Echo Monday July 28, 2014 echo-news.co.uk /newwoman WOMAN New Cool looks for work... no sweat How to handle the heatwave...but still be stylish and smart FASHION: CENTRE PAGES HOW I COPED WITH BREAST CANCER PAGES 20-21 DOING STAND-UP IS MY DREAM JOB PAGE 29 19 20 Echo Monday July 28, 2014 WOMAN echo-news.co.uk /newwoman New What’s on FIRST PERSON ASHLEY DALTON, from Southend, tells us about being diagnosed with breast cancer, aged 41, enduring chemotherapy and how she’s made her bald head a fashion statement. Just don’t stop her in the street and ask her about her asymmetrical chest… Jane McDonald is getting ready to showcase some new tunes. @TheJaneMcDonald Rehearsing brand new song “I’ll Be There” with @the_coops our first song collaboration. Photo by @JoshMcleanPhoto. N o one expects to get cancer. No one expects to get cancer when they are 41 and relatively healthy. No one expects it, but it happens. It happened to me. One in three people will be diagnosed with some form of cancer at some time in their life. So chances are, statistically speaking, you won’t get cancer. Most people don’t. Most people know someone or love someone that does though and for that Leona Lewis likes her sweet treats with a side order of self denial. @leonalewis #currentmood Lisa Stansfield makes the most of the the Med of Manchester @lisajstansfield Finished my work and enjoying the rest of the day. It’s 26° in Manchester! #heatwave TOWIE fan Omid Djalili might be reading a little too much into this week’s episode. @omid9 Good to see #TOWIE acknowledge world events when Dan said “I don’t like the heat” (Lockie to comment on Palestine 16-1 at Ladbrokes) Things are getting saucey for Katy B. @KatyB Woop my very own sauce has been created in celebration of #TramlinesFestival Mmmmmm #Yorkshire. ‘ The biggest lesson cancer taught me was to focus on the joy in my life, not the misery... I am here and I am alive. There’s no point wishing things were different. No point in blame or fear. No point harbouring guilt or regrets reason it affects pretty much all of us eventually. I got breast cancer. So far I’ve been lucky. When it was found, my cancer was locally advanced. That means it had spread beyond the breast, but it hadn’t got any further than the lymph nodes in my armpit. Lymph nodes are little kidney shaped organs that basically act like a pond filter and catch all sorts of debris and stuff that floats about your insides. They caught my cancer. They seem to have done a pretty good job of holding on to it too as it hadn’t turned up anywhere else – it hadn’t spread. This meant that we could at the very least have a good go at getting rid of it. For some people this is not the case and they can’t be cured, so the news that my cancer hadn’t spread was something to celebrate. Positive outlook – Ashley Dalton is making the most of life after treatment for breast cancer Treatment for breast cancer can be pretty intense. I was to get the full works – 18 weeks of chemo, a mastectomy and radiotherapy. Taking into consideration all the recovery time in between treatments, I was looking at around eight months minimum and, after that, ten years of hormone tablets. It sounded like a long time, but in exchange for the rest of my life being an awful lot longer than it might otherwise be, I thought it was a pretty good deal. Chemotherapy is hard. It’s an endurance test. It goes on for months and months and the side effects are unpredictable. It’s unpleasant at best and utterly debilitating at worst. Chemotherapy doesn’t just kill cells, it attacks your very sense of self, from how you look to how you behave. I used to do things in bursts of intense energy, all at the same time and at a breakneck speed. Now, I have to do things slowly, one at a time. I once heard myself described as “Ashley, with the hair” – now I am almost completely bald. With enough eyeliner and some DMs though, I can almost make it look like a style choice. After chemotherapy, I had a mastectomy. The entirety of my right breast and all the lymph nodes in my right armpit have been removed. On the plus side, it is no longer appropriate for anyone to call me “a right tit” as I am now, literally, right tit-less. I thought it would be a huge shock and take a long time to come to terms with, but actually I am very quickly getting used to it. I have however been surprised by the number of strangers who seem very concerned about me having reconstruction. I am walking around with no hair, so inevitably folk look and sometimes they ask about my experiences and I am happy to talk about it and to listen to their own cancer tales. It is odd though, when someone you don’t actually know asks you if you’ll be getting a new breast. It’s almost like a stranger has walked up and said “Isn’t your Echo Monday July 28, 2014 echo-news.co.uk /newwoman 21 WOMAN New Group leader – Hayley Collinson Slimmers get set for 5k charity challenge Picture: PAUL WATSON BA96904_006 nose unfortunate, have you considered plastic surgery?” For now, I am quite happy with my asymmetrical chest. I am starting to think it might be quite cool actually. I have accepted that trying to “get back to normal” whatever that means, is futile. The real trick is working on being OK and sometimes redefining what it means to be ok. If being OK means being exactly the way I used to be then frankly, I’m on a hiding to nothing. The biggest change is learning to live with the fear that cancer will come back or will have spread and not be curable after all. There are no guaranteed ways of making sure this doesn’t happen. After my operation someone asked me if my cancer would be cured and the truth is I just don’t know. If I can get to five years after treatment without a recurrence or finding that it had spread, then I can start to relax a bit – after five years the chances of it returning reduce dramatically. They don’t disappear though. There is still a chance it will come back. The thing is, I just don’t know and I have to learn to live with not knowing. I will only really know that I have beaten cancer when I’ve died of something else. The reality is that none of us really know. Before my diagnosis, I didn’t know I would get cancer, but I didn’t know that I wouldn’t either – it just hadn’t occurred to me to be unduly worried about it. For now, all I know is that things have gone well. I feel great and I am happy with my new quirky asymmetrical shape. I am here and I am alive. There’s no point wishing things were different. No point in blame or fear. No point harbouring guilt or regrets. There is much to be thankful for and good stuff to be found everywhere if I look hard enough. That has been the overwhelming lesson of my cancer so far. I get to choose whether to focus on the joy or the misery and why choose misery? It’s miserable! I don’t pretend I have found some great inner peace or achieved any dramatic level of mindfulness, but I have had to slow down a bit and look a bit more carefully for the good stuff. Sometimes the good stuff is so good it hurts and I cry with joy. My daughter dancing in a school production for instance or being in the sun, drinking ale and listening to great music with great friends at Leigh Folk Festival. Going through cancer treatment has been all-consuming and sometimes it’s been easy to forget how to be here, now. In the end all any of us really have, for certain, cancer or not, is here and now. SLIMMING club members will be out in force to raise money for charity, while keeping themselves fit. On Saturday, August 16, the Slimming World club in Noak Bridge will start a 5k challenge from the Townsgate Theatre, in Basildon, at 11am. The group, who will be dressed in pink, will be walking, running and even mobility scooter-ing towards the Sporting Village and back again. Consultant for the group Hayley Collinson says: “We are trying to raise awareness for not only our groups, but also cancer research. “We are hoping to raise lots of money for the charity, but also to let the community know we have members losing tremendous amounts of weight the really easy way. “Sometimes people are so worried and scared for asking for help when it comes to losing weight, so we want to let those know that they are not alone.” To find out more or to get involved, call Hayley on 07792 357492. Gemma Case’s slimming group from Our Lady’s Hall in Wickford will be raising money with an event at Lake Meadows on August 3 from 11am. Call 07546 567562 for more information. 22 Echo Monday July 28, 2014 echo-news.co.uk /newwoman WOMAN A New BOUTIQUE BLOGGER with Charlotte Rosen It’s a great time to bag a bargain... Our style queen gives us the lowdown on the latest fashion trends and to recreate the look ourselves. The week the 26-year-old goes on the hunt for some cool festival looks. Visit www.bohohipstar.blogspot.co.uk. Pansy jersey dress, £55, Long Tall Sally longtallsally.com Smart coats, lined tailoring and court shoes are a recipe for a stuffy day at your desk, but floaty fabrics can feel too informal for the boardroom. Almost three quarters (73 per cent) of women admit to putting extra effort into their appearance at work, because it gives them more confidence, according to a Pantene Pro-V survey, while a third confess to putting in outfit overtime because they think their boss or colleagues will take them more seriously as a result. But being boardroom-appropriate and avoiding heatwave hazards at the same time can be tricky. Make a few cool styling tweaks, however, and your wardrobe will work harder in the heat. Designer Tabitha Webb (tabithawebb.co.uk) shares her top tips for summer wardrobe staples that won’t break the office dress code. LAYER UP With cloud cover and unexpected showers, heatwaves are rarely a constant temperature from 9-5, so be prepared with a light top layer, like a shirt, that you can throw into your work handbag. Webb says: “If you are lucky enough to have air conditioning in your office but it’s boiling outside, layering is the answer to your cool-to-hot problems.” OK, so the sales might have been on for a few weeks, but trust me, there’s still plenty out there. This is the perfect time to treat yourself to the best buys and even better – for half the price. You could be heading on a late holiday, stocking up for next year, or maybe you just fancy adding to your wardrobe, but whatever the reason, you just need to get shopping. But be clever and pick a few basic bits which can take you through this summer, and on to the next season. Stock up on classic pieces like the black maxi, printed scarfs or the basic strappy sandals. If you don’t want to go through the rails, or dive in the sale bins, this is the time to shop online. So set your standards high for this season’s sales and get shopping. Here are just a few bargains I have found browsing the web, and strolling the high streets. BE BRIGHTER Dark colours absorb heat – meaning you’ll feel hotter in them – so make heatwave season the time to brighten up before you’re back in autumnal shades. Choose a smart summer dress in a block bright or pastel. “Keep the shape simple,” Webb advises. “Have a clear understanding of the silhouette that suits you and stick with it. Look for lightweight fabrics, such as silk or cotton – I personally also love bright tweed.” Keep your cool when things get heated in the office ‘ Echo Monday July 28, 2014 Supima tunic, £44.95; indigo stretch jeans, £34.95; court shoes, £39.95; all Lands’ End landsend.co.uk STREET FASHION Think about what meetings you have that day and dress accordingly Left, floral pleat dress, £105; Adrianna Papell, John Lewis. Above, Naples blue jacket, £74; Naples trousers, £44; both Damsel in a Dress damselinadress.co.uk. Right, Hallhuber boyfriend blazer, £99, House of Fraser A strapless dress is perfect for a beach break, but can look unprofessional in the boardroom when only your top half is exposed. Keep a standby lightweight blazer on your chair to instantly smarten up an outfit. “Think about what meetings you have that day and dress accordingly,” Webb suggests. “Have cap sleeves on your tops and dresses, so your arm is exposed but looks smart.” Ria Carroll owns Ri Ri’s boutique in Billericay High Street FEET FIRST When temperatures soar, avoid closed-toe shoes and pointed pumps, which can make your feet swell. Switch to footwear that lets your toes breathe. You can always keep a pair of courts under your desk for last-minute meetings with the MD. “Open toe shoes or sandals are perfect for the office, as long as they still look smart, but don’t forget your pedicure maintenance,” says Webb. Oasis, £18 NIGHT SHIFT Black wrapped sandal, Warehouse, £10 Border print scarf, River Island, £7 Adriana green tweed dress, £370, Tabitha Webb tabithawebb.co.uk Accessories will completely transform your look if you’re planning on going straight from stuffy boardroom to al fresco bar. Webb says: “Pick out a dress that can easily be worn with a pair of open-toe courts and a jacket for the boardroom. Transform for evening mode by throwing on a pair of strappy sandals, ditching the jacket, and wearing a statement necklace or bangles.” 27 WOMAN New ARM EXPOSE Amanda maxi, Lucy’s Boutique, £20 Hummingbird PU top, Minnie’s Boutique, £10 sticky heatwave can melt away the foundations of your working wardrobe in an instant. echo-news.co.uk /newwoman Above, Wishbone Geneva stripe shirt, £75 wishbone.co.uk. Below, Coast Cannizaro skirt, coast-stores.com “I’ve always had a quirky fashion sense and I’ve never been afraid to experiment with colour. People said they like my style and so that’s what led me to open my own fashion shop eight months ago. “I think a lot of the time women are nervous about experimenting with colour and patterns, but when I recommend something and team it with the right accessories, they are amazed at how good it looks. “I used to shop at places like Primark for basics but now I mainly wear things that I stock in the store – it is the perfect way to advertise! “Prices range from £40 to £500 for the most expensive prom dress. We stock party dresses, prom dresses and some day wear. Designers include Forever Unique, Hybrid, Vesper and Pia Michi.” 28 Echo Monday July 28, 2014 echo-news.co.uk /newwoman WOMAN New How to get salon-style glossy locks at home T o celebrate National Blow Dry day we have asked the experts how to create perfectly glossy locks at home. How to get the look... The average woman visits a salon just three times a year, so home hair care and styling is more important than ever. With this in mind, electrical hair tool company Ego Professional have launched a national campaign called Bring Back the Blow Dry. Lots of salons nationwide are getting involved, including the team at Central Hairdressing Academy, Southend, who are giving tips about how to create your own salon-style blow dry at home. The salon will also be helping with National Blow Dry Day’s efforts to raise funds for Macmillan Cancer Support. So, to celebrate this very special day, we asked Beau Blewer, who works as a tutor at Central Hairdressing Academy, to give us a guide to getting the perfect blow dry on a classic bob. START by applying Unite’s Spritz In Boosta spray to damp hair to give volume and control. Also work through some Luxury Aragn oil for a soft finish. With clawed fingers, lift up the back of the hair and blast down with the drier. As you come above the ears, start to lift the hair and blast upwards. Using two fingers, pull out the underneath along the sides and dry behind the fingers. Lift the top side section over the head and blow dry towards your hand to create volume. Using your favourite brush, wrap dry, pushing your hair back with the brush and following with hairdryer to polish the hair. Continue to wrap dry, pushing the sides completely over and following with hairdryer to help increase volume. Finish with Unite Shina-Mist for added shine. Central Hairdressing Academy are the largest provider of NVQ Level 2 hairdressing training in the country. To find out more about starting a career in hairdressing or barbering, call 01702 333262 or visit central hairdressingacademy.com For more information about how to get involved with National Blow Dry Day, visit egopro fessional. com Don’t let city life play havoc with your beauty regime Smog-proof your complexion. LISA HAYNES reveals how to tailor your regime to city living. SKINCARE isn’t just becoming high-tech, it’s virtually tapping into our postcodes. The days of the generic cleanse, tone and moisturise are over, replaced with products specific to our environment. Scan the shelves for the latest in city defence products that protect from pollutants, stress and UV. POLLUTION DEFENDERS Metropolitan living means that your skin’s pounded with a daily dirty cocktail of different pollutants. The bigger the city, the greater the impact, with air pollution hitting peak levels in parts of the UK this summer. TRY: Orico Streetwise Oxygenating Day Cream, £27 (oricolondon.co.uk). Relief Cleansing Cloths, £12 (John Lewis) or Simple Kind To Skin Purifying Cleansing Lotion, £2.99 (Boots). GRIM BUSTERS STRESS PROTECTORS Cleansing morning and evening is essential, but even more so when you’re living or working in the city. Pollution smog and emissions cause skin to become dry and flaky as bacteria builds up. TRY: Ole Henriksen Grease If you’re living a fast-paced lifestyle, stress can eventually take its toll on your skin. Suffering with unexplained sensitivity, puffiness, redness, acne or extreme dryness? Your whirlwind city lifestyle could be the culprit. TRY: Dr. Andrew Weil for Origins Mega-Mushroom Skin Relief collection, from £16 (origins.co.uk). SUNLIGHT BLOCKERS Even on days when the sun is hidden behind dense cloud or tall buildings, your skin is exposed to damaging rays. TRY: Clinique Super City Block SPF40, £18 (clinique.co.uk). Echo Monday July 28, 2014 echo-news.co.uk /newwoman 29 WOMAN New I was a Bollywood dancer, but comedy is my passion F ormer Bollywood dancer Abbie Murphy used to feel like a bit of a fraud when she danced in films in Goa, Mumbai and the UK. The trained dancer loved to perform the signature moves, and enjoyed the vibrancy of the industry, but her real passion lay elsewhere. “I was a secret comedian,” says Abbie. “None of my role models were dancers, I looked up to people like Dawn French, Jennifer Saunders and Rik Mayall. “I thought maybe it was just a pipedream and I By LOUISE HOWESON [email protected] might never have the chance to do what I really felt was my dream job.” Abbie lived and worked in Mumbai for a year after graduating, before she began recruiting dancers from the UK to work abroad. It was in January this year that she decided that it now or never for her to follow her dream. Abbie, 28, says: “I made a new year’s resolution to try to get into comedy and I thought performing a one-woman show at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival would be a good place to start. I felt if I could handle that, I could handle anything. “I actually applied for Edinburgh before I had even done five minutes of live stand-up!” Abbie made a hilarious video called Girl On Fire, which is a spoof of the Alicia Keys song That Girl is On Fire. She says: “When I heard that song, I immediately thought of a girl whose feet were on fire because her heels hurt so much. “That is when I came up with the character Stephanie. “I wanted to create something to show people my kind of comedy.” Abbie is using her character Stephanie Vange for her one-woman show at the Edinburgh Festival this year. “Stephanie Vange from Vange is the kind of girl who is on the verge of saying something really amazing, but it never happens.” In order to fund the £4,000 it costs to put on a show at the festival, Abbie has had to get herself a “proper job”. She says: “I am currently working as an estate agent four days a week and then doing stand-up in the evenings.” In the lead-up to the festival, Abbie has been doing regular standup gigs with her unique brand of sketch comedy and is working away to prepare herself the best she can. She says: “I am using my new job as an estate agent as a great place to people-watch. Not in a stalky way, but I have met a lot of interesting characters I will be using in the future.” Abbie, from Danbury, will perform Girl On Fire at the Edinburgh Fringe from August 1 to 24 at the Counting House. Visit abbie-murphy.com for details. Who we’re loving this week... In Essex... THIS year’s Southend royalty received their crown ahead of the carnival. Lauren Green, 17, from Eastwood, a student at Thomas More sixth form, was crowned queen and her princesses are Courtney cook, 14, and Bethany Gray, 13. Don’t miss the carnival which kicks off on Thursday, August 7, and culminates with the parade along the seafront on Saturday, August 16. In the UK... WE think Lily Allen’s third album, Sheezus, is amazing but she isn’t quite so sure. The 29-year-old said that the album may have not be “good enough” after her latest single URL Badman only reached number 93 in the charts. She said: “Maybe the songs aren’t good enough this time, who knows? I just know I can’t wait to get back into the studio.” And abroad... RACHEL McAdams has shown solidarity for fellow actress Lindsay Lohan. Lindsay has been in the press more for her partying antics rather than her acting ability. However, Rachel made a point to praise her role in Mean Girls. The Notebook star, who played queen bee Regina George, said: “If anything, I was in awe of her talent. I looked at her as this experienced actor, and she had great comedic timing.” Comic creation – Abbie Murphy in real life and, left, as her alter ego Stephanie Vange 30 Echo Monday July 28, 2014 echo-news.co.uk /newwoman
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