’S GROUP
Our Women’s Group will meet on Wednesday, November 5
at 12:00. Please bring your own lunch and come for a
discussion on “what moves you?” All UCF women
members, friends and guests are welcome. If you have
questions contact Ann Odell at 252-726-3648 or
[email protected].
PHOTOGRAPHY GROUP
From now on the Photography Group will be meeting on
the third Wednesday of each month at 7:00 pm. Please
note the change in day. The next meeting will be on
November 19.
LUNCH BUNCH
There are a number of people from UCF who go to Floyd’s
Restaurant for a dutch-treat lunch following our services.
All members, friends and guests are very welcome to
come. Ann Odell phones them shortly after our service
ends to let them know about how many to expect as they
do want to know. If you’d like to attend, please let Ann
know or just show up at the restaurant. They are very
flexible in arranging for all of us. We leave following coffee
hour or after After Words on days that takes place.
CONTACTING THE EDITOR
Please use this email address ONLY: [email protected]
COFFEE HOUR ROTATION SCHEDULE
Morehead City Country Club and Crab Point
March,July and November.
Beaufort and Down east
January, May and September.
Western Carteret and Craven Counties
April, August and December.
Morehead City Downtown
February, June and October.
GREETERS
The greeting task is very important because greeters are
the first people that an arriving person meets when
coming to our church. We want everyone to feel that they
are very welcome and that we care about them. This is
true for old and new members and friends, and it is
especially true for those who have come for the first time.
So give everyone a joyful welcome. If you don’t recognize
someone, ask them if this is the first time they have been
to UCF. If so, ask them to fill in the Guest Book. We like to
send a welcoming letter to newcomers, but we can’t
without an address. If there are children, tell their parents
about our programs for the children: Sunday School or our
accommodations for the youngest youth. If there is an
opportunity, introduce them to another person. After the
service you may be able to encourage them to go to the
Social Room for coffee and conversation. You may also be
able to introduce them to others at that time.
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MEMORIAL SERVICE
A memorial service for Dwight Rettie will be held at UCF on
Saturday, November 8 at 4:00 pm. A reception will follow
the service. Dwight’s longtime friend, John Biggers will
officiate at the service.
MEATLESS MONDAY POTLUCK
Bring your favorite meatless dish at 6:00 PM to the
Fellowship Hall on November 17, and stay to watch our
movie, Forks over Knives, which will start at 7:00 PM in
the sanctuary!
This event is sponsored by the UCF Green Sanctuary
Committee and the Carteret Local Food Network and it is
open to the community, so please bring your friends and, if
you would like to do so, bring your meatless recipe to
share with others. You may feel free to join us for both the
meal and the movie, or for only one or the other.
Here is what the internet has to say about this film:
“Two out of every three of us are overweight. Cases of
diabetes are exploding, especially amongst our younger
population. About half of us are taking at least one
prescription drug. Major medical operations have become
routine, helping to drive health care costs to astronomical
levels. Heart disease, cancer and stroke are the country’s
three leading causes of death, even though billions are
spent each year to “battle” these very conditions. Millions
suffer from a host of other degenerative diseases.”
“Could it be there’s a single solution to all of these
problems? A solution so comprehensive, but so
straightforward, that it’s mind-boggling that more of us
haven’t taken it seriously? Forks Over Knives examines the
profound claim that most, if not all, of the degenerative
diseases that afflict us can be controlled, or even reversed,
by rejecting our present menu of animal-based and
processed food diets.”
UCF GOODS AND SERVICES AUCTION
Save this date: November 21 at 7:00 pm. That’s the date
of our annual goods and services auction, UCF’s biggest
fundraiser of the year—and the most fun! Last year our
auction included, but was certainly not limited to, dinner
parties, food at your door, the art of beer making, flower
bouquets, tarot card reading, and cases of wine. We raised
$4,110 in 2013!
This year Christina Berner and Anne Fiske will manage the
auction for us, and Mark Hooper will once again be our
inimitable auctioneer, complete with fuchsia boots. To
make the auction a success, we need you to fill out
auction sign-up sheets with all the nice things you have
that you don’t want anymore and nifty services that you
are willing to provide. It’s going to be even more fun than
last year, so of course show up at the auction and bid, bid,
bid!
Auction sign-up sheets will be posted in the social hall and
on the website. Return them to Anne or Christina. Christina
and Anne need help. Contact them if you want to join the
fun:
[email protected],
726-6029
and
[email protected], 240-2600.
THANKSGIVING DINNER
A pot-luck Thanksgiving Dinner will be held at UCF on
Thursday, November 27 at 4:00 pm. We will need a couple
of people to roast turkeys and others to bring the rest of
the feast and, very important, people to stay and clean up.
A sign-up sheet will be on the bulletin board in the social
room. Please, please sign up so we will know how many to
expect and have enough dishes, utensils, chairs, etc. for
all. All members, friends and their guests are invited. If you
have questions contact Ann Odell at 252-726-3648 or
[email protected].
NORTH CAROLINA SEAFOOD FESTIVAL
Thanks to all of our UCF volunteers who sold Coke
products at the Seafood Festival. I, Ann Odell,don’t know
yet how much money we made but the festival was really
a huge success and I’m hoping we made over $1,000. The
weather was perfect, most of the music coming from the
stage next to our booth was fun to hear and I think it’s
always fun to interact with the festival goers. Thanks to
David Merandi, Janis Williams, Penny Hooper, Elizabeth
Ledford, Sandi Sox, Gerald Harbison, Faye Nelson, Coleen
Clark, Miriam Green, David Evans, Dail Bridges, Vicky
Thayer, Karen Brown, Reinette Batson, Dan Phillips, Jo
Ellen Essex, Susan Fetzer, Josh & Amanda Barber, Terri
Thomas, Claire Brothers-Thorne, Julianne & Naomi
Fontenoy, Karen Baggott, Barb Thomas and Ted Odell. I
hope you all enjoyed it as much as I did.
UCF FACEBOOK PAGE
For those of you on Facebook, check out the UCF page.
Just enter 'Unitarian Coastal Fellowship' in the search box
at the top of your page. You can see announcements,
photos, and news of UCF. If you click 'Like' you will get the
regular bulletins direct to your page. You can also post,
add photos, etc. to the UCF page.
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FAMILY PROMISE OF CARTERET COUNTY
Family Promise of Carteret County is our local program for
homeless women and families in Carteret County. Local
churches provide dinner and overnight lodging and the
guests go to a Day Center during the day where they
receive intensive counseling services to help them learn
how to manage on their own, find jobs and locate housing.
At the time of this writing, Family Promise is full with 14
guests.
the corner of the Social Hall (near the kitchen). They will be
delivered to Martha’s Mission and to Family Promise of
Carteret County. Martha’s Mission also accepts pet food
for their clients with pets. Non-perishable breakfast items
like granola bars, cereal and fruit juice are especially
needed for supplying our Family Promise host churches.
EAT PIZZA FOR A GOOD CAUSE
Family Promise is also in need of Day Center volunteers.
These volunteers work five hour shifts at the Day Center –
either 7:00am to 12 noon or 12 noon to 5:00pm. Tasks
include answering the phone, greeting visitors and guests
and helping the Director with various special projects.
If you would like more information or would like to
volunteer, call the Day Center at 252-222-0019.
On the third Thursday of each month, Pizza Inn in
Morehead City hosts a “Family Promise Night” where 10%
of the proceeds are given to Family Promise, the local
organization that provides support and temporary shelter
for homeless families. Take your neighbors with you and
enjoy pizza on October 16, 6:00–9:00. If you feel guilty
about eating pizza, just say to yourself: “It’s for a good
cause.”
5TH SUNDAY COLLECTION
CARING CONNECTIONS
As is our UCF tradition, whenever there is a 5 th Sunday in
the month all non-pledge offerings in the collection plate
go to a charity or cause that is chosen by the Social Action
Committee. November has five Sundays so on November
30, our non-pledge contributions will go to Project
Christmas Cheer. Project Christmas Cheer is a county wide
effort that allows parents to apply for assistance when
they can’t afford to provide a real Christmas for their
family. Each year, we pick a family in need to sponsor and
collect money to provide them with much needed clothes,
games and toys to put under their tree. Our UCF youth will
take the money we contribute and do the shopping and
wrapping of the presents. For those of us who have so
much, this is an opportunity to provide a very special
Christmas for those who have not been as lucky.
Come One Come All to Social Action
…is our directory of standing offers for help, from
members and friends of UCF, to members and friends of
UCF. Need minor repairs on your house or car? Need a
visit, a meal delivered, or a ride to the doctor’s office?
Short-term care for a child or an adult? Yard clean up, light
hauling? Call or email a person in our caring connections
network. Every time someone in the community calls
someone on the list, a connection is made, and with each
connection another strand is woven into the fabric of the
UCF community–intentionally, openly, willingly, inclusively.
COME ONE COME ALL TO SOCIAL ACTION
Our network of interchange through the medium of email
consists of people who have signed up to be part of the
project. “Senders” submit offers or proposals to the
network moderator, who collects the offers and emails
them to everyone on the network. Offers may consist of a
gift of a book, or a tool, or instruction on how to do
something; extra seedlings in the spring, or surplus
tomatoes in the fall. Senders may also inquire about
getting something they need: borrow a wheelbarrow, get a
recommendation for a plumber, or a referral for computer
repair service.
The Social Action Committee will meet at 11:45 in the
sanctuary on Sunday, November 9. Included on the
agenda will be the status of current projects and a
discussion of candidates for 5th Sunday collections in
2015. You do not need to be a “member” to attend. Come
and learn about our exciting efforts and share your
thoughts and ideas.
MARTHA’S MISSION CUPBOARD
To offer services, or request help, check the list posted in
the social hall.
THE UCF EXCHANGE
If you have a need or an offer, or wish to receive the
regular bulletin, contact Pat Harms, [email protected]
We continue to support the work of Martha’s Mission,
through the generosity of our congregation. At any time,
non-perishable food items may be brought in and left in
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SIGNPAINTER NEEDED!
also, and money was raised for Family Promise. Thanks to
all who helped.
The sign in front of the church is showing wear, particularly
the side facing west. Do we have any sign painters in the
congregation, or can anyone recommend someone who
can touch it up? Please contact the Leadership Council.
Pam Holiday and Bob Johns have moved to Beaufort from
Down East--to the big city.
NEWS OF UUs
Jane Hines is leaving for Arizona to see her daughter and
family. This car trip is a new adventure for her. We will
miss her while she is gone.
Thanks for all those who volunteered for UCF at the
Seafood Festival.
Claire Doyle has had surgery and is recovering well.
We welcome the Cullison's who have moved back into the
area.
Karen Baggott has a wonderful trip to Michigan, seeing the
Kunkle's (who were members of UCF before they moved to
Michigan), and her sister, Kristen.
Fay Nelson is facing treatment for her recently diagnosed
cancer.
Megan Pinkerton has quit her "school job" and is now a
full time Mom to Rory.
Thanks for Josh and Amanda Barber for arranging the
camping trip to Flannners Beach.
Judy Scallon is happy that the hurricane by-passed Hawaii
where her daughter lives.
Cindy Burchett's mother would have been 68 this month.
Joe and Martha Naset were in Wilmington, NC recently for
the wedding of Joe's daughter.
Susan Johnson remembers her sister, father, and mother
who passed away in the last years.
Shirley Noonan's son was recently married in Beaufort.
David Merandi's sister was in a car accident. She is
recovering at home with help from her husband
Miriam Greene and many others are pleased that
Amendment 1 was overridden by the courts.
Happy Ewbank: [email protected]
Cardboard City was a great success. Kids had fun, adults
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CALENDAR FOR NOVEMBER 2014
Sunday
Monday
Tuesday
Wednesday
Thursday
Friday
Saturday
1
2
9:15 Choir
Practice
10:30 Service
& Children’s
RE
10:30 Youth
Group
3
4
2:00 Worship
Committee
5
12:00 Women’s
Group
5:00 Meditation
5:30 Finance
Committee
6
7:00 Buddhist
Study Group
7
8
4:00 Dwight
Rettie
Memorial
Service
9
9:15 Choir
Practice
10:30 Service
& Children’s
RE
11:45 Social
Action
Committee
16
9:15 Choir
Practice
10:30 Service
& Children’s
RE
10
5:00 Book
Group
11
12
5:00 Meditation
13
7:00 Buddhist
Study Group
14
15
17
6:00 Meatless
Monday
Potluck &
Movie
18
5:45
Leadership
Council
19
5:00 Meditation
7:00
Photography
Group
20
6:00 Board of
Trustees
6:00-Pizza at
Pizza Inn
21
7:00 Service
Auction
22
23
9:15 Choir
Practice
10:30 Service
& Children’s
RE
24
25
26
5:00 Meditation
27
4:00 Potluck
Thanksgiving
Dinner
28
29
30
9:15 Choir
Practice
10:30 Service
& Children’s
RE
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Unitarian Coastal Fellowship
1300 Evans Street
Morehead City, NC 28557
OFFICERS AND TRUSTEES
Officers
President: Mark Hooper
Vice-President: Brad Rich
Secretary: Karen Baggott
Treasurer: Joe Naset
252-729-2521
252-864-1532
252-247-5770
252-504-3869
Trustee
Claire Doyle
252-726-6997
This newsletter is published once a month for
members and friends of the Unitarian Coastal
Fellowship. The newsletter is distributed by email.
Those not having email can pick up a copy in the
lobby of the church, usually by the first Sunday of
each month.
The deadline to submit material for the newsletter is
by midnight of the fourth Sunday of each month,
unless
specifically
designated
otherwise.
Submissions, preferably in MS Word, may be made
by email: [email protected]. The editor has the
prerogative of accepting material based on
appropriateness and space.
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