f o r p r ivat e c i r c u l at i o n o n ly Vol. 5 6 I Is s ue No. 2 9 I Mum bai I Jan uar y 13 – Jan uar y 19, 2015 I Pages 8 I r 3/- Rotarians inspired by a talk on human relationships At last week's meeting, Shri Shubha Vilas Das shared the secrets to lasting relationships S hri Shubha Vilas Das holds a Bachelor’s degree in Electronics and Telecommunications as well as an L.L.B. (specialising in Intellectual Property Law). His career began with the Tata Group and he later moved to an international law firm in Bangalore. He has served society in numerous ways. One of his many roles is counselling and guiding students in the areas of leadership, overcoming failures and managing stress at various colleges such as IISC, Bangalore; BITS Pilani, Goa; Jamnalal Bajaj Institute of Management Studies and Sydenham Institute of Management Studies. He also conducts courses for Management students based on the learnings from the Ramayana. He has authored a series of books published by Jaico Publishing known as Ramayana —The Game of Life. These books contain stories from the epic Ramayana that impart lessons for a fruitful and content contemporary life. Before starting the talk, Shri Shubha Vilas recited a prayer and expressed his gratitude towards the Club for letting him share his ideas with them. He began by giving Rotarians tips on how to handle human relationships. He said, “The one thing that everybody in this world needs is to give love and experience love and naturally, the process of giving and receiving love is what is called a relationship today. It is said that relationships are like a bird; if you squeeze it too much, it dies and if you leave it free, it flies. If you give it love and affection, it stays. On one hand, in a desire to develop strong relationships, people squeeze a relationship so badly, the other person wants to run away from it. On the other hand, in order to have a relationship based on freedom and space, we spend such little time with the other person that the relationship dies altogether. Whether it is in a family or friendship; a corporate setup or the community at large, relationships are what make people.” He proceeded to share what he calls the secrets of a lasting relationship. He explained, “The first secret is to focus on the goal and not on your role. Most times in life, we forget to see the bigger picture and make ourselves the big picture. Instead of focusing on the goal of a relationship, one starts focusing on one’s own role, and once the role becomes prominent, the goal is forgotten. When you try to make yourself the big picture, you forget the biggest picture and that is why relationships meet a tragic end. Let me share a story from the Ramayana with you to explain this better. When the monkey army is in search of Mother Sita, they come across an 800-mile sea which has to be crossed and while the monkeys bragged about their powers, Hanuman remained silent. It is here that Jambavan intervened and convinced Hanuman of his powers and Guest Speaker Shri Shubha Vilas Das at last week's meeting directed him towards his goals. One hardly sees a mention of Jambavan in Ramayana from this point, but had he focused on his role and not the bigger goal, the goal would never have been achieved. From the world’s point of view, Hanuman is the hero, but from his point of view, Jambavan is the real hero as had he not inspired Hanuman to tap into his potential, he would OFFICIAL CLUB VISIT BY DISTRICT GOVERNOR January 13 to January 19, 2015 The Bulletin of the Rotary Club of Bombay | www.rotaryclubofbombay.org 1 From L to R: Rtn. Jetu Lalvani, Rtn. Nanik Rupani and Guest Speaker Shri Shubha Vilas Das From L to R: President Rtn. Shailesh Haribhakti, Honorary Secretary Rtn. Nandan Maluste and Shri Shubha Vilas Das From L to R: Rtn. Nanik Rupani, Rtn. Nandan Maluste, Shri Shubha Vilas Das, President Rtn. Shailesh Haribhakti and Rtn. Ritu Prakash Desai 2 The Bulletin of the Rotary Club of Bombay | www.rotaryclubofbombay.org never have realised it for himself. Relationships are essentially in three categories — the first is where you like to be independent, the second is where you like to be dependent but the third and the ideal type is where one is ready to be interdependent. “The second secret is the four As of a relationship. The first A is acceptance. When we know that someone has skills, abilities and resources and exploit the person completely, the relationship dies and we lose that person forever. It is important to only accept what and how much you deserve to receive from the person to ensure that the relationship stays healthy. The second A stands for appreciation. Appreciation should be done in public and criticism in private. Unfortunately, most of the times, it is the other way round and even when there is no appreciation, criticism is done very publically. People struggle so much to appreciate another person and often do not think twice before humiliating them. One has to put one's ego aside and appreciate people for their efforts. The third A is known as acknowledgement. One of the most important needs in human beings is the need to be acknowledged. So many people come to me with problems and I sit and listen to them patiently and after two hours of talking to me, they tell me, “Thank you, Prabhu ji, you solved our problems” and all I had done was listen to them and acknowledge them as real people with real Honorary Secretary Rtn. Nandan Maluste problems. The fourth and final A happens only when the first three As are not acknowledged, which is alienation and this can be avoided by practising the values of acceptance, appreciation and acknowledgement.” In closing, he discussed how talent is not enough to sustain life but a good attitude can be. “Talent can open the first and second door to success but not necessarily the last one. Beyond a certain point, talent is the most worthless virtue one can possess. There are many things that talent can help with but the From L to R: Shri Shubha Vilas Das, President Rtn. Shailesh Haribhakti and Rtn. Ritu Prakash Desai January 13 to January 19, 2015 Rtn. Ritu Prakash Desai Rotarians and Rotaryannes at last week's meeting day you meet with a problem that talent cannot overcome and if all your life, you have only overcome your difficulties with the help of talent, then you will face the greatest crisis of your life and not know what to do. In relationships where there is talent, there is also a lot of ego and for these relationships to last, one must always have a good attitude. In life, if you are not talented, it is fine but if you have a bad attitude, it will not be fine. A bad attitude is more contagious than a good one, which is why we should keep a check on our attitude. “Here is a principle that will help you see relationships from a totally different perspective. This is known as the Lens Principle that essentially says ‘who you are is what you will see; who you are determines how you will see others, and who you are determines how you see life’. Our self-image is very important and we must start finding new ways of loving people and learning to appreciate what we already have,” he concluded. Pink Flamingo Field Trip-cum-Fellowship The Environment Committee of the Rotary Club of Bombay is organising a Field Trip-cum-Fellowship event on February 2 (World Wetlands Day) between 1.30 pm and 6.30 pm. The trip will include watching pink flamingos that migrate to the wetlands of Navi Mumbai. An award-winning naturalist will give the group a guided tour of the mangroves and mud flats and treat Rotarians to some rare bird-watching. After this, a 10-minute film on the importance of wetlands will be screened at the Seawoods Complex Club House, Navi Mumbai, followed by high tea hosted by Dr. Anjali Parasnis, a renowned scientist who heads the Mumbai operations of TERI, the environment consultancy headed by Dr. Rajendra Pachauri (who won the Nobel Prize as the Chairman of IPCC). Rotarians and Rotaryannes are requested to register with Madhusudan Daga (Chairman, Environment Committee) via email at [email protected]. Please note that to keep this a meaningful and entertaining experience, we can only have a group size of 50 on a first-come-first-served basis. So hurry and register. Donors to the Rotary Club of Bombay Charities Trust No. 3 (2014-15) Name Cause Rtn. Shivkumar Israni through Gharda Chemicals Ltd. Bhavishya Yaan Rtn. Harkishan Chatlani Birthday Donation ` 51,000 Rtn. Khurshed Thanawalla Birthday Donation ` 11,000 Rtn. Zinia Lawyer Birthday Donation ` 10,000 Rtn. Ishraq Contractor Birthday Donation ` 5,000 Rtn. Chiranjilal Joshi Birthday Donation ` 5,000 January 13 to January 19, 2015 Amount ` 500,000 The Bulletin of the Rotary Club of Bombay | www.rotaryclubofbombay.org 3 4 The Bulletin of the Rotary Club of Bombay | www.rotaryclubofbombay.org January 13 to January 19, 2015 January 13 to January 19, 2015 The Bulletin of the Rotary Club of Bombay | www.rotaryclubofbombay.org 5 Christmas Assembly at G. K. Marg Municipal School D ecember 23, 2014 was a merry time at the G. K. Marg School as Bhavishya Yaan organised a Christmas Assembly for the students. Bhavishya Yaan students organised a party for the non-BY Students so as to include the whole school in the Christmas celebrations. All of the 350 students were invited to the party and the arrangements were supervised by R/Anne Ekta Shah. Rtn. Sitaram Shah, 6 Rtn. Rajesh Shah and R/Anne Asha Shah attended the party and participated in all the games and activities with the children.The Bhavishya Yaan students took the lead in arrangements, right from decoration to hosting, keeping every small detail in mind and executing everything to perfection. They sang Christmas carols, danced to Christmas songs and also organised a flash mob to the Bollywood song Rang De The Bulletin of the Rotary Club of Bombay | www.rotaryclubofbombay.org January 13 to January 19, 2015 Basanti. The students set up many game stalls such as Bucketing the Ball, Ring the Toys, Joker & Lollipop and Thermocol Balls & Straw. All the students attended the party dressed in red and white and also exchanged gifts. Snacks such as cake, chips and samosas. were provided to the students. Rtn. Vandan Shah surprised the students with his entry as Santa Claus and distributed chocolates. Mrs. Moralwar, the principal of the School cut the cake. The BY coordinators did a wonderful job in putting things together and making the Christmas celebrations a grand success. The party was sponsored by Rtn. Rajesh Shah, Rtn. Vandan Shah and Rtn. Alok Sekhsaria. TERRY FOX RUN Donor passes for the Terry Fox Brunch to be held on Sunday, February 1 at the Regal Room, Trident are available with the Rotary Office. Please do purchase to support Tata Memorial Hospital's Cancer Research Programme. January 13 to January 19, 2015 The Bulletin of the Rotary Club of Bombay | www.rotaryclubofbombay.org 7 Published on Tuesday, January 13, 2015. Regd. No. MCS/091/2015-17; R.N.I. No. 14015/60, WPP license No. MR / TECH / WPP-89/South 2015 License to post without prepayment. Posted at Mumbai Patrika Channel Sorting Office, Mumbai 400 001, on Wednesday, January 14, 2015 rotary club of bombay Founded 19 march, 1929 Charter No. 3128, Dated 08 May, 1929 97-B Mittal Tower, Nariman Point Mumbai 400 021, India Tel.: 91 22 22024089 Fax.: 91 22 22024509 [email protected] Happy Birthday Forthcoming Meetings JANUARY 13 Official Club Visit by District Governor Office Bearers 2014-15 President Immediate Past President President-Elect President-Nominee Honorary Secretary Joint Honorary Secretary Honorary Treasurer Shailesh Haribhakti Nirav Shah Dr. Sonya Mehta Dr. Mukesh Batra Nandan Maluste Ritu Prakash Desai Manish Reshamwala Club Service: New Members Director in charge Dr. Sonya Mehta Classifications and Membership PP Arun Sanghi Rotary Information PP Paul George Membership Development and District Conference Dr. Mukesh Batra Sergeant-at-Arms and Assimilation Tara Deshpande Club Service: Programmes and Meetings Director in charge Meera Alreja Programmes Nanik Rupani Fellowship PP Ashish Vaid Attendance Arvind Agarwal Bulletin and Website Dr. Prakriti Poddar Fundraising Pradeep Chinai Sports Hiranmay Biswas Sheila Bulchandani January 13 Pranay Vakil January 13 Jai Advani January 13 Kalpana Munshi January 14 january 27 Kishore Biyani, CEO, Future Group Baji Billimoria January 15 Dinesh Lal January 15 Arin Master January 16 Darious Irani January 16 S. 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Mitra January 16 Dr. Ramchandra Lele January 16 Prakash Jotwani January 16 Apurva Diwanji January 17 Community Service: Medical Director in charge Dr. Nayna Dastur Chairman Emeritus – Talwada PP Dr. Rahim Muljiani Hasanali Tobaccowala Eye Centre PP Dr. Rumi Jehangir Ajit Deshpande Medical Centre PP Nowroze Vazifdar Medical and Cancer Aid Dr. Anand Shah Differently Abled and Polio Plus PP Kalpana Munshi Community Service: Non Medical Director in charge Alok Sekhsaria Women Empowerment Arin Master Environment and Water Sanitation Madhusudan Daga Legal Aid Sameer Tapia Old Age Home (Ambarnath) Ravi Fotedar Vocational Service Director in charge Rotary Public Awards Vocational Training and Night Study Centres Vikram Daiya Shernaz Vakil Sunny Pariyaram International Service Director in charge Hiren Kara The Rotary Foundaion and TRF Grants PP Sandip Agarwalla Corporate Social Responsibility Suresh Goklaney Youth I – Education Director in charge Preeti Mehta Bhavishya Yaan Shivkumar Israni Merit-cum-Means Scholarships Roda Billimoria Youth II – Early Act Director in charge Interact Rotaract District Thrust Areas Director in charge Committees on District Initiatives Freyaz Shroff Sidharth Punshi Gaurav Nevatia Manoj Patodia PP Pradeep Saxena JANUARY 20 Soumendra Nath Lahiri on Indian equity markets Haresh Jagtiani January 17 spouses Sushil Kumar Ratan Tankha January 18 January 14 Gaurav Nevatia January 19 Radhika Sheth January 13 Economic and community development The statistics for the meeting held on Tuesday, January 6, 2015 are as under: Rotarians 113 Rotaryannes02 Guests02 Visting Rotarians 02 Total attendance 119 Community Service Box collection - R3,800/- Service Above Self F orthcoming speaker : S O U M E N D R A N A T H L A H I R I On January 20, Soumendra Nath Lahiri will discuss "Equity Market Outlook: Going Forward" S oumendra Nath Lahiri, Senior Vice President and Fund Manager, DSP ML Mutual Fund, obtained a Bachelor's degree in Mechanical Engineering and a Post Graduate Diploma in Management (PGDM) from the Indian Institute of Management (IIM), Bangalore. He is the Equities Head at L&T Investment Management. He manages L&T Equity Fund, L&T Infrastructure Fund and L&T Emerging Businesses Fund and assets in excess of R5,000 crores in equities. Lahiri has more than 18 years experience in the Indian equity market. Prior to joining L&T, he was the Head of Equities at Canara Robeco Mutual Fund. His previous assignments include Chief Investment Officer at Emkay Global Services and Fortuna Capital and Co-Head-Equities with DSP Merrill Lynch Investment Managers Private Limited. Editorial Consultant: Aditi Padiyar, Spenta Multimedia, Peninsula Spenta, Mathuradas Mill Compound, N.M. Joshi Marg, Lower Parel, Mumbai 400 013. Landline: 022-24811010 E-Mail: [email protected] WPP license No. MR / TECH / WPP-89 / South 2015. License to post without prepayment Regd. No. MCS/091/2015-17, R.N.I. No. 14015/60 Posted on Wednesday, January 14, 2015 Printed, Published by Rtn. 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