— IMPHAL SUNDAY 12 OCTOBER 2014 SUNDAY SPECIAL — 6 Romantic jealousy - A restless spirit Diaspora Speak Dr Irengbam Mohendra Singh Those who are quite bored with the constitutional issues dominating Manipuri politics, apparently, grappling for ways of saving Manipur, will need a breath of fresh air. All sorts of people have taken to the streets to make their voices heard. More often than not, they cite their constitutional right to gather in public places, without exceeding the legal limit and affecting the rights of others. The Government of Manipur has heard the public demand and has been considering ways of dealing with it. We must thank our democratic government of CM Ibobi. If there is any person to do it, he is the one, as shown by his track records. So, for a bit of respite I have an avuncular review of ‘Romantic jealousy’ just for you. Let me begin with romantic love – the counterpart of romantic jealousy - eternalised in Persian, by Omar Khayyam (12th century) in the Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam: “Underneath the Bough, A Jug of Wine, A Loaf of Bread – and Thou Singing Beside me in the wilderness” – immortalised by Edward FitzGerald in English literature (19th century). Rubaiyat is a series of 4-line verses (quatrains). It’s similar to Ghazal in Urdu that has series of 2-line verses (couplets), usually songs of unrequited love (Bollywood songs). As an example, a humorous Urdu couplet comes to my mind: Na Ibadat me lazzat, na peene me maja; Yeh keisi hai jindagi, na jina ya na marna – There is no fun in praying, nor is there pleasure in drinking (alcohol); what kind of life is this, neither living nor dead? Omar - a Persian (Iranian) wrote Rubaiyat. He was also a mathematician, astronomer and an early exponent of Algebra. He was a hedonistic wine-lover. Rubaiyat advocated the pleasures of earthly life – wine, romance and song, and transience of all things. Who would not be jealous of such a life? But his idea of a romantic life was not as smooth sailing as that desert idyll made out. Romantic love is pure delusional Viagra, carrying with it serious crumbs of jealousy. Jealousy is a very hurtful negative feeling with varying intensities. Like love it’s difficult to describe. You have to experience it. I had my experience only once in my entire lifetime, many years ago, though luckily only for 4-5 hours. It was like a burning, gnawing, knarling sensation inside the chest. Jealousy is a natural instinctive emotional reaction that everyone experiences at one point or the other. Infants get jealous and so do the elderly. Siblings get jealous. It’s a deepseated possessiveness, insecurity, inadequacy, shame or fear that we can’t control. A relationship infected with jealousy will soon become bitter and self-destructive. According to Aristotle: “Jealousy is both reasonable and belongs to reasonable men, while envy is base and belongs to the base, for the one makes himself get good things by jealousy, while the other does not allow his neighbour to have them through envy.” For my money, both of them can do the same harm. However, there are some subtle differences. Jealousy is when someone is trying to take what you have eg your girlfriend or boyfriend; your wife or your husband. It requires a third party. Envy is when you want what someone has eg your neighbour’s open Mercedes sports car or the Rolex watch. Jealousy can cause havoc in somebody’s life as well as partner’s life. A friend of mine – a woman (75) who is very Jealous of her old husband, is now living in a life of pain and turmoil. Frequent rows followed by a period of non-communication. On a Valentine’s Day in 2003 in Texas, a woman killed her husband in a “sudden passion”. She encountered her husband in a hotel with his mistress. In a jealous rage she drove her Mercedes car over and over again over his body. She was sentenced to 20 years in jail. About 20 years ago, a receptionist of mine in her early thirties was struck with an uncontrollable jealousy and rage. One night, while driving home from my surgery, she saw her husband’s car in a pub car park. She turned around and walked into the pub and saw her husband with a younger woman drinking and flirting. Back home, late at night, they had a terrible fight. Next evening after her work, she went to a pub and picked up a man. She went to bed with him. She told her husband. Eventually they were divorced. It seems that all the romantic love they had since their first meeting, showering each other with the common phrase ‘I love you’ as if they were saying I love paratha or pizza, has disappeared. Instead, the affected party has been filled with romantic jealousy. Romantic love unlike paratha or pizza, is conditional. Love gets weather-beaten and rusty with the passage of time and romance slackens. When a third party is involved, jealously rears up its ugly head destroying soul and body. Jealousy is used by William Shakespeare in Othello as a term - “green-eyed monster”. Since then the colour green has been associated with jealousy and envy, from which the expression “green with envy” is derived. Even four hundred years after Shakespeare we have not rid of jealousy. It is so old that in Christian mythology jealousy is also “a green-eyed monster which mocks the meat that feeds on.” The most heinous jealousy is ‘Romantic jealousy’ that is here defined as a complex of thoughts, feelings, and actions which follow threats to self-esteem and/or threats to the existence or quality of the relationship, when those threats are generated by the perception of a real or potential attraction between one’s partner and a rival.” (White, 1981, p. 24) . Over the centuries, the stupefying energy generated by romantic jealousy such as the burying alive of a young girl Yairipok Thambalnu in a fish net in a river dam in Manipur because of a courtier’s jealousy, has inspired poems, songs, dramas and novels. After the War Manipur Dramatic Union (MDU) staged Yairipok Thambalnu. I remember the actor playing Thambalnu’s boyfriend seeing her in a handful of rice he was about to eat and crying out. In the mid 19th century, a few thinkers began to wonder about the nature of jealousy. The most well-known was Sigmund Freud. We have been taught Freud in our medical college. His psychoanalytic theory was based on the principal tenets of the “Id”, the “ego” and the “superego”. Freud said that instincts are the ultimate cause of all behaviour. The two basic instincts are Eros (love) and the destructive of death instinct. Sexuality such as infantile sexual trauma, Oedipus complex provided the basis for his subsequent psycho analytic theory of human personality, which I now think to be all codswallop. He also thought jealousy was a delusion arising from excessive dependence and lack of self-esteem. He postulated the existence of ‘libido’ – an energy that generates erotic attachments and a death drive – the source of hate, aggression, jealousy and neurotic guilt. Freud’s theory is now discarded by many psychologists. Now, new research is following in a different direction to find the mystery of romantic jealousy. Though a scientific definition of jealousy is very difficult I believe in evolutionary terms, it is an innate module in our brain based on Darwin’s theories of human behaviour. It might have been instrumental in human fitness drive towards survival in our ancestral environment. According to evolutionary psychologists, jealousy about infidelity, evolved a million or so years ago in African Savannah. A man had to guard constantly against unwittingly feeding children who were fathered by someone else. And as men and women had differing survival pressures, they think, the brains of modern men and women were programmed to respond differently to the infidelity of a romantic partner. Men have became more jealous over their wives’ sexual infidelity. Women have become more distressed by emotional betrayal, which could leave them without resources. Forget the hypotheses. They are for researchers. What’s important to know is that jealously is self-detrimental in whatever form your response. It is therefore, a good exercise to learn to trust your partner. That needs self-confidence. Easier said than done. The writer is based in the UK Email: [email protected] Website: [email protected] Agenda before the All Political Parties Committee on ILP Dr Khomdon Lisam (Contd from previous issue) This is the most important and most dangerous factor for which our honourable MLAs and Ministers (Past and Present) are doing everything possible to satisfy them. In order to prevent this, we need to introduce a system of giving a special Award to those ministers and MLAs who indulged in this work and boycotting them. The Award and the boycott can be declared in absentia after inviting the Awardee. If the Hollywood can give award to the worst film of the year, we may also give such lifetime achievement award to the Honouable members (2) Politicians’ lack of will power and interest in ILP (3) Corrupt government system leading to easy access to fake Ration cards, Driving Licence, Birth certificates, Domicile Certificates, Voters Card, BPL cards etc. (3) No means of verification for extension of the validity of the ILP (4) Local people’s aversion to manual jobs creating a void which is filled up by outsiders and lack of work culture. (5) Benami transactions. (6) Local people’s preference for cheap, hardworking, mild and submissive outsiders as manual workers, labourers, masons, barbers, cobblers, carpenters, etc who easily adapts to local conditions. (8) ILP- easily available, encouraging corruption. (9) Difficulty in follow up and extension of ILP. Possible Threat The Government of India is trying to amend all the state local laws to bring them in conformity with the new provisions under the Indian Constitution. They are presently thinking to remove the Bengal Eastern Frontier Regulation, 1873 and the Chin Hill Regulations, 1896, which provide special protection and safeguard for the peaceful existence of the indigenous tribal people of North Eastern states . Possible Provisions to be included in the new Law 1. Any citizen of India from outside Manipur, who entered Manipur before 21 January, 1972 (Statehood Day) will be not be covered under this scheme. 2. Any citizen of India born in Manipur may be exempted from this scheme. 3. All categories of students are exempted from this scheme 4. Officers from All India Service like IAS, IPS are exempted from this scheme 5. Any citizen of India from outside Manipur, who entered Manipur after 21 January, 1972 (Statehood Day) will be allowed to open Business Enterprises or shops only in the name of indigenous people. 6. Any citizen of India, who want to enter Manipur for as a tourist, on business or sports or cultural programme or delegation for the conferences will have an Entry Permit specifying the details as required on payment of requisite fees. 7. Ministers, MPs, MLAs from other states, International Tourists, International Delegates are exempted from this scheme except under specific laws. 8. At least 50% of the members of the Manipur Chamber of Commerce will be manned by local/ indigenous people. 9. Any citizen of India from outside Manipur who want to work in Manipur should have a work permit specifying the work for which he had to pay the requisite fees according to the trade. The fees must be deposited as per rate fixed by the Government for three years at a time. 10. Any citizen of India from outside Manipur working as coolies, labourer in the market places shall have a serial no. and he should display this serial no. as an armlet. 11. Any citizen of India from outside Manipur is not eligible for professional training like MBBS, BDS, BE, ME etc. 12. Any citizen of India from outside Manipur is not eligible for jobs in any department in Manipur 13. All lower categories of staff (Non-Gazetted) either employed or on deputation are covered under 14. Any citizen of India from outside Manipur who want to invest in any business in Manipur with a bank balance of Rupees five crores may be exempted from this scheme. Possible Actions The following suggestions / options maybe considered :1. The Bengal Eastern Frontier Regulation, 1873 is not yet repealed and being implemented in three states. So the Government of India has the authority and competence to issue an administrative order that the same regulation is being implemented in Manipur. The ILP is not meant for Tribal alone .So one more attempt may be made requesting the Prime Minister and the Home Minister to issue the administrative orders on ILP in favour of Manipur. 2. If they are not willing to do anything citing the Article 19 /35 of the Indian Constitution, we can say that “the Manipuris are minority among minorities In India. The whole population of Manipur constitute hardly 0.2 % of the total population of India. We do not want to become minority in our home land, If you are not willing, the Chief Minister, his MLAs and the people of Manipur will sit in Dharna in front of Prime Minister’s office as done by Arvind Kejrwal when he was the Chief Minister of Delhi. The Indian Constitution does not forbid the Chief Minister sitting in Dharna". Thousands of Mamipuris will join the dharna. 3. If the Government of India say that the said regulation is too old, we need a new law which is to be passed by the Parliament, then we can mutually set a target date for considering amendment of Indian Constitution to remove the constitutional discrimination against Manipuris. During the last 65 years, we never ask for constitution amendment. No Manipuri took part in the Constitutional debate of India. The Indian Constitution was imposed on us after forceful merger to India. The Indian Constitution is found extremely discriminatory and harmful to Manipur. It becomes the source of all ethnic conflicts, disunity and disharmony among the ethnic groups of Manipur. The Inner Line permit system should not be the only reason for amendment of Indian Constitution. There are many pressing and burning issues which needs to be considered for amendment of Indian Constitution. We want to propose for constitutional amendment in the following areas :3.1. The whole state of Manipur should be declared as a Hill State 3.2. All the ethnic groups in Manipur may be brought under one uniform Land Law 3.3. The Article 3 of Indian Constitution regarding alteration of state boundaries shall not apply to Manipur to protect the 2000 year old territorial integrity of Manipur 3.4. Inner Line Permit System should be introduced to protect the rights, identity, customs, culture, traditions, religion, land, language, script, mineral resources of indigenous people of Manipur. 3.5. The Representation of People Act-1951 should be amended to ensure equal representation of States in the Rajya Sabha as done in case of many democratic countries. The number of Rajya Sabha seats for Manipur should be increased to five. 3.6. The number of Lok Sabha seats should be made viable by increasing the number of seats to six since the Anglo Indians which has a population of hardly 350,000 were given two Lok Sabha seats. Even if Shri Krishna becomes Manipur MP, he will not be able to become Prime Minister under the existing system. 3.7. The Meiteis should be included in the list of Scheduled Tribes to restore the equality among all ethnic groups of Manipur. 4. If the Government of India is still reluctant, then the Manipur State Assembly under leadership of Hon’ble Chief Minister may consider amendment of the Manipur Land Revenue Act-1960 to bring an uniform land laws for all ethnic groups in Manipur. No migrant should be allowed to purchase land without permission of the State Government. The purpose of ILP is only to prohibit the outsiders to purchase land. The amendment of the Manipur Land Revenue Act-1960 will fulfil that demand but that is not sufficient. But we need to do many other things to address the issues mentioned above. 5. Migrants will be allowed to open a shop or business enterprise only n the name of the local person. 6. At least 50% of the members of the Manipur Chamber of Commerce will be, manned by local/ indigenous people. 7. The Manipur State Government should implement the existing Foreigners Act-1946 vigorously. People encroaching in the reserved forest and other areas should be evicted and deported. 8. The Manipur State Government may consider introducing a system of Work Permit according to the trade of the migrant worker with specific fees, renewable every three years in addition to the registration. 9.The Manipur State Assembly under leadership of Hon’ble Chief Minister may consider enacting a new legislation for regularisation of entry of migrants from outside Manipur incorporating sll the essential provisions cited above. 10. All the departments responsible for issue of ration cads, BPL cards, Electoral roll or Voter ID, driving licence should be trained and alerted to take up verification of Ration cards, BPL cards, Driving Licenses, Domicile certificates, Electoral Rolls of all constituencies before the next Assembly Election 11. Deletion of illegal migrants and foreigners from the electoral tolls of all constituencies of Manipur under the Foreigners Act -1946 should be taken up immediately. 12. Complete Ban of purchase of land by outside migrants and foreigners in Manipur without the approval of the Government. 13. The All Political Parties Committee on ILP may fully utilise the services of the Law Department, Advocate General, retired and current High Court Judges and eminent Lawyers for drafting a BIl for enactment by the Manipur Sate Assembly in the forthcoming session incorporating the above provisions. (Concluded) The writer, Former Medical Superintendent, JNIMS and Ex-Consultant, NACO. He can be reached at [email protected] Malala and Kailash are the hope of India-Pakistan to bring peace! Khams Zotal What a surprised moment for both India-Pakistan sharing the Nobel Peace Prize within the face of the whole world even though a fired exchange in the border! It’s a sign for both the country to talk for peace, struggle for the same development and promote good quality of education for our children. This is never happening in history of the world that both India and Pakistan in the same plate form and I think this is a high change for Indian and Pakistani to join in a common struggle for education and against extremism as mentioned by the Nobel Committee statement. We’re extremely happy for prize awarded to the Child Activists Malala Yousafzai (Pakistan) and Kailash Satyarthi (India) sharing the Nobel Peace Prize 2014 for ‘their struggle against the suppression of children and for the right of all children to education’. Their commitment and struggle for the better days of every child has inspired the young and old one across the globe to take part in promoting the rights to education for children. It reflects a great challenges to the both school going children and parents to focus on education and shows the important of education to everyone life. Yes, Education is the rights for every children. We must promote the quality of education in our country in both rural and urban areas. Education should be for every children and we must try to reach to the unreached. Although both the country (Indo-Pakistan) still in exchanged of fire in the borders due to a number of historical and political events, it gives us a new door to work peacefully for the development of both nation. Why should we still dream for a manmade disaster while we’re taking much precaution to prevent natural disaster to happen? Killing, murdering, destroying will never help for the benefits of the nation. Understanding, agreement and positive dreams towards peace will help for both the country. If the amount that has been spent in both side to defense oneself in the border is pour for the education, many children should’ve benefits for their entire life. Children are the hope of the nation; hope of the World, we have a huge expectation for both the Nobel winner 2014, to take initiative, focusing on the issues we’re facing today and bring peace towards India-Pakistan. We’re tired of reading the news killing in the border. I would like to challenge the whole world with the quotes of the bravest girl in the world @ Malala Yousafzai ‘Destruction, Fear and weaknesses die; Courageous, Hope and Determination born’. Let our conflicts and misunderstanding in the past in between the two country be die and let Peace, love, harmony be born in between the two nation, let’s share our love and humanity across the globe! Modi’s Mantra for good governance Bonomali A Good governance is what have been missing so long and all the people are victims of misgovernance. So, the new approach of the new PM is considered as welcomed change. There are quite a good number of items in Modi’s agenda for good governance, which I would like to highlight, but for today, let me confine to a few master moves which are quite appealing. 1. Control and supervise One such move is the Modi’s scheme of electronic surveillance and biometrics attendance system, which is really a good step towards good governance. Biometrics attendance system has been in vogue in many developed countries, it is high time that the same is introduced here too. He knows the importance of the gigantic government machinery in taking the nation forward and the miracle that they can deliver. Making the bureaucrat important and making them feel important is one good step towards good governance. At the same time, he has been tough taskmaster, who would not tolerate lethargy and nonsense. His model in Gujarat where he has been rewarding hard workers was the success of his good governance in Gujarat. My friends in Gujarat used have a lot of reverence for him. 2. Give freedom to work His second move was his plan to instil confidence to the government servants to do the right things only and to call on him in case of undue pressure from any quarter. It is a big shot in the arm of demoralised bureaucrats who has been maligned quite a lot and made whipping boy of the political bosses for their unlawful whims. He knew that how was governance during previous government. He is grateful because in last election, the bureaucrats stood solidly behind him. 3. Pay them well The seventh pay commission proposals are now known to many of us, there is going to be quite a good increase in the pay, to be comparable with corporate sector, that is really a positive approach. Pay them well and let them work hard. Let them be honest and sincere. The proposed conversion table and new slabs are available in the public domain now. If it gets accepted and implemented, it could be a balanced package. 4. Make use of experience He also appreciates experience that is why he has chosen well season aides. Age is no bar, with countries increased life expectancy of 65 plus, raising the age of superannuation is no serious issue (of course M/s Rahul Gandhi had different idea). So, another likely recommendation is the enhancing the age of superannuation to 65 as is in the case of University Grants Commission, though there are some reservation in some quarters who wants to limit the same at 62. If we consider the life expectancy of the government servants alone, it will somewhere near 80, with the new Swachchh Bharat programme, the life expectancy of common people also is going to improve tremendously. So, I do not think that 62 or 65 should not be serious concern, but it is the intention of the government. It is now time that this issue is given final touch because it is time for the pay commission to finalise its recommendation. So, let me place it before all stakeholders for debate but I personally feel that this could be one good step for incentivising for good governance. Of course, this is the issue on which there was disagreement between bureaucrats and the earlier government, the new dispensation has realised it quite well. Why not, there is no dishonest bureaucracy; they have been made so by the political bosses, by asking money for appointments, transfer and postings, by making them conduits and misusing their services, by nepotism and favouritism which have been rampant during previous dispensation. 5. Conclusion We all know the role of conduct rule in governance, but conduct rule alone is not enough to bring in good governance. The initiatives from the Prime Minister are now clear. Let us now make another beginning towards good governance. One cannot remain in illusion that he will be soft on babus. He could be very tough; we know he was not happy with the punctuality of the government servants during the earlier government. We can see, his four pronged approach takes care of everything what a government servant expects, so let us be prepared to give him what he expects of us. Let us all join him in making India great. 12345678901234567890123456789012123456789012345678901234567890121234 12345678901234567890123456789012123456789012345678901234567890121234 12345678901234567890123456789012123456789012345678901234567890121234 12345678901234567890123456789012123456789012345678901234567890121234 12345678901234567890123456789012123456789012345678901234567890121234 12345678901234567890123456789012123456789012345678901234567890121234 12345678901234567890123456789012123456789012345678901234567890121234 12345678901234567890123456789012123456789012345678901234567890121234 12345678901234567890123456789012123456789012345678901234567890121234 — WEEKEND POETRY — Helen of Facebook By Herojit Philem Log-gin' in, Log-gin' out Helen of Facebook In an angelic attire; In the garden Of Social Networkings Plays Hide and seek With me. Don't actually know Who really she is, The urge to chat Knows her very well. Gigantic watery bodies Though Divide our hearts And souls shall unite never The chain of poking Links us. SANGAI QUIZ SANDEEP L 1. In the recent Asian Games, which Indian player’s medal got upgraded from bronze to silver after one of her competitor’s who finished ahead of her tested positive for doping? 2. The recent Hong Kong pro-democracy protests have been dubbed as? 3. Who is the winner of the Eagleburg Masters title 2014 (in Golf)? 4. Which bank has recently launched the cardless cash withdrawal service across India? 5. What is the name of the ceasefire agreement signed between pro-Russian rebels and Ukraine? 6. Who has been appointed as the special DirectorGeneral of National Investigation Agency? 7. What is the minimum mothly pension notified recently by Labour Ministry for subscribers of the Employees’ Pension Scheme? ANSWERS : 1. Manju Bala 2. Umbrella revolution. 3. Rashid Khan 4. ICICI 5. Minsk Agreement. 6. N.R. Wasan 7. Rs. 1000
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