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DVACK Newsletter May 2015
DVACK News
Let’s Putt an End to Abuse!
Charity Golf Classic 1, 3
Sexual Assault
Awareness Events
1
Teen Dating Violence
Prevention Program 1
Male Survivor
Awareness
www.dvack.org
2
DVACK’s annual Charity Golf Tournament is a week away, and we need
your help to play and sponsor the
tournament!
Contact DVACK at 785-827-5862 or
Email [email protected] by May 4
to register to play or help sponsor.
See page 3 for tournament details
and sponsorship opportunities.
April Sexual Assault Awareness Month, a DVACK Success!
Students pose at KWU Health Fair with DVACK mascot,
Sheldon, and commit to “Support the Fight Against Sexual
Assault and Domestic Violence.”
Violence Prevention: Educating Youth
DVACK celebrated Sexual
Assault Awareness month with
Kansas Wesleyan University
and the Salina community.
Over 40 community members
attended opening night of The
Hunting Ground, screened at
the Salina Art Center Cinema.
Additionally, the KWU Health
Fair was a hit! Male and female
students and faculty pledged
to No More Violence, took
photos with our mascot,
Sheldon, and agreed there are
no “blurred lines” in sexual
assault!
DVACK’s Teen Dating Violence
Coordinator, Sheila Beeson, finishes
this school year’s Teen Dating Violence
Prevention Program later this month.
Seventh grade students of Solomon’s
Family and Consumer Science class
were awarded certificates April 10th
after creating and hosting a schoolwide “AssemBULLY” and completing
the 9-week Expect Respect SafeTeens
Youth Leadership Program. FACS
teacher, Ms. Paterson, was a strong
force behind the awareness campaign,
created by the students to address
bullying and to encourage respect
between students. At the 3-hour
AssemBULLY, students watched The
Bully Project documentary, followed
by student and DVACK presentations
and team building activities for the entire junior high student body.
Additional schools involved in the Teen Dating Violence Prevention
Program this school year included the Community in Schools
programs at Lakewood Middle School and Salina Central High School,
along with the entire 7th, 8th, and 9th grades at Ellsworth Jr./Sr. High
School. One-time DVACK presentations have also been given at South
Middle School, Salina Central High School, and Salina South High
School. This is the second year for the Teen Dating Violence
Prevention program at DVACK. DVACK welcomes the Salina
Alternative High School to its program next school year!
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Male Survivors
Statistics
1 in 6 boys is a victim of child sexual abuse
(1in6.org, 2012)
1 in 5 men (22.2%) experience sexual violence
other than rape throughout their lifetime
(National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey,
2010)
1 in 71 men have experienced rape in their
lifetime (NISVS, 2010)
Men with disabilities are 4x more likely to be
sexually abused than men without
13.9% of men with disabilities reported
lifetime sexual violence, compared to 3.7% of
men without (“Sexual Violence Victimization Against
Men with Disabilities,” MPA American Journal of
Preventative Medicine, Vol. 41, Issue 5 (Nov. 2011))
1 in 7 men (14%) experienced severe physical
violence by an intimate partner (NISVS, 2011)
One of the most liberating aspects of
healing from unwanted sexual
experiences is learning that the traumatic
experience is something that happened
to you, not an identity, not who you are.
-1in6.org
Myths
All boys sexually abused will
go on to abuse others
If a boy experiences sexual
arousal or orgasm from
abuse, this means he was a
willing participant and
enjoyed it
Boys are less traumatized
by the abuse than girls
If the perpetrator is female,
the boy or adolescent
should consider himself
fortunate to have been
initiated into heterosexual
activity
Reality
Childhood abuse is only a
risk factor; most victims do
not later perpetrate.
Positive adult role models
assists with healing
The body is biologically
designed to respond to
sexual touch, even when
fear is present. Abusers
manipulate this “pleasure”
Psychological outcomes
can be severe and isolating
for men because men are
socialized to believe they
are immune to sexual
assault
Source: 1in6.org, MaleSurvivor.org
Source: KCSDV, RAINN.org
Man versus World: Failing Our Boys
In a culture that fosters male insecurity by teaching males it is
dangerous to express feelings but okay to act on them, boys and
men are left with an idea of masculinity that constantly needs
proven and externalized. This suppression and denial of empathy
and closeness places males in a self-destructive gender box,
convincing male survivors of abuse that they should have been
capable of preventing their victimization, their failure to stop the
abuse was due to their complicity, and they must now question
their sexual identity and sexual preferences (1in6.org). These
beliefs enable everyone else (family, friends, judges, etc.) to
minimize a male’s victimization (1in6.org), further isolating and
trapping him in decades of unattended trauma. Socialized
expectations of gender not only deny males’ victimization but
allow and justify violence against women and men. By failing our
boys we fail humanity. No more “man up,” “stop crying,” “throws
like a girl,” “sex-craved,” “aggressive,” “uncontrollable,” “boys will
be boys” beliefs. Let our boys be the empathetic, compassionate,
brilliant, patient human beings we all need and deserve to be.
The three most
destructive words
every man receives
when he’s a boy is
when he’s told to
“Be a man.”
-Joe Ehrmann,
Coach & Former
NFL Player
Resources for Male Survivors
1in6 Online Support Line
1in6.org
24 Hours a Day, 7 Days
a Week
RAINN.org
MaleSurvivor.org
DVACK.org
24 Hour Hotline
Confidential Counseling
Suggested Books & Movies
Boys and Men Healing
Documentary Sponsored by International Documentary
Association
The Male Survivor: Impact of Abuse
Matthew Mendel
Evicting the Perpetrator: A Male Survivor’s
Guide to Recovery from Child Sexual Abuse
Ken Singer
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