How to Raise a Drug-Free Kid

Church of St. Ignatius Loyola
980 Park Avenue at 84th Street • New York, New York 10028 • (212) 288-3588
www.stignatiusloyola.org
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September 27, 2009
26th Sunday in Ordinary Time
How to Raise a Drug-Free Kid
Tomorrow, Monday, September 28th, has been designated Family Day - A Day to Eat Dinner with Your Children ™. The
Church of St. Ignatius Loyola is the only church in the United
States to celebrate Family Day for nine consecutive years. The
following essay is adapted from How to Raise a Drug-Free
Kid: The Straight Dope for Parents, by Joseph A. Califano Jr.,
Founder and Chair of The National Center on Addiction and
Substance Abuse (CASA) at Columbia University and former
U.S. Secretary of Health, Education, and Welfare
P
arents, you have the power to raise
drug-free kids, and the key to that
power is parental engagement. Parental
engagement allows you to influence,
teach, encourage, correct, and support
your children so that they develop the
will and the skills to say no to tobacco,
alcohol, and other drugs. Below are a few
key examples of parental engagement in
action.
Be There For Dinner
In the 1996 CASA survey of teens, I noticed that kids who had dinner with their
parents every night of the week were far
less likely to smoke, drink, or use drugs than kids who never had
dinner with their parents. The kids who had frequent family dinners also tended to get A’s and B’s in school, were less likely to
be stressed out, perpetually bored, or have friends who smoked,
drank, or used drugs.
So we started calibrating our surveys and research and discovered
this: the more often children eat dinner with their parents, the less
likely they are to smoke, drink, or use drugs. That’s why I consider
family dinner the most comfortable and powerful tool you can use
to keep kids off drugs.
The nightly family dinner gives you an opportunity to talk to your
children on a regular basis. If you dine with your children every
night you can get a sense of what’s on your kids’ minds, who
their friends are, what they are interested in, and how their moods
change.
At CASA, we consider the family dinner so important that we have
created a national day of celebration, “CASA Family Day—A Day
to Eat Dinner with Your Children™.” Family Day is celebrated
every year on the fourth Monday in September, as a reminder to
parents of the importance of family dinners.
Incorporate Religious and Spiritual Practices into Family
Life
Faith is an effective substance abuse prevention tool because it
offers your children a sense of their inherit dignity and strength
in the face of adversity.
Teens who consider religion to be an important part of their lives
are far less likely to smoke, drink, or use drugs. Moreover, teens
who attend religious services regularly—at least once a week—are
at much lower risk of smoking, drinking, or using drugs than teens
who never attend religious services.
Sharing your faith with your children will reduce the likelihood
that they will abuse harmful substances. When you explain to your
children why they shouldn’t abuse substances, you can remind them
that we are all made in God’s image and with free will, characteristics
incompatible with substance abuse and addiction.
Another tangible benefit of sharing your religious practice with
your children is that it strengthens the family bond and provides
an opportunity to establish meaningful family rituals.
Get Dad Engaged
It is very important that both Mom and Dad be engaged in their
children’s lives. In CASA’s surveys, teens are more likely to report
having an excellent relationship with their mother than with
their father. Children need their fathers to be there day after day,
talking, listening, teaching, supporting, encouraging, and loving
them. Children in two parent families who report only poor or
fair relationships with their fathers are at higher risk for substance
abuse than those in single parent families who have an excellent
relationship with their mother or father. Fathers who are involved
in their children’s daily lives and keep open lines of communication with their children sharply reduce their children’s risk of
substance abuse.
The Benefits of Being A Hands-On Parent
As a parent you have the greatest power to influence the children
that God has entrusted to you. You have more power than any law,
any peer pressure, any teacher or coach, any priest, any music, film,
or Internet site, any rock star, movie star, or famous athlete, even
any sister, brother, aunt or uncle.
If you truly engage in
your children’s lives,
you will take a giant step
toward raising your children to be emotionally
and physically healthy,
academically successful, and drug and alcohol free. Your children
will choose not to use.
How to Raise a Drug-Free Kid: The Straight Dope for
Parents was published by Simon & Schuster’s Touchstone/Fireside
Division in August 2009. You can find it at your local bookstore or
at www.straightdopeforparents.org
For more information about Family Day, visit www.CASAFamilyDay.org
THIS WEEK
Sunday, September 27th
SVdP Blood Drive
McKinnon Hall
9:00 AM – 2:00 PM
Every two seconds someone in the United States needs
blood. The New York Blood Center requires 2,000
donations daily to meet the transfusion needs of our
community. Please be a part of our first Blood Drive
of the season. Your donation may enable a premature
baby to live, a burn victim to recover, a cancer patient to
be treated, an accident victim to survive, or a transplant
candidate to have life-giving surgery.
Sunday, September 27th at 6:00 PM,
Parish Lounge - IYA Bible Study: Apples
and Eve. See additional information under
“Ignatian Young Adults” at far right.
Monday, September 28th, 6:30 - 8:00 PM
Presentation begins
at 7:00 PM in Wallace
Hall
Please come and enjoy refreshments while meeting the
Parish Staff and other parishioners, both old and new.
RSVP to 212-288-3588 or [email protected]
Tuesday, September 29th at 7:00 PM in
the Parish Lounge: Training New Ministers
to the Sick and Homebound. See additional
information under “Compassionate Care Series”
on the page at right.
Wednesday, September 30th at 7:00 PM in the
Parish Lounge - Ignatian Social Justice Meeting. ISJ
consists of parishioners committed to raising awareness
about Catholic social teachings and addressing timely
social justice issues. We welcome new members.
New Parishioners
We welcome new parishioners and invite you to fill out a Parishioner
Registration Card located in the pew racks, at the Parish House, and
online at: www.stignatiusloyola.org
Registration is our only means of certifying membership in the Parish.
If your address - or email address - changes, please be sure to notify us
so that we can update our records.
We extend a warm welcome and congratulations to Fr. Rick Curry, S.J.,
who will be celebrating a First Mass of
Thanksgiving at next Sunday’s
11:00 AM Solemn Mass.
Father Curry was ordained on
September 13th in Washington, D.C.
OF INTEREST
The Jewish holiday of Yom Kippur, the
Day of Atonement and the holiest day
of the year, begins at sunset on Sunday,
September 27th.
To our Jewish brothers and sisters :
May you be written in the Book of Life
Archbishop Timothy M. Dolan will visit
the East Manhattan Vicariate on Thursday, October 8th at the Church of St. Monica, 413 East
79th Street. A Prayer Service will begin at 7:00 PM,
followed by light refreshments and an opportunity
for parishioners to meet Archbishop Dolan.
20 tickets have been distributed
to each of the 29 parishes in our vicariate.
If you would like to attend this event, please contact
the Parish House at 212-288-3588 beginning Monday
morning, September 28th at 9:00 AM. You may request
a maximum of two tickets. First come, first served!
Calling All Singers!
The volunteer choirs – Parish Community Choir,
Canticum Sacrum and Wallace Hall Music Group
– are looking for new members. Details and schedule
information can be found in the Volunteer Choirs brochure
in the narthex, Wallace Hall literature rack, Parish House
reception area, and online at
www.stignatiusloyola.org
Be a part of the wonderful music you hear each Sunday!
For more information, or to schedule an audition, contact the Music Office at 212-288-3588 ext. 612, or email
[email protected]
8:00 AM Mass Format Change
We have begun celebrating the 8:00 AM
Sunday Mass in a more contemplative format. While retaining the accompaniment
of the organ, there is no longer any singing. This format
is intended to meet the needs of those who prefer a more
meditative experience of the Mass.
Gazing on the Face of Jesus with Mary:
Pray the Rosary with Most Rev. Timothy M.
Dolan, Archbishop of New York
Rosary 2-CD set. Cost: $17.95 (+ S&H). Includes
all four sets of mysteries, prayers led by Archbishop
Dolan and reflections by the Archbishop.
For additional information, visit www.rosaryea.org or contact the
Rosary Evangelization Apostolate at 414-570-4389.
“To recite the Rosary is nothing other than to contemplate
with Mary the face of Christ.” - Pope John Paul II
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UPCOMING ACTIVITIES
COMPASSIONATE CARE SERIES:
Training New Ministers
to the Sick and Homebound
led by Kathryn King, FSP
Tuesdays: September: 29
October 13, 20, 27
Parish Lounge 7:00 - 8:30 PM
These four sessions will deepen the awareness of the
“Call to Ministry to the Sick and Homebound” through
bringing the Eucharist and pastoral visiting.
Topics will include: Minister of the Eucharist
Being Community: Pastoral Visiting Skills
Ministers to the Sick as a Praying Community
Issues in Pastoral Visiting to the Sick
To register, please contact Sr. Kathryn King
at the Parish House: 212-288-3588
EMMAUS BEREAVEMENT MINISTRY
Careful Conversations Related to Illness, Death
and Dying: Financial, Medical, Legal Considerations
led by attorney Sandra Busell, Busell & Stier, PLLC
Tuesday, October 6, 2009 7:00 – 8:30 PM
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Emmaus Support Group: Session I
Wednesdays, October 14 – November 18, 2009
7:00 – 8:30 PM Parish Lounge
A six week bereavement support group for men and
women who have suffered the loss of a significant person:
spouse, child, relative, friend. Led by trained facilitators,
the group will explore the experience of loss as well as
some of the issues related to grief.
To register for either program, please contact
Sr. Kathryn King at the Parish House: 212-288-3588
PARISH RETREATS
Autumn Evening of Prayer
Thursday, October 8, 2009 at 7:00 PM
Join us for a “seasonal renewal” and the
opportunity to deepen your prayer life.
The evening will include a presentation,
time for personal prayer, and an opportunity for sharing.
To register, please contact Sr. Kathryn King
at the Parish House: 212-288-3588
The first Choral Concert of the Season
featuring
John Tavener Requiem
Valentin Silvestrov Diptychon
Wednesday, October 7, 2009 at 7:30PM
Hear the Choir and Orchestra of St. Ignatius in two
exciting U.S. premieres: Tavener’s Requiem and
Silvestrov’s Diptychon, followed by a Venetian Masquerade Gala Reception!
Concert tickets are $50 for preferred seating and
$40 or $30 (student/senior) for general seating.
Gala Reception tickets are $100.
Please visit www.smssconcerts.org or call
212-288-2520 to order.
The Contemplative Outreach conference
originally scheduled for Friday and Saturday,
October 16th and 17th, has been postponed
due to Fr. Keating’s illness.
We pray for Fr. Keating’s quick recovery
and look forward to rescheduling this 2-day event in
Spring 2010.
Those who have already registered will be contacted
by a representative of Contemplative Outreach and will
receive a refund in full.
“Paris Around the Corner”
Dinner at Brasserie Julien
1422 Third Avenue (80th - 81st Streets)
Tuesday, October 20th from 6:30 – 9:00 PM
Treat your palate to a delicious French tasting menu
and a complimentary glass of wine.
Prix Fixe: $45 by October 12th, $55 by October 18th
Space is limited. Reserve now. Make checks payable
to: Church of St. Ignatius Loyola (write “Boomers & Beyond”
in the memo section). Mail or hand deliver to Boomers &
Beyond at the Parish House. Payment must accompany your
reservation. For further information, email:
[email protected] (preferred)
or call 646-241-1332
Visit our website at: www.boomersbeyond.blogspot.com
St. Ignatius Spiritual Community Reading
Group. Tuesday, October 20th at 7:30 PM, Parish
Lounge. Our October selection is G.K. Chesterton’s
Saint Thomas Aquinas: The Dumb Ox, published
by Doubleday. New members are always
welcome! For additional information,
please contact Jane Campbell at 212-5367746 or [email protected]
IGNATIAN TEENS
Calling all Teens (grades 9-12)
Listed below are October’s
service opportunities.
To register, please call
212-288-3588 x610 or e-mail:
[email protected]
HELPING THE ENVIRONMENT
Central Park Pitch-In, Pick Up! – Saturday, October 3rd
Meet at 9:30 AM in the Parish House and walk as a group to
Central Park. Choose a trash grabber or sweeper and “PitchIn!” Register by Thursday, October 1st.
HELPING OUR NEIGHBORS IN NEED
Xavier Food Pantry - October 10th
Meet at 8:30 AM in the Parish House and go as a group by
subway to St. Francis Xavier Church. The Pantry is open from
9:00AM – 12:00 noon. Register by Thursday, October 8th.
Alzheimer’s Association – Memory Walk
Saturday, October 24th and Sunday, October 25th
The walk takes place on Sunday, October 25th. On Saturday,
volunteers are needed to help with last minute tasks. Meet
at 9:00 AM in the Parish House. On Sunday, volunteers are
needed to help along the route, from 7:00 AM – 12:30 PM.
Register by Monday, October 19th.
HELPING CHILDREN
New York Cares Day: Volunteer to Help a NY City
School – Saturday, October 17th
Meet at 8:30 AM in the Parish House. The event takes place
from 9:30 AM – 3:30 PM. We will return as a group to the
Parish House. Register by Thursday, October 15th.
HELPING TO BRIGHTEN SOMEONE’S DAY
Are you artsy/craftsy? Here are two service projects that you can
do in your own home!
- Make cards to be delivered to homebound senior citizens
with a City Meals-on-Wheels delivery.
- Make cards for isolated senior citizens.
(Instructions/samples will be provided for both of these craft projects)
IGNATIAN YOUNG ADULTS
Apples and Eve:
Creation and Original Sin
Sundays, September 27, October 4, 11
6:00 PM - Parish Lounge
This series will include a careful reading of Genesis 1, 2, and
3 as well as a consideration of the doctrine of original sin.
Discussion will be led by parishioner Brian Pinter, Member of
Ignatian Young Adults and Director of Campus Ministry at
Regis High School. For additional information, or to register,
please contact Katie Munley at [email protected]
SAVE THE DATE!
IYA Coffee House
Fundraiser
Saturday, November 14th in McKinnon Hall
Details to follow...
OPEN HOUSES for Catholic High Schools
Convent of the Sacred Heart
1 East 91st Street
An invitation for 8th grade girls and their parents
Friday, November 6th from 9:00 – 11:00 AM
RSVP is required: 212-722-4745 x300
Dominican Academy
44 East 68th Street – 212-744-0195
A Catholic college preparatory school for girls
Saturday, October 17th, 10:30 AM – 1:00 PM
An invitation for 6th, 7th and 8th grade girls and their families
Loyola School
980 Park Avenue (enter at the corner of 83rd Street)
212-288-3522
An invitation for 8th grade students and their families
Wednesday, October 7, 6:00 PM – Last Names A-L
Tuesday, October 27, 6:00 PM – Last Names M-Z
Tuesday, November 3, 6:00 PM – Independent School Families
RSVP online at www.loyola-nyc.org
Regis High School
55 East 84th Street
An all-scholarship Jesuit secondary school for Catholic boys
An invitation for 8th grade boys and their parents
Wednesday, October 7th, 5:30 – 8:30 PM
For additional information, please contact Eric DiMichele, Director
of Admissions, at 212-288-1100 or [email protected]
Saint Jean Baptiste High School
173 East 75th Street
A college preparatory program for young women
Saturday, October 24th, 11:00 AM – 2:00 PM
Contact Ms. Lugo at 212-288-1645 x134
St. Vincent Ferrer High School
151 East 65th Street – 212-535-4680
A Catholic college preparatory school for girls
Saturday, October 17th, noon until 3:00 PM
www.saintvincentferrer.com
Xavier High School
30 West 16th Street
An invitation for 6th, 7th and 8th grade students and their parents
Saturday, October 24th, 1:00 – 4:00 PM
For further information call 212-924-7900 x1442
ATTENTION PARENTS
OF 8TH GRADERS!
The 2010-2011 Test for Admission
into Catholic High Schools (TACHS) will be administered in the
Archdiocese of New York on Friday, November 13th.
Registrations are being accepted online (preferred), via phone, or
paper. The deadline for paper registration is Wednesday, October
7th. The internet and telephone deadline is Thursday, October
22nd.
For additional information, call 866-618-2247
or visit the website: www.tachsinfo.com
SAVE THE DATE…
Saturday, October 24th
at 12 Noon
Celebration of the Sacrament
of the Anointing of the Sick
For those those who are seriously ill, elderly,
disabled, facing surgery or who are afflicted
with any other condition
RELIGIOUS EDUCATION FOR CHILDREN
Registrations for 2009-2010 can be made by calling the
Parish House at 212-288-3588.
Registration forms can also be found on our website,
www.stignatiusloyola.org
Interested in Becoming Catholic?
We have the privilege at St. Ignatius of welcoming many visitors and new parishioners.
We especially welcome those who may be
thinking of becoming Catholic.
If you feel attracted to the Catholic faith, we
want you to know about a program at the
Parish that will begin later in the Fall. A group will meet here
during the year to inquire into the Catholic faith, to come to
know Jesus through the Gospels, to pray, and to prepare for
the Easter Sacraments. This process is also open to those
Catholic adults who have not received the Sacraments of
First Communion or Confirmation.
For more information about this process, which is called
the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults (RCIA), contact
Maureen Fullam at 212-288-3588 or email
[email protected]
Announced Masses and
Scripture Readings for the Week
Monday, September 28th
(St. Wenceslaus, St. Lawrence Ruiz and comps.)
Zechariah 8:1-8
8:30 MEM
12:10 MEM
5:30 MEM
Psalm 102 Luke 9:46-50
Maria Sieh
Frank Bistrian
Mary B. Tully
Tuesday, September 29th
(SS. Michael, Gabriel, and Raphael, Archangels)
Daniel 7:9-10, 13-14 Psalm 138 John 1:47-51
8:30 MEM Laurence Michael Madigan
12:10 MEM Michael Waters
5:30 MEM Joseph Stephan
Wednesday, September 30th
(St. Jerome)
Nehemiah 2:1-8 Psalm 137 Luke 9:57-62
8:30 MEM Jean Morace
12:10 MEM Grace Ruggiero
5:30 MEM William Powers
FROM THE ARCHDIOCESE:
Swine Flu Concerns
Due to concerns about the Swine Flu virus, some parishioners
have asked if they should refrain from shaking hands during
the sign of peace at Mass.
It is important to emphasize that the invitation to offer the sign
of peace permits the individual parishioners to choose how that
sign will be expressed. For example, some parishioners may
choose to wave their hands or nod their heads as a sign of peace.
While shaking hands is not obligatory, it is another acceptable
expression of the sign of peace.
Consequently, those parishioners who are concerned about
spreading the swine flu virus by shaking hands at the sign of
peace should express peace in another manner.
The faithful are also advised to practice good hygiene and hand
washing. If they are ill, they should not receive from the cup.
Pastoral Visits Available
for Homebound and Ill Parishioners
Parishioners have been trained for the ministry of pastoral visiting to the homebound and chronically ill in our Parish. If you are
interested in having a visit arranged for yourself or another person,
please contact Sr. Kathryn King. She can be reached at 212-2883588 or [email protected]
We pray for the
faithful departed
Paul Choix
May he rest in the peace
of the Risen Lord
Thursday, October 1st
(St. Thérèse of the Child Jesus)
Nehemiah 8:1-4a, 5-6, 7b-12 Psalm 19 Luke 10:1-12
8:30 MEM Margaret Whyte
12:10 MEM John A. Rooney
5:30 MEM The Gilhooley Family
Friday, October 2nd
(Guardian Angels)
Baruch 1:15-22
8:30 MEM
12:10 MEM
5:30 MEM
Psalm 79 Matthew 18:1-5, 10
Charles Gannon
Robin Foxx
John McNamee
Saturday, October 3rd
(St. Francis Borgia)
Baruch 4:5-12, 27-29 Psalm 69
8:30 MEM Vera DeRham
Luke 10:17-24
Sunday, October 4th
(27th in Ordinary Time)
Genesis 2:18-24
Psalm 128 Hebrews 2:9-11
Mark 10:2-16
Church
of
St. Ignatius Loyola
980 Park Avenue at 84th Street • New York, New York 10028 • (212) 288-3588
Fax: (212) 734-3671 www.stignatiusloyola.org
Wonder and Knowledge: A conference on
the origin of the universe in science and philosophy and the role of wonder in scientific
discovery. Wednesday, September 30th at 8:00
PM. Columbia University Main Campus, Earl
Hall Auditorium, 2980 Broadway at 116th
Street. Open to the public and free of charge.
Presented by Crossroads Cultural Center and
Columbia Catholic Ministry in collaboration
with The Center for the Study of Science and
Religion at Columbia. For additional information, visit the website:
www.crossroadsculturalcenter.org
Opening Up Our Prayer: Women’s Autumn
Silent Retreat. October 2nd – 4th. St. Ignatius
Jesuit Retreat House, 251 Searingtown Road,
Manhasset, NY 11030. Cost: $270 pp, private;
$225 pp, semi-private; $205 pp, commuter.
Please call 516-621-8300 x15 for additional
information.
Coping with Job Loss: A Support Group
for the Recently Unemployed. A free 6-week
support group on Tuesday mornings (10:00
– 11:30 AM): October 13th, 20th, 27th and
November 3rd, 10th and 17th. St. Francis
of Assisi Center, 139 West 31st Street. Preregistration and pre-screening are required
before Friday, October 2nd. Contact Marie
Harrington, Director of Outreach Programs,
at 212-736-8500 x354
Day of Prayer: Wednesday, October 21st
from 9:30 AM – 3:00 PM. Mount St. Alphonsus Pastoral Center. Cost: $25, includes lunch.
Mount St. Alphonsus is located on the banks
of the Hudson River in the Village of Esopus,
NY. Reservations and deposits are required
for all programs. For more information, please
call 845-384-8000 or visit the website:
www.MountSaintAlphonsus.org
Mercy Center is seeking volunteer ESL teachers. Morning, afternoon, evening, and Saturday
class schedules are available. Easily accessible
by #2, 5, 6 subway and major highways. Call
Sr. Mary Galeone, RSM, 718-993-2789, for
further information. To learn more about the
Mercy Center, please visit the website:
www.mercycenterbronx.org
PARISH STAFF
Religious Education
for Children
Saturday: 8:30 AM
at the Parish House to arrange for a Baptism and the preparation given prior to
Baptism.
Pastor
Joanne Cunneen, M.A., M.S. Rev. George M. Witt, S.J.
Director
Pastoral Associates
(212)
861-4764
Joanne Cunneen
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Kathryn King, F.S.P.
Associate Pastors
St. Ignatius Loyola
Rev. William Bergen, S.J.
Grammar School
Rev. James L. Dugan, S.J.
Ms. Mary Larkin, M.S. Ed.
Rev. Ugo R. Nacciarone, S.J.
Principal
Assisting Priests (Sunday)
48 East 84 Street
Rev. Philip G. Judge, S.J.
New York, NY 10028
Rev. Stephen Katsouros, S.J.
Rev. James Martin, S.J.
(212) 861-3820 Fax: (212) 879-8248
Music Ministries
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Kent Tritle, Director
St. Ignatius Loyola
Nancianne Parrella
Day Nursery
Renée Anne Louprette
Robert Reuter
Ms. Theodora Crist, M.S.
Mary Huff
Executive Director
Philip Anderson
240 East 84 Street
Erin Acheson, Administrator
New
York, NY 10028
Staff information: on the website (212) 734-6427 Fax: (212) 734-6972
at music/music staff
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Assistant to the Pastor
Children’s Liturgy of the Word:
Diane M. Boyle
Sundays at the 9:30 AM Mass and the Administrative Assistant
11:00 AM Mass in Wallace Hall.
Patricia Schneider
Eucharistic Adoration: Fridays and First
Director of Facilities
Saturdays at 9:00 AM (Lady Chapel)
Sona M. Olson
Centering Prayer: Mondays at 6:30 PM
Events Coordinator
Thursdays: resumes Nov. 12th at 6:30 PM
Emily Holtz
Treasurer
Confessions: 5:00 PM Saturday or by
Fernando Castro
appointment. Communal Penance
Services are celebrated during Advent and
Weekday Masses Monday-Friday Lent.
8:30AM, 12:10PM and 5:30PM Baptisms: Please call Joanne Cunneen
Masses for Next Weekend:
Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults:
Saturday Vigil: 5:30PM Fr. Bergen
Contact Maureen Fullam, M.A., Director,
Sunday: 8:00AM Fr. Bergen at the Parish House.
9:30AM Fr. Ugo
Marriages: The Bride or Groom should
Wallace Hall 11:00AM Fr. Witt call Joanne Cunneen at the Parish House
Solemn 11:00AM Fr. Curry to begin preparation for Marriage, normally
7:30PM Fr. Witt one year in advance.
Music Information: (212) 288-2520 E-mail: [email protected]
Visits to the Sick: Please contact the
Parish House between 9:00 AM-9:00 PM.